There are certain things in life that should just go without saying: Don’t leave empty containers in the fridge. If you see someone trip while they’re walking, just avert your eyes and pretend you didn’t see a thing. Never comment on another person’s weight or say anything negative about their appearance. And please, say please and thank you!
There are plenty of rules that our parents instilled in us as children that we’ll never forget, but we didn’t all learn the same rules. So we’ve gone through a couple of Reddit threads where people shared the unwritten rules of life that they think everyone should be living by, to help you pandas, or anyone else out there, who might want to adopt some of these philosophies.
From social etiquette we should all know to phrases you’re obligated to say when you see an adorable dog, this list is all about life’s little silent rules. Be sure to upvote the rules you agree with, and let us know in the comments any others that you’d like to add to the list. Keep reading to also find an interview we were lucky enough to receive from Jeff Leitner, founder of Unwritten Labs, and then if you’re interested in checking out another Bored Panda article discussing unspoken rules everyone should know, look no further than right here!
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If a child waves, you wave back. If a child says hello, you say hello back. If a child calls you on an imaginary hand-telephone, you take the call on your imaginary hand-telephone.
To gain more insight on the topic of life’s unspoken rules, we reached out to Jeff Leitner, founder of Unwritten Labs, which studied unwritten rules from 2018 to 2021. First, we were curious how Jeff defines unwritten rules and where his fascination for them came from. “There are two ways to explain what unwritten rules are — the technical, wonky way and the easy-to-understand way,” he told Bored Panda. “The wonky way is this: Unwritten rules are powerful, informal suggestions about how we should behave and what we should do to succeed in social environments.”
“The friendlier version is this: Unwritten rules are the ways we know we’re supposed to behave when we’re with other people, so they don’t give us dirty looks or stop being friends with us,” Jeff explained. “In families, unwritten rules are things like ‘Don’t air our personal business with outsiders’ or ‘Always defend your siblings.’ With friends, unwritten rules are things like ‘We don’t date each other’s exes’ or ‘We stop each other from doing stupid things.’ At work, unwritten rules are directives like ‘Don’t leave the office if your team is on a deadline’ or ‘Always defer to colleagues with more seniority.’”
Be kind to people that are working. Food staff, medical staff, etc. Don’t take your bad day out on someone else.
That just because someone is family, doesn't mean they're a good person
“I got interested in unwritten rules when a colleague and I were trying to figure out how to solve big social problems, like hunger and homelessness,” Jeff shared. “We saw that our society has everything it needs to solve those problems, but that social norms (which are unwritten rules at scale) were getting in the way. After that, I got interested in a few related ideas, like how all organizations actually run on unwritten rules.”
Never make fun of someone else's laugh, be it how they sound or how they look. Laughing is the most natural expression of joy and happiness and for someone to feel self-conscious about that because of other's comments is so brutal
I live by this rule I made after thinking about things late at night.
If someone does something that makes them happy and confident. If it doesn't hurt them or anyone else, animals included. Then leave them alone, let them do that thing. Let them be happy.
We were also curious if Jeff agrees with many unwritten rules or if he thinks we should view them critically and question them. “As weird as they can be, unwritten rules actually keep our organizations, families, and societies together,” he noted. “Think about it — when was the last time you read the employee handbook at work? Maybe when you first started, if your company even has an employee handbook? No, you know how to behave at work — who to be nice to, who to avoid, how to do your work — based on hundreds of unwritten rules you picked up by watching your colleagues.”
“Now that isn’t to say that there aren’t unwritten rules that get in our way," Jeff added. "We’ve all done stupid things because of peer pressure, which is essentially unwritten rules on steroids."
If someone asks for a tampon/pad and you have one to give, you give it to them. Even to a stranger
If they will cheat *with* you, then they will cheat *on* you.
“As for questioning unwritten rules, good luck with that,” Jeff told Bored Panda. “Most of the time, we’re following them unconsciously. We’re so accustomed to watching everybody for social cues and then doing what they do that we’re generally unaware we’re doing it — hundreds of times a day. And research has shown that we don’t like the idea that we’re responding to social pressure and unwritten rules. We’d rather believe that we’re strong-minded individualists — even if we’re really not.”
You must say "oooo big stretch" when a dog starts stretching. It's the law
When it comes to unwritten rules Jeff considers beneficial, he shared that he likes rules that tell us not to “punch down”, or pick on people who have less power than us. “If you think about it, there aren’t really written rules that prohibit bullying. We count on unwritten rules to tell people not to do it,” he explained.
“I don’t like the unwritten rules that tell us to ‘stay in your lane’,” Jeff added. “I think we defer way too much to so-called experts, who just keep doing things the way they were taught to do them. If we could somehow get rid of those unwritten rules, I suspect we could spark a lot of new ideas and solve a bunch more problems.”
Don’t have strong opinions about something you know nothing about
Don’t put your music on speakers when in a public space. It’s not like everyone wants the same genre or was in the mood for music. Get your headphones.
Dude was blasting from a bluetooth boombox down the street at 7am on a Saturday when everyone was trying to sleep. Found him to be the epitome of rude. Besides, it's cold out, so headphones are like magical earmuffs.
Horrible people wont always be punished for hurting others and it sucks
the rich won't be punished. the powerful won't be punished. This is why we have assassinations in this world. Because there is only justice for the middle class. The poor will never see justice till inequality is eliminated.
Jeff also touched on how the unwritten rules in a workplace might not be clear to everyone. He noted that it’s common for, within a company, an employer to not know the unwritten rules of their employees. “There are a couple of reasons for that. One, the unwritten rules don’t really apply to them,” he explained. “Bosses tend not to be as vulnerable to having fellow employees irritated with them. Two, some of the unwritten rules actually function as tips on how to work around the boss — how to stay on their good side, how to get the best projects, or how to get promoted.”
If you're borrowing it for a third time, you need one of your own.
I've always thought that subdivisions or apartment complexes etc should have a place where you can check out 'occasional' items. When you don't need things on a regular basis (small kitchen appliances, tools, etc, you'd be able to check them out from a library of items. It would be a solution to needing more square footage for things you almost never use.
Your mental health isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.
Don’t leave your shopping cart in the middle of the grocery aisle!
So how much power do life’s unwritten rules wield? “In short, unwritten rules are crazy, crazy powerful,” Jeff says. “Unwritten rules — the ones we’re aware of and the many, many ones we’re not aware of — have much more to do with how we behave than anything else. They are more powerful than written rules, our individual instincts, and our horoscope.”
“We’ve been wired to process unwritten rules for at least 200,000 years, long before we invented language. And while getting kicked out of the tribe isn’t fatal like it was back then, our biology and psychology still take unwritten rules really, really seriously.”
If you’d like to learn more about Jeff’s Unwritten Labs project, be sure to visit its website right here. And then if you’d like to learn more about Jeff's other work and read some of his writing, you can find his website right here.
Not everybody is your friend, be careful who you vent to. Many people only want juicy gossip and don’t give a s**t about you or your problems
Yep, I thought I could vent to someone but they ended up turning back at me and now have everything I said to them
It never hurts to compliment somebody on the quality of their work, their hobbies and whatever field is most important to their self esteem. It always goes a long way.
YES. I try my hardest to figure out what people like doing and compliment them on it because whenever someone says I'm good at what l do, it's a huge self esteem boost.
There is absolutely no shame in going to therapy or talking to someone about your mental health.
Sometimes, it feels like life would be so much simpler if everything was just spelled out for us. And while that might become incredibly boring over time, we can experience a little bit of it right here for the next few minutes, by reading through this collection of life’s unspoken rules. Keep upvoting the rules you agree with and try to abide by yourself, and feel free to share any more rules for a better life in the comments below. Then if you’d like to dive even deeper into life’s unspoken rules, you can find another Bored Panda article on the same topic right here!
Before you enter and elevator, LET OTHER PEOPLE OUT FIRST GODDAMNIT!
Social media isn’t reality
Social media brings out the worst in people. Such a fake place. Sadly many believe what they see on social media and to become as the "influencers" they follow
If you saw someone stealing formula, diapers or food, no you didn't
Actually stealing is stealing. Motives might vary, but it is still stealing. Imagine you having a shop. I haven't eaten for 10 days. I come in and steal bread and cheese. Would you still say "I didn't see that'? What you can actually do if you see something like that happening is trying to help that person, because next time they steal things they might get caught and detained. How you can help? Offer to buy those products for them. Put them in touch with NGOs that help people in need. Put them in touch with social workers that can help them.
Don’t ask for somebody else’s opinion and get mad when they tell it to you.
Yes I told my old friend I didn’t like Taylor Swift and she got mad and said ‘you don’t have to tell people you don’t like her, it doesn’t make you cooler’ like geez, I’m just saying my opinion, plus no one asks you to talk about how much you love her all the time There have been so many times when people ask me what I think then tell me my opinion is wrong or something and it makes me really mad
Do not swipe left or right if someone shows you a photo on their phone.
That’s my mom. I always hold the phone firmly while showing her something.
When driving a car, don't be nice, be predictable. People being nice leads to a s**tload of accidents.
There should be something to help make it predictable when a driver wants to make a turn...some kind of signal, perhaps
One easily used by simply employing a lever would be ideal!
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That’s exactly the point: on your phone, you’re unpredictable to other road users. And therefore dangerous
Load More Replies... Exactly. Don't ask for favors and don't give favors. Waving someone through the intersection when they want to make a turn across traffic is asking for trouble. There are reasons for all the right-of-way rules. You wave him through, there's a collision, guess what - he's at fault because he didn't have the right of way.
Also, don't make assumptions about what other drivers are doing. Just because they have their turn signal on, doesn't mean they're turning.
and a green light means it is ok to go - not that it is safe to go
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USE BLINKERS AND ALSO DONT DRIVE WITH UR BLINKER ON IF YOU DONT NEED IT
Meh! depends. I do both. I think I get what OP is saying but there is room for both. But don't be that person who hesitates like a deer in the headlights and then after waiting for the other person suddenly lurches forward etc. Related - the YIELD sign when entering a roundabout is NOT A STOP SIGN! haha
Well, where I live, the first 5 seconds of a red lights seem to only be a suggestion, so it's predictable that someone will run the light. Wouldn't it be nice if people recognized the red light as law and a very good safety device and actually stopped. In this case, I'd rather have nice.
No lie, people trying to "let people out" across a 4 lane highway. Dude, I can't see what's coming in the other lane because your SUV is blocking my sight.
YES. I absolutely HATE it when cars stop or wait for me (a pedestrian) where that's not part of the rules. When that happens I always stubbornly look the other way (feeling uneasy and pressured, I might add) until they move the hell on. This is seriously my number one pet peeve in traffic, and yes, I am aware that I am probably being very rude. Sorry. In my defense though, it only happens sporadically now, because I make it a point to hide the fact that I wish to cross the road until a convenient moment forms.
I do that too, because the person that's stopping and waving you across is nice and all, but on a 2 lane street the other lane has to stop too for it to matter. Guess what? They don't stop.
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One of my favorite motorcycle safety instructors always told us "Don't be where you're not expected", everyone drives somewhat on autopilot since you can't have your head on a swivel or predict every unpredictable action around you, so -- don't be the person who forgets to cancel his turn signal and everyone thinks they're safe to pull out in front of, or go much faster than the traffic flow, or slower than the traffic flow, Don't stop unexpectedly, don't slow down in a traffic flow to scan for your turn (pull over and figure it out when you're not moving). The list is endless, and most people simply do not realize they're doing these things which increase their potential for an accident.
This goes out to those people who SLAM on the brakes when they suddenly see somone waiting at a crosswalk.
In several US states, including some "Deep Red" ones, laws have recently been passed that fine people for not using their turn signals, and/or, not using them in a timely and correct fashion.
If you are on a highway, you have the right of way over the people entering. They should try to match the speed of the traffic. Don't slow down for them. No one behind you is ready for that.
Like your interpretation of "nice". Think I'll use "predictable from now on.
If you're approaching a light, and you're NOT turning right, GTFO of the right lane for those of us who ARE! Also, you're not smart or cute zipping past everyone in line due to a closed lane & try to get in ahead of us who waited out turns from waaaaaaay back when the sign told us. I will NOT let you in, and nobody else should either.
You mean when the person in the left turn lane turns right - across four lanes.
Truck driver here. We have a saying, "Don't be nice, be precise."
I am a nice driver. What makes me incredibly angry is when you give people a break & they don't take it. At times you can read their lips, complaining on their phone that traffic is heavy & nobody is letting them out. I've seen multiple drivers try to let them out but their complaining on the phone has them too distracted.
I can't tell you how often I've yielded the right of way to someone who has it, only to have them stop and wave me on. I wave them on BECAUSE THEY HAVE RIGHT OF WAY, they wave me on, and all it does is hold up traffic.
My father always told me "When you're driving ALWAYS expect other drivers to be careless, brash bearing, ruthless or just stupid. You *have to* drive accordingly to that." That in mind... saved me from a lot of accidents.
My brother in law,use to live in new york city. He said you need to really aggressive or passive,no middle.
The same goes with walking and cycling. Sudden changes in speed or direction lead to accidents, no matter if they were made to be considerate!
In my country people driving an Opel Agila are predictable as being "nice drivers"
Turn on your headlights when it's snowing. I'm talking to you asshole with the white truck.
The quicker you accept that life isn't fair, the better.
There is a major difference between "life is not fair" and "people are not fair". The first one is just a condition of how the world works, the second one is a consequense of someone's decitions. The issue with "life is not fair" is that people often abuse that sentence to justify their own crappy behaviour, when in fact they could do things differently and generate a more fair outcome. Though life is not fair, there are still a lot of measures we could take to compensate for the effect of this fact. E.g. though illnesses like cancer does not strike everbody equally, but involves huge element of luck, we can still do a lot to lessen the spread in the effect it has on people's lives through means like universal healthcare. We're not completely without influence on how our lives evolves -we can change a lot of things based on how we structure our own lives, or, on a greater level, the societies we build. Not using that option but just saying life is not fair, is not the best we can do.
You are the person you spend the most time with. Be someone you like.
That nothing will come from making someone feel horrible about themselves.
Under promise and over deliver. People will think you are a genius.
Buy a plunger before you need a plunger
If someone does something unintentionally embarrassing or awkward you pretend it didn't happen and if they look at you you just smile and look away.
If someone has headphones in public do not go talk to them. Unless someone is dying and you need their help, LEAVE THEM
As the person wearing headphones, this. I have to be nice and make small talk all day as part of my job. Headphone time is me time, and you making me miss the chorus to make more small talk is not helping.
Surround yourself with people who will mention your name in a room full of opportunities.
If you borrow someone's car... fill up the tank before you return it.
Never cheap out on something between you and the ground. Never cheap out on a bed and shoes.
You spend 1/3 of your life sleeping, a good quality sleep is everything. Good shoes can mean the difference between an 8hr shift vs a 12hr shift.
I’m old.
Admit when you've done something wrong.
Trust your gut.
Nobody thinks as much about you as yourself.
Be kind. Don't be an a*****e.
If you need help and it is available, ask for it, take it.
Just because you apologize doesn't mean the other party has to forgive and forget.
Always leave an area better than you found it
If you're on public transport and you see a pregnant woman or elderly person standing you give them your seat
If you don't understand something someone is telling you, say so instead of pulling an "opinion" on the topic out of your a*s. There is no shame in not knowing or understanding something. Refusing to admit you don't know and by extension refusing to learn something new because your ego is hurt is gravely misguided, however.
It is a delicate balance though. There are such things as "you should have known by now" and e.g. exposing that you have failed to learn how to tie you shoes in first grade and have never cought up on the skill since, says alot about either your abilities to learn or your attitude and efforts. It may end up costing you a lot on the respect front and your relationship with other people may suffer as a consequense. However in most cases owning up to you lacking abilities and taking the actions to correct a wrong, can be the best thing you can do for "future you".
It can always get worse, it can always get better.
Your best friend may not consider you their best friend
The concept of a "best friend" is very primary-school. Friends come and go according to geography and circumstances. Enjoy the ones you are with.
Life is too hard to be anyone except yourself. If you're not sure who you really are, try to find out as early as you can on your own terms because otherwise you'll still find out, just probably in some really tough times
life constantly changes and you have to adapt to it. That means that you will discover sides of yourself at the different stages of life, that you can have a hard time imagining before you get some concrete experiences to hang them on. E.g. most people that end up divorsing their spouse probably did not see that one comming when they said yes at the church, and thought that the feelings they had at that time would last forever. But things happens and people change with time.
Life isn’t a TV show or a movie. Things won’t happen because “they’re meant to happen”. Sometimes you’ve got to create your own luck.
Praying achieves nothing. Get off your a*s and get the ball rolling.
You can be wrong. It isn't a bad thing, either. And when you are wrong, acknowledge it, and learn from it, you don't need to dig down in your beliefs to try and comfort yourself because you can't handle not being right all the time.
DON’T USE THE URINAL IN YOUR DREAM! You’ll thank me later.
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Just because someone is of a higher status than you doesn’t mean that you’re below them as a human being. Stand your ground even when you think you’re wrong or if you think your opinion might be worth less.
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Fighting as an adult doesn’t make you look cool, it makes you look stupid.
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Don’t desperately look for love, but also don’t ignore it.
You need to specify that you mean fist fighting. I have been fighting my local council for years over their rotten decisions. And where would the world be if Ukraine did not fight Russia, or if the Allies had backed down from fighting Hitler? Sometimes fighting is the right thing to do.
If you have to cancel on a friend, it should be your responsibility to reschedule
Unless it is a chronic issue, let someone cancelling slide. An introvert may not have the energy to cope with the world today, a mother can just be too exhausted, or the barista at the coffee house finally got the courage to ask out their favorite customer. We are friends for who we are not for what we do. However, someone who chronically flakes and doesn't say why shows the friendship is one sided.
Leave it in a better condition than you found it.
And return it right away when you’re done with it. Don’t make the person you borrowed it from have to go on a scavenger hunt to get their stuff back.
Don't ask for something if the person only has one left.(Gum, cigarette, piece of cake etc.)
Life actually sucks a lot of the time. If you expect to be happy all the time, you will be sorely disappointed and lost. Instead, work up a resilience to the hard times and take your time to enjoy the good times.
Never trust anyone who proclaims to have answers to unanswerable questions. ie: what happens after you die.
Your muscles relax. Your muscles loosen immediately after death, releasing any strain on your bowel and bladder. As a result, most people poop and pee at death. Your skin may also sag, making it easier to see your bone structure beneath. Your temperature drops Your blood gets pulled downward Your body stiffens. A few days after death, your body’s tissue breaks down, causing the stiff parts to relax again. There is always room for facts.
Escalators - right side is for riding, left side is for walking.
If you lack confidence, fake it. Constantly. After a while you won't have to fake anymore.
Nah, some of the most dangerous people are the idiots with a huge level of confidence. Know your skill level and your limits, and say it if you don't think you can manage a task and get the help needed. That will result in a much better outcome than just confidently start doing something you simple cannot, and paying the price of failing (this price can in some cases be you life). Most people are tired of those fake persons they run into (consultants, salespeople etc.) who project that they can do anything and promises the world, only to be trapped and discover too late that the overpromised and underdelivered. Being honest about what you can do, and what you cannot, can be vertue. It makes you relatable and people tend to trust someone who knows that they are flawed, and works around it and learn, more than those who send out a signal that they think they are the best person in the world at everything (no one can do this, the world is simply too big for you to have enough time).
If someone asks you a question, finish what you’re saying with, “what about you?”
Enjoy noticing how many people actually don’t do this.
You have a choice at every instance of your life. Sure each choice has its own consequence but again it is a choice. Whether you take a decision or not, it is also a choice.
One thing I have learned in a long business career is that doing nothing is always an option. And just occasionally it's actually the best option.
Never talk about how easy something was to get done whether it be a school assignment, task at work, or just something like a hobby of yours. You never know who you’re putting down around you.
Thank you to whoever wrote this. Not only is this humorous, but it’s great for those on the autism spectrum—like myself—who don’t really get those sort of social rules easily.
Park between the lines, and if you can't fit in a spot because your car is too big, part at the end of the lot furthest from the building. It's not my fault you drive a huge truck with a snowplow on the front. Don't make me walk the length of the parking lot, or risk getting into an accident when I pull out of the spot next to you because I can't see anything! (There's nothing wrong with owning a big truck. Even if you're not using for anything but picking up groceries. If that's what you like to drive, good for you. But don't make everyone else suffer because it's too big to fit into the spot at Walmart.)
I fully agree. I always parked my plow truck out at the end of parking lots when I still had it. I was afraid of someone hitting the plow and now I'm to blame.
Load More Replies... If you are standing and someone starts to walk around you, STAY PUT. They've already plotted their course and chances are good you're just getting back in their way again. Also, doorways and the entry/exit to an escalator are terrible places to stand.
I had this happen to me in a grocery store yesterday afternoon. The woman was in front of me walking in the door and then stopped to check her phone and just stood there for a few minutes and I wasn’t sure if she was going to move or if I had room to squeeze around her (I did, but I was hoping she would be more aware of her surroundings and the fact that other people would need to get past). She also moved around in the store in a way that meant she kept being in my way. I have social anxiety and don’t always know how to/feel comfortable telling a stranger that I need to get past them.
Load More Replies... I have one. If you expect people to always just know what you’re thinking or want, without giving them any clue about it, you’re going to have an unhappy life. People are NOT mind readers, we’re not always in sync with you. F*****g TELL us what you want, instead of making us guess. We truly don’t want to guess wrong, believe me. But if we do, don’t hold it against us if you didn’t give us some clues. This can also be considered abusive, as the person expecting people to read their minds has the power to say whether they guessed correctly, and can use that as an excuse to make them feel like they can never please you. If you’re a person like that, then you can go f**k yourself. People only put up with that b******t for so long, before they desert your a*s and find someone kinder and easier to live with.
My addition would be to don't regret where you are in life or what you may/may not have done. You can't change the past, you are alive now and can make a better future. Regret is wasted energy.
kinda' like worrying. it's like a rocking chair: gives you something to do but gets you nowhere
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The one about seeing someone stealing diapers, whatever....how in the world would one even know that was going on if they were minding their own business and doing their own shopping? Unless one is store security and is watching someone because they suspect theft, no one has any right to make any accusations. I worked store security in two different big box stores, two of the largest in the USA, and we could only watch, not approach, no matter where the customer put the items. They could NOT be accused of theft until they were outside the first set of inner doors!
Shopping at my local favorite grocery store last week, which has narrow aisles, of course; two elderly women standing smack in the middle of the main aisle, one of them yapping on and on, and everyone having to either say "excuse me" very loudly (her voice carried from the back of the store where she was all the way to the registers at the front), or we had to take a detour. Old bat (I'm 70, she was much older) got ticked off when I came back through a second time, and she told her friend that "people are certainly rude in here, aren't they? Management ought to do something about these people who are crowding the aisle!" I'm a septuagenarian, officially considered "old" now, but I will not stop in the middle of any place others have to get through, especially not to yammer away about nothing at all to someone who looked desperate to get away from that battleaxe!
But where I'm at in Philadelphia people steal formula to sell for drugs just so you know
Yeah, and even if they needed the products. That's still not fair, (as the typical internet standard, every businesses being "evil"), at least think about the employees. They might loose their jobs, their HONEST JOBS, because missing items.
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Mya Anjalou said it best," When people show you who they are, believe them."
Thank you to whoever wrote this. Not only is this humorous, but it’s great for those on the autism spectrum—like myself—who don’t really get those sort of social rules easily.
Park between the lines, and if you can't fit in a spot because your car is too big, part at the end of the lot furthest from the building. It's not my fault you drive a huge truck with a snowplow on the front. Don't make me walk the length of the parking lot, or risk getting into an accident when I pull out of the spot next to you because I can't see anything! (There's nothing wrong with owning a big truck. Even if you're not using for anything but picking up groceries. If that's what you like to drive, good for you. But don't make everyone else suffer because it's too big to fit into the spot at Walmart.)
I fully agree. I always parked my plow truck out at the end of parking lots when I still had it. I was afraid of someone hitting the plow and now I'm to blame.
Load More Replies... If you are standing and someone starts to walk around you, STAY PUT. They've already plotted their course and chances are good you're just getting back in their way again. Also, doorways and the entry/exit to an escalator are terrible places to stand.
I had this happen to me in a grocery store yesterday afternoon. The woman was in front of me walking in the door and then stopped to check her phone and just stood there for a few minutes and I wasn’t sure if she was going to move or if I had room to squeeze around her (I did, but I was hoping she would be more aware of her surroundings and the fact that other people would need to get past). She also moved around in the store in a way that meant she kept being in my way. I have social anxiety and don’t always know how to/feel comfortable telling a stranger that I need to get past them.
Load More Replies... I have one. If you expect people to always just know what you’re thinking or want, without giving them any clue about it, you’re going to have an unhappy life. People are NOT mind readers, we’re not always in sync with you. F*****g TELL us what you want, instead of making us guess. We truly don’t want to guess wrong, believe me. But if we do, don’t hold it against us if you didn’t give us some clues. This can also be considered abusive, as the person expecting people to read their minds has the power to say whether they guessed correctly, and can use that as an excuse to make them feel like they can never please you. If you’re a person like that, then you can go f**k yourself. People only put up with that b******t for so long, before they desert your a*s and find someone kinder and easier to live with.
My addition would be to don't regret where you are in life or what you may/may not have done. You can't change the past, you are alive now and can make a better future. Regret is wasted energy.
kinda' like worrying. it's like a rocking chair: gives you something to do but gets you nowhere
Load More Replies... The one about seeing someone stealing diapers, whatever....how in the world would one even know that was going on if they were minding their own business and doing their own shopping? Unless one is store security and is watching someone because they suspect theft, no one has any right to make any accusations. I worked store security in two different big box stores, two of the largest in the USA, and we could only watch, not approach, no matter where the customer put the items. They could NOT be accused of theft until they were outside the first set of inner doors!
Shopping at my local favorite grocery store last week, which has narrow aisles, of course; two elderly women standing smack in the middle of the main aisle, one of them yapping on and on, and everyone having to either say "excuse me" very loudly (her voice carried from the back of the store where she was all the way to the registers at the front), or we had to take a detour. Old bat (I'm 70, she was much older) got ticked off when I came back through a second time, and she told her friend that "people are certainly rude in here, aren't they? Management ought to do something about these people who are crowding the aisle!" I'm a septuagenarian, officially considered "old" now, but I will not stop in the middle of any place others have to get through, especially not to yammer away about nothing at all to someone who looked desperate to get away from that battleaxe!
But where I'm at in Philadelphia people steal formula to sell for drugs just so you know
Yeah, and even if they needed the products. That's still not fair, (as the typical internet standard, every businesses being "evil"), at least think about the employees. They might loose their jobs, their HONEST JOBS, because missing items.
Load More Replies... Mya Anjalou said it best," When people show you who they are, believe them."
