30 Husbands And Wives Share What Bizarre Things They Discovered About Each Other After Marriage
Living together is a momentous milestone in a relationship. It requires opening up and seeing each other for who you truly are—sometimes, in more ways than one.
Although it’s wonderful to share your space and spend even more time together, you might learn something new about your spouse when it comes to their behavior at home. A popular post on r/AskReddit highlights some of the weirdest things that people found out about their partners after getting married and living together. So, Bored Panda has collected the funniest and most bizarre stories.
Whether it’s strange, late-night habits in the bedroom (no, not those ones) or some questionable hygiene practices, it seems like starting married life isn’t all the bliss it’s made out to be.
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Occasionally my wife will sit straight up in bed, but she is dead asleep. The first couple times she did it I thought she was going to go to the bathroom or drink some water but she just sat there. I tried talking to her and when she didn’t respond I realized she was asleep. Horrifying.
I’m used to it now, so I just rub her back and quietly tell her “Lay down it’s time to sleep.” and she will lay back down. Apparently she reflexively punched her ex in the eye once because he didn’t realize she was asleep and he woke her up. Pass. Not getting punched by you beautiful creepy wife.
Ah love.
My husband has prowled the bedroom and said weird scary things. The first time obviously I had no idea he was asleep and he went and opened the bedroom door and came over and told me 'it's to keep them in' 😱
According to statistics from the US government, marriage rates in the United States are falling year upon year. The numbers indicate that millennial couples are choosing to live together, whilst delaying or even forgoing marriage altogether.
In a related 2019 study completed by the Pew Research Center, only 44% of millennials aged 25-34 were married at the time. This is contrasted sharply by the previous generations’ marriage rates in a similar age range: 53% of Generation X, 61% of baby boomers, and 81% of the silent generation.
My husband is terrible at finding things. It can be front and center at eye level in the fridge and he can't find it! I used to hide his presents by putting them in the open on a chair in our bedroom — I called it my 'super-secret' hiding spot.
I think it is true with most of us husbands. And then we panic when the wife says let me look for it because we know that she will find it in the most obvious of spots. The suspense when she walks in and searches for something you are 'certain' is not there is the stuff thrillers are made of.
It coincides with changing attitudes to the traditions and ideals of marriage for the younger generations. Another important factor is the financial costs associated with getting hitched.
Millennials are well-known for their struggle of growing up in the aftermath of the 2008 market crash. Buying a house in this era may seem like an unachievable goal and when considering the costs of a wedding, it could be considered more of a luxury than a necessity.
Even with getting married, there’s also the risk and fear that if it’s unsuccessful, there will be the literal price to pay for the divorce. Marriage may not look like a fruitful investment for many, so a safer option may be to live together as a couple.
My husband has no off switch. If I'm not listening, he just talks to himself. He has full on conversation in the shower. He pauses YouTube videos in the middle to give commentary. He's pretty much only quiet when he sleeps, and then he snores! I love him to bits though. The house feels weird when he's not here chattering away.
That would drive me crazy after one day. It also seems like the type of thing you would notice even before being married.
She talks in her sleep. And not like “I forgot milk”. Like “Do you think hot dogs are steak d***s?” or “COSMIC-SHEEP WHERE ARE THE FREAKIN BAGELS GO FIND THE BAGELS” (the latter said while staying at a friend’s mountain cabin forty five minutes from town at 2 AM).
Relationships are magical.
However, all this does not point to eliminating weddings altogether. As a result of postponement, the average age for a millennial’s first marriage is steadily increasing. In the 2019 study, the average man was first married at the age of 30. In comparison, the average was 26 years old in 1987, and 23 years old in 1968.
The choice for postponing marriage is often attributed to the need for financial stability too. By choosing to focus on their work and careers instead, many are just waiting for better conditions to start the rest of their life together.
HE EATS DEVILED EGGS WITH SUCH A FEROCITY. He will literally forget to take breaks in between eggs in order to breathe. ... he'll start freakin sweating...
My mother did not believe me so made some for him for Christmas and got to witness the horror first hand.
For context he's a pretty fit dude who eats most of his meals normally.
She likes to walk around the house with one sock on and one sock off.
When eating Oreos, she takes a mug filled with milk and places the Oreo in the mug, she then takes a spoon and scoops it out of the milk and eats the Oreo off of the spoon. Why else would God have given us fingers if not for using to dip Oreos I say?
Once when we were at my in-law’s home, she was eating Oreos this way and I started giving her s**t about it. Then I look around the room and see her dad, mom, and three sisters just looking at me; all holding their mugs of milk and Oreos with spoons to extract said Oreos from the milk. Foot, meet mouth.
My husband takes his shirt off to poop, I'm not sure why.
Maybe he doesn't wipe well and wants to avoid a repeat of the poop on his shirt tail incident of '05
Apparently my wife does not poop. We have been together for about 15 years and not once have I caught her cr*pping. It's disturbingly strange. Maybe she's an alien.
Her shoes. Shoes in living room, shoes in the hall, shoes in the bathroom, shoes in the other bathroom, shoes under the kitchen table, shoes under the coffee table, shoes next to the coffee table, shoes in her trunk, shoes in my trunk. Shoes next to the bed, shoes under the bed, shoes on the bed. Shoes.
I was friends with my husband for 16 years before we got engaged and moved in together...... I found out that he insists on sleeping fully clothed
Not like....a T-shirt and pajama bottoms
In his friggin jeans, shirt, even shoes
There may be some PTSD there. Sometimes, people who don't feel safe dress like they're ready to escape at any moment. Talk to your spouse. Figure out what's going on, and get them professional help if they're holding on to some really traumatic memories.
He rips paper towels in half and saves the other half. I collected them, wrapped them up, and gave them to him for Christmas. Yes, we used the other half, I'm not a earth-killing savage.
He gets out of the shower, struts into the room naked, and says, "OK, gotta go to work." Like, weekly. It's funny every time, I think that is the actual weird thing.
My wife, the second day of us dating/living together, she was like, “Listen, I fart, okay?” And everything else has been smooth sailing ever since - 7 years later. I never suggest the parameters of our relationship to others.
My wife was the same. At the beginning of our relationship she told me she farts, gave me a example, and hoped I didn't have an issue with that. I fell in love with her at that very moment
My boyfriend just moved in with me about a month ago and he cannot close a drawer to save his life, I swear every time he takes something out of a drawer he forgets that it doesn't close on its own.
I was waiting for this! Does he leave the doors open too? I feels like that scene from The Sixth Sense every time I go into the damn kitchen
My wife makes sex noises while she sleeps. It's super cute and very funny to me. I didn't tell her about it until she went on a weekend trip with friends and she asked me about it after they said something.
Found out my wife bites into her popsicles with her front teeth like a psychopath
He likes to slap his booty when he gets out of the shower. He has a certain beat that he keeps and it is so very loud.
He blows his nose into his towel and then dries off with it.
But I'm the crazy one for refusing to share a towel.
He then ALWAYS hangs the towel over the shower curtain rod so I have to move his booger towel to shower. Sometimes boogies fall off into the tub and... Just yuck, dude.
11+ years of boogers.
Did you know it is possible to fold a fitted sheet? Mind. Blown.
Yeah, you just roll, scrunch and put it in the cupboard. That's my kind of "folded".
My wife brushes her teeth, goes pee. Comes to bed. We talk for 20 mins. She gets up, goes pee. We talk for 5 mins because she thought of something in the bathroom. I turn over, close my eyes to go to bed.
I hear the toilet flush, and she gets back in bed.
This repeats until she falls asleep provided that there's been no more than 5 minutes since she last went pee.
My wife is incapable of keeping track of small, important items (like her keys, wallet, or cell phone). If it can be lost, she WILL lose it, usually for several days. Even after ten years of marriage, I am still amazed at her ability to do this.
I have kept an extra set of my wife's things with me for the last 30 years of marriage, let alone her giving me the original straight away as soon as she uses it. I swear, it's one of the main things that has kept our 30 year marriage so great. She so badly needs me, we both badly need each other, everything in the relationship gets fixed immediately. That peck on the cheek when I have it for her, is what every marriage needs.
My husband freaks out if he sees me plucking my eyebrows. Like, “OH MY GOD! How do you DO that to yourself!?” Every time. But he won’t look away when I do it. He’ll just cringe with each pluck.
My husband will fall asleep in the most awkward and uncomfortable positions. Like he will stay up on the couch playing a video game or watching TV while I go to bed. He will then fall asleep on the couch but not lying down or with his head on the back. He will contort himself into a human pretzel and sleep. And he has no idea why his back and neck are so messed up all the time.
She always laughs about how I use specific kitchen items for specific tasks, like certain bowls are only for cereal, and certain cups are only for drinking water. Of course, I am also amused at her insistence on the "correct" organization of her side of the closet and within the drawers of her dresser. I never knew how many different categories of blue jeans existed before I met her.
She's afraid of the dark, not just like a random, dark, creepy, haunted-looking building but to the point where if she is alone she has to sleep with a night light or if the hallway is dark, she needs me to walk with her.
Women use a lot of toilet paper.
A CR*PTON.
Yup, well we can't just give a little shake and be done with it. Plus we have periods.
He likes to sleep with pieces of tissue in his ears cause he believes his ears leaks wax. I've never seen them leak. Kinda found it gross at the start of the relationships but 7 years in I just pick up those tissue bits up from our bedroom ground and it's doesn't even bother me.
Hocks in shower and that does bother me. A girl has limits.
My ex had like the worst smelling belly button ever. She used come home after a long day of work and that thing would reak of rotten cheese and meat. No joke I could smell it across the room.
Belly buttons are like armpits..they don't smell if you wash them..
Wife will change clothes 3 times a day. Get up puts on her running around sweats, gets dressed for work, comes home changes into her casual clothes. Then fuss about how much laundry she has.
I get up get dressed for work and I'm done, might change shirts if you go someplace after work.
He thinks it's a 'weird personality quirk' that I want to sleep on the same side of the bed every night. He teases me for it.
I thought this is pretty normal to sleep on the same side every night. I think your partner is the weird one lol.
Around guests or in public he eats totally normal and politely.
At home he goes full caveman. It's like that scene in Beauty and the Beast when he eats the porridge.
He chews soft foods... ice cream, jello, and you can hear it from across the dam house.!
My husband stands in the shower for a good ten minutes without doing anything. I think he falls back asleep standing up.
My hubby has a really stiff back in the mornings so he will stand in the shower for some time just to relax his back.
My husband eats finger foods with a fork. Pizza? Fork. Chicken nuggets? Fork. Fries? Fork.
My husband cannot clean his ears without coughing. He is also extremely particular about q-tips. He keeps them in a sealed container and will not use the same one on both ears and will not use it if it's touched anything outside of the q-tip box.
You shouldn't clean your ears with those, you can actually cause some damage.
That she pisses like a racehorse in an echo chamber.
Do all women pee in such a deafening manner?
We can yes. It takes effort to do it quietly, you have to point the stream at the wall but at a certain angle and you really have to restrain yourself to let it trickle instead of racehorsing it. Some of us can hold multiple liters too if need be. I say: celebrate your healthy champion!
I honestly didn't know people farted in their sleep.
Not judging, don't really care - I just didn't know that until then.
Is there a time schedule for farts? Like business hours, half day on weekends and holidays?
My husband does NOT like "chunks" in his chili or spaghetti. He also climbs up on the roof when he gets sad or scared, prefers to pee while sitting down, has daydreams about chopping wood while shirtless, and sometimes jacks off on my Frozen t-shirts. Oh, and he eats candy in his sleep.
Peeing while sitting down is healthier because it empties the bladder fully and prevents infections.
My boyfriend refuses to do his studying or any paperwork at his actual desk. It is piled high with papers and books. Instead he does all his work at the pool table so he can be near the kitchen.
The man is capable of consuming SO MUCH peanut butter. I have never in my life had to purchase peanut butter this frequently.
He’s a remote hog and to make matters worse, he has to constantly flip channels. By the time you get into a show, he changes the channel. I stopped watching tv when we’re in the living room together and I’m usually on my laptop or my phone. He then gets mad that I don’t watch tv with him and that I’m on my laptop or phone.
Mine is even more strange...the tv volume MUST remain on an even number. If I turn it up to "27"...he grabs the remote and flips it up or down one notch. The only exceptions are if it is a odd number, but a multiple of 5. So I can turn it up to "15", but not "19"....he is SUCH a weirdo and I tease him all the time about it...and may or may not intentionally leave the volume on "29" when he is not around. lol
My husband has to bootcamp style clean EVERYTHING and roll his clothes bootcamp style. Hes a redneck country boy type but was sent to bootcamp and some of it is still drilled into his head. The whole Yes maam, No maam, Yes sir, No sir thing...His basic stance. All military boot camp.
yes maam, etc. i learned being raised in the south - not only boot camp stuff.
I guess not weird, but a lot of people do it, but anyways my wife likes to pee in the shower. Especially when I'm in the shower with her.
I understand why people find this gross. However, you might be interested to know that _fresh_ pee is germ-free (unless you have an infection). If you have an injury with dirt in it and don't have water available, rinse it out with pee to avoid an infection. Pee also kills athlete's foot fungus, and kills mold in the drain: If your shower smells like mildew, try peeing there for a day or two.
We like to hang our toilet paper rolls in opposite directions. Sometimes we have petty disputes where we switch the orientation of the toilet paper roll back and forth because we both believe we are correct.
Not married yet but my fiancé sometimes eats certain fruits with the peel still on. Or eats cucumbers without slicing them. He just...holds a cucumber and takes a bite out of it.
Pretty sure with most fruits you're supposed to eat it with the peel?
When I start talking to her I will eventually have to repeat myself because her ears don’t turn on until halfway through the sentence. I need to start every sentence with getting her attention first.
Ah, this drives my husband nuts too, but you know what drives me nuts? That I'm watching a show, reading a book or browsing the internet and he expects me to immediately snap to attention at the first sound that exits his mouth. I'M BUSY! Obviously you need to get my attention before you start rambling.
I've been married to my husband for 5 years. I have never seen the man blow his nose. He only sniffles.
He had an addiction to soda. He would leave empty 2 liter bottles in clusters. Sometime 15 of them. I don’t know why he didn’t just throw them in recycling. I called them his “sculpture gardens”. He has since quit soda all together, so no more sculpture gardens in this house.
Knew a dude who had his house condemned. Kinda the town bummish character. Well my boss bought his house so he can rent it out.. He had a PILE like almost to the basement ceiling of 2 liters.... and randomly around his house. like this, in little clusters some of them..... all filled with pee
My husband puts his mouth directly on the faucet to rinse when he brushes his teeth.
When my wife and I first moved in together she had this ridiculous fear that someone would break into the apartment. So the front door was dead locked and the flimsy a*s bedroom door was locked, every night. I got used to that, but the weirdest part was, as afraid as she was, she HAD to sleep on the side of the bed closest to the door. I'll never understand that thought process.
The fact that he doesn't stir up things like yogurt and sour cream before using them. Just spoons it out un-stirred like a barbarian.
She is a water bottle hoarder.
While packing up for our last move, we filled one of those curbside recycling bins with empty water bottles twice.
Bottles in drawers, under the bed, behind the fridge. Her thing is that she wants to recycle them but isn’t always near the bin, so she sets an empty one down and forgets about it, then it disappears.
Maybe the cats, maybe shuffled items, who knows. I accept no blame; I’m all about tap water and forgetting to sweep underneath things.
Forgive me as I don't normally get on my "high horse" about things but that's appalling. Get a reusable water bottle for her instead of being a massive contributor to the planet's destruction.
He chews on things that he picks off his body: callused foot skin, toe nails, finger nails, etc.
Sock balls.
When he takes his socks off, he doesn’t pull them out flat. He leaves them in the wadded up form they take on from the way he removes them, and doesn’t fix it before he washes them.
I fold the couple of socks together when I put them in the drawer..I don't know how to tell, put together, fold in half and fold back one sock over the other one like a packet.. my husband does this when he put the dirty sock in he laundry basket, I hate it because I have to check and separate each sock when I make laundry or the socks don't wash properly..
That he sleepwalks.
He's only done it maybe twice, and it was when he was incredibly stressed out and exhausted after our son was born. But apparently he used to do it all the time as a kid, and it runs in his family. Our son even has night terrors sometimes, which are thought to be related to my husband's sleepwalking (it's said paranomnias run in families).
As a sleepwalker myself, my advice is to see a doctor about this. Sleepwalkers and night terrors can be a sign of a seizure disorder.
My spouse would say that, I’ll eat anything that has touched anything. I could drop food on the ground and I’ll eat it. It’s a waste if I don’t. I’ll lick butter off of a restaurant table. Makes her nuts.
He keeps Swiss cake rolls in the freezer. What the hell? You don’t buy them from the freezer - why would you keep them there?
He tears off his toenails and smells them before discarding.
If he’s playing a video game, and only when he is playing a video game, he will come upstairs, make himself something to eat or drink, and run back downstairs... the “weird” part is that half the time he forgets to put away some perishable ingredient, or just doesn’t put any of the food back period. This one time he left a whole gallon of milk out during a f**king snow storm. I bring up his weird habit when we get into petty arguments about cleaning the house and his response is always “OH MY GOD M4RCELINE IT HAPPENED ONE TIME!”
It definitely did not happen just one time. The milk incident, yes, that was only once. But just last week he left out half of a (cooked) frozen pizza. Also, I always know when he’s been eating peanut butter waffles because I go into the kitchen to find Aunt Jemima and cousin Jif staring at me by the toaster.
Move a fridge downstairs just for him, and let him deal with the mouldy food he leaves out
I recently discovered that my partner of 12 years doesn't like tootsie pops. It was exceptionally shocking, for some reason.
He stands up to wipe his butt.
Stinky pants and cups everywhere
I can come home from a day at work when she is off all day and immediately tell what she ate, did and didn’t do all day.
Okay I definitely do this. If I have a day off I want to relax and do nothing! I will clean up my mess at the end!
She builds houses down in Barbados every 3 months with a bunch of overweight white women from her office. She says she’s in charge of taking large loads of dark wood.
I hate to seem shallow but there are quite a few things on this post that would send me packing. Hocking the shower, blowing your nose in the towel, chewing with your mouth open making that smacking sound. Nope to all!
The trick to a happy relationship - stick with someone who's quirks you can live with. (married for 40 yrs)
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My husband used to scrape the toppings off his pizza, eat them and then eat the nearly plain slice of dough afterwards. I used to tease him about it, but now he‘s stopped doing it and I feel like a jerk :/
Oh man that was the best. I did it as a kid and it was the best way to eat a pizza.
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I hate to seem shallow but there are quite a few things on this post that would send me packing. Hocking the shower, blowing your nose in the towel, chewing with your mouth open making that smacking sound. Nope to all!
The trick to a happy relationship - stick with someone who's quirks you can live with. (married for 40 yrs)
Load More Replies... My husband used to scrape the toppings off his pizza, eat them and then eat the nearly plain slice of dough afterwards. I used to tease him about it, but now he‘s stopped doing it and I feel like a jerk :/
Oh man that was the best. I did it as a kid and it was the best way to eat a pizza.
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