50 Women Who Called Out Sexist Things That Are Still Blatantly Accepted Interview
When faced with injustice, you generally have three ways how you can react. You can ignore it, keep your head down, and get on with your day without making any waves. You can try to be sneaky and make subtle 5D chess moves to outplay the situation to your own advantage. Or you can call the injustice out and shine a light on it for everyone to see, bold as brass, sometimes using humor to do it. That way, it’s harder to hide the injustice.
This list is about the times that women and men called out sexism and misogyny, as shared on the r/TrollXChromosomes subreddit. People from all walks of life, from everyday employees and parents to skilled professionals, confronted sexism on social media head-on to help everyone. Upvote the responses by these brave people that you agree with and let us know what you think in the comment section below.
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The r/TrollXChromosomes will be celebrating its 10th birthday on the last day of March. "We're currently in the middle of intensive planning for the 10th Cakeday celebrations. It'll be so much better than our 5th Cakeday shindig, folks will cry. But we can't tell you more than that, lest our plans are foiled," the moderators told Bored Panda when we reached out to them.
They’re also steadily moving toward the 1 million member mark. Currently, they’re at just over 802k, so consider joining them and giving them a boost. They post about a variety of topics. In their words, they’re a subreddit for “rage comics and other memes with a girly slant.”
However, this doesn’t change the fact that the subreddit is also home to some serious posts that show how deeply sexism is enrooted in our society. Even to this very day. And while sexism can be subtle and covert, it can also be very overt. One example of this is women getting harassed on the streets. So while it’s one thing to confront sexism online, it’s a whole other ball game when it’s done in real life.
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Bored Panda spoke about how women should respond if they’re ever in a situation where they’re either being catcalled or openly harassed on the street with Emily May, the co-founder and the executive director of ‘Hollaback!’ The organization aims to end harassment in all of its forms.
May explained that women should always trust their instincts. “Listen to what your gut is telling you. There is no ‘right’ or ‘perfect’ response to harassment; however, studies show that having some kind of response (either in the moment or later) can reduce the trauma associated with harassment. If you decide to respond, do it for you.”
She said that it’s always all right to do nothing, smile, and keep walking. It’s always up to you to decide what’s right for you and if you want to confront your harassers. It’s always harder to do this in-person than behind the safety of your screen.
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As May put it in an interview with Bored Panda, your safety is the main priority. However, if you feel safe and choose to respond to your harassers, there are three main approaches that you can take: setting boundaries, engaging bystanders, and documenting the situation. Let’s go into detail about each approach.
“Set the Boundary. Tell the person harassing you exactly what you want them to do and why. Look them in the eye and denounce their behavior with a strong, clear voice. Many people prefer to name the behavior. For example, you can say, ‘Do not [what they’re doing], that’s harassment.’ You can also simply say ‘that is not okay’ or ‘don’t speak to me like that.’ Say what feels natural to you,” May from ‘Hollaback!’ explained.
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My friend told me she was so happy she is turning 40, because finally people have stopped with the baby questions, because now they think maybe she does not have kids because she is too old. And now she does not have do defend herself for not having kids. Jeez, why can't people just back off? Like, do people ask a women questions like that because they think they forgot to have kids and they need to be reminded?
Funny How Rarely This Comes Up With Christians
“The important thing is that you aren’t apologetic in your response, and that you don’t engage with them after you set the boundary. Oftentimes, people who harass may try to argue with you or dismiss you through further conversation or by making fun of you. As tempting as it may be to get into a verbal war with them, we don’t recommend it. The attention may further feed their abusive behavior and cause the situation to escalate. Once you’ve said your piece, keep it moving.”
The second approach is engaging bystanders by telling them what’s going on and what they can do to help you. “Not all bystanders have been trained to respond, but typically people do understand that street harassment is not okay and they want to help you, so what can you do to ask for that help? You will need to loudly announce to people around you what the harasser just said or did and identify them, like: ‘That man in the red shirt is following me. I need help!’” May explained.
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She continued: “Then tell people what you want them to do, like, ‘Can you wait here with me? Can you call the police?’ Remember that it is okay to ask for help, it does not mean that you are weak, in fact, it means that you are strong because you’re acknowledging that street harassment, in fact, hurts.”
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So many issues approached in just a dozen words. Clever girl.
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Try it with race too. "First White Astronaut", "First White President."
The third and final approach is documenting the situation. If you feel that you’re safe and not currently in danger, you can consider taking a picture or a video of your experience. Or you can ask a bystander to do so.
“This could include the person harassing you, their license plate, or the scene. Some people use photos or videos to report an incident—for example, if the person was at work when this happened people may choose to report it to their employer.”
May detailed: “Others use it to share their story on social media or anonymously through ihollaback.org. Many find it to be empowering to turn the lens off of them and onto the person harassing them. It often has the potential to be hugely transformative. If it feels right to you then do it. It doesn’t work that way for everyone so ask yourself, ‘Does it feel right for me?’ or ‘Is there another way to respond?’”
According to May, there is no such thing as a ‘perfect’ response to harassment: “There is no such thing as a perfect response, this is not your fault, and you are not alone. Take the time to recover and employ strategies for taking care of yourself.”
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One thing that you can do is to develop a ‘quick ritual’ to help you ‘shake off’ what happened every time that you get harassed. Having a friend that you contact when this occurs can also help. Sharing your story with the people you trust can be very powerful and healing. What’s more, affirming to yourself that you deserve better and that you won’t let ‘the haters’ get you down is another response.
“The idea here is that you want you to develop resilience so that you can get out there and keep being you in the world,” May told Bored Panda.
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I’m a fan of poet Dylan Thomas’ lines: “Do not go gentle into that good night. Rage, rage against the dying of the light.” While the context is important, you can interpret the words to mean that you should fight for what’s right instead of giving in to the pressure placed on you to stay quiet. Just remember that your safety is paramount: online and IRL.
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Wow, they cry you didn’t like sports? I figured it would be a relief to many men who don’t like the pressure of having to enjoy sports when they don’t. I’ve never dated a guy who seriously cares about sports. That’s so cringe and middle America basic.
I look forward to my periods (kind of). I am either in a near death state of being, or I push myself at the gym to get through the things I hate at the same time. (Exercise is good for you. I can have a hate/love relationship with it.) EDIT: I have passed out, vomited, and were sent to the hospital from pms pains. For some odd reason, I push myself even more during “let the gates of hell open” week. I still got three tubs of ice cream.
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Girls Are Always Taught How To Stay Safe, It's Not As Common To Teach Boys To Not Create Unsafe Situations
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I had a boy in middle school, 7th grade, who harassed me daily in science class. He would come up behind me and push his groin into my backside and make sexual noises. I told him repeatedly to stop, told my parents and finally went to my school counselor, who, scheduled a meeting with BOTH of us. The sexual harassment stopped, but the death glares started. Moved on to high school and lost him in a school of over 3,000 students. Saw him at a 7-11 after I graduated high school, he didn't recognize me, but I had a full blown panic attack and spent 30 minutes crying in the parking lot. SOB!
Absolutely. There isn't any disagreement about that. No means no whoever you are. One of the reasons why sex ed is so important, the more you know the more power you have. People keep their children ignorant at their child's risk. Teach all to be decent to each other and consent both ways. You'll still get some disgusting people out there as there is something fundamentally wrong with them unfortunately. Knowing what to look for can help. Hope you are doing well Robert.
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When I was younger and much more naive, I was worn down by a guy. I did like him, and I was attracted to him, but I knew he was trouble and I was right. 2.5 years of my life wasted. And after we got together and I told him that he wore me down, he told me 'persistence overcomes resistance'. *shudder*
I literally saw this on a show yesterday. They are still making this s**t.
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This is definitely the right thing to do in this case, but I am curious to if you all think it would be out of the realm of possibility to ever try again period. And take this question at face value, because I'm not trying to make a statement, I'm genuinely curious. I mean obviously, asking again tomorrow would be creepy, but say, in again 5 years? Because people's opinions and relationships do change, so do you guys think that would still be rude?
Personally, for me, if I just say “no thanks” or something similar then there is no opening for the guy to try again. If I said something like “I’m seeing someone” or “I just got out of a relationship” then I’m not interested at this time but I’m leaving the door open for the future for one of us to ask the other out. I do try to be clear about it though, so they know for sure where we stand.
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If "NO" came with a slap to the face and a kick to the crotch..........THEN they might get the hint!!
And then his parents would file charges against the girl for assault and battery. It's messed up that this behavior is allowed by both the son and the parents.
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I teach both my teenage son and daughter that "no means no" and "stop means stop" regardless of who says it and why.
When I was a senior in high school, a guy in my class was obsessed with my sister and befriended me in an effort to get close to her. I didn't realize who he was until he mentioned her to me. I stayed friends with him because I didn't want him to come after us. He had already threatened to harm himself, there was no telling what he would do.
Boys/men need to learn when to stop. My grandma told me, "You should NEVER need to say no more than once."
blame cinema. that trope of "persistent nerd wins the cool girls heart" has ruined so many people. I know a few young girls who knock boys back to "see if they're really interested" then get upset when he respects her reply
Yep. My dad insists on giving me karate lessons for self-defense. Like, fam, it'll take a decade of practice and training to even make it first instinct to get into a karate stance when threatened. I'm not interested in karate (mainly because his teaching methods are very bad, so he's kinda ruined it for me), so you'd better expect me to be reluctant each time you try to randomly train me.
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I've never understood this mentality. If I express interest ina girl, and she doesn't reciprocate, I find that quite unnattractive, so I cut my losses and move on.
Boys are taught that being in the "friend zone" is like a death sentence. Meanwhile there are married couples talking about "I'm so blessed to have married my best friend". Just putting that out there.
I think that when they say that phase, they have become best friends during the relationship and not before.
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Or, novel idea I know, 'No Thanks' is enough of an answer and the person asking just accepts it. If people want to provide more information that's up to them but we need to be teaching boys that no is a complete answer.
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Let me show you those words slowly: no does not always mean no. no is the same thing as no. therefore, no = no. Now there are some stories about a guy chasing a girl until she accepts in rom-coms and stuff, but rom coms arent real life. no = no the same way 1 = 1.
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Yes, Just Like That
Misogyny Running Deep
That is so 19th century mindset! What a shame some people in 21st century still hold on to that!
Unconstitutionality
"Why Do They Say 'Women And Children First'? What About The Men? Why Is Society Anti-Men?"
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for the men who feel attacked or sad in the comments, I feel attacked and sad when I, a thirteen-year-old girl, get catcalled for wearing leggings or dress coded for "distracting the boys from their education by wearing a tank top in 100-degree weather". This society is so inherently sexist and when you say that people speaking out about their experiences is hurting your feelings, perhaps you are the issue.
Your country sounds like a horrible place.
I have a feeling she's from America based off my experience (I live in America too)
Beautifully put MadDawg. Honestly disappointed in some of the reactions from the fellas. As if the world wasn't man-centric enough they have to make an article about the sexism experienced by women about THEM.
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I am truly sorry that you get catcalled. I feel like the only reason some people, including myself are responding like this is because some of these things are unfairly generalizing men, and also partly because I feel guilty that I share a gender with some of these people, so I feel like I have to stand up for myself whilst distancing my views away from those horrible sexist men. I don’t really think that I specifically am the issue, considering I am also thirteen, but I understand your point.
“Not all men” is irrelevant to the problems women face, though. It’s not about you and how it makes you feel.
If you don't do it why on earth would you feel guilt? No-one wants that. All women want is for it to just stop.
Campbell I know no one likes to feel unjustly attacked and the things other men do aren’t your fault, but people already know that not all men are responsible and we’re just trying to focus on helping women instead of helping men who feel called out. People who have privilege often don’t realize to the immense extent they have it but if you pay attention to all the media you consume every day and how it portrays women I’m sure you’ll get a better idea. Sorry if I seemed insensitive earlier, I’ve had to deal with a lot of crap from some men and I’m pretty tired of it. But the way I handled it wasn’t productive I guess and it’s not going to change how you feel about the matter.
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Bored raccoon what do you think I just said? I know that it’s irrelevant, I just don’t like that they are making unfair generalizations. I an just saying that it isn’t all men, why is that such a problem? I understand that women go through a multitude of horrible things and that needs to change, I’m just saying that ITS NOT ALL MEN WHO DO THAT
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Acknowledging other people's feelings and problems will not take anything from you, it will just mean that you are a decent person with basic empathy. Stop being so self-centered.
let me fix that for you buddy. to men in the comments getting offended: these are other people's experiences, things that have really happened to them and they may have to deal with repeatedly. it doesn't necessarily relate to you, and it may be a generalization. however, this article is about the sexism and toxicity ingrained in our culture. it affects everyone. like Ryan so eloquently put, "acknowledging other people's feelings and problems will not take anything from you, it will just mean that you are a decent person with basic empathy. stop being so self-centered."
You are literally shaming a thirteen yr old girl for clarifying this topic and at an exceptionally high level as well. There is a huge difference between empathy and taking her important and entirely valid comment and making it about men. When you can practice empathy yourself in your interactions with people who have a legitmate claim on the topic - then! you can preach empathy.
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Yes and I feel sad when a female teachers rapes f*****g 9 year olds
We all do. But this is not what this young girl was talking about.
What does it have to so with her comment?
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Heres one of the big ones: If a woman has a lot of sex, she's a sl*t or a wh*re, if a man has a lot of sex he's a "legend" a "proper lad" etc...
And once labelled , a woman is fair game for sexual violence
"Every single time a man sleeps with a lot of women, he's called a stud. But if a woman sleeps with a lot of men, she: called a s**t and people think this is unfair... Nah. It's completely fair. and I'll tell you why, alright? “Cause it's f****n' easy to be a s**t. It's f****n' hard to be a stud. To be a stud you have to be witty, charming, be weII-dressed, have nice shoes, and a fake job. To be a s**t you just have to be there. There are fat ugly sluts out there, there are no fat ugly Studs." - Jim Jefferies
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What is a sl*t? A woman who has the sexual morals of a man.
Today I was treated to two instances of being talked down to because of my gender and I was mega p*ssed. Where did this happen? In the two hobby shops here in Melbourne CBD, Victoria Australia.How did this happen? Because I dared to go in and ask got something I needed but apparently these men knew more about what I needed than I did, even after I already told them both I knew exactly what I was after and what it was for. They’re both lucky I was able to keep my temper and not give them both a fkn black eye. Female staff member just looked the other way and my bf just stood there and did nothing :( I’m sick of being treated like an idiot just because I’m female 😡
I have a pretty masculine hobby, I ride motorbikes. We are ALL so over being chopsed at by men who often know less about the engine than we do. I know fuckall about engines, and even I can tell some things are wrong. I told a recovery control that my bike tyre couldn't be repaired at the roadside. He said, oh I'm sure it can, just sit tight and the truck will be along soon". Truck arrives, and lo! My bike tyre is unrepairable roadside... whats that, you'll have to despatch another truck to remove the bike to the shop? The drivers were fine, but equally pissed off.
A lot of dìcks are about to be in a twist over this one.
now, don't get your d***s in a twist
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Teucer T just came out as the asshole that pees on the toilet seat and babbling about how men (or "real men TM" find it okay in his point of view.
To ignore any humour and points currently being made I'll add my own - you should put the seat down because you should put the LID down before flushing. When you flush micro particles of all that is in the loo end up in the air and then on all the surfaces in your bathroom. If your toilet is near your toothbrush that's pretty disgusting. Seat down, lid down, flush.
Agree with Ren, ESPECIALLY in Covid times. But also it’s gross any time.
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It's a rant thread, and in rant threads it's more norm for people to get creamed for taking the opposite position of the rant. For example, "For decades women have explained to men that they need to put the toilet seat down because even after falling in over a dozen times they STILL haven't learned to look before they sit... And they are now wondering why men think they are less intelligent." That'll get a twist.
Dudes in comments be like: "Oh I felt super uncomfortable reading this article. Why are you posting stuff like this ?Boo #notallmen". Bro, if you felt uncomfortable reading about this s**t in an article think about how it feels for the women that have to experience this kind of crap themselves, in real life, all the goddammed time. Hint: it's quite a bit worse than uncomfortable. Bonus: implying that the reason why you are an unempathetic, whiny, sexist amoeba is because all the "woke" people are so aggressive and rude to you about this topic is pretty f*****g pathetic
The level of anger this article has generated saddens me. We still have so far to go. Acknowledging there's a problem is the first step in resolving it. It does not mean anyone here has been personally accused. As for the 'what-about'-ers, it's not a competition.
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They personally accused absolutely every man on earth. Feminists are still right and necessary in many societies, but those whimsical ones are creating their own enemies because of their hysterical hatred.
Cue the incels in 3,2,1...
I just went through the list and 88% of the posts were about a specific guy "this guy said this to me", or about a specific type of guy "men wh