Someone In This Online Group Asked, “What’s Your ‘That’s Why I Don’t Go Home For The Holidays’ Story?” And 30 Folks Delivered

Religion should never be an excuse to not love everything your child is, I'm sorry you have to deal with that

I am straight, but my family does not understand that being gay is just who someone is, beyond that - why does anyone give a rodent's rump what you do in your bedroom. I have often asked them "did you choose to be straight?" So darn stupid. WHO CARES! Consenting is the only thing that matters.

F--- them. I'm your family now. You are doing great, hon!

If being gay is a "choice" why don't those judgmental people chose it for a couple weeks?

Your religion is your choice; your sexuality is not.

Well, you brought in yourself, I'll bet you were wearing pants and had on shoes ;-) Shame on you!

How the heck can she still talk to them? They are racist as hell! Such people are not to be shown to anybody. I hope SHE is not as racist as them.

I like when lower or middle class income ppl are Republicans, it cracks me up, it's like they're too uneducated and / or ignorant to know what voting a Republican into any political office actually means for them.

I live in Springfield. It's better than Booneville. That's about all that can be said about it. It should be their motto. "Springfield: better than Booneville"

It's why my dad's side of the family has been estranged from us for decades. They are super religious, been arrested for embezzlement & theft, & constantly throw around racial, religious, & ethnic slurs. Back in the 60s my folks were visiting from PA down in FL. They wouldn't stop using the N word. They made sure to use it even more when my dad told them to STFU. They drove back home Christmas Eve. My dad looked at the character of person, nothing else.

It's sad to hear this, racism runs so deep, that people are willing to marginalize and lose family members who don't share the same ideals.

God almighty this is just sickening

wtf? Glad I live in Canada.

My heart breaks for you.

Dogs are better than a lot of people. :-( Leave them behind and never look back. I hope you find some better people and eventually another dog.

Omg. I am so , so, so sorry. 😢😢😢

I'm so sorry for your loss and the way you were treated. <3

This one knocked me sideways. Unbelievably sad what that child went through.

If you do not take care of yourself then no one else will, I found out.

❤

So sorry you had to fo through this. I hope you are healthy and with a more loving family!

This happens to a lot of Mormon teenage boys.

I was made homeless at age fourteen simply because my parents didn't want to spend money on me. When I got older, they wanted me to make money for them. Going full no contact was the best thing I ever did for myself.

Hey.. my parents did this too! Except they'd just outright give my brother incredible things... he'd scoff at it because it wasn't "the right thing" that he wanted... and then somehow it would be MY fault for being so spoiled that I dared to be upset. Example: I had laid out practical reasons and a plan to pay for half a thing (think camera, portable music device, etc.). Come Christmas... I'd 'receive' the item... but then... get an immediate barrage of 'guilt scolding' about how my brother, being the second-child got nothing and what a horrible, cruel sibling I am for getting all these things. So they'd take the thing that I had planned for.. and needed... and just hand it to him - which was usually a thing he didn't want or need. Rinse, Repeat, Escalate. The only 'proof' they ever had that I was 'spoiled' was that I was first-born (but I'm the one who got gifts that were bought 'free with points', wore hand-me-downs, etc.).

offer to give them ur savings when their struggling and say, oh wait.. you don't need this do u?

If your parent think you were "fat", then why the F were they buying you candy in the first place if they were just going to go YOINK and take it away? Sounds like they just wanted to be inhuman jerks at a little kid on Christmas. One day they'll burn in Hell and you can have all the M&Ms you want.

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I'm really tired of the "but they're FAMILY!" when someone reveals they've cut off contact with family members. If they're toxic to you, there's absolutely no reason to keep them in your life. You need to look after your own mental and emotional well-being.

I’m all for counselors p/therapists/whatever who encourage people to cut others out of their lives rather than trying to work with those people. Sometimes that’s the best thing to do.

If/when you feel any guilt having to cut off a persistently awful person, remember that it was *their* choices that led to the necessity of cutting them off.

Some aged care worker will wonder why she gets no visitors in the home. Some people don’t deserve visitors

I'm glad she'll die alone

Extended family is the worst. We don't go to my grandma's for the holidays anymore because my mom's brother (I refuse to call him uncle) is there. He's got a partner but he doesn't want to spend it with her because he hates her kids (for no reason). He constantly compares me to his partners kids, orders me around and yells at me. Safe to say we hate each other. He's even threatened to kill my dog once. Even my uncle has very limited contact with him for the same exact reasons.

You know the jokers we've had in the White House have been trying to destroy family gatherings. When you & your family come together for the holiday, I want you talk about these issues. No, Stick it, Mr. President. When families get together, they are happiest when they avoid politics, social issues, & religion. Politicians are blood sucking parasites who will ruin our relationships with family & friends.

THOSE IDIOTS! I’m so so so sorry you had to go through that.

WOW! Did neither parent step in and shut that s**t down when even a comment just hinting towards such bullshit? I've torn new assholes for way less when it comes to my child.

if u do go back, as soon as the mashed potatoes touch their mouth, shake ur head and say the same thing.

Not something to even remotely joke about.

I would have poured ice water over the witch. 90% chance that she would melt.