“That’s It, I’m Wedding Shaming”: 40 Times People Just Had To Shame These Weddings Online (New Posts)
There’s one kind of event where everything is at stake. All the money, all the effort, all the planning, all the dreams, and yep, we’re talking weddings.
And when pressure to have the perfect day reaches the boiling point, it basically becomes a real-life reality show with drama, unstaged emotions, toxic family members, entitled guests, bridezillas, and lost grooms.
The content weddings provide us is so immense that wedding shaming groups have been popping up one by one on social media lately. This corner of Reddit known as the Wedding Shaming subreddit is also a destination to shame anything from wedding themes, vendors, brides and grooms, in-laws, and Uncle Bobs, and boy, it’s been buzzing.
Below we collected some of the new posts shared on the community, so scroll down below for some crazy nuptial drama. More wedding shaming content can be found in our previous posts here and here.
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Wedding Shaming, The Dear Prudence Edition
Check Out This Horror Of A "Mother"
It's wrong of you too just assume that. Race religion national origin sexual orientation gender these are protected catagories. Imagine if you said "And I bet this horror is (insert racial minority here)" that would be extremely racist. What you said is still discrimination. You can't just paint a whole group you don't like in such a negative light, it's wrong.
Load More Replies...JFC, I can't imagine why her daughter and her were "never that close" 🙄 Here's hoping her daughter and Katie didn't get stuck spending the wedding having to be around this awful C U Next Tuesday.
"My daughter is no longer speaking to me (we were never that close)"... Ever wonder why that is, Mommy Dearest? If we knew you personally, we wouldn't be speaking to you either.
So all of a sudden the participants in the wedding are no longer people, they are performers. If our society has become so obsessed with image over substance to the point where you would seriously even consider removing a person because of something you suddenly consider un-aesthetic, it means you have let yourself become corrupted by the superficiality that has poisoned so many of our relationships. Katie is a person, not an extra in some stranger's big Broadway show. I admire your daughter for standing up to you, and if you want her to speak to you again, go to her with an enormous apology -- sincere, if you can manage it -- and put Katie back in the wedding where she belongs.
Good for your daughter, the one 'you were never that close' to.
Great to finally hear about a bride who wants someone in their wedding because they love the person.
How did it happen that people’s minds have warped the idea of a wedding being a celebration of union into something that needs aesthetics as though you are putting on a stage musical or something like that? I’m so very intrigued by the psychology behind this.
I think it comes from movies and the wedding industry painting an unrealistic image in order to sell a dream they can profit from. Life is messy and people are imperfect, and we really should value relationship over aestetics.
Load More Replies...How awful a person must you be to think it, let alone expressing a thought like that?
Imagine living inside that head - just a whorl of darkness.
Load More Replies...Ableism everywhere. What is it that makes some people think it is fine to be prejudiced towards we people with disabilities? Like it’s an acceptable and everyday thing. Sorry as disabled myself I see this behaviour a lot. It hurts, it’s mean, it’s cruel and unacceptable.
If its all about being sightly with these maid os honor why nit just go all out and hire a bunch of models to be your wedding party. Though i bet then the complaint will be one of those "your natural blue eyes are stealing the attention from the bride, wear contacts or you cant come"
What a perfectly crafted answer. I cannot wrap my head around the thought process that goes into proposing that scenario for her daughter's wedding. If those are your priorities, you need to rethink them.
The problem is that this mother is nasty ableist, who value " aesthetics" over person.
I agree with CatGirl, but may I add a story of similar note. Two sisters, one a self-centered bit…let’s call her “B”…the other sister, an angel on this earth. Let’s call her “A”. Both girls very beautiful in appearance. THEY had another sister who was Downs Syndrome…as my Mother always said: God’s special child and she was indeed! Let’s just call her “G”💚. When A got married she had G💚 as her MOH and B as a bridesmaid. G💚 was so excited the entire day and charmed everyone. It was lovely 😊. When “ B “ got married she refused to have G💚 in any part of the ceremony. “ NO! She’ll take all the attention away from me!!” As B walked down the aisle, she tripped and fell with her veil coming off and actually a dental crown escaping from the her mouth for all to see! The man she married divorced her after less than a year. “A” had a wonderful husband and family and after their parents passed away she took G💚 to live with them for the rest of her life. Karma: the greatest lesson
Here's an a answer : "Drown yourself you shallow whore." This isn't even a bridezilla thing - it's NOT YOUR wedding, so check YOUR OPINION IN THE TRASH WHERE IT BELONGS. How appalling you actually SAID that to her? Like, out loud, with words?! Vocally?! And it doesn't process in your head yet. You even wrote a letter to the internet and it STILL doesn't resound in your cavernous self centered empty shallow little skull does it? You are an absolute WASTE of oxygen.
Im noticing the ones identify as Christian on here aren’t tHe ones spewing hate. An observation.
I had a friend who was physically uncomfortable being a part of my wedding party, so I came up with several special things and had her choose what she wanted to do. She was a wonderful personal attendant. As a diabetic bride I entrusted her with my meter and emergency sugar.
Lady, IT IS NOT YOUR WEDDING. The fact that your daughter loves her BFF and wants her as her Maid of Honor speaks volumes about your daughter's integrity and loyalty as a friend. Your priorities suck. How cruel, stupid and mean you are to suggest that this girl should sit and hand out programs. Lady you suck at life. Glad your daughter values her friend no matter what. You should be very ashamed of yourself.
I encourage you as a MOTHER, to put yourself in that childs shoes. Imagine it was your child with the limp?? Would ashe not be "allowed" to walk down her own wedding aisle? Shame on you. Im actually gobsmacked by your audacity to think you have ANY right to call ANY shots on your daughters wedding. If i was your daughter i would disinvite you.
My daughter no longer speaks to me - oh, my. The reason is so mysterious. Why would she be offended by her mother, trying to remove any "eyesores" from her "perfect" wedding. So baffling.
How can she say, she "thinks of Katie like a daughter" yet, still regard her as just a girl who limps and will ruin the aesthetics of the wedding.
This mother is a complete waste of space- and God help her daughter who's been brought up in the mothers presence. Every person who has a role in the wedding is PART of an intimate circle of friends to the bride and groom. I can't imagine how this mom would behave if it was her daughter with the limp- being shunned for her disability 🥺. She's a sick woman with no compassion or love for the people around her. Very sad. Hope her grandkids don't have any unpopular illnesses. 🤬
And she wonders why she's "not that close" to her own daughter....perhaps she was just waiting for a reason to stop talking to you and looky here! You have her the perfect one.
My mom would never, but if she did, I would never speak to her again if she said that to my best friend. Nobody treats my friends like that.
Before I even read the answer, I was already thinking the word "villain".
Well, had she not bred, she would not have had her wonderful daughter who is soon to be married. Somehow her daughter ended up being a good person despite coming from... her.
Load More Replies...Why to have a wedding, when you can send scenario to Holywood and watch recreation based on almost true story? And everyone will look gorgeous, like an actors... 🤪
"My daughter is not speaking to me (we were never that close)" - Boom. No wonder.
It Truly Is Funny How Being A Part Of Someone's Bridesmaids Or Being The Maid Of Honor Is No Longer Chosen By How Close You Are To The Bride But By How Well You Fit Her Aesthetic
Once got told to ‘make an effort to not take the attention away from the bride’ by a then friend who was getting married. She meant ‘lose weight and don’t use walking aids’. Didn’t attend and haven’t spoken to her in over 22 years.
No wedding has gone without at least a tiny drop of drama. This is because people put the pressure on themselves a little too much, until for many brides and grooms, it becomes unbearable.
To find out more about navigating your perfect day in a way that doesn’t cost all your nerves, Bored Panda previously spoke with Jen Glantz, the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire and The Newlywed Card Game, a 3x best-selling author, a voice of You’re Not Getting Any Younger podcast, and the brains behind Jen & Juice coaching, digital courses, & the Pick-Me-Up newsletter.
You Want My To Cut My Hair. You Can’t Fire Me, I Quit
Bridesmaid/Sil From Hell From Dear Prudence
that's not a joke! that's just cruel! wtf is wrong with people?? EDIT: the stroy goes on (about 4 more pics); OP's whole family will be absent from the wedding. the sister is just "a child" and the sister dubbled down with "it's not like it was the actual skeleton of the dead sister"
Asking The Girl Your Fiancé Groomed To Be Your Photographer For Free
It turns out that conflict and drama starts as early as the bridal party. “That's because weddings are filled with decisions, pop-up challenges, and a lot of emotions. When you bring your friends and family into that equation and ask them to stand by your side, while also giving them a to-do list of things you expect them to do during your wedding adventure, it can bring a level of intensity that didn't exist before the wedding within that relationship,” Glentz explained.
Too Bad, So Sad Wedding Photo Edition
Sure, for $3,200. She can even wear her wedding dress if she wants to.
Poor Photographer.. That Said I'd Be Interested To See The Pictures That They Had To Capture While This All Went Down
Mother Of Groom Insists On Being In Son’s Wedding Portrait With Bust Of Deceased Husband
A lot of conflicts, however, could be avoided with better communication and slightly lower expectations, Glantz argues. “So much can be avoided if the person getting married clearly states what they want from their bridal party and the people in the bridal party openly share what they are able and willing to do before the wedding process even starts,” she told us in a previous interview.
I Paid $600 And Gave Her Six Months For My Wedding Dress Hem To Look Like This
Host A Photography Competition Instead Of Paying For A Photographer!
With Friends Like These Who Needs Enemies
But no matter how much drama weddings may have, you may wonder if it’s still okay to shame these events and the people behind them. After all, are wedding shaming groups considered to have some form of hate that may be harmful to their targets?
Well, we previously asked that question to Darlene Lancer, who is a therapist, relationship & NPD expert, and the author of "Codependency for Dummies." Lancer explained that according to the FBI, “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group or people of a particular sexual orientation. They investigate these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty. “So defined, wedding haters and shamers are not members of a ‘hate group,’” she said.
Say Yes To The Dress Bride Wanted An “Avatar Unicorn.” My Friend Had Thoughts
Mother In Law And Sister In Law Wore White
Mil Really Wanted To Be Bride. I'm Now Divorced From Her Son, Who She Posed With In The 2nd Picture
Having said that, Lancer explained that blaming and shaming often is done by people with low self-esteem and who carry shame themselves. “They shame others to project and rid themselves of the shame they have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious. Projection is a defense that works for them. It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame.”
From My Cousins (The Grooms) Wedding, Of Which I Wasn’t Invited
Guy Asks Fiance If He Can Invite His Friends On Their Honeymoon
Spare A Thought For This Poor Girl Who Has Been Dealt The Injustice Of Being Gifted A Mere $32,000 For Her Wedding
Since she is an adult, she can pay for her wedding herself. If she can't afford it, it's her problem, not her future in-laws. A wedding can always be modest.
“Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status,” a therapist said. This is to compensate for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected, she concluded.
Please Be Considerate About Peoples Choices At Your Wedding
Guests Called The Police To The Reception Because They’d Been Unknowingly Drugged By The Bride!
Guest Demands To Bring Their Son (18) Daughter (23), 3 Grandchildren, And A Dog To The Wedding
Guest demands to bring their son (18) daughter (23), 3 grandchildren, and a dog to the wedding. Bride puts her foot down and guest ominously ends the friendship with ellipsis
I had a no kids wedding. Some people just sent their regrets - still okay with them. Some sent me long diatribes about how weddings are ‘about babies’ and how evil we’re being - don’t speak to them anymore. No loss.
Received This Abomination Of A Save The Date… Whole Card Was Filled With It
To not produce waste we send you a letter full of waste. And the letter will be waste too
Just Got This In My Email After Receiving The Invite 2 Days Ago
What In The Hell. What A Nightmare!
They're lucky she didn't have a weapon and found was àble to find alcohol. That was atrocious!
A "Friend" Took Our Wedding Photos As A Gift To Us And Then Ghosted Us. It's Been 6 Months
From A Wedding Group I'm In. People In The Comments Were Ragging On The Step Mum's Choice Of Shoes
Bride Doesn’t Want Her Great Aunt’s Nurse To Attend The Wedding
Wow 🤦🏻♀️ How heartless do you have to be to discriminate against a guest, your own family member whom you presumably WANT to bear witness to your wedding, for having a disability that requires a nurse?! The nurse would literally be working during the entire event, watching over the aunt. What does she think she's gonna do?!
A Former Coworker Of Mine. She Was Always Extra At Work. It's No Surprise She Posted This Before Her Wedding. I'm Glad I Wasn't Invited
I don't agree with her tone, choice of words or method of delivery but I do understand the sentiment - people, as guests, can be just as rude as bridezillas these days.
I ‘Broke Group Rules’ With This Comment To A Bride Who Was About To Disown Her Dad For Not Being Able To Afford To Spend $3k On Chair/Tent Rentals
Seen On Facebook. What Is This Kind Of Trash
Bride Used Fish As Decor And Centerpieces
“Bride” Gets Angry When Fb Group Advises Against Surprise Wedding
Bride-To-Be Asking For Alternatives To The Garter Toss, This Was One Of The Responses
This Is Supposed To Be Cute But It’s Just Weird And Awkward
Didn't Know It Was Possible To Agree And Disagree To Everything In A Single Post. Yes To The Sentiment, Big No To The Execution
What Would Make Someone Ever Want To Take These Photos
From An Fb Group I'm In. Girl, If You Have To Ask, You Probably Already Know The Answer
My Sil Just Asked Me If This Was Okay To Wear To My Wedding
It’s The “You Can Dance For Free!” For Me
Working together? To me it seems photographer would be the only person working there.
My Sil Wore A Black T-Shirt, Khaki Cargo Pants And Yellow Sneakers To Our Semi-Formal Wedding
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I am an Indian.. our wedding have totally different.. I am always getting nervous attack whenever I got invited to my American friends .after reading this I don't want go any weddings here .
These are more like already terrible people who now have the excuse of a wedding to be awful, rather than a reflection of American weddings. Likelihood is if people are nice enough that you are their friend, they probably are not one of these people :)
Load More Replies...Wow. So glad I haven't had to go to a wedding in over 20 years, and I don't anticipate any for at least another five. IF there is one in a few years, it would be held in our minister's home, where we meet for Sabbath services, and only with people well known to all of us, and much loved among us. No drama, no MIL trying to be the center of attention, and nobody upstaging either the bride or the groom. Everyone in my own family that would be married is already so, but even the older of my two nephews, when he chose to get married a dozen years ago, did so quietly, with only his brother and sister present---didn't invite my sis, and she wouldn't have gone, anyhow. No angst, no anger, and no gifts expected, just whoever was there, enjoy yourselves at the restaurant afterward, bride and groom's expense. Can't stand the entitled young people of today and their foolish, selfish, self-centered demands.
I am an Indian.. our wedding have totally different.. I am always getting nervous attack whenever I got invited to my American friends .after reading this I don't want go any weddings here .
These are more like already terrible people who now have the excuse of a wedding to be awful, rather than a reflection of American weddings. Likelihood is if people are nice enough that you are their friend, they probably are not one of these people :)
Load More Replies...Wow. So glad I haven't had to go to a wedding in over 20 years, and I don't anticipate any for at least another five. IF there is one in a few years, it would be held in our minister's home, where we meet for Sabbath services, and only with people well known to all of us, and much loved among us. No drama, no MIL trying to be the center of attention, and nobody upstaging either the bride or the groom. Everyone in my own family that would be married is already so, but even the older of my two nephews, when he chose to get married a dozen years ago, did so quietly, with only his brother and sister present---didn't invite my sis, and she wouldn't have gone, anyhow. No angst, no anger, and no gifts expected, just whoever was there, enjoy yourselves at the restaurant afterward, bride and groom's expense. Can't stand the entitled young people of today and their foolish, selfish, self-centered demands.