30 People Share “Social Customs” That Are Outdated, Toxic And Should Be Retired

"Daddy issues" is the most sexist label ever..

This. Shame the perverts that deserve it, not the girls.

Tipping is Ok as long as it represents your appreciation for how will the server did. It should not be your mandatory contribution to the income of a worker because their boss can't be arsed to pay them a decent wage.

*insert Archer picture here* "Do you want toxic masculinity? Because this is how you get toxic masculinity"

I remember as a child my mother whipping me until I was covered in big red welts all over my arms and legs because she was told by a neighbour that I was in a house that was being built with some other kids and we made a big mess. I screamed at that it wasn't me and that I was at another friend's house all afternoon but she wouldn't listen. After she had finished with me I ran out to my friends house and asked her mother to tell my mother that I was with them. She did. She explained that the girl the neighbour saw was the back of another girl who had the same hair as me long and brown and was around the same age. All my mother said was "oh, well that's alright then". She never apologised or said anything else. I was in real pain for days afterwards. But she really didn't care. day

Security stands for 6 hours or more, looks bad to be seen sitting

Too right.

Boys will be boys is meant to be a light-hearted acceptance of boys immediately getting mud all over their new trousers, and stuff like that. Anyone who uses it to excuse boys inappropriate behaviour is an idiot.

Man to woman: "You should smile more!" Woman to man: "And you should leave me alone, but here we are"

The customer is rarely right and is usually an idiot. I told all my staff the moment I became manager "you are not paid to take abuse, refer them to me and i'll kick them out, i'm a salaried manager and I'M paid to deal with that nonsense, not you".

I had a teacher that wouldn't give breaks many years ago, I begged to be excused but was refused, accidentally threw up at her desk when I couldn't hold it in anymore, got detention for that.

Childless guy here - I also used to get people trying to shame me into having kids. "The line dies with me." I don't want kids. Deal with it.

If it's Gods will for kids to suffer and die of starvation, cancer etc then God is a f*****g Sadist. I HATE it when people say s**t like that, heard it many times after an ectopic pregnancy.

studied psychology & behavioral science in college so learned many 'disciplines' in those fields. while i am not a fan of freud, one thing he did write that i totally agree with is this: "the greatest injustice we do to our children is not to teach them the power of sex". just because a parent(s) are uncomfortable talking about sex doesn't mean that their children don't need to know about it at a fairly early age. this would not only protect them but also make them understand that they need to respect their body as well as others and to prepare them to be responsible when it comes to sex. stop teaching people to be ashamed of the what is a biological act and calling it something dirty.

Still?!

Forcing religion on anyone is wrong.

I believe that you let the kids and the people around you decide. You don't shove your beliefs on someone else. Even Jesus encouraged people to come to him voluntarily. No one was forced to come see his sermons.

"God is everywhere, is He not? Then I don't need to go to church."

I told my mom i didn't believe in god when I was 9 and I didn't want to go to church on Sunday because it was a waste of my time because I just couldn't believe all that nonsense. I got hit and told that I'm going to hell and was still forced to go to church my whole childhood. I'm still an atheist to this day!!

I went to curch every Sunday till I was about 7. We went on major holidays till I was 12. Only then I felt safe to question religion and find my actual beliefs

I wholeheartedly support leaving behind the indoctrination that's part of most religions, but anyone that's a parent will know that you can't just go by what a kid wants to do. Many won't go to school willingly either.

The search should be something that comes to a person when their brain is developed enough to question properly.

Going to church as a kid would not have been as much of a chore if it had toilets.

Not that I disagree, but would ANY kid every go to church if they had the choice? (Not a rhetorical question.)

the parents have a right to raise their children in whatever religion they see fit. No one should step in between that. After the child becomes an adult and chooses differently then that's their choice. God gave us free will. People who say it's forcing it on children are more than likely atheist

Religion... period

YES!!

religion hurts more than it helps

my parents forced me to go to church and it had a negative impact on me because i truly believed being gay was a sin. it took me forever to accept my sexuality (lesbian) and shake off the idea that i needed to be forgiven for all my "sins". it's taken me years to unlearn what was shoved down my throat. i'm now spiritual (I do believe there is a higher power) but not religious.

Everyone has a religion: it is a universal human trait. Advocating not sending kids to church is as much a religion as taking them along.

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while we at it , lets stop forcing them to accept all this alphabet crew nonsense

I actually like the idea of school uniforms. All schools in Australia have their own uniforms and we almost never hear about the incidences mentioned above. We mainly hear about private schools and the fact many of them require girls to wear skirts, NO pants. That should definitely change.

I have always taught my children to respect their elders, BUT I have also taught my children that just because they are an elder doesn't make them right. You can disagree with them but be respectful in your manner and words and if they get upset, scream at you or say derogatory things you are well within your rights to walk away.

A sailor isn't afraid of the red sea. Dutch saying.

My husband's former boss would not hire anyone with facial tattoos or piercings (hair he didn't care about so much.) His reasoning was that some of his senior citizen customers might feel uncomfortable around them. I could see that...but at the same time...just because they got those done doesn't make them bad people or workers. I can understand it being unnerving.

Netherlands: "Working 38 hours per week is too stressful and leaves us with almost no free time. We're switching to 30 hours per week."

My mother once chewed out my oldest brother for not giving our Grandmother a hug and kiss. She was dying from a rare blood cancer and was down to 90 lbs. It's scary for a 9 year old to see that and no one ever sat down with him to explain what was going on with her. He reluctantly gave her a hug and kiss and ran out of the room. It made my Grandmother cry. I don't think he ever got over the guilt of how she cried. I told him several times that it was not his fault.

Actually...most of the commercials I see have people sacked out and sleeping.

Worse yet, someone seeing their error and changing their mind as a sign of being weak or fickle.

I was super impressed by my husband's aunt when her teenage son discussed politics with her. She disagreed with him, but ever so respectfully. She calmly and firmly gave her rebuttals. My parents would have pretty much told me to shut up and that I don't know what I'm talking about.

I think we generally need to stop associating people's private lives with their professional ones. People shouldn't have to resign or be fired because they had an affair - let them sort their private matters out in their own time keep doing what they are good at.

And who decided that hugging another man is considered cheating on your boyfriend. I hug my friends because I care about them...not because I want to sleep with them.

My husband was forced to eat foods he didn't like, I wasn't. One of us is an extremely picky eater and it isn't me. Our kids are never forced to eat stuff they don't like.

There's a flip side to this, where you end up with 27 year olds still living at home with mommy doing their laundry, not because rent is too expensive, but because their parents have enabled them to feel like they are their little angel forever. At 18 you should be able to *want* to move out without feeling like you *need* to move out, and know you are able to function in society while knowing you have support for the things you don't know yet.

maybe they are old and don't know what they are talking about but you can still be respectful in your manner and words and you have every right to walk away as well. I just get angry when I see someone screaming in the face of an elderly person. Also they grew up in a different time, many say things that they don't understand could be considered rude or racist. I had a conversation with a much older man and he called a certain Asian group a term I considered derogatory. I stopped him and said that word isn't acceptable anymore and you should not use that, please use this instead. He stopped and said well that's what we called them and I said I'm sure they wouldn't appreciate being called that and if you want to continue this conversation you can't use that word again. He kept talking and then stopped and said what word am I supposed to use again? He tried! If he had said the inappropriate word again I would've just walked away.

In this vein, can people please stop labelling socially awkward people as being on the spectrum? I have difficulty looking at people, but I'm just extremely awkward due to the magnificent parenting style of my 'rents.

And not paid internships!

I've said it before and I'll say it again: It's a scam. The wedding industry is a scam.

I agree with this 100%. Mental health is important to everyone, not just adults.