“I Pavloved My Husband”: 30 Chaotic Marriage Hacks That Actually Work

This works well actually.

Oh we need that. The amount of times we've gone, "you decide" "no, you" is insane

This is a great idea!! I am stealing that 😘

Does one person makes more decision than ths other?

Yes we are your enemies

So that's why the children aren't wearing seatbelts.

"Why don't you want children??"

Clever

Lmaoo

Does it work vice versa too?

What a great idea

That is a great idea

That's incredibly sweet.

Id be like "I hate this stuff but it's too expensive so I'm going to finish this tube if it kills me!

You are a legend!

Awwww! 🥰 Boy do we need to clone him.

You are a good man.

This is a spiritual practice 🙏

A therapist recommended a similar thing to my boyfriend and me: each week we sit together and talk about: what did the other person do well this week, what could the other person have done better this week, what would you like the other person to work on next week. And those same questions also about yourself. It really helps.

This seems so smart!

I prefer a once a month State of the Union. Used to make requests (not complaints) of each other and negotiate solutions that work for both people. Also to plan logistics for the month.

Only once every two weeks?

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i like this - i forget to close the cabinets all the time. having a reminder like this would be useful <3 plus, it's said in a lighthearted tone!

Instead of arguing about something as stupid as this, the problem can very easily be prevented by simply removing the doors and having an "open" cabinet.

This habit is what earned my husband the nickname of "poltergeist." You can always tell when the poltergeist has been in the kitchen. It also likes to just barely put the lid back on the economy size bottle of ibuprofen... which is very much a pain in the a*s when you pick a bottle up by the lid first thing in the morning and are forced to play 500 pill pick up...

Hahaha! I now know what to do with the kids wet towels that keep ending up on the floor!

I'd just say "where :0" lol

Love this one :)

That is weaponized incompetence, yes women can do that too.

D**n my wife does this to me. She usually starts asking how to secure the drill bit

I wanted shelves in a closet. He didn't. One day I grabbed the tape measure and he asked what I was doing. I told him I'd figure it out myself. He put on his shoes and we went to Menards. He put in my shelves. I am not remotely handy, so this was a good thing.

I nlike this one!

Yes I do this too. Sometimes I nudge him in the right direction by threatening I will do it myself. Works 10/10

We have a porcelain elephant we put on the kitchen table to indicate a serious issue we want to discuss.

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That was like the dumbest thing ever on shark tank a show where nearly everything is dumb and useless

I love this.

This works if you both know you get mean when you are tired so so make an extra effort to not target your partner/kids Things said in fights like this always have a grain of truth and can still hurt even if you say sorry later, if you repeat the words and behavior the next night you aren't all that sorry.

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This could be abused.

Be cautious with the word "helping" since it implies it's really your job you want to p**n off. Context matters though since if you really want to tackle something together then the word fits. Either way if it works for your family, keep doing it!

This is good.

Between my husband and I, I have the higher mechanical aptitude and the most patience to get something done right *the first time*... so I do all of the things requiring assembly, repair, etc around our house (this is not so much because i'm a control freak or anything, but because he's proven himself to NOT be the person for those particular jobs on several occasions). We've been together 21 years, we know each other's strengths and weaknesses. Anyway - while I may be the perfectionist, I am also the procrastinator. My husband, however, is of the "just get it done," "who cares about planning" mentality. So the f****r has more or less figured out that - if he wants something done - he just acts like he's getting ready to go do it himself. No thanks! He knows I'm never letting him change the spark plugs on my car after I watched him try to put my rotors on backwards, so - poof - there I am, working on it whether I feel like it or not. He knows me so well 😆

That would actually work very well for me. It usually takes a bit for things to register, when written you get time to think things through.

that I agree with. we do that too. mostly bc my husband runs out the door as soon as I have a problem.

My husband gets very nasty in those messages. I blocked him once...

THIS THIS SO MUCH THIS when you get in the heat of the moment sometimes you feel like you need to respond instantly to get your way or to not make the argument seem even more angry or awkward... this is a great idea!

Ahahaha

Humoristic way to say, I don't know what's wrong, but you're being way too snappy. As someone with anxiety that can sometimes think fighting is the right answer to the anxiety signals, I appreciate

I do this to my wife too, yes sometimes the husband does all the cooking and cleaning and gets sick of it too.