“That’s It, I’m Wedding Shaming”: 40 Times People Just Had To Shame These Weddings Online (New Posts)
There’s one kind of event where everything is at stake. All the money, all the effort, all the planning, all the dreams, and yep, we’re talking weddings.
And when pressure to have the perfect day reaches the boiling point, it basically becomes a real-life reality show with drama, unstaged emotions, toxic family members, entitled guests, bridezillas, and lost grooms.
The content weddings provide us is so immense that wedding shaming groups have been popping up one by one on social media lately. This corner of Reddit known as the Wedding Shaming subreddit is also a destination to shame anything from wedding themes, vendors, brides and grooms, in-laws, and Uncle Bobs, and boy, it’s been buzzing.
Below we collected some of the new posts shared on the community, so scroll down below for some crazy nuptial drama. More wedding shaming content can be found in our previous posts here and here.
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Wedding Shaming, The Dear Prudence Edition
Check Out This Horror Of A "Mother"
It Truly Is Funny How Being A Part Of Someone's Bridesmaids Or Being The Maid Of Honor Is No Longer Chosen By How Close You Are To The Bride But By How Well You Fit Her Aesthetic
Once got told to ‘make an effort to not take the attention away from the bride’ by a then friend who was getting married. She meant ‘lose weight and don’t use walking aids’. Didn’t attend and haven’t spoken to her in over 22 years.
No wedding has gone without at least a tiny drop of drama. This is because people put the pressure on themselves a little too much, until for many brides and grooms, it becomes unbearable.
To find out more about navigating your perfect day in a way that doesn’t cost all your nerves, Bored Panda previously spoke with Jen Glantz, the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire and The Newlywed Card Game, a 3x best-selling author, a voice of You’re Not Getting Any Younger podcast, and the brains behind Jen & Juice coaching, digital courses, & the Pick-Me-Up newsletter.
You Want My To Cut My Hair. You Can’t Fire Me, I Quit
Bridesmaid/Sil From Hell From Dear Prudence
that's not a joke! that's just cruel! wtf is wrong with people?? EDIT: the stroy goes on (about 4 more pics); OP's whole family will be absent from the wedding. the sister is just "a child" and the sister dubbled down with "it's not like it was the actual skeleton of the dead sister"
Asking The Girl Your Fiancé Groomed To Be Your Photographer For Free
It turns out that conflict and drama starts as early as the bridal party. “That's because weddings are filled with decisions, pop-up challenges, and a lot of emotions. When you bring your friends and family into that equation and ask them to stand by your side, while also giving them a to-do list of things you expect them to do during your wedding adventure, it can bring a level of intensity that didn't exist before the wedding within that relationship,” Glentz explained.
Too Bad, So Sad Wedding Photo Edition
Sure, for $3,200. She can even wear her wedding dress if she wants to.
Poor Photographer.. That Said I'd Be Interested To See The Pictures That They Had To Capture While This All Went Down
Mother Of Groom Insists On Being In Son’s Wedding Portrait With Bust Of Deceased Husband
A lot of conflicts, however, could be avoided with better communication and slightly lower expectations, Glantz argues. “So much can be avoided if the person getting married clearly states what they want from their bridal party and the people in the bridal party openly share what they are able and willing to do before the wedding process even starts,” she told us in a previous interview.
I Paid $600 And Gave Her Six Months For My Wedding Dress Hem To Look Like This
Host A Photography Competition Instead Of Paying For A Photographer!
With Friends Like These Who Needs Enemies
But no matter how much drama weddings may have, you may wonder if it’s still okay to shame these events and the people behind them. After all, are wedding shaming groups considered to have some form of hate that may be harmful to their targets?
Well, we previously asked that question to Darlene Lancer, who is a therapist, relationship & NPD expert, and the author of "Codependency for Dummies." Lancer explained that according to the FBI, “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group or people of a particular sexual orientation. They investigate these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty. “So defined, wedding haters and shamers are not members of a ‘hate group,’” she said.
Say Yes To The Dress Bride Wanted An “Avatar Unicorn.” My Friend Had Thoughts
Mother In Law And Sister In Law Wore White
Mil Really Wanted To Be Bride. I'm Now Divorced From Her Son, Who She Posed With In The 2nd Picture
Having said that, Lancer explained that blaming and shaming often is done by people with low self-esteem and who carry shame themselves. “They shame others to project and rid themselves of the shame they have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious. Projection is a defense that works for them. It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame.”
From My Cousins (The Grooms) Wedding, Of Which I Wasn’t Invited
Guy Asks Fiance If He Can Invite His Friends On Their Honeymoon
Spare A Thought For This Poor Girl Who Has Been Dealt The Injustice Of Being Gifted A Mere $32,000 For Her Wedding
Since she is an adult, she can pay for her wedding herself. If she can't afford it, it's her problem, not her future in-laws. A wedding can always be modest.
“Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status,” a therapist said. This is to compensate for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected, she concluded.
Please Be Considerate About Peoples Choices At Your Wedding
Guests Called The Police To The Reception Because They’d Been Unknowingly Drugged By The Bride!
Guest Demands To Bring Their Son (18) Daughter (23), 3 Grandchildren, And A Dog To The Wedding
Guest demands to bring their son (18) daughter (23), 3 grandchildren, and a dog to the wedding. Bride puts her foot down and guest ominously ends the friendship with ellipsis
I had a no kids wedding. Some people just sent their regrets - still okay with them. Some sent me long diatribes about how weddings are ‘about babies’ and how evil we’re being - don’t speak to them anymore. No loss.
Received This Abomination Of A Save The Date… Whole Card Was Filled With It
To not produce waste we send you a letter full of waste. And the letter will be waste too
Just Got This In My Email After Receiving The Invite 2 Days Ago
What In The Hell. What A Nightmare!
They're lucky she didn't have a weapon and found was àble to find alcohol. That was atrocious!
A "Friend" Took Our Wedding Photos As A Gift To Us And Then Ghosted Us. It's Been 6 Months
From A Wedding Group I'm In. People In The Comments Were Ragging On The Step Mum's Choice Of Shoes
Bride Doesn’t Want Her Great Aunt’s Nurse To Attend The Wedding
Wow 🤦🏻♀️ How heartless do you have to be to discriminate against a guest, your own family member whom you presumably WANT to bear witness to your wedding, for having a disability that requires a nurse?! The nurse would literally be working during the entire event, watching over the aunt. What does she think she's gonna do?!
A Former Coworker Of Mine. She Was Always Extra At Work. It's No Surprise She Posted This Before Her Wedding. I'm Glad I Wasn't Invited
I don't agree with her tone, choice of words or method of delivery but I do understand the sentiment - people, as guests, can be just as rude as bridezillas these days.
I ‘Broke Group Rules’ With This Comment To A Bride Who Was About To Disown Her Dad For Not Being Able To Afford To Spend $3k On Chair/Tent Rentals
Seen On Facebook. What Is This Kind Of Trash
Bride Used Fish As Decor And Centerpieces
“Bride” Gets Angry When Fb Group Advises Against Surprise Wedding
Bride-To-Be Asking For Alternatives To The Garter Toss, This Was One Of The Responses
This Is Supposed To Be Cute But It’s Just Weird And Awkward
Didn't Know It Was Possible To Agree And Disagree To Everything In A Single Post. Yes To The Sentiment, Big No To The Execution
What Would Make Someone Ever Want To Take These Photos
From An Fb Group I'm In. Girl, If You Have To Ask, You Probably Already Know The Answer
Why people don’t just have a smaller wedding if they’re struggling with the cost is beyond me…
I’ve attended a few potluck weddings… and they’ve been fabulous! The most recent was for my daughter’s wedding. Her invitations said, “A potluck reception will follow the ceremony at 7:00 P.M. at XXX Location. In lieu of a gift, please bring a dish to share.” Most guests brought food and a gift, anyway. They were super grateful.
Friends asked everyone to pay $35 per person for a pub meal instead of a gift. They wanted everyone to come but couldn’t afford it so this was the compromise. It was great. It was about their love and getting married with their mates present not a cash grab and not tacky at all.
There are two kinds of weddings. Modest ones, which everyone but the bride and groom soon forget, and lavish ones, which everyone but the bride and groom soon forget.
At my wedding, we had cake and finger foods. There were thirty people. We got married in his parents back yard. We worked with what we had and didn't go nuckin futs overboard. It was still lovely! .. Despite the sweat bee flying down my bodice... Lol 😂
I did the same thing and we still couldn't just sit and enjoy our cake! We had to get up and greet everyone (not even a huge wedding, probably about 30 too). I was like "thank god we didn't shell out for more than that, we wouldn't have gotten to enjoy it!"
Load More Replies... We couldn't afford to provide a meal at our wedding. We made it clear in the invitation that our 3 o'clock wedding would have punch and light refreshments with cake after. Then just go out to eat by yourselves as husband and wife. It's so much nicer to get away from the guests when the wedding is done.
People are reading this 2 different ways i think... Some are reading it as you have to pay to attend the wedding and others are reading this as paying for what you order at the dinner reception afterwards. My opinion is that you shouldn't demand a reception with free food just because you showed for a wedding but you shouldn't charge to attend the wedding.
I don't have a problem with this. If I am friends enough to want to be there to celebrate with them, and they can't afford it, I would be happy to pay for my meal. If I was rich enough and generous enough I might pay for the entire group's meals on the night as a wedding gift. And if I couldn't afford to pay for a meal, then I would attend the wedding itself and apologize for not being able to make the meal.
It is NEVER ok to ask wedding guests to pay for their own meals. No matter what.
I don't see the problem, if they don't want to pay they can just attend the ceremony, just don't get angry with those that choose not to stay
Yes, it's rude. It's also rude to invite people to an event you can't afford.
It's why I had a breakfast wedding- pancakes, eggs, sausage, fruit- simple, filling, and cheap!
Yes. The way I've always understood it, is the ceremony is for the bride and groom, and the reception is for the guests as a "thank you for taking the time to celebrate with us and also for the gifts you have given us". You would never invite someone over to your home as a guest and expect them to pay you at the end of the night for preparing a meal for them. I hate weddings so much
Don't have a reception, or go straight to the evening party. As long as your invitations state "no meal" everyone can eat before they come.
I didn't have sit-down meal. I had lots and lots of horderves set on a decorated table (it was technically a buffet, but was gorgeous).
My wedding was low budget and we just did a pot luck dinner. Turned out just fine
My Sil Just Asked Me If This Was Okay To Wear To My Wedding
It’s The “You Can Dance For Free!” For Me
Working together? To me it seems photographer would be the only person working there.
My Sil Wore A Black T-Shirt, Khaki Cargo Pants And Yellow Sneakers To Our Semi-Formal Wedding
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I am an Indian.. our wedding have totally different.. I am always getting nervous attack whenever I got invited to my American friends .after reading this I don't want go any weddings here .
These are more like already terrible people who now have the excuse of a wedding to be awful, rather than a reflection of American weddings. Likelihood is if people are nice enough that you are their friend, they probably are not one of these people :)
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Wow. So glad I haven't had to go to a wedding in over 20 years, and I don't anticipate any for at least another five. IF there is one in a few years, it would be held in our minister's home, where we meet for Sabbath services, and only with people well known to all of us, and much loved among us. No drama, no MIL trying to be the center of attention, and nobody upstaging either the bride or the groom. Everyone in my own family that would be married is already so, but even the older of my two nephews, when he chose to get married a dozen years ago, did so quietly, with only his brother and sister present---didn't invite my sis, and she wouldn't have gone, anyhow. No angst, no anger, and no gifts expected, just whoever was there, enjoy yourselves at the restaurant afterward, bride and groom's expense. Can't stand the entitled young people of today and their foolish, selfish, self-centered demands.
I am an Indian.. our wedding have totally different.. I am always getting nervous attack whenever I got invited to my American friends .after reading this I don't want go any weddings here .
These are more like already terrible people who now have the excuse of a wedding to be awful, rather than a reflection of American weddings. Likelihood is if people are nice enough that you are their friend, they probably are not one of these people :)
Load More Replies... Wow. So glad I haven't had to go to a wedding in over 20 years, and I don't anticipate any for at least another five. IF there is one in a few years, it would be held in our minister's home, where we meet for Sabbath services, and only with people well known to all of us, and much loved among us. No drama, no MIL trying to be the center of attention, and nobody upstaging either the bride or the groom. Everyone in my own family that would be married is already so, but even the older of my two nephews, when he chose to get married a dozen years ago, did so quietly, with only his brother and sister present---didn't invite my sis, and she wouldn't have gone, anyhow. No angst, no anger, and no gifts expected, just whoever was there, enjoy yourselves at the restaurant afterward, bride and groom's expense. Can't stand the entitled young people of today and their foolish, selfish, self-centered demands.
