Some people like following the rules while others think that they exist for being broken. However, without them, our society would probably collapse, and we need a little bit of control. If we don't know if something is legal or not, we can consult our country’s law books, but turns out, there are many rules that are unwritten and even not spoken out loud.
You could say that these rules are social norms, things that are accepted culturally and things we think are right based on our personal experiences. Bored Panda has already compiled a few lists on the topic that you can find here, here, here and here.
But people have even more unspoken rules to share and listed them in Reddit threads that you can find here, here and here. The amount of rules people unconsciously follow really is surprising and it can get really awkward if you’re the only one who doesn’t know about a specific one. So let us know the one rule that was not yet mentioned that people need to know.
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Your beliefs don't make you a better person, your behavior does.
No f*cking clue how, but I 100% read 'beliefs' as 'toenails,' and I was very confused.
Just saying your "insert religion" doesn't make a good person with those values.
And if your beliefs don't improve your behavior, either they're not really your beliefs or you have the wrong ones.
I'm Christian, and I upvote this statement in every way. There are too many hateful people that call themselves a follower of one religion or another that espouses peace. I'd rather have a dinner with an atheist than one of them any day. The conversation would likely be better, too.
Mhm, besides, if you really believe your beliefs, you're actions and behavior change from that. Which is why when I see Christians treating people like c**p, I don't think of them as Christians, as they clearly are not
*your. Correcting myself before someone beats me to it
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Married people are off-limits weather they feel like they are or not.
Unfortunately, I have known several people in my life who intentionally chase after only married people. The way most of them described it, it was like a game for them, to see if they could "win" against the spouse that didn't even know they were playing that stupid game. I can't even describe how fast I lost respect for those people.
Load More Replies...Unless you practice ethical non-monogamy. But then ALL parties involved should know ALL the rules :)
Yes, also came here to voice this exception. Thank you for saying this
Load More Replies...agreed! I never really understand this trope in movies where it is completely fine to chase after someone who is in a committed unmarried relationship, but the second they are married it is hands off. Why? Those people made a decision to be together long before they exchanged rings. However, it might be cultural, as marriage rates are declining where I live, and most of my peers are in committed relationships without being married.
Load More Replies...From my own experience, if they can be took let the other person have them.
I agree with this. I’m not a jealous person at all because I have this mindset. If another person steals you away, then I guess our relationship wasn’t very strong to begin with.
Load More Replies...*whether* And, yes, married people stay faithful to one person. Otherwise, don't get fecking married in the first place. A commitment is a commitment.
Don't erase ethical non-monogamists just because you don't personally like it.
Load More Replies...If they'll deceive and marginalize their own spouse, then they'll deceive and marginalize you.
Sure it´s unethical and sure there are some people out there who are psychologically disturbed to the point that they feel the urge to seduce people in a committed monogam relationship, but these are rare. All in all the homewrecker narrative is mostly a myth to pass the blame. If you got a partner who doesn´t think he or she is off-limits, a rule that seeks to educate the whole rest of the world to keep him or her in line whether they like it or not, won´t save your relationship! Taking the risk to be fiercely downvoted (please stop at -5 -. even if you disagree, I don´t deserve suspension)
And if you can't understand the moral reasoning behind this one, just lean into the practical one, ffs. If it's possible for you to wedge into and explode this relationship, then it's only a matter of time before someone else's infidelity grenade comes flying your way, very much on target.
When dropping a friend off at home late at night make sure to stick around until they enter the house. You might not know if they left their keys and be locked out while you drive away. They may need to stay the night and sort things out in the morning.
I always do this. Also if girls go out for a night together, never leave one behind..I've had a few unwanted late nights due to that one friend not wanting to go home, but making sure she got home safe was more important.
Yep that's standard. Wait until they're inside or through the main gate. Sometimes they'll wave to make sure they got in alright.
and you try to pull up to the house so your headlights are on the door they're going to use. give them some light to find their keys or see the lock or see if there's anything inside
I agree, but ideally, they have an outside light that they left on if it was going to be dark when they got home, or light on inside, so they don't trip on anything once inside. Plus, most people have cell phones that have flashlights on them. It is still a good gesture anyway.
Load More Replies...Better yet, walk them to their door. If they can't find their keys offer to look for them in and around your car. You'll know the little crevices of where stuff falls better than a guest in your car.
If you're a friend, walk them to the door. If you're a male acquaintance or friend-of-a-friend, wait in the car. I don't want a man standing behind me in the dark at my door, it's far too vulnerable a position.
Load More Replies...This literally happened to me a week ago. Managed to flag my friend down before she drove away and drive back to the theatre where I had left my keys.
Replace toilet paper when you're done with it. Also, don't stop in the middle of a busy sidewalk.
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Also, only leaving the 2 sheets that are glued to the cardboard tube is NOT the same as leaving toilet paper for the next person.
Don't walk too closely behind people in case they need to turn around, and don't come up close to them as they are opening a door to the point if they turn around they end up bumping into you. Give at least a bit of space to make room for the unexpected. They could be in their thoughts and not even hear you behind them.
I would have thought that the last two years would make people better at social distancing (even outside a global pandemic context) but I guess not.
Load More Replies...Very true. It's hard to find spare toilet paper in the middle of a busy sidewalk.
Thank you for the laugh. I've had a crummy morning and really needed a chuckle!
Load More Replies...My wife and I have an understanding. We never actually discussed this but she places the roll next to the potty, and I change it (over the top). In 30+ years of marriage we never discussed this arrangement, but it works for us. I might go and talk to her about it just because, why not?
Have some common f*****g courtesy and end your goddamn call before coming to cashier. This includes you pretentious f***s who use a hands free device.
THIS. Person stands in line, comes up to the cashier and is prattling on, at the top of their lungs, while the cashier is waiting to say something like "You can enter your card now," but they can't get a word in edgewise because Joe Jackass is talking on the phone. Meanwhile, all the people behind him are getting really annoyed. Shut the f**k up for 10 seconds and let the cashier do his/her job, so we can all get on with our lives, you self-absorbed nit-wit.
"I'm sorry I'll have to take the other customer while you finish up your call. NEXT."
Related - holding up the line because you sent someone in your party to grab just a couple more things so you are not ready to check out yet even though you've blocked the belt with all your stuff. I'm looking at you lady at Winco last week.
So, what's your policy on panicky children whose parent is just grabbing some eggs while they are getting closer and closer to the register?
Load More Replies...When I get a customer that won't get off the phone I keep asking questions so they have to answer me
As a former cashier I would ring up the people behind him until he decided to act like a human being and get off the phone. Then and only then would I acknowledge him.
Unpopular opinion: that's only true when there isn't a long line. If you're going to waste more than 10 min standing in line, I don't care if you shorten your wait by taking a phone call.
Sometimes you get a long waited but unexpected call being in line already... Like from hospital, or from a loved one being in danger, or from a friend being in a bombed area who happened to charge their phone for the first time in days and calling you to share the news... This happening way more often with everyone now, you could imagine...
Do not put your bag on a seat next to you on the bus/train if there are no seats left.
If you do that here in the Caribbean you'll get some very choice words from a stranger.
Once I picked up a bag and dropped it in the lap of the person sitting there and sat down. They didn't say one word.
Load More Replies...In many places, it's a good idea to keep your belongings firmly gripped on your lap no matter how many empty seats there are.
Depends. I'll always remove my bag for an old lady, child or shopper with many bags, but if it's some creepy guy I'll leave it just where it is.
This should absolutely not get downvoted. I have a feeling that the people who downvoted it are creepy guys. Women are allowed to not want to sit next to a creepy person! People are allowed to not want to sit next to creepy people. Don't be creepy!
Load More Replies...And always offer a seat if you can to someone who asks. You don't know if they have an invisible injury or have very sore feet, or they might have poor balance and can't stand well on a moving vehicle. Always give your seat to small kids as they are so light, with smaller hands and can easily be thrown from a sudden stop. Having them just hold their parent's hand isn't safe. I know from experience.
I used to take a commuter train and one Christmas my sister wanted Rockband Beatles. Only place that wasn't sold out was near my work. However, the box was very large. So I bought two seats. One for the box and one for myself. Both tickets were displayed (taped one to the box and held one in my hand). I had a lot of evil looks and would tell them, its too big to fit under the seat so I bought both seats.
More than once I've made as if to sit sown as if I didn't see it. Always works but I'm 188cm, 120kg.
If I am walking my dog(s) and specifically trying to avoid you walking with your dogs. Don't come over to me and try to chat it up. Also do not let your kids come and pet my (or ANY) dog without asking first!
My dog does not get along with other dogs, and as he gets older, need to watch him around smaller kids...also, he hates it when people come into his face with their hands or face..that's a huge no-no and he will give you a warning (I can go in his face all I want). Hes an Akita and wasnt brought up around other dogs or small kids. It's the worst when folks have their dogs off leash in a place that is on-leash only...and their dog comes up to my dog...always a s**t show so I've had to stop going to these places. Dont assume it's okay folks!
My dog is leash aggressive towards other dogs. He’s great with small children, and big children, and non-children humans, but he can’t do dogs. He will be scared and lash out. Off leash he mostly ignores other dogs. Don’t bring your dog up to my dog.
Load More Replies...My last dog was not good with other dogs. We would yell out "ours isn't friendly" and f*****g morons would be like " it's okay mine is" Then when he would snap at the other dog and we would be the bad guys. "No you f*****g idiot we warned you multiple times and you still came to us.
I had the exact same situation! I honestly think the guy thought I was just starting conversation about our dogs, and not warning him that he should not let his dog near mine. It was astonishing!
Load More Replies...We have our dog work with a trainer and she recommended these little circular patches that attach to my dogs harness- they say "please don't pet me! I'm working". My dog likes other dogs but is fearful of strangers, the trainer said, "how would you feel if total strangers came over and wanted to touch you?". The patches can be bought on Amazon, I hope this helps other folks who don't want passers-by harassing their dog
I've only had my (first ever) dog about 4 months. We haven't gone to many public places (live in a rural area) but when we did, each time, a child would politely ask if they could pet my dog! I have been pleasantly surprised thus far. My dog loves people, but is not fond of other dogs.
I start training with my service dog in January. Always ignore service dogs when they and their handlers seem to be happy and healthy. Talk to the handler, meet them/greet them, and chat with them first. THEN ask to pet their dog. If they say no, respect that. This dog could be a medical alert dog and you talking to them, petting them, etc could be distracting them from doing their job, which could end up disastrous for them and their handler.
Add, keep your dog on a leash unless you are in sight and have instant recall. In 30 years, I have seen three people with this level of training, Otherwise don't. It is so rude and obnoxious!
ESPECIALLY when it's dark. I was recently pushing my twin toddlers home from daycare in a stroller - about 4:30pm, dark outside, residential area with little lighting. A huge, dark dog with a tiny light on its collar ran at us barking, his teeth on the same height as my twins' faces! Nothing happened, but you can bet my children were scared to death! And the owner came strolling around the corner like that wasn't a big deal...
Load More Replies...I love it when the dog handler says, "Don't worry, he/she's friendly." Mine isn't so, Stay Away!
True. But also - if you have a reactive dog, consider using one of the scarfs made for this purpose. For those unfamiliar - there are colored neck scarfs (some with text) to warn other people a dog is reactive to other dogs or reactive to other people. So at dog shows it is often a color thing. I suppose in a park around people who don't know that, the scarfs with words on them would be good. But also also (lol) if you don't know a dog, ASK! Don't just assume it is okay to get up in their face.
Secret messages are great for keeping secrets. Most people won't realise the colour has any significance so won't behave any differently. You've got to make it obvious if it's that important
Load More Replies...I saw a guy walking his dogs without a leash, and walked in front of a house with a guy who was about to walk his puppies on a leash. The no-leash guy couldn't control his dogs at all. Leash guy was holding his pup. I don't care how much some dog owners think their dogs are so "well behaved", it's likely BS.
pick people up if they fall in a mosh-pit
I'm middle aged and I'm still right up front at every concert!
My permanently nerve-damaged knees know this quite well. Also, don't start a fight in a mosh pit, and don't get completely hammer-smashed drunk. That is exactly how shows/venues get shut down, ESPECIALLY small DIY, volunteer-run venues.
There's always this one huge dude who is too drunk to stand up and will just flail around like a frantic bulldozer, I f*****g hate that. Also, moshing is not punching, which I wish more people (usually guys just looking for an excuse to clock someone) knew this.
Load More Replies...A punk friend of mine in the 80s was at a show where some douchy bro was running around the mosh pit and slamming into people with his elbows sticking out. He didn’t get his *ss kicked, but when he tried to stage dive he threw himself into the crowd, arms out like he could fly, and the whole crowd separated and let him land on the concrete floor. So you don’t ALWAYS have to pick people up when they fall in a mosh pit. 🙂
I hate these types, there's always one of them in a pit who's just trying to hurt people.
Load More Replies...This should be higher! I was at Big Day Out in Sydney, AU when System of a Down we're playing and this was in their opening speech. To have these rockers say that and it's stuck with me for years! If someone needs your help, help them!
No mooshing no Mooshing thiasis not a Limp Bisquick concert. (SNL reference)
If you're sitting with a group watching tv and you get a phone call, get the f**k out of the room. If you sit there and talk you are a d**k.
That's not just for when you're watching TV; that's for EVERY public setting IMO.
And related (a relative) - Don't sit down in a room where other people are watching a movie / etc and start watching youtube videos IN SPEAKER MODE and then play the victim when it annoys the other people in the room.
OMG THIS. My living situation changed recently and now I'm back in my parents house. Both of them do this and it drives me INSANE. I already have issues with sensory overload but what they do is next level - Dad listening to an old radio show on one device while watching a Mojo video on another and Mom playing a CNN interview on her tablet, all in the same room, and pausing none of them. Add the Ring app and camera getting triggered every 10 minutes, setting the 6 dogs on a mission to out-bark each other and you start to get a feel for the complete cacophony that is this house.
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When someone says "Don't look now...but" you must immediately look with the most animated expression you can muster.
The initiator must then immediately reply with "I said don't look!" after everyone has clearly noticed you looking.
And loud enough because the ones 1 km away didn't noticed but now they do.
Load More Replies...My good friend ALWAYSSSSSSSSSSSS does this. Immediately after "don't look now" his neck turns into an owl neck and all you can do is look down or act like you haven't said a word to him. Countless times I've looked up and the person I was going to point out is staring right at us..
Why though? They say something and social convention dictates you must do the exact opposite? Why can’t they just say what they want you do? Humans confuse me 😕
Me too. Are you by chance ASD? I don't mean any offence by asking that, I just know that neurotypical people aren't confused by this as much as neurodivergent people are. Speaking as an ASD neurodivergent person.
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Don't f*****g interrupt people when they are speaking.
I sometimes have a problem with this that I always have to apologize for....like I'll be listening and then I wouldn't know if they paused or if I should interject then I'd say something an realize they weren't finished or I'd want to add something because it's an answer to what they're talking about but I don't know when to say it and end up blurting it out.
Everyone in my family has ADD/ADHD. We are all completely ok with interruptions and have a system we use to signal that we have something we'd like to say before we forget!
Load More Replies...That’s only half of the social contract. The other half is “come to your point and let someone else talk.” I also hear “he never talks - it creeps me out.” But maybe he’s just is too polite to break into your incessant braying.
This so much.. there are plenty of people who don't give you any chance to participate in the monologue.
Load More Replies..."The opposite of talking isn't listening. The opposite of talking is waiting." - Fran Lebowitz
Particularly over the phone, on a cold call! I hate phone calls enough as it is (social anxiety, among other issues), and I have ADD, so I lose my train of thought when interrupted and am annoyed at the interruption. How do grown a** adults think this is proper decent communication? Stop it!
I've recently moved out and I've found that since then when I talk to people I interrupt them more. Not sure if it's due to my lack of social interaction at home or something but I never used to interrupt people. Trying to get out of the habit!
As someone who leads a lot of group discussions and meetings I have to somewhat disagree. A surprising number of people will, once given an audience, talk unceasingly until the floor is littered with the desiccated carcasses of those who have succumbed to boredom while waiting for a break so they can respond. YMMV
if you don't have anything nice to say, say it in your head and remember it for later when you can tell people who will think it's funny.
Exactly. File those snarky comments for later so you can share them with your friends.
Maybe don't repeat it to anyone. Words are like litter. You never know where they'll end up if you throw it in the wind.
Great analogy and very sound advice. Thank you for being a voice of kindness and reason.
Load More Replies...I work in the service industry, and I still a mask. Mostly because I deal with so many customers a day, and I don't want to risk getting anyone sick. But like 10% of the time, I'm just saying "go f*ck yourself" to rude people, and they can't hear or see it!
Groucho Marx called this sort of thing "departee" - that is, repartee you make after you've left.
Even better if you don't have something nice to say, think of something nice and say that. I tell this to my second graders and I have had them come back and tell me that it's something that has served them well over time. Doing so, not only makes you more likable but also makes you more positive in general making your life better.
When did talking s**t behind people's backs become a recommended life skill? Hey miserable jerks who are saving up their bile for "friends;" Ya know what? Those friends that you love badmouthing others with, badmouth you as soon as you walk away. Better life advice, avoid s**t talkers and don't be one yourself. If an interaction leaves you with residual negativity; please share how you feel with a friend, but don't make relationships around judging, criticizing and bashing others. Thank you for coming to my TED talk.
And saying “I was taught not to say anything if I don’t have anything nice to say” Is NOT better than saying something not nice!!
Not real friends. Only ones that can't accept criticism
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Never make someone sorry they did something nice for you.
And if you ever do a favor to someone NEVER EVER, throw that to their face, if you do a favor, you do it and it " dies " there, you don't f*****g use it for leverage later, thats not a favor, thats a f*****g service.
Well sometimes you wish you could make people feel sorry they did something "nice" for you so they would stop trying to do this thing that they insist is helpful/nice while in fact it is the opposite (and you have politely told them not to do it).
Unfortunately you have to switch to the impolite way instead
Load More Replies...I put an old, but not horrible chair on the curb. Some one knocked on the door and asked if I had a matching footstool.
Ugh I can't help myself, I'm a textbook people pleaser as are many of us. At work (retail) I genuinely love working in customer service, the little interactions I have with customers and helping them find what they're looking for, even when they themselves didn't know at first is truly rewarding to me. But dealing with bad management is such a pain when you know they don't actually care about that stuff so long as you're "selling enough of this item at the till" or "collecting enough emails" from customers who want none of it. If you're not, then you might as well be considered useless to them. Oh well lol. At least the customers like me XD
"Don't F**k With Someone Who Handles Your Food"
@Zara, you see this? This tentacle used to belong to someone who could not keep his mouth shut about stealing some roach legs.
I put myself through college waiting tables. This rule isn't new. I even worked at a steak joint with an open kitchen. Trust me, even in plain sight, we have our ways and if you decided to be That Person™, then we're gonna be That Other Person™.
"Try not to cause an inconvenience to someone else."
The reasoning behind every legit rule can rely on that.
Regularly my legs, butt and lap go numb because I don't want to inconvenience my cat, who is curled up on my lap.
Try not to cause inconvenience to anyone else...unless you are a cat. Then you are duty-bound to do so.
Of course we are, you cute little soft can-opener, you.
Load More Replies...My mom raised me with this mantra but doesn't apply it to her life as much as she thinks she does. Instead she thinks I'm supposed to be a doormat for everyone. No matter what you're going to inconvenience someone, because that's what living in society is all about. Helping each other and going out of your way for people when necessary. Trying to please everyone and not thinking of yourself is a sure-fire way to fail everyone and yourself.
I don't know why there is a photo of a sleeping cat, but he is adorable. Reminds me of Ziggy, a cat my daughter brought back from college because the a******s that had him left him behind after graduation. The chillest cat ever. I miss him. We were buddies.
if you don't know the other guy, downward nod. If you are friends, upwards nod.
Downward nod: "Thanks." "Solidarity" "I understand." "How's it going?" and move on. Upward nod: "Hey, bud." "Hello, excuse me. I need you here." "Wassup!?" "What you got there?" "You wanna go?" "You got something to say?" "That's interesting. Let me see."
Here it's a little different...first person does and upward nod and the second person does the downward nod to acknowledge.
Don't forget to put your arms out too when doing the upward nod. Like George Lopez.
Never really thought about this but I guess I sort of do it that way. But I also try to temper it with what country I am in. Some, eye contact is courtesy, some it is rude. And in some crowded places it seems like mostly people would rather not be acknowledge, probably just because passing another person happens a bazillion times a day.
If you notice that someone has a visible booger protruding from their nose...quietly let them know so they don't embarrass themselves for the rest of the night. Same goes for ladies whose makeup may have gone awry.
So many folks dont do this and let whomever just go about their business with said booger hanging off them. I've stopped strangers in a mall letting them know their zipper is undone, or that poor waitress who's nipple was showing in a very busy bar and NO ONE told her!.. I puled her aside and said 'I'm not sure if you want it showing but.. ahem, your nipple is peeking out'...she was mortified as no it wasnt deliberate. (I thought maybe it could have been a ploy for more tips, one never knows)
I've heard that if it can be fixed in 5 minutes (booger, quick makeup fix, zipper undone) you should say something, if it takes longer (ugly outfit, acne, etc.) stay quiet, which makes sense
Also, toilet paper on your shoe, skirt stuck in your underwear... I've once worked 20min in a busy store at Christmas time, and only then did a customer - not a coworker! - tell me that my skirt had gotten caught in my leggings at my last toilet break.
Load More Replies...PLEASE tell a lady when her skirt, is tucked into her underwear. Saw a stranger in a store... walked behind her quickly...(while saying excuse me). She was so pizzed that her husband did not tell her as she walked out of the house that way.
Someone please tell this adorable cat that they have a piece of styrofoam on their noze.
And if there's something in their teeth, zipper down, unnoticed rip in clothing and for ladies, if the time of the month is its usual b****y self.
YES! I was trying a new eyeliner at work (dental office) and thanks to sweat and ppe, I worked all morning looking like I'd been punched in the eye. Nobody told me! I saw it when I used the bathroom and came out asking, "why didn't anyone tell me I look like a raccoon?!". My boss said, "I thought that's the look you were going for"
How did you apply this eyeliner without using a mirror? Wouldn't you have seen it then and fixed it?
Load More Replies...I alway always discreetly tell someone what s up- makeup, clothes out of placement, hair needs tweeking, something in their teeth and hope someone would tell me if they see an issue on me. When all dressed up, if I see another gal whose strapless dress isn't up high enough in the back and her bra is showing, I am definitely going to pull her dress up, covering her bra!
And this goes for someone you are dining with and they have broccoli in their teeth. Just politely let us know, just don’t be mean about it.
Your phone's microphone is right next to your mouth during normal use. Using your outdoor voice does not improve call clarity.
Someone please tell my Dad this. I can't get through to him. He is hard of hearing, but HE doesn't need to shout into the phone.
As someone with hearing issues please realize that we do not know how loud we are talking because we can't hear very well. It doesn't help that holding a phone to your ear can make your voice sound even more muffled to yourself. Be kind, and remember that the day is coming when you will be annoying to your children.
Load More Replies...My mom does this. She puts it on speaker phone and then practically yells into the microphone (again, while on speaker phone) while also attempting to insert the speaker end of the phone halfway into her mouth. It's wild to watch.
Most smartphones have a microphone that picks up and equalizes absolutely everything. I used to have frequent phone conversations with someone whose office was in the photocopier room. To her it was background noise, to me it sounded like a fully loaded 747 was taking off every time they made a copy. She never understood why I asked her to repeat herself all the time.
Perhaps there is a way to remind her that she may be used to that background noise, but the people she speaks to over the phone may not be. Also, that kind of horrible office layout should not be allowed to happen.
Load More Replies...Oo oo oo talking on speaker phone while the phone is up to your mouth. I understand of the headphone part could be dead but cmon all 90% of you have completely fine phones or headphones. I DON"T WANT TO HEAR WHAT JANE DOE DID TO JOHN DOE. Unless it's juicy info of course :).
It being "juicy" is exactly why I do not want to hear it. Don't assume everyone wants to know everything about you, people who talk on cellphones like this! I hate speakerphone conversations. It's always WAY too loud. And often garbled and glitchy. Misophonia AND phone calls suck as it is, let's not make them worse with speakerphone.
Load More Replies...I think many people are loud on the Phone today, because they hold the Thing like it was on speaker (horizontal from the mouth or sometimes The ear!! Have witnessed both so often!!) So they dont hear the other Person good enough and shouts in the mic. How did it come that so many people hold the Phone wrong??
Don't you know, it's gay to use a phone properly /s (just like it's "gay" to use reusable shopping bags) smh
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When you're a talkative person and someone that you're trying to chat up is only giving 1-word answers, stop talking to that person
This may not sound like me, but offline I don't say much. Please do talk to me all you want. If I'm not in the mood, I'll walk away.
One might say you're not in..... the headspace to talk?
Load More Replies...As an introvert, I will say this is mostly true, but sometimes I get anxiety talking to girls I like. They try to talk me, my brain quits working, and I can hardly speak. I want to keep talking, but my anxiety makes me almost mute. Online dating made things so much easier for me because I text an essay to someone, when irl I would just clam up
This is grossly over simplified and really favors the behavior of outgoing, talkative people. The idea that, if a person isn't responding with full sentences you should just move on is impatient, rude and exactly what people who can't shut up for a second and listen, do anyway. There are many reasons a person might not reply with full sentences: social anxiety, language barriers, ability and health issues are all reasons a great person might be hesitant to engage. But, no, all you loud, over-bearing talkers, just ignore those people you don't get instant validation and reassurance from and just talk to each other. I'm sure that will make your life sooooo much better.
Sometimes it depends on what those answers are. And I know many talkative people who are so considerate that they are always willing to relieve me of the burden of holding up my end of the conversation.
I figured this out in highschool lol. I'd usually ask if I'm boring the girl and if she should replied "Oh no!" then it's a definite yes..
Never touch buttons when in somebody's car. If you want to change the song or turn on the heater, ask the driver if it is OK to do so. They know how everything in their car works to ensure that no settings get f****d up.
passengers can do whatever they want in my car when I am driving. Climate and music wise
If you give them permission to, that is fine but the very much should not just assume.
Load More Replies...If I am driving, *DO NOT* touch my steering wheel. If you don't care about your own life, fine. Don't put mine at risk. I will pull over and let you out to find some other way to create chaos without me.
I would consider that presumptuous unless they were a regular passenger or family.
Whenever I have a passenger I tell them to feel free to change any of the settings (AC, seat, music, etc.) to make them feel more comfortable so they don't feel awkward asking
Everything that comes near a cat belongs to the cat, whether soft can-openers agree or not.
YES. A good friend and I joke about a third person who used to do this. Something on road makes stinky smell (diesel truck, skunk etc). Person immediately mashes all the buttons to shut off climate control. Does not appear to grasp the concept she is trapping the smell in the car and it would pass faster if she just let the air flow. Also doesn't seem to grasp it is not her F..n car.
There is only one person I let do this because he always make sound better
If you are my roommate, I don't mind sharing my sh*t with you - but do not use up all of something I bought, and then not tell me. Because when I go to make a sandwich and all my cheese is gone and I had no idea, I'm going to be really annoyed.
I can't imagine helping myself to someone else's food full stop, let alone helping myself, using the last of something and not replacing it.
If you borrow a stick of butter do not even think of replacing it with margarine.
And if you spill some down the side of the jar or bottle, wipe it off so it doesn't go sticky.
How can people just be OK with having left the jar of jam all sticky? Same with the dribbles on a bottle of dishsoap. I'm a pet sitter and stay at the pet owners home and when I go to do the dishes (Side Note: I really need to learn how to use dishwashers, it would save me so much time), I hate it when the bottle is all slimy and gross. I always clean it off for them because it annoys me so much. How do they not notice the goopy bottle? How does it not bother them? People confuse me.
Load More Replies...This is complicated. I plan our meals with what we'll have at home after we do our weekly shopping. If someone uses up all the bell peppers on Wednesday to put on their pizza, I can't make goulash on Thursday. My husband once used up our kohlrabi as a snack, thinking it'd go bad because nobody would eat it - it would have been the main ingredient of our lunch the next day... My point is: if one of you plans your meals, you should ask that person if stuff is available for "the public", and in any case, you shouldn't just raid anyone's fridge.
My daughter does that a lot. She usually leave just enough milk for a coffee instead of changing the bag. Edit: She also does that with cookies bags/boxes...
Are you Canadian? I don't know of anywhere else that has milk in bags. I live in BC and only remember one brief window of time in my childhood when we had milk in bags. I thought it was mostly an Ontario thing.
Load More Replies...This is a very very important rule that i have already taught my children (ages 10 and almost 7) if it's the last of something, ask to make sure no one else had wanted it, and if it's up for grabs, let me know you're eating/taking/using the last one/bit of it so i can get more.
Serious answer: Don't speak ill of someone's deceased friends or family.
Not-serious answer: Don't sit *right* next to me at a movie theatre when there's a ton of seats open. Go creep somewhere else, Mr.Herman.
EDIT: Americans don't have assigned seating in movie theaters, which apparently, many Europeans do.
More of our US theaters are getting assigned seating. I like that a lot, since I've had to get picky about where I sit based on my and my mother's mobility issues.
I love it because I don't feel the pressure to get there insanely early to get a good seat.
Load More Replies...But if they didn't like the deceased, don't come at them with that cliche. Not everybody is missed, some people are best 6 ft under, just because someone is (finally) gone, their victims still live with the damage they have caused.
Dead or alive, if there is reason to speak up about negative issues - it's on. A family member had been up to no good for decades and adversely affected the lives of a great many people. I totally believe she died just so no one would speak ill of her nasty dead @ss and expose all of her schemes and lies. It is my mission the rest of my life to tell everyone she hurt what the truth is.
I have a family member in a generally similar light. She swindled, lied, schemed, manipulated and scammed family and who knows who. The whole family knows but caused a rift between people. Some just were not ready to cut ties with that person and playing it neutral. Others have gone no-contact with them and moved on from the rest of the family. Others are disappointed and avoiding that person, and being cautious of speaking about the whole matter, not wanting to get too involved. Especially the younger generations. My advice is don't bother gossiping or saying anything if you want to continue having a good relationship with your family. I'm sure many of them have their own bad stories about her, and may know some of the things you went through without you realizing. Wait for them to ask you about her, and tread carefully.
Load More Replies...In Canada, we dont want to sit beside anyone we dont know so the movie theatre isnt usually a problem unless its crowded. We apologize and thank you for understanding, eh.
We really do like our space. We live in a spacious country, with tons of space to move about. We'll even get annoyed when groups of people get in our way when there's no one else around with ample room to go around. Just no need to crowd people unless there's no other choice. Even then, we're all seething until the crowd clears.
Load More Replies...Yer all welcome to speak ill of my deceased mother. She abused the hell out of me, mentally and emotionally, and manipulated the rest of the people around me growing up, to do the same. Still thinking about dumping her ashes, one cup at a time, into the toilet and taking a giant dump before flushing
Let me add to that, I was adopted, she chose to raise me
Load More Replies...There's a difference between a theatre and a cinema, and Europeans don't use those words intermittingly like North Americans do. Theatres are for live events and do have assigned seating with their ticket. Cinemas don't have assigned seating, except at IMAX.
Lol, cinemas in some European countries most definitely do have assigned seating. Moved from one of those to one where they don't have it, I miss being able to select my seat.
Load More Replies...We have assigned seating now, which is stupid. I still sit where I want to.
One of the many reasons I like PB, learning about different customs and practices
Really depends on who's friends and family. If I hate someone, really DJT level hate someone, I will ruthlessly attack their dead relatives. I'll go after their kids too. If I ever meet Trump, my exact words will be, "The booze killed the wrong brother".
Phone calls: If the call gets disconnected for ANY reason, the person who originally made the call should be the one to call back.
Hey, that's not why I 'a c c i d e n t a l l y' disconnected the call
Absolutely not! You should each try to call back creating a "connection battle". The victor then has the right to be the one to say, "Your reception is shite!"
Sometimes their phone dies. When it goes straight to voice mail I know that's the reason.
Well that is no good when you deliberately disconnected the call to avoid having to tell the caller you don't want to converse. :p
I use, "well, I'm gonna let you go..." to cut off the call. Usually works.
Load More Replies...Also, on the subject of phone calls, NEVER use speaker phone in a group of people unless everyone present is also a part of the conversation.
Also don't use speaker phone without telling the person on the other side of the call beforehand.
Load More Replies...My phone connection cuts off after 2 hours when I call my sister. I don't even remember who called by then.
You're supposed to hold the door when you walk in after someone. Not just leave them there to hold the door for the stampede of people after you. It's a pass-off deal.
I was taught to get the next door if there is one so that the previous holder had a door held for them.
Alternate holding open the door if there's multitude of people so the first person isn't just standing there forever.
My general rule is to not stop walking when holding the door open for someone. If they are too far away for it to be appropriate, door will be shut by the time they get there. If they are close enough, it's clear that you're not going to stand there holding the door open for everyone.
Look behind before closing a door. It's so silly to have the door closed at your face.
The last piece of gum in a pack is reserved for the owner of the pack.
Yep, when I smoked, was completely happy to take one if it's not the last. If it's the last cigarette, you have to make a big show of refusing to take it.
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Just open your f*****g can of soda/bag of chips. It will make noise no matter what; make it quick.
Sometimes, if you try and do it slowly, you can break off the tab and then you're screwed.
Load More Replies...Could be a variety of reasons, tbh. Some people look when they hear a loud, sudden noise because it's part of our survival instincts, I guess? Could also be if they have PTSD from a traumatic event/ childhood. And it could also just be because people are nosy and like to know what's going on; we're mostly social creatures :)
Load More Replies...this just triggered me lol my bf eats popcorn SO loudly in movie theaters it very much annoys me
This is a work related one.
Just because my office is closest to the printer, does not mean I am there to fix it for you or tell you how it works. I figured it out, so can you.
You can read the manual too they are online now no need to call the tech. Copier tech here.
At my office, it is the opposite. Never mess with the printer as everyone trying to fix it only makes it worse.
Tell them to call the Help Desk. There are people whose job it is to fix this stuff.
I know it's a stock photo but in my head I'm laughing at the thought of an office sitcom where the printer has a pay machine like shown in the photo.
Many offices do have a similar system. Though not as obstructive as shown. The printer won't print until you scan your work bagde. Several reasons: Some documents are classified - prevents snooping from an unauthorized employee. Eliminate wastefullness. Some people, for whatever reason, print tons of things yet never pick them up.
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When you know someone is unleashing a torpedo in the same public washroom and you are washing your hands, use the air dryer instead of paper towels.
It helps nervous people.
Or just leave with your hands still wet. Air Dryers have a universe of happy clingy bacteria on their own.
They're wet even if I use the drier, I don't have time to stand there having my hands blown on all day.
Load More Replies...I am not responsible for setting the mood for a stranger to drop a deuce
Nope, air dryers spread more germs on your hands, I'll stick with paper or air dry.
And do not hang around and check your teeth, your hair, your phone, your belly button, etc.. You have no idea who is holding in a wicked mean s**t that is at the ready to deploy hell on the porcelain throne..
Honestly, not my problem. I go to the toilet to do my business - I expect other people to do the same so there is bound to be noise. If I feel the need to check for random clingy boogers, too, I don't care for others' fart-noises. If the fart is bad enough, I WILL leave very quickly anyway.
Load More Replies...I use the air blower to help muffle me yelling, "OMG THAT STINKS! WHERE IS YOUR HUMANITY?! DO YOU EAT DEAD BABIES OR SOMETHING?" (just kidding.) Serious answer though - you can also help their nervousness by using a paper towel and leaving sooner so they are alone in the bathroom.
Better yet, turn the water on. I hate it when the hand dryers are on and blowing into the stall and up my nether regions. Feeling cold air in the middle of making a log makes it that much more difficult and uncomfortable.
Air drying never dry enough and they just blow germs all over the place.
Geez, this is not about the method of drying or amount of bacteria, it's about the air dryer making a lot of noise, covering embarrassing sounds from the person unleashing the tornado. It's about helping a friend in need, not having your head up your own butt...... and there's sanitizer if you worry about germs (do you remember to not touch door handles, shopping carts and other gross things?)
Refilling the Brita if you kill it.
Thars just sheer laziness if one cant refill.. like not refilling the toilet paper roll.. it literally takes seconds of ones life to do these things 😁
Refilling anything if you have used the last of it. Or throwing away the empties - leaving one last gulp or bite does not count either.
They can't. They are too busy not replacing the empty TP roll and leaving their clothing in the washer after it has stopped.
And building potential mold and mildew on their clothes. And forcing the other tenants (if in an apartment building with shared laundry facilities) to have to handle someone else's clothes (and getting upset when they walk in and see you moving it - then set a timer dingus! And go to the laundry room when the timer goes off!) when they just want to do their own laundry. Most people have cell phones that they have with them all the time. It is not that hard to set a timer to know when to move your laundry to the dryer or from the dryer to your apartment! That is something that really annoys me about my apartment building (one of many things I won't go into, as it would be a whole long thing). Is there a way to tell Siri to remind you to go get your laundry after half an hour (or however long it takes)? Can she be that specific? I only recently started using Siri and mostly just tell her to play such and such song.
Load More Replies...Genuine question what is a brita? (I don’t know either because I’m oblivious or American.. don’t know which it is in this case)
You must be oblivious because if you were American you would know what a Brita is.
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When in a busy place and walking at a leisurely pace, for f***'s sake, stay to the right. Or at least try to get single-file with the other dawdlers.
i tend to walk faster when i am stressed. signed, The Flash's secret identity.
Load More Replies...I think people tend to pass on the left in the UK, likely because we drive on the left. I really want to know if all countries' pedestrians tend to pass on the same side they drive.
In Australia, we stay on the left on foot and in cars, so i assume this is true.
Load More Replies...Most people instinctively walk on the same side of the street as they drive their cars. I.e right or left hand. In NZ we always know where tourists are from because they will try to force their way past you on their right. We walk and drive on the left. Often we just say "keep left" and smile hoping if they are driving here they remember that. 🙂
* Don't kill people.
* Don't eat people.
* Don't eat poop.
2 of those are definitely written, not unwritten rules. Cute pic, tho
"I do not kill people, that is my least favorite thing to do"
Load More Replies...Don't murder people...if they are trying to murder you, then do what you can to stop them, even if it means killing them...look up the difference between murder & killing...Though shall not murder - is the correct translation...
Give firm handshakes, please.
I often think there should be some 'instruction' on handshaking - some people never get it there entire lives.
Load More Replies...Not everyone has the ability to do this. Stop grabbing my hand and mauling it as though it's a test-your-strength device. That hurts.
And please accept the hands of those with skin disorders, such as ichthyosis. It's not contagious. Everyone sheds skin all day, every day. It's just more noticeable on us and we do use hand creams, lotions and ointments all the time. We try to be firm but we're also very self-conscious and we do notice the micro-movements in your face.
I've actually had guys compliment me on my handshake. I guess they didn't expect a firm shake from a woman.
I do, but because I'm a woman, many men make it a point to squeeze my hand hard enough to hurt me.
Don't eat a nature valley bar over my just-vacuumed carpet.
Those are so crumbly and messy.. .not a good idea to eat in a vehicle either..you'll be finding crumbs until the end of time.
Nobody ever told me this, but deep in my heart I feel I'm not supposed to lick strangers whom I like.
Does it count if you're a pup? Because I very much want to lick your cheeto hands please and thanks..
I mean, you can, but its indeed frown uppon, unless you live in the Sentinel islands......
I know this licking stuff in the comments is a joke but why is everyone obsessed with licking? I rarely lick things (outside of the normal/regular things people lick *not those things, thanks*)
Load More Replies...No you can . how else are they going to know you like them . You'll have to pee on their leg
Don't reply to texts with "K"
What if the text was 'What letter comes after "J" in the alphabet?', or 'Is it Mark with a "C" or a "K"?'
The let that comes after J is K, it's Mark with a K. It's just no one letter response like K, you can still do say stuff like that, but you can add more to it by saying it's with a k or something like that
Load More Replies...I've found that responding with "K" instead of "OK" can be perceived as passive/aggressive, and could be taken as that you are agreeing, just to agree...and being snarky about it.
I would be afraid I would accidentally type one to many.
Load More Replies...I might have to die on this hill. "Fine" doesn't have the same power when it's text but "K" does the job.
If you can avoid it, please stop touching me on the train. Stopstopstop.
That's something COVID hit the nail on the head for me, 6 feet is an appropriate distance for me anytime.
Always get your round of drinks. Don't be *that* guy. He's a d**k.
Always thank the bus driver.
Ketchup, mayonnaise and other sauces at the late night fast food establishment must be provided free of charge.
No eye contact on the tube.
Stand on the right of the escalator.
You can't go for a s**t in nightclubs. In the toilets or indeed anywhere else.
Try not to go for a s**t on National Express coaches or similar.
Queue properly.
When waiting to be served at the pub and the bar staff attempts to serve you before another patron who has been waiting longer, you must indicate you wish them to be served first with a slight tip of the head/hand gesture and a gruff 'him first mate/love'.
Don't eat a McDonalds/Burger King/chicken tikka masala pasty on a crowded/hot train.
If someone spills their pint on you in the pub, don't make a fuss. Instead laugh it off as that person might be you in 2 hours' time (this one is sometimes difficult but rewarding).
Don't be silly.
EDIT: Brain fart re: which side of escalator you stand on. 60 years ago that sort of mistake would out a man as a German spy.
I agree with most except the toilet, when you gotta go you gotta go. Everybody shits. Not everybody has the same capacity to hold their shits. Get over it all you holier than thou, I know you s**t too and will for the rest of your lives. When you get the inevitable runs at some point let's see how you feel about your stupid rules then. Having said that, keep it freak8ng clean and don't leaveparcels for others to deal with.
It's unhealthy and quiet excruciating to expect people to hold in their poop. That's the very purpose of a toilet. If you can't handle that people poop in public toilets then you shouldn't go out of your home for too long.
Wait... Are you telling someone who had the idea to pick up food on their way to work that they shouldn't be allowed to eat it? Are you just starving all day long and can't stand the smell of someone else's food because you're mental?
It's also interesting how people stand in elevators. In some countries I saw locals standing against walls and all facing the centre, in others everyone facing the door. How is it where you live, pandas?
Face the door. Great fun when there are doors on both sides and you don't know which one is going to open.
Load More Replies...No eye contact? Weird. And if you gotta go #2 and can't wait until you get home, then use whatever facility is available. Beats having to wear the brown pants.
If you're looking at people and get caught, quickly be very interested in the advert above their head.
Load More Replies...If you accidentally knock someone else's drink over in a bar or club always buy them a replacement.
Don't talk to the pitcher in the latter stages of a no-hitter
Instead spend your time doing your job and helping him get a no-hitter. (In the spring of my senior year of high school, I achieved twenty-seven strike-outs in a row. So I ended up not going to the prom.)
If you own a luxury car, you can't put bumper stickers on it.
I have a coexist sign (windshield not bumper) but my car is far from a luxury vehicle. Lol
F this, and F gatekeepers. I have a 1979 Camaro, and people are always telling me that I'm ruining the value of it because I put the product stickers over spots with bad paint. The Race car guys always want to say that I shouldn't put the sticker on because I don't go to the track. I feel like I should be able to put them wherever I want. I bought the part to fix up my car, I installed it, and you're complaining because the car I have owned and driven for 20 years doesn't fit your "ideas" of what my car should be?
I have a 20-year-old bright blue Volkswagen Eurovan. It's covered in stickers/decals XD
I bet all these bumper stickers came from the website Northern Sun. My kind of place.
The picture is NOT showing a luxury car - still sad to have it plastered with stickers!
If you're a guy and walking beside a male friend and you brush his hand, do not look at him or say anything just act like nothing happened.
Alternatively, look him in the eyes and hold his hand and continue walking. Lol
It's awkward, and some guys are paranoid that something will make them look gay.
Load More Replies...If me and my bff/heterosexual life mate have something like that happen, we either hold hands and swing them so hard you will get the other to miss a step, or we look each other in the eye and declare a thumb war!
I'd like to add my mottos. 1. Never assume anything. 2. Never force anything. 3. Manners cost nothing. 4. Do no harm.
Don't start a conversation with "I hope you don't mind me saying ....." because I can guarantee I will mind.
I hope you don't me saying but I like your surname. It reminds me of my kid asking for bussy bussy (kiss, kiss) when he was almost 2 years old.
Load More Replies...If a woman of any age, color or size asks you for a sanitary supply, you give her one, free of charge. Sisters gotta look out for each other.
It's a nice thought yeah, but why can't men have the same treatment? Lol
Load More Replies...TELL SOMEONE IF SOMEBODY HAS A PERIOD STAIN!!!! NO MATTER WHO THEY ARE!
If a child offers you imaginary tea, coffee, snacks or anything edible/drinkable, you take it and you enjoy it.
When using shared or public laundry facilities it is perfectly ok to empty a washer or dryer as long as the cycle is done and you place them on a flat clean surface.
Just because you hate that a female celebrity looks like they've had cosmetic surgery, do not go on their social media pages and talk about how awful you think they look. For one, if you're a male it just makes you look like a misogynist. If you're a female, it makes you look like you hate other women. And the celebrity doesn't care what you think anyway. My rule of thumb is when I feel like I need to tell someone off, I write them the nastiest email ever. I may even work on it for an hour. When I'm satisfied with my email, I delete it. Nasty emails only cause drama and chances are the recipient won't even care. This way, I get it off my chest and the drama never ensues.
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Load More Replies...Please do not watch videos on speaker on your phone in public. Seriously so annoying. I was sitting at the bar after work and dude was watching Seinfeld full volume at the bar. Wear headphones or watch it at home. He was 20ft away and I could hear ever word.
I'd like to add my mottos. 1. Never assume anything. 2. Never force anything. 3. Manners cost nothing. 4. Do no harm.
Don't start a conversation with "I hope you don't mind me saying ....." because I can guarantee I will mind.
I hope you don't me saying but I like your surname. It reminds me of my kid asking for bussy bussy (kiss, kiss) when he was almost 2 years old.
Load More Replies...If a woman of any age, color or size asks you for a sanitary supply, you give her one, free of charge. Sisters gotta look out for each other.
It's a nice thought yeah, but why can't men have the same treatment? Lol
Load More Replies...TELL SOMEONE IF SOMEBODY HAS A PERIOD STAIN!!!! NO MATTER WHO THEY ARE!
If a child offers you imaginary tea, coffee, snacks or anything edible/drinkable, you take it and you enjoy it.
When using shared or public laundry facilities it is perfectly ok to empty a washer or dryer as long as the cycle is done and you place them on a flat clean surface.
Just because you hate that a female celebrity looks like they've had cosmetic surgery, do not go on their social media pages and talk about how awful you think they look. For one, if you're a male it just makes you look like a misogynist. If you're a female, it makes you look like you hate other women. And the celebrity doesn't care what you think anyway. My rule of thumb is when I feel like I need to tell someone off, I write them the nastiest email ever. I may even work on it for an hour. When I'm satisfied with my email, I delete it. Nasty emails only cause drama and chances are the recipient won't even care. This way, I get it off my chest and the drama never ensues.
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Load More Replies...Please do not watch videos on speaker on your phone in public. Seriously so annoying. I was sitting at the bar after work and dude was watching Seinfeld full volume at the bar. Wear headphones or watch it at home. He was 20ft away and I could hear ever word.
