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Straight Guys Are Sharing 30 Everyday Things They Secretly Do That Society Calls “Gay”
Everyone has their own definition of masculinity. And that's the beauty of it. If you're not harming anyone, there are a million ways in which you can be a man and make the world around you a better place.
But every stick has two ends. Every once in a while, someone comes along and tries to project their own vision of a man. What his virtues should and should not be.
Some time ago, Reddit user Possibly Degenerate submitted a question to the platform, asking: "What are the things every man should at least try even though they are stigmatized as 'gay' or 'unmanly?'"
As of this article, there are nearly 25,000 comments under the post, reminding us that society is still pretty messed up when it comes to masculinity and homosexuality. However, it also shows that we're growing increasingly aware of it.
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#1
My husband paints my nails and helps me do my hair. I have a condition that makes those little jobs monumentally difficult. When we start dating as teens he took a make up course in school to help me do my make up, and pick complimentary colours. He was a metal head teenager in a make up course and I think it’s the most manly thing anyone’s ever done.
Fxcku 3 years ago
Having your nails done and use make up is not necessary at all. Stop finding these girly stuff useful.
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Kantami Blossom 3 years ago
When you do what you need to do regardless of other people's opinions you're a man, those makes who spend hours to get the perfect beard to look "macho" or in the gym constantly to look strong are nothing more than fops.
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#2
Telling your male friends you love them. Just at the end of highschool my group had several deaths occur. Car accident, cancer, suicide and a couple murders. Now in my current group we say love you after most conversation. Some people think it wierd but f**k em. People aren't around forever. Better to let them know how you feel while you can.
guyx23 3 years ago
I don't think anyone over the age of 15 thinks telling your friends you love them is gay.
Xottel 3 years ago
Depends on the language. In my native language it can be easily misunderstood. But anyway, say what you feel.
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Alexej Dvorak 3 years ago
Anyone else startled by how OP casually brushes off "a couple of murders"? Like, how is the statistical chance you even make it to 21 in that area?!
Donkey boi 3 years ago
Me and the lads have always done this. Big hug, 'Love you man!', occasionally a kiss on the cheek. 2 of the lad ARE gay, but never had anyone say anything out loud. Presumably it was either because it was clear that we are all so comfortable with our sexuality, or because most of us look a bit like we'd cause trouble if you caught you running your mouth.
Jessany Trotter 3 years ago
On ya! Do that! Life is too short. Nothing “gay” about it. Losing people hurts, losing the opportunity to tell them you love them hurts more.
Satya Bain 3 years ago
Screw them. I love all of you. If you are having a bad day, let me know.
Monkeywrench Productions 3 years ago
yeah, id probably do that too if everyone of my friends kept dying. jesus
While asking the question, Possibly Degenerate didn't think it would get that big.
"[At that moment,] I was quarantined with my roommates, all guys at around 21 years of age and I just felt like I was wasting [my time] away," the Redditor told Bored Panda about the origins of their now-viral post.
"I was talking to one of them and told him I felt like I had to do something for myself. I don't know what, just to feel a bit better. And he was like, 'That sounds f**king gay.'"
#3
Being verbally and physically affectionate (if you're comfortable with contact in general) with your boys.
I tell my boys I love them. I hug my boys. I kiss my boys before a night of wrestling and howling at the moon. Aragorn kissed Boromir. You gonna tell me Aragorn was unmanly? Good luck saving Gondor without your boys, coward.
ComfyPanda 3 years ago
My 16, almost 17, year old son rolls his eyes whenever I hug him. But I do it anyway cause I need him to know that I love him so much.
Donkey boi 3 years ago
This entry reminded me of one of the best lines I've overheard from a "fragile" bloke, 'It's not gay, if it's Sean Bean'.
guesswho2who2 3 years ago
just be a little discrete, mom... it's a little embarrassing to get kissed goodbye on the doorstep when your son is going out with friends who have come to pick him up...
LONECOOLMAN 3 years ago
great job dad! I don't remember my father being so affectionate. but different time back in the 60's and 70's.
HarriMissesScotland 3 years ago
I'm a woman, but you are right, most men did not even hug their teenagers. I started hugging my dad when I hit my 20's and it took a while, but he did hug me back. He was also born in 1910, and 46 when I was born.
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Legolas Greenleaf 3 years ago
I dunno about you but I heard about it from Aragorn himself.
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Cold Contagious 3 years ago
It's all in the presentation and how you carry it out. I'm sure all of this things could be construed in a bad light by some people, but most won't care at all and if you feel that strongly about each other then by all means, absolutely, show your feelings towards each other no matter where you are.
Mark Waters 3 years ago
My father when I was growing up didn't say I love you or give me hugs. So I decided that I would brake the cycle and have told my boys and daughter that I love them and give them hugs, also.
#4
Crying. Just let it out, guys. You can do it! Don’t apologize for it or hide it either.
Hedgeh og 3 years ago
Yes. Crying can be healthy, a stress-reliever, and cathartic. We should normalize it. Not always shrug it off or use euphemisms about dust/allergies/onions/ninjas etc. "That was moving and it made me cry" or some variant thereof is straightforward and healthy.
Keller Worthen 3 years ago
Half the people on bored panda have used the onion ninja excuse
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ComfyPanda 3 years ago
That disturbs me greatly..the thing in the wall that is. Men crying does NOT disturb me. I like it. Shows they have a sensitive side. And absolutely nothing wrong with that.
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Wintermute 3 years ago
Millenial men growing up and learning not to cry - "Don't cry, it's not manly." Millenial men after growing up and not knowing how to cry - "Crying is so manly." :\ Lesson of the story? Stop listening to people's stupid opinions.
Jihana 3 years ago
There's a taxidermized coyote in a picture frame, and a weird shell-face in another. I am scared to ask what's in the frame the guy is holding.
Chicagoboi 3 years ago
it's the picture of his beloved late mother who was a big game hunter in her days and shot the coyote on the wall.
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JR_4755826 3 years ago
It's cringey when I hear a girl call a guy a pu$#y because he is crying. Or the worst, man up!
Mollie Mills 3 years ago
I thanks it's horrible that men feel like they can't cry because they have to "man up!"
Rahul Pawa 3 years ago (edited)
At some point a long time ago I went from "feeling like I can't cry", to simply "I can't cry". For a long time, that's where I stayed. Lately I've been practicing letting myself cry by watching movies alone. Letting myself cry is not easy for me.
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I was a preschool teacher for 21 years. It was so sad how many times my boys were told by their dads "Don't be a Nancy." and other ways that disapproved their tears. I encouraged all feelings (yes even anger) and helped them learn healthy ways to express it.
Possibly Degenerate said he doesn't really know why toxic masculinity is so deeply rooted within our society.
"I see it all the time," he added. "In really young boys all the way up to old men. I don't quite notice it serving any real purpose as a lot of right-wing internet people keep going on about."
#5
Anything I do is manly, because I'm a man and I'm doing it.
Crying over an emotional situation. Man card punched.
Having tea with my daughter. Man card punched.
Daddy dance time with the kids. Man card punched.
A "spa day" with a straight razor shave, mani/pedi and towel treatment. Man card punched.
Wearing purple or pink, (the colors of Royalty and Pussy!). Man card punched.
Having my prostate stimulated for the best orgasm of my life. Man card punched.
If you're not insecure, you don't miss out on experiences because of labels.
Mykidsartrocks 3 years ago
The prostate stimulation. I learned how to do this for my ex husband. If I ever date again and dude says it is "gay" then he is gone.
Phillip Hart 3 years ago
I'm convinced that most guys don't know the difference between climax and orgasm. I suspect if this stigma didn't exist more guys would be more able to please their partners regardless of gender or sexual preference
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tuzdayschild 3 years ago (edited)
"Anything I do is manly, because I'm a man and I'm doing it." That really says it all.
Scott Crowell 3 years ago
So tell me about the prostrate stimulation thing please. Asking for a friend
Alice Platzer 3 years ago
Came to say that. In the 80s, guys wore lots of pink.
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Nickie Chan 3 years ago
I have every item in clothing in bright pink, which I wear out proudly. Married to a wonderful woman and we have a kid cuz she thinks it's hot that I can be so comfy in pink
Snowfoxrox 3 years ago
I introduced my hubs to pedicures. More and more men are discovering that it feels good to get pampered.
#6
I pee sitting down. It's way better. Fight me.
Rick Seiden 3 years ago
I pee sitting down a lot of the time. Always when I'm going to bed or in the middle of the night. Even if it's just this one thing--you don't have to aim. That means, in turn, you won't miss. That, in turn, means you never have to clean up after yourself. (I told my son when he was learning to use the toilet that all men try to get it in the bowl, and all men will miss from time to time. But that's not true if you sit and tuck.)
Erik Ivan 3 years ago
If you spent some time as a cleaner, that is a no brainer. Womens bathrooms don't have urin splattered all over the place.
toxxic 3 years ago
as someone who works retail i can confirm this is false.
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Chris berkley 3 years ago (edited)
Omg especially in the mornings or when you have a long pee, I do the same thing!!!
Adrienne Mcginley 3 years ago
As a woman, & for all women everywhere, THANK YOU! My ex peed sitting down & it not only saved on cleaning time, it prevented the dreaded condition known as falling a**e first into the sheet.
LSR 3 years ago
"Saved cleaning time..." what, were you married to a pig who could not take a f*****g piece of toilet paper and clean a mess?
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kennedy1209 3 years ago
learned this after getting my PA piercing. One of the many good things to come out of that.
Judging from his personal experience, the Redditor doesn't think that things are changing for the better in people his age and older. However, the younger folks seem to have a broader perception of being a man.
"I see a lot of kids who are just 16-18 being a lot more open about queer stuff and gendered things, expressing themselves in ways we'd surely got beaten up for in school," the guy, who was born in '98, said.
#7
Quality hugs for your bros. Don’t do the ol’ shoulders touch and pat on the back. Grab your friend and give them a hug!
Issey 3 years ago
I think this is also kind of depending on where you grew up? I am German and in my family we hug now and then, mostly when we meet and before we leave. My neighbours are Italian and god damn, there is so much hugging and kissing. It's awesome
Hedgeh og 3 years ago
The family and culture we grew up in definitely does set what feels "normal" for us as we get older. There's absolutely nothing to say we can't branch out from there if we want to, though.
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Firestorm Glow 3 years ago
I try hugging my friend who are girls, and they are TERRIBLE huggers XD some refuse hugs, some hugs only last a second and other hugs last 5 minutes... it sucks. BUT my friends who are boys are GREAT huggers, they know just when to hug you and how long. it's awesome
#8
Also seeing a therapist. That s**t is fire.
martin734 3 years ago
I saw a therapist every week for almost a year after I had a total breakdown at work. I had worked as a Paramedic for over 10 years and had developed PTSD. At the end of one shift, after dealing with my 3rd fatal RTC involving children in 4 days, I just had a complete meltdown. Thankfully the NHS were absolutely superb. They allowed me a lot of time off to get over it, and then after I decided I couldn't go back to being on front-line medicine they continued to pay me and support me while I retrained as a Physiotherapist. I now love my job and have finished therapy.
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
I'm sorry that you were having difficulties. I would imagine that it does happen often in that line of work. I'm so glad that you received such good help and were able to take time to recover and find new work that you can take pleasure in. I hope things continue to improve for you along your journey and best wishes.
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guesswho2who2 3 years ago
if you are hurting, guys, go for help... the worst thing you can do is to spend a weekend alone thinking through things with no company but your old pal Jack Daniels...
Donkey boi 3 years ago
15 years of therapy. That (along with my wife) is the reason I can function as a (relatively) normal member of society.
Lola 3 years ago
I have a feeling you are more normal than most. You acknowledge your faults and you choose to do something about it. Just because other people seem normal, doesn’t mean they are. And what is normal anyway?
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Trisha Howson 3 years ago
Okay this is so different, if you have issues you have to see one that has nothing to do with gay or not gay this is normal.
Satya Bain 3 years ago
I will never feel someone is weak for asking for help. Do it! You're only bettering yourself and there is nothing wrong with that.
Even though he's happy for the younger generation, as he said, the author of the post isn't all too optimistic when it comes to grown-ups.
"Even though friends of mine kinda joked about that before, I've had to come to terms with my own sexuality (which is bisexual), so would a straight™ guy have the urge or the interest to ask a question like that after all?"
#9
When my husband and I first started dating I turned him on to the magic of baths. We did face mask and bath bombs(which he really thought would explode) and bath salt(which he was worried would make him a zombie). Now he drags me into lush and ask if after our date nights if we can take a bath. I keep talking about "when we buy a house..." and he follows up with it needs a nice tub
ComfyPanda 3 years ago
This just perfectly described my hubby and I! However he won't dare step foot into Lush lol. It sets off his allergies BAAAAD!!!!
Aniviel 3 years ago
I adore Lush but yeah... I can smell it several shops away :/
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There's nothing wrong with a guy treating himself to a relaxing soak in the tub.
Donkey boi 3 years ago
Ok, if you a next level bath experience. Do what you usually do, but do it at 2-3am, with the lights off! No candles!, no light source of any kind! Just you, in the nip, soaking in water, in the pitch dark!
Monkeywrench Productions 3 years ago
i miss having a bath. my apartment only has a shower room. cerebral palsy soaks are great
#10
Try sewing. I'm the seamstress (seammaster?) for my family. Fixing clothing and making curtains etc can be just as useful as fixing a car, and comes in handy more frequently!
Alice Platzer 3 years ago
I have 5 (male) tailors within walking distance of my home (Germany). They make a good living. One of them told me about his dad, who vehemently went against his son's wish to become a tailor. Son secretly sewed a bada$$ leather jacket at the tender age of 10 and showed it off to his dad to prove tailoring is not only frills and frocks.
Philly Bob Squires 3 years ago
I wash, cook, clean, sew, iron better than my wife! She's smarter than me... she lets me do all of that! LOL!
hyj (she, her) 3 years ago
Sewing? Where, anywhere in that picture, is thread and a needle? This is someone getting ready to start knitting.
Narwhal Blast 3 years ago
I think that is really sexy. A man who knows anything about sewing and owns it like this... hot!!!
Parmeisan 3 years ago
I looked it up, it is seamster. Or tailor which is gender-neutral.
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Roxy Eastland 3 years ago
My daughter and I decided the gender neutral term should be 'seamster' just today! (Great British Sewing Bee)
#11
Being the little spoon.
NsG 3 years ago
I Iove being the big spoon for my husband, and he loves it too - it means he doesn't have to put up with my hair in his face for a start!
Legolas Greenleaf 3 years ago
HEL YES I AM THE LITTLE SPOON (despite being 6 foot 7)
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lenka 3 years ago
I love being the big spoon and the little spoon. Hubby and I alternate regularly.
martin734 3 years ago
I love being the little spoon. It doesn't matter what gender my partner is, I just love being cuddled.
Mama Penguin 3 years ago
Sometimes my husband asks to be the little spoon. Then I pretend to be a jetpack and starts bumping into his butt.
Enigma wrapped in a paradox 3 years ago
I absolutely hate being the little spoon. I get claustrophobic. I don't care what his height or size is. He doesn't get a choice. I've never had a guy complain about being the little spoon though. I think they all secretly love it. Men need affection and comfort too.
🥔SaltyPotato🥔 3 years ago
I like being big spoon. Being little spoon is also nice but I think it shows dominance when you are big spoon.
#12
Cooking, f**king hell don’t rely on others for something you need everyday. Deliveries and take aways are expensive, and it’s really really satisfying when you whip up something and it’s delicious. Eating noodles and microwave meals all the time isn’t really that much better too. You can make a pretty good pasta for like $1-3 or so per portion.
And to those men who say “I’d just marry someone who cooks”, yeah right what if the “one” doesn’t know how to cook?
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
A man who can cook decent food, take care of his laundry properly, clean his home, and pay his bills, is so much more attractive than a man that needs to be taken care of.
Erik Ivan 3 years ago
Why would anyone believe it's many to avoid cooking? I mean - some of the coolest guys ever had been chefs.
Joe Brody 3 years ago
I don't avoid it. I just don't like it. Regardless of the day, month, or year, my preferred "making it myself", is always pinto beans, brown rice, and chicken. And doing it an electric pressure cooker,, means almost no clean up.
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Tamra Stiffler 3 years ago
I wanted to marry a man, not a boy who wanted a second mommy. My husband can cook, and it's hot as hell.
Philly Bob Squires 3 years ago
Been married twice and neither wife cooked! LOL! I've been a cook since I was 10... (Mom said you eat too much and I'm tired of it... do it yourself... I'll show you! She created a monster! LOL) I'm 64 now. Don't buy me a wrench or a car part for my birthday or Christmas... get me a kitchen tool or a frying pan! (or a vinyl record... I take those too!)
#13
Going to the spa. D**k or no d**k, we all deserve to be pampered every once in awhile.
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
Absolutely! Spas should be equally enjoyed by both sexes and men should feel more confident about going.
Man in the ceiling 3 years ago (edited)
Years ago my mother was taking me to the spa, and I went because it sounded nice. When I got there I realized there were a lot of women, and I immediately became anxious as I didn’t feel like I belonged. When we were signing in this cool looking guy walks in, signs in after us and takes a seat at the massage chair. Instantly relaxed and the place instantly felt more welcoming. We even talked with him and he was quite nice, made me realize men could go to the spa as well. Even got my toenails painted a nice shade of blue, but that was ruined for me not long after. Still would go back 10/10
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Roxy Eastland 3 years ago
Can you imagine telling a Roman gladiator that only women could access most of the treatments at the baths??
Öz Deniz Boro 3 years ago
Try Turkish Baths. It's manly pampering meaning lots of tough massage amids lots of down to earth pure olive oil soap ;)
#14
Thinking, talking about and understanding your emotions.
guesswho2who2 3 years ago
if you are hurting, guys, go for help... the worst thing you can do is to spend a weekend alone thinking through things with no company but your old pal Jack Daniels...
El Dee 3 years ago
This is genuinely difficult for men. Not only are they not 'trained' to do this, they are positively suppressed from doing this by society and their own parents - mothers included. It is discouraged every step of the way. Many of them know they feel something wrong but have difficulty identifying what they feel, why they feel that and then what to do about it. This is extremely toxic for them..
LONECOOLMAN 3 years ago
YES MEN MY AGE WERE TAUGHT, MAN UP, NO CRYING IN BASEBALL! OR LIFE. SCREW THAT!
Tigerpacingthecage 3 years ago
I really hope this isn't considered a weakness. I always see it as ultimate strength! Also, it really takes your relationship and intimacy to a whole other level if your partner can communicate, be vulnerable and express their emotions. It's awesome and very attractive.
#15
Skirts. They‘re comfortable and should absolutely make their way into male fashion. Kilts are great, just think of what we‘re missing out on.
Issey 3 years ago
If you take anatomy into consideration and also the fact that skirts once were an integral part of male fashion, then yes, skirts ahoy! I don't understand why they are a gender thing.
KariLovesHerKat 3 years ago
My husband is north African and wears a thobe all the time. Its extremely comfortable and looks great
Alice Platzer 3 years ago
It looks fantastic! The area I live is an international melting pot, we have 'em all :-) Actually looking forward to summer where the African community whip out their native stuff, it's so beautiful!
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Patrick James 3 years ago
Can we make kilts more affordable or possibly make male skirts more acceptable? Kilts run $80+ You can find an affordable ladies skirt anywhere. This needs to be fixed.
Joe Brody 3 years ago
Hey, you like 'em, you wear 'em. I've got no problem with that. Truthfully, I can't understand why women seem to be so willing. Most everything I do, on or off the job, would make a skirt a safety hazard. But that's just me. For me, a wedding band is a safety hazard. And much of my off work activities, as well.
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Helen Jane Witten 3 years ago
As a young woman I quite liked wearing pretty dresses and skirts but then I realised and experienced certain people thought it was an avenue for an easy grope so I have preferred pants since my early 20's. Just saying. p.s. I'm 60 now and my go to are still pants :)
#16
Moisturising. Take care of your skin boys.
martin734 3 years ago
I spend a lot of time outdoors in all weathers. If I didn't moisturise I would end up looking like Leatherface.
Viktor 3 years ago
Which is unfortunately not uncommon for builders, etc. Ever wondered why you never see middle-aged builders, only young and old ones? Because the 45 year olds already look like 70.
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Kathleen Barlow 3 years ago
I find men that take care of themselves like this, incredibly attractive. I'd like to had lip moisturisation to the list too. Who wants to kiss nasty, dry lips? Nobody.
Adrienne Mcginley 3 years ago
Sunscreen does NOT make you a wuss. It saves your skin & potentially your life as well.
Donkey boi 3 years ago
I don't see this as a 'gay' or 'unmanly' thing. I think its just a lack of exposure to the subject. I will confess that a small part of me thinks that it's just not in our nature, I had a facial skin graft around 20 years ago and I was told I have to moisturise daily, I did it for the first week or so, then couldn't be bothered, then completely forgot. Now, every winter, I have to live with a face dryer than a camel's a**e in a sandstorm.
#17
Anything?
Real men don't give a s**t that other people think they're being "unmanly". I'll confidently order a cosmo at the bar in my purple shirt because it's a good drink and purple is my favorite color
Mama Penguin 3 years ago
"A delicious drink is a delicious drink", said my husband while sipping a mango daiquiri.
Anna Stephenson 3 years ago
God, I remember having a male friend and housemate at uni, who REALLY wanted but himself a purple UTE (A UTE FOR GODS SAKE!) but he "couldn't" because his brother thought it was "too gay" I felt so angry AND sad for him!- I hope he got his purple UTE one day!
El Dee 3 years ago
Yes, above all be yourself - whoever that is. Do what makes you happy and don't criticise others for making themselves happy..
Anjali Cooper 3 years ago
Yeah, several make friends of mine and my dad have purple as their favorite color.
Mary Leverett 3 years ago
If you can find a good raspberry Cosmo - had one at dinner on our anniversary dinner cruise (I'm not a big drinker), and it was GREAT - tried ordering one at a steak restaurant, it was SAD. 😉
guesswho2who2 3 years ago
when I get looks wearing a light purple shirt, I tell them it is the color of the sixth heaven... so I am just getting ready for the sixth heaven clothes I will wear... (now looks are puzzled)
#18
Yo since quarantine I’ve been:
Doing face masks
Using a tinted sunscreen
Using a cerave face wash
Using actual shampoo and conditioner (not the combo garbage) and a leave in
I’ve literally never felt better about my appearance. I’m sure I look the same, but just doing something makes me feel like I’m in control and am helping
Julia Winfield 3 years ago
Self-care comes in all forms. A year into quarantine I buzzed my head. Had been struggling with hair loss for a while and it just cause so much daily grief. Buzzed to this day and still love it. Also upped my skin care a tiny bit. Big fan of mighty patches. So satisfying to see the gunk the next morning 😀
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
Everyone should perform quality daily skincare and take care of their hair and body. You don't have to use expensive products, just basic things that you take the time to use correctly and use moisturizer. Time for yourself is important.
#19
Pedicures. They FEEL great and it's nice to not have to deal with your toenails and dry ass skin on your feet.
Extra bonus: if the technician jokes about painting your toenails, say yes. It will MAKE their day and then you get the extra bonus of showing them off to friends and family. They will laugh too and if they make effeminate jokes, just say you don't care and you're confident in your masculinity that some polish isn't going to bother you. And more importantly, it's FUN.
Lucinda Speer 3 years ago
My husband had diabetes, and gets pedis every 4-6 weeks to keep his feet healthy. Black toenail polish is nothing to laugh at.
JASH80 3 years ago
it could be pink or sparkly and would still be nothing to laugh at
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Awsomemom52 3 years ago
A friend gave her fiancé (an auto mechanic) and his best friend (also his best man and colleague) a spa day as an engagement gift... Pedi- and Manycure included. The appointment was 3 days before the wedding. The men thought it was a bit "silly", but went for her sake. They loved it so much, that they made it a monthly routine afterwards.
Monkeywrench Productions 3 years ago
i have to see a chiropodist every two months because my foot psoriasis looks like burnt ground beef. gotta do what you gotta do
🥔SaltyPotato🥔 3 years ago
i have a thing against feet. Don't put yours on me at all, and I won't stick mine up your nose with my socks off. I think feet are nasty.
Enigma wrapped in a paradox 3 years ago
Guys, pedicures are extremely important! Y'all complain about our prickly legs. How do you think we feel getting into bed with you and having your dry, cracked, super scratchy feet rubbing against any part of our skin? It also wreaks havoc on the sheets.
LIberalsAreMental 3 years ago
Wouldn't do...I have disgusting fungal toenails I just can't cure :(
#20
Y'all are not ready to hear this but: prostate orgasms. Get one of those toys made for that.
JASH80 3 years ago
what IS the real thing? I mean - are we talking about a partner using her fingers or do you think that the "real thing" is an orgasm while penetrating her? That's exactly the problem, one is not more "real" than the other ;-)
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Don't stick that up your butt! Use one with a flared base to avoid an embarrassing trip to the hospital.
pusheen buttercup 3 years ago
It's your body. What works for you is what it is. No judgement from me.
Satya Bain 3 years ago
Sounds delicious to me. I don't need sex, but a couple times a year, I need an orgasm. I have toys.
Mykidsartrocks 3 years ago
Pegging! Seriously, go to the lions den. They don't judge and will help you out.
Om 3 years ago
it's a tricky situation with toys. If they are vibrators it could be too strong, and when it comes to prostate play, less is more. It can also be intimidating if you're never tried anything before. I'd recommend start with something simple but effective as your own fingers, or if you have a partner, your partner's which should be easier. Then move on to something like aneros or the njoy pure wand.
Kantami Blossom 3 years ago
No thanks, I've nothing against people using things like that but with my luck it'd get lost leaving me with a hospital visit.
martin734 3 years ago
When I was a Paramedic I saw more than one improvised sex toy inserted where it shouldn't be and got stuck. Only use things that are designed for the purpose.
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Be open to the fact that you might be wrong, and when you are, even if you have argued that you were right. Admit that you were wrong.
V33333P 3 years ago
I think it's because it's drilled into many men's heads that they're right regardless of anything and everything, and they have a lot of trouble in their lives because of it
Load More Replies... Philly Bob Squires 3 years ago
Nothing in the world sucks worse than that moment during an argument when you realize that you're wrong. But hey...admit it. It goes a long way!
El Dee 3 years ago
Take the time, every so often, to examine your core beliefs. Understand why you think what you do. So many have strong opinions but don't know why - 'it's my opinion - that's why!' If there is someone in your life you trust implicitly and they say you are wrong when you are sure you are right, try to trust them and re-examine your thinking, this is particularly hard..
#22
I'm all in on the bidet. Bought it for my parents as kind of a prank gift and my dad wouldn't let my mom keep it. "I don't want water shooting up my ass!". I kept it and wouldn't go back. Way cleaner, suprisingly refreshing, and I was the one laughing when nobody could find toilet paper in the stores. A roll lasts me forever now.
Sareaesque 3 years ago
unfortunately a mindset exists that a guy cleaning his junk/bum is gay
Load More Replies... Glirpy 3 years ago
So how do you wipe your a$$ after using a bidet? Please do not tell me you use a towel and then hang it back up to use it again.
neb skram 3 years ago
you don't have wipe. have not "wiped" in over a year mine has a blow dryer its a full on car wash for my a*s. heated seat, headed wash, and a nice blow dry.
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tad lyg 3 years ago
I mean, if You would somehow get s**t on Your face or hands, You would definitely use water to wash it off because it's way cleaner than just wiping it off with toilet paper...
Sanne H. 3 years ago
Hm… I never thought about it that way. Makes sense what you say here!
Load More Replies... Philly Bob Squires 3 years ago
Hell, I don't have a bidet... I'd literally sit in the tub and run my a**e under the faucet to get that super clean feeling. (I need a bidet! LOL!)
Miles Mawyer 3 years ago
Remember the Great Toilet Paper Shortage of 2020? Everyone with a bidet was laughing at you.
#23
Diffusing a situation without threatening violence. Learn how to argue with logic and how to argue one point at a time without getting overly emotional. And if it comes down to it, and you have to fight someone, you at least tried not to take it to that level. And if you go down, go down swingin and you'll still be the winner.
Esco 3 years ago
Not fighting any dude with air monarchs. May not look like much but they'll give you the business
Kantami Blossom 3 years ago
I'm sorry to contradict but using logic and reason in an argument nowadays is a good way to get beat up, we sadly love in a world now where people refuse to accept anything other than themselves being in the right and will quickly turn to violence if anybody threatens their opinions.
hyj (she, her) 3 years ago
Yep. Knowing how to listen is huge. It doesn't even mean having to argue - when someone feels heard and their opinions respected, they almost always calm down.
Tom Lippert 3 years ago
It's always better not to fight. However sometimes it's a necessity. Learn to fight while young. Self-defense is a human right.
#24
Can’t believe nobody mentioned this but broadway musicals, plays, and show tunes in general. They rock.
I can do without the sex suggestions but you all be you.
Anna Stephenson 3 years ago
I will forever be grateful that my dad LOVED musicals- his favourite movie was "The Sound of Music" and as kids were lucky enough to be able to go see many different musical shows- "Gilbert and Sullivan" were particular favourites of his (and now mine!) Musicals etc should be fore EVERYONE!
Jennifer Lenhart 3 years ago (edited)
Hahahaha talking Broadway shows with a picture from Broadway Avenue, Saskatoon, SK - pretty far from the bright lights 😂
Grabthar's screwdriver 3 years ago
Problem is that most are c**p, there was a limited run of Jaws that I wanted to be see but the tickets were awful and expensive. Always do McDonagh plays although the last one be was awful.
#25
Nice underwear. Underwear with a built in pouch are super comfortable while supporting your genitals. Also the sexier cuts with less fabric are so much cooler than wearing shorts under pants, the case with boxers. I’m a big dude working in manufacturing and I know you wouldn’t expect me to be wearing a thong most days.
ComfyPanda 3 years ago
Dear God I hope I don't get down voted for this but oh well if I do. My hubby steals my thongs to wear a lot of the time. Or my bikini underwear. He's a Victoria Secret snob...but then so am I lol. And he looks DAMN SEXY in them too!!!!
Adrienne Mcginley 3 years ago
Men should have a stash of sex underwear (aka: the really nice stuff) the same as women do. Trust me, we notice, & you lose points for ratty tighty whities.
Donald Lhoest 3 years ago
Saxx Vibes have changed my life. No more shaffing, no balls stuck in a wrong spot, no more awkward discreete tug and pull to replace them.
Kantami Blossom 3 years ago
I use the one company for boxer shorts and I refuse to wear any other brand, they fit like a second skin and are amazingly comfortable.
#26
Over the age of 30 or so, having friends and doing things with them. Most people I know, if they have friends at all, they're either work buddies, or family get-togethers. But a couple of guys being friends and leaving the wives to go on a camping trip, etc. just seems weird.
I miss having friends.
Kwj 3 years ago
That's not weird AT ALL, my BF (Soon to be husband) have just done a camping trip with 3 of his friends that he have known for most of his life. We are all over 30 and all have spouses and kids. It's good to do something without your spouse sometimes and just have a good time with friends.
guesswho2who2 3 years ago (edited)
you will go from having 10 really close male friends when you are 20 to a sad zero number of friends when you are 30... sorry, that's just how it is... count yourself blessed is you have even one friend left over from work, college, or the fraternity that still calls after 8 years... a friend who still comes to visit or goes with you for your annual hunting/fishing outing is a rare find, hang on to this...
Om 3 years ago
I'm 28 and since graduating college, I only really have one close friend I talk to often, and even her I don't see her everyday or something. Then I have like 3 other friends that I might see once every year, but otherwise never talk to.
Load More Replies... Justin Belshe 3 years ago
Get a dual-sport motorcycle and some camping gear. Encourage your friends to do the same.
Grabthar's screwdriver 3 years ago
Nooo. We're all in our 40's & 50's, none of us have ever worked together and I force them all out at least twice a year, lads days.
LONECOOLMAN 3 years ago
I AM AN ARMY BRAT. I HAVE NO CLOSE FRIENDS DUE TO MOVING EVERY 2-3 YEARS. IT IS DIFFICULT SOMETIMES BUT I FIGURE IT IS WHERE I AM SUPPOSE TO BE THAT IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE AMOUNT OF FRIENDS.
guesswho2who2 3 years ago
take off the caps lock key, bro, you are shouting at us... bad form
Load More Replies... #27
Shaving your legs until they're smooth as glass, and then snuggling down under a soft, fluffy blanket. It's like you're sleeping in butter and it is a feeling everyone should experience in life.
Until the hairs start to come back.
Dave van Es 3 years ago
Tip I got from a girl, I really plan to follow through with. Laser hair removal. I'm a hairy gorrila, and I hate it, but I hate shaving more.
Béla Kun 3 years ago
If I win on the lottery sure, that is one of my dreams, but it's expensive af.
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Mykidsartrocks 3 years ago
If you use hair conditioner instead of shaving cream it helps keep your skin soft and smooth as well.
Patrick James 3 years ago
Let's let everyone do what they want with their body hair. Ladies don't want to shave? Don't. Men want to be smooth? Go for it.
Tracy Wallick 3 years ago
Dude. Freshly-shaved legs, then getting into a bed with sheets that have just been laundered, is the s**t.
Wilko Lunenburg 3 years ago
Never again! The ITCH!!! Same for the private parts, never, never again!
#28
Skincare.
I don't understand why is so gendered. Why ads focus on 'you can put this black/navy skincare product and still be manly '
It's skin, is an important human organ, and actually not that different in needs from man/woman.
Everyone NEEDS to wash your face properly and to protect it from dehydration and sun damage.
Tobias Reaper 3 years ago
my bestie who is female introduced me to face masks and skin care and darn my skin is soo smooth if that makes me gay then i dont wanna be straight
Furgus McGurgus 3 years ago
If you shave you absolutely must moisturise. FFS, you've just skinned your face! Unless you want to look like 40 miles of bad roads, and way older than you are, then you take care of your face. FWIW my gf is deeply pissed that I have nicer skincare products than she has, and they cost less.
B181 3 years ago
While I absolutely agree real men should take care of their skin, including moisturizer (I shower every day and I'm entirely bald, I put face cream or moisturizer on my face and scalp daily), I will say that male and female skin really is quite different. Not so much drier (though that too - on average), but different pore size, different elasticity. If you're going to use care products regularly, but your own rather than use your s/o's (or mother, sister, whatever). Not a big deal if it's a once a month treat.
#29
Getting a massage! My SO never had one and I convinced him to get one. He felt so relieved
Scott Moore 3 years ago
I get a deep tissue massage every month and I feel great at the end of each one.
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
I can't imagine why this would be considered to be gay. I can only imagine that it feels wonderful and should be enjoyed by everyone who can enjoy having other people put their hands on them. I imagine there are some people who may have some issues, like myself, with ptsd, that would have difficulty with someone putting their hands on them. Otherwise it sounds most enjoyable.
UpQuarkDownQuark 3 years ago
Perhaps start with a foot massage? I felt awkward the first time I got a massage, as I just didn’t grow up with a lot of physical contact, but I can tell you that I spend the whole week before a massage looking forward to it now. I still don’t like being touched by men, except, ironically, for hugging my gay friends that I love dearly, so I’ve been seeing the same woman for seven years now. She know all my aches and pains, and I just let myself go and relax completely under her skilled hands. I can’t recommend it highly enough.
Load More Replies... Richard Willis 3 years ago
I ordered a ‘Sports Massage’ in a hotel spa in Paphos, Cyprus. It turned out that the masseuse used to be so for the Romanian rugby team.
Mary Leverett 3 years ago
Ummmmmmm, no, not for me - I understand the concept, but for me, it triggers memories of being molested. I'll gladly GIVE my SO a massage, but if he tries to do the same for me, INSTANT TENSION/ANXIETY.
#30
Gardening. There are so many types and so many uses.
Vegetable gardening (the obvious) saves on money and is great to do with kids. Also gives an excuse for wood/metalworking on raised beds, trellises, etc. You can garden in an apartment with relatively inexpensive aquaponics, also.
Cut flower gardening. Fresh bouquet every day really livens up a house. Buy Zinnia seeds. Ipomoea pandurata, Rudbeckia sp., Echinacea sp. alone will give you plenty of blooms from late May to August, at least. That’s probably a $30 investment from Lowe’s.
Native plant/butterfly gardening. If you want to help the environment, it’s significantly more effective than avoiding plastic straws.
Plant trees. Fruit trees, showy trees, whatever. Incredible investment (in inner city, high end neighborhoods, a mature oak or magnolia can increase property values by %20, and acorns are free, so you’re looking at a huge return in 50 years). Also fantastic for the environment. Try to plant native trees as they tend to be pest resistant and zero maintenance.
NsG 3 years ago
Why is gardening considered gay? When was it considered gay? Especially the vegetables and tree growing bits...? I'm a little confused.
ToGo 3 years ago
My Grandad loved his garden. He grew many plants, we got tomatoes, rhubarb etc. He was also about the most "manly" guy I've ever known. Built so many things from scratch, painted/decorated, fit carpets, tiles - you name it. He just liked helping and having hands-on hobbies. He could also do one armed pushups right until he passed away in his 70s. I guess my point (other than just wanting to talk about my Grandad for a bit haha) is that I've never associated gardening with any gender.
Anjali Cooper 3 years ago
My dad and his dad are both absolutely fabulous gardeners. My gramps literally got in trouble at Star Nurseries for watering some under-cared-for plants 🤣🤣🤣
Philly Bob Squires 3 years ago
I LOVE FLOWERS! Roses, Wisteria, Hyacinth, Lilac, Honeysuckle, Gardenia etc... fragrant, beautiful flowers.
guesswho2who2 3 years ago (edited)
Zinnias are the gift that keeps on giving... colorful, easy to grow... collect the seeds & replant... repeat as often as you can... you will soon have whole beds of vibrant color!
Michał Głazik 3 years ago
One more: take care of kids, spend time with kids, play with them, and just like that little humans. This is really manly thing, because we are big kids :D
#31
Cocktails - they're delicious, and I've found some of the tastiest come in the daintiest glasses and have the effeminate/flirty names: Pink Passion, sweet seacrest blue, Sex on the Beach, etc. That aren't the "manliest" to say/order
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
Drink what you love! "Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." Words to live by.
#32
Wearing a mask, apparently... (at least here in Texas)
ArmyDog07 3 years ago
I live in Texas and I have haven't heard anyone say it is gay to wear a mask.
Mega Gay 🇺🇦 3 years ago
There are two types of texas: " everything is gay, ya libtard!" Texas and " THANK YOU FOR STOPING THE SPREAD OF COVID RANDOM PERSON YOU ROCK" Texas
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Washing your ass
A Jones 3 years ago
I guess toxic gatekeepers will find anything to spoil. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Load More Replies... Tobias Reaper 3 years ago
i didnt know there was a correlation with having a clean bottom and my sexual preferences all this time i thought i was straight and apparently because i wash my a*s i am gay who would have thought it
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
That's just insane. No one wants to smell someone's swampy âss. Definitely wash it. 10/10 doesn't have a effect on sexual orientation.
Load More Replies... pusheen buttercup 3 years ago
Practicing good hygiene is important for all human beings. Just make sure you know how to wash and aren't doing anything that would harm it.
#34
Proper dancing lessons, read books (or even poetry), discuss their thoughts and feelings openly. Cry
#35
Keeping a journal!
I told a friend he should do this as a suggestion for a hobby and his reply was "... But I'm not a 14 year old girl!"
Wtf?
#36
Mani and pedicures. The women in there are (usually) really nice and it feels amazing. As someone who bites their nails constantly, they also make me not want to bite them because my nails look so good lol
Edited for Mark
#37
Use moisturizer.
At 31, I look better and younger than I did at 21. I mean I started regularly working out, drinking tons more water, and eating properly at 23/24, as well as stopped drinking booze 2 years ago, so those helped too...but moisturizing definitely helps.
LONECOOLMAN 3 years ago
NOT DRINKING ALCOHOL IS A VERY GOOD THING. I AM BACK ON THE WAGON AND IT FEELS GREAT. JUST NEED TO SELF LOVE MYSELF MORE. EATING HEALTHY TOO.
#38
Make up. I'm not talking full mascara and s**t, I mean for covering stuff up. I have terrible dark circles, and no amount of good quality regular sleep or skin cream will make them go away. I just have thin skin there. My wife offered me some make up to cover them and it was incredible. Totally invisible too. This was higher priced stuff though, so be wary of the cheap stuff
#39
Having females friends that are just friends.
Almost every one of my male friends only have other male friends. All the females in their life they're just trying to f**k, or date.
Issey 3 years ago (edited)
THIS. I am so sick of hearing the whole "men and women can't be just friends" spiel. It's a toxic lie. One ground rule though: set boundaries. Make it clear that neither one of you have any romantic interest in the other. It sounds weird, but it defines where you stand and destresses the situation
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
I had an extremely close male friend that I had known since I was 12 years old. He was about 3 years older than me but had been with the same girlfriend since we met. When I met my would be husband just after my 15th birthday, he was always jealous of Tony. At first it wasn't very clear to me just questions about how often him and his girlfriend were over and how long we had been friends,but Tony was my stepdad's friend first, as he was playing on a softball team one summer that my step-dad and his brothers had been playing on for years and stepdad's brother was the coach. So, Tony didn't only come over to visit me. His father had passed away recently and he would hang out at our house. It did progress though, to where my boyfriend asked if I was sure we hadn't slept together, to which I replied, no. I told him I was really offended by that, had never given him a reason to think it, that Tony was like a brother to me, and I cared a lot for his girlfriend. Cont below.
Load More Replies... JASH80 3 years ago
well, unfortunately that is a huge thing. I have male friends, but all of them admitted at one point that if I asked them to shag they wouldn't say no. So as a woman, whenever I make a male friend I really have to ask myself if I can fully be myself or if I have to make sure I don't give him any unwanted hints
Adrienne Mcginley 3 years ago
I may be in the minority here, but as a woman, I LOVE my men friends! We may not discuss "girly" things like feelings or fashion, but we have plenty in common & that's the key to ANY good relationship. And even the thought of having sex with them would be like kissing the inside of my elbow. Just saying....
#40
Outfits! Not just like suits to events, but every day outfits. Stop just wearing clothes and wear outfits. Coordinate your shirt, your pants, and your jacket. Match your leathers. Get colors, get layers, get socks that are fun and you like. Put on a nice looking watch.
I hear men complain all the time on Reddit that they don't ever get compliments. I get them all the time (or did, before Covid). Not just by people I know, but literally random people on the street. "I love your shoes", "That vest looks amazing", "Awesome watch!" All kinds of stuff. I've had men and women stop me and ask where I got certain things.
Men, if you want compliments, dress in outfits.
Joe D 3 years ago
Name the movie or actor: "Well, one does want a hint of color!" Hint: the line is said whilst wearing pink socks
Adrienne Mcginley 3 years ago
Nathan Lane, the Birdcage. A classic Robin Williams movie!
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#41
Pretty much everything and anything stigmatised as "gay" or "unmanly" is probably going to improve your life, or at the very least is worth trying. Investing in a better grooming routine, trying 'feminine' hobbies like dancing or knitting, thinking about and considering your feelings, being more open to giving and receiving comfort and affection, being unashamed of liking genuinely GOOD s**t like fruity cocktails and bright colours, prostate orgasms - really, toxic masculinity has stripped men of so much and forced a lot of them to live scrunched up, repressed little lives. Learning to let go of that will really help open up your world so much.
#42
Going to a salon with actual stylists for haircuts. What a difference it makes to have someone who knows how to make your specific face look better rather than slapping on a one size fits all cut, plus salons frequently offer sparkling water, wine, etc. which is always a nice plus.
User# 6 3 years ago
Meh. When the barbers were shut during the covid lockdowns and I started to look like a yeti, I bought a pair of clippers and cut my own hair. I'm never going to a hairdresser again.
DannX68 3 years ago
I have done this for years. Some of the results are better than others, but it grows out again, and if it's unrepairable (is that a word?) you just go crew-cut/bald for a while.
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#43
I turned my husband onto yoga pants and leggings :) he loves them. He said something along the lines of "i definitely thought my balls would not have any room. But these are amazing!"
#44
Scented candles.
Aromatherapy is some powerful s**t. Especially if you're already the type of person who needs to meditate for your well-being.
#45
guys should definitely try yoga!
at the very least, it's a form of exercise that builds balance, flexibility and strength in each and every pose, is low-impact enough to be done until old age, but is challenging enough to build muscle.
plus if you go into the other aspects of yoga, including meditation, breathing, concentration, etc., life feels better and lighter.
#46
Manscaping, hair down there is just stinky and gross especially between those cheeks
Victor Botha 3 years ago
No sorry,natural for me, if you practice good hygiene there is no need for shaving. I tried it once and ended up with the worse rash and itch ever. It was hell.
DannX68 3 years ago
Agreed. I can understand keeping it a bit shorter, but that's it.
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Fanny Packs and Murses. If your on vacation and not actively trying get laid, get one of these. Have everything your ever need right at your fingertips without filling your pockets to the point it hurts to sit. They are like detachable cargo shorts. (F**k while we are at it, bring back cargo shorts.) And if you say well I have a backpack, nah. Way to big, way to many pockets, you don't look any manlier or cooler with it, and the whole put it down on the ground or do that weird turn-it-around, kangaroo pouch technique, with the fanny pack or murse you would have been on your way already.
I have a Satchel that I took to vegas as a joke after the hangover movie. Let me tell you when sitting by the pool I didn't worry about my phone getting wet, I knew where everything was, only guy that did not loose sunglasses it was great. I was even able to fit my Ipad in there. Pickpockets, don't worry at all. And if you say purse thieves, yeah they aren't stealing a dudes purse I promise.
Now that my daughter is 2 both wife and I have discovered fanny packs. Especially during work from home I have been living in basketball shorts and flip flops. What I need to run to the market? Well I guess I can throw on some shorts so I have pockets for my EDC, or just keep everything in my fanny pack by the door and in 3 seconds I am in get s**t done mode. Come home, boom 3 seconds till comfort and everything I need to navigate the outside world is contained in one tiny little space that I know where it is and know it will be ready when I need it.
BasedWang12 3 years ago
"not actively trying to get laid" lmao... That was great...... But who TF has a problem with cargo shorts?
#48
"Girly" drinks. They have more alcohol than beer and are a lot tastier, too. Also, at-home spa days. Light a candle, throw a face mask on, play some music. And, if you get into it, take some time with getting off.
#51
Trying to s**k your own d**k. It can't be gay if it's your own
Patrick James 3 years ago
If they could, every man would do it. However, that's some next level bendiness
#52
The She-Ra series on Netflix
What do you think ?
Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
Inistead of "man/woman" things, can we just call these things what they are? Hobbies. Skin care. Y'know. Peopel stuff.
UpQuarkDownQuark 3 years ago
Here’s what it means to be gay: as a man, you love and are intimate with men. That’s it. Anything a man does with a woman is, by definition, heterosexual. If you get on your hands and knees and have your wife peg you for an hour with a foot-long strap on dildo, it’s still heterosexual! Be gay. Be straight. Be bi. Be trans. Be asexual. Love and be loved. Wrap your arms around the one you love, and be held in return by them. You can still swill cheap beer and go hunting and build a deck and drive a big truck; none of those are disallowed by tenderness, self-care or sexual exploration.
Swan 3 years ago
here to say (in transexual acceting countries) same goes for transexual males ("born" female) pre-op if we do any of these things we're lebelled as females, not manly enough not reeeeealy wanting to be transexual not doing enough effort to convice the guy who judges our... transness. we have to be the veryveryvery narrow notion of a man the person if front of us wants to :(
Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
In a nutshell: That sucks! My hubby bakes wonderful bread, likes cats, hates sports, and is no less "man" for that fact, just as I'm no less "woman" for liking sports, and being the one who fixes the leaky faucet. (
Load More Replies... Wintermute 3 years ago
Aside from Broadway theater and girly drinks, literally none of this stuff is considered "gay." This is just a post about resisting toxic masculinity. Who titles these things?
guesswho2who2 3 years ago (edited)
the majority dominant culture where I live is all macho tough-guy hard men... We all grew up with John Wayne and the Marlboro Man as iconic role models. I dare to be a "soft" man and do a lot of the things in this blog (but not all). Sad to say, the gossips will rage away endlessly, destroying your reputation for any of these things, (and often without any real basis, I might add, the hate counts double if it is all based on speculation) even growing award-winning orchids & roses (???when did gardening become gay???). What an amazingly dysfunctional screwed-up culture we live in? Who did this? Who is responsible? The tough guys and their women are real quick to brand someone unfairly with repugnant labels. Have you noticed that people who gossip with endless malicious gossip are eventually given over to the very same crimes they so decry? Hmm... bet they didn't count of the gearworks and grindstones of heavenly justice turning quite that way... (The grinding gears of justice turn with inexorable, unavoidable, unstoppable force, by the way.) Beware putting endless malicious gossip on someone, folks. You will eventually find yourself doing the very same thing you report them doing. Beware slamming someone with a grossly unfair evaluation, Mr/Ms. Supervisor. You will eventually receive the same. "Payday, someday". This is the cruelest and fairest justice of all.
Something 3 years ago
If expressing emotions other than anger, preparing food, making clothes, and taking care of your skin are unmanly, why would anyone want to be manly? If those things belong to women, that would make women the superior gender, to be emulated. Fortunately for everyone, the genders are actually equal, and equally entitled to those things.
firstworldbrat streams on twitch 2 years ago
i am bothered that it says "tried sewing" and the picture is knitting!!
Camilla Koutsos 3 years ago
Right. That's step one. Now let's do it openly, and flip the bird at anyone making derisive sounds.
Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
Inistead of "man/woman" things, can we just call these things what they are? Hobbies. Skin care. Y'know. Peopel stuff.
UpQuarkDownQuark 3 years ago
Here’s what it means to be gay: as a man, you love and are intimate with men. That’s it. Anything a man does with a woman is, by definition, heterosexual. If you get on your hands and knees and have your wife peg you for an hour with a foot-long strap on dildo, it’s still heterosexual! Be gay. Be straight. Be bi. Be trans. Be asexual. Love and be loved. Wrap your arms around the one you love, and be held in return by them. You can still swill cheap beer and go hunting and build a deck and drive a big truck; none of those are disallowed by tenderness, self-care or sexual exploration.
Swan 3 years ago
here to say (in transexual acceting countries) same goes for transexual males ("born" female) pre-op if we do any of these things we're lebelled as females, not manly enough not reeeeealy wanting to be transexual not doing enough effort to convice the guy who judges our... transness. we have to be the veryveryvery narrow notion of a man the person if front of us wants to :(
Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
In a nutshell: That sucks! My hubby bakes wonderful bread, likes cats, hates sports, and is no less "man" for that fact, just as I'm no less "woman" for liking sports, and being the one who fixes the leaky faucet. (
Load More Replies... Wintermute 3 years ago
Aside from Broadway theater and girly drinks, literally none of this stuff is considered "gay." This is just a post about resisting toxic masculinity. Who titles these things?
guesswho2who2 3 years ago (edited)
the majority dominant culture where I live is all macho tough-guy hard men... We all grew up with John Wayne and the Marlboro Man as iconic role models. I dare to be a "soft" man and do a lot of the things in this blog (but not all). Sad to say, the gossips will rage away endlessly, destroying your reputation for any of these things, (and often without any real basis, I might add, the hate counts double if it is all based on speculation) even growing award-winning orchids & roses (???when did gardening become gay???). What an amazingly dysfunctional screwed-up culture we live in? Who did this? Who is responsible? The tough guys and their women are real quick to brand someone unfairly with repugnant labels. Have you noticed that people who gossip with endless malicious gossip are eventually given over to the very same crimes they so decry? Hmm... bet they didn't count of the gearworks and grindstones of heavenly justice turning quite that way... (The grinding gears of justice turn with inexorable, unavoidable, unstoppable force, by the way.) Beware putting endless malicious gossip on someone, folks. You will eventually find yourself doing the very same thing you report them doing. Beware slamming someone with a grossly unfair evaluation, Mr/Ms. Supervisor. You will eventually receive the same. "Payday, someday". This is the cruelest and fairest justice of all.
Something 3 years ago
If expressing emotions other than anger, preparing food, making clothes, and taking care of your skin are unmanly, why would anyone want to be manly? If those things belong to women, that would make women the superior gender, to be emulated. Fortunately for everyone, the genders are actually equal, and equally entitled to those things.
firstworldbrat streams on twitch 2 years ago
i am bothered that it says "tried sewing" and the picture is knitting!!
Camilla Koutsos 3 years ago
Right. That's step one. Now let's do it openly, and flip the bird at anyone making derisive sounds.
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