As many of you probably know, men are definitely from Mars and women are from Venus. Even if you have not read the book of the same name, it is already clear to everyone that male and female types of thinking are quite different, while each of the genders has its own specific features and behaviors.
Any communication with another person is a continuous process of study, analysis and simple curiosity (unless, of course, we are so selfish that we always listen only to our feelings and reactions). And so, in the process of such a study, even the most sophisticated people sometimes discover incredible interesting facts about others, which can be especially interesting if these facts concern another gender.
Recently, a question was asked in the AskReddit community on exactly this topic, addressed exclusively to women. It sounded like: "Women, what is a surprising fact you discovered about men?" We are not at all sure that among the people who wrote over 8.8K comments in just under two weeks were exclusively women, however, the resulting thread has already gained about 9.3K upvotes, and there are really a lot of different interesting discoveries.
Bored Panda has compiled for you a selection of the most unexpected, discouraging, funny and simply the most popular comments from the original thread, so now please feel free to scroll to the very end of this list, mark the submissions that are most interesting to you, and of course, share your own discoveries - if you're a woman. If a man - well, introspection can also bring a lot of great things, while comments are always welcome.
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Many men get an erection in the morning. Morning moves around the globe every 24 hours. This means that there is an erection wave that has been going around the globe without end since the beginning of any species with which this started.
That men rarely ever receive compliments in their lives. I purposely go out of my way to express even the smallest compliments in case they haven’t heard one for a long time.
That they suffer from gender stereotyping too.
That they are not criticizing women’s bodies as much as women are led to believe (maybe by themselves or whomever is driving this culture). They are far more acceptant of how women look like naturally than women themselves. This was such a game changer for me.
Well, growing up in a southern country town here in the U.S. A lot of my female friends never wore makeup and were more interested in shooting sports. They were always the most beautiful when they were just doing what they wanted and not focusing on their appearance. We had beauty pagents and stuff, high school girls that were obsessed with looks and all, but I never saw the appeal of that. They looked much better natural with the confidence that they were more than their appearance.
Most men don’t actually know how to fix things. They just pull it apart and put it back together again and hope for the best.
Fix-it-ability, like any other skill, requires training. It's not instinctual.
At my first job, I used to work mostly with women, then switched to IT and now it’s mostly men. I was surprised to learn that guys don’t hold a grudge as much as the women I worked with did. We’d have an argument on Friday, I was worked up about it all weekend and worried how it would affect our future relationship, then come Monday and boom…nothing. They genuinely seemed like they let it go. It’s a pretty sweet thing.
Most times it's easier just to let it go ..... No drama. Failing that a good fist fight solves most petty squabbles.
That they want to be loved as badly as we do and they’re also mushy gushy
I make no secret about this. My greatest dream has always been to have someone to share my life with.
Not surprising but i’m shocked that some women genuinely don’t think men suffer from mental health problems. I’ve heard “he’s lazy” or “he expects the woman to do everything” when 60% of the time it’s just him being depressed as s**t.
I can confirm. Sometimes you just don't want to get out of bed or do something because you just can't.
The fact that men really are physically stronger. I always assumed this was purely based on size but I'm a woman who works out every day (lifts weights, yoga, jogging/peloton.) My older brother doesn't exercise outside of an occasional hike. He's 4inches taller than me and 10 lbs lighter than I am (I'm a dress size 0 or 2.) He's faster than me on a hike (including backpacking) and can lift up heavier things. It makes me SO angry.
That most men don’t care that your stomach isn’t flat.
When they say they don't know why they feel a certain way they ACTUALLY don't know. I find it crazy and I couldn't trust it the first times.
Well we're told to "man up" or whatever from such a young age, it's not even not knowing why we feel a certain way. It's not even understanding what we're feeling.
That if you show them exactly how much you appreciate them they are more likely to be motivated to complete a task than if you nag them.
They only pretend to not like gentle affection. Lay your head in my lap and let me pet you you know you like it you fall asleep within minutes.
We're like dogs really! We'd like nothing more than to curl up on the sofa, head on your lap, and get stroked while we doze.
that they have a whole set of unsaid rules about where to pee in public bathrooms
I am constantly floored by how little some men know about their close friends’ lives! I know multiple men who speak to their best friends super regularly, but could not say with certainty if they’re single, what kind of work they do/where they work, etc. I don’t understand it at all, but I just keep meeting men like this.
As a woman, who feels this way, I agree. I don't ask a lot of personal questions, because I'm don't want to be nosy. I figure if you want me to know something, you'll tell me. Unfortunately, some people think that means I don't care.
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Can confirm, keep having conversations with my wife like ME: "I saw my mate Brian today" WIFE: "Oh, how are the kids doing" ME: "Brian has kids?"
Thank you for that explanation. I was starting to wonder what men talk about when hanging out with each other if they can hang out so much and still not know about each other's lives
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...the contents of his life don't matter because you're friends? Okay. There's not a lick of sense in that. As I said to another comment, that's why all y'alls female friends and girlfriends have the entire burden of your emotional well being on our shoulders. That's why men are more likely to commit suicide. Shame on you.
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Oh it gets better, I had a close friend in college, didnt even know his name till 6 months after we became friends. I knew his nickname, and we hung out all the time. At the time my mother asked my how could I not know his name, and simply put, it wasnt an important detail of our friendship
Ok not a man but ig it just doesn't come up in conversation. Drives my mum mental lol
Ok am a man I have 1 friend that I know about their life and they know about mine but the others we talk about random things we will forget after 5 minutes it's peaceful and easy
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I'm here to see your new belt sander, the new deck you built, or to watch football cause you have an 80" TV we all wish our wives would let us buy, not to talk about how your day at work was. We have women in our lives that ask alllllll of that stuff, we don't need to or want to ask each other that stuff.
We don't stuck our noses deep on our friend's lives. They'll tell us if it's something they think we should know.
Because we don't care. Someone is my friend becausevof his/her character traits, not because of the circumstances of their life.
Reading further and further down this list, I begin to anticipate that I am really a man... I enjoy just sitting without thinking in nature, I don't hold a grudge, I can spend really long time with my friends (almost only males) and still not know if they are single or not, I mean what I'm saying... Or is this just general people traits and not male/female specific?
When it comes to keeping confidences men are by far the best at it, women like people to know what they know but I have things I know about friends and family ect that will go to the grave with me unless they want to tell
It's this so unusual? I've always avoided bothering my closest friends with personal details because I want to have fun when I see them. Compartmentalize your emotional support structure and you can forget your worries during "play time".
Ja they are not naturally nosy. And seem to have quiet rations hips with their friends than women do, with a lot of unspoken affection and a simpler approach to friendship really.
Caring about the contents of people's lives is not being nosy. That's ridiculous.
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Wait, I’m a man and this one shocked me. How could you not know these things about your friends?!
I don't know if this is so universal. I know intimate details about all my friends. Even coworkers. I know about their lives, and the lives of their kids.
It is because we bond thru shared interests (For example PnP roleplaying, bicycling, karate, hiking - well, basically anything) more than shared personalities.
Its very common not to share personal details. Or even important personal matters between guys. You can be close friends through all the hobbies you have in common and thats that :D
It just isn't that important to me. We vibe, I don't need to know everything about you, even if we're beasties. If you tell me, go for it. I'm good with that. I just don't need to know
I know a dude for 20 years and I don't know his full name. So when he died and have lawyer name me as his collection new owner(his full set game collection.) I was like "Wait, so his name sound stupid as him..".
Because when a man hangs out with a friend he is taking a night off from job kids wife ect.
I only learned the age of my best friend from high school of 10+ years... When I was signing his marriage certificate, after officiating his wedding.
Or how few friends they have or even if they haven't talked to each other for years, they are still friends.
This just means they're not really close friends. Our society has trained men that they don't need to have deeper relationships with other men. "Can't be vulnerable! That's not manly!" No, we don't need to know details on every little thing, and might punch you if you try sharing every single detail, but there's no way you can have a close friend and not know anything important about them lol.
When my husband meets someone new, I'll ask him do you know where he worked before, does he have a family is he married? And my husband will reply IDK, he didn't tell me. I'm like you need to ask these things how do you even know him. 🤣
Reckon we base our friendships on loyalty and trust than information shared.me and my friends can talk for hours and not say one thing personal.
When I return from meeting my friend my wife often asks me questions like "Where is he going for vacation?", "How is his mother?", to which I usually reply "I have no idea" - "So what did you do for 4 hours, did you even talked to each other?" "Well we watched new episode of (insert show name), then we fixed fish tank pump or (insert name of male activity), and then we listened to (insert name of vinyl)"... - "Unbelievable"
It's because we all have 2 lives and don't bother sharing with bros in the knows
One of my friends and I literally have conversations by nodding our heads.
Because what work you do, where you live or who you're with doesn't define a person, generally isn't actually interesting and for the most part is interchangeable. While arguing about how to properly build a fire or the relative merits of two virtually indistinguishable cars is how you really get to know a guy.
There's a comedian who discusses this phenomenon (or a tiktokker?). Men who had been working together in a very small group, one being trained by a few others. By the end of at least a week, the old employees still didn't even know the new guy's name, nor did he know any of their names, but they were planning outside of work social events with each other already.
Because we don't meddle in others privacy. That creates drama. Ive got a friend, Ive known since college back in 92. I seriously have no idea what his name is. We have always used nicknames.
I don't know what my best friend's job is. It's something IT. The specifics of what he does are not really relevant to our friendship. He has told me, but it's not a piece of information I have needed to use, so it has not been retained.
I was brought up to believe that asking personal questions is rude, so the only things I know about even my closest friends are what they choose to tell me. My husband, on the other hand, is an inveterate gossip and knows everything about all his friends and acquaintances. So, maybe women being nosey is just another gender stereotype that needs to die quietly of irrelevance.
If you like another man as a friend, its just that you like them. Where they work and all that, does not change the fact that you get along
I argue women overshare. A new neighbour moved in next door, and our first conversation she was telling me about how her boyfriend likes BJ's after he has a nightmare. Last Christmas my cousin told the rest of us what flavour of whipped cream she and her husband use in the bedroom. A new bank teller just told me she's autistic... I've never met her before in my life.
I guess that's just not very important you know....we get along....we have common interests. That's about it. Lol
Because it would make them seem "gay". A lot of guys are super paranoid about being seen as "gay". Honestly guys, it's fine. You can and should have friends, and know stuff about them.
Some actually want a real relationship and not just f**k
Actually, most of us chaps who managed to get to being a grown up (at whatever age) want precisely that, some of us are actually an ickle bit romantic too x
That 80% of the time they concretely mean exactly what they say, which is why only 20% of the time they understand what I’m saying.
So, knowing this, why wouldn't you (a woman) say what you mean? why play games? why want them to read your mind? why getting pissed at them for something you saw in your sleep? And after all, complain about not having proper communication... This is not always the case, but i have seen it over and over between many couples
when they wake up, they just sit down and stare at nothing for a good 5 minutes...
That when a guy is invested in a girl they are oblivious to other flirting women.
When my husband and I were still dating I saw women hitting on him so bad and he not realizing these women were hitting on him was jaw dropping.
Me: what do those 2 girls wanted? (All dresse up with drinks in their hand)
Edit2: girls were all smiling, giggling and doing the hair thing. And I kept an eye on those 2... they did not go to the restroom after talking to him.
My husband: they wanted to know where the bathrooms were.
Me: dude, these women knew where the bathrooms are, they just wanted to make small talk with you.
My husband: nah, i told the the bathrooms were over there.
Me: 🤯
He was being nice. He realises. And it's weird, because the minute you're in a relationship as a guy, it seems women start throwing themselves at you. Whether it's because without the nerves of chatting up you notice signals more, or that being in a relationship makes you more attractive to women, I really have no idea.
You guys really can love and be faithful
Considering the environment I grew up, that’s surprising
We can, more than we're given credit for actually lol (I do acknowledge however that it's not all of us).
Men like things that women seem to be insecure about
The man in the photo is leading the woman up to the edge of an erupting volcano. We do that stuff all the time.
how much they touch you
my boyfriend won’t let me sit away from him when we’re together (long distance pain :,) and he’d be touching me in some way- hand on my leg, twisting my hair with his fingers, holding my wrist while he scrolls on his phone or looming over my shoulders while I eat and on. I find it funny when while standing he absent-mindedly holds my waist instead of keeping his hand on his xD
Sometimes its good to just "fade out" you know. Let the brain go on autopilot and not think about anything "important".
ProTip: take heed of surroundings -- do not stumble over walkway obstructions.
It took me way too long to notice public bathrooms don't keep toilet paper near urinals and the implications of that scar me to this day.
I learned something! Men prefer oval shaped toilets over round so they have somewhere to put their dangly bits! I had no clue round toilets caused squishing before we bought a new toilet. Husband hasn't shut up about how much roomier it is. Might have something to do with how hilarious the convos get though!
Is Bored Panda part of the Reddit Company? I've also seen shared posts on the Chive Nation from here too and Vice Versa. Are all media outlets merging? It's so boring seeing the same posts on different media platforms ...
they copypaste off reddit. I prefer it here because reddit is really hard to follow with the indents and indents...
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I concur with the frustration of how men are so often naturally physically gifted. I also lift weights, work out, do strong girl things, but can't hold a candle compared to even skinny dudes! It's really annoying. I can still win arm wrestling contests against my 9yo son but I know even those days are numbered!
This is why transwomen beat women in sports but you will never see a transman even make it into the men's team.
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As much as i like this article, none of it is new info LOL. upvote anyway
Ay other men out there dislike for women to wear high heels? Or just not care? You couldn't design a dumber, barely functional shoe. Yet I get told all the time how men love them, but I have always suspected it is more of a competition among women.
Personally, I hate high heels. The clacking sound they make sends a chill up my spine.
Load More Replies... It’s nice to see more mention of men being able to be emotionally honest and loving. I know that growing up in the 80s as someone who wore their emotions on their sleeve, who liked tenderness, and who eschewed violence and braggadocio I was often ridiculed my most other boys, most men, and quite a few girls, too, as a “wimp” “p***y” f*****t” etc. I think this is changing, and men are more and more allowed to be fully realized human beings, not just stifled bags of anger and frustration. I see more and more men that are much more masculine than me, with typical “manly” interests, that can freely express themselves with their partners, their children and their animals. I love seeing some big ol’ bearded biker doting on his little Frenchie in a doggie sweater! That WOULD NOT have happened 40 years ago!
"men are more and more allowed to be fully realized human beings." Well...not by women.
Load More Replies... It was quite refreshing to read a post about things women learned about men, after seeing so many vice versa. I'd say we need more of these, but really a lot of the items in either apply to humans in general, not necessarily by gender
Nonsense. You're gonna give a medal to Bored Panda for asking about the experience of being male in a male-dominated world? While we're at it, let's ask Sauron about the trials of being an omniscient force of malevolence in a world he has made in his own image. Stop acting like the oppressor's story is as compelling as that of the people they oppress.
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And another round of stereotypes and general assumptions, this time about men. Come on, people are super different, men are much more diverse than the hypothetical "average man". The average man or the average woman does not exist IRL. You really need to look at the person before you.
True, but a lot of these are true for a huge majority of blokes, so I don't feel stereotyped.
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Yeah, none of this is surprising, y'all just live in your own little worlds, don't you? The only thing that is surprising (though I've heard it many times), is the whole "not thinking about anything" thing, I just can't wrap my head around that. Like I already have heard about it a ton, so the fact that it's a thing for guys isn't surprising, but the ability to do that is surprising, I just can't see it
Sorry - what is this for? To cuddle up to the "unseen" trials that men experience? Honey, yall boys got nobody to blame but the patriarchy. THIS IS WHAT WE'RE SAYING. Capitalism, colonialism, slavery - the psychology of these things CANNOT EXIST without the psychology of the patriarchy - the notion that some humans are made for success, while others are made for servitude. It's a lot easier to see a tribe of people as "less than" when you've already made that distinction in your own wife. Barbarism begins at home, kids. You don't like it? Cede power. We're not making these requirements of you. Nobody relates to the "hero" who faces no hardship. If you want anyone to sing when you're winning, they have to see how you behave when you lose. I really don't want to hear about the "unseen" troubles of men when we live in a world where the #1 killer of women is femicide. We are not equal, as men have made abundantly clear. Neither are men's struggles equal to those of the women they dominate.
So when a woman says on TV that women are unfit to be President, who would be at fault for that? If it's her, that would mean women DO contribute to preservation of the patriarchy. I can easily imagine someone saying, "She was indoctrinated by the patriarchy!" Fair enough, but why is indoctrination only a valid excuse for women? Have men NOT been indoctrinated by the patriarchy? Isn't criticizing men for a bad thing and then tolerating the same bad thing from women kind of like holding women to a LOWER standard than men?
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I learned something! Men prefer oval shaped toilets over round so they have somewhere to put their dangly bits! I had no clue round toilets caused squishing before we bought a new toilet. Husband hasn't shut up about how much roomier it is. Might have something to do with how hilarious the convos get though!
Is Bored Panda part of the Reddit Company? I've also seen shared posts on the Chive Nation from here too and Vice Versa. Are all media outlets merging? It's so boring seeing the same posts on different media platforms ...
they copypaste off reddit. I prefer it here because reddit is really hard to follow with the indents and indents...
Load More Replies... I concur with the frustration of how men are so often naturally physically gifted. I also lift weights, work out, do strong girl things, but can't hold a candle compared to even skinny dudes! It's really annoying. I can still win arm wrestling contests against my 9yo son but I know even those days are numbered!
This is why transwomen beat women in sports but you will never see a transman even make it into the men's team.
Load More Replies... As much as i like this article, none of it is new info LOL. upvote anyway
Ay other men out there dislike for women to wear high heels? Or just not care? You couldn't design a dumber, barely functional shoe. Yet I get told all the time how men love them, but I have always suspected it is more of a competition among women.
Personally, I hate high heels. The clacking sound they make sends a chill up my spine.
Load More Replies... It’s nice to see more mention of men being able to be emotionally honest and loving. I know that growing up in the 80s as someone who wore their emotions on their sleeve, who liked tenderness, and who eschewed violence and braggadocio I was often ridiculed my most other boys, most men, and quite a few girls, too, as a “wimp” “p***y” f*****t” etc. I think this is changing, and men are more and more allowed to be fully realized human beings, not just stifled bags of anger and frustration. I see more and more men that are much more masculine than me, with typical “manly” interests, that can freely express themselves with their partners, their children and their animals. I love seeing some big ol’ bearded biker doting on his little Frenchie in a doggie sweater! That WOULD NOT have happened 40 years ago!
"men are more and more allowed to be fully realized human beings." Well...not by women.
Load More Replies... It was quite refreshing to read a post about things women learned about men, after seeing so many vice versa. I'd say we need more of these, but really a lot of the items in either apply to humans in general, not necessarily by gender
Nonsense. You're gonna give a medal to Bored Panda for asking about the experience of being male in a male-dominated world? While we're at it, let's ask Sauron about the trials of being an omniscient force of malevolence in a world he has made in his own image. Stop acting like the oppressor's story is as compelling as that of the people they oppress.
Load More Replies... And another round of stereotypes and general assumptions, this time about men. Come on, people are super different, men are much more diverse than the hypothetical "average man". The average man or the average woman does not exist IRL. You really need to look at the person before you.
True, but a lot of these are true for a huge majority of blokes, so I don't feel stereotyped.
Load More Replies... Yeah, none of this is surprising, y'all just live in your own little worlds, don't you? The only thing that is surprising (though I've heard it many times), is the whole "not thinking about anything" thing, I just can't wrap my head around that. Like I already have heard about it a ton, so the fact that it's a thing for guys isn't surprising, but the ability to do that is surprising, I just can't see it
Sorry - what is this for? To cuddle up to the "unseen" trials that men experience? Honey, yall boys got nobody to blame but the patriarchy. THIS IS WHAT WE'RE SAYING. Capitalism, colonialism, slavery - the psychology of these things CANNOT EXIST without the psychology of the patriarchy - the notion that some humans are made for success, while others are made for servitude. It's a lot easier to see a tribe of people as "less than" when you've already made that distinction in your own wife. Barbarism begins at home, kids. You don't like it? Cede power. We're not making these requirements of you. Nobody relates to the "hero" who faces no hardship. If you want anyone to sing when you're winning, they have to see how you behave when you lose. I really don't want to hear about the "unseen" troubles of men when we live in a world where the #1 killer of women is femicide. We are not equal, as men have made abundantly clear. Neither are men's struggles equal to those of the women they dominate.
So when a woman says on TV that women are unfit to be President, who would be at fault for that? If it's her, that would mean women DO contribute to preservation of the patriarchy. I can easily imagine someone saying, "She was indoctrinated by the patriarchy!" Fair enough, but why is indoctrination only a valid excuse for women? Have men NOT been indoctrinated by the patriarchy? Isn't criticizing men for a bad thing and then tolerating the same bad thing from women kind of like holding women to a LOWER standard than men?
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