While joking about certain topics has become more prevalent, actually getting into the weeds and discussing things like mental health, social desirability, and being just self-conscious about everything rarely gets earnestly explored. Despite our better judgment, these things remain distasteful for public consumption and get sidelined.
So it’s not surprising that an internet user wanted to know what “socially unacceptable” things people actually thought about themselves. Answers ranged from brutally honest to poignant, so strap in, get comfortable, and be sure to upvote your favorites and comment your own, personal examples.
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I have no real desire to do anything extraordinary with my life. I just want to have my own little corner in the world, and not be bothered by anyone. Or bother anyone.
Add-on: WOW this blew up! Thanks guys 😊
As a woman I do not want kids.
I also think people should be able to choose voluntary euthanasia so they don't have to suffer if they don't want to (generally not for mental health problems but for physical ones).
Also, I don't follow rules because this post said one thing and I said three things, so there.
I wish we could also choose to have tubes tied before a certain age too. I’m finally 36 this year and asking the drs
I'm in my early 20s but i want my tubes tied too. I NEVER want kids. Honestly my genes don't deserve to be transferred like I've had enough issues with them. But obviously, doctors can only talk about my 'future husband'
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As someone with an incurable and increasingly difficult to manage mental illness, the option should be there for mental illness as well. Have you ever lived in hell caused by your own mind witb no control over it? I'd rather be in physical pain, to be honest. At least you can medicate that.
Just replied to that even before reading your comment. I'm totally on your boat! Only someone who suffered from a severe mh disease knows how painful it is. 24/7/years.and there's no pill to ease it at all.. Feel hugged if you want to, I hope you're in a good environment and state right now, as far as possible, of course
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Why exclude mental health problems? Mental suffering can be as bad or even worse than physical suffering.
The European Court has deckared that euthanasia for phychiatric problems does not violate Human Rights.
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as a milk carton, i won’t be spawning in any butter babies… i’ll get a cat and that will be my ‘child’ 🙂
I highly recommend cats as children. I am a wolf and I have two. And a dog too XD
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I am for the right to die even if I don't have physical or mental health problems. It's my live and if I want to end it I want to end it with dignity and but with brutal tools which will affect other people
I agree. That's the ultimate "freedom" because after you've considered all your options and tried all the treatments, you, and only you, know when it's time.
Load More Replies... Many people don't want kids. Although l am not one of them (l have two), it makes me furious to hear people who don't want kids constantly being asked when they plan to have kids. Also, it's cruel and merciless not to allow euthanasia. It's legal in Switzerland (where l live).
Hi, as a woman also, thank you for saying these things. Our whole situation for women currently is infuriating. I really agree with the euthanasia decision because these diseases will force you to watch a painful and horrendous death to keep alive a person that isn't living. It should be your and their decision only (and obvi not as a free-for-all). I resent the idea of also forcing a woman to go through with a pregnancy, labor, birth, risk, to then endure genetic, neurological, immune or nervous system abnormalities. It. Is. Sick. AND then to not even off healthcare for everyone, too!!!! W. T. F. WTF!
I'm only 18 but I probably wanna donate my eggs and get my tubes tied right after. I've known I didn't want kids since I was five years old, and yet close family and strangers on the internet alike tell me for some reason my own feelings are wrong and I will want kids someday.
Hi Moo, I am someone's birth mother. She was given up for adoption. Her birth father and I made that choice together. We were physically mature enough, but not emotionally or mentally ready to be parents. I made sure that I never got pregnant again. I still have all my equipment. Just sexual intercourse never brought me the kind of pleasure that men receive from the act. The last time I had sex was in 2007. It has never bothered me since I chose to stop. Didn't do it very often anyway. Sometimes I wish I did enjoy sex. It's not possible to have a platonic relationship with a guy, when you are a female. They always end up wanting sex and have no understanding why I don't want sex. What little dating life I had died long ago. I miss dating. Just so you know, I'm 57 and most of the time a happily divorced woman.
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Why for physical health problems only? Mental health issues can make people suffer so bad that they wish they could die.
I was told I wasn't a real woman because I don't have kids
Wow (in Owen Wilson's voice) I hope this person is not in your life. That's the s**t people don't need, when I was younger I just assumed that all women wanted kids, even in my early 20s I did not understand why a woman would not want them because for me it was such a primal instinct, so much so we have just had another, 14 years after our last. But I grew up on council estates where people were shelling babies like peas for those benefits. Becoming a mother eventually after a few years I started to realise that my kids can do anything they like when they get older, my oldest is almost 20. I have tried to empower my girls and my son to be their own people, don't follow the crowd, don't feel like your behind in life because your not settled and don't have or want kids. It's a very personal decision and people who have such a strong opinion about another person's life or body should just f**k off.
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If you need to give a reason for not wanting kids, that in itself should count as a reason.
To the second point.. people don’t realize how easy it is to die. Depending on the country of course… I work in a hospital. Some people have very clear written rules. Just don’t treat. Don’t treat the next urine infection, don’t treat the next pneumonia. It is very legal if you have it written down and make sure your family knows. DNR plus no antibiotics. We don’t speed up the process, just stop the artificial interventions keeping you alive.
Good on you! There are so many reasons not to have kids in this effed up world. And if you wanna live your life for you only, do it! If women weren't pressured by society to keep kids that they didn't really want, there wouldn't be much child abuse and neglect.
Not following rules is also a "thing" which most of us do and which is considered not socially acceptable - everyone is expected to conform to someone else's ideas of how they should live their life. As long as we are not hurting anyone else or trying to force our own ideas of how life should be lived down anyone else's throats, we should just be left alone to live out our lives how we see fit.
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Voluntary euthanasia. We let our animals go so they don't suffer. Why not our people?
I live in Nova Scotia, Canada. My son is 26 and he had no problem getting a vasectomy. He has no kids and he doesn't want any. My daughter feels the same way. Her fiance also got a vasectomy. The drs never gave them a hard time. Perhaps it's different with women? Also, I believe if you don't want kids, you shouldn't have them. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this.
As a 58 year old professional women, who chose not to have children…….Brava. If your done having babies! I would suggest alternative birth control until after your 30-32 ; if you Don’t have children; then decide on surgical procedure that is difficult to reverse or you would need in-vitro fertilization.
Ladies, some info on hysterectomies; the big O is directly tied to a uterus. Remove that & your big O goes from 100% to, if you’re lucky, 5%. Nobody will tell you this because, I assume, sëxual satisfaction for women isn’t important. - I know this for fact from personal experience. Get an ablation & tie your tubes! Do not go for a hysto if you absolutely can avoid it! Please, do your homework! And if your doctor won’t tie your tubes find a female doctor, or a new doctor, especially if you are in the US. Our freedoms are being eroded. We are becoming second class citizens again. - A country that won’t let you choose your reproductive decisions; cutting access to birth control & making abortion illegal, even if required to save a woman’s life. Add to that no maternity leave (paid? HAHAHA) no help with child care or their medical needs. Because you can’t terminate a pregnancy in the US, you have to have the baby, become attached, then send it to school where it’s gunned down. 🤯🤬 FACT.
I actually felt good after chemo, because then I had a socially acceptable excuse for not having kids.
^^^^ THAT - Other people - stop trying to meddle with things that doesn't concern you in the least - leave me to it, and i'll leave you to yours, OK?
When I was 15 years old, I knew I didn't ever want kids and I wouldn't make a good mother. Lo, here I am 26 years later, still don't want them and certainly don't think I make a good parent to the disabled 13-year-old I never asked for. Not only should it be socially acceptable to say "I don't want kids," those who say it, at any age, should get all the help and community support they need to make it so. Too bad this is rarely the case.
In Canada we have MAID. Medically assisted intentional death. Why should anyone be forced to endure what we know will be a suffering death? You must have an closely estimated 6 months left after refusing further treatment, or any treatment at all. No, it is not permitted for mental health patients. Speaking as a mental health patient, I don’t believe it should be. Unfortunately, it is not approved for people with newly diagnosed Alzheimer’s or dementia at a point in time when a person is capable of making an informed decision. Possibly because of the 6 month issue. If I was newly diagnosed with dementia and I am at a point where I am still able to make an informed consent, I’m outta there. Like next weak after I’m diagnosed. Not going there on that one. No way.
Why not for strong,severe cases of mental health disease?it literally alters the brain. I have a severe case of complex Ptsd, severe depression and other stuff going on.My brain is NOT wired like it should be and it's probably never able to change back again,although hundreds of hours of therapy and spending time in hospitals,taking whatever medicine they give me.I'm in a positive place right now but I could have it very much worse if it wasn't for my husband to have come into my life and to support me when I was the lowest.Thinking your children are better off with the trauma of loosing you than the trauma of being raised by you.And so much for.People are in physical pain, in such a way you can't compare it to a broken bone or such. It's deepdespair,there are not words to describe that feelings.Many people notice how they evntually get worse,why forbid thm the grace to choose for death rather thn turning slowly nto a strangr to yurself,maybe evn being a threat to themselves or others
I'm going to be 52 this summer and have never regretted for a second my choice not to have kids (unless you count my spoiled fur babies - lots of doggos in my life).
I have an aunt who doesn't have any kids and some uncles. There is also a stigma on men, too, that when they get older some women raise an eyebrow if they've never had any kids. My mom has actually broken up with a guy for being one of the reasons he never had kids. I was like.. Oo Ooookay there. You do you?
I am a grown man who likes to play with action figures and yes I do make the noises to pretend they’re fighting it’s my hobby it relaxes me and yet I rarely tell people because they look at me like I’m a child why should we loose our sense of wonder as we grow?
We, humans, have a strange desire to appear in a way that we think will make people like or respect us more. In research, this is called social desirability bias and it is the bane of survey-makers across the globe. The long and short of it is that even in fully anonymous surveys, people will answer them in ways that they think make them look better. It’s not hard to realize just how much this can skew any data collection.
Beyond survey gathering, it also indicates that we feel a constant, omnipresent pressure to conform to certain standards publicly, even if we hardly follow them at home. We at some level are always aware of what is or isn’t socially acceptable and we’ll modify our public behavior to match. For example, people will state that voting is important and that they do it every election while not actually voting a single time.
I can never tell if I am a lazy person or depressed.
I feel like if you are not doing anything because you are somehow petrified into non-action, that is not laziness. That is fear of failure, lack of enjoyment (anhedonia), or some other reason... So I feel like if you cannot tell if you are depressed or lazy you are more likely to be depressed. No one chooses to do nothing if it makes them feel awful, just for... no reason? And so the problem is not that you are lazy, but that you think that you are. And overcoming that kind of thinking, to learn that your thoughts are not always correct, is an important step to healing.
I don't want to work.
I just want to live in a grassy field and eat fruit.
I don't wanna work. I just wanna bang on the drums all day!!!
Mental health is another topic that most agree is important to discuss but hardly ever broach the subject themselves. So one way people manage to accurately describe the way they feel is through humor. People joke about depression and anxiety quite often, despite both being relatively serious matters. The good news is that just joking about the topic can help alleviate some of the symptoms. Studies show that even a bit of humor can help take the edge off depression and help maintain happier relationships.
I’m a reasonably attractive, goal-driven woman in my 20s and I have genital herpes. Right before the first pandemic shutdown I was raped at a concert and got it as a result.
I’ve healed a lot from what happened and have very much come to terms with it and I accept it’s a part of who I am, but yeah, generally the perspective on STDs sucks and people are quick to joke about them/judge people who have them when in reality these things can happen to just about anyone.
Edit: I made this post right before bed last night and woke up to so much kindness from you lovely people. Thank you for the reassurance and encouragement, appreciation doesn’t begin to cover how I feel right now. The anniversary of when everything happened is coming up in a few weeks so naturally this has been on my mind a bit more. You’ve all made me feel a lot less alone and have given me a more positive outlook. Thank you so much.
As a fellow person who has been raped, I understand this girls pain about the anniversary, I was thinking about ending my life when it came up for me. Sending strength and love to this girl. Some men are trash.
I’m a woman and I’m completely disgusted by pregnancy, I don’t find it beautiful at all. It creeps me out.
On a fully separate tangent, nose-picking. Abhorrent. Childish. Disgusting. Also, we basically all do it. Despite how unacceptable it appears to be, most humans pick their noses roughly four times a day, no doubt making sure to be out of sight from any fellow nose-pickers. Due to it being so socially unacceptable, people vastly underestimate how often it happens, with only 75% of US respondents in one study believing that everyone has tried it.
I feel like I'm constantly analysing how to interact with people - every conversation I have feels like a performance and not the real me, like Im just mimicking other conversations I've read or heard.
I've got the same problem. Not autistic, but was bullied as a kid. Im pretty sure it stems from that.
I have no ambition to do anything. no dream job or passions either. I’m not depressed by any stretch but I just would be happy and fine if all I did was lay around all day and live off saved money. However most people are utterly disgusted by that so I lie and pretend I have a dream job or that I’m passionate about certain things I honestly only really do any of those things for money or to pass the time. I don’t care about any of them.
I work for money. If I had money I wouldn't work. It's that simple. Would find something to do, like a vegetable garden and reading, but certainly nothing stressful.
I am a pig farmer.
Most y'all eat your pork, but most people don't like to think of where it came from or how it got there. The number of times I've had people imply implicitly and explicitly that I am a murder is absurd considering a vast majority of them I know eat pork or love bacon. Outside of Reddit, I no longer tell anyone what I do.
What really gets me is that I take great pride in the high standards I keep at my farm. They have short and hard lives so I make sure they are taken care of and treated well by my coworkers.
Ok, away from the nose and on to daydreaming. Most of us do this as well, due to boredom or just an escape from reality. But some take it so far that it can begin to interfere with their real lives. This is often called maladaptive daydreaming or excessive daydreaming. Basically, it’s daydreaming so intense and frequent that the person begins to forget where they are, which negatively affects their academic or professional performance. Often this manifests as fake conversions people have in their heads. It, unfortunately, remains understudied and is not currently classified as a mental disorder.
I talk to myself as if people were listening even when I’m alone
I enact conversations l'm going to have or ones l wish l had if l could. But only alone at home.
My father was not a very engaged parent, but when school started trying to force me to be right handed, he went to the school for the first and only time. He told them “ the boy is left handed, let him be” and they did.
We also absolutely love some gossip. As one post here mentions, the person will leave earbuds in without anything playing to eavesdrop on what people are speaking about. Or think about going out to dinner and overhearing a terrible first date or argument from a nearby table. Most of us, myself included, would stop what we are doing and listen in. From an evolutionary standpoint, this is an important element of social grooming, but it also often seems childish and people do not want to admit to doing it.
I daydream wayyyy to much. I'm constantly day dreaming. At home, at work, while I'm driving, before I'm sleeping, while I'm eating. I'm always daydreaming.
Edit: I was not expecting this to blow up as much as it has. I'm really glad to know that I'm not the only one. I'll try to reply to everyone individually.
I think this is the only way I could live. Reality sucks way too much for me.
When I worked in a human transplant tissue lab I would talk to the (deceased) donors to make myself feel better about processing a person who died suddenly hours before.. like “hey Mrs. Byrd, how are we feeling today?” When she is obviously lying in pieces in a cooler about to be swabbed, irradiated, and transplanted in another human.
I don't think there's anything weird about this. It's treating the person with respect and dignity. Also, if your job goes right, they (or at least part of them) will soon be living again.
I think babies are obnoxious s**t machines.
I don't go out of my house if it's not extremely necessary
I won't either. I go to work, because I won't be able to keep my apartment if not, but I hide from public all the time. I'm sincerely depressed, even suicidal, and not able to do anything but order food online. I tried to get professional help a lot but was always rejected because they don't have free ressources (I am in Germany, so my health insurance would pay for my treatment, don't own enough money to pay it myself). I am anxious when I think of having to work again tomorrow and wish I would just fall asleep and never wake up again
I hate kids and am a teacher. I’m a high school teacher and I enjoy teaching teenagers, but can’t stand kids under the age of 11.
i am 46 years old and whenever i come across a self opening door i make a small movement with my hand like i am using the force... i dont even control that consciously anymore its automated behaviour
I definitely do not know at what point expressing my desire to talk to someone crosses from 'reaching out in a friendly way' into 'annoying and impinging'.
And I worry about it !
EDIT: It is weirdly reassuring to see how many others feel similarly.
I've come to the conclusion I get annoying. Lost a lot of friends for interfering too much. When I like someone as a friend and have good times. I want to always be in those good times.
I'm suicidal. Passively, meaning I'm not making any plans. I'm safe and this is a constant for me. It feels like I can't tell my friends except in asking for help. I just want this to be something I can tell people because it's so significant in my inner world.
edit: i am getting professional help, i've been in therapy and medicated for a while. thanks for all your concern, im sorry i didnt say that in the original comment
I feel you. I am in a place now and have been for a while now where I want to die. I don't want to kill myself, I just don't want to live anymore. Really hard to bring that up with others, but the thought is in the forefront of my mind about 70-80% of my waking hours every day.
A can go for weeks without talking to anyone. I have no need to talk. I’d make a great vow of silence monk.
Used to love being w ppl. then they became exhausting. leave me alone please.
I **love** not having kids!
I have fake conversations with people i know in my head that result in me argumenting loudly to no one.
I met my wife at her wedding.
Edit: Holy s**t, that blew up. RIP my inbox. I posted this just before going to bed last night, sorry to leave you all hanging. I guess it’s story time!
My ex-wife and I went to one of her friend/co-workers wedding about 10 years ago (let’s call the friend Sarah). I had never met Sarah before. Over the years we kind of became friends but not particularly close. She’d come over to take care of our son once in a while when I was working nights and my ex had something going on, we went camping with her and her husband a few times, I even went to the movies with her husband once or twice. Sarah and I always got along really well. We had very similar taste in music, very similar sarcastic senses of humour.
Well, things started getting really s****y between my wife and I and eventually she left me. Sarah kind of acted like a buffer between us because things were tense and we still had a child to consider. This led to Sarah and I starting to have long conversations about pretty personal stuff. Little did I know her marriage was in trouble too. Her husband (let’s call him Dave) had essentially forced her into an open relationship that she didn’t want. She’d agreed to try it because she didn’t want to give up on it but by this point she’d had enough. I even called Dave and told him to sort his s**t out and stop doing this to Sarah. He did not and eventually Sarah left him. Through all of this she and I kept talking, almost like a kind of therapy. We were both going through really difficult things and being there for each other really helped get both of us through.
My ex, Sarah and some of my ex’s other friends were up at a cottage for a girls weekend, and on the Saturday night I get a text from Sarah saying she’s leaving because my ex had outed her for some very personal stuff in front of the other people there who she didn’t even know that well. Her plan was to sleep in her car and drive home in the morning. I was living between the cottage and where she lived and was worried about her so I told her to come crash at my place for the night, which she did (nothing happened).
After that we started hanging out more frequently and really started to become attracted to each other. Sarah had told me before this that she had feelings for me, I had still been trying to make things work with my ex and had told Sarah that we couldn’t because it would devastate her. By the time all this happened I’d started dating a little bit and had given up on working things out. I also wasn’t very concerned about how my ex would react anymore because she’d been pretty horrible to both of us for quite a while now. One thing led to another, and one night we just said f**k it. And that was that. We’ve been together about 5 years now, have a kid and couldn’t be happier.
I have spent unhealthy amounts of time imagining how radically different my life would be if I didn't mess up big time
I have an incredibly hard time talking to people I don't know.
I'm 34 years old and sleep with my childhood teddy bear and I refuse to pass it down to my child.
40 here, with my childhood blanket (my moms old robe) and still occasionally suck my thumb when I'm super stressed and tired.
When I'm out in public I sometimes put my earbuds in just to listen to what other people are saying around me, nothing playing on my end.
EDIT: Didn't really expect this one to get noticed and thank you for the award.
I don't care what I look like in public. I dress to be comfortable.
I'm the opposite. I used to be kind of pretty, but health issues have messed with my weight and altered the shape of my facial features, and I'm embarrassed about the way I look.
I have bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder. No matter how much people scream “mental health matters” on their social media pages, the stigma is VERY MUCH still there.
EDIT: I wish I could go through and like every single one of your comments. Just know that I see you, I hear you, I recognize you AND your struggles, I appreciate you, and I wish you all the best!! Also PLEASE seek help when you feel like you need it. There are so many professionals out there who I promise will listen!
The dark truth is that if you really want to know what kind of people your friends are, get seriously ill. I don't think it's the easiest thing in the world to be friends with a bipolar person, because a bipolar person doesn't have an easy time with themselves either.
Id rather be naked about 80%of the time
If God had intended us to be naked, we would have been born that way. Oh wait...
I would rather sleep than talk to another person like, all the time.
I am a quiet person and work with a guy that never stops talking and only about himself
I shower once a week. Sometimes I go longer. I also have a hard time getting around to brushing my teeth.
I brought it up with my therapist and I’m trying to improve. Every time I have a good streak going, something f***s up and then I fall into weeks without cleaning myself. I don’t know what to do.
Even worse, I’m completely anosmic. So I can’t even smell myself, and often forget that I need to get clean.
I do the same thing mostly about brushing my teeth, getting dressed, and cleaning my room. I'm just to tired and stressed at the end of the day even though i do nothing but procrastinate.
I think my family are a bunch of self involved manipulating a******s and if they didn’t talk to me again, it might make my life easier.
I have never been in an emotionally deep and mutually trusting relationship. I want to be but I've never met someone who felt the same way. I'm very introverted and one poor relationship experience left me reeling for the better part of a decade.
I think this is more common than people realise. A lot of people have trust issues and self sabotage potential relationships. Many others will be in relationships that aren't particularly fulfilling but are either scared to be single or don't want people to assume there's something 'wrong' with them.
I am faking everything. Literally. I could not care less about anything. But I fake it all.
I am not saying that this particular person is dangerous, but this KIND of person can be VERY dangerous.
Can't stand brushing my teeth. I do it but hate it.
EDIT: Kinda sad the highest upvoted comment I have is about hating brushing my teeth lol. Please brush your teeth folks: my mom's are falling out because of her poor hygeine when she was younger.
I'm a hopeless people pleaser, i'm working very hard on that but i've been abused into being terrified of making anyone upset so i tend to let people walk on me and push limits until it's really breaking me before i start setting boundaries and it often results in hurtful situations for everyone involved.
I'm working on it though.
It might sound ridiculous, but I was born a left handed person. It was unacceptable in our family and I was forced to eat and write with my right hand.
Now, I can write with both but much faster and neater with my right hand.
In my dreams, I still write and eat with my left hand.
Edit: Additional information.
I was born in Feb1982..... in India.
Studied in a catholic school, a Jesuit School to be precise.... so Christian(Italian) beliefs.
Yes, I started eating with my left hand again as I use my right hand to wash and wipe my rear. Couldn't wash with my left.
Edit2: Thank you everyone.
I am also a left handed person born in India and I have lost the count of times when people pointed out how I was eating or writing with my left hand. Thankfully my parents are accepting and never forced me to change but I still get to hear a lot of ridiculous judgements from the society.
I think I’m autistic but I’m not diagnosed. I’ve been reading a ton of studies on ASD presentation in adults but I almost feel embarrassed doing so without a diagnosis.
I think I have Asperger's but I've been unable to find someone in my country who could do a diagnosis.
I have a voice in my head who I talk to out loud sometimes. Not like my inner thoughts but it’s like they’re another person. I know they’re not real but they make me think twice about doing or not doing something. Usually for the better.
I'm with you. We have conversations just like two people would. I often say my inner monologue is an external dialogue ;)
If offered, I would probably endulge in a drug and prostitue fuelled orgy
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Whenever I'm cooking I pretend I'm on a cookery show and talk (in my head) to the imaginary audience. I'm a very witty and popular host. Was nominated for an imaginary Emmy a couple of years ago, although I didn't win.
One thing I have noticed a great deal is since Covid lockdown the amount of people who now prefer a much quieter life and less social interaction.
Ngl, overall, even with getting it, covid lockdown was a huge blessing for me, the only time I've had a near total reprieve from anxiety for a while
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sorry but this list is so funny to me. As for me, my weird thing is probably that when I'm reading a book and a dramatic scene happens, or a character does something awful, I put the book down, stand up, and start monologuing. I'll talk to the characters and completely chew out the ones I wish I could yell at, or rework the dialogue to fit what I want, or so on. TL;DR, I talk to book characters like they can hear me when I have emotions about the book.
OMG, someone who does this too?!?! I thought I was insane!!!! I’m not the only one!!! Oh god, it can get really vivid too. The story just gets too good and my heart feels like it’s gonna pop so I have to stop and start monologueing to the characters!
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most of these seem ok to me, not socially unacceptable but just eccentric or low-effort (e.g. not wanting friends, not wanting kids, not wanting to go out/socialise, not wanting to have ambitions, etc) - these seem to be just people who do not want to expend effort. I'm ok with that, not everyone wants to do dramatic stuff.
I'm not really sold on the idea of deodorant. Seems to me that it doesn't last all day, and when it stops working the smell is far worse than when not using any. Decided to give it up, kind of like the shampoo-free trend, and never ended up going back
yep I find that it ruins shirts as well. I've taken to using spray sanitiser (strong alcohol) to kill the germs and reduce the smell. As soon as a shirt starts to smell like armpit EVEN AFTER being laundered, I throw it away.
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I am 22 years old and I still play make believe when I'm alone. I'll pull out my Halloween costumes and everything. It's one of the best ways Ive found to relax after a super stressful day.
I really feel some of these. I work full time but I have no desire to socialise outside work or do anything. I'd rather be at home in my pj's. Feel like I did all my socialising in my teens/20's and now I want to just stay in my house and not be called weird. Also, I'm not teetotal but almost. And that's another reason I don't go out
I feel guilty about so much, even things I know aren't my fault. Like, I feel guilty about how my antidepressants don't work as well as they used too even though I am on the max dosage. I feel like it's my fault that I am not good at antidepressants or something. I know it doesn't make sense, but I feel that guilt all the time.
There are so many different drugs on the market because everyone is so different. Talk to your doctor and they'll work out a plan with you to try different meds. I don't know what country you're in, but I highly recommend seeing a psychiatric nurse practitioner over a primary care doctor or psychiatrist MD. And definitely see a counselor; it can change your life.
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I chew my fingers. It's an OCD problem called Dermatophagia. It something I have done all my life and I can't stop. I'd kill to stop but can't. I go spans of time where I don't but never completely stop. It's very depressing.
have you tried painting your hands with something that tastes or smells awful? like chlorine-smelling or acid-smelling?
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I don't really care that much anymore about anything. I am not sure if it's just about getting older or about the particular traumas I have been through in life, but things don't matter as much as when I was younger. We live, we die. Either there is a meaning or not. It's my "job" to live well and be kind to others either way. And that's it. The rest is just noise. I am dating much younger person who is head over heals in love with me. I remember that feeling, but I can't really relate anymore. We have have long conversations about it. They don't care as long as I spend the rest of my life with them. And I will as long as there is not abuse. They are actually that rare decent person, so I think we are good. But I am kind of sad that I can't be totally crushing like when I was younger.
Perhaps you know deep down that your partner is not the right one but you are satisfied with the company they provide?
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I 100% believe that talking to someone can be just as rude, or more so, than not talking to someone. I'm sick of the idea that people can open and close their maw in my face and they really think they're just "being personable". No. You're inserting yourself into my emotional space. To be clear, I talk with my friends and enjoy it, but I have an issue with being talked at without any preamble.
I was diagnosed with a few mental illnesses later in life. It explained so much about my past behaviors. Im getting help now but wow, it was a crazy ride to that point.
Here goes. I like being restrained. Tied up. Caged. Cuffed, rope, straight jacket. Safely and with no restriction to circulation. People immediately go to kink, BDSM, stereotypical visuals and points of view. But no. I’m in a situation I can’t do anything about for an indeterminate amount of time. I find I relax mentally and physically against the bonds. All pressure goes because I can’t do a single thing about it. It is personally, psychologically beneficial. Incidentally, I like receiving elements of corporal punishment. But again, not for *those* reasons. I have a chronic pain condition and when receiving cp, my body releases all the normal natural pain killers. Which it stopped doing for my chronic pain, a long time ago. I prefer giving the responsibility to another that I trust so I never go too far myself. (E.g self harming). I’m not suggesting it to anyone by any means, but I’m explaining that what people may see as bad/ disrespectful can benefit in imperceptible ways.
The way I see it is this: as long as the persons involved are capable of making an informed decision to partake in the activity, and as long as any action taken is completely voluntary and of their own free will - and as long as no one else is being harmed or denied their own freedom of will in the process (and yes, this includes non-humans, too!) - then I say, go for it! If it helps you and doesn't harm others, it's all to the good. Let others judge if they want to. Those who can, do; those who can't, well - all that's left for them is to condemn, complain, criticize, carp, etc., etc...
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Adding to the conversation: despite how much we encourage people to stand up to bullies, they still always win. Because people will deny a person is a bully simply because a person is well liked
I feel morally superior to most people. I also feel otherwise inferior to most people.
Mostly because the human race is stupid and exhausted.
Load More Replies... Whenever I'm cooking I pretend I'm on a cookery show and talk (in my head) to the imaginary audience. I'm a very witty and popular host. Was nominated for an imaginary Emmy a couple of years ago, although I didn't win.
One thing I have noticed a great deal is since Covid lockdown the amount of people who now prefer a much quieter life and less social interaction.
Ngl, overall, even with getting it, covid lockdown was a huge blessing for me, the only time I've had a near total reprieve from anxiety for a while
Load More Replies... sorry but this list is so funny to me. As for me, my weird thing is probably that when I'm reading a book and a dramatic scene happens, or a character does something awful, I put the book down, stand up, and start monologuing. I'll talk to the characters and completely chew out the ones I wish I could yell at, or rework the dialogue to fit what I want, or so on. TL;DR, I talk to book characters like they can hear me when I have emotions about the book.
OMG, someone who does this too?!?! I thought I was insane!!!! I’m not the only one!!! Oh god, it can get really vivid too. The story just gets too good and my heart feels like it’s gonna pop so I have to stop and start monologueing to the characters!
Load More Replies... most of these seem ok to me, not socially unacceptable but just eccentric or low-effort (e.g. not wanting friends, not wanting kids, not wanting to go out/socialise, not wanting to have ambitions, etc) - these seem to be just people who do not want to expend effort. I'm ok with that, not everyone wants to do dramatic stuff.
I'm not really sold on the idea of deodorant. Seems to me that it doesn't last all day, and when it stops working the smell is far worse than when not using any. Decided to give it up, kind of like the shampoo-free trend, and never ended up going back
yep I find that it ruins shirts as well. I've taken to using spray sanitiser (strong alcohol) to kill the germs and reduce the smell. As soon as a shirt starts to smell like armpit EVEN AFTER being laundered, I throw it away.
Load More Replies... I am 22 years old and I still play make believe when I'm alone. I'll pull out my Halloween costumes and everything. It's one of the best ways Ive found to relax after a super stressful day.
I really feel some of these. I work full time but I have no desire to socialise outside work or do anything. I'd rather be at home in my pj's. Feel like I did all my socialising in my teens/20's and now I want to just stay in my house and not be called weird. Also, I'm not teetotal but almost. And that's another reason I don't go out
I feel guilty about so much, even things I know aren't my fault. Like, I feel guilty about how my antidepressants don't work as well as they used too even though I am on the max dosage. I feel like it's my fault that I am not good at antidepressants or something. I know it doesn't make sense, but I feel that guilt all the time.
There are so many different drugs on the market because everyone is so different. Talk to your doctor and they'll work out a plan with you to try different meds. I don't know what country you're in, but I highly recommend seeing a psychiatric nurse practitioner over a primary care doctor or psychiatrist MD. And definitely see a counselor; it can change your life.
Load More Replies... I chew my fingers. It's an OCD problem called Dermatophagia. It something I have done all my life and I can't stop. I'd kill to stop but can't. I go spans of time where I don't but never completely stop. It's very depressing.
have you tried painting your hands with something that tastes or smells awful? like chlorine-smelling or acid-smelling?
Load More Replies... I don't really care that much anymore about anything. I am not sure if it's just about getting older or about the particular traumas I have been through in life, but things don't matter as much as when I was younger. We live, we die. Either there is a meaning or not. It's my "job" to live well and be kind to others either way. And that's it. The rest is just noise. I am dating much younger person who is head over heals in love with me. I remember that feeling, but I can't really relate anymore. We have have long conversations about it. They don't care as long as I spend the rest of my life with them. And I will as long as there is not abuse. They are actually that rare decent person, so I think we are good. But I am kind of sad that I can't be totally crushing like when I was younger.
Perhaps you know deep down that your partner is not the right one but you are satisfied with the company they provide?
Load More Replies... I 100% believe that talking to someone can be just as rude, or more so, than not talking to someone. I'm sick of the idea that people can open and close their maw in my face and they really think they're just "being personable". No. You're inserting yourself into my emotional space. To be clear, I talk with my friends and enjoy it, but I have an issue with being talked at without any preamble.
I was diagnosed with a few mental illnesses later in life. It explained so much about my past behaviors. Im getting help now but wow, it was a crazy ride to that point.
Here goes. I like being restrained. Tied up. Caged. Cuffed, rope, straight jacket. Safely and with no restriction to circulation. People immediately go to kink, BDSM, stereotypical visuals and points of view. But no. I’m in a situation I can’t do anything about for an indeterminate amount of time. I find I relax mentally and physically against the bonds. All pressure goes because I can’t do a single thing about it. It is personally, psychologically beneficial. Incidentally, I like receiving elements of corporal punishment. But again, not for *those* reasons. I have a chronic pain condition and when receiving cp, my body releases all the normal natural pain killers. Which it stopped doing for my chronic pain, a long time ago. I prefer giving the responsibility to another that I trust so I never go too far myself. (E.g self harming). I’m not suggesting it to anyone by any means, but I’m explaining that what people may see as bad/ disrespectful can benefit in imperceptible ways.
The way I see it is this: as long as the persons involved are capable of making an informed decision to partake in the activity, and as long as any action taken is completely voluntary and of their own free will - and as long as no one else is being harmed or denied their own freedom of will in the process (and yes, this includes non-humans, too!) - then I say, go for it! If it helps you and doesn't harm others, it's all to the good. Let others judge if they want to. Those who can, do; those who can't, well - all that's left for them is to condemn, complain, criticize, carp, etc., etc...
Load More Replies... Adding to the conversation: despite how much we encourage people to stand up to bullies, they still always win. Because people will deny a person is a bully simply because a person is well liked
I feel morally superior to most people. I also feel otherwise inferior to most people.
Mostly because the human race is stupid and exhausted.
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