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40 Wholesome “Green Flags” That People Noticed In Their Dates That Made Them Want To Go On Another Date
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The night I met my partner, we started chatting at a birthday party for a mutual friend and didn’t stop talking until about 6 in the morning. We both knew immediately that there was something special between us, and fast forward to 5 years later, we’re still going strong. Of course, the story is a lot more complicated than that, but sometimes, the green flags are just waving so boldly and brightly that you can't possibly deny them.
We’re all used to looking for red flags on dates, and it’s easy to come up with a laundry list of them. But what about green flags? Perhaps you realize that you’ve both been to several of the same concerts, he knows the recipe for your favorite food by heart, or you both have the same dietary preferences. Ding, ding, ding: green flags!
I hope you’re in the mood to have your hearts warmed, pandas, because down below, we’ve got some of the sweetest date stories the internet has ever heard. 2 weeks ago, Reddit user EmCWolf13 asked other users to share some of the “green flags” they’ve encountered on dates before, and they did not disappoint.
So be sure to upvote the replies that you think would make an excellent rom-com, and feel free to share your personal stories of wholesome dating experiences in the comments below. Keep reading to also find a chat we were lucky enough to have with EmCWolf13 about why she started this conversation in the first place, and then if you’d like to check out another Bored Panda article featuring green flags to look for in new relationships, look no further than right here!
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#1
Not first date, but the moment I knew I was gonna marry this man...
We went grocery shopping. It was about 9pm, we had both just been paid. The young lady in line in front of us had a very young baby, and was paying with WIC coupons and a food stamp EBT card. Her total came to about $22, and she was holding a $20. She looked dejected, and put back the one and only thing that was probably her splurge, a candy bar and an energy drink. Other than that, she had baby food, diapers, chicken, rice, bananas, formula, wipes, the bare minimum. I turned around to tell my now-husband to hand me my wallet.
I didn't have to. He already had his out, took out a $50 bill, handed it to her and told her to keep the change. He changed her week, he changed my life. That was THE moment I knew he was it for me.
Heather Watkins 2 years ago
As someone who's had to rely on food stamps multiple times, this is just beautiful. I hope they both know that their kindness means the world.
Ansi 2 years ago
But why did her now husband have her wallet? 🤔 Because girls don't have pockets?
Alexandra Davis 2 years ago
I guessed it was hanging on the trolley and she was in front of the trolley or something as they were queuing
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Aini Melendez 2 years ago
I'm literally in tears.... What beautiful walking angels you are❣️ many blessings to you and yours🕉️
Theresa Stephenson 2 years ago
That is one quality I look for in someone generosity which can go a long ways.
To learn more about what sparked this conversation in the first place, we reached out to Reddit user EmCWolf13. "I was inspired to ask about 'green flags' because unfortunately, typical discussions about dating and romance focus on negative events and things to avoid," she shared with Bored Panda. "I wanted to get people thinking about the happy experiences they've had, and hopefully encourage a more positive discussion."
We also asked EmCWolf13 about any green flags she has personally come across in her own dating life. "As many of the comments said, a major 'green flag' for me is when a person I'm out with is kind to waitstaff, especially if there's a delay or other circumstance that might cause someone to be snappy or rude," she shared. "Being patient and understanding are qualities I value in a partner."
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#2
He took me to an amateur stand up comedy night. He was heartily laughing at all the jokes. They were so bad. So not funny at all. I was planning to not go on another date with him because he obviously has a bad sense of humor. As we were walking to the car he commented how bad everyone was, but he wanted to encourage them so he laughed at everyone’s jokes. We’ve been married for 12 years now.
BOTW PANDA 2 years ago
@Sarah Elizibeth... Aight that's cool. Ima go tell all them other bots to f*ck themselves.
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pink_panda 2 years ago
That kind of confidence and generosity is sooo attractive. If you want to be proud of your spouse, marry someone who builds others up even if they don't get anything out of it.
Theresa Stephenson 2 years ago
Maybe that is some people laugh at bad comedians to encourage them. It is a hard job to stand up there by yourself to make people laugh.
Arunei Shade 2 years ago
While it has a nice ending, judging someone for a "bad" sense of humor seems like a red flag to me. There are so many aspects to a person and comedy is so subjective that a person can be super kind and polite and fun even if they laugh at bad jokes.
Eliza wilson 2 years ago
Me worrying that this is the only reason people are laughing at my jokes…
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Sunny Topia 2 years ago
I do have a bad sense of humour because I overthink about the jokes. Sometimes, I am the only one who laughed. Now I have another reason to give.. heheheheh 😅
#3
She came to my door and my puppy got excited. Without skipping a beat, she scooped up the dog & asked where **the 3 of us** were going.
That was 19 years ago. Puppy is gone but we've stuck together through hell and back.
Niki A 2 years ago
My dog hated men because my ex-boyfriend abused me. The moment she met my now husband when he came to pick me up on the first date, she wagged her tail, bounced over, and introduced herself with a playful bark. She was with us until 2017, and my husband and kids cried as hard as me.
Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago
Reminds me of our family dog and how he was with the guy my sister was dating. He and the boyfriend would play together in the loungeroom every time he came over, always initiated by the boyfriend - they were instant bros. My sister has always been a smart woman - boyfriend is now her husband. And they adopted a dog of their own when they moved in together.
Theresa Stephenson 2 years ago
So sweet and doggy was part of your family. Another good gage that you a dating a good one is how they treat pets. I feel if they are abusive towards pets they could also be that way to humans.
"Another 'green flag' is when a potential partner remembers something small about me or brings up a part of our past conversations; it shows that they are paying attention to me and value our time together," EmCWolf13 shared. "For instance, my partner once brought me my favorite type of chocolate bar simply because he had seen it at a store checkout and thought of me. That sort of thing just makes me melt - pun intended!"
#4
When my girlfriend and I had our first date her mom sent her with 50 bucks (just in case I made her pay I guess) and since I payed, she made the waiter cry by tipping him the whole 50 bucks, apparently he was having a bad day
June 2 years ago
Yeah but even with a living wage I swear that tips are a game changer. It can basically make your day. Former waitress here (french) and I insist to tip even when they try to deter me to do so ("you come so often" -> No ? , "Naaah you don't need to do that" -> yes I do ! ....und so weiter ). I know what this tip can mean to someone <3
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Mune 2 years ago
My family were walking somewhere and my mother gave some money to a very old lady who was passing by. That lady had on her head a bag of avocadoes she was going to sell, I think. She tried to force some avocadoes into my mother's hand to thank her but my mother wouldn't accep it, told her to keep them. I thought the world of my mother that day, still do.
Yeah, okay. 2 years ago
This is not wholesome as much as it's depressing that American wait staff are allowed to be paid a pittance and rely on your tips to pay their wage.
kathy fitzpatrick 2 years ago
My Daddy used to give my sisters and I what he called ‘mad money’••• in case you get mad, you can call a cab…lol!
JayWantsACat 2 years ago (edited)
"PAID" FFS Is it really that diffcult? Yes, I'm irrationally angry at this s**t.
#5
My cat liked him and my cat didn't like anyone but me. We're still together nearly a decade later. Always trust the cat.
Mad Dragon 2 years ago (edited)
I was dating two guys, and my cat hissed at one and purred and cuddled with the other. I’ve now been married 22 years to the one he liked.
SaneMinotaur (she/her) 2 years ago (edited)
My now-husband had 2 cats when I started dating him; they weren't keen on anyone other than him, and his girl cat (Lottie) really didn't like other people. She eventually started sitting on my lap while my husband was at work, and after a while, even started sitting on me even when he's at home; I feel so lucky to be accepted by her
Elladine DesIsles 2 years ago
When my ex and I got a cat, she (the cat) would cilmb over me in bed, climb onto my ex, and pee. Always trust the cat! I kept her in the break-up, obviously, and she never once peed on me.
Susan Teter 2 years ago
My cat did this to my ex...and he TRULY deserved it. My baby would p*** on his side of the bed EVERY night. Couldn't understand why till I came home from work early and the ex was hitting him! I beat the ex and kept the cat. Guess I found out who the real pu**y was!!!
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Blackstone 2 years ago
Except with food. Then never trust the cat, because you'll be missing a sandwich.
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Jennifer Stone 2 years ago
My mom always said, "If your pet doesn't like them, there is a good reason" The opposite is true as well. Thanks mom!
patricia patricia 2 years ago
I've learnt the hard way that if my dog doesn't trust a person I shouldn't trust him/her either. I don't know what dogs can perceive, but they are definitely more sensitive than we are, and they are much better at judging people's intentions.
We were also curious what would be considered a deal breaker for EmCWolf13. "In a similar vein, a red flag for me is when a potential partner is rude to others or complains about things that aren't really a big deal - demanding better service from someone who's already trying their best, or mentioning how slow a person is walking, for example," she told Bored Panda.
"How a person treats a stranger can be a good indicator for how they will treat you and your loved ones, and if they get very easily annoyed, that puts me on edge," she noted. "A more 'shallow' red flag would be a person not making an effort to be presentable. Of course, they don't have to be wearing the latest and greatest fashion or fancy brands, but at least be clean and dress accordingly for the activity you have planned together!"
#6
I asked if she wanted to go to MDonalds and split some fries because that’s all I could afford at the time. She said sure, we talked a long time and split a large fries and she was so chill about it. She wanted to be with me, anywhere would have been ok…. I knew if she was willing to go out with a broke and struggling me, she would also be willing to build a life with me from the ground up. We have been married 35 years, through ups and downs, kids, sickness, wealth and poverty.
Sonja 2 years ago
That's how it's done guys! That's how to date! Dates are not there to impress each other or a down payment for sex. Dates are to get to know each other, to spend time with each other and to talk and get closer. If you don't want to go on a date, just to be with that person at that time, just to have a good time together, then you're doing it wrong
Karl Baxter 2 years ago
Reminds me of my first date with my wife - we shared a bag of onion bhajis paid for with 50p I found on the street. That was in 1988….
Theresa Stephenson 2 years ago
Such a sweet story. Yeah sure going on fancy expensive dates is nice but if you truly like each other it isn't the money that is important but the quality time you spend together. I think people these days are looking for quick fixes and not the long haul.
Samuel Awolaja 2 years ago (edited)
Love this post. Reminds me of how I met my own spouse. Met him when he was up and coming and stony broke. I supported him through his early life struggles. Put him through school. Helped him look after his elderly mother. He was a shy wall flower when we first met. From our first meeting I knew he was the one for me. I gave him space to grow. We married this past October! Red flags are sometimes green ones, only we have to be patient while they change colour! 😊
sturmwesen 2 years ago
Here me out: why has a date to be tied to money? I always felt pressured if a guy payed. Let's start with a walk or a bank in the park if neither has money. Show your favourit places or something.
kathy fitzpatrick 2 years ago
You mean ‘hear’ not ‘here’… but you are exactly right!!
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Nico Roby (She / They) 2 years ago
Dates are so you can get to know each other. Never try to impress someone with money because money doesn't last forever. Love lasts forever. If all you want is the money, then get a job and make some.
#7
Was just laid off the week before our second date, called her to cancel, I was down and unsure about my next move, she asked me what kind of pizza I fancy, 1 hour later she's at my doorstep with pizzas and beer to cheer me up, married 12 years. Love you my bada** plumber.
PolymathNecromancer 2 years ago
Wow, a plumber too! I love to hear about people who buck social norms <3
Luna Crow 2 years ago
Women in trades! Not as uncommon as one might think. I've got a friend who's a badaz plumber chick, and rightly proud of it :)
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I know the pictures don't necessarily have anything to do with the posts, but.. is that a lightbulb drink??
Nico Roby (She / They) 2 years ago
Plumber or " plumber"? If you know what I mean. What kind of pipes does she lay?
#8
We stayed at the wine bar much longer than planned, and we were trying to race to a restaurant for food before places closed. So, I offered her a piggyback ride to run it, due to her wearing heels. She jumped on, threw her arm forward and yelled "Onward!"
We didn't make it to the restaurant in time, but did end up at the nearby diner for a few more hours. Been married just passed 3 years now, and leaving for our honeymoon (FINALLY, thanks COVID), in 10 hours.
BisexualSquirrel 2 years ago
You seem like such a delightful human being. Really. Just lovely seeing your posts.
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Fish Fingers 2 years ago
Went back to hers the night we drunkenly met in a club. Never went home ( back to my mum's!), now been married 19 years.
Skorm Carter 2 years ago
This one kind of made me sad. My last girlfriend, about 15 years before we met, had a terrible accident where her legs were shattered. Fast forward; her truck died so we ended up needing to walk back to her house. Only, her legs were really starting to hurt so I told her to hop on my back and I ended up walking a little over 6 miles with her on my back. If I'm not mistaken she got wasted and called me a parasite as I was trying to comfort her. I went through her second story window dropped my bag down then jumped down to the driveway and walked back home.
We also asked EmCWolf13 if she believes an excellent first date can be a sign that two people are meant to be together. "I think a great first date certainly goes a long way towards establishing a relationship that will last!" she shared. "It's all about being comfortable with the other person and finding someone who has a similar 'vibe' so to speak. First dates can be super awkward at times, but it's all about how you two handle anything weird that might happen. If you're both able to approach any conflicts or potential deal-breakers with compassion and understanding, you're well on your way to building a quality relationship."
#9
On our third date we watched a movie at his place. He remembered that on our first date I ordered a Dr pepper with my meal and a chocolate chip cookie for dessert. He had Dr peppers for me in the fridge and made me home made chocolate chip cookies. He burned them but I married him two years later anyways.
Katherine Stevens 2 years ago
Hey man not everyone knows to take them out a minute or two early. I give him props for trying.
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I'm divorced - for many reasons, but it all can be summed up that I suffered a spinal cord injury, resulting in paraplegia, and my then-husband couldn't deal with that.
My first date with my now bf of 4+ years, he treated me like a human, not the disabled girl. It never came up in conversation, and he behaved like it didn't exist. It was so gorgeous that he (sorry for the cliche/corniness) didnt see my wheelchair. To this day, he's just never made it a deal. He understands the quirks it creates, but never ever seems bothered by any of it. In fact, he spent a serious chunk of his own change putting a ramp on his house for me. I don't think we'll ever get married (he's divorced, too, and we're both kind of jaded against the institution). But he's definitely my forever person.
Theresa Mlodzik 2 years ago
'Person' actually sounds cold...like it could be anyone walking down the street. I prefer the word 'partner'.
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Alexandra Davis 2 years ago
As a fellow wheelie this makes me have some faith as I gave up on a dating sites as the first 10 messages (didn't even tick I wanted to date men) were from men all talking about disabled fetishes! The next 2 messages as I set to delete my page were from men again saying they could turn me straight with a photo of their d^ck... safe to say I gave up on online dating
Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 2 years ago
So sorry your experiences sucked, some people are just gross
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JPB 2 years ago
This is nothing compared to… my ex couldn’t even pick me up from the hospital after spinal fusion, three levels. Sent her sister and husband. Next morning I asked her if she could make a piece of toast and a coffee. I got the eye roll from her. I’m in a body brace and a walker. Mucho pain. My first Dr appointment and in the car I pulled out my post surgery MRI, showed two rods and cross braces and six sets of screws and hardware. She looked and said OMG, I didn’t know that was what you had done. Yeah if only you had asked, haha. The beginning of the end.
Mrs Irish Mom 2 years ago
Awww i love forever person, love my husband/best friend but my forever person sounds so much meaninfull ❤ gonna rob/borrow the saying
the Return of Bruno 2 years ago
I don't mean to scold, or come off like I think the editor is a bad person or unenlightened; I don't believe in political correctness as a gotcha sport. It's just that I noticed that EVERY other woman depicted here is relatively young, but the woman depicted here is fairly elderly and the picture seems to define her by her handicap. It just sort of clashes with the content of the text ("he treated me like a human, not the disabled girl.")
Auntriarch 2 years ago
The photos on Bored Panda do seem to owe more to chance than choice
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#11
On the first date with my now husband, I immediately smelled on him that he smoked cigs, which was a deal breaker for me. So I told him that. His response - then I quit. And that was that... Ten years of addiction and he quit like it was nothing for a woman he only just met. Later on in our relationship he told me that it was an easy decision because he felt in our first date that he had met his wife, so what was a small sacrifice like quitting smoking in exchange for me?
Jessica Bertram 2 years ago
i, too, quit smoking bc i was in serious love (and at this point, ready lived with) my boyfriend. i was tired of making excuses to go outside in the middle of conversations. we had been together nearly a year when i finally cracked the addiction and quit for good, from 1.5 packs/day for 8 years. We have been together 20 years now. Cigarettes are vile. He is worth every moment of the hell that kicking addiction can be. 💕🥰
Renee Russell 2 years ago
Exact same thing happened to me, only on our first date (some restaurants still had smoking sections) the hostess asked smoking or nonsmoking - and I said Non, I told him I did t even date guys that smoked, it wasn't fair to want them to stop something they were addicted to before me but was a deal breaker... months later his buddies kept trying to give him cigarettes at a party when he finally told them he'd quit.. after our first date, because I didn't date smokers. (From 2 pk a day!) Married 17 years now.
pink_panda 2 years ago
I was casually seeing a guy with a very unhealthy diet. I don't remember how it came up, but I mentioned that I couldn't see myself being with someone long-term who didn't take care of themselves because I would be afraid they would die much earlier than me. He went from fast food and soda to learning to cook fresh meals to the best cook in my extended family. Wasn't expecting him to change his eating habits but that impressed me hardcore. We've been together for 10 years.
Manny_Flawz 2 years ago
My Stepmom told my Dad that she wouldn't marry him unless he quit smoking. They were married for almost 54 years when she passed a few weeks ago.
TurquoiseTzarina 2 years ago
Beautiful love story. My condolences to you and your dad.
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Tammy Kirks 2 years ago
My husband and I were on our second or third date when he casually lit a cigarette. I looked at him in surprised and said, I didn't know you smoked. He said he didn't do it often and I just nodded and didn't make a big deal out of it, but it grossed me out. He quit right then. We've been married almost 27 years and I'm glad I didn't make that one cigarette a deal breaker.
Bethan Coleman 2 years ago
My now husband also quit after our first date after I yold him how much I hated the smell of cigarette smoke.
Shay Tracy 2 years ago
I deployed to Iraq with a guy that had a countdown to his final smoke- he'd met a girl right before we left with extreme asthma and he was going to quit so that she could be safe around him. They were still happily together when I moved bases a few years later :)
We also asked the Redditor if she thinks we should all be looking for "green flags" when dating, as well as red flags. "I definitely think it's important to take a step back and remember the positives when considering a potential partner," she told Bored Panda. "Of course, you don't want to totally disregard something sketchy or a clear incompatibility, but I think we as a society also need to remember that other people are just that: people, like us."
"Giving someone the benefit of the doubt, especially on a first date where they're likely nervous, can lead to opportunities you wouldn't have had if you were too quick to write the person off," EmCWolf13 explained. "Even if you decide not to pursue a relationship, you still get to learn about yourself and figure out what you need from a partner."
#12
Two green flags from the same man .
1st : Thought he was gonna be my first casual hook up. We were both high as kites when meeting (as you do at a music festival) and the next day WHILE I DEADA** CALLED HIM A DIFFERENT NAME he had already memorized my name & difficult surname and was making plans to see me next weekend .
2nd : The first official date I had to change/reschedule as my mentally handicapped sister needed babysitting. I told him and he suggested coming over if I was OK. I thought , cool , trial by fire to see how he reacts to my sister (she is a great litmus test to see of people are decent or not). He comes over, was a bit awkward and then totally just bonded with her , took my ques and learned how to speak to her and what she was comfortable with.
We are now 8 years together , 5 years married , 3 cute pets , a new house in an awesome country and trying for a baby:D . Life is good and he is my everything...... still call him the different name occasionally just for fun though XD .
Mrs Irish Mom 2 years ago
Still call him the different name occasionally just for fun is halirious 😂🤣 a great marriage is 1 were you can poke fun at eachther and still be in love
Theresa Stephenson 2 years ago
That is awesome and the way he treated your sister was amazing. Glad it workout for you.
Begrudgingly Basic 2 years ago (edited)
oof. at my first dance (in high school), i was bored during a slow song with no one to dance with, so i turned to a random guy and asked him to dance. he shrugged and we started dancing. afterwards i asked him his name and it sounded like "Oliver." so i was so pumped and told all my friends (who knew i was looking for a bf) that i danced with a guy named oliver. later he asked me to take pics with him, and we walked up to one of my friends to take pics with her and her bf. she said "...is this they guy you danced with? HIS NAMES KOLTON, NOT OLIVER!" and started dying laughing. everyone was making fun of me and him while i apologized profusely, my face turning red. he laughed it off, and we spent the next few weeks talking. now, 3 months later, i have a trans gf and i realized im pan. ive never been happier!
#13
We met up for park beers on our first date. From the get go, things just felt natural. The conversation flowed, we laughed, and it felt more like meeting with an old friend than a first date. When it got dark, she brought me back to hers to meet her cat (no innuendo, we waited a few dates to bang, and I just really love cats.) We didn't plan to, but we met up the next day. And the next. Took her to a family BBQ two weeks in, and they loved her. That easy, natural feeling never left. And right now her cat (now our cat) is screaming at me for dinner.
Chez2202 2 years ago
All very nice except the ‘waited a few weeks to bang’. But if the cat is ok with it then I am.
lauralett50 2 years ago
You are privileged, the CAT has accepted you. And demands that you feed her, hysterical! Congratulations!!😸😺😻
Raphosaurus 2 years ago
In Germany they definitely are a huge thing. Go to a park, meet with friends, have a couple of beers.
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Teresa Spanics 2 years ago
AWW you both are human staff members to your dear sweet feline overlord/lady 😻💖
#14
Took her out for coffee. We ended up staying for lunch, and then getting dinner. We talked for eleven hours. We've been married twelve years. We can still talk for hours.
Theresa Stephenson 2 years ago
Yes you got it right ability carry on conservation will give a long marriage good for you
"Overall, I think it's beneficial to look for the 'green flags' when dating, as well as throughout daily life," EmCWolf13 shared. "There's so much good in the world, but unfortunately, we're wired to focus on the negatives (thanks, evolution). Consciously looking for positive situations and good qualities in others is a great way to improve your mood and outlook on life. As Mr. Rogers said, 'Look for the helpers. They're always there.'"
#15
I have a son from my previous marriage. At dinner I told him flat out my son will always be my first priority and if he couldn’t handle that then there was no point wasting each other’s time, that my son had a damn good dad so I didn’t want a dad for my son but if we ever got serious enough for me to let him into my son’s life my expectations of him would be to be positive influence, a mentor and someone my son could count on to support him and love him. There would be times where I would be busy doing mom things like taking care of a sick kiddo, a babysitter canceled, there’s a game or school event I needed to be at, homework I needed to stay home and help with, etc and if he couldn’t understand and accept that there was no place for him in my life. He just looked at me and said that’s what a good mom does and it shouldn’t be any other way. He told me later he knew at that moment on our first date I was the woman he was going to marry and he vowed to make sure we never went without anything as long as he was in our lives. Here we are almost 10 years later married for almost 8. He loves my son as much as I do, he would do anything in the world for us and I don’t doubt he would die for either one of us. How I knew he was the one was when I was sicker than a dog, I literally couldn’t get out of bed. We had only been casually dating for about 6 weeks but he came over with pizza, chicken noodle soup, ginger ale, tea, honey, lemons and some video games. He fed my son pizza and me soup, made me tea, held my hair while I projectile vomited all over my bathroom, cleaned up my mess, put me to bed, played video games with my son, got him to bed, got him up for school, made breakfast and a lunch for him, dropped him off at school and then called out of work to take care of me. He cleaned my house, did my dishes, did my laundry, changed the sheets on my bed while I took a shower and stayed cuddled up on the couch with my sick a*s all day, then met my son at the bus stop and made us dinner. My son looked at me and said mommy I like your friend, can he stay here more? I fell in love with him that day. The way he cared about my son and about me and how he jumped in to help with no expectations just wanting to make sure I was taken care of and my son was safe and taken care of. We got engaged a year later and married a year after that. My son is 16 now and my husband is his best friend still. They love each other so much and they are always together, he’s at all my son’s games, he helps with homework, he plays video games with him, he takes him fishing and camping, taught him how to drive, he treats my son like his own child and the bond they have is incredible.
Ansi 2 years ago
I don't get some people I see commenting on the internet: "I would never date a singel mum because I would never be her first priority". 🤦♀️ Well duh, you're a grown a*s man that can take care of yourself, against a kid! This guy above gets it. 👍
Pittsburgh rare 2 years ago
I'm a single mum and my bf is a single dad. Neither of us would expect the other to go before our kids. It's a team effort
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Carol Emory 2 years ago
Just this past week I was sick. My husbands first words were "What do you want me to do? Do you need me to run to the store, clean up everything, rub your feet or just leave you in peace and quiet?" I said "Run to the store." He came back with chicken noodle soup (four different kinds in case I had a preference), Gatorade, large bottles of water, bagels (for dipping in the soup), crackers, immune booster and a crossword puzzle book. He made the soup, toasted the bagel, Gatorade on ice and then said "Movie, crossword, or me sitting on the couch playing video games until you fall asleep." I chose the later. He's also slept on the couch the past two days because he said he didn't want to keep me up with his snoring. Because of him, I feel much better today. I love this guy.
Cecilie Hammershøy 2 years ago
I'm not crying, you are crying.... My mom maried the opposite kind of guy and didn't protect me from his mental abuse. I wish my mom and stepdad was like these people.
Gillian Scarlett 2 years ago
That is the most incredible thing I've ever heard!!! What an incredible man!!!
#16
Wasn't our first date.......but I only had a few dates with someone I was dating rather long distance. I was stationed on Sardegna, and she lived in Liguira, so just to have a date, required ferries and long train rides, and sometimes short flights....which were always a hassle.,.....but we tried to make it work. My ship would go to Toulon, France, or Naples, Italy, and we'd tried to meet up , even if only for a few hours.
On our 4th or 5th date.......my ship was going to Livorno, so we agreed to try to meet up in Pisa. Seemed like a plan, and doable. But right before leaving, I felt terrible..... but thought maybe it would pass. It didn't..........the train ride was insufferable, I was burning with fever.....chills, the whole 9 yards......and all I remember was pulling into Pisa, and there she was, on the platform, waiting for my train. I stepped off the train, and literally just passed out in her arms. I mean, out cold.
I woke up in a hotel bed.....and she was sitting there, holding a cup of tea for me.
and I was like, what the hell happened?
Apparently, right after I passed out, she grabbed a taxi driver, and together they dragged me across the street to the nearest hotel, she got a room, and put me to bed. And then just sat there, all night watching me.
I have no memory of any of that. I just woke up in a bed, with her holding a cup of tea...........because she saw that I was starting to stir,........so she went to get me a cup of tea.
I just remember thinking............damn, I need to marry this woman.
and I did.
and that was the last cup of tea the damn woman ever made me.
Mihai Mara 2 years ago
Riiiight, so he fainted. The lady + taxi driver dragged him to the nearest hotel, the hotel was happy with the fainted client. And she just watched him all night long. And when he woke up he thought he needs to marry her. What a pile of BS.!! ...... Nobody thought of calling an ambulance / a doctor?? The taxi driver was ok with dragging a fainted stranger? The hotel was ok with an unconscious client? And he found it romantic after he finally woke up? Jesus Christ!
Ni Na 2 years ago
There is a lot more... "All I will say is, she must have been a very fine actress before I married her, because on Day TWO of the Honeymoon, she did something so boneheaded, so ridiculous, so insanely dangerous, that I should have divorced her, on the spot......left her there, flew home and got an annulment. I knew on DAY 2......... I f****d up Big Time and missed all the signs of mental illness."
DuchessDegu 2 years ago
That's a bad example, it went very wrong after this if you read the whole story!
Niki A 2 years ago
I lured my husband into a false sense of security with my cooking.... taught him how. Now he cooks LOL.
Tinderella 2 years ago
This one is so fake, there’s more about their divorce and pregnancy and it’s obvious fiction.
#17
Random dance at a club. She held my hand after it ended. We were married 24 years before she passed due to cancer.
Dead Man Talking 2 years ago
I'm so very sorry. Can very much sympathize. I lost mine in 2001, & still miss her. We were both stationed in England. She Loved to dance. I've been Stage 4 for the last 4 years. (That's a lot of 4's). They said 6 to 9 months. Will find out the end of Jan. If I'm in remission. They have told me this 3 times now!
We hope you're enjoying this heartwarming list, dear pandas. Remember never to settle when dating, and keep a close eye out for those green flags. We would love to hear the green flags that made you swoon when you first met your partner in the comments down below, and then if you're interested in reading another article highlighting gorgeous green flags to search for when in a new relationship, you can find that right here!
#18
Pretty cool story. First date with my now wife. Had plans to go to a fancy Italian restaurant. I show up a bit early, dressed as nice as my wardrobe allows, a couple drinks before she gets there. But anyway she arrives and we enjoy dinner, drinks, appetizers, dessert. The works. Anyway when it’s time for thee check the waitress comes over and says “a person who prefers to remain anonymous picked up yalls tab and told me to tell y’all to continue to enjoy the night.” We were both shocked. I wasn’t keeping tabs but this was an expensive meal we just had. I tipped well of course and I thought to myself the only reason anyway would do that is they say an obvious first date unfolding and thought we were cute/happy/genuine or something. We both felt pretty special. Been married for 3 years. Together for 8. We eventually paid it forward to another young couple years later. Total boss move btw. Definitely feel good about yourself.
Jake VanWagoner 2 years ago
My dad does that all the time. The only person more clever at paying before anybody else can was HIS dad. Most hilarious thing ever even my dad tried to pull one of those on a family event but it turned out his dad had already sneakily paid it before him.
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Terry Tobias 2 years ago
I was out with a boyfriend once and we were having an argument. We kept it quiet but someone must have been paying attention because our waitress came over with a bottle of champagne telling us that a man wanted us to have a nice evening and thought it might help. It was so sweet that we stopped arguing and enjoyed ourselves!
#19
On our first date, our conversation was natural enough that the waitress asked us how long we had been married. The answer is 20 years now.
Stephanie Isley 2 years ago
This happened to my husband and I too and it was a blind date. The waitress was genuinely shocked
Adam Elder 2 years ago
On my first date with my now wife, we went to see "Driving Miss Daisy" at the local cinema. She fell asleep. I thought that's great, maybe get a second. Arrange to meet her in town after she finished work. She never showed, this was long before mobile phones. I hung around for a couple of hours in hope that she'd turn up, nope, thought that was that. Go home, there she is talking to my mum waiting for me. Turns out there was a bomb scare and she couldn't get to park anywhere, I was completely unaware of this. Been married now for 30 years, my absolute soulmate, I love her more now than I did then.
Wondering Alice 2 years ago
I had the opposite happen. Sitting in a coffee shop, the waitress asked if it was our first or second date - at that time we had been married about 10 years. She was really surprised. She asked how we still found so much to talk about. Now married 18 years, still talk loads.
Nightshade1972 1 year ago
That happened to my wife and me. While we were still dating, we went to a "progressive dinner" sponsored by a local radio station--you go to one restaurant for an appetizer, another for the main course, and another for dessert. To get to the different restaurants, you had to board a different bus, so the group of people at each subsequent restaurant was different from the group of people at the last one. At each restaurant we went to, my now-wife and I were asked how long we'd been married. At each restaurant, whoever asked us that question was genuinely surprised when we said, "Oh, we're not married, we've only been dating for a couple of months!" We'll celebrate 19 years married in March 2024.
#20
Among other things we talked about books, and at some point I asked for some recommendations. He said he had to think about it, but I didn't expect him to actually do. The next day he texted me a list of his favorite books, showing that he had been really thinking about me and that he didn't care about those weird texting rules (that you shouldn't text the day after a date so you won't seem too eager) Also just the fact that he wanted to talk about books
Carol Emory 2 years ago
Not text after a date because you'll seem to eager? When I first met my husband...not only did he call me the next day and ask me out, when I told him I couldn't because I'd promised my sister I'd help her move 125 miles home, he volunteered to come help. My sister was like "An Army guy wanting to help move furniture...sure!"
Dan Padgett 2 years ago
Anything by Terry Pratchett. David Gemell's Rigante series and also Drew Hayes' NPC series.
Mia Black 2 years ago
If you enjoy books like from pratchet i reccommend the book Serie "Xanth" and books from A. Lee Martinez (the Humor is more like Douglas Adams, whom i also reccommend )
Load More Replies... BOTW PANDA 2 years ago
Keeper of the Lost Citis and Rangers Apprentice, Boxcar Children, Stuart Gibbs, Gordon Korman, and A Dog Called Hope. Good books.
Loula Lucille 2 years ago
Boxcar Children made me into a reader. Thanks for putting that suggestion out there!
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Sarah Maas throne of glass all the way. Fav series still and I first read it like 3 years ago
Nightshade1972 1 year ago
I went on a date with a fellow book nerd. On our date, he told me about how he'd been looking for a particular SF/F book he'd read when he was young--he'd lost his copy, and no matter how hard he looked for it, the only copy he could find was a hoity-toity leather/goldbound version that the publishing company wanted more than $40 USD for. I suggested Half Price Books. Lo and behold, he found a paperback copy of the book he'd been looking for! He was thrilled not only that he found it, but (as the name of the store suggests) that the price of the paperback was literally half of the price printed on the cover--something like $2.50 (the original price for the paperback was $5), when the leather-bound version he'd been pondering was more than $40! Our relationship didn't work out, but I'm glad he got his book.
Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
I joke that I ordered him online (free shipping/money back guarantee). We chatted for a few weeks and agreed to meet in person at a local Starbucks. Talked like old friends just catching up. After about an hour, he says he's hungry, can I take you to dinner. Yes (I can ALWAYS eat), but first, do you mind if we check out the bookstore - there always seems to be a Barnes & Noble next to a mall Starbucks. No problem. I collect hardbacks and immediately head for the sale table. Found 4 or 5 I just couldn't pass up. As we're walking around talking about favorite authors, genres, etc., he very casually takes the books from me. As any true gentleman would, he carried my books! I fell in love right there & then. We had a 3 hour dinner and have been together for 15 years now, married for 1. He's the best friend I've ever had. Oh, and I don't think I've ever opened my own car door in all this time.
#21
He asked permission to give me a hug. Second date he asked permission to kiss me. We've been married 7 years now.
Tinderella 2 years ago
I like that. My answer is usually yes but it feels good being asked lol.
Katorade 2 years ago
I will never, ever, as long as there is breath in my body, forget when my now husband held my hand under the moonlight and asked if he could kiss me. Then, when we pulled apart, he looked me in the eyes and very sincerely asked if he could do it again! Been together 9 years and married for 6. It was in our vows. :)
Hamlets twin 2 years ago
Wow, sad state of affairs that the bar is so low. How is that so hard for people to get? Every move doesn't need a verbal approval, but a check in seems reasonable. Especially since women may feel obligated for fear of assault for changing her mind.
Darian Starfrog 2 years ago (edited)
People down voting others who feel the opposite is Sevier, get a life! People aren't the same, that's why the world is interesting..jeez!
#22
First date, she was driving us to a spot to go hiking, about an hour’s drive. We’re talking and talking, but every once in a while we wouldn’t be talking, and it just felt so comfortable and not awkward being silent together.
lauralett50 2 years ago
It says a lot of you can be with someone and noise is not needed. No excessive talking, music, just being together is enough. Some guys can't do quite.
Florence O'Grady 2 years ago
If you cannot handle a short hike, I feel sorry for you. Hiking on a date is not hiking the Appalachian Trail.
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Current husband of 20 years canceled first date about 30 minutes before because there was a very slim possibility that he might get an unexpected couple of hours with his daughters that night (divorced with two daughters).
FakeOptimist 2 years ago
Didn't know you yet, and showed how he values the people important to him.
Rachael Coleman-Dean 2 years ago
By this being a green flag for you, you proved your value right back. Real women don't get jealous over time spent with kids.
RCCampos 2 years ago
This happened to me once. I asked if we could meet on Friday and he said he sincerely hoped not bc there was a possibility he could stay with his son that day. I thought it was amazing and it made me want him even more. Few weeks later we met and we slept together. He removed his condom in the middle of the thing to "feel me cumming" (even though he didn't made me cum). After he got wat he wanted he would barely talk to me and kept ghosting me. It was six years ago and nowadays when I remember it I can't believe I fell for it. Yes, it can be a green flag but still not guaranteed.
pink_panda 2 years ago
I'd be disappointed, but the fact that he cares so much about his daughters would still be a green flag. If he cancelled like that all the time, I'd be pissed.
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#24
He farted, looked me dead in the eyes, and said "erase the stigma".
We are currently engaged and have been together for 6 years.
glowworm2 2 years ago
My boyfriend would always look so ashamed and apologize whenever he ripped a loud one. Me? I’d just laugh my head off! He didn’t need to feel terrible about it.
lauralett50 2 years ago
I wonder if she farted too. Hubby and I call it the farticus mating call
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Daniel Atkins 2 years ago
Man that picture fits the story as if there was a stock photo just for this story.
Lee F. 2 years ago
I'm 5'3 and my partner is 6'4. I'm pretty strong as I'm an interior designer and home stager, I do a lot of lifting and moving and working. I knew I could pick him up, so in our group of friends one night when we first started dating, I asked him to let me pick him up. I positioned myself and knew I could, so I lifted and fully lifted him off the ground. Not before I performed my first fart ever in front of him.Its one of our fav memories. Still his girl 9 months later.
Gail Wilson Webb 2 years ago
Hubby would fart and say sorry. I would say you're only sorry because it wasn't like this and either fart or belch a big one. We would laugh our heads off.
Angelica Lynch 2 years ago
I think it's Shrek 2 where they are in a hot mud tub and "making it bubble"- she does it more than him. Years ago I bought a gag gift for my brother I think at Bass Pro Shop. Bottle of beans for redneck bubble bath
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My husband usually politely apologizes. Me I usually laugh maniacally, but we both still get along and neither gets offended over it.
#25
We had been dating about 6 months and she showed up at my apartment with a homemade cake on my birthday. It might sound like no big deal to some people but I had never dated a girl who cared about my birthday. I almost dropped to my knees and cried when I opened the door.
F. Jeske 2 years ago
Was married to one that didn't even remember my birthday most of the time. Divorced now.
SaneMinotaur (she/her) 2 years ago
Glad you are no longer with them; life is too short for that rubbish!
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Tinderella 2 years ago
I love this one. Celebrating someone’s birthday is important even if they act like it’s not.
#26
She stopped at GameStop on the way over to grab another wii controller so that my roommate could play Super Mario 3D world with us on the wii-u she was bringing with her.
That was almost 8 years ago : )
Rachael Coleman-Dean 2 years ago
Always date/keep/Marry the thoughtful gamer. 20 years together now, still gaming, now the kids have joined us. Botw ftw
Load More Replies... WindySwede 2 years ago
Thats cute :) But as a former SNES-player the picture does not go with the story :P
ItsJess 2 years ago
No it does not, but I've learned to let that s**t go on BP
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#27
She listened to what I said and also contributed to the conversation. Was the first time I found a girl who did that and five years later as of today were still going strong. A week from now if I’m lucky she’ll say yes and she’ll go from an amazing gf to fiance
Karen Philpott 2 years ago
Maybe not rooting, but definitely cheering you on!
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#28
The date was supposed to just be getting a drink or two. We stayed until the place was closing down and even then the date wasn’t over- we watched Donnie Darko and he made us cookies. We’ve been together for almost 10 years and married for 5. Everyone should have someone they’re unwilling to say goodbye to.
A. Starhawk Hunt 2 years ago
My second husband had been my best friend since we were 14 and 16 yrs old, all the way through my marriage to the other guy. We were so close that he’s my son’s stepfather and godfather. We always took forever to say goodbye. Treasure it. It’s the last long goodbye that’s the hardest. RIP my BeLovEd
#29
Not a first date, but about maybe two weeks into seeing each other. He saw a friend of mine for the first time that night and we had fun. However, I began crying in front of him and my friend because someone I used to date messaged me telling me he doesn't need me anymore and that me setting him up with someone proves he can easily move on from me and that I'm nothing but the past and I don't mean anything. This guy I barely knew at that time sat me down, gave me some blankets, and told me I'm not going to entertain or host anything until he knows I feel better. He then tried making me some hot cocoa but couldn't figure out the Keurig, so I laughed/cried as I showed him how to do it. My friend told him it was the nicest thing anyone ever did for me, and he was deeply confused because, "this is the bare minimum for someone to do, what are you talking about?" And we're engaged now 8 years later.
Samantha Martini 2 years ago
Right?? 2 weeks of dating someone they were dumped by some other guy they obviously liked more so the guy was a sucker and stayed to comfort her and since he stuck around she settled for him? Is this really a story?
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Nika Strokappe 1 year ago
If someone sends you a text that they are moving on and you mean nothing to them out of the blue, probably means that they are having trouble getting over you...
#30
She saw a hummingbird start to circle some flowers on the patio we were dining on and had to pause the conversation to just watch the little guy.
FakeOptimist 2 years ago
Relatable : I was distracted by a butterfly once, she preferred her phone. No second date ofc.
Erica Knapp 2 years ago
Bullet dodged!! I hope you find someone who likes nature just like you. TBH I would stop for a million nature "oh wow, nature!" things bc nature is awesome 😁
Load More Replies... Jake VanWagoner 2 years ago
"Why don't you understand? I have a short attention span. A short attention - hey is that a bird?"
Yoga Kitty 2 years ago
Sorry, can't relate, I don't have a short - look, a squirrel!!!
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Went on a first date with a girl, check came and I tried to grab it and she said, "if you pay for the whole thing there won't be a second date, if we split it ill see you next weekend" smoooooth
Erica Knapp 2 years ago
It's also a smart way to convey that she's looking for an equal partner. Well done.... And yes I'm taking notes lol
Load More Replies... Carol Emory 2 years ago
Good ploy. Helped her to find someone who's not so old school in their perception of relationships that they'd get a bruised ego from letting the girl pay her share.
#32
He made it clear it was a date and that he was interested without it ever feeling creepy or like he was pressuring me for anything. We talked for hours, went from restaurant to walking up and down the river to my place for a beer, then I offered for him to stay over but on a mattress on the floor (I was in a studio with no couch), not in my bed and he wasn’t pushy about anything more happening.
The first few weeks he was always sweet and respectful but made it so clear that he was interested in a relationship, no back and forth or second guessing. And now we’re married!
AnnaPanda 2 years ago
Both people have to be interested in relationship for it to happen
Load More Replies... Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
I made it clear to my (now) husband that I didn't have sex with strangers. We were basically joined at the hip since the night we met IRL, but sex was off the table. He told me how much he respected me for that. (And a month later it was totally worth the wait!)
#33
She told me it was because I said I liked cats
Luna Crow 2 years ago
I thought that was just a baseline requirement? I've met some people who say they like cats, but I still wouldn't trust them. But maybe I'm too picky
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Kel_how 2 years ago
Anyone can like dogs. Special people like cats. (And perfect people like both! 😉)
Luna Crow 2 years ago
Yep. Anyone who doesn't like either, that's an immediate deal breaker, don't trust them
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whiterabbit 2 years ago
One of my cats doesn't like anyone but me. It took her 6 months of my ex living with us before she trusted him. The first time my current boyfriend came over she hopped into his lap like they'd known eachother forever, I love that man more than anything.
James Heinle 2 years ago
What's the hardest part about owning a cat? Telling your parents you're gay.
Theresa Stephenson 2 years ago
Yes for me too! I used to think cats were primarily female pets and dogs were mans best friend. So when I see guys who like cats who are taken it makes me a little sad.
#34
She told me to! She said, "See? Was that so bad? Now ask me out for another." Wifey and I met in the Marine Corps. I was a Sgt, she was a PFC. I was busy working on my career, she was there for the GI Bill. We started running together and finally one day, after a couple of months, she yelled at me, "ARE YOU EVER GOING TO ASK ME OUT???"
David H 2 years ago
Well she was a Marine, and if you ever met a wook, those ladies don't wait for anything, they zero in.
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#35
He asked if it was okay if he checked his phone as he left work to meet up with me, but still had things in flight he needed to pay attention to. I appreciated he valued his time with me but also wanted to be present for his team. Even now, two years later, he still asks.
#36
We had so much fun. Laughed the whole time. At the end he bought silly string and we chased each other around a parking lot with it like we were the only people on the planet
rodger coghlan 2 years ago
Silly string reacts to black light or at least it did back in the 70s - we were all high and my apt was a mess after the string fights
#37
walking her home, she accidentally stepped on a snail. she felt really bad about it. almost married her right there.
Ambry Petersen 2 years ago
I remember catching pet snails as a kid. We would pick leaves to feed them and carry them around for maybe an hour or so before letting them go.
#38
The banter and chemistry was instantaneous. 32 years later and three kids later, the banter and chemistry is still there.
#39
A two hour date that felt like five minutes. At the end of it she made some silly bet with me that she said if she lost, she’d go out with me again. And of course she lost.
It was about eight green flags
#40
We went to a fairly fancy place, and I have the palete of a 5yr old. I can typically find something anywhere but I was going through the menu and there is basically nothing I can make remotely edible for me. But they have Mac and cheese. We're in our early thirties, and we're at a fancy place. There's no way I can order Mac and cheese and not look like a toddler.
The waiter comes around, I am basically having a panic attack in my head, I let her order first.
She orders the Mac and cheese.
OMFG
I order the Mac and cheese too.
We go and see a live jazz show. We're leaving and it had snowed while we were in the show.
I don't remember how it came up, but I made some joke about doing donuts in the parking lot and to my extreme surprise she said something along the lines of "hell yeah, I've never done donuts in a parking lot".
I put the Forester through it's paces. Turned traction control off and got the side widows coated in snow. She was laughing like a school girl the entire time.
We hung out a few more times and parted ways as friends. There was a significant class difference. She was staying in her parents multi-million dollar home *on* the ocean, and my parents will die destitute.
OnAFreakingRollercoaster 2 years ago (edited)
Okay the ending is heartbreaking, love conquers all!! Even class differences. I'm rooting for you guys 😘
M Vee 2 years ago
It doesn't though. The reality is that people tend to marry people of the same social class. It's becoming even more of a thing.
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Samantha Martini 2 years ago
I felt like a peasant who just had met his queen... 🎶🎵🎶
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Eloarei 2 years ago
My husband and I met in high school. We got along pretty immediately and have always been able to hang out and talk for hours and hours, but one of the earlier specific instances when it was obvious that we were aligned was in senior year in the cafeteria, we stopped to look at an interesting bug that was crawling around on the floor, and some jerk comes over and steps on it. I was shocked at the deliberate cruelty; my husband's response? He stood up and gave the guy a hug and said "it's okay". This was partly passive aggressive, and partly his assumption that anyone who would do something like that must be struggling with their own emotions. Both reasons appealed to me. Anyway, we've been married nearly 15 years now (got engaged on my 18th birthday), and just welcomed our first child. Just as I expected, my wonderful husband is also a wonderful father. 💖
#41
His ex-wife called mid dinner to tell him his daughter was sick, throwing up, and she didn't want to deal with it. (I was able to hear her even though she wasn't on speaker) He politely apologized and said he had to leave and would understand if I didn't want to try a do over date. We'll have been married 15 years this coming July.
#42
We met in a nightclub, I took him home for some fun and games. When we woke up and had breakfast, he said "what would you like to do today?" instead of just leaving his number and doing the dash. We’ve been together for 27 years and married for 15 of them, and we’ve almost never spent a night apart.
#43
I arrive 30 minutes early to do my makeup in the car. Saw him pull in 15 minutes later but he didn’t see me. He got out and started walking to the cafe we agreed to meet at. Homeless man walks up to him. I see him go back to his car to get change. I never told him I saw what he did, but I definitely went into the date more excited and less nervous.
#44
Wasn't *technically* a first date because we were still just friends. I still considered this one of our first "dates". We were sprawled outside on the concrete of his front porch the whole night sharing our favorite albums together -- up for hours, just listening and talking. I remember feeling so happy, because we had just gotten close that year; it felt like I finally had the "best friend" I always wanted while I was growing up. We finally realized how long we had been up when his dad opened the front door to leave for work and was surprised by us sitting on the steps. We're almost 4 years married. I wouldn't have it any other way. He's the best friend I've ever had. EDIT: I really didn't expect this to blow up the way it did. My husband and I were going through all of the comments this morning; it really made our day. Our collective advice is: always put kindness and sincerity first in your partner. We are very simple people. There were times that we had next to nothing, and love carried us through. Love is something that fame and money cannot buy. Do everything you can to be a good person for the people in your life. The right people will find their way to you, as long as you put love first.
Destiney Haddox 2 years ago
They're just trying to spread love and positivity. Relax.
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I was new to the area, we met at a restaurant in a town I wasn't familiar with. Had a great date but when I went to go home in my car, he noticed I accidentally turned on the service road instead of the highway. He followed me and flagged me down to let me know I'd gone the wrong way. This was long before cell phones and gps and I didn't have a map of the area, I would have been super lost in the middle of the night. I was like, wow this is a super nice guy! That was 22 years ago and we're still together.
#46
Not a first date, but after chillin for a couple weeks, I told him that I wasn't interested. He said, "Hey, can we still be friends? I like hangng out with you." And then we hung out for the rest of the day like best friends. I kissed him that night. We're married now. When I was a teen, it was complicated. Guys were either up front that they wanted to be with me, or they were my friends until I turned down their advances. He just liked me for me!
#47
Asking me out on the second date while on the date. Showed he was interested, and that pattern of vulnerability persisted into a marriage. His communication is still unparalleled, and I’m still surprised how many details he can remember about me/us.
#48
I looked like a dear in the headlights for the first half hour. He asked me if I was ok and I admitted that first dates always make me super nervous because I don’t wanna mess up. Then he asked me what we could do together that wouldn’t flare up my anxiety. I told him usually doing some kind of physical activity helps me talk without focusing on how I sound or look. He changed plans and took us mini-golfing and I completely forgot that I’d been nervous at all.
timothy (he/they) 2 years ago
yeah, theres no pressure to do good, its just there to have fun :D
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#49
I guess our "first date" was sneaking off together for a walk, at the place we worked together. Shortly after, we ended up dating in secret until we announced our engagement, to our boss' displeasure. We were walking around the grounds together and she kept running off ahead slightly to look at specific groups of flowers and remarking about which ones she liked the most, and how beautiful they all were. Then she'd realize she had left me behind and would come back, and walk with me over to them so she could look at them some more with me. It was adorable, and she's still just as adorable today. I don't think I'd ever seen someone so excited about flowers. We've been married 4 years now.
#50
She asked me what my favorite dinosaur is! Just to make things clear, this wasn’t in kindergarten or school. I was 34, she 28 - that was almost two years ago. Most lovely human being I ever met and I can gladly state that she’s sleeping right next to me at the moment.
#52
It was my first time going into the city by myself; I'd seen a Facebook post online for an event with alternative music (emo, punk-rock), and thought "Ah, what the hell, I'll check it out". I knew no one there, the event went late into the night, and I'd only just moved here from living in country towns all my life. I didn't even know how I was supposed to order a drink (had to ask the bartender, who thankfully wasn't judgemental and told me about tabs and some common drinks). I'd been wandering around for a bit looking absolutely lost, when this guy came up to me and said, "you look lonely". He brought me over to his friend group, and I ended up hanging out with them for quite a while. Unfortunately I was also completely unaware of my own alcohol tolerance, and ended up feeling very tired. I was falling asleep on this guy, until the staff came over and told me I had to leave as they didn't want me passing out there. He came with me, offering to make sure I got onto the train safe, and it turned out we lived within 20 minutes walk of each other, so he came with. He walked me right up to the door, then walked home in the dark alone, messaging me the next day to make sure I was okay. Unfortunately I didn't see how sweet he was at the time, but eventually, we got together, and he has stayed with me through so much c**p in life. We have been together around two and a half years now :)
WindySwede 2 years ago
:) But not nice on the event staff "Can you please go pass out on the streets?" wt...
#53
The fact that she was very shy to start our first date (having learned I was her first date in years after the fact, it makes sense), but then the moment I hit a topic she really enjoyed, she wouldn’t stop talking. And then on the second date, she said she was tired at 9pm (she had just gotten a puppy). I thought that meant things didn’t go well. When she got home to take care of the dog, it woke her up and she texted me quite a bit the rest of the night. That changed my mind on how things went. Now I’m married to her and we just had our first kid 8 weeks ago. I love her, and our family, so much.
#54
She was genuinely interested in what I was talking about and asked follow up questions on the topic…. I was talking nervously about some boring part of my education… she was smiling all the time and made me feel confident about it. Good times! 16years later we are still together.
#55
A guy I met at a party of a mutual friend started talking with me online the day after the party (Facebook chat, when that was a thing many years ago). I mentioned plans to go to a movie with a group of friends and he enthusiastically expressed interest in joining, so I invited him. He came and it was fun (big group of mixed gender friends) and afterwards called me. He said something along the lines of “I really enjoy hanging out with you and I am interested in you and in getting to know you better and would like to go on a date”. GREEN FLAG. It was so refreshing to have a guy be so straightforward. No guessing about his intentions or quasi-dating for weeks. I was in my mid 20s and frustrated that I was wasting time with guys who weren’t actually serious about relationships and with online dating. Anyways, we went on that date and now we’re married and have 2 kids.
#56
My gorgeous, fabulous wife has been nothing but one gigantic green flag. Even her shortcomings are perfect. We agreed to meet for coffee first. She walked in, and my first thought was that there was no way it was her, because she was just *so beautiful*. Then she gave this shy little smile and wave, and I realized that it *was* her. We talked and laughed and drank coffee for what felt like about 20 minutes. The next thing I knew, the place was empty and closing. I walked her to her car, and she grabbed me and gave me this huge hug, completely unprompted. It was really sweet. I took her out on a real date the following week, and it was just... magical. I waited a few days, so I didn't seem too forward, and called her up. I was really nervous. After we talked for awhile, I awkwardly asked her if it'd be okay if I took her out again sometime. She said "What? Of course you can! I'd LOVE to go out with you again!" And that's how I met the love of my life.
#57
On our first date something just felt different about her, but I couldn't really tell what. Maybe she just felt comfortable to be with. We had a lot of fun, went dancing and got plastered on New Years Eve 1980-81. The next morning I was hung over and didn't have any food. I called her and told her (,why I don't know) and she said to come over and she made me breakfast. I was painting the garage door and told her and she came over to help me. She also didn't care I didn't have money. It was a small town and people knew that, so a lot of girls wouldn't go out with me because it was evident by my car and apartment. She didn't care. If I didn't have enough money to go out she would pitch in so we could go on a cheap date. We've been married since 1984. My parents died which was terrible, but I became overnight rich. Now the girls in town who turned me down before actually were asking me out. I told them too late. This is honest truth. I married the woman who didn't care and now I was buying her a nice house, nice new car, fat diamond ring. Justice done.
Lynne Hammar 2 years ago
Reminds me of an old Steeleye Span song about a sailor who comes home, hits on a girl, she turns him down flat as poor and dirty. He tells her that's fine, though he's grown rich at sea. Then she says she loves him & will marry him! He turns her down flat & sings about how he doesn't care what the world thinks of him. Sorry so long
#58
It wasn‘t a date, but it was the first time we ever hung out. Back when my husband and I first met we spent the day with friends, and all of us decided to go on a walk. It started raining midway through the walk, something my husband knew was going to happen so he brought his umbrella with him. Without question as soon as that first raindrop landed he took out his umbrella and made sure not a drop landed on me. He didn’t have to. We were just friends, not even that, it was the first real day we hung out. But I knew I wanted to hang out with him more. Looking back now, I can see why I fell in love with him. He has always been kind.
#59
I met my current boyfriend on Tinder and I had basically little to no expectations that this would go anywhere because, well, it’s Tinder. We ended up chatting on the app before he gave me his phone number and he ended up asking me if I wanted to hangout the next day and I said sure! We live in Finland 10 mins away from the Swedish border so we drove over to the Sweden side. He said he needed to get some groceries, alcohol, and gas for the car so we did that before driving back over to the Finnish side. He dropped me back off at my place and said he really hoped he could see me again. Well, fast forward to later that night he called me and asked if I wanted to see him again because he really enjoyed my company and wanted to keep hanging out. He apologized for the less than exciting grocery/gas/alcohol run date earlier, but I said I didn’t mind. I said I had a good time and that I wanted to see him again too. We ended up driving to his cabin in the evening and it was so romantic! It was freezing cold (as it usually is in Finnish Lapland in winter) and we just cuddled and talked all night. I really love him so much and I have a sneaking suspicion he’s going to propose soon!
#60
We talked about everything and the conversation never dulled, everyone at the party left and we were the only two people there and didn’t realize it for a while. 25 years later and were still running our mouths!
#61
I was late because my bike broke down and when i got to the club she was surrounded by a bunch of guys chatting her up. I was oblivious to that just all stressed and covered in oil and dirt from getting that f*****g beast working again. I walked up to her and said something like "hey, wanna get out of here and go eat?" And she just smiled got up and left with me. edit; okay so 2nd date we were meeting up at a restaurant. I was checking my bike over before leaving to make sure it wouldn't break down again when two buds of mine on the block came up and asked me what was up (we all worked on each other's bikes). I mentioned i had a date and didn't want the bike to f**k up again (it was like a mix of Harley and yamaha parts we cobbled together) and I casually commented the clutch seemed jinky but workable so I was gonna grab my stuff from my apartment and take off and they were like "oh yeah, we'll take a look and make sure it's good while you do that". I come back and they've DISASSEMBLED THE WHOLE F*****G CLUTCH ASSEMBLY. I'm freaking out like "WHAT THE HELL MAN" and they're giving me this gormless look of "oh can't have a jinky clutch so we figured we'd fix it" and short version is I showed up a half hour late to the restaurant. She's at the bar and some guy is chatting her up and I sit down next to her and apologize for being late because of my idiot mates and we have a drink and the guy keeps trying to be part of the conversation and she's responding and I get a bit pissed but I keep my cool over it. We get our table and she causally mentions the guy wanted her to go with her to another place if I didn't show up soon and I'm like LOOKING for where he is because I'm pissed and wanna do something stupid and she just laughs and says it's cute I got jealous but she wasn't going to go with him, she was just giving me s**t for being late AGAIN. Anyway we eventually got married and it's been like 30 years.
#62
When the first date was such a colossal fail (wrong movie time, restaurant sucked, she lost her wallet) and she just rolled with it. 7 years later I’m married to that girl
#63
Sending a follow up text the same day saying “I enjoyed our time together today, thank you”. Shows communication, vulnerability, respect, and effort. Even if it continues with a “…but, I didn’t feel a connection…”. Still shows all the above qualities that will be useful for whoever they do end up with!
#64
When we sat down, he told me that he would pay and not to worry, since he asked me out. When we left the cafe and he asked me for a walk and we went for one, he listened closely to me because at the end, he asked me if I would be comfortable if he brought me home since I mentioned being followed and catcalled by guys. And he waited for me to reach out for a hug in the end - and even better was the way he asked for a kiss. We hugged and he was like "Ah, always that uncertainty about a kiss on the first date." That was the moment I knew he would not mind if I said no. But I said yes. Yeah, was a gorgeous first date. Glad to have had that experience at least once so far.
Kel_how 2 years ago
Went on a date with a guy I had a grad school class with, but we didn't really know each other. We met at a park to walk and talk. I told a story for 5 to 10 minutes and realized he hadn't heard a word I said. He was only interested in telling me how smart he was. 🙄 I declined a second date.
#65
We met for coffee after making arrangements on a dating website. He walked me TO my car but kept a certain distance so I would not feel uncomfortable. We are now married 15 years, together 17. He actually just has a HUGE personal space bubble.😂But he is very considerate and not pushy, which is huge for me.
#66
Sadly- not having their phone out on the table during coffee.
It’s a depressing world we live in lol
#68
Met to go for a walk at midnight, said goodnight at dawn having walked all over the city crossing four different bridges. Celebrated ten years with our first child born this year.
#69
It started snowing while we were eating dinner. The roads were starting to get icy by the time we left. He said “text me when you get home. I want to know you’re safe.” It was just so clearly an act of kindness with no ulterior motive. We’ve been married 9 years.
#70
This isn’t going to be a top upvoted comment or anything but absolutely everything about her was and still is a green flag. Met her at work, she was my manager. First date I bought her a dress and bought myself a suit. She didn’t stop smiling all night and we had a great time. 7 years together, 3 beautiful girls (1 each from previous relationships), 2nd Christmas as a married couple this year and there isn’t a single thing I’d ever change about her. I truly believe the “green flag” was that when I met her I knew instantly that she was the one. I found the one for me, at the exact time I needed to find her. Sometimes I can’t believe my luck because I didn’t think it was possible to find someone who ticks every single one of your boxes, but she absolutely does.
#71
Well, prior to this “first date” he and I had been talking for quite a while so it’s not the standard first date I guess. But he didn’t play games, he made it very known to me that he had feelings for me. He was kind enough to buy our ice cream for us. He asked me for input on what our first date should be - coffee shop or ice cream. He showed genuine interest and respect for me. ☺️ I could tell from the first date that this was going to be something special. Ended up being a 3 year long relationship.
#72
The guy had kidney stones that morning, but made a huge deal about not wanting to cancel the date day of. I tried to tell him it’d be fine and we could reschedule, but the date went on without a hitch. Dude must be hella into me if he’s putting up with that kind of pain to see me 😅
#73
She was an hour late. However, the entire time, she was texting me updates and telling me what she was doing to get there. We are going to be celebrating our one year anniversary on 1/1.
#74
Her offering to have our first date at my place, no netflix and chill, simply talk and enjoy each other's company because netflix and chill isn't a proper first date to get to know someone. Literally at the end of the first date, she asked for a hug and honestly could've probably went for the kiss, but I waited for 2nd date for that lol. Right away we both knew, and we texted each other that we enjoyed the evening and setup our next date right away. That was a breath of fresh air, and happy to say we're together now.
#75
I pretended I was asleep and all he did was kiss my forehead and cuddle 🥺 few dates later he was still respecting that I wasn't ready to sleep with him yet... Few years later we're engaged with a kid 🥰
#76
he took me out for coffee in a place that he made me choose. when i got there, he was already waiting and the way his eyes shined when he saw me was really adorable. we ordered and played chess, his hand was shaking. its been a year and counting.
#77
Our first real date was someone else’s wedding. We got tired of the reception and walked onto the pier to look at the stars. Now we’re married ourselves.
#78
i realized i spent most of the date talking about myself (hear me out) and i’ve never once had that happen. i’m a very reserved and private person when i first meet someone which has honestly made dating difficult for years. but he had such a way of asking questions, and keeping the conversation going, and encouraging me sharing my thoughts, opinions, and he also shared his to everything i said that when our date was done, i realized i spent almost the entire date talking, which is so unlike me for first dates! i wasn’t afraid of him judging me or not liking my response to something. all of his questions were sincere and he seemed to genuinely care about whatever the hell was about to come out of my mouth. i didn’t have to think about what to say, it just came out of me and he met me wherever i was at. maybe it sounds silly, but it was pretty magical. we still see each other!
#79
We're coworkers, and we started flirting after a while of friendship. I dressed casually for a date aka white dress shirt, blue jeans, and my date shoes. She showed up all dressed up and couldn't walk in her heels. She ended up falling over and scraping her knee. I helped her up and got my extra pair of shoes I keep in the car and some socks for her, put them on for her and bandaged her knee up from my first aid kit. Dinner was great. We bounced off of each other. When it was over and we split the bill (she was insistent on it, I was gonna pay for it since I asked for the date), I walked her to her car and she kissed me on the cheek. I asked for the second date right then and there. We've been together for a year and a half. Her family loves me, especially 'cause her mother loves my cooking. My family gushes over her. I really think we'll go somewhere and if we do, I couldn't ask for a better partner.
#80
The fact that I left 8am the next day, didn't sleep a wink. We clicked on so many levels.That was 6 years ago and we are happily married 😊
#81
I mentioned an activity I’d thought about for our first date but ultimately decided against. She said we should do it on our second date. I went into full relax mode after that was able to relax. I love that girl.
#83
Sense of humor and feeling safe. I was living in reno, nevada at the time and this is my current relationship. Our first date we went to downtown reno to Hot August Nights. We walked through the event, viewing all the hot rod cars, and for dinner we went to subway. He is easy to talk to, and very funny. We took the bus from downtown to midtown viewing all the hot rods. Walked from midtown to my apartment in south reno. Was the best night of my life so far. I love him so much
#84
The other person not judging me
Amberlie Mikelsen 2 years ago
This right here! I met my current SO on a Greyhound bus when I was escaping a way bad marriage. I was doubled over with hunger pain cuz I had no food, no money for food, and had had minimal appetite the 24 leading up to getting on the bus. He spent what little money he had to buy me 2 packages of peanuts and gave them to me without a word about compensation. I grabbed my bag out of the overhead and went and asked if I could sit with him (not something I would have done at all prior to that point due to emotional and physical abuse making me an extreme introvert). He said ok, and we exchanged numbers when our routes diverged in Little Rock. We talked on the phone every single evening for almost 3 weeks until he picked me up from my parents house. We've been together for 13 years as of this past Independence Day and I can honestly state that we've been through some serious hell, but he's stood by me despite the death threats from my ex.
Sanchi 2 years ago
Might wanna report your ex to the cops, death threats are serious
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He snuck me out of work and took me to the Italian place right next door which happened to be one of my favorite restaurants. He had a plate of chicken carbonara ready to go on a table for me as I only had a fifteen minute break. He then ordered me a glass of wine and brought me my leftovers with a side of fresh, hot fries. (I had to eat and then dart back to work so that's why he brought me my leftovers. And he knows I'd shank someone for that restaurant's fries.)
#86
Whatever the opposite is of treating the date like an infomercial for himself. I guess a mixture of good, engaged listening and down-to-earth discussion that is personal while still showing good judgment and boundaries. In other words, good conversation with someone who is confident, open, tactful, and gives a s**t about you as an actual person.
#87
I'm probably echoing the other comments here but finding someone you can talk to so easily, despite having different interests is such a huge factor. I'm an introvert, but my boyfriend and I can talk about random stuff for hours on end. He's into cars, I'm an art kid, we play vastly different games most of the time.. and we can still find everything and anything to talk about. My favorite thing is having him talk about cars cuz... I don't know anything but it's nice to see him go on and on and on
#89
When it immediately felt that we knew each other for ages and we could already play well off of each other. I like that in a date! The whole dating thing ended after a mere 2 months because she turned out to be crazy but that's for another time.
parmadillo 2 years ago (edited)
I like this one. Sometimes there are green flags and then red flags. You heed them as they appear.
What do you think ?
a fruity dream of delusion 2 years ago
stories like really bring out the loneliness bro 😭😭 single pandas unite 😿😿- jokes aside, this was super heartwarming and i shall now go to sleep peacefully 😌
Oliver 2 years ago
My parents are married 14 years. Almost every night they sit down together and just play games, not on their phones just play games. And I’ll let them do their own thing cause they’ll tell me to play with them but I want it to be a ‘them’ thing I want it to be a special tradition just between them p. They still don’t know this and continue to play the game. I love seeing this.
Cassandra Reese 2 years ago
You're a good kid. Warms my heart to see such kindness from a child to their parents.
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lauralett50 2 years ago
Bored Panda,We Pandas need More of this kind of threads. Tired of the aita thread. Give us better contents!! We Pandas want things like this!!
OnAFreakingRollercoaster 2 years ago
I'm a sucker for good romance stories, loved all of these. Wishing you all a wonderful 2023 🎆
Briana Landers 2 years ago
When i walked up to him after he went through boot camp, after completing the crucible, his face went from serious to soft and he picked my 200lb a*s up and hugged me tight despite not being allowed to. Exclaiming that he'd missed me so much and that he loved me after i spent the 6 months wondering if he'd even still like the way i looked or if he still loved me. Riddled with anxiety hoping he wouldn't be miserable, even if he didn't like me i just wanted him to be happy and not crude forever,.. biggest green flag i ever seen! and i spent his whole 10 days attached to him at the hip and meeting his family. After being a distant and scared person.. he broke my barriers. He's the one person who came back. He's the one person who.. consistently loved me and cared despite his ability to just leave me behind. He cares so much about me. And i hope that we see so many more years together ✨💖✨
Tinderella 2 years ago
I love a good first date! And a fun relationship. Makes you feel alive.
Lama 2 years ago
I met my (now ex-) husband on a vacation on the other side of the world. I was there with my mom, and she got a bit sick. He dropped everything and left work to drive my mom to the doctor, even though it wasn't urgent. This was before we ever went on a date. I ended up postponing my flight to go on a family weekend with his whole family, who instantly accepted me as one of theirs. It didn't work out in the end, but he was a great guy :)
Roald 2 years ago
There is a wonderful person out there for you! Don't dispair if you are single. I'll teach you a trick: imagine that your antenna sends out "Hey, I'm fun to be with - you should meet me!" instead of "I hate being single and nobody wants me". Seems crazy - it works. just try it!
a fruity dream of delusion 2 years ago
stories like really bring out the loneliness bro 😭😭 single pandas unite 😿😿- jokes aside, this was super heartwarming and i shall now go to sleep peacefully 😌
Oliver 2 years ago
My parents are married 14 years. Almost every night they sit down together and just play games, not on their phones just play games. And I’ll let them do their own thing cause they’ll tell me to play with them but I want it to be a ‘them’ thing I want it to be a special tradition just between them p. They still don’t know this and continue to play the game. I love seeing this.
Cassandra Reese 2 years ago
You're a good kid. Warms my heart to see such kindness from a child to their parents.
Load More Replies... lauralett50 2 years ago
Bored Panda,We Pandas need More of this kind of threads. Tired of the aita thread. Give us better contents!! We Pandas want things like this!!
OnAFreakingRollercoaster 2 years ago
I'm a sucker for good romance stories, loved all of these. Wishing you all a wonderful 2023 🎆
Briana Landers 2 years ago
When i walked up to him after he went through boot camp, after completing the crucible, his face went from serious to soft and he picked my 200lb a*s up and hugged me tight despite not being allowed to. Exclaiming that he'd missed me so much and that he loved me after i spent the 6 months wondering if he'd even still like the way i looked or if he still loved me. Riddled with anxiety hoping he wouldn't be miserable, even if he didn't like me i just wanted him to be happy and not crude forever,.. biggest green flag i ever seen! and i spent his whole 10 days attached to him at the hip and meeting his family. After being a distant and scared person.. he broke my barriers. He's the one person who came back. He's the one person who.. consistently loved me and cared despite his ability to just leave me behind. He cares so much about me. And i hope that we see so many more years together ✨💖✨
Tinderella 2 years ago
I love a good first date! And a fun relationship. Makes you feel alive.
Lama 2 years ago
I met my (now ex-) husband on a vacation on the other side of the world. I was there with my mom, and she got a bit sick. He dropped everything and left work to drive my mom to the doctor, even though it wasn't urgent. This was before we ever went on a date. I ended up postponing my flight to go on a family weekend with his whole family, who instantly accepted me as one of theirs. It didn't work out in the end, but he was a great guy :)
Roald 2 years ago
There is a wonderful person out there for you! Don't dispair if you are single. I'll teach you a trick: imagine that your antenna sends out "Hey, I'm fun to be with - you should meet me!" instead of "I hate being single and nobody wants me". Seems crazy - it works. just try it!
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