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Anyone who's been around children can attest that they have certain behaviors that would be intolerable in adults. Of course, the tragedy is that some so-called adults still retain the need to constantly cry, throw their toys and run to momma whenever something doesn’t go their way.
Someone asked “What screams "I'm a man-child" but nobody realizes it?” and people from across the internet share their own examples. So get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote your favorites and be sure to go to the comments down below to detail your own encounters with men who need to grow up a bit.
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#1
Gatekeeping masculinity. “You’re not a real man unless…” kind of stuff. Wow, how insecure are you, dude?
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#2
Their explosive emotions are valid ( even when exaggerated) but yours are never and you're just dramatic.
Beak Hookage 2 weeks ago
Guys aren't allowed to have feelings except RAAAAGE! Therefore it is "manly" to fly off the handle. Women aren't allowed to express anger because that is unfeminine. That's why most of us cry when we're angry because it's okay for a woman to cry but god forbid she raise her voice or behave aggressively.
#3
Not changing diapers. It’s your kid, grow up.
#4
Being unhappy that you rarley attract females whilst setting completely unrealistic body standards when prospecting for a relationship
My cousin does this, he asked me for advice once and I was like "well what do you want in a girl" any examples he showed me were basically real life anime characters.
#5
Using the word “alpha male” unironically in a sentence.
Beak Hookage 2 weeks ago
In other words an error-filled early version not ready for release to the public?
#6
Expecting the world to accept your temper tantrums.
Amazingly common among men, thinking it is ok to flip things, scream and smash stuff over a trivial loss.
So funny people think women are emotional, ever seen a woman smash a TV over their Fanduel account?
#7
Playing video games all day and getting upset when your partner asks for help with kids, housework, grocery shopping, household stuff.
#10
Blaming others for your mistakes or bad luck.
Beak Hookage 2 weeks ago
Oh yeah, that's being a whiny baby right there. I knew a guy who was like that once upon a time. I cut him off when he progressed to trying to get in my pants and then negging me when I repeatedly said no.
#11
Thinking being nice to your partner is being whipped or unmanly. "Guys, is it gay to like your wife???".
liam newton-harding 2 weeks ago
The tate-bro pdf's actually posed the question...in public...for the World to see, "Is it gay to sleep with women?"
#13
Only contributes a paycheck to the home while his partner also works and does all the child care, cooking, cleaning etc.
Beak Hookage 2 weeks ago
When I was a kid I read a picture book about a family where the wife/mother is in this situation, with her husband and two sons taking her completely for granted. One day she walks out on them, leaving a note that says "YOU ARE PIGS". Without her they're completely unable to cope. The house falls into a shambles, they can't figure out how to cook or clean or otherwise take care of themselves, until eventually they transform into pigs. It has a happy ending where she comes back and says have you learned your lesson? They have, and from then on they all pitch in.
#14
Saying the spouse (meaning himself) should come before the kids. Nope. Sorry. You brought these helpless humans into the world. You, their parents, are a team putting their needs first. Grow TF up.
Kelly Scott 2 weeks ago
If the man in question is putting his spouse over the kids and says she comes first, I don't have a problem with that, any more than if a woman says her spouse comes before the kids. Kids are not the focal point of a family. They're part of the family and parents who put them first before their spouses run the risk of losing their spouses to divorce and raising their kids to be mamas' boys or daddies' girls.
#15
"I have very narrow and specific interests, I just don't find those things appealing to learn, I'd rather other people do them for me."
Those "other things": cooking, car maintenance, home maintenance, trip planning, basically anything that involves effort. Like, buddy, you'rw 30, you hang out all afternoon at your parents' place, you have them cook for you when you make double what they do combined (and work like 3 hrs a day), you have your 63 year old dad change your car's oil, repair your doorframes, paint your apartment, you have your mom make your dentist appointments while your play video games and scroll Instagram.
You don't have narrow interests, you're a lazy slob of a man child who was never forced to bear the construction of his learned incompetence.
#16
“if you tell me the trash is full, i’ll take it out”.
#17
It’s when someone looks “functional” on the outside but still expects life to feel like it did when they were 22.
like… being constantly frustrated that work isn’t exciting, relationships are hard, routines are boring. and instead of adapting, they keep waiting for the world to change back.
#18
Driving your pickup truck right up my back like it's going to make me go faster.
Earonn - 2 weeks ago
My driving instructor used to say: what are they going to do, ram you? that would give you a push forward and them criminal charges plus they would have to pay for your car (where I learned to drive, one MUST have insurance). Let them scream and whine, your eyes are on the street."
#20
Leaving your spouse and children because "it's too much pressure to be a dad".
Nothing wrong with being overwhelmed, but grown-ups seek help before it gets bad instead of ditching everything when it gets complicated.
Sally Moen 2 weeks ago
I think it's too bad that mothers who abandon their kids are called all kinds of names but a dad is at most called a deadbeat dad. A shrug of the shoulders. It's been too common too long. Why isn't it similarly embarrassing for the guy?
#21
More nefarious, but any weaponized incompetence.
Things I've seen:
'Accidentally' breaking dishes when washing dishes, loading a dishwasher in a way that some dishes don't get clean, washing colors with whites with hot water, 'not knowing' where basic supplies are kept, mopping without sweeping/vacuuming first, etc.
Sally Moen 2 weeks ago
I see this at work all the time when I have the exact same job description
#23
Loud cars and trucks, blasting your music really loud. What are you, 5 years old? CAR GO BRRRR... STFU.
#24
Rampant misogyny, bigotry, etc. - thinking that all their problems are caused by some other group, when in reality THEY are their own biggest problem.
Beak Hookage 2 weeks ago (edited)
Oh yeah, the old "waah they gave the promotion to a competent minority instead of ME, a completely useless straight white guy, it's all THEIR FAULT MY LIFE S.U.C.K.S" mentality.
#25
Failing to preform small adult life maintenance tasks like sorting through his mail, filing his taxes, making doctor’s appointments, or things like waiting until he’s completely out of toilet paper before buying more or waiting until he has absolutely no clean clothes before doing his laundry at the last possible minute, and being late to everything constantly. Also, not keeping track of important documents like paystubs, tax forms, birth certificate, social security card, etc.
Most of the other comments are examples of obvious behaviors, but these ones are really sneaky and you have to really get to know him before you realize he does any of these things.
Sally Moen 2 weeks ago
They really are subtle. This would be a good question for those folks using dating apps: how do you select people that are responsible with their bills and health?
#26
He told me one of his proudest accomplishments in life was becoming Homecoming Prince in high school.
He was 35.
#27
A spotless enormous 4x4 truck with a 5-foot high hood with Punisher and Blue line stickers that gets 10mpg and has never seen a dirt road.
#28
Any lack of:
* Self-awareness
* Self-reflection
* Accountability
* Capacity to repair
* Empathy
If any one of those are missing it makes every interaction 1000x more frustrating.
Joe Publique 1 week ago
I can think of plenty of people who lack these skills. Gender seems irrelevant, especially these days.
#29
Ooh I dated a man baby! He:
- Blamed everyone else for his shortcomings
- very close with his mom but she overly coddled him
- lived with his parents not to save money but because he literally could not afford to move out
- talked smack about everyone
- made getting a lot of girls a huge thing he was proud of, like super bragging as if that's relevant as a 31 year old
- didn't cook or take care of himself
#30
Trying to date women who are 18-22 when he's 35+. From personal experience as the former 19 year old girl in these relationships, the men were always so, so immature and stunted.
#32
Caring about body count or being icked o ut by anything menstruation related.
KatSaidThat 2 weeks ago (edited)
and calling women sluts if their body count is more than 3. And actually term body count can f**k off - I read too much crime to think of it as a s****l term. HA! S****l apparently not banned!
#33
Pretending to not know the difference between healthy masculinity and toxic masculinity.
#34
Participating in the drama of younger co-workers.
#35
Had one get mad because I "unfriended them" on FB. *(I had actually shut my profile down a few months prior.)*
Not that this guy reached out, called, texted, emailed, or anything else. Just mad. Made snarky remarks when I finally joined a game with him and his little crew and decided it was enough.
No longer associating with that person.
KatSaidThat 2 weeks ago
Lol. I unfriend people on their birthdays on FB if I have not seen/spoken to them for years. One did ask when I did that, so said "on your birthday". Pikachu.
#36
Assuming your experience is true to everyone.
#37
They will only eat fast food or kid food. No vegetables, fiber or fish.
Learner Panda 2 weeks ago
It is their choice to be unhealthy. As an adult they should know there are alternatives.
#38
Having to be reminded about basic hygiene.
#39
Men who can't fathom that some men aren't into talking about football 247.
#40
Having no idea how to cook anything besides frozen food.
KatSaidThat 2 weeks ago
NJP - you blaming a mother for a 30 year old manchild not learning to cook? D1ckhead.
#41
When he doesn't even bother to show any interest in anything that isn't about/related to himself.
#42
Cant keep a job for more than a couple months and its always someone else's fault.
KatSaidThat 2 weeks ago
My halfblood sister wouldn't keep a job for more than a month or so and it was never her fault either. This is not just men.
#43
Insisting on being “the man” or being treated like a man or respected as the man of the house.
#45
“Can I help with anything” …. When I’m doing chores and the house is a mess….
#46
Someone who won’t do something when asked because it’s too difficult/annoying/pointless.
Fungus John 2 weeks ago
the first 2 yes, but if its pointless then whats the point of doing it?
#47
Projecting their mommy issues onto other women. In other words, deep down they hate their mom so they take it out on other women.
#49
Hurting yourself, hurting others, and not taking responsibility for your own actions.
#50
A million hobbies or one hobby that takes priority over their intimate partner and children.
#51
Dating someone way younger
Not asking questions / being able to hold conversations
Not being able to cook
Undecorated apartment (mattress on the floor, white walls)
Doesn’t go to doctor / dentist
Doesn’t understand basic women’s health facts (you’d be surprised how many men think women can’t pee with a tampon in).
#52
Not taking his own initiatives and had to be told what to do every step of the way.. like you’re an adult you know when you need to go to the store, clean or cook.
Not telling you when they’re mad about something so you have to drag it out of them.
Constantly farting .
#53
I got so many!
- not being able to communicate
- not being able to handle money (eg spending frivolously on stuff they don’t need!)
- not dealing with issues, for eg from the past or in the relationship and having the “it’ll go away” attitude
- afraid of conflict
- drinking/partying irresponsibly/ excessively
- cheating
- lying
- lack of accountability for their own actions
- lack of “I can do it” attitude when faced with issues.
#54
Graphic tees about patriotism.
#56
I don't pay attention to politics or the news because it doesn't personally affect me as a white cis man.
Sally Moen 2 weeks ago
Associated: "I don't vote (because reasons)" and I've heard this from men of many different races, and they do not hesitate to complain about politics.
#57
Too many bumper stickers on your vehicle. And I don’t care what they say, it’s universal.
#58
Not having a valid drivers license and having to rely on your wife or girlfriend to take you everywhere.
#60
When a man exclusively wears shorts. Please, for the love of god, buy some nice slacks. You're not a toddler! You need situation appropriate clothing options!!!
#62
Wearing "Grunt Style" shirts when you never spent a day in the military. Also, wearing "Salt Life" t-shirts when you've never been on a boat.
What do you think ?
Learner Panda 2 weeks ago
I read these and I am even more grateful for my husband being the man he is.
Joe Publique 1 week ago (edited)
Thankfully, I know very few people like this. Most of these complaints seem oddly Americo-centric.
Learner Panda 2 weeks ago
I read these and I am even more grateful for my husband being the man he is.
Joe Publique 1 week ago (edited)
Thankfully, I know very few people like this. Most of these complaints seem oddly Americo-centric.
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