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Most of us know the image of the angel and devil sitting on either shoulder, whispering sweet nothings into the ears of the decision-maker. How do you make the choice between them? Which side do you listen to? Is it the moral values, is it society’s expectations, or is it a 50/50 impulse? Hard to say.

But what isn’t too difficult to decide upon are the ‘green flags’ that show one to be a genuinely good human. Even though a person may look harsh on the outside, they may be the kindest cinnamon roll on the inside, as showcased through their words and actions. Little birds seem to fly around them, and the clouds part to let sunshine rain down on them. 

Someone decided to ask the community of r/AskReddit what they believed to be the most telltale signs of goodness, and dozens of netizens delivered their verdicts. Make sure you do the same by upvoting your favorites, leaving your thoughts in the comments below, and if you’re curious to see the other side of the coin, Bored Panda has you covered with an article right here. Now let’s get into it! 

#1

Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered Guy I used to work with was such a class clown, always cracking jokes. Everybody liked him because he was so funny. It was a while before I realized that his jokes were never at anybody’s expense. He was kind. There was never anything mean in anything he ever said, to anybody’s face or behind their back. Anyway we’re married now.

bethlabeth , Toa Heftiba Report

OCD Mom
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I loved the ending, very happy for you!

Michael Largey
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Growing up, I was always making sharp deep ribs about other people, including those I was talking to. When I became a teacher, I soon realized that this was now a bad idea. I would still make ridiculing remarks and jokes, but they were always about myself. (And I got bigger laughs that way, anyhow.)

Klopec
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Congratulations and best of luck.❤

Mary Daniel
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Funny and sweet, great combination.

Nitka Tsar
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Did anyone notice the European window in the background? I don‘t know why, but it was the first thing I noticed in this stock photo. LOL

Paulo Freitas
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a coworker like that, dude was lazy as hell, but he was frikking funny ( he also knew what he was doing, he was lazy, but knew what he was doing ) i Saw two customers being really pissed at him and do nothing because they where to busy laughing lol, One day a costumer bought steel tipped boots, the Next day hevwent back to return them, because they where to right, my coworker looks at him very seriously and goes " have you tried clipping your toe mails? " Another One was because a brand of Paint that had fruits names, grape fruit, tangerina, lemon etc, client goes to the store asks for orange, he goes get the Paint comes back, and the client notices it wasn't the same color, checks the lable and it was tangerine, he complain to my coworker, and dude goes, " só? Its all citrous any way " ( he of course went get the right color, but he had to make a joke about it )

To sin or not to sin, you ask yourself at the crosswalk as you wait for the light to turn green, but there’s not a car in sight, so are you gonna run for it? To be honest, this type of situation doesn’t reflect much on whether someone’s a good person or not, but it is interesting to consider the amount of thought we go through when making decisions. 

However, there are some things that can universally be agreed upon to be signs of goodness within a person. Although subtle and requiring a bit of notice, they’re there, and they make living all the more pleasant. A Reddit user decided to ask the community of r/AskReddit for their opinions on ‘green flags’ that show one to be a good human being. Or human beans if you’re into cute things. 

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    #2

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered when you're in a group and that one person keeps trying to say something or add to the conversation but they keep getting talked over. Then that other person will look at them and say, "Sorry person, I didn't catch what you were trying to say, can you repeat it?" and makes space for the person being ignored unintentionally. That's a real gem.

    wannabe_pineapple , Edmond Dantès Report

    Paul K. Johnson
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I work with the same group and there's one person who always cuts people off. So I do this. It's weird because the person who cut the person off can see what I did but they do that same thing again.

    Vera Diblikova
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do it too, bc I am so old that waiting for a pause I forgot what will to say.

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    Momma Panda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am usually the one that keeps getting talked over so I very much appreciate anyone that gives me space to speak

    Exotic Butters
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Me too. My husband is a cutter offer. No one can finish a sentence around him. Even if he asked you the question he'll cut you off before you finish answering. It's more frustrating that you can imagine. I can't say anything if he's around.

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    CammyCat
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed, because I am usually that person. Try to b polite and not interrupt or talk over people, but it also tends to mean ur voice is never heard

    Stephanie Goadsby
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When cut off, I usually start with a sigh, followed by paying complete attention until they are finished talking, pause, and finish with, "as I was saying." They know.

    Mary Daniel
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes I've been steamrollered hundreds of times during my life. Funny some of the people that are drawn to me are direct opposites. Heavy talkers.

    Anyone-for-tea?
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes! Or when you start saying something in Zoom, then someone else blunders in and talks over you, but they come back to you, even if it takes a couple of minutes.

    Laura Shook
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One of my biggest pet peeves… someone who cuts someone off when they’re talking. So rude and inconsiderate.

    Sandeep Patel
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do this with my team in meetings. I would say its because im nice but the real reason is i want to hear what they say especially if it is valuable

    Robert Trebor
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I'm cut off, even in a one on one conversation, I just stop talking.

    Katie Brown
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm all of these people. Lolol. I get talked over so much. The more people in the room the less I talk and the quieter I get. So alllll the time. .. but then sometimes it's just 1 -4 peopleish. (The number largely depends on how comfortable I am with them) and I have SUCH a bad habit of interrupting.. and I have 2 kinds. 1) i think you're about to go into a long story or just. Go on about 1 thing for a bit. I need to establish information real fast. (Maybe I'm making us tea and I need to know how much sugar..,) and I'll raise my hand and side bar. The 2nd kind I just straight up come in like a train with word vomit .... but I always apologize, ask them to continue, and remind them were they were.. cause I.. I don't want to be rude .. but I am lolol

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    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered I don't really know how I want to word this, so I'll just tell you the story. This past Sunday at 2:34am, my cat/son George was euthanized because he was so sick. Naturally, I was very, very, very close to my son and I took it extremely hard. I didn't go to work on Monday, but did show up to work on Tuesday. So the math so far is I've lost my son less than 72 hours, and it was just 48 hours before then that I quite literally collapsed in grief. What I'm trying to say is: I was very visibly upset, frequently crying, really quiet, etc. A customer had noticed that I was upset and asked if everything was okay. I had hit a place in the day where I felt like I could open up to total strangers about what was wrong, and so I told her. It turns out she lost her cat the same weekend in the same manner. She told me she hopes I take comfort in knowing George was no longer suffering and that my husband and I made the right decision. She paid for her groceries and left. She came back not even 30 minutes later with a single wrapped gerbera daisy. She said, "This is for George, okay?" before leaving. Her kindness spoke absolute volumes. She was grieving the loss of her own pet, but when she saw a total stranger- a cashier, who many customers regard as being inhuman, no less- mourning the loss of their pet too, she reached out and offered an ear and genuine condolences. No hidden agenda, no ulterior motives- just genuine compassion.

    JenovaCelestia , Paul Hanaoka Report

    CammyCat
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some people just don't get how we can be so close to our fur babies. Over the years, mine have gotten me thru my mom's suicide attempt, my own, my divorce, my break up. Having another heartbeat and something that wants to snuggle u to feel better is a LOT of comfort. And they only ask for food, potty, a home and love in return

    Maltaros
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's a really recent thing that calling your pet a "fur baby" wouldn't get you looked at as if you were a few fries short of a happy meal. It still hasn't caught on everywhere or with everyone. Times are changing, but not as fast as people think. Growing up your pets were part of your family but you didn't dress them up, buy food that was fancier than your own or spend huge sums at the vet. I am not calling people out for doing so, only pointing out that things regarding pets are changing.

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    Violet Jensen
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Omg. That’s so sweet. I had a guy tip me $5 after he heard I got ripped off at a gig at 4am the previous night and told me to keep being funny and nice to kids (he was with his granddaughter) Literally a whole hours work at the gig last night. I cried

    Moon Cheese
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I once worked as a bell ringer for the Salvation Army just ringing the bell outside for a few hours. It was freezing January and I was just a kid in a sweater. A very kind lady comes out of the grocery store I was posted at with a pair of gloves for me ❤️ Its been like 15 years but I never forget. I hope you meet more kind people like that.

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    Jennifer Phillips
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Kitty is her baby. I call my boys (2dogs/1kitty) my boys my children my babies but hardly ever dog/cat. Tell my human children that they are their brothers. When I got them I sent my human kids ( their all adults and live elsewhere) pic saying meet your new brothers. Some of us can't see /feel the difference between human kid and animal kid.

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    Deborah Rubin
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I lost my furry son in 2009 but it still hurts. The kindness of the people in the grocery store where I always went, went above and beyond in the kindness they showed me. (He was a service dog and so allowed in the grocery). They're at the Bridge now, and safe. We'll see them again.

    vampiresscrow
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My deepest condolences. It's always hard losing your fur baby. Mine had to be put down 2 yrs ago this February, because he was ill. It still hurts, but I am glad he isn't suffering any more. What a beautiful thing for that stranger to do. There is still some good in this world! 💗

    Cindy Lartigue
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow. That hit my heart bc when I lost Blake (my dog then) I tried to work but in between speaking w/clients - I kept crying. I couldn't eat, couldn't sleep - lost 13 lbs. Finally I told 2 coworkers that I need to go home w/one of them. I said if I go back to my empty apartment - I'll take my life. Went home w/one of them. The next morning - she called our boss & said she wouldn't be in that day. My coworker took me to the hospital (Dallas) & I was on suicide watch the entire time. See, my ex-husband skip out w/my daughter on a Christmas Eve morning & I never saw her again. I learned in therapy that when I lost Blake, I am now grieving over 2 losses. I argued that I'm over w/my daughter & he said no, you are not so when Blake passed away - it brought the loss of your daughter forward. Then I had out patient therapy for a solid 6 months. I'm better now!

    Raven Red
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wish I could upvote more. this made me tear up a little.

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    So what actually makes a person good? Is it the combination of all these little actions that are being discussed in this list? Well, this is quite an interesting philosophical conundrum as goodness can be understood in many different ways, but is there a universal consensus on it all? Let’s delve a little into it all. 

    We begin with the views on moral character. Most of the Greek moralists think that if we are rational, we aim at living well (eu zên) or happiness (eudaimonia). So the Stoics identify happiness with “living coherently,” and Aristotle says that happiness is “perfect” or “complete” and something distinctively human. When we are living well, our life is worthy of imitation and praise. 

    #4

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered They're kind to animals. A friend of my dad's was mind of grumpy and was very loud, and tried to come off way tougher than he was... but absolutely MELTED over small animals. Bunnies, squirrels, but his favorite was his cat Taco. That cat was treated like damn royalty and got all the perks and baby-talk included. Even the Grinch had a dog.

    Illustrious-Science3 , Chewy Report

    Nea
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is top indicator for me.

    Virgil Blue
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep, people who are a heel to animals have either a problem they should wolrk out or are just sociopaths.

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    Just_for_this
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was dating this girl, first night we went back to her place I sat on the sofa while she did what she needed to; her two cats came sat next to me and I gave them a fuss until she came in... What she didn't tell me that night was that they ran from EVERYONE that wasn’t her (her ex used to kick them! She didn’t know at the time) Them accepting me in that brief moment was all the indication she needed that 'she was keeping me' - How much choice i had in the matter i don't know once the cat gods decided but that girl is now my wife.

    Greenmantle
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had a similar thing. My boy ran to my ex when he first met her, but once the relationship was beginning to turn sour from her point of view, he completely ignored her. They know.

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    Two_rolling_black_eyes
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Its a plus but make sure to check for other things too. There are many examples of people who were amazing to animals and not so much to people. Hitler was famous for doting on dogs and vegetarian because he hated cruelty to animals. Charles Manson's compound was a ranch because he loved the animals more than people. He said at his trial he'd rather kill a person than a pet. Psychologists have found that many psychopaths have pets they love because the animals provide love and devotion they can't get from people. Cruelty to animals is often a sign of being a psychopath too so the way people treat them is not necessarily a great indicator of goodness.

    Kristi Northcutt
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This. I was going to say this. But I doubt I would have expressed it as well as two_rolling_black_eyes has. My ex is either a malignant narcissist or a psychopath ( I haven't quite grasped the difference yet), and I had several cats when he decided not to leave the second or third time he came over. He loved the kittens, and was really good with them and they adored him. They had no special sense that could tell he was not a good person. It's too bad too, it would have saved them some confusion and some hurt kitty feelings. As soon as they were no longer kittens, he lost his warm feelings for them, and would yell at them and not let them cuddle with him anymore. They didn't realize they had grown up. Even if they had, that's no reason to stop loving them. It's ridiculous, in fact. They were my babies, no matter how big or old they got,so I would pour extra love on the ones he rejected, but my heart still aches for them. Reason #6398 that I'm happy to almost have him out of my life.

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    Lisa H
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OMG, this is totally my dad! He's this gruff, burly guy that's into a lot of *ahem* VERY American things, but his tiny runt of a void kitty has stolen his heart. He also spends a lot of his spare time watching cute animal videos on Facebook.

    Shannon K
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Usually yes, as a huge animal lover myself I would agree however it's not universal. Remember Hitler loved animals and he was a vegetarian..

    CammyCat
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My ex-BF always talked about how he hated cats. When I moved in, it was so damn cute and sexy they way he would baby my little blk cat. Pick her up and take her to the kitchen asking in baby talk "what kind of treat would u like. Some chicken or some cheese? Oooh! Maybe bacon?" Highly sexy

    Astrius
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even though she doesn’t give a damn about me, looking at my cat always makes me feel better.

    D. Pitbull
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's unfortunately not a guarantee... wish it was though.

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    I had a maths teacher who used to bust my chops. He was fun, but also very temperamental. He’d be silly to a point, then tell you off when you out-sillied his silliness. I was sat opposite a quiet girl who suddenly looked really distressed. She said something to him in a whisper, and he looked down to a puddle on the floor. She’d wet herself. This was when we were 11-12, so it was quite a big deal. I clocked this at the same time, and he gave me this look like ‘don’t you dare’, He went over to his desk, poured himself a water, then came back and was pretending to peer at her work, before stumbling and dropping it on her. He apologised and made a big scene and told her she could go and get a spare uniform from the office as it was his mistake. I really respected that, I think it showed a lot about his character and care.

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    censorshipsucks
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    when and where did this term "clocked" for "saw" or "noticed" appear?

    Shelley Jude
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP must be British, this is a British term

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    BigSteveT
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good on the teacher, but good on the then 11-year-old OP for keeping his mouth shut as well. Not many kids could/would do that.

    Shyla Bouche
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The teacher showed some serious class, and so did the OP.

    SeaLouse
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I accidentally wet myself once at the urinal in a bar, so poured a little bit of water on the front of my sweater. (spilled some of my beer).

    Paul Brown
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Im 66 years old and I've heard that expression for years, at least as far back as high school

    Anne McKinney
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What a great teacher. Massive respect.

    India Nichele
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Op could also be military. I heard it used a lot by marines and a bunch of my sailors but it make since if directions are treated like a 12 hour clock

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    #6

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered How they treat animals and customer service staff. Especially when they are agitated. Putting their shopping cart in the corral, even if it's not right next to them.

    Meowsilbub , Karthik Sridasyam Report

    R Dennis
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I taught my daughter to just take the cart back inside. It isn't that hard and a few extra steps are healthy.

    Lollipop Girl
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The last one!!! I've seen SO MANY shopping carts inside people's houses (not too far from their supermarket), or left abandoned in the streets. I always try to take them back, but it shouldn't be necessary!

    Barbara White
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    also - grabbing a cart from the corral on the way into the store.

    Maltaros
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It depends. Our local Winco has a gate thing where you can put the carts in but they won't come out easily. Also, if it's raining I prefer to get one from the inside where they have been dried off a bit.

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    David
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hate it when people leave their carts all over / in parking spaces. Not too long ago saw a cart in a parking space and there was a cart return 15 feet away. Grrrr!

    Deborah Rubin
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't always put my cart in the corral, but I'm disabled. Before I was, before the days of cart corrals, I'd bring it back to the store.

    However, one doesn’t need to be a philosopher to understand the fact that happiness comes in many forms, differing from person to person. Yet, whatever happiness is, according to Greek moralists, it must give a prominent place to the exercise of virtue, for virtuous traits of character are stable and enduring and are not products of fortune, but of learning or cultivation. 

    In Plato’s Protagoras, Socrates seems to identify happiness with pleasure, with various virtues being an instrumental means to pleasure. Yet, it’s not necessarily a selfish kind of pleasure, as we know that virtuous acts require some sacrifice. 

    Thus, according to Aristotle in Nicomachean Ethics, people who have the proper attitude toward external goods (material possessions) will be ready to sacrifice such goods if by doing so they achieve a higher goal. They recognize that when everyone concentrates on doing good, their actions promote a betterment in society. 

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    #7

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered You can tell a good kid when they purposely try to include the quiet shy kid at school, and make an effort to be nice and friendly to them I was that kid at high school and it always made me happy when these kids would make an effort to talk to me

    anon , CDC Report

    rararando
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Was at a company gathering years ago and some colleagues brought their young kids along to hang out with each other. The group of kids clicked pretty quickly and ran off somewhere to play, but one little girl was left hiding under a table shyly. One of the little boys noticed her, crouched down and held out his hand, saying "I'll hold your hand, let's go together" My heart melted 😭😭

    Jj Lewis
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I taught my kids that if you see someone without a friend you are now their friend...I was and am that person

    A Dubb
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was that kid. There was this really sweet boy in my high school that didn't really seem to talk. He was always drawing though. I remember purposely befriending him because I didn't like that he was by himself in class tho i thought he was really nice plus I didn't care to talk to a lot of people myself so it worked out. He said in a post a week ago (almost 20 years later) that me and another girl I would also talk to kept him sane in high school. He's now an artist so his quiet doodling paid off. Good for him!

    DrBronxx
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I remember when my niece started school. Her dad (my brother) was a little worried, because generally she's a quiet, shy girl. However, on her very first day of school, immediately after saying goodbye to her parents, she spotted another girl sitting by herself and looking a little sad. She went straight over, introduced herself and sat down to speak with her. They've been friends ever since. I can't imagine how proud (and relieved!) my brother and my sister in-law were when they witnessed that.

    David
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My oldest granddaughter has a gift for including whoever is there and I admire her for it. Me and a friend used to watch her play at the park when she was younger. Typical situation - she ends up getting the other random kids (strangers) involved in some game she made up. She is the leader and telling them all what to do. Then after a bit she steps down and says, Now why don't you be the (Queen, whatever) now and we all follow you? Then they do some more and rotate. Everyone included, everyone getting a chance to be the boss and so on.

    TrippyBanana
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think I missed this portion of growing up. I was normally picked last or no one wanted go warm up with me before games. I never understood what I'd done, but I figured it was a them thing not a me thing, it still sucked. I could strike up a conversation easily with anyone, but not many went out of their way to include me.

    pp horrendous
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i was absolutely that kid until about 7th-8th grade and it really stunted my social growth

    Lene
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My oldest girl just visited a class in the school she'll start at in just a few months. The girl she was placed next to was so super kind! Lent her a pencil when they had to work in a book and she even helped my daughter writing the right letters. So so nice! And I just know my girl will do the same for another new kid if she gets the opportunity :) kids can be so fantastic ❤

    Michelle C
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One of my best friends in high school was the quiet kid and I really miss the camaraderie we had!

    Jane Hower
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My very bright son often didn't finish class assignments and when the teacher and I talked about it, turns out it was because he'd get it started then go help other to finish. He had such a big heart.

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    #8

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered I waited tables at a pretty popular New Mexican restaurant when I was in college. There was this one manager, her name was Rosie, and she never smiled. She always looked like she was pissed off at everyone and everything. The entire waitstaff and bus staff feared her. When she walked into the kitchen and wanted something, the line would immediately jump to her demands. It was rumored that she was the person to fire any employee when an employee was fired. The only people that didn't seem to be scared of her were the hostesses. They were always talking to her like she was just any other manager or person in the restaurant. She scared the hell out of me for the first year I worked there. I made sure that she never had anything to be upset at with me. One day, I came into work sick as f**k and having just a really bad day. She took me to the side and talked to me for a good half hour. Just asking quesitons about my day and how school was going. Towards the end of the conversation she said I didn't look good and that if I wanted to , I could take the night off. Rosie was the best f*****g person I ever met inside the restaurant industry. From that day on it was my goal to make her laugh. I never did make her laugh. But I got a smile out of her quite a bit after that. She was not just a good person, she was one of the best. But man, you wouldn't know it unless you really took the time to look. She was one of those types of people you know had had a hard time in life and put up a rough exterior. But deep down she was a softie and loving grandmother type. I hope she's happy in her retirement.

    Carp8DM , Ksenia Chernaya Report

    Owen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have love for these kinds of people.

    El Dee
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, definitely don't judge a book by its cover..

    rararando
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Three cheers for Rosie!

    Heather Vandegrift
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Women managers, especially in industries where men are typically in lead rolls (must executive chefs down to the line cooks are male, and most owners as well) have to put on a tough exterior to make sure people obey them. If you are nice, you could get taken advantage of. That doesn't mean they aren't human, though. So no harm, but take no $h!+!

    David
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You never know with some folks unless you take the time. There used to be a local family run Greek restaurant a friend and I frequented. The two servers were sisters. S1 was usually our server and was smiley / friendly / nice. S2 just served us sometimes, didn't smile. Did her job but seemed like a bit of a B due to always looking unhappy. We got talking to her more and found out she had a painful foot condition and was saving up for an operation (bone spur or something - don't remember). So the frowns were just because it hurt her to walk around. we cared about her and she cared about us and we really saw a different side of her.

    sayanything
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And I hope OP stopped bothering people about their happiness level.

    SheHulk
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It´s a problem when you have resting b***h face. Somebody recently suggested that I surgically lift the corners of my mouth!

    Tammy Wait
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had an English teacher who was old, wrinkled, gray-haired woman. I was scared to death of her. When I had to leave school to go to a foster home, I turned my book into her, she asked me why. When I told her she started to cry and hugged me.

    Sweet_Dee
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nice people on the outside aren't always good, and the good people aren't always nice on the outside. Professor Snape taught us that 🤓

    N D
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wasting time with small talk is so rude

    Maltaros
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If we didn't do it we would never form any social connections. You have to start somewhere.

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    #9

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered People who ignore things like accidentally spitting while talking or accidentally farting to not make you feel embarrassed

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    Hawkmoon
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Until they're covered in saliva and passed out with the smell.

    Sarah
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have this condition, where I can't help but laugh whenever I hear a fart noise, even if it's someone making it with their hand. I have Immaturitus.

    Andy James
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Like my mate at work who farted in the lift we were in, it was absolutely horrendous. So, we arrived on the ground floor, the doors opened and waiting was at least 10 co workers. My mate, dashed out waving his hands in front of his face shouting... "Andy you dirty bastard" and he ran off leaving me stood there!

    CP
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We need to all agree as a society that farts even though they are funny are a normal bodily function and nothing to be embarrassed about.

    ️️Upvote faery️
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like the ones who fart in return 😂😂

    Donkey boi
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unless it's your friend of partner. Then, it's your duty to say one of the following: 'Is that for me? Thank you'; 'You didn't want that, no?'; 'No littering!'; 'Oooo bubbles'.

    Pink Aesthetic
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Im like this! (Except with my bff, if either of us does it, we'll just laugh about it or apologize)

    Dingooo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Farting is never an accident, it is a necessity.

    Damon Smithwick
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A fantastic moment in my life was when my wife broke the fart barrier first.

    Meami
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m sorry, I’m such a child, if someone farts I always crack up. I really don’t mean to or want to, it’s just such a funny noise. I do laugh pretty easily but sometimes it’s just not appropriate.

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    Because an individual’s good is included in the good of the community, it makes it much easier to take the virtuous path when you’re not alone in doing so. According to Immanuel Kant, we are always fighting against the impulses and dispositions that oppose the moral law. We need strength of will and self-mastery to fulfill our imperfect duties, and this self-mastery Kant calls courage.

    And surrounding oneself with people who are equally as courageous makes it more likely one will take a path of benevolence. Although Kant thinks that feelings cannot be required of anyone, some feelings are nevertheless associated with the moral ends we adopt. If we adopt others’ happiness as an end, we will not take malicious pleasure in their downfall. 

    #10

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered When you are having an argument and they actually listen to your point instead of just getting ready to make theirs.

    mousicle , Christina Morillo Report

    Daria
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some see an argument as a fight while some see it as a disagreement.

    Hugh Cookson
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've always been of the opinion that an argument is a lively discussion between two people who, if they are civilised and reasonable are searching for common ground for their views and if that common ground can't be found will agree to be friends who have differing views on a subject then move on ...

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    ObsidianAce_
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And people who let you build your point after listening to theirs. I’ve gotten into arguments with family who declare they’ve won because I’m quiet for a few seconds after they finish talking. No, I wasn’t realizing you were right, I was considering your point and figuring out what to say.

    El Dee
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have great respect for people who I disagree with and have strong views if they have solid reasons for those views (as long as they're not prejudiced reasons) This is the kind of person you can have an actual conversation about stuff with. Rarer than hen's teeth..

    oddly_informed_raven
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always try to have civil debates with solid reasoning, but more often than not the other person isn't on board

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    eternal gay panic (she/them)
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I once saw that in a relationship, when you have a problem, it is not you vs your partner, its you and your partner vs the problem

    Aroace tiger (she/they/he)
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Arguments can actually be fun in a way when this happens

    LeeAnne Tant
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have to actively work on this one. Good news, I do actually stop and listen but I still have to remind myself.

    Bobby
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Whether you're looking for a romantic partner, business partner, or friend, just remember conflict resolution is part of any relationship. So find people who's methods of dealing with conflict mesh well with yours

    Jennifer Phillips
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or someone you can adapt to and they can adapt to you. Sometimes husband has bad day snaps at me and I call him on it.....but when we first started living together I would take defense and we would fight for an hour withput reason. Now we call each other out and get right to issue really there

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    N D
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People actually do listen? My husband just walks away "to clear his head" but we never pick back up. I don't even bother telling him I'm angry anymore.

    Becky Samuel
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Then his behavior is achieving exactly what he wants it to and you get to feel like a doormat. This is no way to maintain a relationship.

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    Amy Burke
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That all depends on who you are arguing with and whether they have a valid opinion

    Shelli Aderman
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I almost bought this exact stock photo for work today! 🤣

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    #11

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered People who don't kill spiders but gently relocate them to outside.

    Jenghrick , Olavi Anttila Report

    Paul K. Johnson
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you. Spiders are our friends.

    Thorsten Massow
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We are united against a common enemy: mosquitos!

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    Caffeinated Hedgehog
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I also don't kill spiders. Instead, I relocate myself somewhere else.

    Greenmantle
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Australian weighing in: depends on role of spider and toxicity. I'll happily coexist with common window spiders, even huntsmans if appropriate. But I draw the line at white tails and redbacks because of the side effects of their bites. Daddyblong legs always welcome.

    Chewie Baron
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Be thankful that Daddy Long Legs can’t bite through our skin. We’d die there and then.

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    Anyone-for-tea?
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope it still counts if you’re shouting “OMG OMG OMG get out of my house” whilst trying to be brave with an extendable feather duster.

    Just Jeff
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't even relocate them. They are my insect repellent. They get to stay inside.

    JHD
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have quite a few jumping spiders, they sort out all the small flying pests.

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    Lisa H
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mostly, yes, even though I genuinely have arachnophobia. However, if it's a black widow or a recluse (that is, something that could easily kill my fur babies or my neighbor's fur babies), then they gotta die.

    Frogspawn
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I vacuum those effers up and throw it in the outdoor trash bins, the crunch of their bodies is just masks me gag. So they can sleep in the dump.

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    Jade
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have REALLY BAD arachnophobia, but I won't kill a spider unless it could kill me.

    Donkey boi
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I say I'm putting them outside, but instead I put them in another room. I don't want them getting cold!

    Toni V. Jensen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Me, too🤭I found a very newborn baby mouse that had crawled blindly out into a room, from under a cabinet, away from it's mother and siblings(I'm sure!). It was so pink and helpless that a gently slid him way back under...and ten minutes later, the mother had found and taken him back to safety.I know...I'm crazy...but I just couldn't kill it (or let my dog eat it🤢).

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    M O'Connell
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I once found a rather large jumping spider in my bathroom. He didn't notice me because he was too busy trying to pick a fight with his reflection in the side of the faucet. He was fascinating to watch. I relocated him to the windowsill in my garage where there was already a graveyard of flies and gnats that had become stuck there. I hope he had good hunting.

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    #12

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered They pick up litter and put it in the bin without posting a picture on social media saying "You guysss this is so depressing to see :'("

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    Monday
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It is very satisfying to see before and after picks though. Like posting a pic of a field filled with trash and then a few hours later posting a pic of the clean field.

    Annik Perrot
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And if it can incite people to do the same, social média or not, it's a good thing.

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    Vanessa Panerosa
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’d respond, “you’re right. I miss the days when we could do a good deed without needing to take credit for it on our social, too.”

    DrBronxx
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As long as the litter is being picked up, whether or not they post a picture is irrelevant to me.

    Piglet
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My dad and me go on regular walks to do just this. He's 83.

    Lanre
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    those who post picture on social media, are not an issue, not only just do the same thing as the ones not taking the picture does, but maybe ,even if it is for a frivolous reason, can encourage other to do it, so where is the harm in that? why someone discourage that?

    Celtic Pirate Queen
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was always told that if you sought validation for a good deed, it didn't count.

    Lene
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Before we had kids I would occasionally go with my bf on his fishing trips to the beach/sea. I don't fish but I quickly got into the habit of collecting trash on the beach while he was fishing. I think he was actually proud of me because sometimes I found a LOT! Now I only collect trash when I'm out with the stroller trying to get my youngest to nap. Lol.

    SelkieBlackfysh
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I actually did that 'challenge' where you find a natural space people dump a lot of trash and clean it up. Never took pics but I did it on a river out of a kayak. Sixty something bags of trash.. I admit I'm still a bit proud of that. Bet it's already a mess again though lol.

    Jocie (they/them)
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OH GOD I GOT IDENTITY THEFTED-

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    However, life is a complex entity and not everything is as easy as pursuing a moral state of happiness. It may seem obvious that one cannot respond to all appeals for help. This suggests that being a helpful person requires some thinking about what is most important in one’s life. So we should not expect helping behavior to be wholly consistent, given the complex situations in which persons find themselves. 

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    Albert Camus wrote in The Plague: “On the whole, men are more good than bad; that, however, isn’t the real point. But they are more or less ignorant, and it is this that we call vice or virtue; the most incorrigible vice being that of an ignorance that fancies it knows everything and therefore claims for itself the right to kill. The soul of the murderer is blind; and there can be no true goodness nor true love without the utmost clear-sightedness.” 

    #13

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered Admonishes people for being rude to wait staff. I was at a family dinner at a pub/restaurant years ago, and my sister was very rude to the waiter because her steak was overcooked or something, really went hard on him, and my brother's new girlfriend, who always seemed a shy and quiet person, told my sister to basically stop being a b***h and that the waiters didn't cook the food, and you're embarrassing all of us, everyone's looking at us etc. From that point on, I knew she was a good sort.

    Stratahoo , RODNAE Productions Report

    censorshipsucks
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also if they don't direct the criticism against someone, e.g. instead of "hey stop being a b***h", they say "it's better we are all kind to people as this particular error was not their direct fault."

    Brindle Nutter
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes the offending party needs to be called out.

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    Whiskey Tango Delicious
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Warm-hearted, I hope this person is still in your life.

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    #14

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered I used to have a riding instructor who, while not outwardly mean, was pretty firm and expected every student to heed her words. She never struck me as a bad person or anything, but I had never seen her show any love toward the horses. She didn't treat them poorly, she always watched for injuries, illnesses, a rock in their hooves, improper tack fit, etc, but she wasn't one to hug and kiss on the animals. She treated them kind of like tools, because, well, she paid a lot of money to buy those horses and even more money to get them into working shape, so naturally, she tried to get as much out of them as she could. There came a day when she called all the students, including myself, over to where she was sitting. We were told that the stable's most popular horse, Fiddle, had passed away the night before. Fiddle was the first horse I ever rode and he never gave anybody any issues, never a glare, a buck, a bite, nothing. Anyway, my instructor told us that the horse was clearly unwell and she called the vet. The vet had her take old Fiddle to the arena and try to get him to the center jump. Fiddle couldn't make it that far. He laid down and the vet euthanized him there. Fiddle was 18 and suffered kidney failure. I had never seen my instructor display any strong emotions, but she couldn't stop herself from tearing up. It became very clear that, while she may not have always shown it, she loved the c**p outta those horses. I later learned that my instructor would give Fiddle days off if it was really hot or if he gave her a look that said, "I can't do this today." She retired many months ago but still comes to the stables frequently. Sorry for the long story.

    Icy-Bee4242 , Oleg Didenko Report

    Owen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't be sorry, that's a beautiful story.

    Krissy
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Okay I really think this was a wonderful story but since when was c**p a bad word?

    Wysteria_Rose
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband didn't have much to do with our hedgehog, Stella Luna, but when she passed, he showed all the emotions with me when we buried her and had to say goodbye. It was then that he revealed that that was why he didn't want a lot of pets because you always have to say goodbye. I loved him even more that day to see how deeply he really cares about animals.

    Tammy Wait
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No need to say you are sorry for a beautiful memory.

    Virginia Brown
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's a lovely story, & I'm glad you shared it. It took me a long time to realize that just because some people don't show emotion easily, it doesn't mean they don't feel things deeply.

    El Dee
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can't see who people are on the inside, we only get glimpses..

    rose red
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    riding instructors are strict and sometimes even cold. but a lot of the time theyre so kind when you lok for it

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    #15

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered they don't ask question that might hurt other people. like "why ur not married yet?" or "why u don't have kids?"

    anon , RODNAE Productions Report

    Paul K. Johnson
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "No offense intended, but.... [says something offensive]."

    JosephTheBookCat
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "not to be [homophobic/racist/sexist/etc.] but... [something offensive]"

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    Hobby Hopper
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I sometimes ask questions I shouldn't, not because of any malice, but because I'm just curious about people. I'll realize after the fact what I've done and feel bad about it. I just hope people can sense I mean well.

    Natalie Bohrteller
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes people really think nothing of it, so it's better to educate them and make them aware how a question can hurt others (give them the benefit of the doubt). So it's not the question that makes them bad, but refusing to understand that questions can hurt.

    WindySwede
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Isn't it both though? If they understand they do not ask that question? If they don't understand/don't give a f**k, they do ask?

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    Chintan Shah
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This needs to be higher! I get asked this a bunch and it's like the reason I don't have kids is none of your business..

    Maltaros
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wouldn't it somewhat depend on the relationship between the two people and how they ask? The examples given would be generally rude as stated. However, a parent asking their child what happened to the person they were seeing because you know they were talking marriage might open a necessary conversation that the child has been putting off or holding onto so as not to deal with it.

    LuLuBelle
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People who are raised properly, to be civil, polite human beings, understand that it's rude to ask others deeply personal questions. If some barbarian asks an intrusive question you are well within your rights to give the a withering "I'm sorry, that's not a subject I care to discuss." You are in no way required to answer the questions of others, unless it's a valid work question while you're at work.

    corgiobsessed00
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The one that kills me is 'have you gone to the doctor to see why you're not able to have kids?' No, but I know exactly why I've had 2 miscarriages. Its because of my diabetes. It breaks me every time. Especially when they ask 'Are you sure they were miscarriages?' Considering the positive test and the fact I contemplated taking my own life the 2nd time (talked to a therapist on the 2nd one..) I'd say yes.

    DS Mom
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I use to get," Why didn't you get married when you found out that you were pregnant?" Because I didn't want to.

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    So what does this all mean? One thing is that a good moral character is not something that we can achieve on our own. Both other people and public institutions must lead with similar values in order for us to have the best chance at a virtuous life. But it shouldn’t be misconstrued with obedience. 

    Rachana Kamtekar, a professor of philosophy at Cornell University, states that “Goodness is expressed through loving, kindness, generosity of spirit and deed, and the thoughtful consideration of others. It can be as simple as offering to let someone ahead of you in line and as complicated as making yearlong sacrifices of your freedom because someone you love needs your help. Over the course of a lifetime, most of us do both.”

    As you continue scrolling through this list, make sure you’re upvoting your favorites, leaving comments along the way, and sharing your own thoughts on what makes one a good person. See you all in the next one! 

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    #16

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered They say “take your time”

    Waterak , cottonbro studio Report

    Hawkmoon
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depends on the situation. If they're waiting for you with a gun pointed at you to dig your own grave... Not so good.

    Viper Dogfish
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why? I'd rather take my time digging my grave than just make a basic hole in the ground 😁

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    Bobby
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I say this to my kids a lot. The two youngest are at that stage where they get so excited to tell their story that they start talking to fast and trip over their words

    Shannon K
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is something I appreciate so much! When my anxiety is very bad my words either don't come out for me at all or come out all jumbled up which makes me panic. When someone tells me to take my time I seem to be able to calm down and talk better.

    Gardener of Weeden
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honestly this is a big deal? LOL who knew I was a nice person? It is an automatic reaction when some one is busy... " i am in no hurry, or take your time. " It makes them actually seem to move, talk smoother and the flow seems better.

    Jennifer Phillips
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is huge on anything dealing with customers. Especially when super busy and dealing with AH customers.

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    Andrei Marentette
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    hurry up, choice is yours don;t be late

    Michael Largey
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When someone gives you time, he's giving you something he knows he can never get back.

    Chikin Nippls710
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a restaurant manager, hearing someone say "take your time" can turn the worst day around. More people need to understand that we are intentionally understaffed (by upper management) 99% of the time and have to do literally everything to run the restaurant most days.

    Maltaros
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The house is on fire and we need to get out but take your time.

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    #17

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered When someone is actually in trouble/needs help, they will help out, even if it's really subtle or disguised as something else. For instance, there was a kid in my school who had a reputation for not caring about others, doing whatever he wanted, and tried to convince everyone that he pretty much had "no emotions". I think he thought it made him seem more tough and hardcore, and although he didn't necessarily do anything bad to anyone, he tried not to seem kind either. Once, one of my friends at school had some sort of emergency where she needed (I think) $30. Most people in class either didn't have $30 (which was quite a bit for a kid to bring to school) to loan her, or they just didn't want to give it to her, thinking they would never get it back, and she was panicking. The teachers couldn't help her for some sort of legal reason (I think she wanted to take a Taxi to the hospital because something had happened to a family member but was slightly underage, and the teachers had to pretend that they had no idea she was doing this). So, this kid with the "reputation" collected money from all of his friends (since he didn't have the money himself), under the pretense of another reason - I think it was something like movie tickets or something for that evening. Then, he privately gave it to her, but told her not to tell anyone it was him (I was close friends with her and was actually standing right next to her when he approached us and told us this). She managed to get to the hospital on time, while he paid for the tickets or whatever with his own money once he got home. When she later offered to pay him back, he refused, insisting that he didn't do anything (I think he knew that her family would struggle to pay that back, they were having some financial trouble). I guess it's not extremely subtle in my case since I was standing RIGHT THERE, but that was the first time I began realizing how some people pretended to not be a good person when they actually were.

    AtlasNinja13 , Annie Spratt Report

    SeaLouse
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’ve got kinda the opposite type of story. Lent a kid a few dollars for ice cream, under the pretense that he would pay me back, he never did, and after asking about it a few times we became enemies, mostly him though. From sixth grade all the way through high school he tried to make everyone hate me, all over $3. He was also a very devout Christian type, which taught me a lot

    Lunar
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What kind of legal reasons the teacher is not allowed to help a student in need?

    Allan Breum
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Makes sense, showing that you care, especially as a young dude, can get you screwed over hardcore in so SO many ways.

    Lisa Stewart
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Most people in black with super heavy tattoos or lots of piercings....

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    #18

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered People who make excuses to do good deeds. Picking you up from the airport? "Oh, it was on my way." Buying you a beer? "I accidentally ordered two." Helping you move? "I need the work out! Now I don't have to go to the gym later!" Volunteering at an event? "I had nothing else going on tonight, I'm just here 'cause my buddy asked me to." Anyone who does a favor for you and then acts like you're doing them a favor, or brushes the favor off as nothing, is a person who is doing the good deed for the sake of it and not for the praise or clout they receive. These are the best kinds of people.

    IAlbatross , Elevate Report

    XenoMurph
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes it's nice to be told "Yea, of course I came, you needed a hand, and I went out of my way to help because you're my friend."

    Haywood Jablome
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some people like this are people-pleasers who can't help themselves and do these things at the expense of their own health

    Maltaros
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And sometimes this gets you taken advantage of. I usually do this kind of thing but if someone starts expecting me to drop everything and come running whenever they need something I have to draw the line. (Except for my wife, of course.)

    LuLuBelle
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's super annoying. It doesn't mean you're a good person at all, sorry. Sounds more like you have a serious self-esteem issue. You accidently bought 2 beers? Wtf? That doesn't even make any sense. Now not only are you a doormat, you're a lying doormat to boot.

    Autumn Artemis
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Where are my "it is physically impossible for me to say no to someone" people at

    DrBronxx
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This strikes me as a weird. Why try to hide being nice?

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    #19

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered They have really happy cats. Shows that they're caring and nurturing

    brickbaterang , Mel Elías Report

    john s
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My favorite genre of pinterest search is "old slavic women with cats who adore them." That's a rabbit hole I can fall down all day.

    Moosy Girl
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I tried to google that and it took me to „Babushka Cats That Look Like Old Russian Ladies”. >.<

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    Two_rolling_black_eyes
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Like people, some cats are just aloof. One of my favorite cats was Midnight. Didn't want anything to do with any of the people or the other two cats. Scritches were not appreciated. However, that cat was part border collie. It would herd every member of the house where they needed to be then go back and relax. Haven't done the dishes after dinner yet? -- meow at you until you were in the kitchen then go lay down in the empty bedroom.

    Shark Lady
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope I am making my cats happy and that I'm not just a human hot water bottle for them.

    Max M
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Then we are good persons. Our cat were in bad shape and short greasy fur. Now he have average length fur, fluffy, fur on the stomach, always with his tail up near us. We didn't want a cat until he stepped by and moved in.

    Greenmantle
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My cat demands nothing less. If I misbehave ai receive a thorough dressing down

    Appalachian Panda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    On the other hand, no matter how well they're treated, some cats are just surly.

    MeMosabe
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, I've noticed that cats aren't as forgiving as dogs.

    Devil'sAdvocate
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    yes, true. tho u can be a perfect mother/father to ur fur baby and still raise an adorable @sshole.

    Herkfixer
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lots of cat people are mean to humans.

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    #20

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered Someone who is willing to embarrass themselves in order to help someone else.

    Burrito_Loyalist , Brooke Cagle Report

    Prashant Karnath
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Does farting louder and longer than your pregnant wife in public count?? Asking for a friend

    Bobby
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I just read a story about Ted Danson pretending to fart on/around Jameela Jamil during the first season of The Good Place to make her laugh and calm down because she was really nervous about it. Maybe it's different for actors but that would embarrass me for sure

    Cee Sparrow
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Embarrassing like wearing those hideous slides in public?

    Sarah
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's me, the comic relief :D

    Fluffy mommy panda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've done this cause sometimes no one else wants to help an I'm generally worried about a situation.

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    #21

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered They are given a chance to quietly talk bad about someone, but instead, says something good.

    eF240uKX52hp , Brooke Cagle Report

    Megan Curl
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How is one “given a chance” to quietly talk bad about someone? Because, if you’re the one instigating that, YTA.

    Bobby
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not necessarily. "I can't believe Tim did that to me in the meeting today" "yeah, that was kinda mean, but totally out of character for him, wonder what's going on" maybe not nice per se, but there is no jump into the dis Tim bandwagon here and I have been part of/ hard conversations of a similar tone

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    Jj Lewis
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is always something good to find in everyone you just have to be willing to look

    GirlFriday
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always compliment people behind their back. It has earned me a great reputation in my career.

    Maltaros
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am often nicer to people behind their backs than to their face. I am not great at giving compliments and sometimes it comes off as creepy or weird. However, if I am talking about somebody behind their backs I am much better at phrasing things well.

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    #22

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered When someone is honest, even at the detriment of themselves. Ex they won't lie to save face

    ShmooelYakov , Arina Krasnikova Report

    Shannon K
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've gotten myself into a lot of trouble because I'd rather be honest about myself than try to save face. I have my faults like everyone else but dishonesty either about myself or lying to someone else is not two of them!

    CP
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have gotten in even more trouble by lying to save face. It was something I had to unlearn from my childhood. I want to honest, but I hate disappointing people. The truth is you double or triple disappoint people by not telling the truth.

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    Aroace tiger (she/they/he)
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I try my best to do this.. it's really difficult tho especially to my parents

    R Dennis
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I ordered 12 items online (okay, it was cans of Warhead soda!) a couple weeks ago and they accidentally sent 12 CASES! It was a relatively small company and I immediately messaged them. They sent me return shipping labels and told me I could keep a case. I refused because it was a small company and they were going to take a big loss on the shipping. The guy said he was surprised that I contacted them because most people wouldn't. I'd hope many people would do the right thing...

    David
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed. My friends / relatives know I will not lie for them or for me. I will not repeat something I'm asked not to repeat, but I won't tell a lie in place of that truth they don't want me to say.

    Jennifer Phillips
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Me too.....like I need try remember that ..... I have enough trouble remembering what day it is.

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    Miss Frankfurter
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My parents were very strict about not lying, even if it would end up getting myself in trouble. I may be, first, in trouble for what I did. Second, I’ll be in even bigger trouble for lying. Tell the truth. Just tell the truth.

    Poeha
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I didn't have to lie. You could just be honest. My mother was just sweet. I learned to lie when I got older, cause I had to, but it's tricky, cause you get good at it and it's bad when you don't have to do it, so now I have to do effort to not do it. Not saying something is not lying. I'm never gonna be a snitch. Ppl don't have to know everything, especially controlling ones, who are totally in the wrong and try to ruin ppl's lives. Corrie ten Boom said it was okay to lie sometimes. She had to learn how to lie. They hid Jews. But she also said that after the war she had gotten so used to it and now she had to do effort to not lie. My son once lied and I was like: oh my, sorry, was I such a controlling monster that you felt you had to lie? You can just be honest.

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    Dawnieangel76
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My grampa taught me to take the praise for a job well done, and the critique for a mistake, and use them BOTH from then on.

    Debbie
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not sure about this, things aren't that black or white. Someone's secret is not mine to share. If someone confided in je that he is gay, but the parents don't know yet, and then the parents straight up ask me if he is, or if he told me.

    Natalie
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "it's better to be hated for who you are then loved for who you are not"

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    #23

    When they actually respond/say something to homeless people asking for change instead of just ignoring/walking past them. A simple: “Sorry, man” or “Not today, sorry” Just an acknowledgement that they exist, instead of treating them as inanimate objects.

    Clavicula_Impetus Report

    Owen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I have time, I like to stop and talk to them for 5-10 minutes. I want to hear their story, and I'll give money if they're nice. I don't always have time, but I think the conversation and acknowledgement is sometimes worth more to them than cash.

    Chikin Nippls710
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I understand your premise but as someone who was homeless at one point, I just wanted to afford a pack of ramen from the dollar store. (Not so) fun fact, over half of the homeless population actually does work. It's the fact that they cannot afford a home.

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    Chewie Baron
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I was homeless, I never could ask for money or anything, it just went against everything in my head. But occasionally, when I was getting myself ready to sleep in a doorway or similar, some people would come by and give me a drink, or some food. Occasionally, I wake up and find some change placed very near me. Which was so thoughtful.

    Deborah Rubin
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This person wasn't homeless, I don't think, but he was playing an instrument at a metrorail stop and I was listening to him play. Other people stopped but just walked past, or didn't stop at all. As I had enough money to get home, I gave him most of what I had one me. His look of gratitude just made my day. I had been able to make someone else feel good. That's what matters.

    David
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I respond. But I think for some who don't it is out of self defense rather than "looking down" on the person for being homeless. Some of the panhandlers around her are pretty aggressive and if you engage them they pester you more. some folks get kind of freaked out by that or scared and so they try to avoid engaging.

    IronySairo
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am a short woman. I am absolutely terrified a drug addict is going to attack me any time someone walks up to me asking for something. I always cut them off with "no, thank you" regardless of why someone is walking up to me. I was also a trucker for a while and in training they beat it into you that you do not stop to help people because that's how you get murdered.

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    El Dee
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I have cash I give it. I don't ask why they are there, what they're going to do with it etc. It's enough that someone is sat on the pavement begging for money, no one's doing that and driving off in a sports car - no matter what The Daily Fail tells you..

    oddly_informed_raven
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was told not to give anything because they would just go off and spend it on drugs, but honestly, screw that. If that's what you need to get through another day, so be it.

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    censorshipsucks
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Our country (SA) is heavily digitised, we have almost abandoned cash except for people on the street. I specifically go to the bank each month to get coins for these guys because they don't carry card machines.

    Sheena Leversedge Wood
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    my husband is the sweetest person I know. and the number of times he's taken off jumpers he's wearing to give to homeless people, or, because we don't often carry much cash, asked "can I go in that shop and get you something?" he came to pick me up from a work Christmas do and he had just a t shirt on and said while he was waiting he stopped for a chat with a homeless guy, gave him his jumper and asked if he could get him something, and the guy said he wanted a bottle of coke. he went in and got two two litre bottles and a pastie for him. he's the best person I know. that's why I married him.

    Dina Anastasakos
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OMG...this! It costs nothing to be nice, but can mean the world to the other person.

    R Dennis
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It depends on where you are... I don't engage them in Paris - they are mostly professionals.

    Oddly Me
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So are many of them in the US. Panhandling can pay better than most jobs you can get with a college degree.

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    Mariele Scherzinger
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You could start by simply saying "hello" to them.

    Sheena Leversedge Wood
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    exactly. or at least, looking them in the eye and apologising if you haven't got any change on you. they're still people, and deserve to be treated like people. I remember one guy we had a chat with, he pointed over a hedge to his tent (it was in a sort of planted up area around a retail park) and we had a really nice chat. had no cash on us, but went into Poundland and got him some socks, gloves, a thermal hat, a crossword book and pens and some snacks, wipes and drinks. it didn't cost us a lot, but I hope we made him feel seen as a real person, AND gave him a few basic comforts to keep him comfortable and pass the time. he was really grateful.

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    #24

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered Someone who's always quiet but raises their concern when they feel it's against theirs or someone's will.

    abtikamot , ELEVATE Report

    Carrie Laughs
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They all got the 'wear something blue today' message 😜

    TrippyBanana
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's how I lost my last office job, but I'd do it again in a heart beat. No one lays a hand on my sister even if my step-dad is my boss. He got in my face after and I pushed him out of my face and left. I'd never felt so angry and confident in what I was doing.

    the shrimp whisperer
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i do this just wish i wasnt otherwise a quiet pushover

    Andrei Marentette
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm kind of like this, but it's for people who are depressed

    #25

    My best friend comes off kinda cold at times to others, I’ve always seen him for how warm he really is, just shy. But I always notice that anywhere he goes and if there are pets, they are like magnets to him.

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    MeMosabe
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes. Animals can tell. My wife doesn't particularly care about animals, but she's very sweet and kind, so animals are always attracted to her. It annoys her a little, but I just smile, because the animals know.

    Sweet_Dee
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's my husband. This big gruff dude, but no matter where we go (Zoo, petting farm, friends house, dog park etc) every animal loves him, even donkeys and pigs.

    Jennifer Phillips
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Husband for sure...HUGE cat magnet..... The cat neighborhood knows what time he home cuz there a dozen cats following h around and watching him.....we have one - a grumpy guy who is not always thrilled with how popular Dad is.

    Heather Vandegrift
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My boyfriend is an animal magnet! My Chiweenie barks at EVERYONE new who comes in the apartment... Except the first day he walked in with me! Not a peep! My sister's dogs too! Heck, her dog's bark at her HUSBAND when he comes home, but not my boyfriend!

    R Dennis
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Animals love my family. It's because the they know we are feral.

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    #26

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered Probably a boring answer, but I have this friend who I can just tell is really sincere when he asks how I’m doing. I appreciate anyone asking because it’s a convenient conversation starter, but with him I can tell he actually cares what the answer is.

    zackboy789 , Oleksandr Pidvalnyi Report

    Matthews
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is sadly rather rare. It took me a while to understand most people use it as a part of the greeting rituals, and are not the least interested in knowing anything about how I actually happen to be at the time.

    Halestorm
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is actually something I had to get used to in the other sense— where I live, it’s very much a courtesy question, but I’ve made a number of friends from other countries (I live in the US) and they’ve had to explain to me that when they ask how I’m doing, they don’t want the short courtesy answer. They’re genuinely curious. Amazing culture difference!

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    Peppy
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s not boring, you’re right most people just ask out of politeness, true friends really care about the answer

    Auntriarch
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm fine thank you Tiger, I have a fire lit by my best beloved, a glass of wine and a comfortable sofa. And yourself? You can always tell Aunty

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    ️️Upvote faery️
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hate that this is usually a courtesy question. If I ask how you're doing and you give me some BS "I'm good, you?" type of response, I know you're not being honest with me and I'll likely end the conversation soon. Unless, when I press a little more, you decide I'm actually asking, because I am actually asking. It's an invitation to talk and if you don't want to talk, I'll move on.

    TrippyBanana
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've always told my friends. I may not be available right away, but if you need to vent or just talk to me send me a text or reach out on messenger I'll see it and respond. I will always try to get back to you because I do care.

    the shrimp whisperer
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i also do this. i also ask questions that read like i got em off a conversation starters website but its just random questions i have lol

    IamMe
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It took me so long to realize that people just wanted me to respond with "Fine. And, you?" I didn't get diagnosed with Asperger's until I was 30. Smalltalk is hard for me. Being that I'm also very unlikely to talk to people I don't know without a good reason, it's really not so bad.

    Aaron Matye
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am like this guy, but I'm never able to tell the truth when I'm asked. I really care whenever I ask someone, but I know everyone feels like they can't always tell the truth, even if the person asking actually cares.

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    #27

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered I've discovered that often what *appears* to be indifference is actually an internal struggle of, "I am extremely concerned about this but I don't think that it's any of my f*****g business or requires my intervention."

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    Matthews
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Paradoxical as it might be, genuinely caring too much can be paralyzing. This is surely not the only case, but in these circumstances, there are so many considerations about an important thing that you enter fight/flight/freeze mode. Since many who feel such a deep concern may freeze for being unable to solve the issue, this can appear as indifference, but it keeps coming back to mind mightily, showing it’s just the opposite.

    the shrimp whisperer
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    me, worried about random wars going on that i have absolutely nothing to do with

    SelkieBlackfysh
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    On the flip side, some people get really upset over certain things because it's a violation of what they hold dear. Example: Seeming unreasonably angry about drivers who don't signal intent or cut you off dangerously. Had a friend like that. Found out later his dad got killed by such a driver so it was a deeply personal matter.

    #28

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered When they wait and hold the door open for you.

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    MarieL
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was raised to to this an a common courtesy to others, and am amazed how few people practice this.

    R Dennis
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have gotten dirty looks for holding the door sometimes. Hey lady! I'm not hitting on you! I hold it for everyone...

    Owen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In the opposite, if they let it close in your face.

    Training for the ballet potteh
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    that happend to me once. I was walking into a store and a lady was holding a door open for me and i thought "oh thats nice of her" and then just as i was about to go through i said "thank you" and she slammed it in my face. Some people are just mean.

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    ILoveMySon
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I taught my son to hold doors for others when he was a toddler. The first time he recognized an automatic door he was confused and inquired, "What do I do now, Mommy?" Poor little tyke, the struggle was real. As an adult, he still opens doors for others. Phew.🙂

    NickTheDuck
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

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    #29

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered They don't brag.

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    rararando
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Because they don't have to!

    Training for the ballet potteh
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    yeah some people say om noce because i dont brag but i dont have anything to brag about. lol.

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    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered When folks are piling on jokes on teases on someone that they don't know very well and the person quietly raises a point of kindness or empathy. It's so easy to be mean spirited, especially in group settings. It's harder to be kind in those situations.

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    Kris
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love when people are kind :)

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    #31

    They give credit to people who are not in the room.

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    #32

    When you tell them a secret and they keep it secret

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    ObsidianAce_
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My band director once gave me audition results a few days before they were officially posted, and said “please don’t tell anyone yet”. The next day he was talking to my parents about it, who had no idea what he was talking about… because I hadn’t told them…

    El Dee
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't expect people to keep secrets. In fact sometimes telling someone to keep something secret can make them NEED to tell someone. Everyone will tell at least one other person to 'get it off their chests' So when I want something kept secret I don't tell anyone..

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    #33

    My friend came up to me and said "I need to vent, but I know work is stressful for you right now, is it ok if I unload on you?" The fact that she had the awareness and was kind enough to realize that I don't necessarily always have the mental fortitude to take on her problems as well as my own shook me to the core. I try to do this whenever I need to vent to a friend now.

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    #34

    I love it when people are good deceptively. Like when they give you the shoes you’ve been wanting but can’t afford because “they were the wrong size and it’s too late for me to take them back” or when they claim they found $20 in your couch cushions but you know it’s from their own wallet. The kind of lying that’s to keep people from thanking them is the best kind of lying there is.

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    A Something
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I go see my moush I slip a note into one of her coat pockets. Hopefully when she puts it on she just thinks she’s forgotten putting it in there. But we grew up poor and I know trying to get her to accept anything face to face is hard for her, even gifts! That’s my little way of giving back

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    #35

    Recently my boss and I were waiting for a train in London, I see him hurrying back up the stairs. He had seen a woman on her own approaching the stairs with a pushchair and instinctively dashed up to assist her. Must have been 50 people around us that either didn't see or didn't care enough to act.

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    Fluffy mommy panda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This would be me I just have to help people when it comes to things like this. Because I know how it feels and I'd want someone to possible help me someday.........

    Chewie Baron
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I will ALWAYS help mothers with pushchairs.

    #36

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered Had a teacher growing up that was came across as very strict and standoffish, gave off this air of "learn the material or fail." In reality though, he would answer any questions you had, even if it was being repeated, was incredibly patient, and would stay as late as he needed to in order to make sure the students understood the material. If a majority of the class bombed a test he would address it with the class to understand what went wrong, and would redo the material if needed. Looking at him or just popping by his class, you'd think he'd be a typical hardass, but in reality he cared immensely about making sure we understood our lessons and were prepared for the next year.

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    #37

    My ex wife's father was diagnosed with a stage 4 cancer. About 2 months before he passed, my in-laws' apartment burned down. No renter's insurance, almost everything went up in smoke due to electrical fire. They moved in with us. Right around same time my AC went, so I called a friend of a friend and he came out to look at AC. Did a $800 or so job and we were just shooting s**t and I told him casually about the fire. He wouldn't take a penny and told me to use the money to buy something for her parents at their new place. Bedding, whatever stuff they needed. Wouldn't take the money, full stop. I used the money for their security deposit on the place. None of our so called 'close' friends did such thing. No one bothered to even ask how they can help. About 6 months later, he invited us to his birthday party. We went and I said a toast, telling everyone how good of a person he was. I had a hard time finishing the toast, because almost everyone choked up. Except my ex, who looked at me like I was scum. When we got home, she said: "I was so embarrassed you were singing him praises. You don't even know this man and yet it was like you were trying to climb up his a*s. You're pathetic." It didn't matter what the did, apparently, because I put out the cash. The fact that I was going to pay that money to him and he didn't take it, giving it to her parents apparently didn't matter So here are the two opposites. No regrets.

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    Paul K. Johnson
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your ex sounds like mine who started a full-on fight because I gave money back to a worker at McDonald's drive-thru who gave me a few bucks too much change. That's when I fully realized my ex was a totally garbage person.

    Pensive_Panda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Happened to me, too. One time I ordered pizza & when the driver got there he gave me two. I said, "No, I only ordered one" & he was so thankful, said he could have gotten fired. When I walked inside, my ex totally yelled at me for being so stupid that we could have gotten a fee pizza. No, dude. Just no.

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    #38

    An old friend of mine is complete gym freak, womaniser and used to get into his fair share of fights on nights out. One night there was a guy in a wheelchair on his own trying to have a good night but was struggling to get around, and also due to his disability was struggling to talk to bar staff and order. My friend befriended him and proceeded to make sure he had the best night ever. He made space for him on the dance floor, ordered his drinks and made sure he got home safe too. He puts on this big persona of being a "lad" but I know he showed his true colours that night. He still goes on nights out with the guy in the wheelchair.

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    censorshipsucks
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Interesting. Thanks for breaking a stereotype in my head.

    #39

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered I was at school with a guy who was the king of the cool kids. He was always getting busted for breaking school rules (drinking, smoking, bad mouthing the teachers and so on). In fact, he did a bit of jail time later (for non-violent low-level drug dealing). I was the uber-geek of the school. I didn't get bullied as such, but I remember one time that his cool-gang kids were ribbing me a bit too much, and he stepped in and told them to cool it, and a bit later, when I won the school academic prize, he went out of his way to sincerely congratulate me. In fact, a few years later (and after the jail time) he became pretty well known as a TV personality and had his own show, where he was generally lauded as giving the impression of being a really nice guy (which, in this case, he was).

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    Hobby Hopper
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This kinda reminds me of a high school classmate of mine. He was a clown for sure but extremely smart. I don't mean academically, because I don't know what his grades were like, but he was really witty and quick with a joke. He wasn't really a part of the cool crowd - the preppy kids you could tell were well off. He came across more as a bit of a freak, the kind that listens to hard rock and might even dabble in drugs, but he just kind of floated between cliques and mostly got along with everyone. I was really quiet and awkward, and there were multiple occasions that he made a point to include me or give me a compliment.

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    #40

    You must actually catch them in action, because they will not call attention to themselves in any way. They're the ones who allow others to merge in traffic or stop short of a commercial driveway to let a car out into traffic. They'll see a cart abandoned in the lot, walk to it, and take it into the store to use. They'll bring coupons from home that they won't use and place them on the market shelves for others. They'll call the cashier by name, engage them in conversation rather than play with their phone, and make them smile.

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    Robert Craig
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agree with everything, But, the coupons , as a retail worker the coupons on the shelf get thrown away when you're straighting up the shelf, it's better to ask other customers if they can use it.

    Brenda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Many grocery stores have bulletin boards for local people to post things. I've seen some that have a coupon box or envelope. Take what you can use, leave ones can't

    #41

    Not being judgy towards other peoples choices. They hear other people out and built an opinion that takes into consideration, where the person is coming from.

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    Fluffy mommy panda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Look at from all sides and stand in there shoes for a moment not hard when you've been there or had a family member there.

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    #42

    You can see that they are happy for other’s success

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    #43

    they say they are not a good person, and can give you examples of times they have done things wrong. truly bad people cannot admit to or even recognize when they have done wrong. This is basically the "what are your strengths and weaknesses?" question in job interviews. If they say I have no weaknesses and I never do wrong, chances are they are a sociopath. It's more likely than them actually being perfect.

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    Fluffy mommy panda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or they just want to pass the freaking interview I aways try to be honest as much as I can but......it very hard during an interview because you don't know what that gonna mean for the job.

    GirlFriday
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think that someone is a good person when they can admit that they are wrong and take responsibility for it.

    Owen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is true.

    #44

    People who pick up nails and screws in parking lots so others do not get flats. Real MVPS

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    #45

    A person who brings their shopping cart to the cart coral when they are done with it.

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    Annik Perrot
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In France it wouldn't be a sign. Here you have to put à coin in the cart to get it, and bring it back to recover your coin 😊

    Fluffy mommy panda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do this.......I've carted before it ant fun

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    #46

    Being quiet, polite and willing to help. Or anyone who isn’t self centered generally leans to being a good person.

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    #47

    The chair of my department at my university scared the s**t out of me. He was very stern and looked angry to the untrained eye. His class was notorious for being insanely difficult, and I tried to avoid him the first two years of school. I think he tried to curate an air of authority, but I’m not entirely sure he meant for it to be so… effective. And then… I had to get him to sign something for independent research on a Friday. I walked into the pod and “Party in the USA” was playing. He was dancing in his office when I walked up to the doorway. With a fully straight face and little no affect in his voice, he said, “I see you aren’t dancing! That’s alright, I believe it’s your first Top 40 Friday. However, I expect to see some dancing next time. Do you have something for me to sign?” And that’s when I learned that he was Just *Like That*. He was frozen in a stern expression, with a naturally cranky sounding voice, but didn’t really feel that way most of the time. Another time I was at an honor’s gathering, chatting with a group of people. Adjacent to us, Dr. Department Chair was chatting with some students. One of them asked a question, and I leaned in to answer it. He very sternly said, “You. Get over here and join this conversation. You do not need to hesitate to jump into this group.” It was a very pushy way of saying “Hey, you are valuable to this conversation and I want you to know that you are allowed to participate.” A year later, a symposium for the department had free pizza for all attending. He was running around for the last 30 minutes informing *all* of students present that there was *still* pizza and he was going to get in *so* much trouble with his wife if he brought too much of it home again. “Miss Hashbrown, you have been manning your poster for over an hour. Are you *sure* you’ve had enough to eat? If any of you are secretly hungry and just being polite, I will know! The department only has a few events a year, and I want everyone to leave them well fed.” Still very stern, very serious, but *very* intent on all of us having a full dinner (and not spoiling his wife’s upcoming dinner and lunch plans with leftover pizza).

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    corgiobsessed00
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    RBF is real. They're sometimes the sweetest funniest people.

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    #48

    They acknowledge a comment made in a group that nobody else does. By either addressing it or locking eyes w the person who made it and letting them know

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    #49

    When they do yard work or snow removal for a an older or disadvantaged neighbor regularly all under the guise of keeping up the curb appeal or property values of the neighborhood

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    #50

    You can see the fear/pain in their eyes when others get hurt.

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    WindySwede
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And feel it in the body when you see someone get hurt! Even just in movies or real on video!

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    #51

    One who does good and genuinely does not realize. It’s these people I feel are almost inherently good. Doing good comes to them as a second nature. They’re rare, but they do exist.

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    #52

    When they notice subtle signs you become tense or uncomfortable and they either back away or ask if they did anything to cause it.

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    #53

    When they're not insecure about their partner's success. My mom earns quite a bit more than my dad. My relatives are all of the typical Indian 'old fashioned mindset'. I mean they still think that my dad 'letting' my mom work is ridiculous. On top of that, the fact that she earns more than him is like a very common statement I've seen people use to make fun of my dad. But not once did he ever care about it. In fact, he even brings it up himself sometimes, and happily tells people that my mom earns more than him. He's not perfect by any means, but that's one thing about him I'm really proud of. AND it taught me a valuable lesson which I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have learned otherwise, based on the mindset of a LOT of my colleagues/friends/classmates.

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    Auntriarch
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is a man at the forefront of civilization

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    #54

    They yield to people that approach an elevator first, hold doors, and are pleasant/patient with people in the service industry.

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    #55

    People who don't mock others for problems they're going through, basically; they avoid belitteling others despite having numerous opportunities to do so esp in family/large gatherings.

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    #56

    Not exactly subtle but someone who learns to communicate with foreigners in their native language. Every little bit helps.🤷‍♂️

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    #57

    They say they “don’t like helping people” but they continue to help others, and go for a job/occupation that is centered around helping/protecting others. My best friend is like that. She is in the military more specifically the National Guard, and always stands for what’s right, and helps others. She cares about other people more than she does herself, and will go above, and beyond to help someone/be there for them, and keep them safe despite her saying “I don’t like helping people”. Her helpful actions are what led to her becoming my best friend, and I’ve had her in my life since middle school. I’ve never met a more pure perfect human being than her.

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    #58

    Definitely the way they treat animals. My husband went through a lot of a trauma and in order to break free of his "people pleaser" mode, he kind of turned into an a*****e. But seeing how gentle he is with animals/children and how much he loves them, I knew he still had a soft heart. He still struggles with being assy to protect himself but he's definitely shown more of his loving side over the years. On the flip side. I had a family member who loved to pretend they were a "good person" but abused and neglected their pets or at least yelled at them constantly when we were around. After a while we realized they had a mean heart.

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    Auntriarch
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope he reaches equilibrium soon, he deserves it

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    #59

    They keep themselves locked away in their emotion and refused to take anything from anybody, but at the end of they day would give everything they have to someone who needs it more. Idk why reading this hit my heart..

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    #60

    Being Patient with someone who is new to anything. New hobby? Yep. New Job? Yep. New Home? Yep.

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    #61

    Often introverts get overlooked or people assume we are not interested or don't WANT to participate. It's just that we hold back. Sometimes it's that we need the space to contribute. Sometimes it is that we feel we don't have anything further to add. It doesn't mean we are not engaged.

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    #62

    When they realize you need help just by a look in your eyes and then actually help you.

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    #63

    When someone is in a high position of leadership, but knows everyone's name - without an agenda. I had a CEO once who was like this. He had the reputation of being a stern, emotionless man. But, he made the effort of knowing everyone's name in our building (about 80 people) without making a show about it. He would always address you by your name when speaking to you and would do the small things like pass you in the hallway and say "Hey [name], good to see you".

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    V
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I worked for someone like this. Must've had a photographic memory as he knew the name of every single employee in the company, knew if they changed locations or position and could converse with employees in several languages.

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    #64

    They don't f*****g care. I mean that. You screwed up. You did something wrong. They don't f*****g care you're human. They've been there. Then they don't f*****g care if you saw them be nice/do something. They did it because its the RIGHT THING TO DO

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    #65

    When they simply *do* things that benefit / helping others without telling everyone that their about to do that thing. If you're announcing it, you're doing it for the praise and attention. If no one knows it was you, it's for others.

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    #66

    I have this friend that’s pretty hard. Been through a lot since a young age, and if you saw him at night you might cross the road (big Ukrainian dude, few tats, buff as hell and wears wife beaters a lot). I know he’s a good person cuz I’m close to him, but most other people seem to pick up on it when they see how he talks to service workers. He’s always as respectful as possible and even tries to fake a smile sometimes. Also, his demeanor noticeably changes if he sees he’s making someone uncomfortable. He can’t really help the scary a*s resting look he has but switches up consciously if someone looks unnerved.

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    Ann T
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s a man’s undershirt. Tank top style. Not sure where these others got their explanations from.

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    #67

    They don't chime in when others are talking badly about other people.

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    #68

    they ask questions that sound more curious than judgemental

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    #69

    People who see you struggling with multiple items or a heavy item and offer to help carry something to relieve you a bit

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    #70

    Helping others for the sake of helping them without expecting anything in return.

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    #71

    Doing kind things and not taking credit or posting for internet karma.

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    #72

    When said person is in need and won't ask for help but are the first to give the shirt off their back for you.. or simply show respect to the elderly. That s**t goes far in my book

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    #73

    Ooo the reverse of people who act like they care but their actions prove otherwise. People who act like they’re judgmental, selfish, lack compassion, etc. but their actions show that they are the opposite. When it counts, they do things that really matter and make a positive impact.

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    #74

    It’s called being humble.

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    #75

    When someone doesnt split people into 'good person' or 'bad person', aside from psychopaths or whatever else 1% group of people, everyone is good sometimes, bad sometimes, depending on lifes situations. People should be split into joyful or miserable, optimistic or pessimistic, when someone has that good energy about them, being kind and happy and playful OR when someone is always pessimistic, judgemental without information, sad and enjoying being sad, etc. Basically people should be judged about their outlook on life, the aura they give off, how they act when nobody else is watching, etc. Not how they describe themselves or what virtue signalling they engage in.

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    #76

    Someone Asked “What’s A Subtle Sign That Someone Is A Good Person But Doesn’t Want To Show It?” And 30 Folks Delivered People who can always find the good in a situation, no matter how s****y.

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    Mabelbabel
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not so sure about this one. Toxic positivity can be very undermining. Not allowing a person to express situationally appropriate negative emotions (grief, anger, despair etc) invalidates their feelings. Someone relentlessly demanding that you look on the bright side, or makes thoughtless comments like 'worse things happen at sea" and when "life gives you lemons.." type clichés makes you feel as though you're being dismissed, that your reaction is wrong in some way.

    Random Dent
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had a boss like that, positive to the point of delusional. He wasnt trying to be toxic, but it was exhausting. On the other hand I have a friend who somehow manages to be positive without being dismissive. One of the best people I know 🙂

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    #77

    Surprising others with gifts but not necessarily things (also nice gestures) and having no need to brag about doing it

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    #78

    When someone does some big brain moves that’s helpful to everyone, but doesn’t like the attention

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    #79

    When they do the right thing against all odds.

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    #80

    Donates to charities / people for a good cause without talking about it.

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    #81

    He or she treats your waiter with respect while on a first date.

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    #82

    If they pay for, like, a small meal, like a pizza, or a small amount of weed or something, and just go “Hey man dont worry about paying me back”. I try to do that when Im not REALLY poor.

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    #83

    Misdirection but not in a malicious way. I worked with a guy who excelled at portraying himself as unstable. He did this because in his job it was easier to have people think you were a little unbalanced because they would not only leave you alone unless they had to deal with you generally but would also do what you told them just to get away from you faster. The reason he got away with it was because he produced. You could drop him into any situation and it would get fixed. Some of his closer associates would play 'victim' to his 'unstable' actions and word would spread. That is how he kept up the illusion. The twist is he would do anything for anyone if they asked nicely. The catch was he literally tell them to not mention him or the thing he did for them to anyone. The man was a ghost, working in the shadows, and it was all a long con.

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    censorshipsucks
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So he was in I.T. Basically this is every iT guy.

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    #84

    Doesn’t gossip.

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    #85

    The person who asks, "How are you?" and genuinely wants to know, giving responses that show understanding.

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    #86

    For me it's a combination of things. Speaking up for someone who is not present, listening, empathy.

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    #87

    Look at them at moments when they don’t expect you to. You might see a gentle smile on their face. Honestly, it’ll make your day.

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    #88

    one day you realize that, whenever you talk to this person, they don't talk about themselves incessantly and actually show an interest in *your* life too.

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    #89

    They quietly listen, and wait til you're finished speaking to respond.

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    #90

    Do good things. Then grumble obscenely before, during, and afterwards.

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    #91

    They don't announce to the world all of their good deeds. They just do them.

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    #92

    When they *could* pick up Thor's hammer but chooses not to.

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    #93

    When they try to shoo away the little bluebirds circling around them.

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    Charlie the Cat
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I welcome the little bluebirds. But then I am a cat.

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    #94

    When you're in bed with them and they're about to go down on you and they say "get comfy for me?" before going to town. <3

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    #95

    Nice try Sociopath

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