“What’s Something You Were Told As A Child By Adults That You Now Realize Is A Complete Lie?” (30 Answers)

This deserves more upvotes.

Bullies COUNT on you 'turning the other cheek' or 'taking the high road' or whatever else people want to call it. Because it means that there are no consequences for their actions. 'Silence means assent' is the bullies' creed, because as long as no one stops them it means it is ok for them to continue.

They still try to sell this lie

48 and still am winging it

Tax all religious institutions d@mn it!!!

As an adult who knows many adults, no.

then why won't the government make a minimum wage enough to pay rent 😭 (I would prefer not to have arguments in the replies please)

I wanted to be a dragon rider, but no, stupid discriminatory rules because some idiot thought vampires like dragon blood! Everyone knows it tastes terrible and has horrible side effects! My friend died from a dragon blood overdose, do you really think I want anything to do with that? And besides, why would I hurt a dragon?

Send your kid to a trade school if you can. Thank you mom.

You’ll want kids when you’re older. It's now scientifically confirmed that this is bogus in most cases. They made a big survey with thousands of people and asked them if they wanted children when they were young and if that changed when they grew older, and the consensus was that the decision is stable into aduldhood and that people who let others pressure them into having kids despite not really wanting them were regretting it

In fact I know quite a few other women, usually middle aged, who confided to me that they regret having had kids and only did it because they felt obliged to.

sounds like Christian right wing nonsense right there.

Most people want kids. However, it rarely starts at a late age. It sometimes does, but those are the exceptions, not the rule. I know some people who did decide that they wanted kids when they got older, but most people who didn't want kids at all at 18 didn't want kids at 40. Wanting to have kids can get stronger as you get older, but that is a change from "I want kids someday" to "I want kids now!". On the other hand, people wanting kids is the rule, and not wanting kids is the exception, despite what it seems like here on BP.

The same people who told us "If you really want something the best way to get it is pray really hard." also are the ones who told us "God helps those who help themselves."

LIES!!!

Uni was infinitly harder than school - but I was also older and much better equipped to deal with the workload and stress. Most of all I was there VOLUNTARILY. that made all teh difference

Not trying to start a war, but being Lgbtq+ isn't a sin, it's who some people are.

Maybe, maybe not. No. Hard no. I spent years defending my parents for spanking me - I was wrong, they were more wrong. If you're hitting your kids you've lost. That's it. As a father I will never hit my kids. Maybe, maybe not. Maybe sex after marriage will ruin you. Who knows. This statement is wrong. Yeah. Because relying on your imaginary friends is the absolute best way to get stuff done. (Formatting would be nice)

Nope! Past menopause and thanking my lucky stars!

I didn't want kids until I found out that I was pregnant and had miscarried in a span of 10 minutes. Now I have two, one was "if it happens it happens" (I wasn't opposed as I once was), the other was a complete surprise (I was on bc and my husband and I were in an extremely rough patch so we were intimate once in a six month span. We joke that my granny who had passed by then put a special order in because my DS came out to her exact specifications) I love my kids but I don't consider myself a kid person. I will always be the first to say kids aren't for everyone. There is just a lot of difficult things with having kids and I'm extremely lucky to have a very strong support system with my family, not everyone has that and it makes it that much harder. My main thing is people who try to pressure others one way or another with having kids is weird and icky. The only one who knows what they want is you.

My kid was an accident and then a medical miracle. I was never going to have any. Best decision I ever made. Their generation will change the world.

Last one, really gros

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While I absolutely respect any woman's (or man's) right to make this decision, it saddens me when I hear so many young people today say, "I'll never have kids." It's not even about this subject so much, as the absolutism with which it is stated. Not to trivialize something so significant as childbearing, but the only metaphor I can think of would be like me saying "I'll never eat Chinese food again." Well, most of the time, I can't even tell you what I might want to eat tomorrow night, let alone 20 or 30 years from now. Again, I understand there may be legitimate medical or psychological reasons for never wanting kids, but I'm just saying, keep your options open. Life is what happens when you're making other plans...

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1. This varies with people. 2. This was actually true for me. I was horrible to my mother. I needed the discipline. I feel bad for those who were raised by abusive parents and don't mean to hurt or belittle anyone's experience 3. If you're just banging one person after the other, then yes, it does make it difficult for you to find satisfaction with anyone. And since marriage is supposed to last until death, it makes sense why you should save yourself for the person you might eventually promise to be faithful and loyal to. But I'm not going to condemn you for doing what you want to do. It's your choice. 4. I personally believe it's wrong, but I'm not going bash someone aside the head and scream that they're horrible. I do have a problem when you make your sexual orientation your entire personality and bash me aside the head with it. I don't care who you sleep with. It's not even a question that's on my mind. 5. You have to put in work as well.

"You need to write anything new that I say, even if I don't tell you. In college, you will have to decide when and what to write." Because, in college, we, theoretical studies students, will be forced to attend useless classes like music, "english" [an actual useful exercise (rare) + teacher complaining about life, us, whatever (almost always) + at the end, 20min of writing 2min speeches that the teacher will forget about the next day] or "french" [reading a few lines of text + noting a bunch of words you'll forget in 2 weeks because you'll rarely see them again + listening to the teacher tell us how french is so useful, how we will regret doubting her, how we will thank her when we are older etc. + 'discussing' whatever she reads about in her free time (ex. a personality test with like 4 results) - if we disagree with anything she says, that means we are disagreeing with 'the experts' or her vast 'experience' and therefore we are wrong. The best in our class, after 7.5 years of french (3.5 yrs with this teacher (highschool), the other 4 in middle school with soneone else) can't hold a fluent conversation about simple, basic subjects (like describing a hobby) after the first few sentences and often need extra thinking time to put (regular) verbs in present tense. For comparison, english normally starts in 1st grade and an average 6-7th grade Romanian can discuss more complex subjects such as climate change, whether technology is good or bad, how arts influence our life etc. with an occasional grammar error]

Respect is earned. I can treat someone with dignity even if I don't respect them

And it's smarter to go into an apprenticeship like plumbing or mechanic that pays you to learn than pay college to learn and get a degree you'll never use

Here's the thing. In my job, you see a lot of 'black box' users. Meaning they push a button, get a number and go 'well that must be the right answer.' But if you don't know HOW it is getting that answer, you don't know if that number really is right. Same goes even for basic math on a calculator. If you don't understand math, how do you know your calculator worked? How do you know you didn't miss enter something? Or even just that the program had a random glitch? Just because you have a calculator doesn't mean it is ok to not learn math. Further, a lot times what you are learning is not just how to do math, but how to approach problems in general. Figuring out how to solve that math problem on your homework gives you strategies for figuring out how to solve other problems in completely different areas of your life.

My daughter kicked a bully in the stomach. But not because he bullied her but because he bullied her trans friend. I wasn't sure how to respond to that story because the school didn't know about it.

I was just talking to my mom today about anxiety regarding the dentist/dental visits. One of the very FEW things my mom did right when I was a kid was get me used to going to the dentist for checkups/etc. when I was very young, and she picked an excellent pediatric dentist. I'm very fortunate that I've never had ANY fear or anxiety about visiting the dentist. I've never had a cavity, and I can fall asleep during dental cleanings XD My mom gets mega anxiety, as does my ex. My ex has to take Valium before an appointment just to get through it :( I feel for people who have anxiety with dentists. I guess my mom must have had a moment of actual parental care/love and didn't want me to have anxiety about the dentist, like she did.

My late mother was old school. When I couldn't take wearing my heavy Coke-bottle bottom glasses anymore, I decided to get contact lenses. I must have been about 22 at the time. I casually mentioned this to my mother, and she said: "Oh, no! Once you put those things in your eyes, you'll never get them out, and you'll go blind! I know someone, who knows someone, who knows someone's son, so for sure that's the truth!" I still wear contacts to this day. It was the best thing I ever did for my eyes.

Ya'll are BEAUTIFUL GORGEOUS STUNNING and PERFECT no matter what you weigh and I hope you realize that <3

I was told it makes your knuckles bulge. Never actually happened though. The cracking sound is not actually bones you're hearing. It's the bubbles formed in the cartilage popping that you hear. If it were your bones they would quickly erode.

The whole world is full of very rich cheaters

And God is watching the church crowd go out to brunch after church and abuse the waitstaff.

Cynicism is not bad, but should be doled out in doses. I think the healthier attitude is to not focus on what others are doing and keep going for yourself and because it’s worthy.

if people can't see how amazing you are they don't deserve you

My mom just told me to shut up and stop moving my head when she would put my hair in tight buns for ballet class.

I would much rather have a job that pays me tons of money. Fortunately, my dream job is to be a plumber, so I've got the best of both worlds!

Well, that kinda depends on what you're asking. I wonder what this person asked.....

Who the h€ll came up with this cr@p?

That is the problem with many parents.

Lolol, I love this one! I can just imagine the parents getting so annoyed by the kids standing with the fridge door open and beeping and coming up with this gem!

The bread line was because it was cheaper to fill up with bread. when poor you do what you can to keep hunger away.

The best Beatle.