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While we tend to think of stalkers as cloaked men, following from the shadows, in the age of the internet, they tend to prefer to remain anonymous and at a greater distance, which is still cold comfort for the people who receive their thoughts, threats and “jokes” through text and email. 

Netizens share all the weird and creepy texts that stalkers have sent them. Scroll through and comment your thoughts below. We also got in touch with KikiMay, a feminist content creator and communications specialist to learn more.

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Found On A Video Of A Stalker Who K**led A Woman That Rejected Him

Found On A Video Of A Stalker Who K**led A Woman That Rejected Him

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#3

"It Was 15 Times At Once Gosh. I'm Not A Stalker. You Guys Are Idiots"

"It Was 15 Times At Once Gosh. I'm Not A Stalker. You Guys Are Idiots"

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Bored Panda got in touch with KikiMay, a feminist content creator and researcher and she was kind enough to answer some of our questions. First and foremost, we wanted to know why women tend to be the primary victims of stalkers. 

“When you look at the fact that women are more than twice as likely to be stalked as men, that men are overwhelmingly the perpetrators of stalking, and that most women report knowing their stalker or being in an intimate relationship with him – you really can’t ignore the role that gender plays here. Men in the U.S. grow up in a patriarchal society that teaches and reinforces ideas about men being entitled to women’s bodies, and men as leaders or decision-makers who should be given deference and care.”

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My Neck Bone Fetish Stalker Came Back Guys... Its Been Three Months Since He First Contacted Me

My Neck Bone Fetish Stalker Came Back Guys... Its Been Three Months Since He First Contacted Me

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#5

For A Minute I Thought This Was My Stalker Ex Boyfriend. Not Sure If I Should Feel Relief Or Not

For A Minute I Thought This Was My Stalker Ex Boyfriend. Not Sure If I Should Feel Relief Or Not

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#6

Sent Flowers To My GF, Stalker Gets Upset And Calls Florist Who Then Gave Them My Name

Sent Flowers To My GF, Stalker Gets Upset And Calls Florist Who Then Gave Them My Name

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Mila Preradović
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Plot twist: HE is the stalker (hence not signing) and the "stalker" is actual boyfriend🤔

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“When women reject men’s advances, it seems incongruous to the way men have been raised to think things “ought to be,” and one result of that is to not take no for an answer by stalking. It helps men regain that sense of control, and it also helps reinforce the idea with their victims that they should be afraid of them – and of men, in general – if they behave in ways that aren’t in accordance with traditional gender roles,” she shared with Bored Panda.

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Wtf... Sure She Could Be Telling The Truth, Other Than That This Could Be A Stalker Ass Creep

Wtf... Sure She Could Be Telling The Truth, Other Than That This Could Be A Stalker Ass Creep

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#8

My Stalker Has "Endless Numbers"

My Stalker Has "Endless Numbers"

So I'm quick to block anything I don't recognize but will occasionally check my blacked messages folder to make sure I didn't block anyone other than him. I'm mostly just posting here just incase I disappear. I'm sure the local police are fatigued by him by now.

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Xenon
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope they have a security system at home at least. Get a big dog if able to. Take a self defense class.

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#9

I Am Not A Stalker!

I Am Not A Stalker!

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“We also can’t ignore the ways in which institutionalized sexism and misogyny helps men get away with stalking behaviors against women more often. Women are less likely to be believed by police officers and medical professionals. They’re often seen as overreacting, for instance – even though the vast majority of women who were stalked by an intimate partner were also physically or sexually assaulted by the same partner.”

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#10

Ngvc: "I'm Not Gonna Do Anything To You, I Just Think You're Really Pretty"

Ngvc: "I'm Not Gonna Do Anything To You, I Just Think You're Really Pretty"

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I recommend occasionally Googling your name and any usernames you use, also click on the images tab. I don't have much of an online presence now and don't use my real name, but when I was on social media, by checking my name on Google I discovered a gap in my security settings. My daughter thinks I'm nuts, so I check her name every now and then!

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#11

I’m Actually A Nice Stalker!

I’m Actually A Nice Stalker!

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#12

College Guys... I Mean This Is Stalker Level

College Guys... I Mean This Is Stalker Level

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Phoenix
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How dare she go out with someone else while being single?! The audacity!

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“And then there’s the shame women feel – like they must have done something to cause this kind of behavior – because living in a society where sexism and misogyny are so interwoven into the fabric of our day-to-day lives means that victim blaming just seems normal. She should have chosen a better partner, she should have left the first time – but it's this very shame that allows them to be victimized more, because they often won’t report their stalking, or they’ll be more susceptible to gaslighting by their stalker about how they “made” him do what he’s doing. It’s a vicious cycle.”

#13

Recently Gave A Dude Directions On A Street, Gave Him Fake # But He Caught On

Recently Gave A Dude Directions On A Street, Gave Him Fake # But He Caught On

I live and work downtown and am easy to find unfortunately. Guess I have a stage 5 clinger, even after rejection.

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#14

"I'm A Creepy Stalker, But You're A S**t Person If You Don't Want To Stay With Me!

"I'm A Creepy Stalker, But You're A S**t Person If You Don't Want To Stay With Me!

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#15

Comment On A News Article. Teenage Girl Abducted By Her Stalker

Comment On A News Article. Teenage Girl Abducted By Her Stalker

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From the other side, we wanted to hear why she thought many men were likely to engage in this sort of behavior. “I think I touched upon this in my first answer – growing up in a patriarchal society means that men feel entitled to women’s bodies, time, and attention – but I’ll try to expand here. Men often view relationships as transactional, so they’re thrown off-kilter if they buy a woman a drink or dinner and then they don’t get what they were expecting in return – which is usually sex or some form of physical intimacy – but can also just be praise or admiration.”

#16

My Husband’s Obsessive Stalker Is Back, I Hope He Doesn’t Threaten Our Neighbors And Their Children Again. I Don’t Want Go Through That Again Especially At 22 Weeks Pregnant

My Husband’s Obsessive Stalker Is Back, I Hope He Doesn’t Threaten Our Neighbors And Their Children Again. I Don’t Want Go Through That Again Especially At 22 Weeks Pregnant

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Phoenix
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow. Enjoy your tower. I hope it's padded and locked from the outside.

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#17

Nice Guy Decides To Stalk Girl He Meets On Train. Then Gets Mad That She Doesn't Like Stalkers

Nice Guy Decides To Stalk Girl He Meets On Train. Then Gets Mad That She Doesn't Like Stalkers

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The fact that he had already decided ‘they’ were going out proves that he lives inside his own head filled with his ideas of male entitlement and the idea that woman are dolls.

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#18

Crazy Stalker Get Jealous When Seen With My Boyfriend

Crazy Stalker Get Jealous When Seen With My Boyfriend

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“When you grow up in a society where you are centered and privileged, where everything built – from the chair you’re sitting into the TV programs you watch and the stores you shop in – were specifically designed for you – it can be destabilizing to not get what you want. And for some, that destabilization leads to dangerous, unacceptable behaviors like stalking. For others, it goes a step further to violence.”

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#19

3 Years After I Blocked Him For Stalking Me

3 Years After I Blocked Him For Stalking Me

We went on one date. He made 7 fake profiles, stalked me at work, and home. Also faked his own death to get me to talk to his “friend” (aka another fake profile)

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The "sorry I got your hopes up" didn't make sense to me until learning he'd tried to fake his own death at some point....

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#20

Clearing Out Old Paperwork And Came Across Harassment Records And Police Reports From My *mildly* Psychotic Stalker. Good Times

Clearing Out Old Paperwork And Came Across Harassment Records And Police Reports From My *mildly* Psychotic Stalker. Good Times

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hope he's securely in the past and not bothering her anymore.

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#21

Asked A Stalker Type Guy To Leave Me Alone Because I Have A Boyfriend And This Was The Response I Got, Lmao

Asked A Stalker Type Guy To Leave Me Alone Because I Have A Boyfriend And This Was The Response I Got, Lmao

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Misogyny, rascism, cruelty, and outright creepiness. What a catch. :[

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“We’ve already seen so many mass shootings motivated by men feeling they’ve not gotten what they’re owed by women – Elliot Rodger being among the most famous, who called his act a “day of retribution” for the women who rejected him. Men feel they deserve explanations for rejections or break ups – which is ironic, given that if their reaction to such things is to stalk, berate, assault, or abuse, it should be pretty evident why someone might not want to be with them.”

#22

Stalker To The Max!

Stalker To The Max!

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just happened to be following you and thought I saw you. I know, it's a crazy coincidence.

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My Sisters Stalker Of 3 Years With A New Number After Being Blocked Everywhere Else

My Sisters Stalker Of 3 Years With A New Number After Being Blocked Everywhere Else

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But, you just don't know you love me yet. What is wrong with some people?

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We inquired if she herself had ever dealt with these sorts of issues. “Luckily, I’ve never been the victim of stalking. Because I’m a feminist content creator, though, I’m no stranger to threatening and abusive DMs – from physical threats to threats of doxing, etc., and then just run-of-the-mill ad-hominem attacks using highly gendered language. And it’s sad to say – but most women, and especially most with feminist or social justice platforms – will be wholly unsurprised by this admission.”

#25

My (Male) Friend's Stalker (Female) Is Nothing But Persistent And Straight To The Point

My (Male) Friend's Stalker (Female) Is Nothing But Persistent And Straight To The Point

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#26

Ngvc: “It’s Unfair That All Women Only Go For Toxic Mascular Guys But Going For Famous ‘Feminime’ Guys Is Unfair Too”

Ngvc: “It’s Unfair That All Women Only Go For Toxic Mascular Guys But Going For Famous ‘Feminime’ Guys Is Unfair Too”

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I swear I don't hate Asians, I actually like Asians, I just hate women!" Nutjob.

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Went To A Game Store For A Figure, Came Out With A Stalker

Went To A Game Store For A Figure, Came Out With A Stalker

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“In fact, it’s just seen as something that comes along with the territory. Though we can acknowledge it’s unacceptable, we can also acknowledge how normalized it’s become and how little is done to stop it from social media platforms, authorities, or Government Institutions. I think it’s also important to note that as a woman, I’ve also dealt with my fair share of entitled men IRL who’ve hounded me – whether through text messages or in-person – for sex, dating, and attention. And oftentimes, as a woman, you’re forced to weigh whether it’s worth it to say no or if acquiescing simply feels safer. Because if we’ve learned anything, it’s that bruising a male ego can have life-altering or life-ending consequences.”

She left us with these partying thoughts: “I’d love to bring up a really important point that Cornell professor and feminist author “Kate Manne discusses in her book, Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women. She says that the misogyny that leads to behaviors like stalking, rape, and assault is not about dehumanizing women and thinking of them as prizes or rewards. That makes it seem like because men don’t see women as human, that’s the excuse for them perpetrating these behaviors. It almost removes them from the deeply personal nature of their crimes. But the reality, she says, is that interpersonal violence is a thing you do to persons, not to inanimate objects.”

#28

Stalker And Person Who Sa'ed Me Forgave Me

Stalker And Person Who Sa'ed Me Forgave Me

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The ghost comment makes it more alarming. This one is dangerous.

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#29

My Friend Sent Me These Messages From Her Stalker

My Friend Sent Me These Messages From Her Stalker

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I Know You Found My Reddit Too You Fkn Stalker. Leave Me Alone. Texts From January And Instagram Messages From Last Week

I Know You Found My Reddit Too You Fkn Stalker. Leave Me Alone. Texts From January And Instagram Messages From Last Week

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Look, I don't like Dr Phil much but one thing he said (don't remember if he took from somewhere else or not, not really the point) always stuck with me was that when someone says but, what comes after that is what they *really* mean. This guy knows what he's doing is creepy and wrong. (of course, there are situations where that won't be the case but through my personal experience it's largely been true)

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“Manne says what’s really going on is not that men misperceive what women are, but rather, that they have a mistaken moral ideology of what women are for…which is to say that men believe women are for providing the sorts of goods – sex, submission, praise, attention – that men are entitled to, instead of believing that women are autonomous individuals who get to decide to whom, how, when, and where they provide any of those things – if at all.”

Kiki has a dual Bachelor of Arts degree in Media & Communication and Political Science, and a Master of Arts degree in Communication, where her work centered on the intersection of gender and power and explored representations of female leaders in cable news programming. Her research has been featured by the Association for Education in Journalism and Mass Communication and her writing has been published in various print and online mediums. She hopes to be able to become a full-time feminist content creator and writer so she can share her real name in the social media space soon. Until then, she’s operating under the watchful eye of the man, so you can find her posting on TikTok and Instagram, both under the username kikimay612.