36 People Share What Traits Show A Person Wasn’t Loved By Their Parents Enough As A Child

Poor child. Some people are sadists and should be arrested if they even look at a kid. Imagine the hell this child went through and the struggles she has now.

No one should have to feel like they have to apologize just for existing. This stepmom sounds terrible and her dad is terrible for not stopping this.

This. You apologize for existing.

Can say I do this… everyone gets mad at me for it (or they’re just concerned) but I can’t help it at this point..

I'm 39 years old and I still get a trickle of panic any time I go to move the a/c vent in any car I am in. My aunt slapped me multiple times in a row on one cheek and busted my lip for adjusting the a/c vent when it was chilling me when I was around 11-12. Then she screeched, "You do not touch!" And she put the ac on full blast I guess to teach me a lesson?. Ever since I tend to leave the vents exactly where they are even if I'm in the car by myself. I've tried to untrain myself but I still do it. She was evil. I literally celebrated when I heard my uncle finally left her.

In people on the autism spectrum this is adapting to the people/situation around you is also called "masking"

Hello me, nice to meet myself.

I feel this one...

Yeah, this is how I coped for a long time, and as AJ says in the comments below, I was masking autism.

This describes me, to. The. Letter. But my parents are great?!!!😬🤨😰😫

Wow, this one hit home 🤔

Stockholm Syndrome isn’t universal. I wanted to hit 18 and get TF out of my parents’ house from the time I was about 10 or 11. I did it too, and never looked back. You would be amazed at how quick and easy it can end up being to not even think about people whose every mean and nasty whim you had to try to anticipate, like the woman above whose stepmother would get irate at her standing somewhere stepmom just suddenly decided she wanted to stand. I bet stepmom also yelled at her for not just knowing that. You know, read her mind. Those memories will fade, and you will finally be able to become the real strong and confidant you, not the anxious nervous wreck you trying to read some asshole’s mercurial mind.

It's ironic. I actually cried more about my mother's passing than my Dad's. I think it was because my Dad had Alzheimer's that robbed him of who he was...and it was a relief when he passed that he was no longer suffering. My mother died suddenly and unexpectedly. I think I cried more because I was pissed that she was gone and that she never came around to realizing what a horrible person she'd been. I was hoping the light would come on before she left this earth.

Not only, but a lingering feeling of relief when they passed. And I don't feel any guilt over not missing them.

My parents always made me aware of the fact that I was a mistake. They blamed me for looking nothing like the rest of the family ( blue eyes & blonde hair for me and dark brown hair and brown eyes for everyone else.) They criticized everything I did, despite me trying extra hard to please them so I would feel loved. It was never enough. In 1997, I left home never to return. I haven't talked to my sibling in 16 years or my parents in 24 years. They don't even know that I have a daughter that's now at a elite college. Raising my daughter (by myself) was all about ensuring that I did the opposite of what my parents did. As a result, she & I are super close. Always have been. No clue if my parent's are alive or not. Don't care either. I've moved past all the insecurities they gave me, but never forgot them. That's impossible.

I too, learned how to cry silently for fear of an ex who would get more angry and abusive if he caught me actually crying and making noise. Happily, I have been with my husband for 12 years now, and he loves me, crying or laughing. Also happy to say the latter occurs much more often than the former.

I can also cry completely silently. I learned how to when I locked myself in a bathroom at my abusive dad's house

My brother tries really hard not to cry because when he lived with his bio parents they would get mad if he cried. They wanted him to "be a man".

My daughter cries and she doesn't do it often, but the first thing I want to do is hug her.

I’ve learned how to silent cry for reasons in my childhood, but I don’t know if they’re still relevant today. I still don’t want my parents to see all my true emotions, but things are different now and I don’t know if they’d react the same way. Better not to risk it

holy crap I do this, I can tell who is walking down the halls and how angry they are and so my mind goes to danger levels...s**t.

I can recognize the bells on my cats collar, I can recognize people’s breathing. I can recognize the sound the old floor boards make and can figure out who stepped on it and what direction they were moving. I hear it and it clicks and I can become “perfect” in seconds. It’s all out of fear and I know how messed up it is.