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A lot of us can agree dating these days is not an easy task, and finding "the one" might seem like an impossible thing to do. People are constantly lying about themselves on dating apps, showing up and acting crazy, or just straight-up ghosting their dates. And meeting someone in real life doesn't always work out like in the movies and can even be dangerous.
From these tragic events come pretty unhinged dating stories, and that's why when an internet user asked "What's something that happened on a first date that made you decide against a second date?" it went viral with people sharing all kinds of absurd things. Some stories are quite funny, while others serve as a perfect example of a "red flag" that you should run (and far away) from.
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#1
He took it out. And I don't mean this in a funny "unexpected Seinfeld" kind of way (although I suppose it IS that). I mean he leaned across the table and whispered "I'm out." I said "excuse me?" For some reason my first thought was "out of the closet." He said "out, under the table. Look under the table." And, like an idiot, I LOOKED." Then he said "that's what you do to me." I said "this is what you do to me" and I left. I'm a people pleaser so, to this day, I'm proud of myself for walking away in the middle of dinner.
Holly Stevens 2 years ago
He watched it on pornhub and got his realities mixed up
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R Dennis 2 years ago
Does any of that ever work? I mean... I am a guy and never once thought "You know what this date/text needs? For her to see my d**k!"
Couragetcd 2 years ago
Congratulations! You have succeeded in being able to pass as acceptable to be near in public!
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SuperChicken 2 years ago
What a creeper and a weirdo! Op should've laughed at the guy, right before bolting out.
KariAdoresHerKats 2 years ago
Why would someone do this? It's not like level of attractiveness differ for willys. Was he hoping she would just fall in love with it? Give it up because its so beautiful? What's the mindset of people who think this is okay and that someone will be delighted at seeing that!
Couragetcd 2 years ago
Interesting...so, instead of gilding the lilly, you think he might have been gilding the w--
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Michael P (Perthaussieguy) 2 years ago
On a first date is disgusting. On your first wedding anniversary dinner could be quite funny
Fat Harry 2 years ago
If this is at a restaurant this is never acceptable.
Load More Replies...We talked with Professor & Ph.D. Director Jennifer A. Theiss about first dates and dating in general, and we asked her why she thinks a lot of first dates end badly: "First dates are challenging because they are characterized by uncertainty. We have questions and doubts about what our partner will think of us, how we might feel about them, whether or not there will be more dates in the future, what we should say, and how we should behave. High levels of uncertainty can make it difficult to communicate effectively and make sense of a partner's messages and behaviors. This makes for an uncomfortable interaction on first dates, which many people presume is evidence that they are not a match and might discount their partner as a result, but really it is a normal and expected aspect of these first encounters with a new potential partner."
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#2
I picked her up and she asked me if we could stop by her moms house so she could "run in and grab something." I said sure. Made the stop. She went inside. 5 minutes later she comes out hustling towards the car with a carseat and her mom chasing after her yelling. She opens the car door and throws the carseat(which i now see has a baby in it) and starts yelling at me to drive. I freaked and just turned my car off and took the keys out of the ignition. Her mom called the cops and they came and questioned all of us for a good while. Turns out she had lost custody due to drug use and was trying to use me as a way to get her kid back. We never made it to dinner and I just went home after the cops left.
Woets 2 years ago
Right! What else you gonna throw at me BP?? This has to be the worst
Load More Replies... Couragetcd 2 years ago
I have to give OP kudos for fine instincts. I might have driven a block away before common sense had me hitting the brakes. Literally and figuratively.
Couragetcd 2 years ago
I hope that you are a social worker of some sort and not a serial first dater, I don't think anyone's sanity could handle multiple first dates like that.
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#3
The guy told me he would still be together with his kids mum if she had apologized for what she did wrong. Out of curiosity I asked what she did wrong? Was expecting something like she cheated, ya know something that actually needed apologising for.
Nope. Apparently she kept nagging one day and wouldn't shut up, so, he tied her to a computer chair and went out for three hours and left her there.
I said it doesn't sound like she was the one who needed to apologize and left.
Min 2 years ago
At least he waved those red flags early and in public so she could still escape!
Pyla 2 years ago (edited)
Too bad the wife didn't three kids ago. (or whatever number)
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Couragetcd 2 years ago
She probably dared to nag about something like him getting a job, or not bringing home bloody clothes after stalking women.
wee.wee.croissant (ollie) 2 years ago
wtf is wrong with that man??? i would have reported him to the POLICE
Couragetcd 2 years ago
Oh gosh, hopefully with the mum. Would hate to know how he dealt with parenting
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Jennifer A. Theiss also gave some tips and tricks for first dates: "Because uncertainty is high during first dates, one of the goals of our communication is to reduce that uncertainty so that we can form impressions and make decisions about whether or not we want to proceed with future interaction. Seeking information is the primary way that we might go about reducing our uncertainty, and the main way that we go about obtaining information is by asking questions. My advice for first dates is to ask a lot of questions. The answers you receive from your partner will likely provide substantial information that will quell uncertainty, either positively or negatively. They might share information that gives you a positive impression and reduces your uncertainty in ways that make you want more contact, or they might share information that reduces your uncertainty by confirming negative or undesirable qualities that you are sure you don't want in a partner."
#4
He tried to control the whole date. What I dressed, ate, if I wore make up or not, how I wore my hair.
He had this long list. Let's just say I answered the door with bed head and baggy PJs. Told him to buy a blow up doll to control, don't contact me ever again and closed the door.
hitex 2 years ago
Extra points for making him drive to get her for a date, only to have door slammed in his face!
Tyranamar Seuss 2 years ago
OMG. Internet dating. I always insist on at least one zoom call before I'll actually take time and energy away from my son to go on a real date. Asked this guy to Zoom. I had already explained to him that I get very anxious in public and would like to get to know him better before going out. "No, we're going out. You're going to get dressed up. You're going to do your hair." Umm. No sir. I will not. Wild.
Mario Strada 2 years ago
Meet at a public place next time. I do that when I sell something online for local pickup. Frankly, I don't know how you didn't sit by the door for a week with a shotgun across your lap and many pots of coffee.
Richard Michael 2 years ago
I call BS. Why would you ever giver out your address to someone like this. I don't know anyone who would sacrifice their safety and peace of mind doing something just to get a jay in.
Couragetcd 2 years ago
It could have been a first date set up by a friend or even been a class mate/coworker/associate that seemed decent until a date was set up and then Mr. Controlly McTrollor went dark side.
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#5
Went on a date with a woman from the office. Thought we had good chemistry and got along well. She couldn't find her phone so I tried calling it and someone from the restaurant answered. I went back in for her to get it and the waiter showed me I was saved in her contacts under "Free Food."
Tyranamar Seuss 2 years ago
Who needs food this bad? She obviously had a job. I can't imagine wasting an evening with someone just for food.
DarkViolet 2 years ago
Especially when the word got around what happened.
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Jennifer A. Theiss shared the main red flag to look out for while on your first date: "One red flag is when your date asks no questions about you. This lack of curiosity on their part suggests that they aren't attempting to reduce uncertainty by learning more about you, which may mean that they are not thinking about the potential for future interaction or a long-term relationship."
#6
Nothing obvious or overt but from the minute we sat down to eat the hair on the back of my neck stood up and I felt unsafe. He was polite, listened, very polished, but could not shake that feeling. I drove to the restaurant to meet so he did not know where I lived. After dinner he asked for another date and I just said no I don’t think we are a good match. Gave him money to pay for my half, said goodby when I got to the door turned around and he was staring at me with an expression I never hope to see again. I ran to my car, moved it to another spot, and waited until he left before I left so he could not follow. Restaurant was on an isolated road so that was safer then having him catch up to me. Found out about a year later he was sent to prison for the assault and rape of 2 different woman . It happened on first dates. Never used a dating site again
Phobrek 2 years ago
1) elated OP dodged this bullet. 2) in the first line, would have recommended placing a comma after "eat"
David Leick 2 years ago
Lol I could not get past that. "we sat down to eat the hair on the back of my neck" 😂
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Sara Wilson 2 years ago
To h fair, u can meet these creeps just in the street to. It's not the sites fault. Hinge will actually investigate and remove people that have just 1 complaint against them, as long as it's legit. They do the best they can, but u have to remember what being on the internet is. U get to hide everything about u except what I WANT people to know. Still have to do ur due diligence, ensure ur own safety and listen to those neck hairs as OP did! Good call girl!
Couragetcd 2 years ago
Just reading the his gave me so much anxiety. I'm gonna need a break before reading more
Wendy Herman 2 years ago
That was a brilliant move on your part. Bravo for listening to your instincts & laying low until he'd departed. It IS a frightening world.
#7
He asked me how big my baby was and if I birthed him vaginally or had a c-section. His explanation was that he'd never slept with a mom before and had heard a baby can stretch out a vagina. I excused myself to the bathroom and promptly left the restaurant.
Rinso the Red 2 years ago
Gross, ignorant, and stupid! Boy won incel bingo
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Couragetcd 2 years ago
Luckily he doesn't have to worry about that being an issue for him. His hand will just get stronger the more he uses it.
FakeOptimist 2 years ago
I try to educate myself, and prefer people with real experience to Google, but this...
Fat Harry 2 years ago
I read your username as FakeOptometrist and was worried for a second.
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Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
I would say "It's not your concern and you will never need to worry about it." And walk away
It seems like everyone's had a bad date at least once in their life, and Jennifer A. Theiss shared her own with us: "Not horrible, per se, but I once asked someone on a first date what they were looking for in their ideal woman (lame, I know). He said his ideal woman was petite with brown hair, brown eyes, and olive skin. I have blond hair, blue eyes, pale skin, and I'm definitely not petite! We didn't have a second date!"
#8
The waitress was a lovely young black woman. He referred to her as being attractive for a ‘colored’. He touched her which is not ok. You don’t touch your waitress.
Made aggressive ‘looks’ at another table where a family was dining (they were what looked to be Indian) and commented loudly that they were what was wrong with America.
Had multiple tequila shots.
His cologne stank to high heaven.
I was so embarrassed.
I was raised to be patient & polite but finally I was like ‘wtf am I doing still here? I stood up and left leaving my half eaten meal on the table.
He yelled insults at me as I was leaving then when I was out the door texted me.
Pure trash.
Jiji The Cat 2 years ago
no mate, YOU'RE what's wrong with america (and i don't even live there)
The CareTaker 2 years ago
at that point, you say "your whats wrong with the WORLD"
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sharyn turnicky 2 years ago
Thank heavens you left, or escaped, that level of crazy needs to be kept somewhere safe and quiet.
OtterNaut 2 years ago
How did this date come about in the first place? Had they not met beforehand?
KittyMommy 2 years ago
Probably not. Some people can fake they're a decent person though text. If they matched on a dating app this very well could have been their first meeting
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He tried to change my order with the waitress because I didn’t order what he’d recommended.
Not-a-Clue (she/her) 2 years ago
Even after 20+ years, (and me being fairly predictable) it would never occur to my husband to order for me, or even make suggestions.
R Dennis 2 years ago
My wife likes to try new things in restaurants. I really don't unless I know they are really good. (I was in the food industry since I was 15, so I admittedly can be a little extra.) She usually says she wishes she had stuck with the basics on the menu because most of the time she doesn't like what she gets. That said... it would NEVER cross my mind to tell her what she has to eat!
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Tyranamar Seuss 2 years ago
So smart that this person ran for the hills. Dude's a control freak.
If you're uncertain what you're doing wrong in the dating world, Jennifer A. Theiss shared her thoughts on the main mistakes people make in dating these days: "With most people using dating apps to find potential partners, they are often making judgments about whether or not to pursue someone based on limited (and highly curated) information that is provided in a person's profile. Often, a potential partner is quickly excluded based on physical appearance alone or a few pieces of basic information. Most daters would benefit from casting a more wide open net and not being too discriminant during this early vetting process. Give yourself the chance to learn more about a potential partner by going on a first date and giving them the opportunity to share more personal information about themselves. There may be a lot of potential missed connections when people are quick to exclude people based on limited information about them."
If you want to learn more about Jennifer A. Theiss and relationships, you can give her book "The Experience and Expression of Uncertainty in Close Relationships" a look.
#10
Very recent- asked when I would get a real career. I love what I do, I'm a union stagehand in a major entertainment city. I have been in my industry for over 20 years, toured the country, toured the world, make a comfortable living. Yeah- no. That's pretty demeaning and I'm out.
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
Being a union stagehand IS a real job, and a really interesting job at that. Cripes, I would’ve had soooo many questions—-not insults—-for OP if I was on the date with them. What shows have you worked? Ever traveled with a touring company of a show? What actor is the nicest to the stagehands? So many more. Definitely wouldn’t have been lacking for conversation.
Tyranamar Seuss 2 years ago
Wasn't this one of those dating "tips" incels give? Something about bringing down the victim's confidence so she'll feel lucky to date your loser a*s.
Wendy Herman 2 years ago
Yes, it is. It also may be part of the reason they're Still involuntarily celibate. Only Rosie Palm puts up w/ That level of disrespect. That "negging" 💩 is to determine if they've found a semi-willing victim whose self-esteem has been So Trampled she'll put up w/ more abuse. Luckily, therapy is more widely available & embraced these days than it was in the past. The result is that those broken by past abuse are more likely to seek pro help in healing, greatly reducing the pool of doormats available to these tools. They can all just date/torment each other now. The only people who appreciate doormats are creeps w/ dirty feet.
Load More Replies... MakeupMama68 2 years ago
As a fellow film crew member…. Damned straight! When my MIL tried to disparage my career choice, I took great pleasure in telling her that I not only do I make amazing union wages, I also have a pension and full premium medical insurance coverage.
SuperChicken 2 years ago
Add that you get to meet and hang with cool people and some might even be her favorite actors/actresses.
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Gabriele Alfredo Pini 2 years ago
From what I understand of US "union stagehand" is not a bad place...
Powerful Katrinka 2 years ago
It's a very, very, very good place. The International Alliance of Theatrical Stage Employees (IATSE) is really hard to break into. (Speaking from experience.)
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Richard Graham 2 years ago
Actually, my first though when reading about your job "Wow! What a GREAT career!"
Michael Largey 2 years ago
The actual question is "When are you going to get a real girlfriend?"
#11
Went to dinner with a girl who I'd been crushing on for quite some time. It seemed to be going well, and we ended up back at her place, watching a movie or something. Out of nowhere, her boyfriend (of whom I was not aware) came back from out of town and stopped in unexpectedly. He and I had a super awkward conversation for a few minutes, then the two of them disappeared into another room for a minute or two.
She came back, and said something to the effect of, "I don't have a place for you. I'm sorry." I just kind of got in my car and drove home, with one of the strangest feelings that I'd ever felt. At some point, a few minutes into the journey, I couldn't contain myself and busted out laughing.
Timbob 2 years ago
A girl went out with me as a statement to her bossy boy friend. He was a champion youth boxer. He was not happy.
Sweetie Dahling 2 years ago
Sounds like you're not the best judge of character if you did that (see Timbob's reply to the post of a woman feeling unsafe, #9 right now)
Load More Replies... Couragetcd 2 years ago
So...did the boyfriend have to coach her on what to say to the first date guy?
Amy Burke 2 years ago
Yeah think she must have fed him a load of bull .. that relationship is doomed
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Michael Largey 2 years ago (edited)
Faced with this treatment, I' would not be as nice as this guy. When she said, "I don't have a place for you. I'm sorry.", I would have had to reply, "Why not? Are two more guys coming over?"
We also spoke to the online user Whitneywestmoreland who started this interesting thread, and they shared why they think first dates are awkward: "First dates can be awkward because, let's face it, you're trying to determine if you're romantically compatible with a relative stranger. Having said that, I think many of the stories shared in that post were uniquely awful. They weren't necessarily something you would expect on a typical first date."
They also shared some tips for your first date: "As cheesy as it sounds, be yourself, be honest and don't waste your time or theirs if you don't think it's going to work out. Most importantly, if the other person isn't interested in you, don't think of it as a 'rejection.' Don't take it personally. You're looking for a match. Just because two people don't fit together, there's no reason for either one to feel spurned. People put far too much stock into the opinion of someone who barely knows them."
#12
Met a girl at a friend’s party. We were both in our mid-20s. Ended up spending three hours talking, and she was so funny, charming, gorgeous, and carefree. I asked her out and got a wonderful “I would love to!” from her. I show up about four days later at the restaurant she picked, one within walking distance of her place. She arrived about five minutes later. “Nice place,” I say, as I get her chair for her. “Since it’s so close, do you eat here often?” She scowls and responds, “You know, you ask too many f****** questions.” I was floored. Everything continued downhill from there. Within about 20 minutes, she just got up and left. I felt as if she had failed to tell me the other night that she had an evil twin, and that’s who showed up this evening. Later, when I ran into my buddy, I asked what the heck was up. “Oh yeah,” he said, “she’s a piece of work until she gets a few drinks in her. Then she’s adorable.” Thanks. Thanks a lot, buddy.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
This is sad... if you are an alcoholic then no one will ever know your real personality until you get yourself through detox and learn to live as yourself, sober. Until then you will probably feel terrible until you have a few drinks and be just nasty to everyone. She probably could become a decent person again.
#13
She kept writing to her friends on WhatsApp a play by play of the date instead of listening to me, so I stood up, paid my dinner and left because I found it disrespectful af
ί𝔫ＣίŦᵃт𝐔𝐬 2 years ago
A description of each moment as it's happening. Sports term.
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DJR 2 years ago
I'm a bit hung up on "listening to me". Shouldn't it be a conversation, not a lecture during a date?
Couragetcd 2 years ago
This is a very good point and makes it possibly that the play by play was more of an, ugh, he is still talking about his car. I might need you to send me an emergency soon!
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Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago
Because it IS disrespectful af. You're not livestreaming a Dead By Daylight match, you very impolite lady dog.
DarkViolet 2 years ago
Now she can give a play-by-play of all of those nights she'll spend watching Netflix, instead of dating. Dumbass.
Whitneywestmoreland talked about some of the red flags they look out for: "These are red flags for me, but any guy who brags or likes to talk about being an 'alpha' is an automatic 'no' for me. If he brings up his ex repeatedly, he's clearly not over her yet. There are other red flags (if he seems too controlling, jealous or possessive) but those aren't as immediately obvious."
They also shared an amusing story about their horrible first date: "Only one. I was staying with my parents for a bit, after college. I came down to dinner one day to find my parents sitting at the table with a random guy. Every extra chair had been removed from the table except for the one next to the guy so I would have to sit next to him. It still took me entirely too long to figure out this was their attempt at setting me up. No prior warning. Nothing. It was an awkward dinner with mom, dad and Yashar."
#14
She took her hands off the wheel and said, “You think I’m craaazzyy?!” I literally jumped out at the next light.
Evelien Stijger Martens 2 years ago
Dit that with my first driving instructor, never saw her again 🤣
#15
The date was going great but we were talking about family, friends, and all that and I realized that I’d slept with her sister. I didn’t really know what to do but you can’t just say “oh your family looks fun and I slept with your sister not too long ago. Show me more pics of your dog, is she a lab mix?”
I cut the date short after dinner and hoped it’d just fizzle out, but they found out. It was cool though, just an awkward coincidence.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
Ugh my sister used to target my exes and purposely go sleep with them. She would obsess over them and I was always the opposite in casual relationships. So she just made herself look like an idiot and ruined our relationship for 10 years
Lydsylou 2 years ago
I agree you he didn't have to word it weirdly just be like 'ah, right, awkward coincidence but I recognised your sister from the photos you showed me. I think I slept with her a while ago. Do you mind that?'
Load More Replies...The online user opened up about what they think the main mistakes in dating are these days: "I couldn't begin to tell you the mistakes people make in dating nowadays. I'm sure it varies. I've had friends comment on how, back in the day, you would meet people face-to-face and...while you may not have been initially attracted to someone, their personality/sense of humor would often win you over. Now that a lot of dating is done online, people are often automatically dismissed based on appearance alone. So two people who may have connected, had they chatted for 15 minutes, never get the chance to meet. The same applies when you dismiss people whose jobs don't pay as much as your own, because you assume you wouldn't have anything in common. When a lot of focus is put on superficial matters, you're going to dismiss a lot of people right off the bat, and that severely limits your options."
#16
I asked about his hobbies and he said "I play the bagpipes". I thought that was really cool and asked him to tell me more. He says, "Are you sure?" I said "Yes"
He proceeds to go on about bagpipes for the rest of the night. How he felt playing the bagpipes was his calling in life, how he needed to carry his grandfather's legacy (who also played the bagpipes), how his dream was to play bagpipes for the queen, his favourite brand of bagpipes, the anatomy of bagpipes...every topic was somehow turned back to bagpipes.
To be fair, I did say yes to him telling me more. I hope he's doing well and found someone just as passionate about bagpipes.
SheamusFanFrom1987 2 years ago
Hopefully he's succeeded in fulfilling his life's tooting as well.
Kelly Scott 2 years ago
The guy might have had Asperger Syndrome. Being fixated on a hobby can be one manifestation. Take it from someone who knows. Don't ask me anything about my hobbies unless you want a two hour lecture (really working on that, thought).
Tyranamar Seuss 2 years ago
In residency I had a patient with undiagnosed Asperger's/ASD. I was so young and naive. I kept trying to get him to make social contacts- he was depressed. After about a year I finally realized he loves coin collections and truly has no use for people. It was the loss of his coin business that triggered the depression. Not lack of social contacts. I left a note in the chart for the next resident who got him. The resident called and thanked me for the note saying he too would've wasted a lot of time trying to increase this guy's social contacts.
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Definitely a Human 2 years ago
He wanted to play waterslides for the queen?
Load More Replies... Mike Fitzpatrick 2 years ago
I could never think of them the same after seeing the movie St Helen's. Art Carney's character said "I hate bagpipes, sounds like pigs being murdered".
Load More Replies... Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago
I'm autistic and have obsessive interests I'm incredibly passionate about, but I learned to recognise when I'm boring people or making them feel weird. So, like this guy, I will only launch into enthusiastic talk about one of those interests after explicitly asking for permission. And even then I'll occasionally stop and say "If I'm boring you, please just tell me". People like us might be a bit much, but we can definitely be educational if nothing else, heh. I'm a walking encyclopedia of movie related trivia.
#17
Had in his bio that he was 6’9. First thing he said when he pulled up “so I’m actually 6 feet and the 9 inches is somewhere else” 😂 LIKE FIRST THING. before asking how my day was anything
Mermeow Overlord (they/them) 2 years ago (edited)
So he is six feet and has 9 inchworms in his pockets?
#18
He was super pushy about me having a third drink and got mad when I refused. ETA: I totally see why lots of people are replying saying he probably drugged my drink, but I do not think that is the case, as I never left either of my first 2 beers unattended and he had been pestering me to order a third beer, which is what I refused. I am fairly sure he was trying to get enough drinks into me to lower my inhibitions, not to drug me himself, but regardless his behaviour was inappropriate and a huge red flag. The fact that he got angry when I refused to drink more was the reddest flag.
The Other Guest 2 years ago
You mean "preparing his (next?) rape victim."
Load More Replies... El Dee 2 years ago
There's also the type of person who, even as a friend, will push drinks on you. They'll say stuff like they don't trust people who don't drink, that they think they are 'watching them' etc. This comes from having an alcohol addiction and wanting everyone else to drink just as much so they don't feel bad about it..
#19
A guy cracked a joke about feeding my cat arsenic. I didn’t even finish the date, just got up and left.
SheamusFanFrom1987 2 years ago
Should've fed him strychnine for that stupid joke and see if he enjoys death by spasms.
Couragetcd 2 years ago
Why the heck would anyone think that was funny or a good idea to ever say? What, he was checking to see howuch of a cat person she was, and if she could be brought over to the dog side?
Gen X Feral 2 years ago
WHAT! WhAt! What! That motherflucker!!! Omfg I'd of punched him in the throat and probably ended up in jail. My cats are my children
Jessie 1 year ago
A friend of mine once made a comment that you should hit an animal when they don’t behave, I was shocked but eventually forgot about it. She came to my house several years later, I was petting my cat and she started petting too. I told her to stop because my cat didn’t like strangers, she didn’t stop and my cat hit her on the wrist (just a warning tap, no blood drawn) and she punched my cat in the face. In response I punched her in the face, got her kicked out of the friend group and never spoke to her again. To this day I think about her and all the poor animals she owns, she lives on a farm.
Blue Bunny of Happiness 2 years ago
If a date suggests cooking my bunnies, I’m out of there! It’s not funny to joke about killing anyone’s pets. Surely, it’s not a difficult concept to grasp.
#20
1)He tried to force a kiss.
2) He tried to get me to agree to marry him the next week. No, he wasn't an immigrant.
3) He said women were stupid and would believe anything he told them. I am a woman.
4) He said it was OK to drown puppies. It was "actually humane."
5) He swore that it was impossible to get AIDS if you were straight. Found out a week later that he knew the whole time he was HIV positive.
That's just some of them...
Edit to add:
Y'all have me laughing here! No, not all the same guy. These are various different men throughout my lifetime, and in no particular order. I was writing them down as they came to mind. Can't believe I nearly forgot the one on #5. Scariest of them all. He tried way too hard to get me to go home with him. Glad common sense won the day. I was 16, he was 18.
Jared Robinson 2 years ago
Men need to be stopped. Can I have the number of the drown puppies guy? I swear I just wanna talk to him, not give him a first hand demonstration of why drowning is horrible, nope I'm just going to talk to him.
DarkViolet 2 years ago
Riiiiiiiiiight. Let me join you in "talking" to him.
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Wysteria_Rose 2 years ago
I was sitting here shocked and was somewhat relieved to see this wasn't all one guy! Not so relieved b/c that means there are multiple awful guys but oh well.
Load More Replies... Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
The drowning puppies is severely disturbing and hopefully he will never have access to animals but the HIV part is terrifying as he is accessing and infecting unsuspecting women on a regular basis. Reminds me of the SVU Episode and he should be charged for knowingly infecting people
Couragetcd 2 years ago
I'm so glad the guy that tried to force a kiss and the HIV positive guy weren't the same.
Christof Irran 2 years ago
"2) He tried to get me to agree to marry him the next week. No, he wasn't an immigrant." - that's not what we immigrants do. Making comments like that is definitely a red flag - or rather a red MAGA hat.
#21
I asked what she did for a living over nachos on our date. "What?!! I don't work, I'm white!" Said that in a Mexican restaurant in front of our waitress. I apologized to the waitress and paid our tab. Walked out. I don't care if she got home safely.
hitex 2 years ago
How does she equate being white w not working? Is she time traveler from slave plantation- WTF
Donald 2 years ago
All my life I thought I was white but I'm employed....gonna be an awkward conversation with my parents.
Load More Replies... Wysteria_Rose 2 years ago
Me, a white person, sitting at my job: Wait, so what did I get wrong here?
CascadedFalls 2 years ago
Plot twist: You're actually a rare breed of some other skin color. Only pure whites have no jobs./s
Load More Replies... Nichole Harris 2 years ago
I'd love to know how that works.....I mean, I'm also a white woman..... Is there a list? Who then does the work..... 🤣 oh if only
Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
I agreed to meet a guy at my local where I'd feel safe. I got there a little before him & ordered a glass of wine. He came in and sat down. We start with the usual getting to know you stuff & I asked him what he did for a living (it wasn't on his profile). I a really nasty voice he says, "Why? So you can figure out how much money I make. Maybe I should just show you my bank statement." I literally said, "Wow. F*ck you", threw $5 on the table for my wine & walked out. I waited around the corner for him to leave and then went back in. Both bartenders were friends of mine and could not believe what they had just witnessed. (They'd saved my wine for me, too).
Couragetcd 2 years ago
There are so many of us doing life wrong...no, wait. We live in reality, not the sound stage for Clueless.
#22
Two times:
Farmer dude: (showing my age) added me on MySpace. Chatted awhile, I can appreciate a country boy. Seemed pleasant. Wanted to meet at McDonalds. Cool, I’m not hard to please, let’s get some Big Macs and chat. We talked for about 10 minutes and clearly it wasn’t gonna work - he was almost completely silent. Wouldn’t ask questions, wouldn’t eat. Just sat there. I told him it was nice to meet him, but I had to get home. Later that night I got about 20 messages telling me how he was into BDSM and wanted me to come over and “puke that Mac sauce all over his balls.” Yeah, that’s a block.
Counting Crows dude: Met the guy on a Counting Crows online forum (lmao again, showing my age) and he happened to live 1/2 hour away. Cool, let’s grab drinks at [local bar] and see where it goes. I get there, can’t find him anywhere, figured I was stood up… then the lights dimmed and he walked out onstage, drunk as hell, slurring every other word/proceeded to play “Round Here” and stopped halfway through to vomit on himself. Now I can never hear that song without cracking up… *Maria came from Nashville with a suitcase in her hLLLLLLLLLLL (just throws up everywhere)*
Odd that both instances involved puking to some degree.
KariAdoresHerKats 2 years ago
My god i choked on my coffee with the 'puke on my balls' comment. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Red Hair Blue Soul 2 years ago
🎵Said she'd like to meet a boy who looks like Elvis, and she walks along the edge of where the ocean meets the land just like she's walking on a wire in a circus 🎵
cerinamroth 2 years ago
LOL! I associate Counting Crows with my first proper boyfriend and the subsequent heartbreak when I realised we were just not compatible and I was in need of some serious therapy before having a relationship. It was a pretty dark time. I haven't really been able to listen to them since. But now I'm going to be able to do it with a smile on my face!!
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
"Showing my age" and "myspace" instantly reminds me that in my MySpace profile I listed myself as a 9 year old girl...as a lot of women had to do to enable the privacy settings so freaks like This would not contact me anymore or be able to see my profile
#23
He chewed on my hair while we were watching a movie in the theater. Will never forget feeling someone tugging on my hair, going to flick it back, and feeling it be soaked
hitex 2 years ago
WTF! I found it creepy when a guy wanted to touch my hair, but chewing on it is a whole new level of gross
two-sided llama 2 years ago
yah us guys know we wait for the hair to fall off
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Wysteria_Rose 2 years ago
I have been married for nine years but would not even let my husband do that...that's just weird and gross coming from someone who's a first-date.
Couragetcd 2 years ago
Ew, ew, ew. Only my cats are allowed to do this until I manage to stop them. And babies I guess. As long as I can stop them from continuing. And warn the parent of pica if an older kid tries
#24
i was newly out, and i had had a crush on her for ages, so when she asked me out i was so excited. she was pretty, smart, very laid back, and had a great sense of humor, so things were going great initially.
end of the date comes around, and she very casually drops the bomb on me that she’s a involved in an open investigation for vehicular manslaughter. she even hinted that it was purposeful and did not seem regretful. that was the end of that.
Huddo's sister 2 years ago
Hopefully the courts saw through her too. We went to visit a prison when I was in year 12, and were studying remorse. The guy in for vehicular manslaughter did genuinely seem remorseful, unlike the guy in for assault.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
People who commit vehicular homicide usually don't do it out of personal malice. People who commit assault usually do.
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Bored Retsuko 2 years ago
Hmm, pic is apparently a guy so not really matching. (Yes, I'm pedantic.)
Justin Rogers 2 years ago
My friend was SA by a bum and she ran him over repeatedly. Her kids were in the car too. I don't blame her one bit and neither did the cops
Couragetcd 2 years ago
When I was in high school, some girl from another school got mad and got in her car and ran into a girl from my school. She pinned the girl to the side of a building with her car. She survived with a broken pelvic bone. She was a typical mean girl. She was the head cheerleader and missed the rest of the basketball season and I think she ran track. She was nicer to everyone after that though. I wonder if this was the same girl that ran her down. Probably not.
#25
He told me that we were going to a birthday party. He refused to tell me for whom and said I didn’t need to bring anything. It was a birthday party for Jesus at his dad’s church. I’m atheist and I was incredibly uncomfortable and angry. I don’t like being lied to. Didn’t go on another date
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
you weren't suspicious about a birthday party on the 25th of december? errr
wee.wee.croissant (ollie) 2 years ago
what? im sorry i just dont understand what that means
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He used his pocket knife to cut me a slice of cake, and later scraped some dirt clumps off of his shoe with the same knife. I asked him if he ever cleaned his knife, and he replied, "no, why?"
He also confessed that he was madly in love with me the same day. We had just met.
SheamusFanFrom1987 2 years ago
I was having a sandwich while reading this and I think I just lost my appetite... X(
#27
This story is always fun to tell Basically, we got back to her place after dinner and were getting slightly freaky on the couch. As things started escalating, she pulls out a giant glass jar (like the ones with the finger loop thing that pirates put rum in) half full of a clear liquid. My dumbass asked her if it was moonshine or vodka or something. She then proceeds to explain to me that it’s pure GHB and that she has a fetish about getting drugged off of it before having sex, and she said that with a completely serious face. For those of you who don’t know, GHB is a date rape drug. She then went to the restroom and I noped out of there so fast that I practically levitated off the couch. Never spoke to her again.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
I don't understand how you can have a fetish for something that drugs you so you can't get off anyway... what's the point? So creepy
Mel Colley 2 years ago
A serial killer here in Toronto would drug his victims, tie them up, then strangle them to death and cut them up and hide the body parts in different parts of the city.
Sara Wilson 2 years ago
Surprised she didn't just take it herself. Unless it's a rape fantasy or something
Con O Cuinn 2 years ago
Ghb is also used as a party drug. Check out comedian Tom Segura talking about overdosing on it
#28
This is back before the term “catfishing” was a thing. Lilly was supposed to be a 22yo woman, with me being a 24yo guy at the time and used to being surrounded by quirky people, so her online messages never set off any major flags. I drove by her place to pick her up at night, so i never saw her til she was in my car. First, Lilly informed me she preferred to be called by her demon name, Lillith. Lillith was 50% demon, 40% vampire, 5% werewolf, 3% human, 2% other. She was also super tiny, under 100llbs/45kg. And instead of being 22, she just had her birthday last week and turned 17. Also, was suuuuper pregnant, 7 months along, which made her belly bigger than the rest of her. With child #3. There are so many other details, but those are just the bits from her self-introduction.
Fat Harry 2 years ago
Child number 3 at 17? So child number 2 was definitely conceived when she was 16, and, unless numbers 1 and 2 are twins, child number 1 most likely when she was 15? That's not a red flag, that's an ocean liner with a bright red hull.
Couragetcd 2 years ago
No, child two likely was conceived at 15. Typical gestation is 40 weeks, and since she was so small, there is a good chance of C-section along with labor earlier than 40 weeks, but there would still be at minimum 6 week between birth and next baby's conception, and at 17 she was super pregnant so probably 6 months or more. Maaaybe still 15 for conception of first too ? 😫
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Annie 2 years ago
Wonder how she determined those percentages? Is there a DNA test for mystical beings?
Couragetcd 2 years ago
It's probably what she rolled on her White Wolf character sheet.
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Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
OMG. One guy said on his profile that he was height/weight proportionate. Yeah, if he were 8 feet tall. He was easily 100+ pounds overweight, not fat shaming, I just didn't find him attractive AT ALL. Oh - & his online picture was probably 15 years out of date.
#29
One was the time I took this girl to dinner and she could not stop staring at our waiter. I'll grant her one thing - I'm a guy and can admit this guy was probably totally hot for anyone who prefers men. Square-jawed and muscled college athlete type. I get it.
But I didn't appreciate that she literally craned her neck every time the kitchen door swung open to see if he was walking out. Eventually I gave her enough cash to pay for my part of the meal, told her I'd noticed (as though I couldn't have), suggested to her that she could get his contact info when she paid the bill, and left.
Edit - thanks for the awards everyone, this was a first date I hadn't thought about in decades and now I get awards for it at least. Cheers everyone, and may all your first dates go more smoothly.
Rosie Red 2 years ago
People don't believe me when I tell them I'm happily single.
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Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
I can't imagine having to date again. If something ever happens to my h
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
*Husband I think I will become a hermit and never date again
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His card was declined for $11 at a coffee place he suggested (which he had me drive 6 miles to get to because he wasn’t comfortable going out of his neighborhood). When I offered to pay for it he insisted on swiping the card a second time, for the same result. He was terribly embarrassed the rest of the date and it was just very uncomfortable. Or there’s that time that conductor at the Houston orchestra who also fancied himself a home chef invited me to a lavish dinner party with his close friends which was an extraordinary meal and just really lovely… only for him to present me with some “gifts” afterwards: a leash and a gradient set of butt plugs. I had no idea a gentleman could ruin an evening so deftly til then.
Phobrek 2 years ago
This is what you get for attending the Houston Symphony Orchestra on fetish night
Pyla 2 years ago
That might bring in a whole new demographic. Subscriptions is subscriptions!
Load More Replies... Powerful Katrinka 2 years ago
I think, no, I'm pretty sure I know who that conductor was. I went on a date with him at the Aspen Music Festival, and things got rapidly out of hand (so to speak).
Tyranamar Seuss 2 years ago
I hate when the card company blocks charges bc they think the card may be stolen. Maybe that's what happened to this fellow. It's really inconvenient to try to get it straightened out when you're holding up the line. I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt.
Sandra Scully-Mannaravalappil 2 years ago
I honestly think I dated the Conductor he was also a stalker that read everything he could find about me and quoted it on our second phone call. Scary dude
Couragetcd 2 years ago
Were his friends still there, though, when OP was presented with those lovely gifts? 🤔
#31
Told me that aliens cause jet lag and that I have the ghost of a fisherman following me around named Samuel (on top of the 20 other batshit things she said at dinner. This was last night.
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago
If Sam’s a nice ghost, I’m sure OP isn’t unhappy to be followed by him.
Couragetcd 2 years ago
So OP needs to find someone to date that has a ghost of a fish n chips cook following them around
#32
He insisted on paying for our dinner instead of going Dutch, and then totally stiffed the server. I tried to leave a tip and he got pissed at me because he was paying and it was his decision to tip or not.
Ingeborg Børch 2 years ago (edited)
I had a boyfriend like that. It was one of many red flags.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
The most valuable tip here was the one telling her not to see him again.
#33
She ordered a $100+ steak and lobster meal and got shitfaced, I had to pay for the whole thing because she didn't even bring her purse. Almost made me crash while driving back to hers because she was horny and wanted me to finger her while I was driving so she put her leg across me and accidently kicked the steering wheel (and pouted when I told her to wait.) Threw up when we got to her place. Told me to sleep on the couch (wasn't expecting to stay the night at all). So I snuck out in the middle of the night and texted her saying thanks but no thanks, and she proceeded to insult and berate me, then switch to saying she's willing to work it out if I am, then switched back to insults again when I still said no thanks. She was 10 years older than me but acted like she was fresh out of highschool...
Gëë Bëë 2 years ago
What???? HE paid the bill (no advantage taken). SHE wanted to straddle him whilst he was driving (no advantage taken). She then demanded he stay on the couch when he had no intention of staying (no advantage taken). What story are you reading???
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#34
While we were having lunch we ran into some friend of hers I didn't know and he stopped to say hi and their brief conversation somehow brought up that she owed the guy a meal because he'd paid for their last lunch together, so she offered to pay for his lunch to square it away and he agreed. He ordered something to go and they told the waitress she'd pay for it, they both said their goodbyes, and the guy left us alone to go wait for his lunch at some other table. So far so good, though their conversation was a bit strange it did seem like it came up organically, it didn't needlessly drag on, and the guy was nice at all times and also polite enough to make himself scarce as soon as possible instead of inserting himself into our lunch date with the excuse that he was waiting for his food. So we continued our conversation and everything seemed fine, until some time later after the friend had already left and it was time to settle our check, and I realized this girl obviously expected me to pay for the whole thing including the lunch she offered to pay for her friend as a way to pay him back for the favor he did her. Now, even if the friend hadn't ordered a pretty pricey meal that cost more than the rest of our check put together (and he had done exactly that), it didn't sit well with me how she had shamelessly decided to pay back him back with my money in what seemed like a deliberate scam. So I paid for the whole thing in order to avoid making a scene, but later brought it up and told her that it wasn't cool. She made it clear that she saw nothing wrong with it and said I was being cheap and childish, so I thanked her for her honesty and told her we were done and I wasn't going to be calling her again, she tried to argue that I was overreacting but I held firm and blocked her a couple of days later because she insisted on texting me to convince me that I was wrong and we should go out again. Some people really live in an alternate dimension.
Richard Michael 2 years ago
I would have never paid the balance, but I guess there is a sucker born every minute.
Caroline Nagel 2 years ago
Should have paid just for himself. The audacity of that girl!
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Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
My brother makes a very decent living and is quite generous. He took the family (7) out to our favorite Mexican restaurant for my birthday about 4 years ago. It's a little more upscale than some, so obviously a bit pricier. My BIL couldn't make it, but my sister & niece were there. As we're getting ready to leave, our waitress comes out with a bag "to-go". My brother was like, "Who else are we feeding?" and my sister says she ordered dinner for Jon since he had to work. Yeah, without asking my brother, she just went ahead and ordered a $35 meal for her husband. My brother is far too much of a gentleman to have made a scene, but I (60f) sure as hell ain't. I didn't want to embarrass HIM, so I just leaned over and told her what an a*****e move that was. She just kind of shrugged & didn't even bother to thank him. Not surprisingly we don't really have anything to do with her anymore.
Patricia Steward 2 years ago
I wonder if this was the same woman who had her date in her phone as Free Food.
#35
Back in college a guy my jerk sister’s rat fink boyfriend set me up with took me to the public library. I’m a good sport who likes to read so that wasn’t a deal breaker. What was the worst was fighting him off when he tried to get a grope in the YA section, listening to him brag about frisbee golf and then making me WALK a mile from said library for Chinese. He ordered $60 worth of food I didn’t want and had the gall to pretend to search for his wallet when he had a square wallet shaped lump in the back pocket of his jeans. After admitting he wasn’t going to pay for the food he ordered he talked about all the “activities” we could do together in his dorm room. I didn’t say anything. I just paid for the food and let him walk me to his dorm. When we got there I said goodnight and left with the entire Santa sack of food. Had a good cry on the walk home once I was out of earshot of his swearing. My sister and her boyfriend chewed me out for being a b***h until I showed them my fridge full of egg rolls and explained that I hoped they liked Chinese because my monthly food budget they mooched off of was spent. In defense of the Chinese place they made excellent orange chicken but that was by far the worst date I’ve ever had. I hope his frisbees melted in the sun.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
Hahaha rat fink...stealing it. And I would be sharing NO chinese food.
#36
He got us pulled over, car was searched and he had a brick of coke in the trunk. I almost got arrested. He finally vouched this was a blind date and I was innocent.
#37
Told me the wounded knee massacre was "exaggerated " and "not that big of a deal". He didn't know anything about this particular historical event mind you, he was just very sure that I didn't know what I was talking about and that Native Americans were just blowing things out of proportion. I don't even remember how the topic came up, but man. What do you even do with that.
a trans mistake [ he / him ] 2 years ago
wait so do the swears censor by themselves or do the commentors?
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Susan Mack 2 years ago
This sounds very much like a conversation I once had with a date who I foolishly later married and wasted 10 years on.
#38
He told me him and his dad intentionally ran over the stray cats in the neighborhood and there was more they were plotting against.
#39
Being told. “The welts on my crotch aren’t contagious”
Con O Cuinn 2 years ago
As someone who suffers from ingrown hairs often, I can maybe believe that
#40
Anger. When I was looking to get married, I went on a lot of one-dates-and-we're-done. There were a lot of angry women in their early 30s. My wife says the same thing about her experiences with lots of angry men in their 30s. Fortunately, we ran into each other and have been together about 25 years now.
Cat Chat 2 years ago
Is it just me or does "when I was looking to get married" seem like a red flag in itself when talking about problem first dates?
Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
I got really lucky. My husband was only the 6th match I had online dating. 16 years ago.
#41
He referred to every woman as a c**t and we aren’t in a country where that is common and harmless. His ex was a c**t, his aunt was a c**t, some random author he was telling me about for some reason was a c**t, etc. C**t doesn’t really bother me but the way he said it was very aggressive and angry. After that he decided to argue with me about sports and politics and berate me for my choices in those areas. No need for a second date after that!
ॐBoyGanesh 2 years ago
I’m guessing American or Canadian, where it’s usually considered more than a genderless word akin “āsshole.”
Load More Replies... Not-a-Clue (she/her) 2 years ago
You have to admit, it does save a LOT of time & energy when they show their true colours in a first date so you can just draw a line & move on.
Wysteria_Rose 2 years ago
I quit talking to a friend b/c he had no qualms about calling his own wife this (and comparing her to Hitler). It's just an automatic no for me in any situation.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
Ladies, if a man thinks a "c**t" is a bad thing, never offend him by offering him yours.
ElvenFairy 2 years ago
In Britain it is a versatile word, along with f**k with very few instances where it is actually aggressive. But that for sure was aggressive & an absolute red flag
#42
The date felt more like a job interview to fill a position, rather than an actual date. He gave off a vibe of someone who wasn't into getting to know me as a person, but just listed his wants and needs. So at the end of the date, he asked how I thought it went and I said I didn't feel a click / match. And he said, yeah, he was missing the 'wow-factor'. So I laughed my a*s off (slightly offended) in the car home, Gosh, no idea I was auditioning for a contest.
I was happy we only went for drinks, but even that felt a bit too long.
two-sided llama 2 years ago (edited)
im just imaging a got talent show where the judges are the date the mom the dad and the pet with the host being the best friend. all your other family is in the stands
#43
When a guy told me I was pretty but I would be unbelievably gorgeous if I lost 20lbs 🤔
Mrs. Ginger McSarcasm 2 years ago
Best way to lose weight is to get rid of someone telling you to lose weight. (Unless it's your doctor telling you you need to lose wight for medical reasons. Then you should probably listen.)
tl gmc 2 years ago
Or once in a while family. Diabetes runs in families so if you tell your kids about it, it's for health. Just in a nice way or your own experience, not saying someone needs to lose weight
Load More Replies... Tyranamar Seuss 2 years ago
That's the word I was looking for! Thx. I knew this was a thing.
Load More Replies... Barbara Kelly 2 years ago
When you walked away, you got rid of much more than 20 pounds ...of arrogant a**hole.
Lee Banks 2 years ago
Ugh. One of my old roommates told the woman he was sleeping with that she'd be 'marriage material' if she lost 15 lbs. Ran into him a few years ago, and went to shame him in front of friends by bringing that up. He flashed his wedding band, and said "She lost twenty!" Part of me died.
DarkViolet 2 years ago
You should have told him that he would be great b/f material if HE were just a bit taller--below the belt.
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Barbara Kelly 2 years ago
Yes. It is unbelievably rude and arrogant to make this type of comment.
Load More Replies... #44
So many. But I’ll say the one where the guy was kind and polite, but wanted to move way too fast (not sex). Grabbed my chin and tried to turn my head for a kiss while we were watching a movie (Surrogates, with Bruce Willis, if you’re wondering), he didn’t try again after I pulled away though. Also mentioned he should get to know the state where I grew up and my family lived, since he’d be meeting them soon. He had also catfished with a pic of his older brother, which was sad to me since he was really cute himself. He insisted on walking me to my car (I had parked near the attendant in a garage, glad I made that decision), and while I was getting in asked if he could tell his mom he had a girlfriend (we were both in our early 20s). Poor guy.
Since he was just over-enthusiastic and not an outright creep or jerk, I did email him telling him why there wouldn’t be a second date, saying he came on too strong, but wished him well. I hope he found someone. I also kind of wondered if there was a cultural thing I wasn’t aware of (he was Indian), but can’t say either way.
ETA: by “cultural thing” I meant if meeting families so soon was an expectation, not the trying to kiss or move fast part. Sorry for any confusion!
Lyone Fein 2 years ago
I do think that a lot of Indian men have unrealistic expectations about how quickly American romantic relationships move.......and that this is because of Hollywood movies! In the movies, so many couples have instant attraction, fall in love at first sight, kiss right away, etc.
Elio 2 years ago (edited)
My friend and her mom are Indian and her mom loves USA movies and TV shows and has some interesting ideas about how the USA works from that.
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The girl who spent the first half of the dinner date talking about her irritable bowel syndrome and then switched to her love for god after the main course.
Barbara Kelly 2 years ago
bet that you were boweled over by her irritating disclosures. How could anyone enjoy eating, in this scenario?
Michael Largey 2 years ago
Come to think of it, the Old Testament is all about the Irritable God Syndrome.
#46
He farted and smelled it, then proceeded to rate the smell of the fart
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
Ewwww my roommate and her boyfriend used to poop together and he got mad at her if she did it without him and made her describe it. So GROSS
Tyranamar Seuss 2 years ago
I guess if it's the first date. Or a regular thing. But one fart joke would not throw me if I was already in a relationship.
#47
He just kept making a weird amount of jokes about tapeworms?
Edit: Wow, thanks for the upvotes! Also this happened while we were eating sushi, just incase anyone was wondering
#48
Phone going off with messages from multiple other females which he showed me for some strange reason, felt like he was trying to make himself more appealing or me jealous on a first date weirdo. 🚩
And anyone that texts ‘u up’ in the middle of the night after a first date no thank ya ma’am.
SweetCheesySpaghetti 2 years ago
Oh, the whole "see how many girls want me? You should try and snag me" routine. Fell for that one once. Well, more than once. With the same guy. He was a professional gaslighter. took me years to get out.
#49
The guy saying he was 6’2 on tinder and then when I met him he was short than me, I’m 5’7. I don’t mind that but why you lying about something so obvious LOL
Tyranamar Seuss 2 years ago
Never understood this. And the pictures from 20 years ago. Wouldn't you want to screen out people who won't like you the way you are. The ones who are still interested are who you want to date anyway. The last thing I want is to go on a date with someone and see the look of disappointment in their face because I lied about my appearance. It's better to be upfront.
Jaya 2 years ago
I'm assuming that person thinks: "If I put in a more flattering photo/description of myself, my date will find out that I lied, but if they decide to stay for the date, they might discover that they like me anyway, so at least I'll have a shot. If I put in an accurate photo/description of myself, nobody's going to swipe right on me, so I'll never even get a chance to make them like me."
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Carol Mason 1 year ago
I matched with a guy who said he was 6' and had a masters degree. He shows up in a beat up pickup truck with paint cans and ladders in the back. He gets out of the truck and he's my height (5'7"). Before you get on my case about being a snob, I would have been happy with his true job (painter/handyman) and the fact that he was my height. I'm a bit of a handy lady with power tools and have flipped 3 houses in my time. A conversation about drywall and tile floors vs laminate would have been a good date for me. What I couldn't get past was the fact that he had lied about nearly everything he said about himself. Including his real name.
Paulo Leitao 2 years ago
its very easy to explain. most women would just exclude him right away without even meeting him in person if he stated how short he was.
#50
He was clearly desperate to put a ring on ANYONES finger. Intensely overly romantic despite not knowing me really at all.
Put on Etta James “Sunday kind of love” (date was a sunday btw) and tried to sing it at me while looking excessively earnest into my eyes.
He was also in the military and we were both like 19. Go figure.
Dirk Daring 2 years ago
He wanted to get out of the barracks and into Base Housing. (or get the housing allowance)
Tara L. 2 years ago (edited)
Again.... Most men who want to move that fast are covert narcissists, they want to hurry you to marriage before their mask starts to slip & you see their red flags. They think marriage will give them total control
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
Ughhh.... this happened to me. My mother invited a guy I went out with ONCE over for Christmas and he kept serenading me with Christmas songs. And singing over my favorite Christmas movies. Through his nose. He was really nice and I treated him poorly that day. I feel bad now but I wanted to be alone as I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years at Thanksgiving and he was the one who I wanted there. Ugh I blame my mother
KieLeaHar 2 years ago (edited)
Australian here: I have a few of questions: Why is it that Americans seem to get married rather young? Why do people in the military get married young and seemingly a LOT hardly know their new ‘spouse’? What are the benefits? What are VA loans- in comparison to other every day kind of loans? Terms and conditions, etc? Google doesn’t seem to give straightforward answers.
#51
She tried to get me to puke in her mouth while we were having sex. Full story: Without my consent she was being obnoxiously rough during sex, to the point of my face and back are bleeding and I'm getting angry because I kept telling her she was being too rough and she said "stop being such a pussy" so she then shoved her fingers in my mouth and then down my throat, I gagged and said "you have to stop, youre making me gag" and she said "just go with it" and was forcefully trying to shove her fingers in my mouth and I was like "I don't like that please stop" and she said "STOP BEING A F*****G PUSSY AND JUST PUKE IN MY MOUTH" and I was like "ughhhh what?!?!?" And she said "WHEN A B***H TELLS YOU TO PUKE IN HER MOUTH JUST F*****G DO IT" this is all during sex btw.... So then I faked an orgasm and rolled over and pretended to sleep all night 😅 the next morning she woke up and looked at me all angry and said "well.... OK I guess I'm gonna go now" and she left.
ॐBoyGanesh 2 years ago (edited)
I mean, I definitely don’t want to shame anyone for fücking on the first date, but a little more investment in conversation about each others sexual preferences/desires/kinks/fetishes could have been helpful. Also, to think someone doesn’t have to consent to every act or discretion is batshît crazy. Oh, then there’s this particular turn-on. Just…not really healthy sex.
Rosie Red 2 years ago
He stayed the night? I would have gotten dressed and noped it out of there.
Jaya 2 years ago
You had every right to just kick her out, instead of pretending to sleep. If you tell someone to stop being so rough and they ignore that, then they are really crossing a boundary, that is not okay at all. But speaking up when someone crosses your boundaries, is sometimes easier said than done. Many times when people are assaulted or their boundaries are crossed by someone, they are so shocked and confused by it, they can't believe that that actually happened, they can't believe someone actually did that to them, so they just pretend everything's fine. That's why sometimes rape victims walk out of a party without telling anyone they were just raped. So I am not going to judge this person for faking and pretending to be asleep, he was probably really not expecting this situation, and just didn't know what to do and didn't realize that he was allowed to stick up for himself and throw her out.
#52
I went on a date with a man who I'd previously met on a night out. He seemed nice so I was looking forward to the evening. We went for a meal first and as we were talking I kept noticing he kept doing this weird shoulder twich. I don't know if he was even aware he was doing it but it quickly started to be annoying as I couldn't keep my eyes off his shoulder. He then started telling me a story of how he used to be in the army and his wife, who was also in the army, had been murdered. They had a child together and he had brought her up on his own. This was a horrific story and sat in stunned silence as I just didn't know what to say other than I was sorry that had happened. After the meal we went to have a drink in a pub across from the restaurant. He immediately picked out a bloke in a red top and started saying he shouldn't be around here because it wasn't his territory. He then pulled a knuckle duster out of his pocket and put it on his hand all while staring at this bloke who was just having fun with his friends and hadn't once looked over. The red flags were literally smacking me in the face so I made some excuses and left. I only dared tell him by text that I didn't want another date.
#53
Guess I’ll repost this here. She kept talking about the "emergency d**k" she had stashed around the city. She was like "I've been really busy with [grad] school but I don't go without. I have plenty of emergency d**k around town." And when I say she kept going on, I mean she KEPT GOING ON. She was telling me about the two guys downtown, three in the suburbs, one near campus, and two in her apartment complex. It honestly sounded like I was new to town and she was giving me a rundown of all the best places to visit. Just weird. **EDIT:** She said she was looking to settle down into a relationship (whereas she had only been in situationships before). She also said she had a “virgin heart”.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
Anyone with that many emergency desks must be the head of a 911 call center.
#54
One time I went on a date with a girl and during the date she starts talking about future plans with me. She was talking about how we are going to have kids together and how we were going to go on trips with my brother and his wife.
I was in my mid 20s and had just started my career when this happened so of course this freaked me out.
Who jumps to those kind of conclusions during the first date?
It was super awkward after because she worked with my mom and kept asking about me
Couragetcd 2 years ago
Wow, BP nailed the picture this time. She looks like she is in lala land
#55
He told me that he’d been kicked out of his church for being caught in bed with an underage girl (but it totally wasn’t what it looked like).
El Dee 2 years ago
Whenever anyone says, 'this isn't what it looks like' then it is EXACTLY 'what it looks like'
Sarah Pryde 2 years ago
whenever someone says "its not what it looks lie"......its EXACTLY what it looks like
#56
Took her to dinner and then took her to a late night car meet. Upon arriving to the meet, she started s**t with several other girls she had beef with in high school. And hasn’t talked to since high school. We were well into our 20s. She was even older than me. I don’t get how some people make high school beef their entire personality for years.
SquiddoDiddo 2 years ago (edited)
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#57
He told me he loved me BEFORE the first date, after we had talked for approximately one day via text. No idea why I even went on the date after that, when I had already decided there would not be a second. It was extremely awkward. This guy could not carry a conversation, constantly tried to hold my hand, and then told me that he was pleasantly surprised that I wasn't trying to get him to pay for things because all his friends had told him I would. Yikes
Couragetcd 2 years ago
So, this was the guy's first date ever, and his friends had only seen dates in old movies?
#58
She wouldn't stop going on and on about how much she wanted a baby. Called it "her little creation" and how she wanted multiple, tried to convince me to come back to her place for some fun, I dropped her off and dipped right away. She texted me every now and then after trying to meet up again, hell nah.
#59
He asked for the waitress’ snapchat in front of me. then cut the date short so he could go to the gym
#60
Really nice guy, we hit it off. Talked on the phone for hours, had similar values, decide to meet up for dinner at a pretty nice Italian place. He’s pretty massively overweight (400+), I am fat too (mid 200’s) so I didn’t really care. He also tells me at some point during our phone calls that he’s a diabetic which I’m leery of for late 20’s but we were getting along so well I thought it could be something I could be okay with. We sit down to dinner where be proceeds to order 3 cans of coke for himself, and the largest plate of food with extra sides. This was shocking to me because I’m actually really healthy for my weight, and it can be mostly attributed to childhood poverty and autoimmune disease. Like I’m fat but I’m trying my best to be healthy. I have perfect blood work, go to the doctor regularly, workout a couple times a week, cook most of my meals at home from fresh ingredients, etc. My concerns with him stemmed from the lack of care for himself, and the possibility of needing to care for him long term if I continued to see him. I wanted a partner, not someone who wasn’t making the changes after such a serious diagnosis as Type 2 diabetes. I told him after that I wasn’t feeling a connection, and honestly felt like I was betraying the fat community by rejecting him (my therapist heard a bunch about this), but I wasn’t attracted to his lack of care for himself.
Hphizzle 2 years ago
I feel the same about heavy smokers or drinkers. I may like you and you may have a great personality, but when you don’t care about yourself, it’s a huge turn off. I totally understand the not wanting to end up being their caretaker when the other person is willfully putting themselves in that situation.
Couragetcd 2 years ago
It would have been better for both of them if she had been honest. It may get have been what he needed, and hearing it from someone he gets along with and has health challenges would probably work better than doctors, parents, etc. Really, it's no different than a thin couple not working out because one is workout focused while the other handles health easily without needing a heavily exercise focused life style
Amelia Jade 2 years ago
P**s off. I'm just like OP. Overweight due to health issues and medication. I eat a healthy diet. Other than the fact that I have two auto-immune diseases, all my health markers are in perfect range. Blood sugar, cholesterol, blood pressure, etc are all perfect. Meanwhile, my super skinny mom has high blood pressure, pre diabetic, and is on cholesterol meds. She also loves her sugar and HAS to have pastries for breakfast. But you'd probably insist she's healthy because she looks the part.
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Not me, but my friend went out with a guy who got drunk and shat his pants on the first date
Mrs. Ginger McSarcasm 2 years ago
Probably more embarrassing for the guy than for her. Bad luck all around
#63
She showed up drunk to a casual daytime first date, at a bar I frequented heavily. Proceeded to order a premium skinny rocks margarita and downed it. Ordered a second one. Conversation was all over the place, I was pretty much done. I went to the bathroom, came back, she had another margarita being served. She went to the bathroom after that and the bartender (who I was pretty cool with) flat out asked me, “Sea Vast, bro, is she your date? When she ordered the 3rd one I said she needed to slow down, she told me it’s OK, you were paying and you’d drive her home.” I told him I’m going to bounce, if she doesn’t pay her tab text me and let me know so I can pay it later. He was cool with that. So I left. She did pay her tab. She randomly texted me a few days later and asked if I was doing OK. I did not respond.
Niamh Nomen 2 years ago
You know it's possible to be a bar regular without being a raging drunk, right?
Load More Replies... #64
I was on a date with this dude, and his ex just showed up in the middle of our meal to give him his garage door opener. The guy clearly had no idea how the ex knew where he was, but the ex clearly knew we were on a date. It was really freaking weird. He was a nice dude, I really like him, but I dunno, it kinda just ruined it for me... I know thats not super fair, but it was just really weird. I'm pretty sure his ex was stalking him, and I don't need that in my life.
#65
She clicked her fingers at the waitress. Stunning but vapid af
Upstaged75 2 years ago
My dad did that once and my mom whacked him in the stomach with her purse. Hard! :)
#66
Her kid called me Daddy.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
If the kid was two, small moment of embarrassment for you and her. If the kid is twelve, run like hell.
#67
Said "you're a really good kisser Amber" My name is Ashley
#68
I walked into the guys house and there was nazi s**t all over his place, not in a collector kind of way but in a crazy kind of way, there was a mannequin wearing a kkk outfit in the corner! He was a satellite friend who i knew, but didn't know well. I've never come down with food poisoning so fast before, i got the f**k out of there, i was able to play sick for a couple days but it was super awkward ghosting him beings we had the same friends, for the longest time i didn't go places he was at.
Tyranamar Seuss 2 years ago
It wouldn't have hurt him to hear "All your Nazi c**p is a real turnoff." Done by text. Provided he didn't know where she lived.
SweetCheesySpaghetti 2 years ago
I'm easily spooked and hate confrontation. My easiest out after faking food poisoning would be to pretend to be nuts. "I feel like our energies obviously aren't blending. There seems to be something about our energies merging that makes me violently ill, and I don't think it would be fair to either of our auras to risk it twice. Best of luck in your future endeavors."
Couragetcd 2 years ago
Wow, and then you have to wonder how many of the friends you have in common are also scary like that. Eek
#69
This was weird but years ago I went out on a date with a guy that voicefished(?) me. Like catfished with his voice. He had already sent me a video that he was talking in, but when I met him he sounded completely different with a slight lisp. Which I would have gotten over except he ended up taking me to a gas station to talk to his friend at the pump for 45 minutes. I faked an emergency and went home. I have had much worse first dates than that but that one left me flabbergasted.
Couragetcd 2 years ago
Did the guy want to talk to his friend, or did he want OP to talk to his friend at the gas station?
#70
She never showed up. I’d say that’s a red flag, but I never got a chance to see what color it was.
#71
He was making suggestions for what he thought we should be doing right there in the restaurant that were so inappropriate that the random couple sitting at the next table over asked me if I needed a safe ride home… during one of the numerous times he left the dining room. It was a NYE. I was home by 9 PM.
Jaya 2 years ago
Why not? There's plenty of people for whom NYE is not an important event at all, there's lots of people who don't celebrate it. I can also imagine some people would think it'd be quite funny to go on a date on NYE because if you end up together, it'll be a funny story.
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He said nothing. I get he was nervous but I was engaging, I asked questions that should have led to at least a few sentences of conversation, but no, one word answers. It was dinner and a movie so our only opportunity to talk was dinner. It was like pulling teeth. No thanks, no second date.
Tyranamar Seuss 2 years ago
This happens all the time on dating apps. Opener is "Hey" followed up by no questions or anything to volley back. Then tons of one word answers. Or answers where they've asked nothing about you. I always feel like a talk show host who booked a bad interview.
#73
We went on a lunch date. I wanted to keep it casual, low stakes. Just a meet and chat. She asked me back to her house after lunch. It was, like, 2:30ish? I thought, "What the heck? Have a Coke, get a feel for who she is, chat a bit more. Sure. Innocent enough." Turns out, she wanted to enjoy conjugal relations with me. In her bedroom. With her 8 year old kid who had just gotten home from school watching TV in the living room. I declined the opportunity and left pretty abruptly. And that was that.
Couragetcd 2 years ago
She had to get back home because her kid would be getting home from school. Points for responsible parenting. So she could play hide the sausage with some guy she just met and expected the kid wouldn't need anything or interrupt, possibly because the kid was used to those shenanigans, negative points.
Jaya 2 years ago
"Oh no, people who have children still enjoy sex. What will the world come to! And in her bedroom of all places!" Seriously though, if you lock the bedroom door and you're silent during sex, and it's one of those kids who will watch tv for hours if left undisturbed, the kid's not going to know what you were doing.
#74
It was my first date. I was 17, working as an office assistant's helper. The guy (20) also worked there. I don't remember what his job title was. He asked me to the drive-in movies. He came to the house, and met my mom. Did the whole song and dance to her about taking good care of me, get me home on time, bla bla bla, all that c**p. I was still nervous though, so I arranged with 2 friends to go to the same movie in their car. My date didn't know. They parked 3 cars down from us. After we parked, the guy is telling me to relax, he just wanted company for the movie, he respected me. So I'm thinking cool. The movie started. I don't think the opening credits had finished and he was all over me. It was like he grew 4 extra arms in seconds! I push him off me and say WTF!? He apologized and said he was sorry. He thought I'd like it and he couldn't help himself because I was so cute (whatever). I told him I didn't like it and to keep his hands to himself. I get maybe 2 drinks of my soda down and he tries again. Now I'm pissed! I get out of the car, throw my drink at him, and walk off. I go to my friends car and get in. The guy didn't see where I went because he was dealing with dripping soda on him and his car. My friends and I left. The following Monday at work was really awkward and he avoided me like the plague. This is why to this day I've never again dated anyone I've worked with.
Cat Chat 2 years ago
I had a first date with someone like this. About 30 minutes into a movie he goes "oh, btw I'm a b o o b guy, then procedes to slide his hands up my shirt. Then continued the night talking about them like they were a separate person "oh they seem to like me!" 🙄😱
Eastendbird 2 years ago
I'm sorry Cat Chat, that sounds awful, but I couldn't help laughing at "They seem to like me!"
Load More Replies... Barbara Kelly 2 years ago
Generally a poor idea to date someone you work with. So much can go wrong. Also, most co-workers pick up the vibes and know what's going on; making overall relations awkward.
#75
for no reason he started laughing, attracting the attention of nearby tables. i said what's so funny. He said that he was just thinking of a joke. and then he laughed harder and harder until he was positively howling like a wolf. i decided no for a 2nd date
SheamusFanFrom1987 2 years ago
Honestly, I don't know about howling but sometimes I do giggle to myself at the worst places because suddenly my joker of a brain decided to bring up something funny that I've experienced. Not sure what kind of joke makes you howl though.
Not-a-Clue (she/her) 2 years ago
Pair him up with the girl who cackled all through a couple of films in a previous post.
#76
She showed me a picture of herself with some stripper and repeatedly talked about how beautiful his d**k was… I’m not exactly lacking myself, but I’m certainly not that guy. It felt weird and I felt like I’d be better off pursuing other options.
Couragetcd 2 years ago
Maybe she was working up to say she was a recruiter for prettiest W***y contest?
#77
She asked if I could clean her pet rat cage or hold her rat while she cleans it. Also listed a number of handyman tasks she needed me to tackle...
Not-a-Clue (she/her) 2 years ago
Happy to help with the rat, but if you need a handyman, there's plenty listed online.
#78
We went to her place to watch movies and we chose Kung Fu Panda 2. From the moment it began she proceeded to cackle at every single joke. Anything that could even be perceived as mildly funny set her off like the wicked witch of the west. I know some people have interesting laughs and that wouldn't be so bad if it wasn't constant from beginning to end. After that she put on Iron Man and same thing, witch cackling the entire movie. There's a point in the movie where a characters phone goes off and the ringtone is an old iron man theme which made me chuckle, at which she turns to me and says: "you laugh at all the weirdest parts!" The second the movie was over I got out of there and did not see her again.
#79
I went on a breakfast date once. Date orders two sunny side up eggs.
Proceeds to take two straws, poke one in each yolk and suck the yolk up.
Don’t even remember his name
Agata Konador 2 years ago
There where 2 yolks for 2 people, so if he sucked both it tells a lot about him.
Load More Replies... Tyranamar Seuss 2 years ago
Not a bad Idea. The yolk's the best part. But I like mine with toast.
#80
Dude talked about going to visit and pet his dead cat in the woods. He became upset when I said that might not be the most hygienic thing to do and retaliated by suggesting I don’t properly clean my jewelry. Yeah…bye (almost ran out of the restaurant) ETA he showed me pics of the dead cat. Also to clarify: He didn’t want me to go visit it with him (like for a second date lol). Then I really would have taken off running.
Couragetcd 2 years ago
It's probably a good thing that petting his dead cat wasn't a euphemism 🤮. You can pay to have your pets stuffed to keep them with you forever. Not a route I would go, but people pay to do so
#81
He created a Build-A-Bear that was supposed to resemble him, and gave it to me at Olive Garden
Tyranamar Seuss 2 years ago
I'm picturing HS date here. Awkward teenage boy trying to be creative on his date could be cute. If they're adults this is super weird.
#82
She looked nothing like her photos. Smelled of cat p**s covered taquitos. We were at a park and saw some girls playing softball and she said "those girls look special ed with those helmets." Like f**k I'm always down to give someone a chance but just yikes. I made an excuse to leave. My car smelled for like 2 days after that.
Tyranamar Seuss 2 years ago
Bad smell is an absolute no for me. You could be gorgeous. If you smell funny I'm out.
Upstaged75 2 years ago
Same here! I'm really sensitive to odors. Bad breath or BO are an immediate NO from me.
Load More Replies... #83
In the reptile enclosure she farted and blamed it on the Komodo dragon... Komodo dragon farts probably smell like Komodo dragon food, not Empadas we had for brunch Brittany.
OneHappyPuppy 2 years ago
Tbh I sorta feel sorry for Brittany, it was probably terribly embarrassing for her and she had no other immediate excuse to use
Mike Fitzpatrick 2 years ago
Holy guacamole, a person farted! I'm appalled! You could have a case if it happened in a Smart Car.
#84
She showed up with her friend(ok, I guess), already buzzed and offered me weed. Admitted that she wasn't divorced about 30 minutes into it. Had me take her to a dance club where she promptly f****d off for 20 minutes to talk to "someone" (she was a regular I found out and knew EVERYONE). I drove her back to her car and told her to get out.
#85
Went on a first date to an upscale restaurant and bar. We met at the bar first for a drink to get to know each other and then I was going to suggest moving over to the restaurant and get a table. It was a fairly large place with a large bar area. During our “drink” I kind of noticed that she was always looking across the bar at this older lady and the older lady was looking back- it also appeared they were communicating with facial expressions… I wasn’t sure, but it seemed very odd to me. After our drink we moved to a small booth in the restaurant area to get some dinner. We were getting along great, but I kept noticing odd facial expressions on the occasion from her, but the place had “mood lighting”so it was kind of dark so I wasn’t sure. After we finished our appetizer I excused myself to go to the bathroom. - which was behind me- I noticed that the older lady from across the bar was sitting at a small table behind us.. she was trying to hide, but not doing such a great job. When I got back to the table I asked her if she know who the lady was, and that I thought they were “communicating”… she confessed that the lady was her mother and that she always brought her on first dates so she could give her an opinion and rate her date… so far I was doing well and her mother thought I was great. I asked for the check, paid the tab ( it included drinks and dinner for her mother) and cut my losses…. On the way out I told her to lose my number.
Fat Harry 2 years ago (edited)
Our daughter met someone on Tinder when she was 17 and arranged to meet him at the local pub. We insisted we also go along to the pub because we wanted to make sure she was safe. We kept ourselves discreetly away, though, and didn't interfere or let her date know we were there. We certainly weren't rating him, we were just being cautious because it was her first ever Tinder date.
ॐBoyGanesh 2 years ago (edited)
This is where it might not be crossing a line. Still, not very fair. Imagine if your daughters date was having his buddies do the same. Discretely hiding out to make sure he was “safe.” A group of strangers all there to observe your 17yo girl on a blind date.
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Toxic 2 years ago
I have mixed feelings on this one. To some people it could be considered weird but I kinda understand why she did it. I wouldn't be communicating during the date though
ॐBoyGanesh 2 years ago
The lack of disclosure. Tell me your fam or friends are doing this and assure it’s a group date, not a free meal, so I can opt out beforehand.
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Bored Birgit 2 years ago
This would not have been a red flag for me. Women have to be careful, unfortunately. Though the obvious communication between them was not so nice.
Cat Chat 2 years ago
My aunt used to pretend to be my cousin on dating apps so she could check them out beforehand. She asked me to double date with my cousin and her date's friend (safety in numbers thing). They never asked again when I let my date know about the situation, who rightly told his friend, who also didn't want further dates with her. My aunt has never forgiven me for this betrayal.
#86
Dude forgot we were supposed to go to lunch. Blamed it on being overwhelmed moving and lost track of time. We still met up and he was on his phone scrolling videos for the most part and even left the table to take a phone call from his roommate. He was hot, but not that hot.
#87
I met her parents on the first date and she was terrified of me. Most awkward date ever.
#88
Bought her a whole meal and she didn’t take a single bite of her burger and ate like 2 fries and was just going to leave it there without taking it to go. I ate it myself and knew right there that there’s no way I’m taking this person out again cause I can not stand it when people waste food
Jaya 2 years ago
Very judgemental. But if this is something that bothers you a lot, then it might indeed be better to not have a second date, because you're very incompatible. By the way, there are girls who think a guy is going to think negatively about her when she eats a normal amount of food, so they barely eat anything during a date. And there's also girls who feel super self-conscious about the way their face looks when they eat, so she might be too scared to eat much.
Tyranamar Seuss 2 years ago
Maybe she was too nervous to eat. After I lost a bunch of weight I wouldn't take food like that home with me bc I'd eat it and gain the weight back. As a once in awhile thing on dates the burger would be fine. But I'd paid a nutritionist to learn how to keep my house stocked with healthy food. I had a date with a guy I could tell was irked by me not bringing food home. I felt like it was too much trouble to explain. If you judge an entire person off of this one quality you may be missing out.
Bored Birgit 2 years ago
Huh? Perhaps she was nervous and had the jitters so that she could not eat.
#90
I met the future mother in law.
What do you think ?
Donald 2 years ago
Had a date go well, Dinner and a walk/chat by the water front. She asks if I would like to go back to her place and watch a movie and I agreed. One thing leads to another and before we get fully going she told me to stop and she had changed her mind. Disappointing, but OK we finish the movie and I head home. Got a text later that she didn't understand why I didn't "just go for it" and that she was really disappointed/thought I didn't find her attractive. No, I don't find R a p e attractive. WTF is wrong with some people.
Min 2 years ago
Looks like you successfully failed her fùcked up test. Well done!
Load More Replies... Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
Guy #1 was incredibly rude & condescending to our waiter. Apparently he thought I'd be impressed by his "Master of the Universe" attitude. I wasn't. I literally picked up my purse and walked out. Guy #2 was almost as bad. I walked out on him as well. I left "comments" on both their profile pages and then blocked them (after deleting their phone numbers).
Donald 2 years ago
Had a date go well, Dinner and a walk/chat by the water front. She asks if I would like to go back to her place and watch a movie and I agreed. One thing leads to another and before we get fully going she told me to stop and she had changed her mind. Disappointing, but OK we finish the movie and I head home. Got a text later that she didn't understand why I didn't "just go for it" and that she was really disappointed/thought I didn't find her attractive. No, I don't find R a p e attractive. WTF is wrong with some people.
Min 2 years ago
Looks like you successfully failed her fùcked up test. Well done!
Load More Replies... Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
Guy #1 was incredibly rude & condescending to our waiter. Apparently he thought I'd be impressed by his "Master of the Universe" attitude. I wasn't. I literally picked up my purse and walked out. Guy #2 was almost as bad. I walked out on him as well. I left "comments" on both their profile pages and then blocked them (after deleting their phone numbers).
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