"You live and you learn" — can't really argue with that one. And while the older we get, the more knowledge we acquire, some lessons just manage to get past us for way too long. But there's no shame in learning anything at any age! (Well, maybe a little).
One Reddit user wanted to know what people learned just recently that they should've already known years ago. The answers varied from silly to serious, with some people dipping deep into self-discovery, which could've saved them a lot of tears and confusion in the past. From Froot Loops all being the same flavor to mourning relationships with your friends, folks were eager to share their newfound knowledge with others.
Bored Panda selected the most interesting answers for this list, so scroll down, and maybe you'll also learn something new today. After all, we're not aware that we don't know something, until we learn of its existence. Don't forget to upvote your favorites, and if there's anything you learned 'too late' in life that you think others might not know about yet, be sure to share it in the comments!
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« Everything worth doing is worth doing half-a*s ». You can do a part of something it doesn’t have to be all or nothing. You can clean a room and not the whole house. You can eat a salad with your burger. We have a tendency to be « everything has to be done 110% » or it’s not worth it. I think about people who laugh at people taking a diet soda with a burger: well why the hell not? You don’t have to be all in 100% and that makes the pressure more bearable sometimes!
Friend breakups can hurt just as much, if not more, than romantic ones.
Quality matters more than quantity when it comes to friends.
I started to notice that most of my friends weren’t really my friends, only drinking buddies, and it hindered my process of getting sober for awhile. i didn’t want to lose them. but then i realized that if they couldn’t be with me in my sobriety journey, they couldn’t be in my life at all.
I’m 67 days into cutting back, and twelve days into not touching alcohol at all. my life is better without those people. i only have three friends now but it’s worth it. the support and encouragement i get from them outweighs the sadness of losing everyone else.
I send hugs! I have alot of friends, but few very close ones. I am glad you cut the negative people out of your life!
It's better to be alone than in an unfulfilling/abusive relationship.
Don't continue dating someone if you constantly think "give it time, things might get better". That puts you in a never ending loop that becomes more difficult to get out of as time goes on.
Contrary to what you may hope, generally people don't change. So get out before the going gets really bad.
I didn’t learn it recently but I learned it earlier in life, don’t share stuff with your coworkers. Just mind your own business.
Other women know how to clasp their bra behind their back. As a teen I learned to clasp it in front of me then twist it around awkwardly... and then never stopped doing that
I can somewhat do it from the back, but I put it on front, then shift it around and put on the straps! Easy-Peasy!
I hook them up first then put it on like a t-shirt
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Not an option when you have bigger boobs. Nipple chafing against fabric hurts. But one can wear a sports bra instead especially around the house.
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No matter how superior someone acts, we all put our bras on one boob at a time.
My dear, you need to go and get a proper bra fitting. A bra that you can pull over your head does not fit and is nothing but a decoration at that point (and probably not all that flattering either).
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This is great advice for those who have lost mobility in their shoulders. I had a torn rotator cuff and surgery, and the ONLY way I could clasp a bra was in the front, twist it around my body, and use my left hand to slip it over my right shoulder and settle everything in place. It was a step towards getting back to normalcy
Honestly, you can “position” yourself better without all the shifting around from clasping it behind you.
I've learned at the front as well, then I know all of the clips are in correctly
I am increasingly over bras. Some other method to contain movement/protect the nip would be nice, but aside from that... if people have a problem with the shape of my breasts, that's something they need to figure out themselves and shut up about it.
Hearing that the tack in front needs to sit against my sternum did me damage because Smart Me didn't realize that doesn't work if you have pectus excavatum. Then everything else is uncomfortable too. For what purpose really? Bah.
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I’ve always had the hardest damn time trying to take those stupid things off🤪
At the end of the day I'm so sore and stiff from work, screw straining my shoulders, arms and wrists. That bra is getting taken off from the front. Plus I've only just started to be able to somewhat get my hands around my back enough but not quite. Idgaf if I'm trying on new bras at a store. Either the fitter can be the one to fasten and unfasten it or it's going for a spin around my ribs.
me, too, and then I got a shoulder replacement with a backwards socket, etc. and CANNOT do it that way. Front clasp and twist around forever!
My ex did that, it looked complicated to me. I'm a back closer myself and that's easy for me... then I noticed that I can also scratch my back with my hands on my back from shoulders to but-t, so I guess I'm flexibel that way 😁
Me too. I wasn't large or anything. But my shoulders pitched forward, I have short arms, and I couldn't get my hands back that far. So I clasp in front still.
Why do people unclasp their bras at all? I just pull it on over my head like a shirt!
That's how I have learnt to wear my bra too,anytime I try another style I just can't do it
I'm done with that! Wear the kind that you just pull on over your head!
Now thankfully they have front clasps bras. Ah living in modern times 😅
Wait, who can actually clasp it in the back?! I thought that was just in movies!
*holds up hand* I can do it. Never had a problem with it.
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Never learned to do it behind my back. I was taught (very young) by my gynecologist how to put on a bra properly and how to buy the right size.
I can't do it from the back either and when I try the bra fits weird for some reason.
But many women do twist. A common one I have seen is hook in front, rotate, stick arms through straps and pull it up. I think it depends a lot on a person's body build and flexibility and to a lesser degree the style of the bra. (I'm a guy, just saying what I have seen women do)
I just use ones that don't clip in the back, they're 1000x more comfortable than the ones that do
Or just don't wear a bra. Your breasts will be perkier in the long run, and you'll be more comfortable.
I know it's just a stock photo, but that woman in the pic is wearing the wrong size bra.
I read an article lately that told readers you should step into your bra and pull it up around you from the ground. I believe she said women have been putting their bras on incorrectly for years! I hope someone corrects her
No one here seems to be on good terms with their bra. I've always done them up at the back, yes even the ones with five hooks. And far from stripping it off with relief when I get home, I actually put one on if I'm planning to spend the day on the sofa with either sickness or sloth. Is there anyone out there like me?
Lol, I'm the opposite. If I try the clasp in fornt and shift to back method, it never feels quite right. Clasp it behind my back, all the way. Course, I stopped wearing one on the regular when I was about 40.
When I first started wearing bras my mum and older sister insisted I learn to do it from the back and badgered me about it every time. I was annoyed about it at the time but now I'm suuper thankful I can do it so easily
I still don't clasp it in the back. It's way harder and hurts my shoulders!
You're telling me other women put it on front first? What wizardry is this?
Same here. I rarely wear a bra anymore but when I do it's just a sports bra.
I can do either way. Except for those bras with three hooks in a row. If you are in a hurry, they easily go wrong behind your back. Now the question is, how do you take off the bras? With the same technique as you put them? I usually open them from the back with one hand.
I wear my bras crossback so the front-hook-and-twist technique doesn't work for me. It would have been very helpful when I had a shoulder injury.
Doves are literally just white pigeons.
Not similar, or related to, the exact same bird.
Pigeons with white privilege
Don't compare yourself with someone else. You are not them and you do not have their abilities or weaknesses. Use your yardstick on you. Compare yourself in terms of how you have done in the past. It is more accurate. And be kind to yourself if you are making strides and mistakes.
Not recently, but I learned that being your own friend is one of the best things you can do for yourself. The only time in my life I started making friends was when I started being my own friend first, taking care of my health, going to the gym, taking myself out, exploring on my own, and learning on my own. Not only did it help me make friends, but it also helped me feel less lonely, as I really started enjoying my own company! I became an interesting person to be
That the morning after pill has weight restrictions and if you are over a certain weight they will probably not work on you.
Also, more women and children get killed in car accidents because the airbag is not meant for women, it is made for a man.
Products made by men does not always work on women. Just saying.
I read somewhere, I think on bored-panda, that they finally used a female crash test dummy, and got highly different results.
That if I am unfulfilled as an individual my partner will never be able to fulfill me either. Similar to if you don’t love yourself you can’t unconditionally love others.
I never really vibed with the idea that you have to love yourself first to love others. To me it plants the idea that we are unworthy of love because of our own struggle. Allow yourself to love others and to receive their love in return while you are still working on loving yourself ❤️
A consistent sleep schedule and plenty of sleep every night actually works. It won’t cure your depression/chronic illness/various maladies, but it makes it much easier to face them in the morning. And when I say morning, I mean it: even if you’re semi-nocturnal like me, it is so much easier to get important stuff done during the day.
This is the most annoying realisation I’ve had all year, but brains simply work better when they are rested and refreshed.
Exercising does actually feel good and it’s not just pretentious claims made by fit af influencers!
Tall, white, loud men get more respect than anyone, no matter how stupid they are.
Replace your pillows every 1–2 years. Lots of mold and allergens get stuck in there. I finally stopped feeling sick when I changed them out.
That cows only produce milk after they've had a baby. Farmers forcibly impregnate them and take their calves away so they can sell the milk to humans. I always thought they just made milk all the time, which seems stupid in retrospect.
My grandparents run a small dairy farm, and they do not forcibly impregnate their cows or take the calves away. Unfortunately, the reason many other farms don't follow their method is capitalism and the fervent obsession with making money. There are humane ways to get milk, and it is very unfortunate that it is not the mainstream. We need to remember that cows (and all other animals) are also sentient beings who deserve as much love, respect and gentleness as we do.
If you're going to take inappropriate selfies, disable the photo sync to your mom's icloud first.
Or don't take "inappropriate" selfies. Never could understand that trend.
I recently started dating someone about a week and a half ago and he seems so healthy. Everything he says is with intention and it seems so out of this world to me. I've had so many bad relationships and friendships and people just mistreating me that I almost don't know what to do with myself.
I learned that it's okay to trust what someone is saying and forgiving people that hurt you in the past (WITHOUT giving them too much energy, aka. Having to look past them, etc.) Is so healing. I hope this relationship really is healthy and I'm hoping for a better future with him by my side. Yes I know this is super early but I finally understand the phrase. "When you know, you know" I'm 30 btw.
Even if the relationship doesn't work out, these are valuable insights!!
What getting tires rotated actually means.
Also that the line in Billy Joel's "We didn't start the fire" is "trouble in the Suez" not "trouble in the sewers."
How to budget my money.... I've cycled in and out of debt for years, could have been really ahead, never knew. Someone taught me and I'm blown away at how remarkably "easy" it is now that I know.
I have a checking account and a savings account. I put $200 into my checking with every paycheck and the rest into savings. That $200 is all the money I allow myself to spend for two weeks apart from basic necessities like rent and bills. It's a very austere existence, but I need to make sure I have enough in savings for a rainy day.
I didn’t know how much of an impact making my bed in the morning had on me.
No, no, no. Airing the bed by pulling the covers down gives all that night-time sweat a chance to evaporate and keeps your whole bed and mattress fresher for longer.
Not to mess with my birth control, the hormone unbalance was a unpleasant experience.
my blood type
I'm AB+, so in 3% of the population. It's so nice to be 'rare' and special in one way. Lol!
I thought you could only put one thing in the oven at a time.
That depends. You may not want to put a chocolate cake together with a dish that has garlic or something in it. (experience lol)
Babies can’t drink water before 6months old
Since they are on an all liquid diet, they won't dehydrate, and since their stomachs only hold anywhere from 2.7 to 5 ounces at 1 month old, they need every ounce of fluid to contain nutrients for growing, which they get from breast milk or formula. Giving babies only water also can cause hyponatremia - the body has too much water in it, which dilutes electrolyte concentrations in the blood and can cause a whole host of issues. It's the same thing that happens when athletes sweat and chug water instead of electrolyte formulas...
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That many educational institutions don't really test for knowledge, but their tests are made for those people who can best learn by heart. The questions they give you could often be answered in more than one way, and the answer you give could very well be correct and factually right, but because it's not in the syllabus or on the checking sheet, it's marked wrong. So people who understand the subject, think about their answers and give an adequate answer but have difficulties to remember the exact wording used in the book or materials, will get sorted out while people who don't really understand the topic but are epic in regurgitating the contents they've learned by heart get through swimmingly. And I'm not talking about using correct termini or technical terms, but using the right terms but answering the question in a way that's factually correct, but just not worded exactly as the teacher wanted it to be.
This has wasted so much time and nerves in my life! In uni I almost failed an important examn. Worst possiböe grade without failing. I was able to get a verbal post-examn to improve the grade an aced it - including an invitation to do my thesis in their institute. Why? Because the subjust was too intersting to me to focus on the learning-for-the-test.
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That’s a reason I didn’t go to university to get my bachelor’s in nursing. I want to learn what makes me an even better nurse at the bedside. That’s what I do best. I stick with that. But I get told I should go because I’m so smart. Not in the way they want me to be. I looked at the syllabus and most of it was irrelevant to what I needed to know. Then there’s the part where all your essays etc were just spitting back what you’ve read in the many text books. String a line of quotes together and put your source in a footnote. What? I don’t go to memorize. I go to learn. Apparently I’m not aloud to have an original thought in my head, or put down a result of my processing of the info (as in I really thought it out) and write it in a way the professor sees I understand the material, not just spit it back. Never went. Perfectly happy I didn’t.
I'm my own worst enemy. Took many years to figure out. AND, I can't do anything without procrastinating. At least I can admit that stuff now.
That many educational institutions don't really test for knowledge, but their tests are made for those people who can best learn by heart. The questions they give you could often be answered in more than one way, and the answer you give could very well be correct and factually right, but because it's not in the syllabus or on the checking sheet, it's marked wrong. So people who understand the subject, think about their answers and give an adequate answer but have difficulties to remember the exact wording used in the book or materials, will get sorted out while people who don't really understand the topic but are epic in regurgitating the contents they've learned by heart get through swimmingly. And I'm not talking about using correct termini or technical terms, but using the right terms but answering the question in a way that's factually correct, but just not worded exactly as the teacher wanted it to be.
This has wasted so much time and nerves in my life! In uni I almost failed an important examn. Worst possiböe grade without failing. I was able to get a verbal post-examn to improve the grade an aced it - including an invitation to do my thesis in their institute. Why? Because the subjust was too intersting to me to focus on the learning-for-the-test.
Load More Replies... That’s a reason I didn’t go to university to get my bachelor’s in nursing. I want to learn what makes me an even better nurse at the bedside. That’s what I do best. I stick with that. But I get told I should go because I’m so smart. Not in the way they want me to be. I looked at the syllabus and most of it was irrelevant to what I needed to know. Then there’s the part where all your essays etc were just spitting back what you’ve read in the many text books. String a line of quotes together and put your source in a footnote. What? I don’t go to memorize. I go to learn. Apparently I’m not aloud to have an original thought in my head, or put down a result of my processing of the info (as in I really thought it out) and write it in a way the professor sees I understand the material, not just spit it back. Never went. Perfectly happy I didn’t.
I'm my own worst enemy. Took many years to figure out. AND, I can't do anything without procrastinating. At least I can admit that stuff now.
