Folks In This Online Group Share 30 Things They Are Repelled By During The Christmas Season
Christmas became the biggest holiday of the year a long time ago and it seems like everyone looks forward to it with great anticipation. Often you see Christmas decorations being sold in stores even before Halloween, people are buying Christmas gifts months in advance and are planning where they are going to celebrate it with the people they care about.
But it’s not all just excitement and anticipation. There is also anxiety, exhaustion and loneliness. People without families or who aren’t close to their relatives feel lonelier than ever because Christmas is considered a family holiday. Also, there is the whole hassle of finding gifts and it’s scary how commercialized it is, leading people to buy things nobody needs and becoming even more wasteful.
There are more things that the bright Christmas lights don’t allow us to see that are not than fun about this holiday season and redditors are sharing what are the things they dislike about it in an r/AskReddit thread where perfectnegligence asked “what do you hate about Christmas?”
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The fact that it now begins in October.
Try working in retail, Christmas starts as soon as the Back to School stuff comes off the shelves in early September
I got confused and then realised it must be in the northern hemisphere :)
Load More Replies...But it doesn't begin in October. People putting up their lights, decorating early (I do to avoid the rush), or stores putting out Christmas merch doesn't signal the start of Christmas. I shop for presents year round December 26th I'm looking around for next year. I start rehearsing for Christmas concerts in September. That doesn't mean that Christmas 'begins' on those dates.
Completely agree. And there are no rules for when you would be allowed to put up a tree and decorations (inside and outside). Let people do what they want, no matter if they put their decorations up early, or late(r).
Load More Replies...Say goodbye to any Christmas music then. To rehearse concerts or caroling or make an album takes longer than two months.
Load More Replies...I start decorating after Halloween, Yep i am one of those people. I pay my own damn bills and its my house and i will do as I please. PERIOD!
Good for you!! Love it! To each their own. Some hate it, some love it, just a difference in opinion. But they can't tell someone else they can't put up their lights "this early"! In my country the outside decorations are hardly existing, but if we did it like the US is known for: just the lights around the house, I wouldn't even bother to take them off. Just let them hang all year round and start the holidays when you WANT to. There are no (official) rules!
Load More Replies...To see Christmas stuff on the shelves with Halloween stuff is ridiculous!… Christmas before stuff before November 11th…is disrespectful…in my opinion
I hate that it is compulsory. Some years, i don't do Christmas at all. Other years i only share it with a few. This time it is looking like one of those bad ones. So Christmas can go ff*k itself . We have other ways of being.
Elf on the Shelf. I have an irrational hatred for that creepy little bastard.
Me too!! There's a special place in hell for that elf and for the idiot that came up with it!
And the ditzy elders who thinks it "cute". I say kill it with fire!
Load More Replies...My sister in law trashes her own house and the kids think "the elf did it". She's basically teaching her kids to behave badly, while making herself cleaning to do...WTF is actually wrong with people?!
Just tell the kids the elf died of covid so you never have to do it again.
I've only heard of this, this year, here in africa, so... thank god we have only heard of it now? Please take it away again.
Yeah it's only been in Australia for 3 years, but that is 3 years too many!
Load More Replies...I wasn't going to do it this year, but then my 7yr old was really upset so he arrived a bit late. It's a bit annoying but it's actually made mornings a bit easier as they wake up excited and happy to see what he's been up to - and happy kids means they get dressed quicker without fighting. I don't make the elf do anything big and dramatic, I think that is getting a bit over the top, but we move him to different places like a long game of hide and seek
How commercialized it is. It has essentially become a big marketing event for companies that guilt you into buying things you normally wouldn't .
That's the biggest reason I decided to stop celebrating Christmas - the horrific commercialism! (The other biggie is the need to avoid my awful relatives.)
Same! I never enjoy Christmas with my relatives, it’s so stressful and I was almost in tears dreading it so I decided not to go. Bought a present for my mum and sister and that’s it, going to relax and drink rum&eggnog with my cats and watch movies and paint and cook myself a great dinner, I’m excited :)
Load More Replies...I never feel guilted into buying things, but since I'm not religious, for me it's all about the commercialism, and I'm fine with that.
Haha, best response. I feel no shame in it either, I just make sure I dont try and spend what I dont have.
Load More Replies...Can someone tell me when it *wasn't* like this? I mean in recent history, not 2000 years ago.
Does anyone remember a time when Christmas was NOT a materialistic orgy of greed?
I can't upvote this enough. I hate the commercials that imply that you only love/care about someone as much as you spend on them for Christmas. It's horrible.
Yup. I'm a Christian and I just about hate the holiday season. I wish Festivus was a real thing so everybody could celebrate that and leave Jesus out of the captialist orgy.
I know Festivus should be a legit holiday, what about some of my friends who aren’t Christians?
Load More Replies...All you have to do is not give in. Make it what YOU want it to be. If that's not celebrating any part of it that's fine. Myself I love Christmas decorations.
It’s sad that commercialism overrides the true reason for the season.
That stupid Mariah Carey song
She strikes me as the most self-entitled, self-indulgent bimbo that has ever walked the earth. If I see her face, I want to punch it on sight!
Load More Replies...As an 80s teen who adored Wham and George Michael, this will ALWAYS be played at Christmas!
Load More Replies...A pub opposite of where I live has been blasting Christmas songs for weeks. Especially THIS one. I can hear it while in class, with earbuds, through heavy-duty plastic windows.
I created a 'Christmas music I don't hate' playlist on Spotify last year. It has songs like How to make gravy by Paul Kelly (yes I'm Aussie), Christmas in July by Alex the Astronaut and Baby Jesus is nobody's baby anymore by Julia Jacklin.
Load More Replies...I would rather guide my dad into my mom than have to ever hear this song again
That's the funniest thing I've ever read! I'm in tears of laughter!!!!!!
Load More Replies...Have you heard the anti-Mariah Xmas song yet? It's a hoot. The Jimmy Fallon one's pretty good, too.
The expectation to still give gifts to friends or family who are very aware that you are struggling financially (ie behind on utilities and getting food from pantries). ESPECIALLY hate the mandatory employee contribution to gifts for the boss
I have never expected gifts from people. One of the loveliest gifts I ever received from somebody who actually had no money at all, was a beautiful, perfectly ripe mango freshly picked from the tree (we lived in Africa), wrapped in a page of yesterday's newspaper. It is always, always the thought that counts.
Mandatory for boss? That should be illegal. I'm a manager and I would be appalled if anyone were guilted into doing that! So gross and unprofessional. Usually being a manager works better if you are a functioning adult.
If someone I know is struggling actually gifts me things, of course I'm grateful but at the same time - angry. Not at the person that gifted them, nor at myself (though of course, I did not expect a gift, and I tell them as such that they "shouldn't have got me anything") but at society for the idea that gifts are a must have, it easily becomes too much for many people - I know people go into debt just for christmas!
Is the Employees buying the boss a gift an American thing, or do other people do it too? I've never heard about it before a Bored Panda post a couple of weeks ago
I’m from the US and it’s only happened at one of my jobs. Coworkers would pitch in upwards of $100 for our millionaire bosses gifts. It never made sense to me, and I always thought the bosses should have told everyone to stop getting them something. It’s not happened anywhere I’ve worked since thankfully. Why would they pay me so I can just turn around and give them their money back?
Load More Replies...One year, I was laid off and my unemployment was about to run out, and I was desperately hoping my well-to-do parents would send me enough money to keep going for a while longer. They sent me a Christmas ornament, and I don't even decorate for Christmas, and now they wonder why I don't want to spend holidays with them (no, that's not the only reason).
I would make cards and gifts, like draw or paint a picture. You can get stuff at the Dollar Store.
Really really really hate that envelope that a person brings around and they cross your name off after you've contributed. And why would anyone be expected to give money to buy a gift for someone who probably makes twice what you make!
You're not expected to. The etiquette for workplace is to gift DOWN. Your boss gets a gift from their boss. They gift to the people who report to them. You gift to anyone who reports to you. If you do gift up, it should only be a token, and only for a supervisor you work very closely with.
Load More Replies...My family noticed this a long time ago. We stated - ONLY handmade gifts. Then when we noticed our family getting larger. ONLY buy for your immediate family - if you can't - no worries. The important thing is family time spent together.
I started a new job this fall at a restaurant. They told me we have a 25 budget for the secret Santa. I figure you can either have a junky cheap bought gift or something thrifted, upcycled and handmade. My library has a cricut with some materials to learn with. I made an awesome pun iron on. Found a t-shirt for 2 bucks at Sally Ann. And voila :) I am full expecting them to ask me to make one for everyone
Handmade is always good. I just painted some peg dolls for a friend's daughter, with one that looks like her, her mum and her dad. They loved them and I felt so happy it was like it was a gift for me too.
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The waste. Buying and receiving presents no one will use. All the wrapping paper and boxes going into landfills.
We only buy gifts for the three of us in our family. We use the same bags every single year. We make sure to get stuff that will get used. It works for us.
In my family, when we exchanged gifts, we reused bags and bows. One big, distinctive bow became a legend. It must have lasted more than 20 years.
Load More Replies...I made some bags from cloth I had left from making medieval robes. Use those instead of paper packings because they're reusable.
People don´t save the paper to re-use? We have been doing that for decades.
We used to, but the paper nowadays is so thin and shitty it tears even on the first round of packing.
Load More Replies...We only buy useful things, not things you'll just end up forgetting about
You could always give the boxes and paper to a cat! My kitty loves playing in a mountain of wrapping paper scraps and sitting in boxes.
Even when I say "I don't want anything, and I don't need anything"... I still get things
Yep. This can be frustrating, particularly when you know the people buying you stuff can't afford it.
Load More Replies...Spending money you can't afford to buy presents that won't be appreciated for people you won't see again until next Christmas.
We have a universal rule - what's ON the box is NOT what's IN the box. There's a handheld pressure washer box that has been routinely passed along the family (containing a new gift each time) for somewhere approaching a decade. Sometimes we have to add a bit of glue to keep it holding together!
that 99.9% of Christians don’t know the real origins of all the traditions.
Yep, Jesus was born in September, not December, Christmas is a holiday stolen from the pagans. :')
Trust me, I'm a Christian, and most of us know it. But, it's tradition.
Load More Replies...Hahaha, maybe I was raised as a Christian (now I'm agnostic) however I always knew what I'm celebrating! I wouldn't say 99 people don't know...
The statement is that you don't know the *origins* of what you are celebrating... so, what do you think the origins are of Christmas celebrations?
Load More Replies...It is why I try mostly to focus on the holiday/feast of light. The longest night is passing, the days are lengthening. Trees would be decorated with dried fruits, to ask the gods for a fertile year (or however it's said). I try not to include Santa. We already have Sinterklaas, and that is enough.
Christian here, always understood the meaning of Christmas, taught to me. People who don't know either choose not to, or fail to learn. Just like every other segment of society
you mean the one about jesus? lol. https://www.cbsnews.com/news/the-unexpected-pagan-origins-of-popular-christmas-traditions/
Load More Replies...Is there some reason Christians have to know the origins of all the traditions as long as we know the reason for the holiday?
Most "Christians" have never read the bible from beginning to end.
My mum was telling me she and my grandma were in a shop a few years ago buying Christmas cards. They had noticed the shop was selling some with traditional nativity scenes and then they overheard a kid, about 6/7 yrs old, say “Look Grandma. Now they’re bringing religion into Christmas.” My mum and Grandma looked at each other like 👀
That some people don’t understand that being able to give and receive gifts is a privilege and shouldn’t be expected
Because they pay bribes to Santa, little Timmy!
Load More Replies...I really feel like this is more on the giver than the receiver, stop giving ungrateful people gifts. Or I personally had to just stop giving gifts to everyone. My inlaws live 15 minutes away and my wife and them do not make any effort to see each other throughout the year yet I buy them gifts every year. Which is 100% my fault, this year I was able to take about 10 people off my list cause they either didnt spark joy for me for the year or I havent seen nor spoke to them all year and shouldnt feel the need in myself to buy them gifts.
I love LOVE shopping for people in general. I love giving gifts. I keep lists for people throughout the year of things I hear them talk about so I can surprise them with things they don't expect. But I never ever expect or even receive gifts. My husband and I focus on his daughters and I love shopping for them even more. But as they get older I have realized how entitled they have become during the holidays. I grew up poor. We were lucky to get a few gifts as kids. Which is why I love buying them things. But these last two years the lists have gotten longer and when they don't get everything they want they get upset. My husband DOES NOT tolerate this s**t. He grew up poor too. But their mom is more entitled than most of the Karen's we talk about on here and she fuels this behavior. I'm not their true mother. It's not my place to reprimand them. But this has really gotten under my skin lately and idk how to deal with it. At all. It's making me see the horribly side of the holidays.
Imogene, I completely understand what you're saying. I think you should give each daughter ONE nice gift and leave it at that. Their Karen mother obviously looks and her ex husband and you as cash cows who give the kids everything they want, so she doesn't have to. Sure, you might have a bit of a crap Christmas the year you start doing this, but they'll soon learn to appreciate what you do for them.
Load More Replies...I'm sort of on the opposite side of this - everyone in my family is comfortable financially - nothing crazy, but we all have everything we need. I don't see the point of gifts. There are no kids in my family, I don't want anything - and nobody in my family needs anything, so it's all just buying stuff because that's what you're supposed to do. I don't enjoy any part of it, but here we are again - about to load the car with a trunk full of gifts.
My parents and all my relatives have passed away, so no Xmas shopping, parties, and dinners. No cards. No calls. No gifts. Just getting through the whole month of December, as they ram happy family entertainment into your senses 24/7.
There must be many people in the same boat. If you don't know anyone, you could host a post-Xmas party, where everybody brings leftovers, and you can do one of those gift exchanges where everyone brings a gift they didn't want, and you do a mystery gift swap. That would cost you one dish, one gift and you could have a lovely time.
I don’t have family in my life by choice. They have been banned for three decades, I spend the couple of days before the holidays helping deliver organic turkeys to the soup kitchen. I would volunteer more but I can’t walk or stand right now so that out. I’m telling you, volunteering is the best reward you can gift yourself
I hate this too - I've lost 2 grandparents in the past year and a half, celebrating Christmas without them feels strange. And then there are of course those with no family, or a bad relationship with their family, yet we're all expected to love every member of our family and celebrate with them regardless of literally everything bad that could possibly have happened with said family member etc... I feel sorry for those people.
My siblings, and their families, are still alive. I am the eldest and always hosted gatherings for holidays and birthdays. Now I am in my eight is and live alone. My children have their own family celebrations and don't live that close by. I will not expect any invitations or visits from them on Christmas Day. My daughter will call but there is never any acknowledging of birthdays, Christmas, or Mother's Day from my son. This is how it is and I am used to it by now. I have my two little black pups to keep me company!
I'm so sorry...that's such a cruel thing to do to one's mother. Or anyone else, for that matter.
Load More Replies...Even though I no longer decorate for the holidays, I still watch "The Box of Delights" every Christmas - a tradition my late hubby and I always enjoyed.
Grandparents loading my kids with toys. It sounds really nice, but when you have multiple grandparents just going crazy, they end up with a lot of cheap Chinese c**p. Like seriously, don’t get 7 or 8 $5-$10 toys, get one nicer toy. Or throw some books in there. If it has pictures, they’ll like it, I promise. Or clothes. Ask me their sizes, and get a shirt or something. But PLEASE no more cheap toys that aren’t age appropriate or aren’t their interests or that break as soon as they use it. It’s so wasteful and it turns Christmas into an endurance run just to satisfy your own ego because you never actually visit.
I would start in November with, "I've started planning my shopping for the kids' presents this year. I know how hard it can be to choose gifts, so if you would like me to send over a couple of choices, please let me know."
I get upset (but keep it to myself) when relatives who have much more money than we have give an outrageously expensive gift to my child. Nothing we (or Santa) gives can ever be as exciting as the ones this 'awesome' aunt, uncle, grandparent... has brought! This always makes me feel resentful and depressed.
YES. They buy my kids so much stuff, it robs me of the opportunity to buy something nice for my kid.
Load More Replies...My daughter's grandmothers were always the best at this. No garbage. 1 grandma used to hand knit her something every year, hats/mittens/scarves, the other grandmother isn't crafty but always gets her something perfect!
Oh, how I miss my Nanna's hand knitted gifts...I would give anything to have Nan back again.
Load More Replies...Many times. Every year. "Oh but it was less than $3! Oh but I saw it in the checkout line and it was so cute. Oh but she mentioned it six months ago so I bought it and kept it all this time. Oh but I spent $180 on the other kid so I had to find something to equal out the $100 gift for that kid." And we can't quietly donate them or store them somewhere because they notice and ask about it.
Load More Replies...I'm in close communication with my stepdaughter, so I know what the kids want. We buy one gift. She's the one that goes overboard. She signs up for all kinds of programs where people in the community buy toys for needy family. Last year it was ridiculous. I thought it would never end.
They get books, art supplies, or science-based gifts (those usually come with an advance apology to the parents for the impending mess). Love that the eldest grandchild went bananas over a junior microscope last year!
I'm lucky, my kids haven't received much crap from grandparents, been one or two things that were good intentioned band thoughtful but the actual product was really crap - like a barbie vanity table, it wasn't cheap to buy but it was crap lightweight plastic that just slotted together so kept coming apart and always got knocked over - was such a shame as my daughter lived the idea of it, but it was just crap. Usually they get some clothes, pjs and a decent toy or two from my mum and similar from the mother in law
christmas at my mom's house is pretty simple. there's presents that we'll actually like and use and then there's a christmas movie or two, and lunch. my dad always goes overboard though with presents. he got us a tent one year even though none of us have ever been camping and literally would never use it. i know he means well but it gets a bit annoying after a while to have overly expensive gifts we don't use crowding the house.
The music. Having worked retail for 5.5 years I despise all Christmas music.
I've worked retail, so I get it. But I still love Christmas music. Except "Last Christmas". That song just sucks.
Yes! “Last Christmas” is overplayed. That and “All I want for Christmas is You.”
Load More Replies...'I Don't Want A Lot For Christmas' - the universal anthem responsible for the misery of retail (and hospitality) staff for well over a month every year.
Even worse, there are covers of it. I used to work in a ShopRite on the weekends.
Load More Replies...Take extra care to be polite and a good customer to retail workers during the holiday times - not just because it's common courtesy, but they are likely in a tortured state of mind from having to listen to xmas music all day. Actually, just be polite and nice to retail workers in general.
I have a small handful of exceptions: "The Season's Upon Us" by Dropkick Murphys makes me laugh every time I hear it (also, "Fairytale of New York" by The Pogues, which starts off lovely and then gets incredibly cynical LOL)
If I never again hear "Rockin' Around the Christmas Tree"... Or anyone's modern version of a traditional carol.
My headphones are firmly in my ears from October until December 31st
I still like the quirky things like Tom Lehrer's Christmas carol. The hippopotamus song. I have a disc of classic songs play on a harp. It helps that I don't listen to radio, or go out shopping in stores. I do a lot of my shopping online, or before December.
I worked in retail for 5 years and every October when they started playing the Xmas songs on the radio my stress levels raised considerably especially as whatever music selecting software they used would only distinguish between artists but not the songs so I could hear the same song 3 times in an hour but sung by different artists. That damn Mariah Carey song needs to die.
How the lesson of tolerance in "Rudolph, the Red-Nosed Reindeer" is flawed: he is treated with respect only after showing his practical value. This has bothered me for as long as I can remember. Largely because of how very popular the song is.
I never looked at it either of those ways. Santa saw Rudolf being bullied and gave him the "line leader" job and made his "flaw" into a bonus in front of all the bully reindeers.
If they had left out the foggy and bright nose part that would have had a stronger impact. Without the fog and the nose glow he'd still be grounded.
Load More Replies...And the island of misfit toys. Just banish those who aren't perfect. My parents wouldn't let me watch it because I'd cry every time.
If Santa can see who is naughty and nice, did he ignore the naughty reindeer bullying Rudolph until he had a use for him?
People who even think of this s**t have way too much time on their hands.
That I have to see my family
Yeah last year was great for me because no visitors. We all just stayed in our PJs, eating and watching tv.
Load More Replies...Wish I was close enough (at least in same state) so I could see family.
The problem I have is that people in my family are so goddamned self-centered that they can't put aside their differences for ONE DAY to have a little peace and normality. The parents are divorced, so they can't be around each other, so one will come, one will not. The step-mother is a functional pill addict who promises to come but never shows up. The father-in-law is a functional everything addict who wants to take over the TV and show everyone guitar lesson videos for an instrument HE CANT PLAY that no one gives a f**k about seeing. The oldest daughter hates my wife, and me for marrying her. The youngest daughter hates me for the strict raising and my wife (her mother) for not leaving me and letting her go hog-wild growing up. My sister hates my dad, so she ain't showing up either. And my wife f*****g loses her s**t this time every year because of all... this! And i'm the only one who is willing to admit how f****d up it all is and how f****d up I am! Merry F****n' Christmas Yall!
Maybe we could be related? Lol sounds a lot like my dysfunctional lot
Load More Replies...This is my favorite part, its usually just my wife, the kids and the grandkids but still love it.
Me as well Fabulous. It is quite sad to me to read all the comments about people hating their families. I love mine. We have a blast when together, joke, laugh and enjoy being around each other. It sucks to know that so many come from folks they would rather not interact with. But it does make me very grateful for mine.
Load More Replies...I love my family. We don't just get together on holidays we do it several times a year (every single week with my Sisser) I was in my teens when I realized NOT every family is like ours, so very grateful for growing up in the family I did. Thanks Dad :-). His main goal was to create a wonderful family cause he didn't have that growing up. 100 % successful
I agree. I love spending time with my family. It's not perfect, but we love each other a lot!
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The blatant disregard for all the other holidays that happen this season. I’m pagan, I say happy holidays and the amount of people who get pissed is astounding.
It gets worse when my reply to their tantrum is “I don’t celebrate Christmas”
In Scandinavia we say God Jul. We mean Merry Christmas, but Jul is technically the old pagan name for the winter solstice celebration (it's pronounced yule- and is where yule log comes from, I believe).
yep, in Finnish it's "hyvää joulua" and it is obvious that it derives from Jul/Yule. :) I know this from writing out cards to my Fiance (she's Finnish) family xP (and iirc, in Estonian it's "häid jõule" so very similar)
Load More Replies...I've said "happy holidays" to any number of people, and not a single one even side-eyed me. All appeared to be pleased that I bothered wishing the sentiment.
"Happy holidays" and "season's greetings" have been around since before I was born, and nobody had a problem until Shill O'Lielly and the Faux "News" gang of idiots started their phony "war on Christmas" bullshit.
Christians just love to feel persecuted, even if said "persecution" is rather pathetic.
Load More Replies...There are records in Roman history, that confirm the existence of a man named Jesus who became a wandering minister to his peiple. He preached kindness toward others. It is also recorded that this man was crucified. He became too popular. Some chose to see him as Devine and believed he could perform miracles. For whatever reason, he was seen as a good man. His radical followers perpetuated this reputation and built on it Jesus did his best to spread kindness and love for one another. I celebrate that effort on his part to make people kinder. I do not believe he is Devine or that his mother experienced an immaculate conception. That does not change my willingness to honor this man who tried, failed, and lives on as a role model.
Thank you for your openness and willingness to listen to other people's traditions and spread the positive messages you learn from them. I wish more people would do this.
Load More Replies...I've been thinking of that more and more. Christmas gets a stat holiday but not Hanukah or Kwanza, and most of the city decor leans towards Christmas.
Most of the towns around me will have Happy Holidays or Season's Greetings for the last 15ish years, with generic decorations.
Load More Replies...I can't count how many times I've been told, "you don't have to be Christian to celebrate Christmas." Oh, that's cool. When is the last time you celebrated Rosh Hashana, Karen?
I'm sorry there is not an understanding from your community that there are many different religions and holidays. I love learning and celebrating other people's holidays as well as my own. This year I was lucky enough to celebrate Passover with my Jewish friends and I often learn and explore things about Diwali and whatever other celebrations the families at my Preschool have.
Load More Replies...Seriously. I'm pagan and I'm exhausted by all the Christmas crap. I never get my holiday off because it's right before Christmas and it's too hard to take that much time off.
I don't get this. Where I live there are so many people from different religions, plus I work in early childhood education so we learn about lots of holidays. I have never heard anyone get offended because you gave/expected the 'wrong' reply. It's all about apreciating the people around you.
When someone says "Merry Christmas" to me, I respond with "Season's Greetings". It sometimes causes people's head to snap back.
When people are faking they love each other on Christmas, but the rest of the year they hate each other.
This is why I still hate Christmas as an adult. My father would be his usual abusive self all year long and then BAM we sit down for Christmas dinner (24th in my country) and open presents (after dinner on 24th) while he is kind and friendly and making small talk with everybody and we all have to be happy and engage in this once-a-year actual conversation when he’s not just screaming at everyone. I cringed my way through all childhood Christmases and the feeling will never go away.
I think my family are experts at this...probably why I stay home with my hubby (who's family is either deceased or out of state) and my chis...I'll go to big events like funerals or weddings if I can't attend these I'll send gifts but no I'm not going to go argue with my drunk ass cousins just because it's Christmas or Easter or whatever...
Uncle got a new camera. An hour later he asks me to take a photo of the family gathered around the festive tree. Everyone except, of course, me. No one took a single pic of me either solo or posing with some of my relatives that night. That was the last Xmas I spent there.
That it seems to get bigger every year. When I was a child Elf on the Shelf wasn’t a thing. Advent calendars? Like why? Special Christmas Eve gifts? It’s not enough to just buy presents anymore, it’s never ending.
Advent calendars used to be more religion-based, focusing on Baby Jesus. Now it's secular and all about the trinkets or candy inside
We saw one at the pet store the other day with dog treats inside. I'm sure the dog would be happy. Probably confused after Christmas though...
Load More Replies...Advent calendars have been around for a long time. I think nowadays it's mostly to get a kid excited for x-mas and help tide them over. It's fun to get a new mini surprise every day! I used to get Lego ones, but after 3-4 years, they all pretty much gave the same stuff, so I didn't see the point anymore.
42 and same. Have had one every year since I was 2.
Load More Replies...We had advent calendars over 40 years ago when I was a kid - the kind where you punched out a day and got a piece of chocolate. That's definitely not new.
I was a little kid just thirty years ago and don't remember any advent calendars being like that, just the decorative "advent calendar" (that may be embroidered or painted) that counted down the four weeks before Christmas.
Load More Replies...Only if you let it. Many people do it their own way now, as it started to get out of hand years ago. Just make an agreement with your family/friends.
Having to go to 4 other houses to make sure family does not get upset that we didn't come see them on Christmas.
Not to offend anyone, but one of many reasons I enjoy NOT being married or in a relationship. I celebrate Christmas Eve with my family and then it's just me and my dog on Christmas day and I LOVE IT.
Same here. I love my husband's family and he loves mine. When we can we alternate spending time with both families (his or mine), but when we can't it's us and our cat and it is wonderful!
Load More Replies...I remember the one time I was dating someone and I went to his family's Christmas. Someone asked where his sister was...she wasn't there...she was at her boyfriends. The relatives cursed him and says when they get married that s**t has to stop. I didnt get it and my boyfriend started to explain to me where we were going to spend all our holidays for the whole of the next year. I got away from that family and out of that relationship so f****n fast.
If it were that important to them, they'd all take turns hosting Yule and skip a year when everyone stays home. I call selfishness.
We do things a bit differently in our family. Since my brother and his family also have to visit her parents, we have our Thanksgiving on Friday, and our Christmas on Christmas Eve. I suggested it to make the holidays easier for them, since they have two children. (My daughter's an adult, and neither of us care whether we celebrate on the official day.)
We do this, too. One of the best gifts you can give someone is release from the stress of trying to please everyone. Also, if you have little kids, announce to everyone that you're not going anywhere on Christmas day so that they don't have to be dragged away from their gift. It's a time to relax and enjoy!
Load More Replies...We all meet up at one house when possible. Some people in the past have made this difficult.
We are doing a combined family thing at our place this year! My husbands family and mine all coming to ours for a joint celebration, works perfectly for me because I plan to drink lots of bubbly woohoo!!
I used to really resent going to my ex husband's family on Christmas Day. I would much rather be with my own family!
It can be difficult enough with just two places to go! This year I felt really lucky to be able to have a lunch with my close family the week before Christmas and spend Christmas Day with just my dad and sister. Dad usually got a raw deal with Christmas as we would have lunch or brunch at Mum's, because my grandparents would be there, and mum was always late getting the meal started and we had to fit time with dad in at the end of the day when we were usually too full to eat much.
My ex mother-in-law used to purposefully make lunch as late as possible, so I would miss time with my own family (as well as arriving too full to eat what my family had prepared). I f*****g hated that passive aggressive bitch!
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When certain radio stations play nothing but Christmas music when you just want to listen to some Alt Rock on the way to work.
Given a choice between country and Christmas music, I'll take Christmas.
Load More Replies...Facts; I automatically find anyone suspect if they don't love "Christmas Wrapping" or disparage The Waitresses. RIP Patty Donahue.
Load More Replies...Get a disc player . Put a play list on your phone, and connect it to your car stereo.
wow guys... you know internet radio is a thing right? https://www.internet-radio.com/stations/alternative/
If you have a very old vehicle and no Bluetooth then this isn't really an option....
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Secret-f**king Santa
Every time I did it, the a**-hat that would pick my name would not get me anything, because they “forgot”. Now any time that person in the office would come around asking if I want to sign up, I tell them my feelings about the practice. Luckily this year we’re all wfh this year, so I don’t have to deal with getting asked this year.
I once got a used sharpie and an empty duct roll tube. I was 9. Never doing secret santa again.
I once went to my mum’s work Christmas party as a 9 year old, participated in white elephant secret Santa so obviously grabbed the biggest present I could see on the table……went home with a 48 pack of toilet paper 😂
Load More Replies...We did it in work for the 1st time this yr it was brilliant , we set a small limit £5 and I got 3 pairs of knitting needles as the person who got me knows I like to crochet and wanted to learn to knit so it was a win win for me , hubby on the other hand hates it and he refused to take part this yr in his departments
I don't mind secret santa (we usually call it kris kringle) as long as it is not gag gifts, especially if you are not told that's the expectation so you get something normal for someone. Why would you waste your money on something you know someone is not going to want? We usually do kk with my uni friends which has had some great gifts One year I got a TARDIS teapot and a TARDIS colour changing mug. The last couple years we have bought generic gifts and done that swapping game where you roll a die and whatever number comes up says whether you pass it to the person on your left etc which was fun.
My worst secret Santa gift at a function...a bag of stale potato chips and a packet of Xmas serviettes which were so old, they were discoloured. Binned straight away.
I was only in a secret santa thing once. I picked the bartender, and was informed the only gift he wanted was cigars. So I got him a cigar, he gave me a foil mirror sign thing. I don't remember what it said (omg where has my mind gone?) but I didn't mind.
I can't remember the website but there is a website for this, you select 5 or 6 things you like and it automatically puts an amazon or other retailer link on there. Then it assigns you a number. when you go in the site you can see your corresponding number and the "wish list" then you choose which gift to purchase. You can even set dollar amounts etc. It's pretty cool. AND it doesn't remove it from the profile so no one can cheat.
Good for you. At work I flatly refuse to contribute to cards/gifts for birthdays or secret Santa and NEVER attend goodbyes for staff who are leaving. I have no interest in their lives so I remain in my classroom until it’s time to leave.
trying to be fake happy over a gift you don’t really like
I've always been genuinely happy that someone thought of me and gave me something. So I don't have to fake being happy.
Same. Never expect anything, so I'm happy with anything I get.
Load More Replies...You do not have to pretend. To me it doesn't matter from whom the present is. The fact that they thought of me just makes me happy, the pretense is not necessary. These days we take everything for granted. Kids are very spoiled, without the knowledge of how difficult it is for some families to buy these gifts. Growing up we were extremely happy to actually find anything under the tree! Anything…
If i value the feelings of the person who took the time to get me a gift then i will pretend to like it.
Isn't that just being polite? Someone made an effort to get you something - I don't think it's wrong to then show gratitude regardless of what the gift is
Yes, even if the gift isn't something you really like, it is the thought that counts!! That is what makes you happy. We don't do gifts in our family. Though we will start this year since my niece was born last January. But we don't do gifts between adults. And even if someone got me something (family or friends), I am genuinely happy they thought of getting me something. Home made is even better! There are cases where someone gets you something you don't like on purpose, that I do not like. But most of the time, they thought of you, and wanted to spend time or money to gift you something. I don't think I could be upset about a gift. As a kid, yes, but as an adult, not a chance..
Load More Replies...Someone gave me a Thomas Kinkade plate once. Pretty sure she was regifting it. I later regifted it to a co worker who I knew would love it. She did. I would have never bought something like that for anyone cuz I can't stand that guy.
It’s the end of the year and a cold, harsh reminder that another year has gone by and I haven’t done a f**king thing that was at all meaningful
As someone who spent the last two years working in an ICU during a f*****g pandemic, I ask you please, you are living a peaceful life, take a moment to appreciate what you have! That's what a good life is really all about, loving whomever or whatever you love, doing work that is valuable if it isn't appreciated by everyone, living a life that is hopefully high on peace and low on crisis and tragedy. Life doesn't have to be full of accomplishments to be valuable, existence is a miracle whether it's glamorous or humble, and believe me it can be too easily lost. Please, everyone, protect yourselves and everyone around you, and appreciate the miracle of life, your own beautiful life.
Massive standing ovation for you. Wish I could do more, internet stranger. We're staying home, we're masking with KN94s, we're vaxxed and boosted.
Load More Replies...The only meaningful thing I did this year was to get a new kitten. Since I'm always alone on Christmas, I will spend the day throwing bits of wrapping paper around for her and my older cat to chase.
That is meaningful enough. You gave another life some love and meaning.
Load More Replies...What kinds of things would you consider meaningful? To you, or someone else? If there are things out of your control that keep you from doing what is meaningful to you, it's not your fault. If you made one person smile, that justifies your existence. If you did one favor, made one person's life a little easier, or just kept keeping on, that's meaningful. Hugs.
One year with my uni friends we actually went round the table and said things like; the hardest thing that year; the best thing; hope for the future year etc. It didn't even have to be that meaningful, for example I think I said I wanted to learn to knit the next year. It was nice to acknowledge that there were some really difficult things during the year too, so if we didn't feel we didn't achieve anything 'meaningful' we understood why that might have been.
The guilt from receiving nice things
I get this. I feel much more comfortable giving gifts than I do receiving them.
My mum bought me two lil baby kittens for Christmas. She bought my twin a book and some nice coffee. The guilt is destroying me lmao
Load More Replies...It's a good deed to allow someone have the pleasure of giving. I realized this when I realized I'd been ungracious by not allowing someone give me a present because I'd feel beholden because she was well to do, and I was not.
I fail to see the problem. If a person gets a gift that they think is too nice and they do not need it, they can donate it to somebody who needs it. On the other hand, if they need the gift, but it is more expensive than what they would have bought for themselves - enjoy the gift, and donate the difference in price to your favorite cause. Voila! no guilt.
My Mom is the worst about that. I beg her every year NOT to get me some random expensive thing that I will never use, but she always does it anyway. Even when I give her a list of a few inexpensive things I'd like, she just has to do it. And I can't return or re-gift it because that will hurt her feelings. :( My Mom is awesome and I adore her, but I hate how she wastes money on s**t like that. I'd rather have it go to charity.
Opening gifts in front of family members. It’s extremely awkward.
My friend chose to give her then fiancé a photoalbum of boudoir (and fully naked) pictures, on the first Christmas she celebrated with the in-laws. He was not amused. (He also turned out be gay, but that's a whole nother story)
Why would you give that in front of others and not keep it for alone time??
Load More Replies...Hmmm...I'd be upset if I wasn't with my whole family while opening presents. Are you unwrapping a toupee, enema bags, inflatable bra, incontinence pads, a penis pump or Viagra? What's so awkward?
Having everyone look at you. Lots of people don't like attention, which is why it feels awkward
Load More Replies...I hate reading the mushy cards aloud and I hate giving mushy cards. Always choose the funny ones.
I don't normally get mushy cards, and I don't normally like them because they seem insincere. But my sweetie picks the best cards, and they are a little mushy but I know they say what he feels, because that's how he picks cards. Kind of the way it's supposed to be done. I try to never buy a card that says something I don't really feel if I'm getting serious one.
Load More Replies...Maybe a reason some families have white elephant gifts. All are gag gifts.
Oh, that's very awkward. Especially when it's something like underwear and everyone is like 'ooh, what is it? Let me see!"
The Xmas gift giving is ridiculous. Celebrate birthdays as that is a special day for that special person.
Christmas movies
My dad and bro mention this every year but I've still never seen it! Maybe this year?
Load More Replies...Specifically, Hallmark Christmas movies - "city girl with career goes home for the holidays and falls in love and realizes husband is more important than career" - that's about all of them, right?
seriously going to knock "A Christmas Story"? it was the only movie that made me think my family was normal.
I live about 20 minutes away from the house it was filmed at :)
Load More Replies...it definitely depends. Christmas Story, Charlie Brown Christmas and the original Grinch are our go-tos
There are a ton of Christmas movies. There has to be one you like. One of ours is Serendipity.
Carolers
One year they invaded the front yard and all ran the 100 meter hurdles to get out again when my Irish Wolfhound flew round the front. They are the size of a pony and usually harmless but look like the hound of the baskervilles in the dark at high speed
I always found the whole thing so awkward and cringey 😬 just having to stand there on your doorstep with a fake smile on your face while people sing at you! It wasn’t so bad when they were actually good, but one year, we had a bunch of teenagers all dressed in tracksuits, hadn’t bothered to properly learn the carols and were only there in the clear hopes of getting money out of it 😐
Putting the lights on and taking them off the Christmas tree.
I LOVE Christmas trees and I LOVE sparkly lights, so when I do my lights I do them right. Every singe branch is wrapped, from the trunk out, and the entire truck is wrapped too. I like the sparkle to come from within. No for needle is spared.
For example, I did my moms tree a couple years ago when she was sick and couldn’t do it herself. I put 6000 lights on a 12ft tree. She said everyone who saw it was like holy s**t, it’s so bright! My mom thinks I should do it professionally, but I hate putting the lights on and taking them off. It’s soooo time consuming, but the pay off is worth it.
We do the same thing. Not just stringing around the perimeter, but throughout the entirety of the tree so the whole thing sparkles. Totally worth it.
Except I always took the warning not to put more than 300 lights on the tree because it's a fire hazard.
Load More Replies...We have a skinny six foot fake tree. We never take the lights off. It's light enough to carry to the basement at the end of the season and just cover it until next year. Only decorate until it's not fun anymore. Remember, Christmas should not be drudgery.
This is why I buy pre-lit now I want an app controlled LED tree that has like a gazillion lights you can program to do whatever you want. Simple white light? Done. Old school color? Done. Favorite football logo? Done. Super cool.
This is why we have a prelit tree. Every year before that I would be taking the lights on and off again at least 3 times before I was satisfied.
6000 lights? Bloody hell! I thought I'd gone over the top this year with 900!
Peppermint Mocha and Mint Chocolate flavoured foods and beverages
Forced into an ugly Christmas sweater, tied to a chair and force fed. "What does Santa say?" "Hohoho" "I can't hear you!" *Slap* "Try again!"
Load More Replies...When you accidentally start eating a peppermint candy cane- the worst!
The horror. Send them to me and I will make sure they get a just punishment.
I do love mint chocolate so.. not too much of a problem for me xD (but then, I'm pretty sure I love any chocolate, tbh)
Peppermint Mocha is delicious...and no one is forcing you to drink it!
Not knowing what your getting
Funny, I am the opposite. I understand the appeal of things like Amazon wish lists, but it does feel a little impersonal. I like getting something that I didn't ask for, didn't even know I wanted, that is perfect, and surprising.
Me and my sister play the game where you try to figure out what it is, but inside we both know it’s more fun to be surprised.
Load More Replies...A gift is a gift. If I desperately want something I buy it myself. The whole spirit of gifting gets muddied when people have expectations, I feel.
That's the fun part. However in this family people are asked to give a list that we can pick from. Some people refuse to participate, but fortunately I pay attention to their interests. If I don't know you that well, you get cozy, or novelty socks.
As I get older I usually know what I'm getting (though I generally don't expect things at 26 but try telling my mother that xD) but I still love a surprise, but when you're a kid the surprise is part of the magic!
Tree shaped cookies
Why? What did tree-shaped cookies ever do to you? They're cookies that happen to be in the shape of trees.
As long as the cookie doesn't taste like tree it's just another cookie with a particular form.
Load More Replies...As long as they've got lots of frosting I don't care about the shape.
Eh, I don't have a problem with christmas shaped cookies, but I cuold take or leave these "sugar cookie" type things. I'd much rather have gingerbread at christmas.
I prefer gingerbread too, unfortunately gluten free gingerbread is disappointing. Most things GF you can't tell the difference but not gingerbread for some reason. I also dislike shortbread.
Load More Replies...Yeah, I dont care if its shaped like a big ol' shlooie, Im gonna eat me some cookies...
I like that his and the mint one were voted down. I don't like mint either, but no one is forcing you consume it. It's better than cinnamon scented pine cones reeking up the place.
Do like Bart and turn 'em upside down so they look like serrated daggers...
Everything stops and shuts for at least a day
Are you the one panic buying everything at the store because, oh no, it's shut for ONE DAMN DAY?!
Have you ever had to miss Christmas with your family because you had to work?
Even if you don't celebrate Christmas how can you manage to be angry about a day where you just need to stay home and relax.
Baby boomer here. NO ONE needs to go shopping every day. Years ago, everything was closed on Sundays and major holidays, even most pharmacies and gas stations. I miss everyone being off on the same day and gahering together with friends and family. Now the businesses control your social calendar.
Because, heaven forbid, someone else have a life and want to spend time doing what they want to do - snark!
How is that a bad thing? Use this time to do some self-reflection, you need it.
There's some proper little grinches here! I know the holidays are difficult for people for different reasons, but it's possible to celebrate the way you want to celebrate, or not celebrate at all, and still manage to be happy and positive.
You can decide to not celebrate but if you won't put up a sign saying so everyone will assume you're a Xmas enthusiast and will pester you about your plans, presents etc. You can't avoid Christmas being shoved down your throat try as you may. Maybe we could start asking acquaintances (i assume we know the opinions of our friends and family) if they celebrate Xmas or anything else before jumping straight into jolly "attack".
Load More Replies...A lot of these seem to be from people who just like to find things to make them unhappy. I dont care how anyone celebrates the holiday its there house, there money. It annoys me more when people make up rules about when and how you can and should celebrate. I personally love the holidays. All of these complaints can be avoided by not overspending or buying stuff you cannot afford, change the channel if you dont like the movie or song. Stop making plans with family you dont want to be around even for the holidays. Really stop doing things just because its the holidays you dont want to do or its going to make you miserable. You dont like tree shaped cookies, walk the hell away from the plate but stop blaming others because your miserable.
Don't like the music? Don't listen to it. Don't wanna put up a tree or any decorations? Don't put up a tree a decorations. Don't like Christmas movies? Don't watch them. It's that simple folks lol I am a single mom of 4 with no family left and am struggling financially and can't stand most people just in general but I still do what I can to keep traditions and make as many memories as possible. Everything is a choice. If you don't wanna do something, don't do it. But at the same time, don't take that joy away from others. Plus, it's only a couple months maybe out of the whole year. Happy Holidays everyone
Happy holidays to you too. And well said. Im sorry your struggling but keep your head up. It gets better *hugs*
Load More Replies...Mine is the looks my husband and I get when someone mentions our son who died. Stop looking at us like we are trolls from a cursed bridge. 🤬 he is dead. But his spirt isn't. So let's talk about those wonderful few memories and enjoy the holidays.
Do people really do that? That sucks, of course you can talk about your son. They just don't like it because they are uncomfortable, but I don't see why if you aren't. I often talk about my two brothers who died. Usually it's just a little memory or something and it is no big deal, the conversation continues or someone asks me about which is also good.
Load More Replies...My only gripe about xmas is the repetitive music in stores. The rest I can deal with. Even as an atheist. Let people enjoy what they want to enjoy. The gripe I have with the music is that we don't blare Islamic music over the loudspeakers during Eid or Ramadan, nor Jewish music in Hannuka, Yom Kippur, etc etc. So why we have to be subjected specifically to christian music in a multicultural society just annoys me. The rest is fine. Don't mind the decor, food etc. Just the repetitive music.
The only thing I hate about Chrtistmas(or any other holiday) is that it evokes a bunch of grumpy bitter cranks who feel an irresistible need to s**t on every little thing that makes other people happy. Seriously, they complain abouit everything: movies, songs, family dnner, presents, Christmas lights being too bright, Christnas trees leaving too many needles, and the fact they can't get their hair cut on Christmas night.
I agree with the consumerism focused aspect. People don't know how to be grateful and put too much value in expensive gifts, forgetting homemade gifts are just as good.
There's some proper little grinches here! I know the holidays are difficult for people for different reasons, but it's possible to celebrate the way you want to celebrate, or not celebrate at all, and still manage to be happy and positive.
You can decide to not celebrate but if you won't put up a sign saying so everyone will assume you're a Xmas enthusiast and will pester you about your plans, presents etc. You can't avoid Christmas being shoved down your throat try as you may. Maybe we could start asking acquaintances (i assume we know the opinions of our friends and family) if they celebrate Xmas or anything else before jumping straight into jolly "attack".
Load More Replies...A lot of these seem to be from people who just like to find things to make them unhappy. I dont care how anyone celebrates the holiday its there house, there money. It annoys me more when people make up rules about when and how you can and should celebrate. I personally love the holidays. All of these complaints can be avoided by not overspending or buying stuff you cannot afford, change the channel if you dont like the movie or song. Stop making plans with family you dont want to be around even for the holidays. Really stop doing things just because its the holidays you dont want to do or its going to make you miserable. You dont like tree shaped cookies, walk the hell away from the plate but stop blaming others because your miserable.
Don't like the music? Don't listen to it. Don't wanna put up a tree or any decorations? Don't put up a tree a decorations. Don't like Christmas movies? Don't watch them. It's that simple folks lol I am a single mom of 4 with no family left and am struggling financially and can't stand most people just in general but I still do what I can to keep traditions and make as many memories as possible. Everything is a choice. If you don't wanna do something, don't do it. But at the same time, don't take that joy away from others. Plus, it's only a couple months maybe out of the whole year. Happy Holidays everyone
Happy holidays to you too. And well said. Im sorry your struggling but keep your head up. It gets better *hugs*
Load More Replies...Mine is the looks my husband and I get when someone mentions our son who died. Stop looking at us like we are trolls from a cursed bridge. 🤬 he is dead. But his spirt isn't. So let's talk about those wonderful few memories and enjoy the holidays.
Do people really do that? That sucks, of course you can talk about your son. They just don't like it because they are uncomfortable, but I don't see why if you aren't. I often talk about my two brothers who died. Usually it's just a little memory or something and it is no big deal, the conversation continues or someone asks me about which is also good.
Load More Replies...My only gripe about xmas is the repetitive music in stores. The rest I can deal with. Even as an atheist. Let people enjoy what they want to enjoy. The gripe I have with the music is that we don't blare Islamic music over the loudspeakers during Eid or Ramadan, nor Jewish music in Hannuka, Yom Kippur, etc etc. So why we have to be subjected specifically to christian music in a multicultural society just annoys me. The rest is fine. Don't mind the decor, food etc. Just the repetitive music.
The only thing I hate about Chrtistmas(or any other holiday) is that it evokes a bunch of grumpy bitter cranks who feel an irresistible need to s**t on every little thing that makes other people happy. Seriously, they complain abouit everything: movies, songs, family dnner, presents, Christmas lights being too bright, Christnas trees leaving too many needles, and the fact they can't get their hair cut on Christmas night.
I agree with the consumerism focused aspect. People don't know how to be grateful and put too much value in expensive gifts, forgetting homemade gifts are just as good.
