It's a common trope among many guys to claim that they simply don't understand women - whether it is willful ignorance or not is another question, but there seems to be a fashionable yet lazy acceptance that women are a complete mystery so there is no point in trying.
Well, there's no excuse now fellas. Turns out, all we had to do was ask! Women on Twitter have decided to take matters into their own hands with the viral hashtag #WhatMenDontKnowAboutWomen.
While they clearly don't speak for all women, the discussion is incredibly insightful and educational, as posters take turns sharing their experiences and frustrations about the kinds of things that just seem to pass many men by. Have you got your notepad at the ready guys? There are some really important points here (and some funny ones too!).
Scroll down below to check them out for yourself, and let us know your thoughts in the comments.
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... and that doesn't mean "I was nice to you all week. You OWE me." - that does not make us feel secure, respected or loved. We don't OWE you for temporary niceness.
The women who don't dare go out without a ton if makeup on? They don't do it for themselves. They do it because they've been made insecure about how they look.
Do you honestly believe men fail to grasp this? A small minority of men do, butthe vast majority are well aware of this (I'm not wrong here)!
Being reliable and noticing/doing the mundane things, waaaay more sexy than ignoring it all and throwing in the occasional grand gesture.
Ah yes... please... just... listen. That means literally *listen*... then... *comprehend*. Not "I hear words, and I am going to make some assumptions and fill in blanks to what *I* think the problem is and try to solve THAT. 'cuz That's me being awesome" - no... we literally mean "Listen to what *I* am saying. Do not interpret it yourself, then try to fix something that wasn't being said, then get mad because you think we weren't being straight with you... you actually... were not... listening and you don't want to admit it now.
I think this a dangerous thing to say. Some people choose clothes for themselves and not because they want sex. You will only truly know if someone wants sex by asking them. Clue, if they say yes, you're in
I am 100% certain that if you could pan down, that ape is wearing socks.
That sounds more like a criticism of women than men. If you know something, don't pretend you don't, that's manipulative.
Oh great. So 'no' is the opposite of no? STOP SAYING THINGS YOU DON'T MEAN! That is what confuses other people and keeps perpetuating the stereotype of women saying no when they mean yes. What a rotten advice this is.
Agreed! But this behaviour is derived from years and years of wrong education that most women go thru. My mother used to tell me to always pretend everything is ok when i had cramps and was bleeding. She told me to "forget about the man" who sexually abused me when I was 5 yrs old. Men usually are encouraged to fight for themselves. Women are told to hold still, agree all the time and smile. Since life is no picnic, women learn early to perform a role, to act and pretend and lie for the benefit of men (and they are told that if it benefits the guy it also benefits herself LOL).women are trained to endure and lie even when they feel like s**t inside. So no wonder after a few decades it turns into manipulative behavior. Stop educating women the wrong way. Start telling them to stand up for themselves!
Load More Replies...I disagree. This is a dangerous stereotype that I'm actively trying to get rid of. When I get the urge to say "Fine" in the stereotypical way, I say instead: "No, it's not fine but I don't want to talk further,". I want men to believe us that no means no and this is connected with it.
Nah, this is terrible advice. If your partner is pulling this guessing game s**t, you've got problems.
This is down to women being socialized to be conciliatory. Women should come out and say. 'It's not fine. I'm upset/angry/resentful/disappointed/hurt.' But the other side of the coin is that men often don't want to hear or deal with these emotions, and would rather hear 'fine'.
So the guy has to be 100% upfront, but the woman is allowed to keep her thoughts secret. K...
That's not true.....if I say everything is "fine" then I mean there's nothing good and nothing bad. Nothing interesting to mention. You know...the whole definition of being fine thing.
if you look closely you'll notice that 99% of the posts on this bored panda page are not true
Load More Replies...Just then, #29 we aren't that complicated. #30 just tell us the truth, and now #31 we tell obvious-to-only-me lies.
If you're not gonna tell me what's wrong, good luck with me wasting energy to play guessing games to try and figure it out.
Me and my husband made a deal that I can't say I'm fine when I'm not fine, cause he has the complete right to trust my word and assume everything is okay. However, I can't explain why I want him to fight me when I tell him to go away. I want to tell him to leave me alone and have him say "No, we're figuring this out," or "Not till your okay," I can't explain it, that's just what I want. But I recognize that it's not very clear to him at that point. I think it takes maturity to just tell your man what's what. The reason I guy is even asking you if your okay in the first place is cause he recognized something might be wrong.
And when we try to go deeper and actually find out what is "fine", you push us away. And if we don't try, then you're pissed off that we din't try?
But you just said you want men to say what they mean, yet this? Confused.
I think because women use words for effect rather than meaning they think men to the same, and thus don't listen for meaning.
When a woman says, "Fine," don't listen to the words, hear her tone of voice.
https://www.boredpanda.com/things-men-dont-know-about-women/?media_id=1847753
Please refer to the "Just be honest with us" and the "we aren't complicated" posts.
What this means is that when you get into an argument, YOU bring it up again and ask if it's okay and we say "fine" we don't mean "fine'" cuz you brought it up again
Well, dont say "its fine" if its not. Its on you to communicate properly.
Oh yes.......I know that ! ...............(and I still get it wrong)
this is blatantly idiotic and yet another example of some dumb broad who thinks she is a self-appointed queen of all women who has authority to speak on behalf of all women.
lmao the psychotic, absolutely unhinged lunatic misandrists downvoted my comment here too during the insane frenzy last night
Load More Replies...Why fake it? You get nothing from it and he thinks he is doing great.
I hate posts like these. "things men cannot seem to grasp" - yeah, because all men are the same, right. I only read the first ten posts, but every. Every. Every single decent man will understand every. Every. Every. Single. Point that's being talked about. I know there are a**holes who won't understand, but that's not "all men". You all just seem to know those a**holes - but if that tells us something after all, then it's about you, not about men in general.
These are ridiculous generalisation. They make all men seem like emotionless woman-haters, yet argue that all woman are the same, too. For equality such postings are poison!
Load More Replies...I get sad when this kind og post comes up. The “lets remind everyone that men are ignorant and haven’t got a clue” posts. I know women has been treated badly for centuries, but does that mean it’s OK to talk about men as if they are all tools?
I am a woman and I completely agree. I see man bashing all too often and it often gets ignored or unnoticed. There are bad things in both genders, sadly it seems to be forgotten and men get the short straw. I hope one day things will get better for all genders.
Load More Replies...Makes you wonder if women want honest dialogue with men..or this cosmo esque drivel...really boredpanda you can do better than this..men are not single minded sex machines that victimize wome
Women like to show that ignorantly stereotyping the opposite sex isn't just a man thing. Ignorance is a two way street. Progress? I guess?
A lot of these are really ridiculous, at what point are women going to be adults and take responsibility for their lives?! It appears like these women have had a negative experience and then blame all men. Can you imagine if a bunch of guys were to tweet about women and tell them how to behave or tweet about what they perceive to be mistakes?! This kind of propaganda is tearing apart society in my opinion.
I think what I find bizarre about this kind of post is that a number of the points contradict each other. It goes from "we aren't that complicated!" to "the 6th sense is real and women are developing the 7th sense". What does that even mean? I'm a woman and I don't get it. Guess I don't have those extra senses, after all!
It's pretty sad that even women sometimes don't consider women as individuals. A lot of people should learn the difference between speaking for a group and speaking for themselves.
Load More Replies...One thing I do not agree is generalisations like these. I mean it's not okay to say all women are the same but it's okay to say all men are the same? Double standards much. I'm a woman and I don't agree with all this new age double standards c**p. We're all human, all different, good and bad. Your age, sex, money, religion, ethnicity, looks, etc do not define people as a whole, your actions speak louder than words, and that is what defines you, and not the "label" society boxed you in.
What a weird kind of post. Truly condescending, never knew woman where truth tellers with these weird abilities. Some are fun I guess. Stereotypes non the less.
LoL, this whole topic is just stupid, men know all of this stuff, and even when we treat you like princesses you still end up cheating with the bad boy ex who treated u like c**p...
Ross you're speaking out of hurt. Men and women treat each other badly. I'm sorry u had a bad experience, but there are lots of women out there. Most don't want to be treated like princesses, but then I'm sure there are some who do. Best of luck in any case ^-^
Load More Replies...I love how by the end of these most women are even disagreeing with the post.
I honestly don't like things like this. All it is good for is stirring up arguments. The simple fact is, everyone is different and everyone has different expectations of one another.
Well... But aren't these just a bunch of clichés by now? I think people should just be real and say and do what they actually think and mean without the "mind games". <3
Both sexes are different and both have their ways and what they want. Don't try to change that because it won't happen. You can only find a medium
For number 15 - speaking only on behalf of the person whose name appears on the top of this comment, I'm finding this one to be way, way off. All exes and current girlfriend wanted me to reiterate their opinion in my voice - and not a single thing else. Learned through painful trial and error
It would be nice to see a reverse of this article instead of a constant stream of trashing men. Promote equality instead of just feminism.
They did it a little while ago https://www.boredpanda.com/guy-secrets-girls-dont-know/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=organic
Load More Replies...To assume all men fall into these categories is angry, sexist craziness. What if I posted, things blacks don't know about whites or things (fill in your favorite group) will never understand. Boredpanda shouldn't post c**p like this.
As a girl, I really hated this post. Is abussive and, some images just contradicts others. There are as**holes in both genders, why would you generalize like "Men dont know".
Some of these make good points...most of these are horribly stereotypical...many others are just blatant red flags I (as a woman) would warn men to run away from as quickly as possible....Can we all just listen to each other and get along regardless of XX and XY?
If you want to be listened to, you must provide what we want first. Being listened to is not free.
Load More Replies...this type of post same bs womans studies I was force fed 20 years ago AS A WOMAN BS.BS. All BS Will not visit here again o include sponsors.
If a woman on a date applies lip gloss in your presence...make an attempt to kiss her at the end of date.
I guess they are promoting equality; they’re treating men and women both just as horribly. Kind of like Mussolini’s quote about voting rights where he said that when he said gender equality he meant that no one gets to vote
Bored panda ought to be ashamed of itself for this horrible misandrist and misogynist post. Also, I don’t care about the different items on the list (minus the one about how men and women can be platonic friends) because I want nothing to do with women in a romantic sense (or other men, for that matter).
Or, hear me out, NO ONE SHOULD BE HAVING SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE.
Haha, I think at this point people just see my name and get triggered because they want to ignore reality. There were posts in here (see #12) where I was SUPPORTING the post, yet I get downvoted all to hell because SJW's only see the world in black and white. I sincerely hope you all take the time to do some soul searching because the downvotes don't anger me, they just make me feel bad for people who get so blinded by ideology that they can't see past someone's name and actually read and process what's being said on an objective basis.
We disagree sometimes full name, but you raise perfectly valid points. I can't see why you were downvoted so I'm gna vote it up lol
Load More Replies...Everyone, just treat others the way you want to be treated. You want to be understood, then try to understand. You want to be appreciated, then appreciate others. You want to be listened to and heard, then listen and hear others. Gender really doesn't matter. Everyone needs to eat, sleep, poop, work, love, and Live. So bam, Golden Rule.
Men may be afraid that women are laughing at them. Women are afraid men are going to kill them. Most murders are men killing women they are living with. ( married or not)
The problem is getting worse as the numbers are increasing. Not that I agree with everything in this article but certainly men killing women is a significant problem.
Load More Replies...And when will we be expecting a "Things most women fail to grasp" article? As a woman that list would be pretty d@mn long. #1: Not all men are evil
Jonathan Smith posted this link above https://www.boredpanda.com/guy-secrets-girls-dont-know/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=organic:
Load More Replies...Where is the generalization? It says most men. It may be annoying to see lots of repetitive posts like this. They are swarming now because feminism is a trend atm. Women are saying most of those things since forever, but it was all dismissed till now. There still is plenty of sexism everywhere and things shall be repeated again and again till they sink in and all men understand. Just because some men already knows those doesn't mean all men does. Women deal with b******t daily, men will deal with b******t too till things change. I don't see much improvement, where is it? Rape, femizide, abuse crime rates still the same, women are still poorly presented in all respected high status circles, wage gap still exists, women still do more work and caring, women are still blamed, shamed, laughed at for being humans, most women and all children still take the father's name, women are still expected to sacrifice a lot more to receive close to nothing. It's like claiming to help at home because you washed the dishes twice this year, but ofc you are entitled a reward for it.
Why do men are so sensitive about this? Of course men are not the same and neither are women! I disagreed with some of the women but most of these things need to be said over and over again. Also: feminism is not a bad word. It doesn't mean that women hate men etc. Most stay blind to the sexism and abuse we face. Your daughter will be groped, told that she's a s**t or a whore and asked to show her breasts and her a*s will be slapped by strangers. That's the reality and you need to raise your sons better. Women deserve respect.
this is one of the dumbest posts ive ever read on bored panda, but my expectations were already low after seeing some of the other posts on this site. it seems like this site is pretty much dedicated to posting dumb and false s**t
Why on earth are you here then? Some stuff is not great but we can pick and choose what we read. Certainly don't think everything is dumb or false.
Load More Replies...Gotta love it when some men try to mansplain why we women do what we do, and why we think the way we think. Instead of treating as human beings who are allowed to have our own thoughts and feelings.
gotta love when women femsplain things that most men DO know ;)
Load More Replies...Another feminist post! Since feminists are also apparent on mens issues, how about the male suicide rate? Go on, feminists, increase your suicide rate, too.
Im a blonde and get treated like a dummy a lot. Truth is, I'm pretty darn smart. I had a guy once tell me " ask your husband" what something meant. I about clocked him. I just fear there's not enough men on Bored panda to read this.
I was being facetious. If you don't know what that means ask your wife.
Load More Replies...Lol....the amount of insecure........ you, commenting on all of these posts just hilarious. As if you know the gender of every anonymous poster here
Load More Replies...Feminism. Read their works (like miss Dvorkin), closely, and you will see that its not about equality at all, and never was.
Load More Replies...awwwwww.........your surrender is accepted...................again
Load More Replies...yeah , we can just write "anything" and be done with the post :)
Load More Replies...I ain't threatened or worried. More like I'm annoyed that folks are generalizing men like this. All men ain't a******s. I'm more concerned about "ladies" thinking it's ok to be a d**k to someone based solely on their gender. (Also known as sexism)
Load More Replies...I hate posts like these. "things men cannot seem to grasp" - yeah, because all men are the same, right. I only read the first ten posts, but every. Every. Every single decent man will understand every. Every. Every. Single. Point that's being talked about. I know there are a**holes who won't understand, but that's not "all men". You all just seem to know those a**holes - but if that tells us something after all, then it's about you, not about men in general.
These are ridiculous generalisation. They make all men seem like emotionless woman-haters, yet argue that all woman are the same, too. For equality such postings are poison!
Load More Replies...I get sad when this kind og post comes up. The “lets remind everyone that men are ignorant and haven’t got a clue” posts. I know women has been treated badly for centuries, but does that mean it’s OK to talk about men as if they are all tools?
I am a woman and I completely agree. I see man bashing all too often and it often gets ignored or unnoticed. There are bad things in both genders, sadly it seems to be forgotten and men get the short straw. I hope one day things will get better for all genders.
Load More Replies...Makes you wonder if women want honest dialogue with men..or this cosmo esque drivel...really boredpanda you can do better than this..men are not single minded sex machines that victimize wome
Women like to show that ignorantly stereotyping the opposite sex isn't just a man thing. Ignorance is a two way street. Progress? I guess?
A lot of these are really ridiculous, at what point are women going to be adults and take responsibility for their lives?! It appears like these women have had a negative experience and then blame all men. Can you imagine if a bunch of guys were to tweet about women and tell them how to behave or tweet about what they perceive to be mistakes?! This kind of propaganda is tearing apart society in my opinion.
I think what I find bizarre about this kind of post is that a number of the points contradict each other. It goes from "we aren't that complicated!" to "the 6th sense is real and women are developing the 7th sense". What does that even mean? I'm a woman and I don't get it. Guess I don't have those extra senses, after all!
It's pretty sad that even women sometimes don't consider women as individuals. A lot of people should learn the difference between speaking for a group and speaking for themselves.
Load More Replies...One thing I do not agree is generalisations like these. I mean it's not okay to say all women are the same but it's okay to say all men are the same? Double standards much. I'm a woman and I don't agree with all this new age double standards c**p. We're all human, all different, good and bad. Your age, sex, money, religion, ethnicity, looks, etc do not define people as a whole, your actions speak louder than words, and that is what defines you, and not the "label" society boxed you in.
What a weird kind of post. Truly condescending, never knew woman where truth tellers with these weird abilities. Some are fun I guess. Stereotypes non the less.
LoL, this whole topic is just stupid, men know all of this stuff, and even when we treat you like princesses you still end up cheating with the bad boy ex who treated u like c**p...
Ross you're speaking out of hurt. Men and women treat each other badly. I'm sorry u had a bad experience, but there are lots of women out there. Most don't want to be treated like princesses, but then I'm sure there are some who do. Best of luck in any case ^-^
Load More Replies...I love how by the end of these most women are even disagreeing with the post.
I honestly don't like things like this. All it is good for is stirring up arguments. The simple fact is, everyone is different and everyone has different expectations of one another.
Well... But aren't these just a bunch of clichés by now? I think people should just be real and say and do what they actually think and mean without the "mind games". <3
Both sexes are different and both have their ways and what they want. Don't try to change that because it won't happen. You can only find a medium
For number 15 - speaking only on behalf of the person whose name appears on the top of this comment, I'm finding this one to be way, way off. All exes and current girlfriend wanted me to reiterate their opinion in my voice - and not a single thing else. Learned through painful trial and error
It would be nice to see a reverse of this article instead of a constant stream of trashing men. Promote equality instead of just feminism.
They did it a little while ago https://www.boredpanda.com/guy-secrets-girls-dont-know/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=organic
Load More Replies...To assume all men fall into these categories is angry, sexist craziness. What if I posted, things blacks don't know about whites or things (fill in your favorite group) will never understand. Boredpanda shouldn't post c**p like this.
As a girl, I really hated this post. Is abussive and, some images just contradicts others. There are as**holes in both genders, why would you generalize like "Men dont know".
Some of these make good points...most of these are horribly stereotypical...many others are just blatant red flags I (as a woman) would warn men to run away from as quickly as possible....Can we all just listen to each other and get along regardless of XX and XY?
If you want to be listened to, you must provide what we want first. Being listened to is not free.
Load More Replies...this type of post same bs womans studies I was force fed 20 years ago AS A WOMAN BS.BS. All BS Will not visit here again o include sponsors.
If a woman on a date applies lip gloss in your presence...make an attempt to kiss her at the end of date.
I guess they are promoting equality; they’re treating men and women both just as horribly. Kind of like Mussolini’s quote about voting rights where he said that when he said gender equality he meant that no one gets to vote
Bored panda ought to be ashamed of itself for this horrible misandrist and misogynist post. Also, I don’t care about the different items on the list (minus the one about how men and women can be platonic friends) because I want nothing to do with women in a romantic sense (or other men, for that matter).
Or, hear me out, NO ONE SHOULD BE HAVING SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE.
Haha, I think at this point people just see my name and get triggered because they want to ignore reality. There were posts in here (see #12) where I was SUPPORTING the post, yet I get downvoted all to hell because SJW's only see the world in black and white. I sincerely hope you all take the time to do some soul searching because the downvotes don't anger me, they just make me feel bad for people who get so blinded by ideology that they can't see past someone's name and actually read and process what's being said on an objective basis.
We disagree sometimes full name, but you raise perfectly valid points. I can't see why you were downvoted so I'm gna vote it up lol
Load More Replies...Everyone, just treat others the way you want to be treated. You want to be understood, then try to understand. You want to be appreciated, then appreciate others. You want to be listened to and heard, then listen and hear others. Gender really doesn't matter. Everyone needs to eat, sleep, poop, work, love, and Live. So bam, Golden Rule.
Men may be afraid that women are laughing at them. Women are afraid men are going to kill them. Most murders are men killing women they are living with. ( married or not)
The problem is getting worse as the numbers are increasing. Not that I agree with everything in this article but certainly men killing women is a significant problem.
Load More Replies...And when will we be expecting a "Things most women fail to grasp" article? As a woman that list would be pretty d@mn long. #1: Not all men are evil
Jonathan Smith posted this link above https://www.boredpanda.com/guy-secrets-girls-dont-know/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=organic:
Load More Replies...Where is the generalization? It says most men. It may be annoying to see lots of repetitive posts like this. They are swarming now because feminism is a trend atm. Women are saying most of those things since forever, but it was all dismissed till now. There still is plenty of sexism everywhere and things shall be repeated again and again till they sink in and all men understand. Just because some men already knows those doesn't mean all men does. Women deal with b******t daily, men will deal with b******t too till things change. I don't see much improvement, where is it? Rape, femizide, abuse crime rates still the same, women are still poorly presented in all respected high status circles, wage gap still exists, women still do more work and caring, women are still blamed, shamed, laughed at for being humans, most women and all children still take the father's name, women are still expected to sacrifice a lot more to receive close to nothing. It's like claiming to help at home because you washed the dishes twice this year, but ofc you are entitled a reward for it.
Why do men are so sensitive about this? Of course men are not the same and neither are women! I disagreed with some of the women but most of these things need to be said over and over again. Also: feminism is not a bad word. It doesn't mean that women hate men etc. Most stay blind to the sexism and abuse we face. Your daughter will be groped, told that she's a s**t or a whore and asked to show her breasts and her a*s will be slapped by strangers. That's the reality and you need to raise your sons better. Women deserve respect.
this is one of the dumbest posts ive ever read on bored panda, but my expectations were already low after seeing some of the other posts on this site. it seems like this site is pretty much dedicated to posting dumb and false s**t
Why on earth are you here then? Some stuff is not great but we can pick and choose what we read. Certainly don't think everything is dumb or false.
Load More Replies...Gotta love it when some men try to mansplain why we women do what we do, and why we think the way we think. Instead of treating as human beings who are allowed to have our own thoughts and feelings.
gotta love when women femsplain things that most men DO know ;)
Load More Replies...Another feminist post! Since feminists are also apparent on mens issues, how about the male suicide rate? Go on, feminists, increase your suicide rate, too.
Im a blonde and get treated like a dummy a lot. Truth is, I'm pretty darn smart. I had a guy once tell me " ask your husband" what something meant. I about clocked him. I just fear there's not enough men on Bored panda to read this.
I was being facetious. If you don't know what that means ask your wife.
Load More Replies...Lol....the amount of insecure........ you, commenting on all of these posts just hilarious. As if you know the gender of every anonymous poster here
Load More Replies...Feminism. Read their works (like miss Dvorkin), closely, and you will see that its not about equality at all, and never was.
Load More Replies...awwwwww.........your surrender is accepted...................again
Load More Replies...yeah , we can just write "anything" and be done with the post :)
Load More Replies...I ain't threatened or worried. More like I'm annoyed that folks are generalizing men like this. All men ain't a******s. I'm more concerned about "ladies" thinking it's ok to be a d**k to someone based solely on their gender. (Also known as sexism)
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