People With ‘Street Smarts’ Are Sharing Advice That Can Save People In Dangerous Situations (40 Tips)
Growing up downtown as opposed to a quiet suburb is a vastly different experience. We could spend hours debating the pros and cons of urban life but let's leave that discussion for another time and focus on something different instead. 'Street smarts.'
We at Bored Panda discovered a few posts on Reddit (one by u/breadedsnake and another by u/ForcupinePucker) with a very similar angle: both OPs asked users to share tips that can help people stay safe in the city. And since some of the entries are so useful, we thought why not combine them into a compilation? You never know when you might need them!
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Street smarts to give your kids: if you get lost, find the closest adult with kids.
I saw this in action once at Disneyland when a 4 year old kid approached me and my kiddos while we were eating. She joined us very calmly, introduced herself, and said her parents gave her the above advice. I heard her parents shouting her name not long after, and the relief on their faces was a sight.
my brother gave his sons the same advice and he also wrote their names, his name and his phone number on a plastic card which the boys wore on a necklace when we visited an amusement park. if we lost them/they lost us, they should found another parent/other kids with parents and tell them to call us :) it wasn't necessary but we felt more safe that way
it's very common here to give kids bracelets with that info on.
Load More Replies...And always remember what your kid is wearing and shout that about, "I have lost a little boy wearing a blue t-shirt and red shorts etc".
Also take a quick photo of them when you arrive - looks like fun for the kiddies but shows exactly what they look like.
Load More Replies...I put a gps tracker in their pockets while at tivolis and such. If they get lost I can see where they are in my phone.
A little girl approached me and my little boy once in a hardware store and told me she couldn't find her dad. Poor thing was trembling with fear but I could hear the resolve I her voice. We found her dad a couple minutes later and after the relief dad was so very proud of his baby. Melted my heart.
My advice to my kids is to talk to nearest person that wears a name-tag, since people with name-tags are most likely working at the place where my kids would get lost. They are more likely to have access to loud speekers or know any other routines for this kind of incidents.
When me and my family went to disney for my 5th birthday, I had a pink bracelet with my parent's names and phone number's along with my godfather's name and phone number for in case I got lost or something happened
If I'm in an unfamiliar city, I'll explore freely every neighbourhood as long as there are women and kids around. Most mums don't hang outside with their kids if the street/area is unsafe.
This worked very well for most throughout Latin America, Europe and Asia.
Tricky for some certain countries, bc mom and her kids will be the ones robbing you...
I was going to say the same thing. I’ve been through some of the worst neighborhoods in America and there are still woman and children outside.
Load More Replies...I grew up on a rough estate, plenty of mums and kids hanging around and gossiping and smoking around, most of the women were worst than the blokes, this is not at all fool-proof.
This seems to imply there are lots of "unsafe" neighborhoods in Europe. I can honestly not think of even one where I haven't felt safe as a woman alone (and as a European myself, I've been to almost every major city, except for some more eastern European countries).
As a Mediterranean European myself, I agree we're not a full hazard, but indeed we have problems. There's pickpocketing, mafia, drug problems, drunken violence, neo nazzis, crazy randomers on whatever trip they are etc. I honestly feel safer in S. Korea. As a woman.
Load More Replies...I'm better at it now, as I shed the indoctrination of my narcissistic upbringing, but I was taught to ignore my intuition, since it wouldn't serve the evil people, so my gut instinct is fairly dulled. I was never safe at home, so that having become my daily norm & baseline, I tend not to notice unsafe people, unless it's super-obvious. I'm from LA, which is car central, and it was on my bucket list to learn how to use public transportation, so I went through a bus & train phase in my late-30s.I noticed that when I stepped in, the sole woman onboard looked INSTANTLY relieved. I knew that it was because she felt safer w/ another woman there.
Never venture into an area where there is no one. particularly to use a cash machine.
Yeah! But usually it's with families or tourists area where you feel safe..
From the first day of his presidency to his campaign for reelection, Donald Trump has been shouting about crime in the United States. Trump vowed to end “American carnage” in his inaugural address in 2017 and in 2020, he ran for reelection on a platform of “law and order.”
But according to the Pew Research Center, it's difficult to say for certain how much crime is there in the U.S. The two primary sources of government crime data – the Federal Bureau of Investigation (FBI) and the Bureau of Justice Statistics (BJS) – both paint an incomplete picture.
Adults DO NOT ask children for help.
This is important and needs to be made common knowledge in schools. However, this should not be a blanket "if an adult shouts for help, ignore them" rule. It is perfectly reasonable to ask kids to go get another adult for help in the case of a medical emergency. No adult should APPROACH a child in any case, but yelling "hey, kid, get your mum to call an ambulance for this guy!" is not an unreasonable or suspicious request.
Common knowledge in homes. Quit making schools responsible for everything. The schools' function is transmission of academic knowledge.
Load More Replies...I’m amazed at the dissenting opinions on here. If you ask my kid to help to reach something and he feels uncomfortable or he doesn’t want to talk to you about birthday presents for your nephew I would rather run the risk of him being considered rude than him take the risk of you being a bad guy. Keep in mind some of the most prolific murderers used “help me” and “look at this picture of my kid” to lure their victims into senses of security (true story look it up). And “call 911” is not the same as come over here and help me.
This seems overly simplistic. I can think of tons of scenarios where you absolutely should ask children for help. I've personally asked children for directions (pre-google maps) when no adults were around.
On the whole, I would say that it's a good rule. However, there may be the exception. When looking for my cat, I showed her picture to some kids outside and they pointed to where they had last seen her (I found her right away). However, I did *not* ask for help finding her: that looks really suspicious, plus I don't want to deal with kids I don't know. So I'd say that talking to adults depends on the child keeping a safe distance and that going with an adult is a no-no.
Load More Replies...When I was in grade 6 and a crossing guard a man pulled up in a car asking for directions, I ignored , he opened the passenger door and put down a map, what I saw was a knife under the map. I was taking steps back and I saw a friend I started screaming, the guy got scared off yelling at me to stop, but sped off , the mistake he made was he had made a u turn and while he did that I run to the street and remembered his plate. Police came ,I gave them info and was told later because I thought of getting the plate he was caught and he was a suspect for rape and murder of young boys in my city. I guess I looked like a boy in my winter hat and winter clothes. Till this day I have the newspaper clippings of how a hero child helped police catch a serial rapist and killer.
My children and I have always had a "safe word". Whenever an adult would approach them, especially telling them "your mum send me to....etc", they would ask the adult for the safe word. No safe word, no contact. Kids have grown up but we still have the same safe word. Comes in handy nowadays with all the online scamming etc.
I only ask children if THEY need help in a suspicious situation. (Like when an old man insulting and shouting at a young 6 year old Turkish boy and no parent in sight. Sat beside the boy till the guy vanished out of sight.)
This seems like it would vary depending on the country you're in - I've been to lots of countries where people ask children for help with errands or information. It's also not unusual for people to ask children for directions in any country if they're about.
men never ask for directions either.... I someone stops and he is alone or with other males, keep your distance.
If the situation doesn't feel right, it's not right. Trust your spidey sense.
I had a habit of going to Cocoa Beach by myself to escape my bad boyfriend. I was only 18 and had a creepy guy follow me to the public showers. I followed a woman and her husband to the parking lot. She looked annoyed at me, this was '91 and I was shy but her husband quickly realized what was going on and acted like I was with them. The man went the other way immediately and the couple walked me to my car. If a young woman suddenly joins your group she may need help. Protect her. She's not hitting on your husband, she might be terrified.
I know so many women who dismissed their “spidey sense” and ended up in trouble. When a friend got into an elevator and there was a guy in there she was concerned about, she stayed. She said she did not want to insult him by leaving. My instant reply was WTF!?!? Talk to yourself out loud if you must, make up an “oh s**t, I forgot something” scenario about leaving something back at the place you just came from if you are so worried about impressions. TBH, most people are not going to associate your turning back as a personal affront to them. Don’t rationalize away your intuitions, stay safe, stay alive
Don't get high/stoned/drunk, either. That tends to knock your spidey senses out of commission. Try that for a common-sense tip.... No? Yeah, well, gave it a try.
Back in the Eighties my girlfriend/now wife and I spent a few days staying in London doing touristy things. Days spent in museums and sight seeing, nights, bars and restaurants. One night we were going from bar to bar and must have taken a "wrong" turn. We went into a rather gloomy pub and immediately every eye was on us, the silence was deafening, the "locals" looked like they were either best friends or enemies of the Krays. We each had one very small drink and were out the door in about three minutes. I don't think anyone spoke all the time we were in there. We retraced our steps and headed for some colourful bright lights.
That's like a scene from American Werewolf in London. Holy Sh!t.
Load More Replies...Yes! And even when it's not, the worst that'll happen is you feel a bit embarrassed by overreacting. The worst case scenario if your gut is right and you ignore it is so much worse.
Load More Replies...Too many people ignore "gut instinct". I think your subconscious has noticed something dangerous and is screaming a warning for your body to act until your conscious mind catches up. Trust it, and don't worry about being 'nice' if it's a person setting off your alarm. It's saved me twice now.
u/breadedsnake, the author of one of the above-mentioned Reddit posts, told Bored Panda that, "Before I made the post, I was actually thinking about sneaking out at night to walk to one of my friend's house and then I realized that I would probably get kidnapped considering that I don't really know how to act."
"I guess you could say I made the post so I could get to know some stuff and also get some free Reddit karma."
The main thing that u/breadedsnake took away from all the answers is to stay alert whenever you're in a dangerous area. "[People stressed that it's important] to look around you and focus on more than what's in front of you; someone can run up from behind! And don't try to be a superhero—if you're seeing someone being attacked, just assume they started it and don't get involved with anything you don't have to."
Walk fast and look pissed off.
Or look and behave like you have purpose and determination. No one will bother you
Always survey your surroundings and make it obvious that you are paying attention. An aware person is not an easy target. The one walking with their phone stuck in their eyes is.
Try this trick in a crowded area, like the mall. Look up and exactly where you want to go. The people will part like the tide in front of you. People tend to check eyes for directional cues, if they see you looking where you want to go, they will get out of your way! I've done it in practice many a time, and it works pretty slick!
The best way to make sure nobody will fμ©k with you is to be the kind of person who nobody wants to fμ©k with.
If you have a random cop come to your house on The night before you leave for Europe with your family, don’t tell him your going away until you call his superior to make sure he’s a cop. Your welcome you filthy animals
Home Alone taught me this. Seriously, always check with the police station before you even open the door, if possible. I couldn't tell a fake from a real badge.
When planning a trip, don't talk about it in public, a B&E guy could follow you, see where you live, to break in !!!
In u/breadedsnake's opinion, everyone should have at least a little bit of street smarts.
That's true. But luckily for our health, property crime in the U.S. is much more common than violent crime. In 2019, the FBI reported a total of 2,109.9 property crimes per 100,000 people, compared with 379.4 violent crimes per 100,000 people.
The most common form of property crime in 2019 was larceny/theft, followed by burglary and motor vehicle theft. Among violent crimes, aggravated assault was the most common offense, followed by robbery, rape, and murder/non-negligent manslaughter.
If a group of people suddenly get down, so do you.
That's how I wound up in a weird flash mob once lol. But seriously, don't literally stand out and make yourself a target.
Also, if a crowd suddenly starts running away in panic, seek shelter in a threshold or stand next to the wall to avoid getting trampled...
If all animals are going in one direction, you go the f**k in that direction too.
In a similair vein. if you don't hear any animal noises whatsoever (especially if they where there a moment ago) GTFO.
Load More Replies...Wait can somebody specify why groups of people would get down? Sorry, I'm stupid!
Because there may be / there was an explosion or somebody with a gun?
Load More Replies...I was always taught as a kid if a group of people are running, and look like they're running away in fear, you run right along with them, and ask questions once everyone is safe lol..and then I heard Cedric the entertainer say the same thing in Kings of comedy and didn't think my parents were crazy anymore lol. This just made me think of that
You might be "correct" when you have the right of way, but you're still the one that's going to be dead when you get whacked by the car if you're walking or on your bike.
It's always a good idea to yield to anything that can crush your bones.
This is one of those things my teens now say back to me, they’ve heard it so much.
Load More Replies...I use my bike on a daily basis (city). Its amazing how often I have to have hands on breaks, because I know already in advance, that the oncoming car will not respect my right of way. On the other hand, I also see many people on a bike driving like jerks.
Ethan Coen has a book of poetry called The Drunken Driver Has the Right of Way
Look both ways before you cross the street, and dont walk when the light says dont walk, even if theres nobody around. Logic says out of nowhere car go brrrr
True. I told my sister that at a 2 way stop. A car had to stop but he wasn't slowing down. And my sister didn't want to stop because she felt she shouldn't have to. Yep everyone is dying to be right.
I had a physics teacher explain to the class that pedestrians may have the right away according the law, but not according to laws of physics.
If you're walking and someone approaches, don't break stride. You can carry on a conversation while walking, but people who are looking to proselytize, sell you something, or mug you will want you to slow or stop to address them.
If they want to chat, make them keep up with you. You can even tell them that you're in a rush but would love to talk and walk.
They'll likely find someone more stationary, because if you can make a person slow, you can make them stop. If you can make them stop, you've already adjusted their priorities and placed yourself at the top.
It's a subtle power game. Keep going where you're going, and you retain your power. Stop and cat, and you've given it up and opened yourself to possible problems.
Lots of truth here! I'm going nuts to make a joke about stopping to cat, but I'd be kitten myself that it's funny. Anyway,a great entry!
This works. Used it in Nairobi. A fellow wanted to chat but I told him I was going to keep walking. He kept up and tried repeatedly to invite me to a café for a drink, His two compatriots had to run to catch up. Both out of breath and pretended to be police. I had kept to a major street and watched for the real police. Saw one and said we should all go and speak with him. They ran off.
We used to live in Nairobi. Once my mum went out to a park by herself. She didn't come back till dark. My dad got worried. I don't remember if my mum gave a call, but my dad told me to get in the car, we were gonna find her. He couldn't leave me at home since I was like 5. We found her standing near the park. She quickly got in and we drove off. My mum said there was a guy who reached out for her handbag, but he ran off when he saw my dad. We had reached just in time. Any later and she would've gotten mugged.
Load More Replies...This is very true. But more agreeable people will find this hard to do. But still you should try.
Ugh yeah every time we're on a store where someone who works on commission has set up a kiosk my husband immediately looks at them and they immediately start pitching. I just keep walking. No I do not want your free scam vacation with purchase buh bye
Never cat with strangers. That's what my mom was always saying. :P
Yup. Stopped once when I was very young. Got my fortune read against my will and lost $50 bucks.
Having good manners, and speaking with respect, will keep you from getting in trouble you didn't know was there.
Yep... courtesy should be a given, respect should be earned. The two have become muddled in recent years.
Load More Replies...My ex and I ventured outside of the touristy Niagara Falls area in '99 and stopped in a 'local' bar. They were shocked how nice we Americans were. WTF were you Americans doing to Canadians?
I'm starting to think that it is the overabundance of negative news stories instead of personal experiences (I hope)
Load More Replies...Maybe some places, but it can also make you an easier target. Always keep your guard up. You'd rather offend someone than end up under their shed.
To all above (or below): This is especially important abroad, in countries with a different culture and/or religion
Treat people how you want to be treated, its nice to be nice, people like nice people, manners cost nothing, that's just good sense and a good lesson for parents to teach their kids.
Just because someone is friendly with you, doesn't mean they have a good heart.
This lesson was one my English Teacher learned as a teen. Her and her friend went to a movie..an old lady sat down in the seat next to her friend. Then her friend said she got bit by something. Her friend wasn't feeling so good and the old lady offered to take her to the restroom. As my teacher said she exited the theater, she saw the old lady trying to shove her friend in a car. She started screaming and the lady and the car took off leaving her friend behind. She stopped a kidnapping.
That was no lady. Frightening to think what that person really was.
Load More Replies...Unfortunately true, I have my own business and during the interview the people are so kind and sweet, while they know they are getting a good deal they are so friendly and always smiling but the minute something goes wrong , eg. I need a sudden few days off , or I decide I need to cancel ect they turn to complete monsters. I learned long time ago , the faker the smile the bigger the a- hole
You can tell a lot by how a person reacts when they don't get what they want.
Load More Replies...People *might not* be what they seem. Be cautious, not presumptuous.
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Lock your doors as soon as you’re in your car
I do this every time I get in the car. Still haven't got any back seats. Ah, well. :D
Load More Replies...I heard a black newscaster say he was offended when women saw him and locked their car doors. But then he said, "I tell my daughter to lock her car doors if she sees a man while she is out driving." A policeman told us, girls in high school, that if you see a man, lock your car door. NOT because he might attack you, but as a way to remember to lock your car doors.
Must be terrible to live in a society so crippled by fear...
It's not crippled by fear. It's practical. Especially for women. It's along the same lines as putting on your safety belt. It's a reasonable precaution; doesn't mean that we're crippled by fear of driving.
Load More Replies...Not only that, LEAVE as soon as you’re in your car. Don’t sit on your phone in the parking lot. Not only is it safer, it’s polite. Don’t use a parking spot if you don’t need one.
Depends on the country, apparently. I'm physically a woman and I'd only lock the door if I'm in a very bad neighborhood (rare things), or it's a very odd hour. Even though no one ever tried anything yet. And, most man I know do the same.
Load More Replies...I know this was debunked but fake or not the Teddy bear on your windshield isnt worth it. Drive.
Oh yes, most new cars, automatically lock, if not lock yourself in, close your windows !!!
Always ask for only one scoop of ice cream first because they make single scoops bigger, then act like you changed your mind and ask for a second scoop. They will be pressured to match the size of the first scoop, providing you with a massive amount of ice cream.
There is a local ice cream shop near me and if you ask for a split scoop (2 different flavors) you get twice the amount of ice cream for the same price. because the workers were only trained to scoop one size.
Load More Replies...How to scam a poor ice cream vendor out of more ice cream. And how it's presented as not being deceitful or pathetic that it is. If people want more, then pay for more, why should the ice cream vendor pay.
Who said they're not paying? The issue is when you order more upfront, they make the scoops smaller. This way you get what you paid for. It's not rocket science.
Load More Replies...Does this person have no other problems in life than getting a tiny bit more ice cream, whne buying a cone? Eat less ice cream, get less fat.
Unfortunately, this will not work if they sell by the weight of the finished product, regardless :(
That's pretty cool advice. I'd saying it's the icing on the cake. But definitely something to scream about.
Never flash your whole wad of cash in a public place while paying for something. Keep a few bucks loose in one pocket for spending. Keep the majority of your cash in a separate pocket. Don’t open a wallet full of all your money where other people can see you.
Then you look for someone that shows all their money.
Load More Replies...Thanks to Covid19 all shops in the Netherlands take plastic. It's hygienic. Therefore you don't actually need cash anymore. I haven't used cash in my own country for the past THREE years.
So i assume you don't let anyone touch your "plastic"? Because that's the opposite of hygienic
Load More Replies...This was one of those things my mother told me. Along with keep a 20 in your shoe, along with a quarter when you went on a date. She called it "mad money" in case you got mad at your date, and you needed to call a cab.
Also keep your smaller bills on the outside and larger ones inside. When you pull out your folded bills it will look like you may have many 1s or 5s but not stacks of 20s.
My dad always put a small amount of cash in his front pocket. He called it his “walking around money”.
Just have an old school 'Chicago Roll'. $40 can save your wallet. One $20, wrapped around 20 one dollar bills. Wind up like Nolan F*****g Ryan, throw that bitch as far as you can, watch all the people chase that 40, while you run away. It works. Never has it failed me.
Wear shoes you can run the f**k away in.
Choose your shoes VERY carefully for travel! One pair that looks good but which you can still walk a long way in, another that are good for being on your feet for about 16 hours.
Two pairs, and alternate them every day. That way your shoes can dry out from sweat and your feet get "pressure point" changes every day.
Load More Replies...This needs to be higher. I gave up my beautiful, high heeled shoes after being attacked by two men on a large, circulated boulevard. I switched to comfortable, no heels, sport shoes. Fast forward 2 years, different city; a guy grabbed my arm and neck and tried to drag me aside. Kicked him as hard as I could, freed myself and RAN like hell.
I'm sorry that this happened to you but kicking the bugger and running is pretty badass. Go you!
Load More Replies...my one fashion rule is never to wear anything i couldn't climb a tree in
Excellent rule! I grew up on the family farm and you wore what you could do chores in and climb fast if you had to!
Load More Replies...Don't buy new shoes/boots right before a trip. You need time to break them in. Ruined a trip once with a lovely set of blisters from new boots. Couldn't have run from anything, well, probably could have but it would not have been a happy time.
This is good advice in general, even if you don't need to run. New shoes could ruin a vacation as well.
Load More Replies...Tip from a fireman's wife: if you work in a high-rise, always have sneakers under your desk in case you have to evacuate.
Make those sneakers step-inns, you won't waste precious time tieing laces.
Load More Replies...OK, this one I get behind 100%. If you can't run in the outfit, do not wear it.
In a strange place, with ear buds, you won't hear a warning !!!
Carry a fork with you. if someone approaches you, say “lord, thank you for this meal I’m about to have” and charge at them with the fork
I used to always carry a spoon with me, so in case someone would say "There is no spoon", I would be able to conjure it up ...
My brother in law was searched by the police one time and he had a spoon in his car (he is a chef), they were 100% sure it was for drugs. Caused him quite a bit of grief.
Load More Replies...My mom came into my room to check on me cuz she heard me fall out of my chair laughing
Reminds me of the joke when the guy desperately prays to turn the bear chasing him into a Christian. Bear says, "Lord, for the food I am about to receive, I am truly thankful for..."
My uncle always said carry a sharpen pencil in your hand. It is amazing the damage they can do to a persons face when stabbed. Also it would not be seen as a weapon. He was a prison guard so I can easily imagine how he got this idea.
Yep. I have 3 pieces of pencil lead inside my hand because I keep getting accidentally stabbed with pencils
Load More Replies...I generally prefer a powerful and durable flashlight to first stun them and then smack their brain out.
If you are walking alone at night and you feel like you’re being watched/followed. Start talking to yourself.. loudly about crazy shit. Make it a conversation even. Omg did you SEE her dress? That dress was so crazy long. Like how could she walk? Let alone walk in that grocery store!! And those cheap plastic shoes!! I own those cheap plastic shoes!! Are you saying I’m Cheap!! If the cheap plastic shoe fits honey! I’ll admit to doing this. I used to work graveyard shifts and you gotta be aware. Most people no matter how bad try to avoid crazy. Crazy will hurt you back.
Not if you talk too fast for someone to get a word in. Make it clear you're talking to yourself, and that you're really *angry* with yourself, and it might work better.
Load More Replies...Crazy as in mentally ill people are often targeted *more*, so, no, not really. After all, if you're nuts, then you can't tell on them.
Years ago, my mother, who wore a hearing aid, felt that she was being followed after finishing her night shift job. She pulled her hearing aid out of her clothing, pressed a button that created feedback, and began to talk into it like she was a cop The person following ran. Hard to recreate these days, but I imagine that suddenly putting your hand to one ear while talking into your watch might buy you a couple seconds.
Oh, I have this on lock. Since spending so much time alone in my house last year, I've taken to talking to myself loudly at all times. I'm also convinced somehow that the mask keeps people from hearing me.
Be more crazy. Crab walk towards them and start making monkey noises. Or ‘come here, Georgie”
Uh, I'm supposed to PRETEND I'm crazy? ANd wait until someone is following me to talk to myself? Um...
I AM GORDON FREEMAN OF THE INTERGALACTIC HOUSE OF PANCAKES AND I COMMAND YOU TO OPEN! *charges with fork*
Decades ago, walking home from a club, I caused a guy who'd been following me to swear and run away. I always took trainers to change into, and carried my stilettoes. Acting strangely, swinging round a lamppost shouting "Weeeeee", seemed to scare him.
People are afraid of crazy. I don't have to get violent, I just have to act bat s**t crazy and people will leave me alone. Work in an eye twitch and you're golden!
If you are forced to walk through a bad/dangerous neighborhood, keep your chin up and maintain a confident and comfortable look on your face. Nothing screams “abuse me!” more than an out-of-place person waking around with their chin down, looking at the sidewalk. I learned this after visiting a new girlfriend many years ago in a bad section of Philly. I was walking down the street towards her house and a local female walking by my said, “keep that chin up around here, white boy.” The more I considered that advice, the more logical it sounded.
No, I think it was very gracious of the woman to warn him and it should be noted that she was a woman/female.
Load More Replies...Look like you belong but not cocky about it. Years ago, as a 17 year old (female), I walked down a notorious street when lost, on my way to a job interview. Doors had been ripped off, windows smashed, young men here and there, lounges on the footpath, no furniture could be seen through those doorways without doors. It was a sad place, and I was dressed up, young and apparently, not bad looking back then. Not a single word was said to me and I was not harassed once. A few people made eye contact, I made eye contact back, gestured with a small half nod and an almost imperceptible smile, but I kept on walking down that street (it was either that or run back the way I came and I wasn’t going to do that). The street was known all over the state as a ‘no go zone’. Maybe I was just lucky, maybe everyone was too tired as it was the middle of the day, who knows.
Um, do you realize that "Bless Your Heart" isn't actually a compliment? (It's more like saying "Silly-head".)
Load More Replies...Grew up around there & it's very true. Always act like you confidently belong there. You'll be left alone b/c everyone will just assume you're local & know what's up.
my father always said to walk like you know where you're going and never show fear.
This isn't true in all countries. Where I'm from you could be considered arrogant by doing that. Instead of being humble.
Eye contact. A lone assailant will often use the element of surprise to their advantage. If you’re walking alone and someone is following you, make eye contact to let them know that you are aware of them. This will often dissuade them from attacking.
This tactic has worked for me in the past.
And guy, if you're walking behind a woman on an otherwise empty street, please be so kind and cross the street to make her feel less stalked. I know you weren't, but she doesn't know that. Thank you.
Being a man I've done that several times on lonely dark streets or simply walk slower for her to have a chance to move away from you.
Load More Replies...At an all girls' school (in south africa) they gave us an anti-rape and anti-hijack class. The one tip they gave was instead of 'screaming like a girl', roar like a lion, you still get to scream and it scares the sh*t out of the guy. Could save your life.
I had that class too! 15 years on and I'm still a little disappointed I never got to roar like a maniac in public.
Load More Replies...Not necessarily a good advice if you're a man. People who are looking for a fight (or to impress their friend by humiliating a guy who doesn't want to fight) will use eye contact as a reason to pick a fight with you.
I didn't even think of this. You are absolutely correct.
Load More Replies...How could you possibly know this has worked? You might GUESS that it has worked but you cant KNOW someone was gonna attack and changed their mind.
So if they're behind you proceed to walk backwards just so you can maintain eye contact? Also assailants are likely never alone, they wait for you to focus on one of them and then other ambushes you. Better tactic act confident even if your not it will deter them!
"this tactic has worked for me in the past" is impossible to say unless the person "following" you helpfully told you their nefarious plans when you turned and looked at them...
turn and face them and ask if you can help them... never allow them to see where you live...You can also display your can of pepper spray...
This reminds me of a comedian who was saying the best way to stay safe in a rough neighborhood is to fake a Russian accent cause Russians are terrifying.
My husband's Northern Irish accent also works well in a pinch.
Dan Soder... I think he says that only works with white people. I can fake a Russian accent alright, but nobody is going to believe I am Russian...
This worked for me while attending school in Kansas...I'm from the Philly area, so my accent is/was rough so it made people think I was a bada$$. I'm not. LOL
I have a very thick Scottish accent and that stopped this one drunkie on the streets of Ireland from hitting on my partner because he thought I was some rough and tough haha 😆
Works with a Croatian accent too, but chances others recognize this accent are low.... :/
Let's say a kidnapper throws you in the back of a trunk. Don't panic! Once you get your bearings, find the carpet that covers the taillight. Peel back the carpet, make a fist, punch the taillight out the back of the car, thus creating a hole in the back of the automobile, then stick your little hand out and wave to oncoming motorists to let them know that something hinky is goin' on.
If you can’t punch the light out, pull its wires out. There is a chance police will pull the car over for a failed signal.
Like it and pull out the other as well. Some newer vehicles have a inside pull to open the trunk. Practice with your teeth as you hands maybe bound.
Load More Replies...It makes me mad they don't credit people they've taken comments from.
Load More Replies...And there you are in a modern car with taillights where the fixture and the wiring is installed at the outside of the car. I suspect that not every kidnap victim carries a cutting torch with them.
I thought newer cars had to have escape levers in the trunk? I know of two cases locally where people were rescued because they managed to get a body part out of the trunk...one hand, one foot, to alert motorists.
The federal mandate went into effect in late 2000, early 2001. Any car older than that may only have it if the manufacturer chose to do it. The advice in the pist should include to look for the tab first, taillights second.
Load More Replies..."don't panick"... mmm ok... I might still s*** my panties though, before going into McGyver mode
If you are alert and not raised ect. even if a gun is pointed at you or a knife ect fight do not get in the car , you are not taken away for ice cream, the more you fight and scream the better it may be enough, you may not be worth getting caught over and they will take off, the bad side you may get shot at or hurt, but if you get in that car for sure you ain’t coming back so it may be worth risking your own life to try to save it
In most new cars, there is a little tab that OPENS THE TRUNK. Wait for the car to stop at a light, open trunk, run away. If not, find something to come up swinging with, even if it's a fist.
You ever taken a tail light out? Why punch it (which will probably hurt like hell!), When many are quick to remove as modern cars require the removal to change a bulb. Other cars will be easier to open the boot than remove the light, but both the solutions require free hands and that will be unlikely if you've been kidnapped!
Never post vacation information on social media until you’re back. You’ll most certainly get robbed at some point if you’re not smart about it. Also, don’t put expensive product boxes (TV, computer, appliances) outside before trash day. People will see your new toys.
Don't post anything on social media that might be of use for criminals. People got robbed because they announced their wedding on social media. In the Netherlands a woman lost her rare vintage car because she posted a picture of that car on social media. Criminals used the EXIF data from that picture to pinpoint the car and they stole it.
When/where did that happen? I've been living here 11 years and never heard that story. Makes me hope that posting pictures of my very large dog also works in preventing people on social media from wanting to rob me! haha
Load More Replies...And shred everything with your name/address on it. At least, for those of us who live in multi-family housing.
Load More Replies...good advice!! most people don't know that all digital photos have gps coordinateds 'behind' them. if you know how to retrieve it (and believe me, criminals KNOW!) they can easily find where you live. and you might not post photos of valuables... but if you post a photo of your funny grandchild... or your pretty x-mas tree... and at some point you post something on facebook like 'oooh, yes... only one more week and then it's off to a 2 weeks vacation to ... " Robbers will read: the house will most likely be empty for at least one week...and if the destination is far, you will get there (and back) by plane... so not fast back home. then they browse your facebook for any pictures that were taken at your house. and presto... they know WHEN to be WHERE to rob your house empty, and also how long they have until they can expect someone back. i know... i am married to a security officer who works at an alarm-central. you would not believe how many home break-ins can be retraced to social media
Also - hire a house sitter if you're getting married. Back in the '90s there was a ring of thieves in Montreal that literally just looked at Synagogue and Church event schedules and broke into the bridge's homes to steal their gifts.
A good rule for social media in general is not to post stuff that is going to happen or is happening (i.e. checking in at a restaurant, movie, pictures of your food, etc.). I promise you people can wait to see what you have done and those that can't like family you can send that in private messages.
I thought this was obvious for a number of years now, but oh no, people like to show off.
This became more obvious when Kim Kardashian was robbed in France a few years ago. She posted pics of herself wearing very big diamonds and what hotel she was staying at. Within a day she was robbed in her hotel room. Lesson learned. Many celebrities get burglarized because they post on social media that they are out of town doing movies, photoshoots, vacations...if people know you have nice things, you may get robbed.
I never post anything on social media about what I do to even what I look like in real life. Everything else is about cats or Star Wars or Disney.
If you're driving and hit black ice just take foot OFF GAS BUT DON'T BREAK until the slide stops.
* BRAKE - And when you're dealing with ice, do everything gently - don't just whip your foot off the accerator, remove it gently. Steer into the skid and try to keep the car pointing forwards so that when you can brake, you can do so in straight line.
Braking on black ice is useless. Your car is skidding because your tires lost grip with the road. Look and steer into the desired direction and don't touch gas or brake pedal until you're sure that you've regained control over the car.
Load More Replies...it's when it rains and then freezes, leaving a layer of clear ice (said "black" cause of the road)
Load More Replies...Easier said then done, I hit black ice once and nearly totalled my car, even though I had gone through this in my head a thousand times.
Turn into the skid, not out of it, sound counterintuitive, but if you try to turn out of it you'll spin.
Practice on ice where it is safe. It is all slow-motion and easy to learn, but you want to be at home when you need the skills.
Empty Kmart or mall parking lots! Or high schools. Everyone should learn to drive a manual. It can save your life and others!
Load More Replies...Black ice, you most often don't see, even walking, there was no sidewalk, so walking near the curb, when I went down, my shoulder hit the curb, I broke my collar bone, can't describe the pain, had surgery with pin, then latter removed it, I was about twelve, adults fall, and brake a hip !!!
Steer into the slide, you gain more control. And as she/he noted NEVER but the brakes on. Downshift, if you can, but do not brake, you have no control.
Neutral not downshift if possible, then slow braking once under control. I was 16 my first experience and it was a rear wheel drive 78 Chevy Caprice. Snow belt. I then drove manual transmissions.
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Don’t ever tell the cab driver you don’t know where you’re going.
two different friends told me of their unpleasant stories. one in Moscow and one in Cuba. both got "kidnapped" by the taxi driver who picked up their friend, took them to a bad neighborhood ATM machine, where they had to get cash at gunpoint. Thankfully both were let go right after, unharmed.
Also, give them directions. Now with google maps, you can easily trace a route beforehand, even if you've never been to that place.
And, because you keep Maps running, ask the driver immediately why he's deviating from the route (occasionally taxi's are allowed to use roads closed to normal cars)
Load More Replies...on this, I always travel with two travel accounts from different banks. I have two cards and use one as the 'transacting' account which I use at less reputable atms, markets etc - this has a smaller balance and isn't linked to my home account funds. It still has two or three days funds in it - so if I'm mugged, that's still a good payday for the fugitive, but they don't have a link to my home loan and line of credit!! this also helps if my primary bank are worried about security and put a pause on my card, I have a 'back up' account for a couple of days while I deal with the access/security issues with my primary bank.
Do US banks not have limits on how much you can withdraw etc.? If you got a hold of my bank card for my main account, you could withdraw 600 EUR per day, if I'm not mistaken, and that's it. Credit card could get you 5k, but that's also it and they would likely block the transactions before they go through, and it's not linked to any other accounts. There's no way to get into anything else, you would need to have my username, password, pin code, signing in app etc. to get access to my loan, and even if you did, there's literally nothing you can do with that. You could transfer some money to another account, but there's a limit on that, too, and by the time you'll have managed to log into my bank account to do so, I'll have long blocked the card. It's smart to have more cards/accounts in case your bank blocks your card (which has happened to me a couple of times), but I really wouldn't worry about any links to home loans or lines of credit.
Load More Replies...We took an Uber from our hotel in Times Square to the Bronx zoo, which we had never been. I had to tell the driver we were in New Jersey. English was not his first language. He was so embarrassed. But we made the best of it as a sight seeing tour.
Surely you'd only get in a cab if you knew where you wanted them to take you? I'm going to assume I've misunderstood this
One time in NYC going from South Ferry to Port Authority Bus Terminal (west side), the cabby took me up the east side. I knew how much the fare should be going up the west side, so when the meter got there, I told him he was now eating into his tip.
Before using any ATM, tug hard on the plastic card reader. Scammers often put a fake one on top that steals your info.
Also: Don't walk away, if your money doesn't come out, the scammers put a fake lid over the opening for the money that withhold the money - it'll stick to the inside of the false lid and they'll come get it as soon as you walk away. Directly call the police (if no bank Personal available) and tell this everyone that asks you if you need help - it may be the scammer trying to lure you away so he can get your money!
Thank you. I did not know you could do this and I worry about that happening. But I never use an ATM thats not in a bank.
It can happen anywhere. Those devices are called skimmers and it blends in very well with ATM machines while allowing you to operate machine without any problem except one, It's stealing your card info and pin number. Search for how to detect ATM skimmers and you'll see what I mean.
Load More Replies...And look around frequently. Your head should be on a swivel. AND DON’T COUNT YOUR CASH AT THE ATM.
disagree - as soon as the money comes out I make a point of quickly counting in front of the ATM's camera (sometimes just a little mirror with a camera behind it) in case the ATM cheats me, they can review the recording and not just take my word for it
Load More Replies...ATM, gas station, anywhere there's a terminal that's not inside and under constant supervision.
Sometimes it's done by the person "supervising"... that's how mine was "attempted" stolen. Thank you "Fraud Squad" and "FcukYou" giant superstore that that Wal not pay employees enough to live on.
Load More Replies...I worked in banking for over a decade and we had to check the ATMS regularly for scamming materials. Yes, a lot of times people will put card-skimmers over the actual card reader so it’s good to give it a tug to make sure it’s real. You can and should also run your hands along any areas where a camera might be hidden. Even if the fake card-skimmer is on well enough and doesn’t seem like it’s fake, there will most likely be some sort of camera attached to the ATM to capture your pin when you enter it. You should always cover the keypad with one hand whenever you enter your PIN -anywhere you use your card, not just at ATMs. You never know who is looking for your card information so they can pick your pocket later and drain your accounts.
Carry an extra wallet with $50 in it and throw it if someone tries to rob you. STREET SMARTS!
Street smarter is to fill it with fake money that you can order on E-bay for a few dollars.
Load More Replies...putting some expired credit/debit/membership cards can also make it look like a "proper" wallet
Got it. Now can someone loan me $50 plus a bit extra to buy another wallet?
$50 is cheep when you are talking about your safety, I don't have a set amount but I make sure it's enough for them to feel like it's a success. I always put in expired cards. This has saved me.
We used to call that "mugger money" ... my friends kids were given mugger money to carry.
I live in Mexico City. Word of advice, always carry a dummy cell phone (old, broken, etc.) in public transportation.
Don't tell even close friends the amount of money you have on you. I was set up by an 18 year old female coworker this week. She seemed like a sweetheart and was giving me rides to work for a few days. I asked on the Monday if we could go to bank as I needed to cash a check for roughly $4500. Minutes after dropping me near house I was robbed at gunpoint of everything by 2 guys. They knew how much they were looking for. The robber said he watched me leave bank but the police saw on camera near home that they had been waiting for me for an hour. One of the robbers was her ex/current boyfriend it turns out.
The mention of police and cameras and that they drew the suspects to the co-worker means people were caught
Load More Replies...That was my first thought too. I guess maybe they thought it made a case for it being more urgent. Like 'I really don't wanna carry this round all day'.
Load More Replies...You could easily have told her you were just "going to the bank", but you wanted to flash the cash and specified and amount. Good work, Casanova.
There's something called Remote Deposit Capture aka RDC or Mobile Deposits. You can deposit your check while sitting naked at home. No reason this should happen ever again.
Two big mistakes, you trusted a stranger, and had her take you, to the bank, then told her how much Money you were getting, even alone, leaving the bank, check to see, if you are being followed !!!
This is bad, but the worst, saddest robbery set-up story I've ever heard was about a teen boy who ran into the woman who had babysat him for 7 years. He caught her up on his life, told her he had a job and x-amount of dollars saved to buy a car. Unbeknownst to the poor kid, she was now a drug addict. She told her drug dealing boyfriend about the kid's savings. They broke into his house when they thought no one would be home, but he was there sick that day. They murdered him because they knew he could identify the woman.
Do not trust taxi drivers if you are a tourist
In some countries maybe...there are plenty of countries that there is no reason for a cab driver to be anything but a driver doing their job .
This isn't a commentary that all taxi drivers are sex traffickers or criminals. They are, however, shady as h*ll. In my city, if you're a tourist, taxi drivers will "long haul" you. That's where they take you on a longer drive to get more money. Most people won't notice, because they get where they're going, fast.... The drivers take the freeway instead of the surface streets, adding several miles to the trip. But don't worry, they're just "doing their job" 🙄
Load More Replies...Find out what the local licenced taxis look like and use them. They are usually the only ones that are allowed to pick up from taxi ranks and the ones your hotel will call for you. They might be more expensive, but they are usually safe because they are regulated.
Except they can (and do) still pull various tricks to get more money. Such as "long hauling" (taking a longer route). If you don't let them know you're a tourist, and research the route in advance, you'll avoid being scammed.
Load More Replies...If you are a tourist in Mexico, and particularly if you are going to a large city like Mexico City, Monterrey or Guadalajara, research in advance your destination, and always take taxis from a base. Do not haul them in the streets. It is common for drivers to take longer routes to increase the rate. Base taxis have a fixed rate, and drivers are encouraged to take as many trips as possible, so the car would likely take you there faster. Also, take note of the license plate and permit. Licensed taxis have their permit on the back window, so make sure the photo on it matches the driver.
You will have no issues with cabbies in the UK, especially London. It takes years of study to become a cabbie there, and they must know every street, burrough, zone by heart, and there are thousands of them.
that test is insane, I watched a documentary on it once and they are doing above and beyond any other country that I know of.
Load More Replies...in some african countries if you hire them through special travel agencies they are very trustworthy. You hire them by the hour, and they also will park and escort you around like a bodyguard as part of the full service. Know someone who paid $50 bucks (to the agency) for one of these for 6 hours in Zambia, and he helped them in the market to make sure they didnt get robbed or cheated, made sure these two white american women were safe, and drove them around for all that time and left them back at the hotel. They tipped him $20, which is quite a bit of cash there. You can trust in some countries if you order them through the right places. Or where I live in NYC, they are highly regulated, have trackers in each vehicle, etc.
See that's neat I'd be giving the guy a gd tip too if he did his job and made sure my family was safe!!!
Load More Replies...I'd say this is accurate in most countries. When I went to the Netherlands our taxi driver took a 20 minute detour (I had my navigation on on my phone, little did he know). He was two blocks from our hotel and kept taking detours to increase the cost of the ride. Rather than tell him, I checked the meter when we were close to the hotel so I knew what I actually owed, and waited until he was done ripping us off to confront him. His little detour ended up costing him time and gas money - a-hole. When it comes to being a vindictive biatch, I have the time. I hate people who prey on tourists. Just because we travel, it doesn't mean we're rich. I work my ass off to see the world, don't f*** with me.
Yeah I live in San Diego and here there are so many tourists and I always try and help them out and I love to see all the different ppl with different accents is neat!
Load More Replies...yeah this isnt universal...i travelled around Asia while living there for over a decade and never once distrusted a cab driver. sure they may take a longer route if you obviously don't know where you're going but they do that in the US too.
Having been to over 30 countries, I always get a price upfront. If they’re not willing, I tell them I’ll find another cab. They often change their minds. Although a taxi driver in Rome once multiplied the quoted price by 10. We gave him the quoted amount and quickly exited as he screamed he would call the police. But usually setting the price in advance avoids the creative routes.
Sad but true, in many places, I wonder if the hotel, could give you the route, and approx., the cab cost ???
Yeah they did that for my family when we went to Cancun they estimated the charge and let us knw how to make sure the person was legit
Load More Replies...in Thailand many taxis told us the meter was broken or they don't have one. I never took one of those.
Everyone respects true crazy. I once was approached in downtown by a man asking for all my money. I looked him square in the eyes and blurted out something like "blahblubvlahhhhhh". He walked away and I kept my monies.
Or do as the famous Charles Bronson did when someone try to rob him: He looked straight in the eyes of the robber and said: "No, YOU give me YOUR money." The robber ran away without any money.
I wouldn't advise that, you're just going to piss the robber off.
Load More Replies..."Give me your money!" "Don't you know who I am!? I am a Congressman!" "Fine... then give me back my money!"
Not me but one of my coworkers. First stop light after pulling out of his driveway. Rolls his window down to give a few bucks to a panhandler. Guy pulls a knife and says "how much more you got"? My friend picks up and points the legal gun he had laying in his seat," "not enough for you muthaf@#ker". Needless to say the guy ran.
Didn't a toddler kill one of their parents recently, with a gun they found in the car?
Load More Replies...Im laughing with my mom driving next to me and she's looking at me weird lol
I was walking through the parking lot of a club when I came upon a guy going through the pockets of an unconscious dude on the ground. When he saw me he stopped for a second & said “Hey buddy, don’t get the wrong idea. This guy tried to rob ME. I want him to know how it feels to get robbed”. I looked at him & said “I was never here”.
That scene in I Love You, Man where Jason Segel does that to the guy on the Venice beach promenade.
me and my brother were being stalked once and he pulled me into an alley, pinned me against a wall, and started "making out" with me. nothing happened, we didn't actually kiss, but the guy walked right past.
I had a guy approach me in New Orleans demanding my money. After I gave him the stare down he said "you'll hurt me won't you" and walked away. Look mean and be able to back it up. Criminals want easy targets.
This is a niche tip, but if you ever suspect something to have an electric current, do not touch it with the palm side of your hand. It can cause your muscles to contract and not let go. Always use the backside of your hand or even better, use a blade of grass or something not too conductive.
Or don't touch it at all. Who goes around touching live objects anyway?
how else am I gonna tell the difference between 120 and 240 volts when my voltmeter is downstairs?
Load More Replies...As a former firefighter, I give this bonus: use the advice about the palm if you have to flee a burning building. Some will reduce visibility to almost zero. Follow the wall, ONLY touching it with the back of your hand. The fire might strip insulation of electrical wires and expose them.
IF it happens and you can't let the wire go, just just jump away or fall down on the floor, your body's weight will pull you from the wire. My dad was an electrician. One day he touched a living wire (he was on top of a ladder) and couldn't let it go. He kicked the ladder under out of him and fell off the floor so he could ket the wire go. He tild me they were taught to do that in cases like this. Sorry about my bad English, my native language is not English, but I hope you'll understand what I wrote and maybe it can save you one day.
As a qualified engineer if all sorts, please don't, call someone who knows what they're doing, electric shocks can......you know.........kill.
My brother is an electrical engineer and a qualified electrician. We're always absolutely astonished at how many people 'have a go' at sorting out electrical problems. Yet they won't touch the plumbing in case of leaks. Um, a leak will cause damage but electricity kills. Makes no sense to us at all.
Load More Replies...None of y'all have electric fences on your farms huh. Sometimes you've got to see if it's on, especially if you plan on crossing it. It doesn't shock you too bad of you just touch it for a second.
Or be touching someone else when you "check" it? 😉Right, Crystal? 😹🤣😹
Load More Replies...This is basic electrical workers rule #1. Your muscles and arm contract on contact with electricity. If you grab a live wire, you're going to die because your muscles will clench and not let go intil you are dead. Touch it with the back of your hand and the worst you will get is a punch in your face. And who touches live wires? Electricians all the time. Sometimes you need to do hot (live) work; it's part of the job.
Same goes for hot things, the pain could make your hand reflexively clench.
Use a multi-meter. Don't use your hands. Just use a mult-meter. They aren't expensive.
Look up and notice if street lights have been shot out or smashed.
If so, avoid those areas at night - there's a reason they've been disabled . . .
This is not true, it has been proven that well lighted areas are more prone to robberies (as criminals can't see in the dark X3).
The Son of Sam shot his victims in cars under street lamps
Load More Replies...Just because the street light is out doesn't mean it's been disabled. Most of the time it goes out because it's worn out. However if more than one is out...then you should be worried.
I remember when I was a teenager in some seemed nice neighborhood my dad wanted to have a new home, we saw one day, in the morning people throwing bags full of rocks up to the lamps. Then, he didn't say anything about that anymore.
You won’t get mugged if you look like you’re going to mug someone.
Mental note: invest in a balaclava and a switchblade. Practise scowling in the mirror.
in 2004 I was backpacking in SA, one evening I arrived at Johannesburg bus station and was waiting for a friend to come and pick me up, I was there alone and got quickly surrounded by a gang of teens. I was wearing cheap and not so clean clothing (after 7 days in the wilderness), no jewelry nor watch on and had very little cash + my credit card hidden in my boots, so I put on a very bold look, took out my very old half broken camera and told them "that is all I have and you can take it". They decided to leave me alone, and left. I immediately walked to the nearest police booth and stood there until my friend arrived. Apart my bold move, I was shaking inside..
When I was young, poor and on drugs, I could go anywhere in a city with no problem because people assumed I was the problem.
When I was a child, I though this was a stupid TV trope, but because I wear loose clothes with a lot of pockets and my cap has "maintenance" written on it, people always assume that I am the repairman, just here to fix something. Nobody ever pays attention to me unless I initiate the conversation. That includes gangs of shady looking people, but also guards and police. Even when I'm in places I'm not supposed to be, people just assume I do belong here. When I want to really look like I belong here, I spin a set of useless keys around my fingers.
It's an interesting way to be treated differently. I have an embroidered dress shirt from a local car dealership group (thrift store, $2), and it seems to get me priority in all things automotive (car wash, parts store, etc.).
Load More Replies...Because making others feel afraid when they pass by you is a good thing??
Better to make them feel afraid than to become their target.
Load More Replies...A friend of mine was walking late at night in a sketchy neighborhood, and two people were walking towards him (a ways off)... he was starting to feel uncomfortable, but then the other people jay-walked to the sidewalk on the other side of the street, and he suddenly realized "I'm the one that looks sketchy!"
and if you are dark skinned, it also might get you shot by the police.
Apart from the small problem of possibly being pulled in by the police of wherever you are !!
Buy a daily moisturizer with sunscreen in it.
In winter it can get worse because the uv reflecting off the snow
Load More Replies...Sunscreen does have toxic amounts of harmful chemicals way above FDA limits. I would not slather it on everyday all over.
Best response here Mike (very un-sheeplike)... plus if it's expired, it can be very bad for you. And overdoing it will block that much needed vitamin D.
Load More Replies...If I could give you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists...
Correct me if I'm wrong but what song is this quote from? For the life of me I can't remember the name but I can hear the guys voice saying it.
Load More Replies...Lol, all of the posts before this one are advising you how not to get mugged/attacked etc. At first I though wtf is lotion/sunscreen gonna do to protect me, then I remembered.... :D
Everyone is worried how not to be killed by a mugger, meanwhile hundreds of thousands of people die of cancer every year.
make sure sunscreen is not old or out of date, as it can be more dangerous than the Sun.
And don't forget your neck. I made sure I moisturized from the time I started wearing makeup, but didn't think to moisturize my neck. I've got great skin (for my age 😁) But my neck is looking a bit like a turkey's.
Nobody approaches you on the street because they want to do something for you. It's always because they want something from you.
Not always true, I've been approached by very kind women who wanted to blow up my car tyres, although I didn't even notice that they were flat.
not always true but a majority of the time...
Load More Replies...I have approached other women on the street to compliment them on something...
And don't stop doing it, sometimes it's exactly what they need to uplift their spirits :)
Load More Replies...My sister got approached by a lady who wanted to give her some flowers that she didn't have room for. Just read their energy and be cautious, not suspicious.
It really depends of the country where you are. In the US I can imagine that because of the culture of selfishness, but go to Canada, or Ireland, people will approach you to help you, if you look lost for example.
Mostly true, but I'm always going up to the tourists visiting here that are walking their dogs to warn them about the "devil thorns" hiding in the grass (sand mats, goat's head burrs) and the Giardia that can be caught from exposure to sick wildlife and their "droppings". Sometimes "random acts of kindness" are just someone trying to help 🤠🐕
With so much evil, in our world, it's difficult to trust people, but there are many, wonderful people !!!
And beware of well-fed 'homeless' people who have a sign written in Sharpie. Could be they borrowed it from a shelter but I've seen homeless people root around in bins for food yet they've not asked a soul for money - former soldiers who've fallen on hard times or vulnerable people who were ill and fell through the cracks. I've compared this with burly-looking blokes welding Sharpie-written signs, using mobile/cellphones and wearing clean clothes with manicured nails sitting in the same spot every morning during rush hour. Homeless people and drifters tend to move about and certainly don't spend what little they've got on Sharpies.
I used to give money and food/water bottles to a couple that was homeless. They looked filthy and had grubby clothes on. Later found out that they were drug addicts that had a far better living situation than I did.
Load More Replies...I know I've yelled to strangers cause I noticed they dropped a wallet.
Thanks again 420, I clipped a little bell on mine so it won't happen again 😉👍
Load More Replies...i was approached and and guided to my location in scotland. i looked totally lost, because i was. nice people there.
The only people who ever truly "win" fights are those who successfully avoid them.
The people that truly win a fight - if it's not avoidable - are those that can get the opponent in a state that makes it impossible to strike back. When being attacked make sure the first strike is enough to end said fight
I had a bouncer tell me when to end a fight. “Don’t quit until your opponent can no longer be a threat to you. Don’t let him up too easy. He might get a 2nd wind & decide he wants another go. Make sure that is not possible “.
Load More Replies...I did some karate training. We had several black belts that would practice with us as we were the adult class, and the highest ranked of them led a knife defense seminar. He started the class with, and repeated several times, and ended the class with "But if they just want your money, just give it to them and leave. Your money is not worth your life even if you likely can defend yourself."
There's no such thing as a fair fight on the street. You don't fight fair, you fight back. Rules for fights belong in a ring. On the street the rule is survive by any means necessary. Avoid every fight you can, and finish every one you can't.
The best advice I ever received about an unavoidable fight is: "Don't fight fair, because someone who wants to hurt you won't fight fair". Hit 'em with a chair, go for the "bean bag", aim for the eyes, whatever it takes. It's better to look like a coward who can't win a fair fight than wind up in the hospital.
Screw that! I ever see my old (squatter) neighbor, I'm whoopin' that chicks ass.
When it comes to knife fights: The loser dies in the street; the winner dies in the hospital.
The best tactic in a knife fight is to run away. Your pride may get hurt, but that isn't as bad as bleeding out in the middle of the road.
My pride wouldn't be hurt and I'd run like hell. Sod the pride.
Load More Replies...I took a couple of knife self-defence classes years back, and the basic premise was to definitively learn as much technique as you can, but realize you're never safe when knives come in play. Disclaimer: I have never even been in a fist fight all my life, let alone a knife fight, so it's all comfortably theoretical for me.
When it comes to knife fights: RUN! Knives don't travel nearly as fast as bullets.
Always charge towards a gun, with a knife you run.-best advice tip from The Irishman(Jimmy Hoffa). If you can get a hand on the gun you can stop the person from pulling the trigger or get the gun away from him. With a knife you run away so they can’t stab you. Got it? Charge a gun, with a knife you run.
Don't be like those guys from West Side Story. It never ends well.
Important side note: If a fight cannot be avoided, always keep in mind, that it is, your life or the other ones. Sounds cruel, but there is no respawn, load game or try again button in real life.
You can't win a knife fight if you don't have one and unless you are more than 25 feet apart your gun won't save you....
Getting stabbed is the last thing you want, I know someone who has been shot (below neck) and stabbed and he said the stabbing was so much more painful, and much more likely to die from a stabbing than a below neck gun-shot. Run away from knives, run at any cost.
Can't remember where I saw the statistics, but I'm sure most people who get stabbed in fights, it's with their own knife
Don't fuck with that dude with cauliflower ears. He can take more and harder hits than you think. Get those stickers off your car identifying you as a female. ("Girls just wanna have FuNe!"). It makes you a target. If you live in an urban area with high transient population, regularly check locked gates and rare use access points. Look for things like small pieces of tape on locks. You are being target and tested for for access to your home that you do not regularly use. Carry two wallets. One is a honeypot, you hand over if getting robbed. The other is you real wallet. (Pro tip: put a little cash and expired credit cards in the honeypot. This will help it look more real.)
I drive a hot pink car, not sure if a bumper sticker makes much of a difference
You could have a bumper made that says REAL MEN DRIVE HOT PINK CARS.
Load More Replies...The sticker thing also applies to "My child was an honor student at XYZ school", clubs or societies you belong to, etc. People use information like this for social engineering all the time.
My dad worked in a bad area in Chicago. He worked second shift, so he got off at midnight. He got mugged, and only had $10.00 on him. My dad called the police and the cop advised that he keep at least the amount of a "fix" on him. The drug addicts would get angry at someone who didn't have enough and hurt them. My dad was lucky, according to the cop. After that, my dad asked around and found most of the guys he worked with knew this, and made sure he knew how much to have on him.
Is it sad to anyone else that we have to hide trust we’re female or else we’ll be a target?
Yes, very sad. (Btw if you tap those three little dots that are only by your name, you can probably edit/ delete your comments.)
Load More Replies...They also come from being in the scrum during a game of rugby.
Load More Replies...Get rid of the vanity plates with your name on them too. If your name is on display, a stranger can call you by name which is just enough to get you to stop, draw you into a conversation, and allow them to approach. Get rid of it now. This advice goes for everybody, men, women and children. My brother once had a leather belt with his first name embossed on it. He stopped wearing it after a number of strangers called him by name, and one guy drew a knife on him. Unlucky for the knife wielder, my brother had a concealed carry license. Brother opened his jacket as if to reach for his wallet and the guy saw the holster. Fella took off running the opposite direction.
A man was once looking through the window of my dance studio. I was teaching a class at the time, and I was positive that he wasn't a parent of anyone. He stayed there the whole class and when it was over and the kids were being signed out, he took one of the girls' arm and said "Sandra, I have a present for you, sweetie." Her name was not Sandra. It was Nataly. I asked him to sign out and give his ID, and he dropped the girl's arm and ran for it. Since then, I keep the blinds shut when I teach that class.
Get those stickers off your car identifying you as a female. ("Girls just wanna have FuNe!"). It makes you a target.>>.Even baby on board stickers should be avoided, what about paedophiles, child traffickers and kidnappers? You're attracting them like a magnet, I also hate the idea that a child's life is more important than mine, but that's another topic.
If you’re going to be away on holiday or somewhere you’re unfamiliar with for any length of time, it’s a good idea to try to always make sure that someone knows roughly where you’re going to be and what you’re going to be doing on a given day. Even if you’re like me and you don’t like to plan out a full itinerary, a rough indication of what your plans might be can help work out your movements if ever there is an issue.
A friend of mine who used to work for the CIA told me that if I am traveling somewhere that might be dangerous, I should leave an itinerary with a friend and family member and when I get to the country, drop off an itinerary at the embassy.
I remember reading once that if an American is in a country that goes through a sudden upheaval, it's best for them to make their way to the Canadian embassy because U.S. embassies are among the first places to be attacked.
Load More Replies...I shared my itinerary with details of my hotels info and flights schedule with my brothers when me n my sister travel, just so if anything happens, they get an idea our whereabouts.
I lived alone for a long time. I realized that if something happened to me while I was out, no one would know for a while; because no one would know if I didn't come home. I started texting one of my brothers whever I went out of town, even for just a day trip. I would let him know where I was going, who I was with, and when I expected to be home. Then I would text him when I arrived home safely. We also had a code word, just in case.
If you live alone, or are traveling alone, write your itinerary down and leave it in your house, or room. 'Just running over to XXXX and XXXX, back soon" First, if someone breaks in, they will realize that someone may be coming back to the room or house to read the note. Second, if something does happen, people searching for you know where to start...
Share location on your maps app on your phone or smart watch gps with a trusted friend.
You should always be afraid of secondary locations
Someone tries to take you off the street and says 'get in the car or I will shoot you'. You are probably better off taking your chances and trying to get away/ get a passer by's attention, than you are finding yourself tied up in someone's basement where the hope of rescue is zero.
Load More Replies...Meaning, don't follow a vendor to his wearhouse so he can "show you more since he likes you" types of situations.
If the worst happens, and you are attacked somewhere, your primary goals should be to stay alive, and NOT be taken to a secondary location. If you are attacked on the street, that's one thing, but if that attacker takes you to a secluded location, your chances just plummeted. My thinking has always been "if you're going to kill me, you're going to do it right here where we stand, while I make as much noise and trouble as possible"
Never ever get in that car. Run, scream, take a chance that the bullet will miss you, but never get in the car.
A person you are trying to buy something from says its not with them its "somewhere else" sounds like you are getting set up or robbed.
Ha ha, I've counted 3 so far (the order may have changed since you looked)
Load More Replies...I read most of these hints including this one in a book called "Tough Target" by J. J. Bittenbinder, published in 1997. He was a homicide detective in Chicago. The book includes many true stories, with outcomes that vary depending on what the person did. It's a good read. I recommend it.
Always know where the exits are in any place that you enter so that you don’t get lost in an emergency.
Also, never place yourself in a “hole” in public where there is only one entrance and exit and no other people around. These are often crime hotspots
Yep. Also, if you notice something is wrong - i.e. beginning of a fire, smoke, unusual smell - don't wait to see what happened. It could be nothing, but it could also be an emergency. Just run out of there. It might seem obvious, but I know people who got severely injured this way.
In an emergency, panicked people sometimes automatically go to the door they came in, even if it's not the closest. Always know where all the exits are.
Load More Replies...In planes I always check exactly where the exits are. If the plane crash lands and it gets all dark and full of smoke, I hope to have a better chance of survival.
When in a questionable area stay at least a car length away from the car ahead of you, so if someone approaches you at a light or stop sign you have room to get away.
Understanding how to navigate various neighborhoods, especially those that are potentially dicey, can significantly improve your daily experience.
If you're interested in learning about what signs might indicate a less desirable area, consider exploring insights from individuals who have shared their red flags of bad neighborhoods. Recognizing these cues is an invaluable component of staying safe and street-smart, particularly in settings you're unfamiliar with.
Here are a few of street smarts that makes it harder for pickpockets to steal your stuff:
Do not keep your wallet in the backpocket of your jeans. This is a super easy place for pickpocket to take it from.
When in crowed touristy areas it sometimes is better to wear your backpacks or purses to the front of your body. If you sit down in a restaurant, keep your backpack in front of your feet.
Be especially aware of your belongings when there is a bit of pushing, like when entering a subway or metro wagon.
Be alert in situations where a potential group of thieves try to distract you for example by asking you for directions on a map. While you are distracted by showing the person the directions another thief will open your bags and take your stuff without noticing.
Edit: Another thing to lookout are people in European cities asking for cash donations for the blind, deaf or handicapped. The huge majority of them are not for real charities but just to A) get some money from me and B) more importantly for an accomplice to see where you store your wallet.
F***y packs are safer than backpacks. Just don't call them f***y packs if you're in the U.K.
A group of kids can run up, one with a razor and slash your pack/bag/purse open. Contents spill out, they all grab something and run off in eleventeen directions. I had a wire net that covered my pack. "Packsafe" I think was the name. Was called "a very smart man" by two sketchy guys in a bazaar I had to walk through to get to the bus station.
I got scammed by fake charity in Berlin. It was 15 years old girl. We offered her €5 and she took €20 from my hand and ran away.
I have to keep my wallet in my back pocket if I don't have a purse because even if I have front pockets it doesn't fit up there
Yep women’s pockets are a joke, I’ve bought men’s shorts just for the pockets and extra length
Load More Replies...Lowering your pack, firmly holding it by the back straps can help, so many thieves will cut open the bottom of any pack you are wearing in order to quickly get to the contents. If there is a sign warning about pickpockets, don’t, I repeat DON’T check where your valuables are right there, anyone watching you will then know where to focus their attention
But if you wear your backpack in front, everyone will know you're a tourist.
When you read a notice that has "Beware of pickpockets" don't check for your wallet. Tap the pocket that's full of used hankies instead
Also be aware of pickpockets that work in packs. One will distract you while another takes your wallet and hands it to a third person who walks off while you deal with the original pickpocket.
I always swing my backpack around to my front and wear it there in crowded places and public transportation.
If somebody asks you your name, have a fake generic name and use it all the time. Mike, Dave, and John will do.
Someone forgot roughly 50% of the population when they wrote this advice.
Not connected to this post but ten back when I was in the Royal Canadian Navy and we were in a foreign port, one of the sailors used to tell the girls he met that his name was Kelvin Hughes. The next day the woman would come to the ship and ask for Kelvin Hughes and I would have the unfortunate task of telling her that was the name of our navigation radar.
Mike, John, or Dave will still work, though I suppose you could also use something like Ashley, Sophie, or something of the like.
Load More Replies...My friend and I have a rule that we use one another's names. I use Christine when I'm not feeling safe, and she uses Emma.
If you want to know if you can trust somebody you let in your home, leave a $5 bill in a place that looks like it was forgotten about and that they would see it. If they'll take you for $5 now, they'll take you for more later.
Anywhere. Desk, table, cupboard, between plants. Imagine, how many times you've put some cents in random place, with plan of picking them up lately
Load More Replies...Do not unlock your car when halfway across the parking lot from it. Unlock it once you're close enough to see if anyone tries to get into it. If you're having trouble finding your car, you can hit the "lock" button to get it to chirp w/o unlocking it.
My vehicle now has a button to flash the lights so I can find it. Not really needed with a big brown SUV parked in a disabled bay.
And always walk to your car with your house key between your middle fingers in a closed fist. This way, if someone grabs you, you can ram it into their leg, their eye, their hand...anything to cause them pain and make them release you to run away.
I am now finding out cars can chirp.why does this not exist in the uk
If you are in an area where there are storefronts, use the reflection in their window glass to see behind you as you walk. There may be people on the street that you pass, but if they make a sudden move on you, you can react.
Parallel parking is much easier using window reflections to see how close you are to other vehicles
I've done this at an ATM before now. I went to take some money out but saw a reflection of a male stood too close behind me so I cancelled the transaction before I did anything else and walked away.
If you feel uncomfortable in a metro/underground car, slip out as the doors are closing. For bonus security travel back 1d3 (1 to 3) stops, then resume your journey. Having been mugged once, I'm gonna make 'em work for it if there is a next time. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. Stay safe.
They love D&D and live their life one die roll at a time?
Load More Replies...Getting out of the door at the last second sounds dangerous to me. Yes, most doors have a safety measure to prevent crushing people, but if you try to jump out so hurriedly, tripping etc. seems inevitable. And if someone else has the same idea as you, you‘ll block each other.
if you slip out of the doors as they are closing, doesn't that mean that the train will leave without you??
If you are a woman and have a handbag with a zipper, make sure the opening end is towards the front (where you can keep an eye on it). This prevents someone walking behind you from opening your handbag and taking your wallet/anything valuable.
Done this for years and and use one with shorter straps so it's always under my upper arm. And I never place my handbag in a shopping cart.
when I place mine in a shopping cart, I clip the shoulder strap around the cart, so you have to either physically unhook it or walk off with the whole cart
Load More Replies...I have buggy clips on my walker and wheelchair. If I have to put my bag down on the walker, I secure it to the frame with the clips (carabiner clips with velcro)
never drink/ do drugs in situations you don’t know about. Could be someone spikes it, takes advantage by robbing, rape, kidnapping whatever it is. Always be paying attention
About drinks, if at a bar, never take your eyes off your drink, if you must then don’t go back to it.
And this advice applies to non-alcoholic drinks, too. Soda is easy to spike because the sweet taste masks the drug. And men need to watch out too. People may slip them something to rob them or to take advantage of any women they’re with.
Yeas, my Muslim friend was spiked one night, and we found him outside in a puddle of his own puke and really quite ill, he was only drinking soft drinks.
Load More Replies...always buy drinks that are freshly opened when handed to you, no fancy cocktails. Bottle of Beer will do
This situation can and does happen in your own home and/or with people you know as well. First don’t leave a drink unattended. If you must go use the restroom, buy a new drink when you return. Don’t accept a free drink which has already been made. Again situational awareness, look around, who is staring at you?
There is a testing thing called a SipChip that you can keep on your key chain to test your drink, if you don't want to throw it out. I got one for each of my kids. Although if you think it's been spiked, just get rid of it.
When walking in an unfamiliar city...or trail, look back regularly. It will help you to remember landmarks that will guide you back home.
My husband thinks it's silly, but if we're going somewhere unfamiliar, I have him print out the directions going home as well as going to. Pennsylvania roadwork is no joke, and there are a lot of places where you have to take a different road or an exit interchange going to the destination but not going home, that kind of thing.
Load More Replies...I use a three step process: Find the biggest, most well-known landmark in the area (can be a train station, a university, a well known statue or public building - something known throughout the city or country). Then, the first time you go to where you are staying, find a middle landmark (like a tall or distinctive building) that is visible from the major landmark as well as close to your lodgings. Then all you have to memorize is the short distance from the middle landmark to your lodgings. Presto - you can find your way from anywhere in the city or country back to your lodgings. Just ask how to get to the major landmark, look for the middle landmark and walk the few blocks to your lodgings. I always plot this out when in a new city or country.
Security guards, doormen, food cart owners, and blue collars in general, know where the closest bathrooms are.
Be aware of surroundings, look like you belong either through body language, attire, or occupation (without being oblivious to things around you). The moment you look lost, out of place, or unsure is the moment you can look like a good target. If someone is looking at you with an expression questioning why you are there, be prepared to answer it with confidence and give an answer they would accept, or be prepared to leave before they can ask.
"Look like you belong " Say that again to a blond, blue eyed, 2.01 meter high Dutch man walking in Bangkok....
"...either through body language, attire, or occupation..", is what the post says.
Load More Replies...I was alone in Atlanta once ,wasn't quite sure of where I was going, I turned into an alleyway and noticed some guys stand up from leaning on the wall. I knew I had to brazen it out so I sized them all up and picked out the leader(better dressed,turned out I was right ) When I got to them I said ,really nice shoes man, he told them to back up and I was on my way.
"Where is the nearest coffee shop?" you ask me, a Frenchwoman, who does not, in fact, know where the nearest coffee shop is.
There are 146 street suffixes acknowledged by the U.S. Postal Service. Alphabetically, the first is "alley" and the last is "yard". These are also bad places to duck into if you're being followed, because there's only one exit.
Wait, so blvd is a type or road, and drive and road are different? Can someone identify the differences?
The suffixes are not always applied properly, but a boulevard is generally a divided roadway generally in an urban environment, while a 'divided highway' is a limited-access arterial route. Streets and avenues generally run at right angles to each other. A 'court' is a street with a grid-name, but is not a thruway, for instance 38th Ct. is between 37th St. and 39th St, but doesn't go through. Similarly, 38th Place is between 37th Avenue and 39th Avenue, but doesn't go through.
Load More Replies...Many Major cities not only have streets that follow numbers, they also follow the alphabet and are themed sometimes. Like a series of streets may have the names of trees...Ash, Birch, Cedar, Dogwood, Elm.... Figuring out the pattern can not only help you find addresses, it can help prevent you from getting lost.
That's a LOT, in the UK you could try "crescent" to have a way out, but I know of a couple that are dead-ends which is kinda backwards, and a couple of "close" that are actually crescents! Stupid people
Always tell my kids to walk with a purpose.
I can just imagine a random person walking up to my siblings and saying "Kids, walk with a purpose."
Load More Replies...Kids like to walk slowly and scuff shoes as well, I used to take forever to walk anywhere when I was a kid.
If you're alone on the street and you think you're being followed, immediately call someone, forget about conversation starters, and give away your location. You should add " I think I'm being followed". Speak loudly enough so the person you think is following you hears you doing it. If you're right and they were following you, that will be a big turn off. If you're wrong you have nothing to lose. It might sound harsh, but if anyone approaches you and asks to use your phone for anything ( especially emergency-related ), don't fall for it. They will usually tell you what the "emergency" is, so walk away, tell them you don't have a phone/whatever, and for your inner peace call the emergency and give away that person's location. Tell them exactly what the person told you. Either they really needed help and you're sending it their way, or they tried to trick you into something horrible and will most likely try it again with the next passerby. Whenever you are, plan ahead and blend in with the crowd. I mean don't dress all-fancy in the hood-kinda thing. Please, for the love of God, stop using your earphones while on the street. At least try to only have one earbud in if you can't help it. It' s not healthy ( ear fatigue, potential risks to your hearig,etc.) but at least it won't completely cover the background noises.
That second point - the flip side, if you are the one with the emergency, never ask to use someone else's phone, get them to use it! If it's a real emergency, you do not have time to faff about unlocking phones and finding where they've hidden the call icon, or whatever else if you're used to android and they've got an iPhone. If a call needs to be made in a real emergency, let the person who is most familiar with the handset make the call!
Get bone conduction headphones. They’re not healthier for your hearing and you’ll still be distracted, but at least you can hear what’s going on around you. I sometimes wear them at work and so far nobody has realised I’m listening to music while talking to them.
Someone once walked up to us downtown and asked if he could either borrow my dad's or have my dad to call his wife because his friends left him in downtown with no way home and turns out he was telling the truth. I hope he got new "friends"
I just drove a woman a couple of miles because of a heat wave, never met her before. She asked me for directions to a specific place, I advised her and after assessing her (personal appearance, conversation content), I was more than happy to offer her a ride. She was grateful and I would do it again with another person who may be stranded. Chances are the person who attacks you, will be an “opportunistic attacker” they will see a vulnerability and and take it. My neighbors truck was stolen one morning, he had a bad habit of starting up his truck and returning to his apartment to finish getting ready (big mistake without a second set of keys to lock the car while it is idling), sure enough the truck was stolen, found a few blocks away completely intact. No doubt someone was tired of walking and saw an opportunity. Bottom line - don’t make opportunities
I have headphones on constantly, even walking through the streets at 3am, or with the dogs through the woods, but I'm just not fearful of anything, which is nice, maybe I should be but I love music too much. I even wear them when cycling, which I know is naughty.
I'm going to go ahead and assume you are male presenting then.
Load More Replies...The most dangerous time to drive is right when it starts raining, cause any oil on the street has mixed with the water, making it slippery, but hasn't had enough time to wash away yet.
Not necessarily... summer after it's been hot for a while then yes, but if it's rained recently then no. It's not the "oil", but the road dirt that turns into a slimy paste.
I think this is less of a big thing if you live somewhere it rains throughout the year. Where I live, we go half the year with rarely getting any rain. That first big rain of the year makes the roads treacherous.
Load More Replies...I grew up in a a pretty rough neighborhood in chicago and probably the best thing you should do when walking by yourself at night is pay attention to every car. Usually they’ll drive past you and scope you out, if you look like a target you’ll see that car again, or they’ll meet u farther down your path while you’re walking past an alley. Always be ready for something when walking past an alley and stay close to the houses, that way if anything’s suspicious, you can run into a backyard.
In the rough s**t-hole I grew up in, most back gardens were not places you wanted to be either, trust me.
If you are in any sort of confrontation and someone balls their fist and looks away for a second, or even just looks away for a second, you should be prepared for the possibility of a sucker punch.
Use that second to kick them so hard in the family jewels that the bells are chiming.
If you are climbing into your car and someone tries to grab you and pull you out, put your arm through the steering wheel and lock yourself in. Push the alarm button on your key fob or start leaning against the horn and scream as loud as you can. It will either be enough to scare the person away or enough to get someone to call 911 or run to the rescue. A woman did this in the parking lot grocery store. Me, my sister and my friends all ran to the woman's car. The guy (her ex) saw he had an audience and tried to run, but the cops heard it down the street and nabbed him before he could get away.
If you are kidnapped, r@ped, whatever, try to get as much DNA as you can from them (skin, hair etc) from them so scientists can tell who they are and track them down!
If someone attempted to mug me, and then look away, I would take the long awaited opportunity to shriek like a deranged maniac and lunge at them, attempting to bite them once they've let down their guard. Once they've been knocked unconscious, jab them so hard with a needle full of sleepy juice to ensure they're knocked out and then drag their sorry ass to the police station
Walk around your car before you get into it. Keep your head up and be alert, or at least look alert. FFS, turn off your car and take the keys with you when you stop at a store or gas station.
Who leaves thier keys in and a car running when going into a store?
When in New York City, odd numbered streets go west and even numbered streets go east. Additionally, odd-numbered buildings are on the north side of the street and even-numbered addresses are on the south.
East or west relative to what exactly? In my experience streets are bidirectional.
In most cases the numbered streets in NYC are one way. The avenues (N-S) are two way.
Load More Replies...NY grid system is the most amazing thing for tourists, I didn't have to ask for help and never got lost, and enjoyed all the walking.
This system was adopted by European cities which were planned exactly like that even in medieval times.
Load More Replies...This is not a slight a anyone from Boston, but your map looks like someone dropped a plate of spaghetti
Load More Replies...And most named streets that are not main routes are in alphabetical order.
In Washington, DC, streets are in alphabetical order, leading down to the capital. First they are simply letters, "F street, G street, H Street, Eye Street, J Street." The one-syllable words, then two... The exceptions are the diagonal avenues which are randomly named after states.
Utilized a retail store's big reusable bag to hide an expensive purse when walking at a sketchy section in the city.
I do this all the time. I once placed my phone and wallet in a paper bag with vegetables
Or just avoid walking in sketchy sections in the city and use a taxi if you have to be there for some reason. And if even a taxi won't go there it's perhaps better to stay away from that area.
Some people can only afford to live, work, and/or commute through the “bad” parts.
Load More Replies...Every answer on the street in a not-so-nice area is No. "hey can i have a cigarette?" no "hey you got the time?" no "hey can i borrow your phone to make a call?" no
I say no to everything and anyone, by reflex. With the exception of the cigarette. I always say yes, and it has done me a lot of good, especially when I give them to people I see more than once at places I walk past a few times a week
I fully agree. Sharing a smoke (& if you have a spare lighter just give them one) can actually buy you a decent amount of good will, especially if you smoke a brand they like. If, like Eslamala, you're passing these peeps with frequency, you're likely to end up with a stranger watching your back instead of being indifferent if danger's afoot.
Load More Replies...My husband inadvertently did this one holiday season. Approached on the street "Sir, do you have the Christmas spirit? " he replied "NO!". We walked away some and he, being hard of hearing asks me "what did he say?". I laughed so hard!
Don't talk if you don't need to.
Never turn your back to someone who you don't trust or is aggressive. YouTube is full of videos of people getting sucker punched from behind.
My cousin learned this the hard way around 1988. She was with some other people at a convenience store, and words were exchanged with strangers. She and her companions chose to leave, but as they did, one of the strangers ran up behind and punched her, once on each side of her head. Broke her jaw on both sides, and she never saw it coming. I don't remember hearing that the guy was ever caught.
For girls, make up a fake boyfriend to get creeps away. If you’re being followed, don’t freeze up and just keep walking. Go into the nearest fast food place or store. Keep your eyes forward and don’t look at people. And please, for the love of god, don’t stop in the middle of the sidewalk.
DO NOT "keep your eyes forward" always be aware of ALL of your surroundings, head up, yes, eyes constantly taking in everything.
One time I was in a bar talking about my then boyfriend, and this @s$hole said, "You don't have a boyfriend!" I said, "Yes I do!" He then put his paw on my leg. I told him to take it off, and he just laughed. Then I went Beast Mode and grabbed his nice long beard. I don't recall exactly what I said next, but it was along the lines of "TAKE YOUR [CENSORED] PAW OFF ME YOU DEGENERATE BABOON BEFORE I MAKE YOU REGRET YOUR Y CHROMOSOME!!!" He backed off. Sometimes just acting fierce is enough to convince s--theads not to [mess] with you. House cats have been known to intimidate bears and even alligators.
My husband and I were in a college town and this girl was being followed by two guys through the streets where all the bars were. She looked terrified. I waved to her and said "Hey girlfriend. Where have you been? We've been waiting for you!" She came straight up to us and my husband, being a big burly man, gave the two guy a stare down. They left and we offered to walk her the last few blocks to her home.
Just tell him about your scorching yeast infection, and how these grey clots of cheesy, frothy slime won't stop oozing out of you, and it's really ruining your day. He'll leave you alone quick enough.
If there is one house that looks occupied on a mostly empty street with burnt down houses......that's a trap house.
“And if you ain’t a hoe, get up at my trap house!!” -Bobby Schmurder I have one on the east end of the street, and another on the west end. All and all, my neighborhood is pretty safe and gentrification is well in its way. That’s the shitty part.
“I been selling crack since like the 5th grade” —man, that took me back. Haha
Load More Replies...If a stranger talks to you in public, and it's not immediately clear why they're talking to you, ignore them. Just keep minding your own business, don't look at them, and don't say a word. Most hustles start as "just a friendly chat".
I'm quite a friendly dude and will engage in a harmless conversation with people, some people are just lonely I think and like a chat, I like talking to old people as well. This advice could be taken too far and just make a paranoid wreck who suspects everyone, it's a fine line.
If you are a tourist and want a local to take a pic of you with your phone either have it be an employee or someone you can outrun. Wear one headphone so you can still hear whats around you
"Someone you can outrun" So where'm I supposed to find a hedgehog in Rome?
Have a faster friend and a slower friend with you. The former will help if your stuff gets stolen, the latter's good if you're running from a bear-
Load More Replies...If you’re ever locked up and some of the guys are playing cards and you happen to see a card fell into one of their laps, don’t try and be helpful and point out that they dropped a card.
Um, are you relating this from experience? Did you actually walk up to a prison card game being played under prison rules and point out "Hey wait a minute fellas! That guy dropped the ace of spades on his lap! Better call a misdeal or he will feel pretty foolish!"?I can only hope you woke up sedated in the infirmary and not some random cell if that was the case.
My ex-husband (and why he's an ex should be self-explanatory) told me if you get locked up and the crowd looks a little scary, make them think you're mentally ill. They don't mess with the mentally ill very often, because (his words, not mine) "crazy people are unpredictable".
If someone asks your shoe size start walking lol
The person asking will steal them from you if they are his or her size.
Load More Replies...If you need to scream for help, don’t yell HELP! Yell FIRE! Instead. Not all people who hear a yell for help will think it’s genuine, or they don’t want to get involved. When you yell fire, everyone wants to get out of the building in case their’s is the one on fire.
Exactly what I was going to write. Sadly, people react to something that affects them or their interests more often than to another person's scream for help.
Load More Replies...The best tip I ever got was "when you're going out with your kid(s), take a picture of them before leaving the house. If they get lost, you have a recent picture and the clothes they're wearing, should you need to call the police." Most of these are rather obvious, or straight up paranoid. Not everyone is targeting you. Most of the time, people who *want* to rob you, will find a way to do it, and the whole "stranger danger" thing is ok for kids, but being a paranoid adult won't do you any good.
There’s nothing paranoid about using common sense and a reasonable amount of caution.
Load More Replies...Alot of these are really super paranoid. Most places are not a constant danger zone. Especially not during the day.
At the risk of being labeled with "toxic masculinity" I never get in the car before my wife is inside and her door locked. I'm not the most intimidating man in the world, but if anyone in the parking lot is looking to run up on someone, I figure my 5'10" 200+ pounds looks like less of a target than my 4'10" wife.
Years ago a stranger asked to use my phone because her phone battery had died. I didn’t want to hand mine over so I suggested swapping the batteries. That didn’t work so I did end up giving her my phone, but she didn’t remember the number she needed to call. So I went with her to find the number… In the end she succeeded in making the call and I didn’t lose my phone in the process, but at this point I probably should have been robbed and possibly murdered according to this article. Instead whenever I saw this girl later on we’d say hi and laugh about the incident and years later we ended up recording a cover song together. So stupid decisions *can* have happy endings. Or I’m just really lucky, because I also survived helping a strange guy look for his puppy when I was around 8 (there turned out to be no puppy, and no pants under his coat, but luckily one very angry mom nearby), AND meeting at a cemetery for a first date (got a life long friend out of that).
I was that scared girl stranger once,I forgot my phone,I panicked then looked around to find a really old granny,she gave me her button phone to call my Mom,she was so nice.Gosh,if everyone on the street said no that day I dunno what would have happened to me.
Load More Replies...I once was on the subway in France, a man was trying to open a zipper on my husbands backpack. I looked him straight in the eyes and told him to back off. He said he was just going by to be with his friend. Next stop they both went out of the train and entered again a couple of doors further. I hope they didn't succeed there either. I always wear my backpack on the front when I'm on the train.
should have told him, "GET THE F**K AWAY FROM ME OR DIE"
Load More Replies...When someone has approached you, don't go away, look them straight in the eyes, don't look back even for second, and say calmly, but strongly "GO AWAY". This works 99% of a time, as you're showing them, that you're not afraid of them, that you're confident. Mostly they are looking for people, that aren't so self aware and are go to to abuse, rob, or ask for money. And yes, if someone third will get into that interaction, you'll have to do it again (that's kinda why I'm not a fan of "heroes", as I'm doing ok on my own). I'm small female, so it happens to me a lot and that's how I was able to get back home safe all the time.
I think that might work if you're near other people as the guy doesn't want to draw attention to himself. I once stopped at a rest stop on a long drive at 2 am to get a few minutes sleep and went inside the building that had bathrooms and vending machines to use the bathroom and get coffee. There were 2 entrances/exits but one was chained shut. A man came in and blocked the exit, watching me. God kept me calm, I'm not a calm person. I stood across the room watching him. I'm sure the look on my face wasn't pleasant as I'd had a rough night and he was standing between me and my children. But I waited, watching and blowing gently on my scalding hot coffee. After a few minutes, he turned and walked out. After that, I was alert enough to keep driving. But I don't think anything that I could have said would have made me less vulnerable. I think I was clearly communicating " Fkin try me!" With my eyes though and he did consider it. I could see it in his face.
Load More Replies...OK, even I find a lot of this going too far, and I was raised to be rather hyper-vigilant. Be aware, be alert, prepare for worst, life is easier, so far so good.
Most of this is common sense. Where I live I was taught a lot of this by my parents. Every child should be taught survival instincts. I has saved me more than once when I was small and as an adult. Trust no one!
And people still don't or may not, commonly sense these things. Educating is helpful, no matter
Load More Replies...If you need to scream for help, don’t yell HELP! Yell FIRE! Instead. Not all people who hear a yell for help will think it’s genuine, or they don’t want to get involved. When you yell fire, everyone wants to get out of the building in case their’s is the one on fire.
Exactly what I was going to write. Sadly, people react to something that affects them or their interests more often than to another person's scream for help.
Load More Replies...The best tip I ever got was "when you're going out with your kid(s), take a picture of them before leaving the house. If they get lost, you have a recent picture and the clothes they're wearing, should you need to call the police." Most of these are rather obvious, or straight up paranoid. Not everyone is targeting you. Most of the time, people who *want* to rob you, will find a way to do it, and the whole "stranger danger" thing is ok for kids, but being a paranoid adult won't do you any good.
There’s nothing paranoid about using common sense and a reasonable amount of caution.
Load More Replies...Alot of these are really super paranoid. Most places are not a constant danger zone. Especially not during the day.
At the risk of being labeled with "toxic masculinity" I never get in the car before my wife is inside and her door locked. I'm not the most intimidating man in the world, but if anyone in the parking lot is looking to run up on someone, I figure my 5'10" 200+ pounds looks like less of a target than my 4'10" wife.
Years ago a stranger asked to use my phone because her phone battery had died. I didn’t want to hand mine over so I suggested swapping the batteries. That didn’t work so I did end up giving her my phone, but she didn’t remember the number she needed to call. So I went with her to find the number… In the end she succeeded in making the call and I didn’t lose my phone in the process, but at this point I probably should have been robbed and possibly murdered according to this article. Instead whenever I saw this girl later on we’d say hi and laugh about the incident and years later we ended up recording a cover song together. So stupid decisions *can* have happy endings. Or I’m just really lucky, because I also survived helping a strange guy look for his puppy when I was around 8 (there turned out to be no puppy, and no pants under his coat, but luckily one very angry mom nearby), AND meeting at a cemetery for a first date (got a life long friend out of that).
I was that scared girl stranger once,I forgot my phone,I panicked then looked around to find a really old granny,she gave me her button phone to call my Mom,she was so nice.Gosh,if everyone on the street said no that day I dunno what would have happened to me.
Load More Replies...I once was on the subway in France, a man was trying to open a zipper on my husbands backpack. I looked him straight in the eyes and told him to back off. He said he was just going by to be with his friend. Next stop they both went out of the train and entered again a couple of doors further. I hope they didn't succeed there either. I always wear my backpack on the front when I'm on the train.
should have told him, "GET THE F**K AWAY FROM ME OR DIE"
Load More Replies...When someone has approached you, don't go away, look them straight in the eyes, don't look back even for second, and say calmly, but strongly "GO AWAY". This works 99% of a time, as you're showing them, that you're not afraid of them, that you're confident. Mostly they are looking for people, that aren't so self aware and are go to to abuse, rob, or ask for money. And yes, if someone third will get into that interaction, you'll have to do it again (that's kinda why I'm not a fan of "heroes", as I'm doing ok on my own). I'm small female, so it happens to me a lot and that's how I was able to get back home safe all the time.
I think that might work if you're near other people as the guy doesn't want to draw attention to himself. I once stopped at a rest stop on a long drive at 2 am to get a few minutes sleep and went inside the building that had bathrooms and vending machines to use the bathroom and get coffee. There were 2 entrances/exits but one was chained shut. A man came in and blocked the exit, watching me. God kept me calm, I'm not a calm person. I stood across the room watching him. I'm sure the look on my face wasn't pleasant as I'd had a rough night and he was standing between me and my children. But I waited, watching and blowing gently on my scalding hot coffee. After a few minutes, he turned and walked out. After that, I was alert enough to keep driving. But I don't think anything that I could have said would have made me less vulnerable. I think I was clearly communicating " Fkin try me!" With my eyes though and he did consider it. I could see it in his face.
Load More Replies...OK, even I find a lot of this going too far, and I was raised to be rather hyper-vigilant. Be aware, be alert, prepare for worst, life is easier, so far so good.
Most of this is common sense. Where I live I was taught a lot of this by my parents. Every child should be taught survival instincts. I has saved me more than once when I was small and as an adult. Trust no one!
And people still don't or may not, commonly sense these things. Educating is helpful, no matter
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