Google "texting your ex" and you'll get a million articles listing all the rules you have to obey when undergoing such a brave endeavor. Many, however, find themselves in an (alcohol-induced) moment of weakness and the last thing on their mind is what someone else thinks of this stunt. "I'm hurt, I'm horny, and I need closure," we tell ourselves. But our exes might not be willing to fix us. They might even want to hurt us and share our dumb text with the rest of the world.
If so, they will probably send it to an Instagram account called Texts From Your Ex. Here's what it has collected so far.
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So do these screenshots mean that you must never text your ex? Of course not. If your split was civil and a few casual exchanges don't set either of you back emotionally, it's all good. As with most situations concerning relationships, you have to feel it out.
"You shouldn't wait too long after a breakup to text your ex if things ended cordially," relationship coach Chris Armstrong told Elite Daily. "That creates awkwardness," he explains. "Instead, it's best to build a nice and immediate bridge between the relationship and a friendship."
But that doesn't mean you should bombard them with texts, revealing all of your emotions, either. Give yourself and your former partner a bit of time and space to process everything and come to terms with the end of your romantic before starting a healthy friendship.
Keeping in touch is a bad idea if one person wants to be friends while the other is still heartbroken about the relationship and is unsure of how they see the future between them. Say your ex still tries to reminisce with you about the good times you shared together or hints at the idea of you two reuniting later on in life. That means they're probably not over the breakup. If you have already moved on, however, further chatting might just hurt them. The best course of action in such a scenario would probably be to give them space.
Either way, there is no formula for every situation out there, so you might often have to rely on your best judgment. That being said, be careful when it comes to texting your ex early in the morning or late at night. At least Chris Armstrong advises against it.
"We all know what communication in the morning and evenings means between two people who have or have had, an intimate relationship. It means good morning and goodnight in a not-so-subtle way, and you don't want to get those signals crossed with an ex."
Thats funny i said the same to my ex except he text '' Going to a wedding can you join me dont wanna be alone '' then i text '' im hanging with someone'' him: who'' Me: my cats''
I would have changed that a little. "My cats.....eating me."
My sis told me that a hoe is an important and useful tool in Minecraft agriculture.
Eh. I don't grow a lot of crops. I mainly cook steak
Load More Replies...My thoughts exactly. That would be SO funny and he would be freaking out, even if only for a second, until he double-checked the phone number.
Load More Replies...It would be savage, if it WAS the right person, and they did this, so that this person would reach out to the other girl, and say the same thing. Thus messing it up for all options they had.
so fake lmao... im 1000% some of these were made on that fake text creator website!
"one, don't pick up the phone, you know he's only calling cause he's drunk and alone."
Load More Replies...dang it now i keep rereading excellent like that
Load More Replies...Yah priotritize yourself not some asshole who you broken up with and then they texting back'' you look great;; should have responded ''Yah you were the pimple of my life and now your gone''
This time find someone who can use English properly.
Load More Replies...Oh my god, where does he live. Who wants to commit a murder with me?
Doing that with a toxic ex doesn't work unfortunately, i guess their ex is a normal person, than being polite works
Load More Replies...Ohh I am so gonna use this on my friend that betrayed me and is now trying to get close to me.
Ok I'm glad someone is actually nice instead of being an asshole and shutting the other person down completely and making them feel terrible on the inside.
for people who dont get it, that girl's name is 11, she is from the horror show Stranger Things
her name is eleven and is from a tv show stranger things on netflix
Load More Replies...No worthwhile guy has ever texted that to a romantic partner /ex. It’s always losers somehow.
There are still feelings if you talk about the other person. When the feelings are gone, you do not give a rat's ass and do not talk about the other no more.
Probably not. It depends on why they are talking about the ex. Most of the time, you come away from a relationship with a lot of experience, which undoubtedly comes up in conversation. Especially if you’re making a comparison to someone else’s bad relationship or just recalling your own mistakes.
Load More Replies...I wouldn’t want a person like this even if they divorced their wife. They made a move while married. Not exactly quality here.
To all the people who downvoted me: That. is. not. my opinion!!!!! That's my assumption for ex's reasoning!!!
Load More Replies...Apparently they weren't your best friend either. Two shitty people are out of you life! Two birds, one stone.
That person is one of the reasons you can send animal feces via mail...
Jez I thought I dated some clowntards some of these folks are off the charts!
Changing the password would be one of the first things to do. Or wait until they're at the last episode of their fav new show and let them suffer...I dunno.
That’s not a concerned person, that’s a creeper
Load More Replies...Why do they always think they can lure people over with sex? Nobody wants this when you do it this way. So pathetically. “Just thought I could make you feel good” or whatever. GROSS.
Remind me of the Dua lipa song..'' New Rules ..'' One dont pick up the phone you only know he's calling cause he's drunk and alone''
Two, don't let him in - you'll have to kick him out again...
Load More Replies...This person has serious issues. Like, that's the behavior of a stalker.
Someone who isn’t a mom should call so many times, it’s in the book of how to get friends
Yeah. Just 'cause you're hurting is no excuse to be a toxic... uh... poop.
Load More Replies...I agree; in this scenario, at least from the given context, blue didn't prompt any situation and was nice, while grey went out of their way to insult them like that. Savage, but uncalled for, so it's plain trashy.
Load More Replies...Yeah and I tell my cousins you were the person who started the fire
Roses are red, cacti are prickly, and may I just say that escalated quickly
Sometimes you just need the extra time to make sure you really are clean.
Load More Replies...Yeah... Some people take 10 minute showers, I take 10 month showers. How else are you supposed to contemplate life’s problems.
For 4 months..? I wish I could take a shower that long, but I'm afraid the water would get cold sooner or later and my mom would have started yelling at me. But I sure hope you got your feet cleaned.
I know that this has nothing to do with anything, but I like her sweater
and I'd rather have that sweater than that ring (not a ring person)
Load More Replies...Everyone’s rushing to downvote Aaron, but Raven edited their comment.
Load More Replies...she may have found out after the three years.
Load More Replies...I was reading this in class..and my teacher was talking about how her dog died and me and my friend just burst out laughing...I feel so bad.
Comeback ends with "...apology that I've seen a thousand times before". If this means that the ex has sent several apologies like that, I can understand the response... would change the meaning from "sincere apology" to "lookit I'm much better behaved now and only want the best for you! (and once I've finally convinced you that I truly mean it you'll come back to me)"
Load More Replies...What f*****g shitty person. I don't know the situation, but that sounds like a decent apology (NOT lame at all) and it feels like they might not deserve that apology...
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Load More Replies...If you've seen this apology a thousand times over then you need to re evaluate your choice in a partner.
Apparently passwords and call blocks are too complicated for iPhone users.
Load More Replies...Not savage, just sad and dumb.As soon as the account was used, should have changed the password.
But if you try sometimes, well you just find a way to un-stuck the song. And then you'll get what you need 😉
Load More Replies...Yeah well I don't care since that year sucked for me to, been thinking about you but I don't give a s**t gimmie my hoodieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
No, it’s just from life. Most people don’t know who Logan whatever is. Where do you think Logan got the song idea from?
Load More Replies...Love how this one doesn’t respond. Probably grinning to themselves in silence.
Satan(if I were to believe in such things)is way nicer/smarter, I'm sure.
the other person had a non iphone product before but then they got one so the messages turned blue.
Load More Replies...when you are on iphone and ON wifi its blue, If you are off wifi its green. Just means the first conversation was done on data not wifi
God that’s disgusting, trashy and rude as fûck. I would never speak to them again.
Hold up Hold up Hold the phone, hold the book, hold the beer. Who the f**k eats pizza while having sex and then taking a fat vomit on your partner
I miss my partner’s cat. We were together for six years. I miss my baby almost everyday. I saw her from when she’s a two month little thing, shaped her diet and gave it variety, groomed and the only one who cut her nails/brushed her teeth, and took her to her first vet appointments. She’d wake me up by rubbing her face against mine’s. 😭😭 I totally get this.
Load More Replies...That's better than never asking about the dog. Not even once and not even other people who would have known how he was or when he died.
Lesson #2 don't suck up to your exes to get them to come back to you.
Load More Replies...but maybe thats just the cocaine talking !?!?why would you admit that
I had a so-called friend do this. They completely disappeared for a couple of years then suddenly emailed me with "hey, I'm moving and would love it if you came to my going away party." Um... no? We're obviously not friends anymore.
"Let's hang" "Ok, meet me in an hour at the old dead tree up on the hill, if I don't show up go ahead without me".
It is most likely on the Virgin Mobile Wireless network... https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Virgin_Mobile
Load More Replies...It’s her water and she wants to drink it. Not withholding money via tax evasion.
Load More Replies...If my ex was on fire, I would put them out. Too bad I only had gasoline.
It is most likely on the Virgin Mobile Wireless network...
Load More Replies...That’s funny! I bet the context makes the WB person seem awful though.
Idk this one feels like it could have been one friend messing with the other
If he saves her peaches in the fridge,I don’t want to see those. Throw them out
He is actually required by federal law to be an asśhole about it.
It's because they are cowards and don't know how to be a good person
Load More Replies...this person(the grey one) must not be serious about anything...
Could be. Or observant or this isn’t the first time they’re in someone’s contacts with that label. Or maybe he’s seen her contact list before.. eeh
Load More Replies...Because when they finish, they have a back-up at home
Load More Replies...Noo not the roleplay >///<" (idk if that's any good)
Load More Replies..."M'lady tips fedora"... RUN ! RUN LIKE THE HUNGRY DEAD ARE AFTER YOU!
They might have been making a joke with that last message? Maybe? Please?
Ugh gross “miss u”. I had an ex that sent me that on every platform for like six years. Like okay, you miss me. You don’t have ANYTHING else to say after all this time?
who sends texts at 3:40 AM? it's rude to the reciever of the message because they'll be bothered by their ringtone of their phone..
Someone who sends texts at 3:40 AM is either drunk or high or both. The concept of time is wasted on them.
Load More Replies...Bonjour good day how is you family Bonjour good day how is your WIFE
So I might be naive. Does the gray just want to catch up or are they looking for more? Many people think I’m flirtatious, but the ones who are closest to me know better. It’s frustrating because I flirt by ignoring them and running out of the same room until I figure it out two years later and can’t carry a normal conversation with them. How do we know if it’s innocent or um going down that lane?
Turn away. Or send that to his fiancé' so they know what they are about to get into.
It looks like something else happened on those 24 hours.
Load More Replies...Can anyone explain: why do folks rename the person they hate (their ex) in their contact list instead of just blocking them? Is it strictly for revenge/entertainment?....actually that could be some good entertainment....🤔
So why didn't you block the number? There really are some dumb people out there. It's not rocket science: Block the ex and get on with your life.
If I am totally being honest, I only upvoted you because your name.
Load More Replies...Drat! Now I can´t get: "Hello my baby, hello my honey Hello my ragtime, summertime gal!" Out of my head.... ...and now you can´t either.
I am still struggling with that 'pipetime gal' line o_0
Load More Replies...A lot of these 2AM messages are why I always turn the internet off on my phone before I go to sleep.
Or 2 p.m. for all the wonderful diurnal people out there
Load More Replies...Did these recipients know the guy was married when they started dating?
We don't necessarily know that they were married at the time of the dating. Could be exes that have got married since.
Load More Replies...Who do people continue to interact with their ex's? unless there are children involved, just write them off and block them. Aint go no time for that s**t. LOL
Once had an ex message me on Facebook and my immediate reply was “I have nothing to say to you, go away”, then blocked him. So glad the rest of them ignore me.
Drat! Now I can´t get: "Hello my baby, hello my honey Hello my ragtime, summertime gal!" Out of my head.... ...and now you can´t either.
I am still struggling with that 'pipetime gal' line o_0
Load More Replies...A lot of these 2AM messages are why I always turn the internet off on my phone before I go to sleep.
Or 2 p.m. for all the wonderful diurnal people out there
Load More Replies...Did these recipients know the guy was married when they started dating?
We don't necessarily know that they were married at the time of the dating. Could be exes that have got married since.
Load More Replies...Who do people continue to interact with their ex's? unless there are children involved, just write them off and block them. Aint go no time for that s**t. LOL
Once had an ex message me on Facebook and my immediate reply was “I have nothing to say to you, go away”, then blocked him. So glad the rest of them ignore me.
