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Weddings can be incredibly special, but planning them is a stressful venture for any engaged couple. There are so many things to think about before saying the magical "I do", from searching for the perfect dress to selecting a beautiful venue. But even when you check every box on the list, one challenge can quickly turn your big day into a trainwreck — accommodating every single person invited.

Nuptials are often as memorable as the guests who attend them. Ideally, friends and family will be on their best behavior and make sure the bride and groom have an absolute blast. But minor mishaps are unavoidable, and there’s always a handful of people who manage to do something so inappropriate, rude, and annoying that it leaves everyone shaking their heads in disbelief.

We at Bored Panda have scoured the web and rounded up some of the worst behaviors guests need to stop doing at weddings. Scroll down for some real-life stories, upvote the ones you agree with, and let us know what you think about them in the comments!

#1

35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings No-show, after you've RSVP'd.
At my wedding, we had a very tight budget, and had asked everyone to RSVP, so we could get an accurate catering count. The morning of the wedding, some friends of my wife IM'd her to let her know that they've decided to go camping instead of attend the wedding. I mean, even the money thing aside, that's a shitty thing to do to your *friend*. We had only invited 100 people total. Close friends & family only. What kind of friend decides last minute to skip your wedding and go *camping*?

That was the last time we talked to them. Ever.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We had a couple of people do this at our wedding and they were close friends of my wife's family. They said they were coming and then just didn't show. Then they ignored her calls. Never seen them since.

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    35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings A proposal. I've heard about people proposing at other people's wedding ceremonies or receptions. If you don't have permission from the bride/groom, DON'T DO IT because it's THEIR day, not yours.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have to admit that I almost did it once. I vividly remember how the idea crossed my mind — it seemed perfectly logical: everybody was so happy, positive, light-hearted; it's obvious that the guests would have been happy with us! Then I thought about it again, and realised that I was about to do something I would hate myself for my whole life long. And I didn't do it.

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    We managed to get in touch with a Redditor, black_flag_4ever, who started up a thread on the Ask Reddit online group when they posed a question: "What should you absolutely not do at a wedding?" The user invited fellow members to post the most absurd answers in the thread, and boy did they deliver. At the time of writing, the post has amassed over 15K comments full of ridiculous and impolite stunts guests ever pulled at a wedding.

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    When asked how they came up with the idea to post this on Ask Reddit, black_flag_4ever revealed their sibling had recently gotten married and this question was on their mind. "You never know what gets people talking on Reddit," the user told Bored Panda. "This may have been the first of my posts that got to the front page. I remember feeling a bit overwhelmed because I tried to upvote and read everything and take the time to write in response to a post, but I eventually just turned off inbox reply notifications. If you’re on Reddit long enough, you will get the occasional front page hit and it becomes a routine thing," they said.

    #3

    35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Telling embarrassing stories about the bride/groom when you were told not to.

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    #4

    35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings If there is a professional photographer there get the hell out of the way. Put up your sh**ty cell phone with it's awful flash. Good money was paid so that they could capture quality images of the event and people constantly jump in front of the photographer and screw up the lighting.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a photographer for school events/important events screwing up lighting is really not ok. I am trying to get a good picture of something that is important to a lot of the people there, yet you don't care.

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    35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Letting your 9 year old throw a tantrum because he's not the center of attention.

    I've seen that at not only a wedding, but at a funeral as well. Same kid.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This seems to be a problem of this particular kid. I attended a few weddings and funerals with kids and most of the time I hardly realised that they were there.

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    Black_flag_4ever believes that weddings are a natural source of comedy and figured there would be some great responses. "There’s few times in life where everyone in your family is stuck in the same room with a whole other family, plus random friends of the newlyweds. On top of this, everyone has to pretend to get along while being bored out of their minds during the ceremony."

    "This creates a situation where minor things can balloon into the most annoying things imaginable," the user added. "You start noticing who won’t stop chewing their nails or tapping their foot or checking their texts every five seconds. And then, when people are finally done acting their best for a few hours, they get to go to the reception where things always get weird."

    #6

    35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Bringing a child to a child-free wedding. We had a child-free wedding this year, all the guests knew and then a couple (who we had told personally to not bring their child) turned up with their baby. Really put me in a sour mood with them and caused issues with people asking why their child was allowed but not their own.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Um,that's when you tell them to leave. Sorry jacka$$, you knew the rules and tried to skirt them.GTFO...NOW!

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    35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Spelling out "help me" in tape on the groom's shoes so when he kneels everyone sees it.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just like these "funny" cake toppers: The bride puts the groom in chains, drags him away by the tie, ...

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    #8

    35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Telling the bride about any hitches in the wedding. At my cousin's wedding, one of the guests told her (the bride) that the buffet was out of roast beef. She's stressed out enough and she doesn't need to know. Somebody else should take care of it. Tell the wedding coordinator or the maid of honor.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thats actually true. The bride needs to relax as shes done her part. Now its up to the ones responsible for this to take the lead and help

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    Receiving a wedding invitation should be an honor — the bride and the groom want you to witness them reach one of the most important milestones in their lives and hope to feel your support along the way. That should be considered pretty special, right? Well, as you’re reading through these stories, you’ll notice that most of these occasions are notorious for bringing out the worst in some people. Whether they drank the open bar dry, brought a disrespectful plus-one, popped up with an inappropriate surprise speech, or decided this is the perfect time to commit countless faux pas all over the place, they can make the big day memorable in all the wrong ways.

    #9

    35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings My hair dresser was my really good friend's wife. As she was doing my hair, she insisted I had lice and I had to argue with her until she said I didn't but that I was just too calm on my wedding day, so she thought it was a good idea to freak me out a little.

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    #10

    During my wedding, my wife's cousin used the band's microphone to come out as gay... and then his boyfriend who nobody knew (and was definitely not invited) strolled in and together they announced their engagement.

    I went straight to the bar.

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    35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings True story: years ago, i was at a wedding reception at a big hotel that had two receptions going at once. I went to the mens' room and a guy in a tux was crying his eyes out while another guy comforted him. I took my time, nad learned that crying guy was the groom (from the other wedding), comforting guy was one of his groomsmen, and the cause of the drama was that groom walked in on his new bride having sex with his best man.

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    When asked for black_flag_4ever’s opinion on the most annoying, rude, and cringey things that should immediately stop happening at weddings, they told us, "No one needs to hear the Electric Slide in 2022. But if you want to cringe, just wait for this jam." Moreover, the user said that guests should control themselves and avoid taking a billion pictures. "If you’re not the wedding photographer then you shouldn’t bother people constantly for photos. There’s going to be photos, don’t worry."

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    #12

    35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings The most common issue I have seen IRL is being underdressed. People show up in boots, camo, t-shirts, etc. It's not the end of the world, but if you can't get dressed up for a wedding, what do you dress up for? It's one of the most formal events a normal person will attend.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If there's a dress code, please SAY SO in the invitation. Not everyone has a few hundred dollars sitting around to blow on a new dress/suit for their idiot cousin's third wedding.

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    Doing anything that draws attention away from the happy couple and on to you. For example my cousin came out during his best man's speech during is brothers wedding...... Really you could not let someone have that one day in the spotlight?

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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At least read the room before coming out or doing other things like that. You can come out after the wedding if you really want to

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    #14

    35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings At my sister's (handsomely catered formal) wedding my no class cousin ordered himself a pizza. He had it delivered to the reception. I'd say that's pretty much out.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Was it a vegetarian wedding with not enough food for him to take his medication with? :p (ps: I still think it’s rude)

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    After all, nearly every wedding has that one person who manages to somewhat wreck the event, whether on purpose or not. To be sure that’s not you, pay attention to some helpful tips Carley Joy, owner of wedding planning company Carley Jeanne Events, in Springfield, Missouri, had to share.

    According to her, the worst type of guests would be "guestzillas", people who are not considerate of the bride and groom and their special day. "Guests can avoid being 'guestzillas' by being respectful, patient, and gracious towards the couple, the venue and the vendors," she told Urbo. One thing that proves you’re being mindful of everyone’s efforts is punctuality. "The biggest pet peeve of most wedding planners is when the wedding party or family does not show up on time or has wandered off and no one can find them. This can push back the entire wedding timeline which can make it difficult for vendors to adjust," Joy said.

    #15

    As a man the biggest thing I learned was this; Ladies, never-EVER show up the Bride. The only outfit/hair/jewellery anyone should be talking about is hers.

    I feel like this should be rule #1

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A friend of mine got married and I could not attend (two weddings on same day).When I saw the wedding photographs I was shocked to see her sister-in-law(her brother's wife) looking like another bride! Later I learnt that the groom's friends(who were meeting the bride for the first time)thought that the SIL was the bride and were confused as she looked different from the previous photos. They even joked with the groom that there are two brides for him!

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    #16

    35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Over-drinking. Unfortunately, I've seen too many mass brawls at the end because of drinking and drama.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not a wedding, but at a social (that is where an engaged couple rents out a hall for a fundraiser party to help pay for their wedding.) a lot of people were getting really drunk and dancing haphazardly on the dance floor. This guy spun-swung his girlfriend and she just fell face-first on the floor like a tree. It got so crazy my folks and I left early.

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    #17

    As a wedding DJ I could give you a list a mile long. Don't b***h if your song is on the do not play list! No, you can't have the mic to sing along to this song. No you can't give a speech in the middle of the reception. Don't dance along to the couple's first dance/father daughter dance/mother son dance. Don't do a mic drop, those bastards are expensive. Don't follow the couple around all bloody night, there are others who want to wish them well. And for the love of c**p, give at least 5 minutes I'm between clinking your glassware to get the couple to kiss.

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    Next up, respect the RSVP. Joy stated that to make the couple’s day as calm and easy as possible, you should send in your responses on time and, most importantly, stick to them. "Do not show up unannounced or bring a guest if they are not included on the invitation envelope," the wedding coordinator noted. "This can affect seating charts and the amount of food and drinks available for guests."

    #18

    DON'T WEAR A WHITE DRESS MOM! YOU'RE 46 YOU KNOW THAT A SATIN CREAM FLOOR LENGTH DRESS IS INNAPROPIATE, I DONT CARE HOW MUCH WEIGHT YOU LOST.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Like I said above: With people like this you just ask them if they were born a c**t or took lessons.

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    35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Letting everyone know during your speech that you're a divorce lawyer

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    Lastly, show that you care and educate yourself on wedding etiquette. "Waiting for the couple, wedding party, and immediate family to eat first is always important and very respectful, rather than trying to be first in the buffet line," Joy suggested. "Thanking the couple for the invitation and thanking the couples’ parents for hosting the event before leaving is very gracious and will stick out in their minds after."

    #21

    Do not disrupt the bride and grooms dinner. They've been up since 5 in the morning and taking pictures the entire day. Greeting and not having any time to themselves. Be conscious of what you do and let them be peaceful for twenty minutes.

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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Perhaps a dumb question but I really don't know: what is a "bride and groom's dinner"? Don't they eat together with all their guests?

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    35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Hitting on the groom while the bride is chatting with other guests. One of my exes did this to me at my own wedding. I just stared at her and said, "um....no." My wife and I had a good laugh about it after the reception.

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    If you are a bride, DON'T HOLD ANY BABIES.

    They are going to s**t/piss/vomit/bleed/cry all over you.

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    I've only ever been to two weddings in my life. My cousins wedding when I was a kid (I don't even remember it), and my sisters wedding last year. And the amount of NO-NOS at my sisters wedding was unbelievable.

    One of my aunts wore a white dress (even though her daughter practically begged her not to). My sister said she was fine with it, but she was probably just trying to not cause any arguments.

    One of my cousins (who we're not even really close to) brought her new boyfriend to the reception, they both got absolutely s**t faced and had an argument in front of all the guests, and then he stormed off. What's worse, he showed up wearing a f*****g Nike tracksuit tucked into white socks with a pair of dirty trainers.

    Oh and my other cousin (the cousin from aboves brother) had an argument with the photobooth guy. He got super drunk and jumped into a groups photo and tried to spit on them, and when the guy running the photobooth gave out to him for it he tried to headbutt him. My sister then came out and very sternly told my cousin to leave.

    Gotta say, my sister was a champ for all the s**t she put up with that day.

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    35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Playing Single Ladies when it's time for the bouquet toss.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Years ago a friend of mine got married to a girl who had a child she barely looked after and she was completely wrong for him. During the dancing, the DJ played Too Much Too Young by The Specials. Some of us had a good laugh at that. They divorced within a year

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    #26

    I'm a divorce attorney. I've been told NOT to hand out business cards at weddings.

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    #27

    35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Don't include the brides beloved Nana in every round of shots or she might pass out at her table and everyone might think she's dead and get hysterical.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    All my grandparents are dead now so problem solved - but my nana could drink anyone under the table, seen her drink plenty but never saw her drunk, tipsy yeah, but that woman could easily drink double what everyone else did and still be the most sober person there. My mum however, total lightweight - she's letting the side down

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    #28

    Don't invite guests just because you want gifts. This usually ends up in having no gifts at all. (Had a bride invite 300 guests in hopes of getting gifts, she barely knew them and received 20 gifts)

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes! And don't expect gifts from friends that you know are struggling financially. Had a friend that got mad at me because I told her I could not afford anything on her registry, but that I'd be happy to babysit her kid for free a few nights a year so the couple could have alone time. She stopped talking to me after that. Sorry.. I think eating and paying my rent are more important than your matching bathroom towel set.

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    #29

    I worked in a catering company for awhile The worst things I saw -
    -Bride and grooms opening envelopes to pay for the party ( even once while guest where still in the room )
    - someone changed a baby on the table. I have no idea why she could just take the baby to the restroom. ( they did have changing tables there )

    - also had a groom get drunk and pinch my backside everytime I walked past. ( he even left me his number ).

    But I think my favorite was a bride who refuse to come out of the bathroom and do the first dance because she had changed her mind and didn't want to be married. The whole wedding was spent with the groom pacing back and fourth. And the bride and her bridesmaids in the bathroom crying. It was the quietest wedding every. They didn't even leave together.

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    35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings You're at a wedding don't be on you're phone 24/7. Why did you come?

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not sure about this one. Yes, it's rude but hard to turn down the invitation and weddings can be surprisingly boring for most of the people there.

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    #31

    Expect to get laid if you're single. Wedding Crashers is a lie. Weddings are 99.9% couples and old people.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why would anyone want to get laid during weddings? You have your whole life to do it and no need to think that everyone must do it

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    #32

    Don't have people that are not the bride and groom opening gifts at the gift table or opening cards. I s**t you not, I went to a wedding where the groom's sister and mother were manning the gift table and a side room, and they were actually opening every card, as soon as they were handed over to the table, and if there was cash or gift cards inside they were set aside, and they had a notepad with names and what the gift was, obviously for the thank you cards.

    But, holy hell, how tacky can you be that you think it is ok to not be the bride and groom and open the presents on their behalf, right in front of the guests as they give them over. This pissed a lot of people off until the mother of the bride marched over to them and had a screaming fit at the groom's family to stop (There was a verbal disagreement when a first attempt at being civil to get them to stop did not work).

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    35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Clinking silverware on glasses to get the couple to kiss

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I thought that was for speech or toast not to get them to kiss. Never seen that

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    #34

    I'd say that throwing the best man out of a window would be off limits, but the groom actually did that at an event center I used to work at.

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    35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings Texting the best man "Make sure your phone is set to silent" during the vows.

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