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Someone Asks “What Is Something That Your Parents Did That You Will Never Forgive Them For?” And 35 People Deliver Heartbreaking And Honest Answers
The internet is full of happy, wholesome content about parenting and family life – from cake smash photoshoots and childhood photos to constructive parenting tips. Just as important as celebrating the positive, however, is learning from and and understanding the negative. When one Redditor asked people to share things they’d never forgive their parents for, the comment section served as a place of group catharsis where people could get traumas large and small off their chests and console one another.
We must warn you that some of the topics touch on potentially triggering memories of sexual assault, violence or substance abuse. If you enjoyed a relatively stable upbringing, some of these comments may help put the turbulence you did encounter (because haven’t we all) into a broader perspective. If your upbringing left you deeply scarred, then you may recognize parts of your own life in these terrible situations and find solace and solidarity. All of these people survived, and some of them are even thriving – despite it all.
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#1
Mine is heavy but I’ll be honest, my mother was a prostitute when I was a child. When I turned 4 and my sister was 5 she decided she wanted to earn even better money by pimping out her kids, us. This was a part of my life for a few years until I went into foster care. I’m a grown adult and I accept what happened in my childhood and I’ve done the work to heal. But I’ll never forgive her. Some things are unforgivable.
Nicole Weymann 2 years ago
And some people don't deserve kids. Stories like this (or rather these) make me wish some kind of parent training and license was mandatory before procreating.
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Jane No Dough 2 years ago
This is so awful I don't have words. I hate that people can be this horrible and I'm so sorry they did this to you and your sister. I hope that life is a thousand times better for you now and that it keeps getting better.
Dru Mode 2 years ago
You have to have a license to drive a car..catch a fish..kill a deer...adopt a dog but they let any Tom ..D**k ..or Jane be a parent...my grandma "gave" me to my grandpa at age 3 bcuz she couldn't have sex any longer due to a medical condition and when I con fussed he was raping me ..she told me to deal with it...her dad raped her and her sisters and her mom didn't stop it so she wasn't helping me..just learn to deal with it is what she told me
tabithapaquette98 2 years ago
Omfg Dru Mode! I am so sorry. That is... there are no words. Awful. Horrific. I am so sorry your family sucks. So just because her parents did it, it's ok to do it to you? No!
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Leo Domitrix 2 years ago
Saw a t-shirt this week that said "I'll let God fix it... because if I fix it, I'll go to jail". Sums up how I feel about that "mother".
SpirklePlatz 2 years ago
I am so sorry. You are brave and strong person, and I admire you very much.
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#2
Close to Christmas when I was around 10/11 years old, I was home alone when there was a knock on the door. I answered and it was one of my mum's acquaintances.
He told me that he'd spoken to my mum and needed to come in to pick some stuff up, so off he went upstairs and proceeded to steal all of the Christmas presents that were destined to be placed under the tree for my brother, sister and I on Christmas morning.
I was oblivious to what the stuff that needed to be picked up was.
Mum comes home 30 minutes later, asks if anybody came round whilst she was out.
Proud as punch I say "yup, Craig came round and picked the stuff up you told him about".
"YOU LET HIM IN THE HOUSE?!?"
*oh c**p*
Mum runs upstairs....
"he's stolen all of your Christmas presents, you'll have nothing for Christmas now!"
High drama, anger and profound guilt filled the entire house for the remainder of the night and a while after.
About 6 months later I overheard a conversation I shouldn't have and figured out that there were no Christmas presents to start with, the whole thing was a setup.
The household budget didn't stretch to maintaining existence, sating a rampaging heroin addiction AND Christmas presents.
So yeah, my mum concocted a perfect plan to hide the lack of Christmas presents, remove herself from any perceived blame and let a 10 year old boy think that he had ruined Christmas.
Those were the days!
KJ 2 years ago
That is plain evil, probably had a huge impact on the siblings relationship on top of the feelings of guilt.
Allison B 2 years ago
According to OP on reddit, it actually made the siblings closer and since they're all adults now they know to do the opposite of their mother.
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WindySwede 2 years ago
The mum thought it was heroine-dously good to throw the kid in the Christmas meat grinder for the addiction, apparently.. 🤮
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Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
I'm disgusted (and slightly impressed). The psychological trauma of that kind of manipulative guilt doesn't go away. I'm so sorry you were subjected to that abuse
* * * Being_Cori * * * 2 years ago
I genuinely thought I was the only one who had a Manipulating mother, and never said anything to anyone, thinking I would be considered an evil/bad child
#3
My mom letting my stepfather beat me almost unconscious and now denying 15 years of abuse on me and my brother. We were really affected when we realised that she will never apologise or even accept that it was also her fault for not doing anything about it.
Take me to dinner first 2 years ago
It's so sad when people don't acknowledge their own faults cause they'll never believe they need to change
tabithapaquette98 2 years ago
I'm so sorry! I hope you are doing better and have cut that b***h out of your life!
Joshua David 2 years ago
I get this. My father gave us very extreme physical punishment and violent beatings. She would promise to leave him, and 2 weeks later, he'd be back and back at it. Today, she'd be arrested for that.
Dawnieangel76 2 years ago
My situation is similar to OP, aside from the fact that it was only ME being abused. My half-siblings weren't treated as I was; they were punished, grounded, but never beaten. Physical AND mental abuse for 15 years as well...until I wasn't able to hide injuries from the family physician. He flat out told the abuser that if he saw one more mark that I stuttered out a reason for, he'd call the cops immediately. That did end the physical, but the mental stayed until the bastard died from being a diabetic weighing about 600 pounds, because he had no self-control. I loved every minute he suffered until he was gone. I've forgiven my mom, mostly, because he was the main breadwinner & she was small & frail while I've always been bigger & beefier, so I could take the beatings "better" than her, but the lingering anger of her not letting me live elsewhere or telling even family what was going on, will never completely fade.
Shiva Ho 2 years ago
Yup My Mom is a Drama Queen that had no business being a parent! Instead of taking responsibility for her lack of parenting skill she would freak out to the stupidest thing and then blame me for it! My father was a Doctor who's office was in the basement of the house we grew up in and any noise from upstairs would inevitably bring him storming up to beat me for it regardless of who was making the noise! She literally used Me as her personal human shield against his rage! My father used me as his personal lab rat to experiment on & practice his dark medicine on since the day I was born! When I was 11 he forced me to help him put Shingles on our roof during a freak October Snow Storm and I fell off the roof and landed on my hip. A week later I was dying in the hospital with a Temp of 105! He misdiagnosed it as an appendicitis and had it removed only to find out it wasn't it! I had told him it was my hip but he wouldn't listen and blamed me for his mistake cursing me for it!
Now more than ever, people are becoming more comfortable with discussing mental health and trauma online. This is a wonderfully positive development for our mental and emotional wellbeing, but we can sometimes forget to consider the events that can make people have to deal with these issues in the first place.
#4
Abandoned my dog and [unalived] my rat with a brick.
My rat was old and dying, I wanted desperately for my mum to take him to the vets to be euthanized in the most painless way possible. She was too lazy (We have access to free veterinary care in the UK for families on benefits, so there was no excuse). She used a brick to [unalive] him...
Then my dog, he was a former fighting dog my auntie had rescued and given to us. My mum couldn't handle his antisocial behaviour. He never attacked anyone, but he was easily spooked and only really got along with me. One day, while I was at school she dumped him and I don't even know where. He was a good and emotionally sensitive dog that deserved a home.
This stuff paired with the fact she was an abusive person, who hit me and my siblings almost daily, is the reason I haven't spoken to her in 4+ years and don't intend on doing so ever again.
Duckie Measles 2 years ago
Or pets. Maybe they shouldn't even be allowed plants either.
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Frenchie_mom 2 years ago
I’m honestly at a loss for words…… I’m so, so, so sorry. I hope you have the best life possible away from that terrible person.
tabithapaquette98 2 years ago
Good for you! She is evil! I'm so sorry. I really hope you are happy now. And please never talk to her again. She is not going to change.
María Hermida 2 years ago
A person who is cruel to animals, is also cruel to human beings when given the opportunity. The woman is a monster. She deserves to die alone.
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
Honestly, I don't think there's anything so psychologically damaging to a child/adult as a parent f*****g with their pet. We love our pets unconditionally, the way our parents are supposed to love us. But when they're psychopaths (or to be technical, show signs of anti-social personality disorder), the trust issues and overwhelming guilt and sadness a child is left w/ is overwhelming, to say the least. I'm absolutely heartbroken for this person AND his dog, especially since I had a dog much like this and the thought of putting her through her original trauma again is... I just can't.
#5
I was 10 years old. I was given to a 34 year old man to be his third wife. My parents were so happy because it was a great "honour" to them that I was chosen out of all of the girls there to be with the man that was second in charge.
GlitterPanda 2 years ago
This isn't a cultural thing... this is cult behavior.
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SpirklePlatz 2 years ago
Such a common - and tragic - pattern. Happens in more US religious cults than we’d like to admit. Child marriage rate in the US is shockingly high. (Not saying this happened to OP in the US. I don’t know. Just making a point that it’s a problem that is here, too, not just “over there.”)
Zephyr 2 years ago
Arranged marriages are just a recipe for extramarital affairs and future divorce cases
Susie Elle 2 years ago (edited)
How about a crime against children, humanity and fundamental rights??
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#6
Raising me as a Jehovah's Witness.
RKBJR82 2 years ago
They raise you with no concept of the living world. Always afraid Armageddon is right around the corner. Don't believe in higher education. Cover up pedophile accusations. I could go on.
RKBJR82 2 years ago
I should clarify, I, too, was raised a JW. Like a weird phase my family went through for years. Now everyone in my immediate and extended family are disfellowshipped.
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I have come to believe all religions are cults - in the most negative context of cult.
Colleen Glim 2 years ago
I don’t do organized religion of any kind. Too many atrocities have been committed in the name of “god”. And too many people are pious for an hour on Sunday and complete arseholes the rest of the week
Allen Packard 2 years ago
I hear this one a lot. Also when the child leaves the "church", they get ostracized by their parents and siblings. Just crazy.
J-Stryker666 2 years ago
I actually had a friend growing up raised this way and absolutely hated it. She was the only one in our school and felt super isolated when she had to wait in the hallways during the morning Canadian anthem. Once she turned 18 she basically ran away and cut off contact. Everyone religion is that individuals choice and can change at anytime (I was forced into Pentecostalism, had to do somen crazy as a kid to be banned from the church, then believed in Athesim, and now I am a evolutionist) no religion should ever be forced onto someone = that equals a cult to me!
RosenCranzLives 2 years ago
All children are born atheists. It is up to their parents to rear them with either logic, reason and freedom, or to indoctrinate them in a belief system they can't fully comprehend. The latter is abusive.
the redqueen 2 years ago
So was I. I am working on forgiving my parents-I believe they are brainwashed. Seriously. I hold the old white men who supposedly are "god's chosen " , responsible for my miserable teenage years, and every other kid out there , forced to go along with their beliefs.
Kayleigh haigh 2 years ago
I never understand jehovahs witnesses they say they go by the bible but in the bible it says jesus said take this for it is my body and this for it is my blood to me that condones as transfusions yet they would rather die or there loved ones die before accepting donations
Doodles1983 2 years ago
Except JWs don’t drink the wine in communion/memorial. And it’s symbolic.
Load More Replies...Parenthood is hard, but that’s no excuse for any of the stories described here. The majority of these are child abuse through and through, and those that aren’t may still have damaged the children who experienced them forever.
#7
I was sexually abused by my grandfather constantly for years. Its one of my earliest memories.
Later in life I found out that he did something to my older brother before I was even born. They stayed away from him briefly after that but then carried on as if nothing happened because they didn't want to cause an issue.
Edit: I want to thank everyone who has commented. I cant describe how much it has meant for me to recieve so much love and care.
I feel very alone most of the time so I'm going to remind myself that this proves that there are caring people out there.
❤️
SweetCheesySpaghetti 2 years ago
Since before myself and my siblings were born, the adults in my family knew that my grandfather was a paedophile. They still allowed us to visit him at length, with no other adults present. We soldier on.
Jessica Bertram 2 years ago
that is awful, Spaghetti. i hope you have found a measure of peace. i hope there's a hell and that he and his enablers are in it. 🫂🥺
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tabithapaquette98 2 years ago
It most definitely was not your fault. Please stay far away from this f***ed up family.
Judy Steelman 2 years ago
Didnt want to rock the boat? I probably would have quietly garroted the SOB
strawberry.panda 2 years ago
That is very tough and scarring. Remember that you got through it, and you are strong,
Nikki Sevven 2 years ago
When you care more about your family's public image than about the health and safety of your own children...
#8
not allowing me enough social freedom. Im gonna be 18 soon and i have no friends because i wasnt allowed to attend most social events. planning to go far away from for college to change this.
Vee 2 years ago
I wasn't allowed out of the house by my stepdad. Once I got out - left at 17- I never looked back. Made a lot of stupid mistakes (trusting the wrong people etc) because I had 0 social awareness/experience.
Be glad im not a waffle 2 years ago (edited)
The picture makes me jealous. At least you can use a computer without having to have someone monitoring you at all time. (Edit: Yes I know its a stock photo)
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Hollerfloozy 2 years ago
Yep, we werent allowed past our mail box ( end of the yard) No school activities, no friends coming over, and we certainly werent allowed to stay at any ones house. I got my first boyfriend, and legit, I didnt know what social cues were, I had no idea I was "that" girl at the party. Now that I;m older, I realize my whole life has been cringe because I don;t know how to handle social situations. 20 years and $30,000 worth of therapy later, I can now at least say I hate the hag without feeling like I'm a terrible person. She used to go through our rooms and take anything she wanted, and we couldn't say anything. Any money we earned, she took right back because it was" our" fault she was broke. She sat there smoking her carton of cigs, watching TV while we cleaned maggots from the sink. Lots of trauma to unpack.. Imma go call my therapist..
El Dee 2 years ago
Due to your lack of social interaction you're gonna be a noob. Make sure you have a REALLY trustworthy friend to have your back..
Duckie Measles 2 years ago
I had to forge a permission slip to go on a one day boat trip through the Boston Harbor. My mom refused because there could be pirates there. Still confused about that one.
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
Spread your wings, girl!!! Every butterfly starts off as a caterpillar that doesn't roam far from where it hatched. But once a Monarch butterfly hatches, it can fly from the farthest Northeast states to Mexico. Good luck!!
brandyy17 2 years ago
my parents sheltered me and bc of the things they did i now have an anxiety disorder. my mom made me very paranoid bc she would lie about things that werent actually dangerous. one example is i believe lighting could hit me thru the water if i took a shower while a thunderstorm was happening. thats just a silly example tho. i wasnt allowed to stay out late with friends bc thats wen the criminals came out. meanwhile the town i lived in was a safe town and always had things going on. i wasnt allowed to go to carnivals bc they were run by thugs etc. i learned on my own all the things my parents said was bs which ruined our relationship and they were filled with guilt bc they r the reason behind my anxeity disorder and y i was bullied. wen i was 25 i learned they did wat they did bc i of my epilepsy. problem was bc they did this i was never ready for the real world. im happily married now and have a life but i cant work due to my anxeity. my parents now live in a different state and my relationship with them is fixed but only bc of my husband. they kno if they cause me anymore stress or anxeity or if they try to shelter me from stuff he will stop them and he wont b happy about it. ive been improving since my parents left so he wants to keep it that way. the worst part tho is wen they moved its kinda like the dumped all my problems onto him without help from them. they never help sort things out. my disability was lost as a result and im currently reapplying.
Mysteria 2 years ago
At least you got to hang out with friends during the daytime. Until I was 12 and a half my curfew was when school ended :(
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* * * Being_Cori * * * 2 years ago
Same, and then when I turned 24, the parents wanted me to get married !! to whom?? they never let me go out and make my mistakes
Id row 2 years ago
I left home at 17. If you have somewhere else to go, you can go then. They're not going to put out an amber alert or try too hard to find someone who is almost a legal adult. If you're worried about your mom raising hell with the cops, you can always call them and explain you left very willingly because of the abuse, are safe now and don't need them looking for you as you'll be an adult soon anyway. I really hope you do have somewhere to go.
#9
My mum sold my dog while I was at work. When I came home and was looking for them she told me that someone came to see him today and that they loved and took him.He went to a good home, but I never got to even say goodbye.
Edit: Appreciate all the love. After reading all your stories, I can say that I am unhappy that I am not alone in this
Zephyr 2 years ago
Was 12 years old a "man of God" said my dog was possessed by evil spirits, dog was sold to people that eat dogs I had to chain up my dog and watch as he was hit on the head with a rebar until it died then watch them merrily take my dog to be cooked....(Nigeria) hated most pastors ever since
Rifqa Ahmad - Zaruq 2 years ago
Omg, I am so sorry for you. I'm Nigerian myself but ive seen many families with dogs and pets. Pastors can be pieces of work.
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Rens 2 years ago
My ex-husband did this to our daughter: while she was at school he got rid of her cat and she never got a chance to say goodbye. That cat was everything to my daughter at the time; he did the same thing to me many years previously got rid of my cats, without telling me, and I didn't get the chance to say goodbye. I never trusted him again and I never will.
tabithapaquette98 2 years ago
WTF? I hope you moved out! What a f***ing b***h! That is so wrong!
The first step to healing the trauma from events like these is often to simply accept the trauma in the first place - accept that you’re not OK, that you’re hurt, and that you need help. The often-advised next step is to seek out professional help, but if someone is unwilling or unable to do so, here are a few steps to get started with healing your own trauma and improving your mental health.
#10
They beat the s**t out of me. Sent me to school with bruises. Threatened to have my sister's split from me if I ever told anyone what they did to us. Now my bio mom tries to guilt trip my sister's into convincing me to let her and her s****y husband back in my life.
Aside from that they also [hurt] our dog, poisoned my squirrel and cut my sister's guinea pigs head off.
But I'm the unhinged and unstable person.
Some people should never have children.
SheamusFanFrom1987 2 years ago
I seriously hope OP cuts out the gangrenous scum excuse of a family he/she has right now. No guilt needed for that, just a cold, hard HELL NO!!!
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
Oh, F*CK NO!!!! No contact, now and ever after!!! These people are psychopaths and I would seriously encourage your sisters to go LC or NC with them as well. There is NEVER an excuse for physically abusing children or animals!!!!
darqemm 2 years ago
All of that is unforgivable, but cutting off your pets heads??? That's psychopathic:(
Bronze Republic 2 years ago
The school is supposed to report bruises on kids to authorities! I'm so sad it seems OPs school did not.
Jennifer Ness 2 years ago
Do not let them back into your life. You've suffered too much already.
tabithapaquette98 2 years ago
Please don't ever get in contact with them again. It's not worth it. I'm so sorry.
#11
Uhhhh lemme think for a second… - my mom being proud to break a brand new wooden spoon by spanking me - both of them forcing me to clear the plate no matter what was on it, if I liked it or not, if I was full or not. Lost the ability to feel if I’m full… - both of them insult me (stuff like “you’re too stupid to take a s**t” if I made minor mistakes, for example dropped something while eating) - my father SAing me - my mother saying she would get a divorce after I told her but she never did until she died - my fathers attempt to strangle me on the day I moved out Yeah… that’s about it
* * * Being_Cori * * * 2 years ago
'Proud to break a brand new wooden spoon by spanking me' - same for me, the women used hot spoons, dad's belt, kneel on salt, locked in the bathroom without food.. so much so that I eat everything and anything I get to eat, whenever I get to eat, cos as a kid I never knew what mood the woman would be in and if I would get to eat.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
My mother also withheld food from me so I understand the binge eating... and for me it's binge soda drinking I can't get enough of soda and candy cause absolutely NOT ALLOWED EVER as a child. I'm sorry you went through that. My mother was t physically abusive just psychologically but still kept my stomach in a twisted nervous knot my entire youth so I can't imagine what it felt like for you
Load More Replies... Be glad im not a waffle 2 years ago
So, all in all, a terrible abusive childhood filled with deadly and emotionally and mentally damaging experiences from idiotic parents who clearly have more business being in jail or an asylum then being parents. Sums it up pretty well, I think.
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
I'm so sorry you were put through all that. I hope you're getting therapy (it helps so much!!) and that you're finding your path to happiness. Sending hugs and blessings your way <3
Natasha 2 years ago
What does SAing mean? I’ve never seen it before. Although I have a suspicion of what it means
tabithapaquette98 2 years ago
I hope you are NC now and are in therapy. I really hope you are happy. You are worth it! Your parents suck, not you! So sorry.
Tiffany Valentine 2 years ago
My father strangled me and my sibling when we tried to move out as well. That must be a common thing with abusers. I'm so sorry. ♥
#12
My dad tried to commit suicide when I was a baby. That alone is bad enough but he tried to take me with him. My grandfather came to the house and basically told him "If you give up on life, that's your choice, but you aren't taking my grandson with you!" I miss you, grandpa.
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
Finally English has the best phrase for something! Family Annihilators (or sometimes just murder-suicide; you know BP's gonna censor that!) have been in the US news A LOT lately. So sad to see
One strategy is to make an effort to observe yourself and take note of any emotional overreactions you exhibit throughout your day. Critical self-analysis may help reveal that these overreactions point to unresolved issues caused by your trauma. This step can work well together with professional help, as it will give you meaningful information to pass on to your therapist.
#13
After 10 years of promising me the house in exchange for living and taking care of them. Mom decided after a fight to give half the house to the man who tried to [unalive] me in my own home - my brother.
B***h still doesn't understand why my wife and kids moved 300k away from her and that psychopath.
María Hermida 2 years ago
For f***s' sake, BP! Unalive!?!?!? Really??? Why censor the word "kiII"? See. It doesn't kiII anybody. KlLL. KlLL. KlLL.
Beeps 2 years ago
God, it’s just so awful how many times I have heard very similar stories. So, so many times there is one family member who supports an older person over decades. Eventually they’ve had enough of being taken for granted, there’s an argument and the older person just writes them out of their will and leaves everything to another family member who has never lifted a finger. Happened twice in my own family, and I’ve heard the same story from so many friends and acquaintances as well.
Genesis Angel 2 years ago
See, this is why I detest the word "unalive" What happened to this person is utterly horrific, and yet the impact of this statement is destroyed because a censor had to put this through the kindergarten filter.
Leo Domitrix 2 years ago
Parents. My dad taught my older sister all she needed to know on how to deal with being his kid.... by showing her what to do to me. F*ck that. And to this day, most people remmeber them as charming. Yeah, b/c it was their egos being inflated by the attention. Then their demons came out on *me*. The dogs, a couple times. Random furniture, probably. I don't want to think about this anymore....
María Hermida 2 years ago
You can always sell it and use the money for something positive
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Ignoring my obvious ADHD in spite of the fact that they were aware of how much I struggled. I got good grades and wasn't hyper, so it didn't matter!
Mad Dragon 2 years ago
After years of struggling tremendously, I finally got diagnosed when I was 23. When I told my mom, she shrugged and said, "Yeah, we've known about it since you were 10." Gosh, thanks for letting me think I was lazy and stupid all those years!
Nikki Sevven 2 years ago
I wasn't diagnosed until I was 50yo. It explained a LOT about my life. I'm 58yo now and still learning the Jedi Mind Tricks required to manage the condition.
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Too many parents are afraid their kids will be "labeled" and it will make them look like "bad parents", or they think their kid is just "faking" whatever symptoms in order to get attention. It's b******t in both cases, but it still happens way too often
Elio 2 years ago
Yeah, they don't want to parent a kid who needs help (even though that's what you sign up for as a parent), so they live in denial and their kid has a harder time in school, even though ADD/ADHD is treatable. The kid will sadly probably end up spending a lot time thinking they're dumb for not being able to pay attention. This is not helped by the general sh!tty consensus (by people with no medical training) that ADHD is overdiagnosed and it's an excuse for bad lazy parents to drug their kids.
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Joelle Jansen 2 years ago
My parents did the same. They didn't want to "put a label on me". But if I had my autism diagnosis earlier, maybe I wouldn't have destroyed my health to be something I'm not. It's hard to move past that, even knowing they had good intentions.
Tracy Wallick 2 years ago
Someone at my elementary school apparently caught on that I had ADHD. My father, who had narcissistic personality disorder, *refused* to believe it. I didn't get diagnosed again until I was 27, and only because I stumbled across an article about ADHD in women and took it to my psychiatrist.
Stardust she/her 2 years ago
My parents and I know something is wrong with my brother but they refuse to even get him diagnosed because “he’s a smart kid” even though he struggled so much socially
Idunno 2 years ago
This is my parents and I’m scared that they won’t pay attention to it. I want to get help but they keep postponing my getting help.
Mysteria 2 years ago
Look up when you don’t require parental consent to make a doctor’s appointment (which is also when they can’t tell your parents stuff without your consent). Make an appointment, make up some excuse, then you can probably get help! :)
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Grudge-holding Treefrog 2 years ago
Same here. My mom would threaten me with medication when I misbehaved, saying, “If you act like this one more time I’m going to have to give you medicine that will make you stupid and boring.” She now says that she never said anything like that and only didn’t get me treated because the doctors would give me bad meds. One of my best friends has been on ADHD meds for a long time, and they said that it helped them a lot.
#15
Kicking me out the day after my 18th birthday because I turned 18. And now constantly calling me a failure for not finishing college (had to drop out because I couldn’t afford that/rent/transportation anymore) and telling me to do better
Nicole Weymann 2 years ago
Don't wait. Waste of time and energy. Go and don't look back.
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They're the ones who should have done better. I don't understand parents who think the 18th birthday is some magical date that automatically turns children into highly functional, financially stable adults able to comfortably live and function in the "real world". I was in the beginning of my senior year of HS when I turned 18, working a part-time job (this was back in the 90s, so making $4.50 an hr before taxes). A good portion of ADULTS are barely scraping by w/ 2 jobs, and many have moved back in w/ their parents, and these monsters are kicking these 18 y.o.'s onto the street. Then they wonder why their kids want nothing to do with them
tabithapaquette98 2 years ago
F**k them! I really hope you are NC with them. What did they think would happen when they kicked you out without notice!
Roland Nijveld 2 years ago
Why is this a thing in the US? Never ever heard a story like that in Europe. Maybe because in my country parents are financial responsible until you're 21
Bored Trash Panda 2 years ago
My dad kicked me out when I was 18 because I dropped out of school. He let me come back when I got a job though. I moved out as soon as possible after that. I would never do something like that to my child.
Jaybird3939 2 years ago
They forget that this person they see as some small child will be in charge of many aspects of their life. Very soon.
Another good tip is to do some research on whatever events you think may have been traumatic for you. If possible, check in with participants or third parties that may have been present or that may have otherwise known about what you went through.
#16
They made me drop every single hobby I got into because studying came first. I learned to hide my enthusiasm from them because of this. Even today I never show how excited I am for something I do or buy. I feel like I am unable to enjoy things to the fullest because of it.
Be glad im not a waffle 2 years ago
Apparently to them basic privileges and happiness were a hobby too. I'm so sorry!
Perfumista Perfumista 2 years ago
I am constantly amazed by the number of parents who don't understand that colleges, especially the good ones, want well rounded people. People who will join their clubs and put the school in a good light. If all you do is study, you are actually less attractive to them.
Ima Manimal 2 years ago
Put some distance between you. My mom does the same thing. Sabotages anyone else’s happiness. Distance helps a whole lot.
#17
Probably that I ended up being the mediator between my mom and dad as they went through a divorce and one side was being frustrating to communicate with than the other. So I in part had to act as a go between information and nagging them to communicate for stuff like medical bills and insurance and school payment stuff from 7-15 or so.
Take me to dinner first 2 years ago
omg I'm so sorry for that, no kid deserves to go through that. Actually, no one deserves to live this
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
I believe this falls under the term Adultification. You never should have had to play mediator in your parents' divorce. They actually have paid adults who do that as a full-time job.
Doodles1983 2 years ago
My partners wife made their 13 year old do this. I called her out on it and apparently “bullied her”. She has now alienated their daughters from us. With all sorts of malicious lies and behaviours. Foul woman.
#18
For breaking each and every promise they made, and trying to control me like a puppet. Otherwise they're good tho
* * * Being_Cori * * * 2 years ago
do you ever feel its easier to go for a job interview, than visit your parents as you have be their version of yourself? like for me, I need to sit like a girl, move about gracefully, not wear shorts to sleep, have my hair in a bun when I am about to eat ............
R Dennis 2 years ago
One thing my stepkids and daughter always know, I don't lie and I keep my word. If I had an expectation, it didn't change on a whim and if I promised them something it was done - sometimes I went without, but I never broke a promise.
R Dennis 2 years ago
I told them that the only thing you take with you when you die is your integrity. Never sell it cheap because once it's gone, it's gone.
Load More Replies...A difficult but important step is also to embrace the pain. For many, coping with the pain and grief of trauma involves hiding or repressing it in some way. This manifests itself differently in every person, but it can involve substance abuse or other types of addictions. Most therapists agree that a key aspect of dealing with trauma is embracing and feeling the pain of that trauma. Crying is OK.
#19
He held a knife to my 12 year old brothers throat and threatened to [unalive] him. Abandoned multiple family dogs on the side of the road. Abuse of each other in front of me. She put her fist through the China cabinet in front of me. Blood everywhere. I was 5. I moved across the country. He is now gone, and I have no contact with her.
Be glad im not a waffle 2 years ago
Oh my gosh. I am so sorry. No one should ever have to go through something like this. We are all here for you =)
Tiffany Valentine 2 years ago
I remember coming home and seeing blood on the hallway walls. Apparently mom had gotten tired of his abuse and beat that monster with a large glass cup. They were acting like everything was fine. I was so proud of her.
#20
They taught me very bad eating habits that have made it super hard for me to stay at a healthy weight. I am absolutely working at, and succeeding in teaching my children better eating habits.
OwenHasADHD 2 years ago
Obesity and severe unhealthiness are serious issues, Seabeast.
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* * * Being_Cori * * * 2 years ago
the women used to lock me in the bathroom without food, so now I eat everything and anything I get to eat, whenever I get to eat, cos as a kid I never knew what mood the woman would be in and if I would get to eat. which has lead to same unhealthy eating habits
Jane No Dough 2 years ago (edited)
I am glad you are focused on the health of yourself and yourchildren and not repeating your parent's mistakes.
Doodles1983 2 years ago
Mum was a yo-yo dieter. And used to tell me “you’re getting a bit fat.” It had an effect. I refuse to allow scales into my house.
Ima Manimal 2 years ago
You’re an adult now. The choice is yours to make now. Make good choices for yourself and your kids.
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
Good for you for breaking the cycle. It's never easy but it's absolutely worth it. You're a fantastic parent!!!
#21
One morning in 2002, my Dad woke me up for school, but I obviously fell back asleep. I've had big periods of insomnia since I was a child, but instead of recognising that when he came back into the room and saw me asleep again, he grabbed me by the hair, dragged me out of my room and slammed me onto the hallway floor. My Mum said nothing. It's been 21 years and that memory still haunts me.
Yeet_girl360 2 years ago (edited)
I hate single serve cups of Macaroni. I made one for my brother and told him it was to hot to eat, and as a joke told him I had to eat it for him. He fake cried, and I gave it to him after putting an ice cube in it. Out of curiosity I asked my brother whether he loved macaroni, or God more, and he said macaroni. I didn't know how to reply, so I told him what I learned in school. That he should love God more. (We were in a homeschooling Christian type school) My mother came home about an hour later from shopping, and i went to the bathroom. When I finished my mother charged and slapped me so hard I fell against the wall. She yelled at me, telling a 12 year old that they were being a B-word. Apparently my sister twisted the situation and told my mother I wouldn't give my brother macaroni because he said he loved macaroni more than God. It really affected my relationship with my mother, sister, and brother. Eventually we sorted out what really happened, and apologized to each other. Still hurt though.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
JESUS!! No wonder you have Insomnia and sleep episodes being woken up traumatically like that!! I could never hurt or yell at my kid sleeping. They look so sweet and innocent like babies again and I'm sorry you went through that
Find someone you can talk to. This can be a friend or family member that you trust, but again, your best bet will probably be to work with a therapist who is trained to hear out your troubles and help you seek out a constructive path towards recovery.
#22
My dad used to tell us all the time how my step mom was the most important person in his life and how he wished he never had kids. When he was dying his wife was already moved on to her next man and didn’t even go see him the day he died because “she had other stuff she needed to do first.” I’ll never forgive him for putting her above us.
Zephyr 2 years ago
How in God's name do parents find it in them to tell their kids that having them ruined their lives, they didn't have a say in the matter and if they did they wouldn't choose s****y parents like them
Jill Pulcifer 2 years ago
My dad does the light version of this, stepmom is most important, says the only reason he stayed in contact with us (his three kids) is because she couldnt have kids and wanted them, likes to brag about how she is the only wife he never cheated on (my brothers and I have different moms), has never taken any of our sides against her, even though she has anger issues. He used to tell me to "take my medicine" meaning go in an let her scream at me, well she did it for t he last time on Christmas 5 years ago, she was jealous because I wished my aunt happy birthday on facebook. She called me screaming, using every name in the book, my husband who I had told about her temper but didnt believe me, over heard and hung up. My dad called and tried to force me back on to the phone for months so she could yell at me, my husband answered, I have not spoken to either since. I miss them, but not enough to make always feeling anxious about every thing i do worth it.
Load More Replies... Noproblem 2 years ago
When I was a kid, my mom’s two favorite phrases were “never have kids, they ruin your life” and “the biggest mistake I ever made was having you kids.” Now she’s over here wondering why none of her four adult children have given her any grandkids. Yeah that’s a real head-scratcher, that is.
Elio 2 years ago
My parents are cool with me not wanting kids, but I have met parents my age who complain about their kids and seem to regret having them. But some immediately change their tunes when I say I don't want them and then try to convince me kids are great and I should have them. It's like, you just complained about them way more than normal venting 5 seconds ago.
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LittleMissPanda 2 years ago
I am so sorry you had to go through this... some "parents" just don't deserve kids :'( I hope you are doing better now
tabithapaquette98 2 years ago
Nor should you. He chose to have children. You had absolutely no say in it. I'm so sorry. He got his in the end though.
athornedrose 2 years ago
you aren't required to keep your kids! if you feel that bad about it, drop them off at a fire station or hospital?! why hang on to them if you don't want them?
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
Seriously, we need to come up with some kind of testing system before people are allowed to have children. Just because you're biologically capable of giving birth to them does not in any way indicate that you possess actual skills to be a competent parent.
Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
My grandmother treated my Mom like absolute sh*t when she was a kid, physical & emotional abuse because the man who got her pregnant didn't want anything to do with either of them. Grandma's dear friend (my Grandpa) married her and gave my mother a name. They actually went on to have 3 more children and stayed together until his death. I hated my Grandmother for everything she had put my Mother through. B*tch - it's not my Mom's fault you spread your legs for some random guy.
Doodles1983 2 years ago
Mum did that with stepdad. My sister tried to tell her he saw other women at the time she was having her affair with him. Called her a liar. Turns out, totally true. But by that time she was back into Jehovah’s Witnesses and refused to leave as another divorce wasn’t moral and hubby’s word was “law”.
Sara Wilson 2 years ago
My dad didn't SAY it, but I basically got the same thing. My younger siblings don't understand that we had different dads. He stood up for them, but they didn't get it as bad because they were hers, whereas I wasn't
#23
my entire life my mom has always talked about “wanting me to have my own life”. when i finally moved out to live with my then girlfriend, she decided to write me a letter. it detailed how if i still lived with her, she could have done so many things for me (like getting me a car). she then wrapped the letter up with saying me being born ruined her life. now she wonders why our relationship is so bad.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
although the picture above is a loveletter addressed to a partner.
#24
They told me I could buy what I wanted since I had a job. Even so I was very careful with my spending because I didn't want them getting mad that I bought something "useless". One day I told them I was gonna buy a secondhand psp for my birthday and asked them if it was okay. They said it's fine because it's my money after all. Still I kept asking them just to make sure it's fine and that they promised they won't chew me out for it later. Sure enough I bought it and had my first personal game console.
Then a year later we got into an argument because my parents weren't satisfied with the money I was giving them. Then they brought up the psp I bought last year and chewed me out for spending on useless stuff like that instead of buying branded clothes to show off to our relatives. I will never be able to forgive them for that. They broke their promise and I was now in the very situation I was trying to avoid back then.
Anyways after that I just started buying whatever I want without telling them or lying about the price.
Jill Pulcifer 2 years ago
This makes no sense to me, my adult daughter lives will me for free and since she chooses to work, she has spending money, and its all hers as it should be. Her two sisters will have the same, providing they want to stay here. As far as I see it, they are still my kids, I chose to have them, and this is still their home.
* * * Being_Cori * * * 2 years ago
I know this feel too well, it makes you fell useless and then you keep yourself on the back burner forever, they [parents] never let you live your life, you just end up feeling like a puppet in their hands
Tiffany Valentine 2 years ago
My mom is always encouraging me to buy stuff for myself. She gets upset when I buy her things though. Dad never allowed her to have anything.
Dawnieangel76 2 years ago
My mother had a credit card problem, and my first 3 years of working, 99% of my paychecks went to HER to help pay off the bills. I got enough for gas & that was it.
While seeking mental and emotional recovery, don’t forget that your physical health is scientifically proven to impact your mental health (and vice versa). These tips are lampooned as woefully inadequate responses to trauma, but they are meant as the establishment of a healthy and supportive baseline, not as a cure. Make sure you’re eating enough food, drinking enough water, and getting 8 hours of sleep a night.
#25
When my son was first born, his grandpa on his dads side sent me 500 dollars to get through the month. I told my mom this and she asked me if I could help her pay one of her bills. I said yes, but that I would need it back eventually because I needed formula. I wasn’t working at this time and I was a 19 year old single mom. She agreed and said that was fine. End of the month rolls around and when I asked for the money back (it was 80 dollars) my mom went off, ended up messaging my sons grandpa and said “You don’t need to give her anymore money. She doesn’t manage it well because now she can’t even afford formula.” I guess I’ve forgiven her but it really irks me even 4 years later.
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
If this was the only time Mom pulled this s**t, I could understand forgiving her, but I'm willing to bet $80 that it's not even close to the only time. If it were me, I'd go no contact with her.
SillyPandaBunny 2 years ago
Why would you forgive her? I would have never let my child be anywhere near someone like that
Jennifer Ness 2 years ago
It should irk you. If she is abusive like this all the time, I hope you can grow and get away from her and build a decent life. She is probably holding you back
Doodles1983 2 years ago
I would t forgive her, and I’d have shopped her a*5 to g’dad that she took $80
#26
Dad invited his nephew who was fresh out of jail for killing his own father, to stay at our place for a while. I was 3 at the time and he sexually abused me multiple times, and my dad would still have him babysit me :^) When my mom learned and wanted to take legal action he fought her all the way, because family is family. Thank god I have my mom, she fought for me before I was able to. I don't remember a lot from it, because of cptsd but some of the things she has told me are horrifying and explains a whole lot now that I am older
Yoyo 2 years ago
Isn't it a bit weird that your mum told you about horrible things that you couldn't remember? I'm not saying she shouldn't talk about it but going into detail seems counterproductive.
Edward Willis 2 years ago
There are a few reasons why the mother would say. Firstly, without having discussed it, she has no way of knowing whether or not the child remembers it. Secondly, if the child knows what happened, they have a better idea of when that trauma might arise and how to avoid it. Thirdly, the child might have half-memories of events, and by being told the whole thing can help place those half-memories into context and deal with them. Also, maybe the child asked for the detail?
Load More Replies... Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
Thank goodness for your mom. I don't even have the words for the piece of s**t excuse for a "dad" and cousin you were cursed with. Love and blessings to you
Chexmy Licks/egg🇯🇵 2 years ago
ur dad should die lol what would he do if you did the same thing to him if he was a kid? nothing exactly bc hes a kid, not even old enough to do anything like talking that much. his nephew should go to hell and ur dad too hes fcked up both of them r fcked up. Gosh i hate it when people r like this (most)
BetterBitterButter 2 years ago
Family is family? Your own child is not your family and nephew is?
#27
Honestly, it would be the toxicity and overprotective nature of my parents. The way that I grew up made me feel as though I didn’t have anyone to lean back into, and it sure as hell didn’t help how my dad always made me feel worst about myself, and the constant need to prove myself and to try to be better. And my dad being overprotective made me not have a lot of friends, which screwed up my social skills.
As a result, I sucked pretty bad at school and didn’t have a lot of friends. I remember how when my parents used to fight back then, I’d just hide away in my way room playing video games or with legos, just to stay away from my family.
I guess because of how my childhood went, I don’t think I can really forgive my parents because of how much it would mess me up later on in my life. I still suffer from having an inferiority complex and can’t appreciate the things I’ve been able to accomplish. I’ve gotten better but it’s still hard. I respect my parents these days, because of they changed towards me, but I still can’t forgive them completely for how things have went. I could never have a heart to heart conversation with my dad about the things he’s done and I think that’s why I can only say that I love my dad, but I don’t like him.
Yeet_girl360 2 years ago
Yes, inferiority complex, something I struggle with too. Throughout childhood I was always told I was smarter than my decisions, and could do way better. Eventually every decision became major, and i felt forced to grow up and take on to much responsibility to fast. With my OCD I was the main cleaner, everything had to be done in a specific order, and in a timely fashion. My siblings on the other hand would diddle daddle, and get distracted. I know one of my siblings has really bad ADHD, so I tried to be understanding about why it would take her so long. Additionally my grades. I did home school after 6th grade so eventually I fell behind trying to keep up with life.(that is where my OCD really developed) I just became so overwhelmed and angry all at the same time. Eventually I just kinda broke down, but even then, that feeling of never being enough or what they wanted would eat away at my thoughts. I got back up again until I broke again and again. Luckily I'm not like that anymore.
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
Totally understand what you've been through. My parents weren't overprotective, but my dad's way of "teasing" and "being funny" my whole childhood (and adulthood) was somewhere in between making fun of me and downright humiliation, and my mom thought he was hysterical, which just encouraged his behavior. Please find a therapist to talk to. It really does make a world of difference when you find the right counselor (you don't always find the "right" one on the first try, and that's okay. But don't give up. Not every shoe is gonna be a perfect fit the first time you try it on).
Kristen Potter 2 years ago
This was my childhood too, but with my narcissistic grandmother. Definitely not alone in this.
Doodles1983 2 years ago
Despite not being in the Jehovah’s Witnesses myself, mum was and hated me having social activities or friends outside of that. She was intimidating, kind of. I isolated my self further. Stayed in my room. Escaped with reading and binge eating. Now, at 39, I have no idea how to “people”. I also realise I am on the spectrum or have ADHD. But it was never picked up due to the isolation.
#28
My mom taught me my whole life that my worth is only determined by the way I look, my weight, the way I carry myself, how "lady like" I present myself. She instilled fear into me at such a young age, that as long as I was fat, I'd never find love, I'd never find a good job, I'd never have children. Dragging me to and from doctors to find "what was wrong with me" because I was "fat". Grounding me for weeks at a time because I didn't lose the amount of weight she wanted me too. Now as an adult woman, I struggle so incredibly hard with my self worth and self confidence. Trying to separate her words and thoughts from my own, as I've never had an original thought about myself. The anxiety, depression, and self harm that rooted from this should've taken my life years ago. She's my mother, and as hard as it may be for others to understand, I love her. I've come along ways with setting boundaries with her and putting my foot down. As for my father, he never spoke up for me. He just turned a blind eye. I've felt so out of place in my family for as long as I can remember. I'll heal one day, but it won't be anytime soon. Just love your f*****g kids for who they are, unconditionally.
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
You are a beautiful survivor. If you aren't in therapy, please find a good therapist. It helps a lot w/ that negative inner dialog. Yes, it's very hard to change. Just a thought but might be worth a try: have 1 of your favorite people record themselves saying things like "You are beautiful" "People love you b/c you have such a kind heart" "You make people happy b/c you're so funny" (Trust me, your friends will have no problem coming up w/ a list of your best qualities). Then when those bad thoughts are stuck on a loop in your head, listen to the recording of your friend saying those wonderful things about you. You want to replace your negative inner dialog w/a positive one, & while there's plenty of meditation sites online that do something similar, it will stick more if it's a voice that means something to you
FABULOUS1 2 years ago
My mother has an issue with overweight people, I didnt fully realize it until I was an adult. But as a kid I was always bigger then my siblings and she put me in any weight loss programs and live in care places she could. My weight has gone up and down my entire life, right now I am overweight again. Sadly when she is making rude comments about people she considers overweight, I feel personally attacked because I feel like her cruel words are directed towards me also. Sadly I let an ex make my weight an issue also and I stayed a long time because I was told no one would love me because I am fat. I am truly loved, I love myself immensely and my wife loves me no matter what.
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 2 years ago
Munchausen’s by proxy? Either way it’s absolutely horrible and I hope OP is doing better now
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
My mom took me to weight watchers and I got grounded if I didn't lose weight. But got a doctor to write a note that I couldn't lose weight under 130 pounds because then I would be TOO pretty and look better than her. I was 14 and weighed 154 when it started. Then when I turned 20 and got down to 112 she wouldn't let me go in the store with her or anything because "all the guys look right at you and I'm just an old hag!" Narcissistic b***h.
Kayleigh haigh 2 years ago
It doesnt matter on your size, colour, religion, sexuality or anything that makes everyone different if you are kind hearted unselfish and good natured you will find love and happiness i know even a******s find love and are more or less happy but you can make yourself happy just believe in yourself try a manta "im beautiful both inside and out" tell yourself it everytime you get a thought from your mums comment once you believe it and u will your confidence will reign and others will notice and want to be around you
#29
Not believing me when I came home from my first year of Uni & said I wasn't on drugs. I was clinically depressed & suicidal, but they said my 'weird behaviour' was because I must be on drugs. I've never knowingly taken anything, even 20years later. No matter what I said or did, they wouldn't believe me or help me. It took a friend at Uni intervening & getting me some professional help before I could cope again.
Doodles1983 2 years ago
Mum used to yell at me for smoking. I’d go to the pub, yes, play pool (where cues had been used by smokers) but, to this day I’ve never tried so much as a single puff. Why? Because MUM USED TO SMOKE and I hated it. Atmosphere, smell. Hypocrite.
Dawnieangel76 2 years ago
All of us have some form/level of mental illness, both sides of the family. While I went to get help & am on medicine that mostly helps me exist, my brother & sister have untreated problems, because their father let it be constantly drilled into them that "mental illness was bull & only made up for fake doctors to get you hooked on drugs for life"...and yes, I was on my meds back then AND so was our mom & our grandmother. So now, my brother is completely dependent on myself (mainly) and our parents (mom's new husband is WONDERFUL!) and my sister can barely work more than part-time for only months. It's terrible.
#30
Force me to give all my original star wars and action man toys to my little cousins.. which they absolutely destroyed within 3 months.
Would be worth a fortune now.
EDIT : I had no idea what I said would connect with people of my age.. for the record I had about 75-80 original Star Wars figures.. all with original added weapons and in great condition, but not in original packaging.
The ships and vehicles I owned were all in original packaging and great condition. About 7 of em.
I’ve also remembered as well I gave them about 30 original late 70’s early 80’s subbuteo teams in original green slide off boxes away as well.. but that was to the son of the guy that had gifted them to me.. so they weren’t really mines
SheamusFanFrom1987 2 years ago (edited)
I've been down this road, but it wasn't so much my parents but rather my "beloved" uncles and aunties manipulating my grandparents into agreement. That BS all stopped when I got older and beefier, got a part-time/full-time job, and started buying my own stuff and downright giving them a not-so-friendly reminder that if I bought it, I say whether it can be given away or stays with me. Of course, being from a Chinese family, they keep playing the "Respect Your Elders" card but will always back off pretty fast when I play the "Who Bought It?" card instead.
Deborah Rubin 2 years ago
I'm an "elder" and believe respect should go both ways.
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IYAAYAS64 2 years ago
My mother did this to me. I had no idea until I went to my cousins house and I was like hey that’s mine. The worst part my Aunt and Uncle told me I wasn’t allowed to touch my old toys.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
WTF!!! F*****g monsters! I would take them ALL BACK like "stolen", "stolen" "yup DEFINITELY stolen"
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KnightOwl 2 years ago
My dad still talks about his action man collection from the 60s and 70s, his younger brothers sold them one day when my dad was out hiking with friends. They were teenagers at the time and are now in their late 50s and early 60s, but my dad can't let it go. He says they would be worth a lot of money now because there were so many and they were all in perfect condition and still in their original boxes. (Apparently he had about 2000 figures and hundreds of vehicles and accessories)
Duke Kilroy 2 years ago
My parents gave away 3 boys collective toys without asking us. Not the end of the world. But why would they not think to ask any of us?
The Short Lady 2 years ago
My mom gave away my Barbies without asking. I had original Barbie and lots of those early Barbies and their clothes. She gave them to my niece who didn't even like dolls and I never saw them again.
DarkViolet 2 years ago
The day after the funeral of the matriarch in my foster house, our Barbies "disappeared," never to be seen again. Now in my 60's, I am attempting to reclaim the ones I lost, via Ebay and Marketplace. No one will ever touch them without my permission.
Load More Replies... Perfumista Perfumista 2 years ago
Yup, my mom waited until I went off to camp and then threw out my autographs and toys she deemed too childish.
Jessiebean 2 years ago
I guess my hubby is such a forgiving man. His father stole his college fund that his grandparents set up for him to finance his drug habit so he had to join the military to get a free education. He is clean now though. Also, a few years ago he asked to see his original marvel comic books that are worth a lot of money and stole a few and sold them to pay off his debt. He doesn’t understand why I’m against having his father in our daughter’s life. It’s better to not have a grandfather than having one that you know will steal and destroy your life.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
yep my mom did similar stuff to us, now with my kids if their mom tries to give away stuff that I think will have value down the line I just hide it in a box.
#31
Mother repeatedly saying " I have to raise my boys and I love your brothers but I don't love you." Told this at age 8 ,9,10 and so on my birthday and many times throw out the year . Never given a birthday party while 3 brothers had blowouts every year . Left on 16th birthday after I made sure whole family heard her this time. Mom was jeckle and hide , never been back.found out mom told brothers i was evil and never to talk to me . Ain't talked to them since don't even know if there still alive .
SheamusFanFrom1987 2 years ago
Don't bother. They should have been dead to you a long time ago...
* * * Being_Cori * * * 2 years ago
Been through the same, I was told by the women who birthed me [dont like calling her mom] that she wanted a boy instead of me, and that she was planning on swapping me with a family who had 3 boys & wanted a girl
Jen Hart 2 years ago
I have a "father" that I refer to as 'paternal unit' because calling him sperm donor kinda feels like it demeans my mom. ... Maybe "maternal unit" would work for your mom :-) (My mom remarried after I was grown, and I call my stepdad 'dad' cuz he's way nicer than what I had growing up).
Load More Replies... Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
Can we assume from this you're the one girl among the three boys?
Jennifer Ness 2 years ago
I'm so sorry you had to endure this. You didn't deserve it. She is very sick and you were wise to leave. I hope you can find peace and good people to love and lo e you back.
#32
About to get pretty dark here lmao But my childhood was pretty s**t. My parents have always had drug issues and it got to the point where they just locked my little sister and I in our room, and they'd just bring us plates of food but they'd never clean up any old food, and us being young kids, food got everywhere. It got to the point where we literally had maggots in our beds. They kept my brother in a dark room all by himself and I remember as a baby/newborn he had to have breathing treatments because it really affected him, and they'd smoke in the house all the time. Our grandmother got custody of us, thankfully but it really stuck with me. I was old enough to remember most of everything (I'm 5 years older than my sister, and 7 years older than my brother, so I was 7-8 or so around that time) it really f****d me up lmao. My little sister was old enough to remember some stuff, and there was that weird middle child thing, but my parents treated her more like a friend than anything, when she was a teenager they'd do drugs and s**t with her. She really got into a bad path and she wasn't able to get off it, I tried to help her and I still feel guilty because I should have done more, but she did what she wanted to and didn't think she had a problem. About 4 years ago, she was killed in a mass shooting that was guns/drug related, it was some stupid little "gang" (gang as in dumb AF kids from a really small town who thought they were badasses) but they went and shot up the place and unfortunately she had been living there at the time and she was one of the victims. She had just turned 21 a couple of days before. I'll always feel so guilty because I wish I could have done more to help her and I'll always have that regret.
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
I'm so sorry for your loss. But please know that you couldn't have saved your sister. Addicts won't and don't get clean until they're ready to, no matter how much the people around them (you) love them. You could have poured every ounce of love, energy, sweat, and blood of every minute of every day into her, and it still wouldn't have saved her. In fact, doing that might have just prolonged her addiction (I am in no way blaming you for this, btw, so please don't take it that way). Addicts need to hit their rock bottom (sometimes a few times) before they get clean. If you aren't already seeing a therapist, please find a good one. You've already gone through so much. You deserve to live a beautiful, happy life, not one clouded with guilt that isn't yours to bear. Sending love and blessings to you
* * * Being_Cori * * * 2 years ago
I'm so sorry for your loss. But there is a saying, ' You can take the horse to the water, but you cant make it drink the water'
Chexmy Licks/egg🇯🇵 2 years ago
some people dont deserve a womb and a d if they r just going to not care of their own child
#33
My mom left my bro and I behind to go be a m*thhead while lying to people about having cancer. I've confronted her, told her to show proof of the cancer. Nothing. She gets cancer every five to ten years without going to the doctors.
Samantha Mannion 2 years ago
I just want you to know I feel your pain. You're not alone by far. Manchausens syndrome is a b.i.t.c.h. grew up dealing with the same helping with my brother. Hated that I had to grow up so early.
#34
Taking back an abusive partner who hated me even after telling the world all the horrible s**t she did. It became clear to me that I could be a perfect angel and successful and I would never be as good as a drunken, circular saw-wielding maniac who took her hatred of my other parent out on me, constantly made personal attacks, denies she ever did anything wrong and brainwashed my mother into defending her actions. Then when I called her out for her behavior, she accused me of being homophobic.
When her b***h of a partner dies, I guarantee she’ll be all over me. But she will get no favor from me.
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 2 years ago
Just a reminder that y’all can clock out at any time. I’m about done with this article. You are all wonderful and beautiful and I hope you have a amazing day.
#35
My stepdad sent me to jail because I defended my mother from him
Loren Pechtel 2 years ago
Mom probably lied to the cops to keep stepdad out of jail.
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… Among other things, “holding on” to gift money from relatives and such that I got on birthdays or Christmas or whatever. When I wanted to collect, I was either gaslighted about it existing in the first place, or reminded how I should be grateful for all the things they give and do for me. When I’m older, if I ever give money to a kid as a gift, I’ll tell them to hide it from their parents.
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
Honestly, I would have told my relatives to stop giving me money because my parents were stealing it. But I was raised in a family where we spoke our minds, so...
Duckie Measles 2 years ago
Yep. I always hated receiving money as a gift back when I was a kid. Never saw a single cent of it. I also had a bank account for my college savings that "disappeared" by the time I needed it.
* * * Being_Cori * * * 2 years ago
Same with me, and if I may add, when I was growing up it was ' you earn and you do' when I started earning, it changed to ' not under my roof' , when I got my own roof over my head, it was ' this isn't something ... ladylike/graceful/decent people would do'
#37
After their divorce, my mom tried to convince my brother and me that our dad never wanted us and never loved us. My dad is the sweetest man. I'll never fully forgive my mom. She said some more f****d up s**t too. I know she was just heartbroken and tried to hurt him, but that is no excuse to hurt your kids in the process.
Chexmy Licks/egg🇯🇵 2 years ago
she shouldn't include you guys to their own problem u guys literally didn't do anything wrong its their problem,she shouldn't say these stuff to yall
TheElementalGod️️ 2 years ago
BEAVER let the kids get caught in the crossfire beetweeen you and your spouse.
#38
My mom told me she was glad I was going to school all day the next year, since I wouldn't be wasting space at home. I had just been sexually abused and couldn't get out of bed when I came back home from school.
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
Yeah, no question, I'd leave ASAP and never look back. That's just unforgivable
#39
When I was 11 my parents were going through a very messy divorce. My dad cheated and got his mistress pregnant and he manipulated me into being an accomplice to keep my mouth shut about it by telling me my mom would kill herself if she found out. I had a trip planned to Disneyland with my cousins and was dying of excitement. Anyway, it all came out about my dad and his mistress and my mom wouldn’t let me go on the trip and paraded me around extended family making me tell them I lied and didn’t tell my mom about my dad cheating. I was 11. I will never forgive either of my parents for that. I have been used so many times by my parents and forced to be their emotional support throughout my life. I don’t talk to my dad or his 2nd family at all and have little communication with my mom. I hate them for ruining my childhood. I hate them for causing me to be emotionally stunted, I hate them so f*****g much for making me parent myself and othet siblings. They can’t tell me they did the best they could. They KNEW they were f*****g me over.
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
Beyond all the manipulation and other b******t, it's called Adultification, treating children like mini adults, dumping adult problems on them and making them grow up way too fast. I'm so glad you've cut all that toxicity out of your life. Family should be the people we choose, not just people we feel obligated to keep in our life simply based on biology and guilt. I'm not keeping an abusive, toxic a*****e in my life on the off chance that I might need a kidney one day. I'd rather live a happy life and, if need be, dialysis one day.
#40
I had a pet bunny, but my parents wouldn't let me keep him inside. It was really cold one night and I begged my dad to let me keep it inside. When he finally said okay, I went looking for him in the dark, found him under our storage shed, he was dead. My dad made me pull him out from under the shed, hold him in my lap as we went for a long drive, so that we could dump him on some side of the road.
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
These animal cruelty (and in turn psychological child abuse cases) are killing me...
#41
I overhead my father telling friends that my mother had f****d up raising me but they were doing a much better job with my little sister.
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
Oh, well, good thing they had a backup. **rolling eye emoji** WHAT THE F**K?!?! Who says that?!?!
#42
I don't think I could ever forgive my dad for his excessive drinking and calling me God awful names, threatening to call the cops on me for arguing with him or not finding his bag of nuts (while drunk), and chasing me out of my own home after I gave him a place to stay twice.
It's alot of s**t he did to me as a kid, except he threatened to send me to a psych ward. Putting me back there after he apologized about it only to do it again tells me he won't ever change.
SheamusFanFrom1987 2 years ago
OP, please. For your sake, dump that scumbucket onto the streets with just his belongings and shut your door in his face for the very last time. NO self-respecting dad would ever do that to his kid >:-(
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
You've already given him more chances than he deserves. For your safety and sanity, please cut him off completely and get as far away from as possible. Sending love and blessings your way. Be safe
#43
Give me crippling anxiety and worry I'll be a parent like they were. They were not monsters by any means and I had a lot more freedom than most of my generation. Just some things behind closed doors make me wish I'd grown up differently.
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
Some of the best parents come from the worst families because they know exactly how they DON'T want to raise their children. You'll be a great dad- just remember to do the exact opposite of what your parents did to you
Bored Trash Panda 2 years ago
My mom was/is the best, we have a great relationship now. My dad on the other hand, is an alcoholic. He was emotionally and a little physically abusive. After my parents got divorced he took it out on me saying it was my fault for not being a better daughter. He lives several states away thankfully so we don't talk much. He has apologized for his behavior and has been working on not drinking and doing well. My sister completely cut him out of her life though.
#44
Took my dog to the pound. I left my dog with them when I moved out of home since she was used to living there and I was moving into a small rental. I went to visit then a few months ago and she wasn't there, they'd surrendered her to the dog's home saying she was too much work. Little dogs get adopted fast so it was too late to get her back. I own my own home now and could have taken her.
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
I'm so sorry for your loss. They should have at least told you what they planned to do so you had the option of making other plans for your beloved pet. My heart just breaks for you. Hugs and love to you
The Starsong Princess 2 years ago
That one is on you. You abandoned your dog with people who didn’t want her so they safely rehomed her after a few months.
#45
My father would always baby my younger sister. Even when she turned 8, she still relied on my father to feed her and shower her. She is now completely dependent on my father and can't do anything for herself. This caused serious attention problems with my younger brother, who was a middle child, and middle children commonly get less attention than the oldest and youngest. (Although my father never cared much for me either.) I'm grateful that my mother was able to try and give us the attention we needed, even if she was the only parent that worked full time.
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
What kind of 8 y.o. needs to be fed?!?! (Beyond being seriously disabled???) And the showering thing is just f*cking ICK!!! And WHY DID THE MOM ALLOW IT?!?!
Chexmy Licks/egg🇯🇵 2 years ago
i hate this kind of kid tbh i know its not their fault but the parent
#46
They both used me and my siblings to attack and hurt each other. Instead of realizing that we should come first, they selfishly made the divorce about themselves and their happiness at the expense of the other and apparently the kids. Everyone was much worse off in the end Divorce sucks but when you have kids, try to make them as comfortable and secure as possible while being mature adults. My relationship skills are f****d because of them
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
I'm so sorry you were put through that. But please don't see your relationship skills as forever ruined. Just look at it this way, "Is this something my parents would have done? Yes? Then I know to do the exact opposite." Use their relationship/divorce as the example of what NOT to do. That's how some of the most horribly abused kids end up becoming the most amazing parents. Sending love and blessings to you
#47
My mom ran out on the family when I was a kid. For a time she lived a couple miles away, and yet, I'd see her maybe once or twice a year. Ok, I forgave her and tried rebuilding a relationship with her when I was in college / my early to mid 20s. At that point she lived far away, but I would go see her here and there. Well, she decided to live a certain bohemian lifestyle, and decided to get rid of all of her animals including a cat and a dog that were elderly that she had since they were very young, AND, she got rid of multiple younger cats. Just so she could live this lifestyle of hers (and she could have taken them) for a year or two, grow tired of it, move a few hours away from where I live / grew up, settle down and get more animals. I cannot forgive her for that. I forgave her for abandoning my siblings and I, but, about 15 years later doing the same thing with all of her animals, I cannot forgive that. A tiger does not change its stripes, and apparently my mom did not change. I would never abandon my dogs like that. no matter what. Also, several years ago one of my siblings was going through a tough time financially. He asked her for a couple hundred, and she declined. Then within a week bought a big new truck and a brand new grill, and posted it all over social media. This woman never paid child support / gave any of my siblings or i money, ever... so... yeah. I cannot forgive that either. I still call her on big holidays, talk for a couple of minutes and then go about my separate life devoid of her. The only reason I do this is to be a good person and for good karma, otherwise, I'd be 100% no contact.
Edward Willis 2 years ago
Forcing yourself to contact someone who doesn't care about you doesn't make you a good person. Now, if you need it to feel better, then don't stop, but to anyone else reading this, don't feel obligated to contact people who don't care about you.
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
Some of us believe in it. Sometimes it's quick, but often it's a slow process. Might be this life, might be a next life, but bad behavior usually has a way of biting a person in the a*s sooner or later, whether outsiders see it or not.
#48
Stole our money. We lived on a veal farm so all of us kids — 7 total — were forced to work & we didn’t receive weekly allowances. It was once or twice a year, & like $10 or $20 at most. Then when we were teens, they wouldn’t let us work cos they needed us to do the free labor so when we were allowed to pick ginseng — which is backbreaking work — for under the table money, we were so happy. Parents lied & said we can keep it in their “bank” & they will “save” it for us. They wrote our balance down on a piece of paper for us to keep track. I asked to withdraw my money once so that I can buy Christmas gifts for the fam & all they said was that the paper was gone & since they don’t know how much I had, it was too bad so sad. We never saw those money again.
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
That is beyond f****d up. Would have gotten out of there at the first opportunity and never looked back.
#49
Apparently it was illegal to have my door closed and blinds closed when im in my room in my parents house. I never did drugs but that didnt stop them from repeatedly searching my room like a swat team and scolding me over a f****n cookie wrapper. Whenever i did poorly in hs/college i felt like i was failing them not myself. For one reason or another this led to a depression spiral and i dropped out of college after only 1 year. Theyre not monsters, after i finally told them how i felt they got their act together somewhat. I went back and graduated college with a degree in computer science. I now live in an apartment with my best friends ever and have a great job and am enjoying life, but if it came to it, i would pay every cent i have to not ever live with my parents ever again. They didnt mean to haunt me its just their style of parenting was… dont think, act. Still stuffering from body image issues they passed on to me, and i do need to lose 25 pounds, but lets just say old habits die hard.
#50
Teaching me that drinking soda like it's water is ok
Wise Turtle 2 years ago
That doesn’t change the fact that that 0.9% is dangerous
Load More Replies... COCO puff 2 years ago
after a loooooooooooooooooooong list of awful things this is just silly.
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
I understand how it might seem minor compared with the rest on the list, but as someone who's working to pay off a $3,000 dental bill right now (not necessarily from soda, but still), being taught bad oral health/bad eating habits in general is not something we really want parents teaching their kids. It will definitely matter in the long run
Load More Replies... Shy Dragon 2 years ago
Well, it’s not healthy but… This is SO terrible compared to the other things on the list 😑
#51
Put down our family dog without consulting me or my brother. We were both living together in our first appartment and both were out of town, just for 2 days tho. They could have given us the chance to say farewell or at least give us a call that they are going to put him down. We never got to say goodbye.
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
Was the dog even sick??? It sounds like the parents purposely waited until they were both out of town to take the dog to the vet to put him down. He doesn't mention that the dog was old or ill before they left, and why wouldn't they call them if something out of the blue happened to the dog and they had to rush it to the vet??? Sounds to me like they saw an opportunity to get rid of the dog and took it, heartless bastards
Batwench 2 years ago
They may have done that on the advice of the vet. The dog may have been in too much pain and suffering that it would have been cruel to let him “wait for you”.
mysterious(all pronouns) 2 years ago
Still, they could've at least called, even if the dog was in pain, and it couldn't wait, they should know.
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I got in an argument with my step-dad over grades in hs and he pulled the car over on the side of the road and threatened to beat me if I didn't get out, so did. And ofc he left me on the side of the highway in Alaska with nothing near by Andromeda 35 miles aw a cop saw me and asked if my parents abandoned me keep in mind I lived in Small town Alaska. Tjis cop was friends with my step dad who was a paramedic so I told a bold faced lie to keep him from involving cps. 4 hours later my mom came by and told me my step dad had called the grocery store and had them page her on the speakers to call home and he told her to pick me up. When she did I chtold her what happened and then demanded she admit that what he d I'd was wrong I mean who leaves a teenage girl on the side of the road in the middle of nowhere? O Aldo told her tp either tell meot was wrong for him to threatened beat me.(he had already physically abused me) instead of admitting he was wrong , she took his side in our initial argument and then doubled down on her refusal to admit he was at all in the wrong. That was the day I stopped trusting her and there is no forgiveness in my heart for her
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
FOUR HOURS LATER??? If I had already been physically abused by my stepdad in the past, I would have told the cop that yes, he abandoned me on the side of the road, consequences be damned. Also wondering what lie she told the cop that he didn't offer to drive her home anyway and left her stranded in the middle of nowhere
Deborah Rubin 2 years ago
Can someone translate this for me? Into English, I really don't understand.
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 2 years ago
I got in an argument with my step-dad over grades in high school and he pulled the car over on the side of the road and threatened to beat me if I didn't get out, so did. And of course he left me on the side of the highway in Alaska with nothing near by. About (after?) 35 miles away (?) a cop saw me and asked if my parents abandoned me. keep in mind I lived in Small town Alaska. This cop was friends with my step dad who was a paramedic so I told a bold faced lie to keep him from involving cps. 4 hours later my mom came by and told me my step dad had called the grocery store and had them page her on the speakers to call home and he told her to pick me up. When she did I told her what happened and then demanded she admit that what he did was wrong
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Having me in the first place.
#54
As a teen, I was out doing the food shopping with my Mum. In the middle of the freezer aisle she did the most rancid IBS fart I can ever remember, and then started very loudly exclaiming "babyscratch, that's so disgusting. I can't believe you just did that". The more I protested, the more guilty I looked to everyone else in the shop. I could've died from embarrassment.
Samantha Mannion 2 years ago
Lmfao dude my Nana always did this to me and my brother since we were kids! It was always funny usually. Farts and embarassment is funny in my family. Not that whoever the target was at the time wasn't annoyed and trying to slink away to another aisle, but it would always be a good laugh after lol 😆
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
Not really sure if this qualifies as abuse unless Mom was constantly trying to embarrass/humiliate her kid in public. But if this was a one-off, uhh, no
#55
Convinced me that turning on the car's interior light while driving is illegal.
Rostit . 2 years ago
I have never heard that as being real. That makes no sense.
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Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
I don't think that counts as abuse unless it's one of a million more lies they brainwashed you with
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Stardust she/her 2 years ago
I will never forgive my dad for beating me, verbally abusing me, almost traumatising me and saying that because he had it harder I can’t complain
Leo Domitrix 2 years ago
Living in fear of my dad's rage... Obeying him in silence.... Yeah, it's not almost traumatising. It *is* traumatising. You don't have an idea of what a non-trauma life is until you leave home. You can read Pete Walker on the phenomenon of complex PTSD (when we have no pre-trauma life, essentially, works for kids raised in war zones, too).
Load More Replies... MsLou 2 years ago
Well I had to stop reading this for this morning...I haven't had coffee yet and I am in tears.
Danger Bunny (She/Her) 2 years ago
These people deserve to be boiled in battery acid
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Tiffany Valentine 2 years ago
When I was in elementary school there was a group of us kids that would share stories about our abuse and neglect. The school knew we were being abused. The police knew. But no one seemed to care. I admitted to a social worker that my mom and I were being beaten by my alcoholic dad. They said they would help, but nothing ever happened. There's a reason why I hate living in the "bible belt" of the US.
athornedrose 2 years ago
after a real bad fight, my mom shoved us in the car in our car seat and booster seat respectively (sis was like 2-2.5? i was 6). she didn't turn on the car right away but instead slammed her hands against the steering wheel to release some anger and screamed about how awful he was and how she wished she'd never married my dad. i said "but that would mean no us, right?" my sister said "not me?" and my mom said "no no baby of course. i love you" and i asked about me too, and she just let out this disgusted sound and muttered "who knows". when i started to get upset she told us to calm the hell down and we were going to our grandmothers. i bit my lip the whole ride there. i hid in my grandmothers bedroom and read books while she shouted it out with her mom. we went back after a few hours, but my grandmother could tell something was wrong. i told her mom wouldn't have me if she didn't have to. she said "...you were not what she was expecting when they said she was having a girl
InsertNameHere (They/Them) 2 years ago
... and thrown into prison for lifetime...
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TMoxraaar 2 years ago
I was the only witness to my ex-step father beating up my mother (it only happened once). This man raised me. I have known him his whole life. He was my dad from 1974-1990. He got angry at me for testifying (I was gd SUBPOENAED). He dumped me and hasn't spoken to me for 30 years. That is worse than all of the spankings and threats to kick me out.
ejfs 2 years ago
I will never forgive my parents for doing literally everything for my sister and nothing for me. She got/gets every assist possible, including a house, but I didn't even get to stay home from school when I had mono, or the flu, or concussion....
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
SAME my younger sisters were twins and got EVERYTHING while I got nothing but rules and restrictions only applied to me. Even had a cabinet of junk food for them that I wasn't allowed to touch. They got all brand new clothes while I got 80s hand ne downs with giant f*****g shoulder pads. They took my saved money and bought me an ugly car I hated and didn't even take me with then. My sisters got to pick out a brand new suv they wanted. The icing on the cake was the year I moved out they all went out and got the first family photo taken EVER without me in it and gifted it to me for Christmas! Jokes on them- I hung it right in my living room and evety friend who came through the door Said "Holy S**T your family is F****D UP!"
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iona Butler 2 years ago
When I was about 10 yo my dad told me he was having an affair with my friends mum and they were going to run away together. He said if I told my mum he would cut my tongue out and kill me. Fun times 🙄
Stardust she/her 2 years ago
I will never forgive my dad for beating me, verbally abusing me, almost traumatising me and saying that because he had it harder I can’t complain
Leo Domitrix 2 years ago
Living in fear of my dad's rage... Obeying him in silence.... Yeah, it's not almost traumatising. It *is* traumatising. You don't have an idea of what a non-trauma life is until you leave home. You can read Pete Walker on the phenomenon of complex PTSD (when we have no pre-trauma life, essentially, works for kids raised in war zones, too).
Load More Replies... MsLou 2 years ago
Well I had to stop reading this for this morning...I haven't had coffee yet and I am in tears.
Danger Bunny (She/Her) 2 years ago
These people deserve to be boiled in battery acid
Load More Replies... Tiffany Valentine 2 years ago
When I was in elementary school there was a group of us kids that would share stories about our abuse and neglect. The school knew we were being abused. The police knew. But no one seemed to care. I admitted to a social worker that my mom and I were being beaten by my alcoholic dad. They said they would help, but nothing ever happened. There's a reason why I hate living in the "bible belt" of the US.
athornedrose 2 years ago
after a real bad fight, my mom shoved us in the car in our car seat and booster seat respectively (sis was like 2-2.5? i was 6). she didn't turn on the car right away but instead slammed her hands against the steering wheel to release some anger and screamed about how awful he was and how she wished she'd never married my dad. i said "but that would mean no us, right?" my sister said "not me?" and my mom said "no no baby of course. i love you" and i asked about me too, and she just let out this disgusted sound and muttered "who knows". when i started to get upset she told us to calm the hell down and we were going to our grandmothers. i bit my lip the whole ride there. i hid in my grandmothers bedroom and read books while she shouted it out with her mom. we went back after a few hours, but my grandmother could tell something was wrong. i told her mom wouldn't have me if she didn't have to. she said "...you were not what she was expecting when they said she was having a girl
InsertNameHere (They/Them) 2 years ago
... and thrown into prison for lifetime...
Load More Replies... TMoxraaar 2 years ago
I was the only witness to my ex-step father beating up my mother (it only happened once). This man raised me. I have known him his whole life. He was my dad from 1974-1990. He got angry at me for testifying (I was gd SUBPOENAED). He dumped me and hasn't spoken to me for 30 years. That is worse than all of the spankings and threats to kick me out.
ejfs 2 years ago
I will never forgive my parents for doing literally everything for my sister and nothing for me. She got/gets every assist possible, including a house, but I didn't even get to stay home from school when I had mono, or the flu, or concussion....
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
SAME my younger sisters were twins and got EVERYTHING while I got nothing but rules and restrictions only applied to me. Even had a cabinet of junk food for them that I wasn't allowed to touch. They got all brand new clothes while I got 80s hand ne downs with giant f*****g shoulder pads. They took my saved money and bought me an ugly car I hated and didn't even take me with then. My sisters got to pick out a brand new suv they wanted. The icing on the cake was the year I moved out they all went out and got the first family photo taken EVER without me in it and gifted it to me for Christmas! Jokes on them- I hung it right in my living room and evety friend who came through the door Said "Holy S**T your family is F****D UP!"
Load More Replies... iona Butler 2 years ago
When I was about 10 yo my dad told me he was having an affair with my friends mum and they were going to run away together. He said if I told my mum he would cut my tongue out and kill me. Fun times 🙄
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