People Share What Things They Learned Embarrassingly Late In Life (30 Posts)

Yes! Break down large tasks into much smaller ones. Take 15 minutes to clean your bedside table, or pick up and dispose of 20 pieces of rubbish, etc. Keep doing the small tasks and they will add up.

In a book I read on cleaning when it seems overwhelming is to decide how much you can handle. Even if it’s just 5 minutes. Set an alarm to go off 5 minutes from now and get started. Stop when the alarm goes of and see how much you can get done in 5 minutes. Once you can handle that, increase the time. I just moved a couple of months ago after one of the worst years of my life. I feel paralyzed at times. Settling in is so overwhelming there are still so many things I haven’t got put away in places I need to decide where to put them. And then there’s trying to keep the place clean. That’s so difficult I never get to the unpacking stuff dumped in the hallway. Today I figured out, do an hour of cleaning and an hour of unpacking. I don’t have to do 100% of one thing before I start on another. The “another” will not get accomplished. A bit of everything in one session gets something done in all.

and sometimes the satisfaction you get from doing a little is motivation enough to do a little more

When you feel overwhelmed by how cluttered your space is, try the KC Davis’ go-to “five things” tidying hack. In any room, tell yourself there are only five things: trash, dishes, laundry, things that have a place, and things that don’t have a place. Take each category at a time until you’re done — and then pat yourself on the back for taking the hard-but-worthwhile steps toward creating a space you feel more at home in.

Thank you for this sound advice. The last month has been awful and I'm ashamed of just how I've let cleaning become out of control. Tomorrow I'm going to make a (tiny) start in my open plan kitchen and work out a do-able weekly plan. Bless you for your positivy xx

Exactly. I'm disabled by migraines and currently a problem in my neck that causes pain down my left side neck and arm. Between the unpredictable pain and the guilt at not working, which burdens my BF with having to work another job, and the depression I've had my whole life, getting things done can be overwhelming. This weekend I felt good, so I cleaned the bathroom and the kitchen. It isn't the whole house, but it's SOMETHING

Sometimes good enough is exactly that

When you go up or downstairs, always take something with you.

Hugs for anyone who needs it🫂

My (ex(?)) best friend used to verbally and mentally abuse me.

Yes. Which is one of the reasons friends are overrated. Another one is that they always want you to do things and whatnot. Bah! Who needs that?

I haven't. I've been homeschooled my whole life.

Could be me writing this. I noticed that anything I found interesting, that she didn't understand, would just be dismissed as 'oh you and your weird interests' (they weren't). She was really snarky about any compliments I got - making it sound like they weren't worth having. Often subtle stuff and then I realised I was always coming away trying to justify her 'she didn't mean it like that' and I kept assuming that I'D done something wrong. Nope. She was jealous and so I let the 'friendship' fade. Happier without her in my life now but, yes, it really hurt for a long time there.

2 YEARS? Wow. I hope to be you one day and you also deserve a cake.

They only change when they’re incredibly motivated to change. But that decision is theirs. No one else can force them to change if they aren’t ready or don’t want to.

i know mine never did and hasn’t after 12 years

Hugs.

Sometimes they can be. Many of my best friends to this day go back to when I was working as a barback in a busy restaurant.

That depends very much where you work and whether you are in competition with your coworkers. I have several good friends who were my coworkers.

Friends can be coworkers but coworkers aren’t always friends is how I would put it.

And they are often snakes in the grass, ready to screw your over the first chance they get. True friendships among coworkers is extremely rare. Always be on your guard and do not overshare.

Geez, what I am going to tell my wife who (whom?) I met at work? Sorry honey, it's all over, Telepathetic over at Bored Panda says we are NOT friends.

Like it or not, most of us will spend more time with our co-workers than our friends or maybe even our family. Your life is going to be much more bearable if you're friends with them. That doesn't mean you have to share every intimate detail. But being constantly on your guard is pretty stressful.

I couldn't agree more. I have made a few friends in the past who were former co-workers but that was after a lot of scrutiny and consideration.

This needs to spread so more people know it! There are exceptions but those are sooo sooo rare

No, they are Not. I learned that the hard way when I was still a young one. And now, younger coworkers think I'm snooty and unsociable because I don't share personal information with them. Just wait little ones, there's always a backstabber in the group.

Sometime they really are, I met my best friends in the workplace, in totally different types of roles (fast food and corporate). Not just me, a lot of people I know have core friend groups that came from previous roles, and we all still keep in touch. I consider a lot of my current workmates friends too. Yes I've also been screwed over by 'friends' in the workplace, one lead to threats, the another two I ended up fired / redundant, but that was just their personality AND the bosses, they'd have done that anyway and the fact we were workmates was just how we met. Just treat everyone with respect and as equals and that's the best you can do, just be as careful as you would anywhere else.

Louder: for all the people in the back!

Although once in awhile a co worker becomes your friend.

Many of my co-workers became friends. It's just another way of meeting different people. As you say, choose them wisely.

And you, Bob

Thank you

I like the way you think, Burnt Bagel!

I hook them up first then put it on like a t-shirt

I try to buy front clasping bras 😅