30 Hard Truths People Only Realized Later In Life, But Wish They Had Known Sooner

better yet, get over the idea of "sides". there is no side.

Very true. It’s crazy sometime how averse people are to opposing views. Exposing oneself to other views and other cultures only makes us better.

My grandfather said this to me quite often as I was growing up. He was really big on self-awareness, self-reflection & owning the mistakes made during our continued growth.

It was just because I didn't have a lot of friends and when they hung out with other people I didn't have anyone, I wasn't trying to be mean I just really hate being alone, I'd make friends with their friends but they usually hated me because I "Stole" my friends from them

Off-topic, but good to see you Ranger! I don't think I've seen you on BP in a little while. Hope you're doing well :)

Just please don't set people on fire.. it's illegal.. if u do tho give me a lighter and a 2nd person

What about your enemies?

There goes my heating plan for the winter...

What if they're dead?

Let's just have no-one setting anyone on fire, 'kay?

You can however set other people's bull poop on fire to warm yourself. Literally: it makes a good fuel.

And, too, that kids are not accessories for making your life "complete" - they're human beings in their own right and must be seen and treated as such.

Amen...If you don't get along with your partner, please spare your future child of the mayhem that's going to unfold in your couple after they are born. A child is not going to make things better, he/she's only to suffer it

Don’t stay together for the kids either, I said to my mum as an adult that I wished she had never let my dad return after she had kicked him out. The relationship was abusive and toxic and no child let alone 7 should of been raised in such a way. My siblings all agreed with me. Your children may be upset to start with but as they get older they will thank you for it. A calm and quiet life is preferable to a mother that constantly walks around with black eyes and bruises and the children scared of how their fathers mood will be when he gets in from work. Constantly walking on eggshells is no way for a child to grow up.

My parents got married because they were pregnant with my brother. They stayed married because they had me. 16 years later they finally got divorced and my family has never been happier. Although I (and I think my brother) have some trauma from knowing we were the reason they were so unhappy for so long.

My BIL is a perfect example of this. The worst part was that we all saw it coming a mile away.

They can help if their job is a relationship counsellor.😉

Or make your boyfriend stay with you, or marry you.

And neither can pets!

Now she tells me

This is so true a friend was in a very abusive relationship, but because she didn't have a father she stayed until he lashed out at one of the children. She grabbed the children ,the dog and the cat, got in her car and ran and never went back. They needed family therapy and the children told her they wished she'd left sooner so they didn't have to witness the abuse. It actually caused some major problems with her relationship with her children.

My dear, the best advice I can give is this: Never have a child in order to please another person. Never.

You should NEVER have kids to please someone else. NEVER!

I am greatly looking forward to my daughter having children, but only when and if she determines that is what she wants for her life. Parenting takes time, energy and money, plus it's a lifelong commitment. No one should enter into anything that requires those 4 things unless it is truly a decision they have contemplated over time and decide, for themselves, that they are someone who would find joy in this decision and that they are also prepared to make the sacrifices necessary for a good outcome. And in today's reality, there's always a real possibility that a person will end up being a single parent, which brings a whole 'nother level of commitment someone thinking of having a child must contemplate. Heavy stuff, no one else's place to decide.

Same is the case with me

Hang in there, you have a lot of life ahead of you. Best advice: don't screw it up 😃

Don't limit your future, though, sweetie. You are very young and you can change your mind later and that's okay, too.

Please listen younger people. Don’t waste your life energy and time on those people who don’t deserve you and your many precious gifts.

How do you not have a username

I love this! Which autocorrected to 'I live this'..... And I do!

On boredpanda last I checked.

firmly in the normal category.

right in the middle of normal; remember doing well is different for different folks

Half way up a falling tree in a s**t sunami. At this point, just body surf it out and see where it takes you! ;)

Nothing bad about you. The systems we are living in are not laid out for individuals and their personal histories. What I have learned for myself is, finding out what gives me joy in life and try to persue it, instead of doing what other people think I should do. They are not walking in your shoes. I hope, you will find your way.

With only one way, up

at least you're a ranger

Read the book Rich dad Poor Dad . Great motivation

With the bulk of us.

Same place I am. It’s somewhere over the rainbow but we passed through backwards, and nothing is normal. The flying monkeys aren’t monkeys! They’re gorillas! Help!!!!!

Possibly in very good company with about half the planet.

In real life the best you can do is the only way to do it 🙂

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Unmotivated

Assumption is the mother of all f*ck-ups.

Yep, i always assume that people are able to hold a normal civilized discussion. Always disappointed.

I think I expect too much of people. When folk are rude, ignorant etc I take it personally. I try to be kind and considerate so when people don't reciprocate, I find it hard to take. Need to stop being so sensitive. Lol.