People Are Sharing What Unrealistic Things About Women Shown In Movies Bother Them The Most And Here Are 30 Examples
If you ever needed to run from a Titanic-sized Tyrannosaurus rex, you probably wouldn’t do that in Louboutins. This part, we can all agree on.
But it seems like many Western film directors have a whole different view of what women should be like onscreen. Teens with clear skin? Check. Women always wanting a baby? Yep. Putting freakin' lotion on before going to bed? Done. But life isn't a 2-hour-long reverie in motion and things are very different here.
No wonder people are getting seriously fed up with how unrealistically, and often just plain wrong, many popular movies portray female characters. Let’s take a look at some of the worst faux pas against women in film and hope this will be a wake-up call to whoever believed this nonsense.
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"In films that take place in a post-apocalyptic setting, women somehow still have shaven armpits/legs, perfectly plucked eyebrows, clear skin and sometimes still wear make up! Even if they had the time/supplies to shave/apply makeup, I'm pretty sure they won't care about all that if they're fearing for their lives."
Exactly what I was thinking. Stranded in the desert/jungle/island/whatever for months - not a single period. Ever. WTF?!
Load More Replies...This can apply to men too. Somehow in most movies the beards they grow are immaculately maintained.
Very true, post-apocalyptic = all men designer beards, yet clean-shaven women.
Load More Replies...Also, their hair is constantly shiny and healthy. Like there's always a bottle shampoo and conditioner at hand. not mentioning the always pearl white teeth
And prince charming is always either clean shaven or has a magnificently groomed beard. No pattern baldness, no ringworm, no scars that hair doesn't grow on anymore, nada. ALMOST like pretty is the whole point.
Well, men are always shaved and have perfect hair, so this works for both men and women in the movies ;)
I disagree. Sometimes the most menial things that makes you feel civilized.
Live in huge, beautiful apartments when they work as underpaid journalists or small-shop owners.
If people won't have kids this will become reality. 80 percentage needs to die so that we can all habe villas and mansions
Load More Replies...and, of course, their apartments are always dust-free, even if they return from a really long holiday / trip
This has always bothered me. Who cleans these places??
Load More Replies...This is especially blatant when they live in cities which are known for having a high cost of living / housing.
"Biggest cliché is that the vast majority of women sleep in their underwear and a tiny little top. Reality is we sleep in oversized T-shirts and that pair of leggings that have one too many rips/food stains on to wear in public."
Sometimes not easy if you have amorous and hopeful husbands.
Load More Replies...Don't make another generalization to disprove a different generalization. I definitely do not sleep in oversized t-shirts and leggings with rips or food stains. I wear nice PJs, sometimes a tiny top with underwear, sometimes negligees, sometimes just well made and in good condition warmer PJs for the winter.
To find out more about why women’s representation onscreen is often so flawed and unrealistic, Bored Panda talked to MaryAnn Johanson, a pioneering online film critic at FlickFilosopher.com and the author of “Where Are the Women?”—a project which broke down the ways in which women are dismissed on screen.
MaryAnn explained that unfortunately, “women are so often portrayed as nothing more than support and encouragement for men as they undertake journeys of growth and discovery.” Moreover, women are also “often depicted as 'perfect' and in no need of growth and discovery themselves.”
Such representation of female characters on screen is truly harmful and gives a “terrible example” to show both boys and girls, men and women.
"How 'fat' women, aren't fat. Bridget Jones? Not fat. Natalie from Love Actually? Not fat."
With Natalie, it's kinda the point, though. The fact that David keeps disagreeing with it is supposed to make you realize that even though some people *would* call her fat, she really isn't and it's ridiculous to think that.
And it was a reference to how the British media treated the actress about her body.
Load More Replies...depends on the era / country you're referring to. I've been the same weight, and travelled through Australia, Japan, USA, France and UK... and I was "normal", "fat", "skinny", "normal" and "skinny"......
And any woman bigger than that is automatically the comic relief. NOT. COOL.
ABSOLUTELY agree. It REEEEEEALLY chaps my a*s that hollywood literally sucks the life out of actresses until you can see their spine from the front, and that media then has the fkn NERVE to describe their "cleavage" as voluptuous when it's perfectly clear the woman's nose sticks out farther than her chest, and the illusion of cleavage is drawn on her gaunt ribcage in eyeshadow.
Some women are called fat at 135 pounds. Unless you look like a skeleton with skin someone out there is going to think you’re fat. It’s ridiculous
I enjoy the movie, "I Feel Pretty," but it was just weird how everyone was treating Amy Schumer's character as fat when she didn't look that much bigger than anyone else in the movie.
OMG I hated how everyone made comments about her weight. Ridiculous.
who said Bridget was fat? She was not supposed to be a fit and amazingly pretty woman but definitely not fat!
She mentions 'i'll always be a little bit fat,' in both the movies and the books I believe. The problem is that she is average sized but for Hollywood etc thats like massive or whatever.
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"25-year-old actresses are cast as high schoolers, while 35-year-old actresses are cast as mothers of high schoolers."
Grease was the first movie where I noticed that, the students are meant to be around18 years old yet it is clearly obvious they look older. Why do they cast much older actors to play younger roles? On the note of Grease the story line isn't that great, Danny tries to force himself on Sandy a couple of times and then Sandy changes who she is as a person to satisfy Danny. Not a very healthy relationship to start with.
Because genuine teenagers have pimples and the boys can be lanky with voices that change. And that simply does not work for the beauty-obsessed Hollywood machine. Plus: if you can't make teenagers even more insecure about how they look than they already do, how on Earth is the beauty business going to sell their products?
Load More Replies...My daughter was in high school when I was 35. We are 18 years apart. She graduated when I was 36.
I can recall a few US TV shows casting teens as teens, but they were very few. They were also the most believable.
Doris Day was playing teenagers, when she was in her 30's.... this is nothing new.... (mind you, the guys playing teens were also in their 30's)
...you want teens to be actors/actresses because the role is their own age? Wouldn't you want them to focus on their actual high school works instead?
The older I get, the more teens look like children. I don't like most teen movies nowadays for that reason, especially when sex is a common theme. It just grosses me out.
I hate when the "ugly" person gets a 15-minute makeover and is suddenly the best looking person in the film. As a genuinely hideous person it makes me furious because there's probably someone out there who legit thinks that if I just got a makeover my face suddenly wouldn't look like a bouquet of elbows.
And, also, when being "ugly" is still a really pretty girl. Are you brown or wear glasses? UGLY !!!
And they suddenly don't need those ugly glasses anymore
Load More Replies...Anyone who can come up with phrases like "a bouquet of elbows" is beautiful.
THIS. i will never forget my 8th grade dance, putting on makeup for the first time (it was hideous, but it looked, um, different, from the usual me), but the biggest change was i took off my glasses and blundered around half blind all night. the cutest guy in the class said i looked good, and should keep them off. i didn't get contacts until my late 20's....mainly as a response to THAT b******t. even at the age of 13, i got it. I just wish i had gotten it one night sooner, and not wandered around that entire night, trying to please everyone but myself.
Load More Replies...I never understood this part because Anne Hathaway was pretty to begin with
My question here is: Was she meant to be ugly or was she just meant to be unstylish before the makeover?
In the books Mia is definitely supposed to have the kind of face that might be called 'distinguished' but never pretty. But then they cast Anne Hathaway so that point became moot.
Load More Replies...Yes, it's ridiculous for a character in a movie to suddenly take off her glasses and go on for the rest of the movie without it. But if she normally wears glasses it means that she needs them to see properly... Or not?!
I mean... Contacts exist. I prefer my glasses, but... there are other options for a lot of people.
Load More Replies...According to the film critic, the second-worst thing about how women are diminished onscreen has to do with showing them as types. “So many movies have gangs of men doing whatever they're doing: The Leader, The Bad Boy, The Nerd, etc. And then there’s The Woman,” MaryAnn explained.
Representing women as a type gives viewers the wrong impression that female characters “don’t come in the same full range of human interests and talents as men do.”
MaryAnn said that she doesn’t really know the answer to just why so many male filmmakers choose this kind of female portrayal.
She wondered whether it may be “because male filmmakers are projecting their own fears about themselves onto female characters.” Or, “because male filmmakers are afraid of acknowledging that women come in the same full range of humanity—strong and weak, emotional and stoic, messed-up and got-it-together, and so on—as men do?” It may as well be because “male filmmakers don’t know any real women?”
"Friends existing to talk about your guy troubles with. Sure, my girlfriends and I talk about guys, but we also talk about philosophy and what we’re reading and things we’ve discovered about ourselves lately and our latest workout routine and whether God exists and our cats and Harry Potter...for women in our thirties there’s a lot of Harry Potter."
Right. Maybe it should be compulsory for all tv and movie productions!
Load More Replies...Don't you know women have no personality other than what they are in relation to some men? You don't have a “personality“ until you are the mother of some man, or the girlfriend/wife of some man.
My sister and I mainly talk about our family's doctor appointments because we have a lot of health problems in our family.
But if the movie is about guy troubles wouldn't it make sense for that to be the focus of conversation? I mean if I'm watching a romcom I don't exactly expect them to start talking about whether or not God exists.
But the opposite is not true. In films, boys and men talk about everything but women. So something happens....
Load More Replies...Can't we all just talk about what we want and need to talk about ? So if it's guys ,OK, if its philosophy, OK. Do we need the conversation police now ?
for me as a middle schooler there's still a lot of harry potter.
Men tend to be in th econvo with my gal pals only if there's an issue ------ health issue, marital issue, etc. Otherwise, it's what's in the news, best song this week, how the kids are, the usual.
"Women in movies are always 'cool' because they’re “not like other girls.” This is established by showing them eating chicken wings, enjoying sports, or playing video games. They do all these things in full faces of makeup wearing designer clothes."
Hey women are allowed to like both chicken wings and makeup. Sure they don't mix very well, but wearing makeup and having nice clothes doesn't disqualify you from liking sports or video games.
The point is that the combination of traditionally “feminine” and traditionally “masculine” elements is catering to male preferences. Sure, some women like both of those things, but there are also women who like pumpkin spice lattes and girly shows and don’t like wearing makeup. That’s also a combination of traditionally feminine and unfeminine, but those women aren’t the ones being portrayed as attractive in movies like that. It’s not the fact that there’s a combination of “feminine” and “unfeminine”, it’s the fact that it’s a build-a-bear of the “feminine” and “unfeminine” elements that are considered appealing to men.
Load More Replies...Ugh! The whole "exceptional woman" trope in films is one of the worst. Yeah let's s**t on other women because I'm the oh-so cool woman who enjoys things men do. Never mind the fact that so-called "men hobbies" and "women hobbies" are for everyone and there shouldn't be a gender label on them. And it just treats women in general like we're a monolith who all think and act the same instead of seeing us as individual humans.
The thing is, other girls are awesome. Why would I not want to be like them.
I wear makeup because I like to and I’ll sure as heck eat some chicken wings
And that means that women are not supposed to like sports, eat good food and do amusing stuff?
No, not at all. But it means that eating wings and liking sports makes them 'different' in Hollywood terms. That's what grinds the gears.
Load More Replies...What’s wrong with that? I ate wings while watching football, and played video games during halftime. 😜
The geeky girls in high school movies who are supposed to be ugly are still really good looking.
Yes and it’s always glasses that are the barrier to revealing their true beauty. 🙄
Also: she wears glasses, little to no makeup, and has no idea how to "dress like a girl."
I was super insecure about my glasses when I was younger, and about having brown hair, I thought I needed to be blonde, and not have glasses to be beautiful. Now I love my 2 ft. long brown hair, I dislike my glasses still, but just because they get in the way, and stage lights make an unpleasant glare, that they magnify.
Granted this still is from Not Another Teen Movie, so they were deliberately poking fun at this trope from She's All That.
Yes, I remember in Miss Congeniality they mentioned that Sandra Bullock's character had one eyebrow, yellow teeth and dark circles under her eyes which could have easily been added to her "before" depiction. Instead, her "before" was unkempt hair, glasses and bad table manners.
MaryAnn explained that until the entirety of the filmmaking industry, from writers and directors to studio executives and festival programmers, is much more gender-balanced, nothing will change. “Storytellers tell stories that are important to them. We need more different kinds of people telling stories, stories that get seen and heard, than we have now.”
The film critic believes that the worst part of such flawed female representation is that it generally tells the audience that women don’t matter that much. “Movies matter. Pop culture matters. The stories we tell each other matter. Children are listening, and they hear what we are saying.”
MaryAnn warned that these “kids become adults with warped ideas about the wide variety of women’s actual experiences—which are so much wider than what we see onscreen—and what women want out of life, which is so much more than what we see onscreen.” She concluded that this is totally unacceptable, and that “the culture that has so far not accorded women the same full humanity it accords men has to change.”
"Start having an orgasm two seconds into sex. No foreplay needed, apparently don’t need to discuss if they needed a condom/if she’s on the pill, has perfectly matching underwear on for the occasion which is so nice she feels the need to keep the bra on and OF COURSE doesn’t need to pee afterwards. They just snuggle and fall asleep in each other’s arms without any need to clean up or worry about UTIs. Soooo realistic!"
Most sex scenes are also incredibly boring. Unless they help to drive the plot forward I can do without them.
Load More Replies...The five inch stilettos in bed. Clothes goes off but somehow they keep their shoes on.
Have you ever heard the song by Sia that was made for this movie? In one verse it says '... wore pretty underwear hoping you might take it off.'
tbh, if you are having sex now, the talk about contraception should be waaaay back there in the past already ;)
All women wanting babies, and those who say they don't end up changing their minds and having them anyway
But in the Hunger Games (at least in the books) it was because Katniss didn't want her kids risking becoming tributes... She said yes a few years after the revolution when it was finally safe
I know it's not a movie but Penny in The Big Bang Theory who did not want children but the happy ending included her getting pregnant. So predictable and trite.
Load More Replies...This does happen in reality too. People can change their minds. They don't have to change their minds, but they don't have to keep feeling the same way forever either.
It is sadder when the change of mind happens after they have kids. You cannot undo that.
Load More Replies...Yes! Like the end of The Big Bang theory, They've ruined it with Penny being pregnant when she clearly said she didn't want any kids. And it's not just a matter of "changing their minds", but a thing of "if you don't have kids then you don't have/get a happy ending" Pure BS!
really? The most feminine show ive ever watched is Sex in the city and the main character did not have kids coz she didn't want kids....
I never wanted babies. I got married and had babies. I left after 13 years. I still don't want babies. I shouldn't have to apologize for it.
Depends on what you're being accused of. Not wanting babies is fine. Abandoning them wouldn't be. You probably don't mean that but it comes across that way a little - the 'left after 13 years' part sounds like you left children who were 13 or under. 🤷♂️
Load More Replies...Anything wrong with wanting babies ? They're beautiful, and being a mum is amazing
"Every time they show a woman taking a shower by herself, she's always caressing her hair/body in a way no normal human being would when simply taking a shower. Also, she's usually clearly wearing eye liner and false lashes, at the very least...in the damn shower."
No morning breath! Straight into kissing if it’s a bedroom scene🤢
Load More Replies...they also rarely have shampoo in their hair, just sexy wet hair lol They never shave their pits AND when it shows them brushing their teeth-- there's rarely toothpaste, just a wet brush... I guess toothpaste isn't sexy lol
Excellent place to wash it off, in the shower. I always do. Why don't you? 🤔 No extra products.😁 Of course it doesn't look pretty. Quite the opposite. Water and makeup = no match.
Load More Replies...When I forget to take my makeup off before showering I end up like a Panda.
Me in shower: "Ow! Soap in eyes! Ow! Dropped soap! Damn! Conditioner bottle landed on foot! Ow!" Movie woman in shower: "Oooh, ahh, yeah!" OBVIOUSLY I HAVE THE WRONG SHOWER
The point of this thread is to point out the unrealistic parts of how movies portray women. Why they portray them this way is irrelevant
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"Working out without putting their hair up - the worst offender is She’s the Man, that final scene where Amanda Bynes plays the whole second half with her hair just whipping in her face drive me nuts. Someone would have given that girl a hair tie."
My hair whipping me in my face and eyes and open while I am running around sweaty sounds awesome. Not.
Totally agree. Your hair would get in your eyes, and be way too distracting.
I played soccer. Never wore a hair tie. Hair was long and extremely thick. Never had a problem.
As someone with long hair, I have to say it's really hard to play sports, write, even wear a hoodie with my hair down.
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"For the love of god, put in a teenager with acne or braces or something into a film set in a high school. Teenagers are always depicted with, clear skin and fully developed. NOBODY looked like that in high school!"
The reason movie highschool teenagers always seem to have fully developed bodies is because they are almost always played by adult women.
And the scripts are almost always written by men with unfulfilled high school fantasies. Scripts written by women tend to be more realistic.
Load More Replies...Not an American. Don't know about how it's in real. But I grew up watching American movies and grew to hate the American schools. If it's how it's shown in the movies, it's admonishing. Constant bullying. Like teachers can't care less. Constant struggle. Almost zero academic activity. Glossing over the looks too much. Everything what schools should not be about.
I agree, whilst you will find cliques and bullying in every school all over the world, it seems US schools encourage it. Just look at prom kings and queens, having jocks and cheerleaders as the hierarchy etc.
Load More Replies...Also, in what f*****g universe were girls allowed to wear heels and miniskirts to high school in the 90's?! Considering some places will still send them home over spaghetti straps of yoga pants/leggings.
I looked and dressed like that in high school. Not completely unheard of.
I know in the US school uniforms aren't really a thing but is there a dress code on what shoes they can wear. High heels would be a big no no in Australian schools as it is against OHS.
Not an American so this is my experience but there were plenty of teenage girls in school without acne or braces. It's not like all teenagers have the same experience.
"The way women have to always dress ‘feminine’ even in disaster situations! Like Jurassic World – they have their main female character running away from DINOSAURS in high heels...freaking t-rexs and velociraptors and running through the jungle...but no let’s make sure she stays in her skirt and heels (and her makeup will be messy but still pretty), so stupid."
They take out their heels after a diner to walk with their crush but not to run scaping from dinosaurs or killing machines.
I actually didn't mind this part... they did this one purpose and actually pulled your focus to her heels throughout the movie. It was about the type of character she was in that movie
Yeah her "feminine" dressing style was kind of important to portray her character properly.
Load More Replies...Well in most disaster situations the character didn't know they were going to need to run/climb/jump around...so they wouldn't exactly dress accordingly now would they?
Yes, but why wouldn't they just kick off those heels and run barefoot?
Load More Replies...This one is nonsense. When would this woman have had time to change? Her attire was suitable for the original task she was set, before everything went tits up
I cant imagine walking comfortably in those shoes, never mind running for life. But im but a guy, so...maybe im wrong. But I cant see that being realistic to any extent...
Original JP dressed Ellen as a "safari-woman", not a "femme fatal". That was realistic. And... HOW can girl run in this "sexy" sandals or shoes? Instant leg-broken.
that. Also, wouldnt that "safari-woman" prefer, you know....safari-rated heavy boots or something...?
Load More Replies...I love how they break the heel off & keep running. It doesn't even work for walking. And how their dresses tear in just the right places.
Wearing matching lingerie constantly.
I remember in one film when the main character had, as a feature, wearing mismatching underware (with special exceptions). My husband said: "Like you!". After a week, he came home very worried, he had discovered that it was also like all his female colleagues and wifes or girlfriends of his male colleagues.
By the time you have it out, you'll want it matching. On the other hand, lace looks awful and feels horrific against your skin, and most humans just look better in clothes than out of them to begin with. We meat puppets really aren't much to look at.
There was an old trope in the pre-interwebs era that said, "If a woman's underwear matches, _you're_ not the one who decided you were having sex that night."
We have the running gag here at home that if I wear a matching bra and underwear, I'm more likely to be attacked by a bad guy wielding an axe or something of the sort.
There was a whole article about French women doing that and why it’s a good idea. So apparently, a not-insignificant portion of French women.
Load More Replies...I do. I hate it if I wear anything that doesn't match. If I wear a red shirt I will also wear red or black underwear.
I wear a red bra with a red t-shirt... but with white knickers and skirt.
Load More Replies..."20-year-old actresses are cast as surgeons, astrophysicists, history professors, etc. Unless they were baby geniuses, there is no way someone that young would have risen so high in her profession (especially considering that, because of prejudice and discrimination, it often takes women longer to climb the ladder.)"
But they may retire at 30, after only 20 years of work, because there aren't professional women older this age.
There are but they all have invisibility cloaks apparently.
Load More Replies...that was my thought that the minute I watched that movie.
Load More Replies...But we can't show an “old“ woman in our film! Unless of course we are casting a 40 year old as a grandma.
There were SO many things wrong about Suicide Squad, but what bothered me most (besides Jared Leto's horrible Joker) was Cara Delevingne's Enchantress... she was like 23 filming it & was supposed to be an archeologist along the lines of Indiana Jones. Yeah, no.
The ageism is everywhere tho... Racecar drivers coming back in their fifties to teach a young buck the ropes, business or advertising moguls coming back after a decade out of the loop... the whole thing is just nonsense, but then it IS just a story.
Women before the 1930's who shave their legs and armpits.
women were doing that back in ancient Egypt, there is a 5th century text from Iraq that describes how women removed their body hair below the neck and even mentions that no self-respecting woman wouldnt remove her body hair. This is very ancient and very common in every era until today
hair removal is not something from the 1930's... https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hair_removal
The 1920s spurred shaving because more of the body was exposed to view thanks to the fashions that exposed the underarms and legs.
It's one of the parts of "Pirates of the Caribbean"
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Any time that women vomit in movies, it's an indication of pregnancy.
I've noticed that almost every movie I watch these days has some kind of vomit scene. Usually as a result of some stressful or traumatic situation. It's getting a bit annoying to tell the truth.
Yeah - I find the repetitive vomiting because someone's emotionally stressed bloody annoying.
Load More Replies...There are alot of exceptions, maybe the original OP is only watching Lifetime movies.
Load More Replies...It's the same in anime, darn it. It's a spoiler alert in episode 7 for the epilogue in episode 13.
Even in real life though if you are over a certain age and you suddenly feel nauseous or you’re throwing up out of nowhere a lot of people will immediately assume that
this is so wrong, first of all, it is true that morning sickness is a very easy to spot symptom for pregnancy, and secondly, what kind of movies do you watch!?? I've seen more scenes women vomiting because they were drunk than pregnant for sure!
85 pound women in badass jobs like assassins or secret agents or super heroes. You need more muscle for these big fights you win.
And though the actor who played wonderwoman was pretty, she didn’t have the muscle that someone who fought every day would have
Load More Replies...skinny / light does NOT automatically equal "weak". Look at gymnasts and ballet dancers: little AND strong. Besides, "muscles" alone don't mean you'll win automatically fights. Look at Bruce Lee....
They're still exceptionally well muscled though - gymnasts and dancers. I have friends in both and they do have very well developed legs, arms etc.
Load More Replies...A good example is Angelina Jolie in Salt and Wanted. Seriously she is was to thin and small to fight off those big guys.
i dont agree with this, i have a fitness teacher who's a ~160cm tall bone skinny woman who is so freaking strong! Like, she can kick a*s for real!
Have you seen her fight at all? Even big dudes in a real fight?
Load More Replies...True. I say wtf when a 5'6 woman flips around a 6 foot 200 lbs bad guy.
In the fight scenes they are clearly doing the fight moves like dance moves and bouncing off of their opponent until the stunt double takes over.
"I really hate how women always seem to be really skinny (and it’s not the women’s fault at all, I don’t want to shame them for being skinny) but I would like to see a woman who wasn’t necessarily plus-size (though we need more leads who are) but weighs 160 pounds rather than 120."
I’d like to see a bigger sized actress in the lead role rather than seeing her as the fat but funny sidekick.
Yes please and also not make it some stupid rom-com where the guy doesn’t see her as fat but who is truly is. Just make it a normal movie without the stupid cliches
Load More Replies...At a community pool once I overheard a teenage girl who was about 5'10", average build, and neither under nor over weight loudly saying "the doctor weighed me and said 'oh, you're still 155' and I'm like "you crazy! Look at me! I don't weigh more than 120!'" I am looking at you. And 155 for 5'10" with an average build is fine. If you weighed 120 with that height and skeletal build you'd look emaciated. It is definitely pounded into girls' and women's heads that around 110-120 is "what women weigh" or is the "ideal weight." Ideal weight varies WILDLY depending on your height, frame size, and muscle mass.
160 is what 70, 75 in kilograms? That's a pretty slight girl. Mind you 120 pounds sounds like a large child to me, but then friesians are a pretty tall people.
I'd like to see a woman with kids who actually looks like a woman who has given birth to babies
Nia Vardalos sort of broke through with "My Big Fat Greek Wedding" but it took her writing the movie itself and trying for years to get it produced. And she was curvy at most.
Coming from a certain ethnic group here in the US, Vardalos is still too skinny. -Dr M (not a nutritionist)
Load More Replies...I'd be happy to see osmeone in a normal weight-height-age range. Just that.
Shop or get a manicure as a way to resolve their problems.
Retail therapy works. Period. I'm by no means a typical man, but you can track my emotional state in my impulse purchases. New stuff is interesting, and interesting is distracting. Once you're distracted from the hole you're in, your mind has a chance to level out.
This is such an over the top movie making fun of stereotypes. It's fun because people know it's not real life...
I love Clueless. I love Pretty Woman too. Sometimes you just love those movies.
Load More Replies...Well...both does a pretty good job at making you feel good, though ;-) (In moderation. If you are drownign in debts then obviously not)
I mean...isn't that what made Amazon a BILLION dollar company?? All people shopping at hours they should be sleeping to solve their problems?
"What REALLY pisses me off is women always having perfect makeup and hair in catastrophe movies. For example, in Bird Box, the world has 'ended' four years ago and Malorie still has perfect eyelash extensions. How???"
To be fair, I watched news stories of people complaining about not being able to have false nails and Botox at the beginning of the UK lockdown. I guess it's all about priorities, and I'm sure they found a way!
in the MN lockdown, I came across a lady who blatantly admitted to going into WI (and not just to a border town) to get her nails done. took her lic. plates and reported that s**t. there's going to be those people. And they'll probably die out pretty quickly in a real-world, s**t-hits-the-fan scenario.
Load More Replies...It's a story. If sleeping beauty had been in a coma for 100 years, she would have starved and died in a puddle of her own filth. Not a very appealing story.
It isn't generally portrayed as a coma though! She's in a form of sleep - basically suspended animation.
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Women running at almost top speed in high heels while in the real world, I can barely walk in them after a couple hours.
Practice makes perfect. Just because you can't, doesn't mean no one can... I don't wear heals now, but when I do and you wear them daily, they're fine to walk (and run occasionally ;) ) on all day.
Except if one has flat feet, or falling arches, or plantar fasciitis, or no reason to perform for others to prove one's gender identity. ;)
Load More Replies...Wearing heels destroys your feet later in life, running in them only speeds up the process.
yep, and the female cops who ALWAYS wear heeled shoes with their hair down while chasing criminals
I refuse to ever again wear heels. They are Gregorian torture devices.
I run in them perfect.. Mostly drunk. But man I'm good. Its impressive. I wore heels Every day in middle school, in high school.. Even bike ride with them. I love them!
Wow, that's so impressive! But I think most of us aren't really good at running with high heels...
Load More Replies...If I can't run in my shoes, I don't buy 'em. I have no heeled shoes with heels higher than three inches.
This is real, I used to wear my heels all the time, I could run, dance, drive, even sprint in them, they were like a second skin to me, wore them 8 hours a day every day, I have no foot problems, no bunions, no callouses, no pain associated with long term wearing of high heels. I always bought properly fitted expensive shoes with a steel shank & heel. I never wore pointy toe ones. The rest of the time I went barefoot at home.
"I’m sure some women definitely do this, but going to sleep with their hair down and then waking up with it still in perfect condition and an amazing sheen. I have to sleep with my hair up to be comfortable and I still wake up looking like Edward Scissorhands."
Or overly exaggerated bed hair. Something between perfect coif and bird’s nest would be more accurate—-and if you primarily sleep on one side, more messy on that side.
I like my curly bed head - it looks cute. Tbh it doesn't look much different to my hair before I go to sleep.
i can't sleep with my hair down. i'm not comfortable and will wake up more than once with hair in my mouth. ew
I have never in my life slept with my hair up. What even are you talking about.
"It's both super fast and super terrifying. Nobody is ever counting contractions, trying countless positions to ease the pain, doing breathing exercises etc. The woman always loses her shit from labour pain and gives up her birth plan altogether and dramatically begs for epidural, only to be told it's too late, and it's time to give birth, even though it's only been like half an hour. On that note, movies never depict the actual size of late pregnancy, even when said woman is in delivery. Everybody looks six months pregnant max."
Unless the movie is a birth documentary, no one wants to watch the entire birthing process - movies treat all medical procedures like that, they don't show all of the paperwork being signed, the long surgical prep work, and the even longer wait until the surgeon is ready to take them, etc.
The question was about unrealistic things, not your take on what people want to watch.
Load More Replies...Haha the "realistic" description is pretty much me down to a tee lol. I also don't know anyone in this day and age who has given birth in stirrups yet we still see it often in movies.
And the women always look perfect afterwards. I think Rachel in Friends was the only one who bucked the trend. That scene at least looked semi realistic.
Final size on delivery varies WILDLY. One of my best friends was only just showing at the end. On the other end of the spectrum, octomom was so huge you have to wonder if she was charged property tax
And all the newborns are clean 3 month olds who don't have swollen eyes, red skin and squished heads from being squeezed through a birth canal.
Yes! During my last labor I joked with the nurses between contractions when I was at 7 cm. I think that could be entertaining enough for a movie! And of course the mother in films, for no explainable reason, dies. I've talked to so many girls who are convinced that they will die during childbirth thanks to movies. In the US, the maternal survival rate is 99.6 which is LOW compared to other developed countries. Chances are girl, you are going to make it!
Actually, the US ranks 33rd in countries for maternal mortality rates. There are many developing countries that have way lower mortality rates we do.
Load More Replies...Can't agree with this. I looked 6 months pregnant and had a 30 minute delivery.
OMG, showing a woman that is pregnant with her first, carrying on with life and suddenly her waters break. Do you know how rare it is for a labour to start with the waters breaking? Especially a first pregnancy? Ask all the mums you know that went into labour naturally at what point their waters broke. Usually it is a loooong way into labour. The waters are actually helpful in the baby manouvering and therefore it is genetically advantageous for the amniotic sac to remain whole for as a long as possible. Yet every single bloody labour depicted on screen has to start with the mother-to-be having to be told that her waters have broken. One of those things I always have to complain about to whoever is watching with me.
You know what is even worse? The water breaking,(preferably in public)! Never happened to me and in reality hardly happens at all!
Eat food seductively
Life is to short for that. Food doesn’t stay in my hand for very long. Nom, nom.
See that pisses me off. The incessant assumption that sex is something everyone wants and is always good. We do not all think with our d***s, we are not all rapists in our head, we don't all like women embarassing themselves trying to be sexy, and more often than not attempts to look sexy induce nauseating levels of cringing, rather than any level of attraction. Closest thing I can compare it to is the smile thing. A lot of women hate being told to smile, well men hate being treated like theyre a sex toy women can just turn on and off.
And here I was thinking that looking skinny might convince people I’m hungry and make me waffles.
Load More Replies...9 1/2 Weeks, that refrigerator scene was just plain gross, not the slightest bit erotic.
"I can't even with giggly fashion montages and women acting like shopping will heal all mental wounds in the span of time it takes to max out a credit card. First of all, if I maxed out a credit card, I'd flip out and beg the store to take my purchase back, not giggle at how silly I am to spend so much money. Second, I doubt a freelance article writer in NYC can afford to twirl around in dresses all day and spend $2000 in an afternoon."
This movie was NOT celebrating excessive consumerism & crushing debt while giggling... This movie was about excessive spending, to the point of almost destroying one's life with the out-of-control debt & inability to stop spending.
Yeah, I haven't seen the movie but I've read the book, and Becky Bloomwood is not depicted as stable, and all her 'happiness' is a crutch and is making things worse. You're not supposed to empathize with her spending spree, the whole point is she is in denial and she can't afford these things.
Load More Replies...2000? Nuh-uh, what gives me joy is looking for the cutest thing for the cheapest price with all the coupons I can find. I once got a dress for free because of all the dicounts.
I do actually feel better from shopping and know several women that spend their partner's money w***y nilly to make them feel better when something has them down. New is interesting and interesting distracts you from your feelings. It just works.
Well, pretty much these days women are spendiing their own money thanks. This isn't the fifties.
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Lounge around the house wearing super-cute clothes or lingerie.
Great movie, forgot about it until now!
Load More Replies...I refuse to stay dressed or even upright when at home. There is just no upside for me.
I mean, they were under the trance of Satan and all in this movie, but the point still stands.
This is my life as I don't work but married with no kids but 3 cats. Lol .. Been married for 14 years.
Yeah, me and my best two gal pals, this is how we hang out all hoping the porn shoot starts soon.... ??? (But good movie)
If I didn’t look like a Whale I would probably do this. I like lingerie
I wear sweatpants and a hoodie all the time (and cat themed socks)
"That working moms are shown as being overworked, overwhelmed, and never having time for their families, and they always feel guilty leaving their kids at daycare or with a babysitter. First of all, the father is rarely depicted as feeling guilty for being away from his kids. Secondly, most working moms I know have a good work-life balance and feel fulfilled and happy with their careers."
Well, check again and ask the right questions to the moms you know. The combo of a newborn, a young child and a full time job is HARD. Also this example is bad because dad is depicted as feeling overwhelmed too.
I agree with you, I think it's actually quite a big taboo to admit that you're not coping very well...
Load More Replies...It's hard being an at home mum with a new born, god knows how people do it with a job
Job might be the only thing keeping some women sane - though it can bring a lot of guilt. Stay at home or go to work, there really isn't any winning on that one.
Load More Replies...I find this completely realistic. I am in the US where we have no guarantee of paid family leave and little social safety net. Most working moms I know feel exactly like this: "That working moms are . . . overworked, overwhelmed, and never having time for their families, and they always feel guilty leaving their kids at daycare or with a babysitter. . . the father is rarely depicted as feeling guilty for being away from his kids.” Spot. On.
whoever wrote that knows like maybe 2 wealthy working moms and no average people.
My mom had a career, a husband, kids, and other responsibilities. She chose to be good at her career and her motherhood, and screw the rest. That was her "balance". ANd y'know, it worked fine.
This person knows people who are fulfilled and happy with their work? I think maybe 10 % of my aquiantances are. The rest are putting food on the table with more or less work they don't particularly love to death.
The number of misunderstandings. If I get into an argument in real life, I explain down to the tiniest detail why I'm so pissed. Also, why is everyone's house so clean. Even movie moms - What is that? No stray Cheetos, random toys, grubby counters?
YUP- real moms can't vaccum when their kids are asleep, but they can't really do it when their awake either. Cycle of pain.
I bought a quiet vacuum cleaner after my kids were born - the only way to clean the floor is when the kids are switched off and placed securely in the recharge station.
Load More Replies...I'm an IT manager. The sheer percentage of my time lost to misunderstandings because people call things thingymajig and refuse to do even fifteen seconds of googling, would embarass you into eating those words. Also nobody wants to step on food or toys, a clean home is just less aggravating to live in.
Sleep in luxurious eye masks and pajama sets
She's not in a pyjama set. She's in a mask to help her survive the excessive drinking & late-night partying that she does in order to numb her to the fact that she was "given" to a much older man at age 14 to take care of his kids, and escaped by becoming a child-prostitute..... Seriously, the misinterpretation of this movie for this post, is astounding. Oh, and she's sleeping in a crappy single bed, in a nearly-unfurnished apartment... seriously, her life is nowhere near "luxurious".
I think a lot of people don't understand the movie - it implies a lot and says very little. It's so beautifully done!
Load More Replies...Another bad photo example. Who put this list together?? Some of these are real examples of the stupidity of Hollywood, but the accompanying photos totally undermine the entire point!! LOL
I misread this. For a moment I was quite surprised that you have been using a folded banana as eye mask.
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"When every single woman in a film puts on hand lotion right before bed. Does anyone actually do this?!"
Don't forget about the lips. When I don't put lip balm before sleep, my skin tends to almost peel upon waking up. *sigh* Dry skin problems....
Load More Replies...I do yes. I keep my anti aging hand lotion by my bed. I'm 30 and trying to help my hands age nice.
Yes, I do it too...but yes, when I do it, I always feel like some housewife from some US TV series… :D
Yes, I do. I have a problem with dry hands. If I leave them I get painful cracks in my fingers. So I have no choice but to put hand lotion on before I sleep.
I do. I strugle with dry skin, especially these day when I washy hands like a milion times a day...so an over night hydratation is needed 🤷🏻♀️
When women wake up looking amazing
Since I haven't been to the hair dresser since February, I wake up looking more like "Cousin It." from the Adams Family.
I'm feeling you on this! Also haven't been since February. Things are getting interesting ;)
Load More Replies...I woke up with my hair perfectly arranged once - I didn't want to touch it because I could never style it myself as well as it had styled itself during the night. Sigh. That was a GOOD day.
No morning breath, no BO, no crusts around their eyes and no dribble stain at the corner of their mouths.
Or kissing first thing of the morning! Years ago, my mom's soap opera (Ryan's Hope) made a joke about morning kisses (only the 2nd film/show I've seen that acknowledged how gross it is). A couple, still in their bathrobes, kiss over their croissants and coffee. The woman makes a remark about morning breath. The man, in some sort of exotic accent, says "Siobhan, don't joke about our love.". My mom and I laughed like hyenas.
"I’ve literally never seen a female character on their period/talk about their period...like, are they magical unicorns who never suffer the hell we have every month?"
I don't talk about my period either, nor do other people "see" me on my period. It still happens though.
And it is a shame that women don't talk about it, because menstruation is still considered something 'unmentionable' and it prevents women from potentially finding out there is something wrong. My doctor found out by accident (I had blood work done for an eye infection) that I lose far too much blood. But because I'm lucky that I have barely any pain, I never thought that 7 pads per 24 hours was unusual (just friggin' expensive). I was put on birth control and, boy, was that a difference. But if it was something we talk about, I might have found out sooner than 10 years after I started menstruating.
Load More Replies...Not to mention the extremes in film depictions. Either women are period-less fairies or screechy PMSing aliens, without a shade in between.
Do you go to work or school and tell everyone about your menstruation, poop, pee and that scab on your head? It's just not something that comes up in everyday conversation. And no, not everyone goes through hell every month. It's awful if you do, but there are ways to relieve symptoms.
When I was in puberty and adolescence, we were pretty much surrounded by these topics, seen as "female topics" and "women's health". Partly from other women, partly from educational material, partly from youth magazines. Only now I see that I was a lucky girl. What's most normal to me is a taboo in so many developed countries in the world...
Load More Replies...I have 'em, but I don't exactly think it should be front page news every single time it happens. There's a difference between talking to a doctor/family/close friends and just announcing it to the world at large. I'm not going to strut into work and be like "Guess what binches!? IT'S SHARK WEEK!"
Well for the most part most women don’t go around talking about their periods casually like that
"Wearing bras, crop tops, camisoles, or other light upper-garments to bed. Or even more egregiously, during sex. And then pull the sheets right up to their bloody chin. Men like to sleep naked, women like to sleep naked, and odds are reasonably high that if you've just had any kind of sex, you probably won't have had clothes on. I know it's all to avoid higher ratings because for some reason female nipples are obscene, but really??!!"
It's also about a lot of female actors not wanting to be naked on film..... It's not that nipples are obscene, but that not all women want to be naked on film
CGI nipples! ♡ (just kidding, but could indeed be some kind of solution, they already use body doubles when the art requires nudity)
Load More Replies...I put something back on after sex.. I hate sleeping 100% naked. Plus I wear a lot of cute really short skirts or tutus.. Those usually stay on for sex. Men like to lift them up and is sexy as that's the only thing left on outside high heels.
In reality, if you are sleeping together, probrably one of you likes it warmer/cooler, and at least one of you doesn't like the skin-to-skin sweat, so one or both of you will be at least lightly dressed. Also, a lot of people don't like their boobs flapping around.
skin-to-skin sweat is pure evil. I cant sleep with that, got to have something on even if its hot outside.
Load More Replies...Probably because if the actress shows her nipples, the company has to pay more so they beg her to cover up?:D
nah, they have to get higher rating, and that might a) cost to obtain, and b) lower profit due to less people seeing the movie for example. So...profit takes precedence over realism, yet again.
Load More Replies...And some people are, no need for the "princess" jab.
Load More Replies...I don't know, a lot of these points are completely ridiculous and extremely easy to explain by the simple fact that movies simply don't have the time (and reason) to show the "reallness". Like with the illness being always an indication of pregnancy. Unless there's a subplot about her catching a stomach bug, why would any director/screenwriter ever write it in just for the heck of it? And having a stomach bug makes rarely for an interesting story.
Yup...a lot of these are just people nitpicking and complaining for the sake of complaining.
Load More Replies...I think there is a simple reason for this: movies ought not to be realistic. Gender nonwithstanding, movies transport clichés according to their viewers' liking.
THIS. If people want realism they should stick to documentaries.
Load More Replies...Great! Now do the ones for men too. These things have always been unrealistic since like, forever.
well, there are a lot of significant problems with how women are portrayed in hollywood, but this list addresses none of them...
Yeah this list came off as ok but many weak responses. Perhaps to keep the post lighter..?
Load More Replies...Well it's the movies, lots of things are cringe. Nobody locks their car eighter in the movies haha.
if anyone reading this is thinking that movies show us how things are rather than what we want to see, please reconsider that. Also, what studios care most about is sales and what women like factors hugely into into this by way of things like focus groups. There are many genres, such as rom coms, that cater almost exclusively to the female perspective. Some things to consider
Movies aren't supposed to be realistic in the first place anyway, why nitpick every little thing?
Well I can't agree with #26. I looked 6 months pregnant and had a 30 minute delivery.
I don't know, a lot of these points are completely ridiculous and extremely easy to explain by the simple fact that movies simply don't have the time (and reason) to show the "reallness". Like with the illness being always an indication of pregnancy. Unless there's a subplot about her catching a stomach bug, why would any director/screenwriter ever write it in just for the heck of it? And having a stomach bug makes rarely for an interesting story.
Yup...a lot of these are just people nitpicking and complaining for the sake of complaining.
Load More Replies...I think there is a simple reason for this: movies ought not to be realistic. Gender nonwithstanding, movies transport clichés according to their viewers' liking.
THIS. If people want realism they should stick to documentaries.
Load More Replies...Great! Now do the ones for men too. These things have always been unrealistic since like, forever.
well, there are a lot of significant problems with how women are portrayed in hollywood, but this list addresses none of them...
Yeah this list came off as ok but many weak responses. Perhaps to keep the post lighter..?
Load More Replies...Well it's the movies, lots of things are cringe. Nobody locks their car eighter in the movies haha.
if anyone reading this is thinking that movies show us how things are rather than what we want to see, please reconsider that. Also, what studios care most about is sales and what women like factors hugely into into this by way of things like focus groups. There are many genres, such as rom coms, that cater almost exclusively to the female perspective. Some things to consider
Movies aren't supposed to be realistic in the first place anyway, why nitpick every little thing?
Well I can't agree with #26. I looked 6 months pregnant and had a 30 minute delivery.
