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Ruminating on the most trivial things, having a bad self-image, dreading failure, coping with social anxiety, continuously seeking reassurance – all of this is only a minor portion of what we call "insecurity." It's a universal part of the human condition, and while there's no one-size-fits-all cause for this incredibly dreadful state, it's safe to say that a fair share stems from trauma. 

But here’s the thing, insecurity is complex.

Sometimes you can tell that someone has poor self-esteem by their speech, mannerisms, and even their posture, in certain cases. But there are also those who excel at disguising it. So, are you curious to know about the signs of insecurity that are not as evident?

“What screams insecurity but most people don’t realize [it]?” – this internet user sought out one of Reddit’s most insightful and thought-provoking communities, asking its members to reveal obscure behavioral traits that indicate that someone lacks confidence. The thread managed to garner nearly 40K upvotes as well as 16.7K comments containing some intriguing answers.

More info: Reddit | Zara-Dee's Instagram

#1

“What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) buying Twitter

Theodorable47 , Debbie Rowe Report

Mario Strada
Community Member
2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There were signs of this well before Twitter. Remember when he called the rescuers of the Thai soccer team stranded in a cave "pedos" because they didn't like his idea of a mechanical snake to go get the kids? Here is what I think happened there: Musk looked at diagrams the news were putting out to explain the layout of the cave and the challenges involved. Instead of, I don't know, going on Google and looking up actual caves, he saw the simplified diagram and thought "I can build a robot to get the kids". So far, so not-so-good but understandable. Like the rest of us, he is not a cave expert. The problem was when he belittled those working on getting the kids out. Calling them "pedos" was the last straw. That's when I thought to myself "There is a good chance this guy is a self-centered idiot"

Surya Amriza
Community Member
2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Free speech for me, not for thee.

Sam Juan
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Free speech as a subscription service

Mari Mar Pinta
Community Member
2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's stepping down as CEO as soon as he finds "someone foolish enough to do so".... It was on the News earlier this evening...

Marla
Community Member
2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Remember that time that Putin stepped down from power? And gave his new position as prime minister more power and the president less power? And then played a reverso uno card on it all over again?

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Jane Cortez
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A moronic multi millionaire who only reminds us why there is the word twit in twitter.

SR S
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Except he's a multi billionaire...

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Clover
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Watch as the tables turn.

DC
Community Member
2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Generally, acting like a dikk by the means of obscenely high amount of money spent around and being oh-so-edgy all the time. I mean, that sink somebody carried to the front door for his highness Elron Muskard ... really? So funny. The only kind of person worse then he himself is his bootlicking fanboys.

Mario Strada
Community Member
2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish I had more upvotes. His fanboys are impossible to deal with. He even corrupted Neil DeGrasse Tyson, a person I had respected until last week.

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Jennifer Bair
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seriously you all talk about "free speech" except leave out the fact that before he took over all conservative opinions were being censored and the speakers banned. Now go ahead and hit that little down vote button so you can continue to support your skewed version of "free speech". 😁

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Now, to find out more, Bored Panda decided to reach out to Zara-Dee, a professional who supports people in building confidence and trust from within, so they can be themselves, do what they want to do, and live life regret-free and on their terms.

"Our composition as a human is based on our values and beliefs and these begin to form in childhood. I believe it is the same for self-esteem. It is built upon learned experience and the relationship we have with ourselves. If we feed ourselves with unkind, negative thoughts from a place of insecurity, inevitably our self-esteem will suffer," said Zara-Dee when we pondered why people struggle with self-confidence. 

We then questioned our expert on how to deal with insecurity: "You must first accept and acknowledge how you feel. Only when you recognize you are acting from a place of insecurity can you take steps to move forward. Challenge your internal dialogue and begin to show yourself some love and kindness. Focus on your strengths, qualities, and achievements, and begin to practice gratitude daily."

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    #2

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) Revving an engine in front of a bunch of strangers who could care less about cars or motorcycles

    Moist-Pool-5937 , EL YAZID KABBAJ Report

    Phil Green
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The phrase is, "couldn't care less". If you say "I could care less" you are suggesting that, possibly, there are worse things.

    V
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ha, I remember a bunch of boys being d**ks in their car doing this at an intersection next to us. The lights went green and they stalled. It was hilarious.

    Paul C.
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They are obliged by law to rev their engines. It informs everyone that they have an extremely small pen!s. The same applies to those who fit large exhausts to small cars.

    Paulo Freitas
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dude, if its a kid.... Its stupid for sure but its a dumb kid, i did the same c**p when i was 18/19, but a grown man doing s**t like that..... I had a diesel truck ( my last car ) fully stock 0 modifications apart from parking sensors, and i was literally ashamed of turning it on in the morning to go to work, again fully stock engine, but diesels especially trucks are loud as hell.

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    Thegoodboi
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I WISH I WAS YOU BROOO

    Lori
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sorry, but isn't it couldn't care less?

    TrippyBanana
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To go with this, popping a wheelie on your crotch rocket because you think you're something special when really you're giving me a heart attack because I'm behind you and I'm praying you don't fall off and die in front of me.

    Ba-Na-Na
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They are compensating for something they wish Mother Nature bestowed upon them

    Paulo Freitas
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Na, i did it when i was a kid, ( got caught and got a ticket, and was forced to install a stock exhaust as well lol ), but i did it to look cool, it was a " Boy Racer " or if you preffer a " pocket rocket " and those Cars are kind of loud from factory ( mine reached 98 decibels at 5000 rpm stock ), but not even once i thought tried to " compensate " anything lol, i was a dumb kid and though that s**t was cool, today i know its ricer c**p, but at the time.....

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    Richard Ross
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That’s the way idiots announce themselves without actually telling anyone that they are an idiot.

    Elizabeth Krigsvold
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Boys who have massive tires on their "compensation" trucks

    Julia French
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Loud engines, whether on cars or motorcycles are the worst - farting out their arrogance & immaturity!!

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    The thread's author, a 19-year-old college student, also offered his input.

    "I've recently graduated from schooling and entered a university where I'm now moved in and staying with the other dorm students. Now that I'm facing new people, I’ve been constantly noticing them acting on their insecurity, so I was interested in knowing more about the way people act," the netizen responded when we asked about the inspiration behind the post. 

    BP then invited the fresher to answer his own question: "i) Talking bad about someone who's better than them behind their back to feed their ego. ii) Always showing off their 'cool things' to get people's attention and feel they're better than others. iii) Buff dudes wearing tight shirts and posing near the girls. Yeah, it happens a lot here. As a buff dude myself, I'd say while dressing as one wishes is not bad at all, making one's physical traits their whole personality screams insecurity, at least to me."

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    #3

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) when they can give you s**t all day but can’t take it back whatsoever

    kittenslutbaby-999 , Yan Krukov Report

    Elio
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I live in Arizona, and even though I didn't run for governor, I was thinking of just throwing a temper-tantrum like a toddler and seeing if I get to be governor.

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    Mariko Fujita
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or as we call at work, management

    Anne Roberts
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had a husband like that. Operative words here is "had".

    Abdullah Naseer HayRee
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is so true. But what to do to make it better when u cant leave.

    John Anderson
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One of dad's sayings, " you can dish it but can't take it"

    Tre Bell
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know so many people like that..

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    Well, now that we've tackled insecurity from a professional point of view, gone through the author's commentary, and collectively agreed (right?) with the “buff dudes” remark – let's finally move on to the article!

    #4

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) Ridiculing other people’s achievements

    queenofthegrapess , Feyza Tuğba Report

    Headless Roach
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    While all they ever achieved themselves is grow old (not to confuse with grow up)

    Stylishsidewaysbird
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My little brother dropped out of college and he now openly and repeatedly harps on how college is a scam and worthless. Super frustrating as someone with a bachelor’s, minor, Masters and currently in medical school. You don’t need to trample others just to raise yourself up. All he would have to say is “college wasn’t for me”

    Anne
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, considering for years and years we have trades shamed and "you're worthless without a college education", you can't entirely blame him. Different people want different things.

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    Kathryn Baylis
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Misery loves company, and when it can’t find any it tries to create it by making others as miserable as they are. Their favorite methods include ridiculing achievements they could never do themselves, tearing people down, and trying to kill their self-esteem so they stop even trying to do better, and once they’ve accomplished that, setting themselves up as superior, continually parading their imagined superiority in front of the people they’ve torn down. Because the only way miserable people can feel better about themselves is to make other people feel worse.

    Neuropotathy
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Like when they finally buy a social microblogging service? Yeah that's a red flag ;-)

    Aaron Drossart
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just remember that life is not a zero sum game. People can achieve things and it takes nothing away from you.

    StarlightPanda!
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also bragging about one's achievements.

    Jessica J.
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Indeed. Or acknowledge and praise your expert opinion, but only when it doesn't contradict with theirs.

    Rain WhiteBuffalo
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow. I have experienced this. I am a 50 year old college sophomore. Let people achieve their goals in their own time.

    Steven Bennett
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Come on! Without ridiculing other people's accomplishments, this site wouldn't exist. That's about 85% of the internet these days.

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    #5

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) Never apologizing Some people will twist the story, change the way it happened and retell it so convincingly that they’ll believe their own nonsense but will never apologize

    SuvenPan , Suzy Hazelwood Report

    Lisa H
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just one of many ways to gaslight.

    Well-Dressed Wolf
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    “I’m sorry that you feel this way.” -weaponized by so many a-holes :(

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    William Stafford
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My Mom's only apology in 45 years: " I'm sorry I couldn't teach you how to love.

    Kurichfield
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Minimum three phrases to learn in any language..."Please, thank you, and of course 'I'm sorry'

    Sylvia_SilverVampire
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Something similar happened to me. friend 1 was having a panic attack and friend 2 asked her something and friend 1replied incredibly strongly. Friend 2 then said that friend 1 had 'basically bitten her head off' and spun it so she was the victim because of it, when friend 1 was literally having a panic attack and was not in control of what she was doing. Friend 2 then gave friend 1 the cold shoulder for the rest of the day. I was REALLY annoyed at friend 2.

    General Anaesthesia
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Leroy Jethro Gibbs, NCIS, rule #6, "Never say you're sorry, it's a sign of weakness". 18 seasons of that c**p.

    Tris Hunt
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But he was willing to admit he was wrong with that rule along with rule #51 "Never get personal on a case". Given that a lot of rules were pretty stupid, some were not that bad. Ex: rule #36 "if you feel like you're being played, you probably are". #3 "Don't believe what you're told. Double check".

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    Tim Crowhurst
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some people rarely apologise and rarely forgive because decades of abuse by their religious family, faith leaders, etc., who use expectations of apology and forgiveness as a means of manipulation, have left them unable to trust their ability to tell when an apology is warranted, and distrustful of anyone who demands that they forgive.

    Elizabeth Krigsvold
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or those who always pull the "it's all my fault" bs

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    #6

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) When you achieve something or improve your life in any way, and their first instinct is to tease or make fun of you, it actually screams instant jealousy.

    timbuckley01 , leyla.a Report

    Thegoodboi
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    Premium
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yuuuup just smile and wave

    Cassi Lyris
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or they have the sheer audacity to try and deflate you by saying some BS like, "You've changed. I liked who you used to be better!" Oh, the person you thought you had control over? Yeah, I bet you did.

    Brian “CRAWDAD” Grim
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Well, even a blind hog finds an acorn once in a while." [My father after I told him I had been hired by Bank of America]

    CultOfBambi
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    LOL! I hope your dad was kidding, otherwise that's a bit mean.

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    #7

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) Huge wedding. My sister and her husband spent $70k. Divorced in 9 months.

    theMAJdragon , Alan Ortiz Report

    Hill Branda
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'll never understand why you would spend that much money for a party that only lasts a few hours. You could've spent it on the down payment for a house, and your marriage might have lasted a bit longer without all that crippling debt.

    Luna Crow
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also, if it still doesn't work out, the house is an asset that can be resold. No getting money back from a party

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    Marleina Hershberg
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Be more interested in having a good MARRIAGE...THAT'S what is supposed to last. Wedding day comes and goes.

    Cassi Lyris
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I spent $2k on my wedding and I still think it was too much. Been married 22 years now though.

    Captain Kyra
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think with our honeymoon we spent this, just celebrated 20

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    Jay Son
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Less than $2K and still happily married after 14 years :)

    Yo Mama
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I beat all you. $275.00 and that included a Unity candle and 2 baptisms. 28 years strong.

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    Nizumi
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not always true as it depends on culture. A wedding I attended recently seemed big to my Anglo-Canadian standards, but by the standards of the bride and groom's culture, it was average.

    Linda C
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Spent less than 200 that included our rings, & pizza & beer after the ceremony. Been together 41 years

    Justin Olsen
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    41 years ago your money went way way farther than now you would've spent 5k just from the ceremony these days without catering. Catering idk it can eb many tjings so i dont know your number but 41 years ago 10 dollars was the equivalent of 50$ atleast now depending on what was the tax price it could also be in the luxury tax of now 50$ then is the equivalent of $162.73 cents average by state taxes on items

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    Yeah, okay.
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think, all in total, we spent about 5,000 for our wedding. This was 27 years ago, but still. I was very firm with my husband - I didn't care a whit about fancy. I would have been happy with a pot luck in a field with duck-duck-rover games for the kids and an open air dj - we had to have a great honeymoon somewhere warm. We didn't do the field, just a decently priced establishment in okay, not the swankiest part of town, and went to Mexico for a week. N9 one remembers how fancy the wedding was, but I still recall the trip to Mexico. It was wonderful.

    In the doghouse
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A friend who was a minister performed the ceremony. His wife and his assistant were witnesses. We went out for Chinese. Total cost $40. Married 39 years this last November.

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    Tracy Butler
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Research Network looked at the weddings and marriages of more than 3,000 people in the U.S., and found that the price of a wedding is likely to play into your chances of future separation. According to the study, recently married couples who spent more than $20,000 on their wedding were 46 percent more likely to split than those who spent around $5,000 to $10,000. And those who spent $10,000 to $20,000 were 29 percent more likely to get divorced than those who spent in that mid-range cost.

    Julia Mckinney
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Interesting. And then there's my husband and I- my parents spent $13,000 or so on our wedding and we just hit our 30 year anniversary. We've had some (very) interesting hiccups but a sense of humor, lots of books and shared interests helped out.

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    Ken Schroeder
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Proven fact: The more you spend on a wedding, the less likely you'll have a long marriage.

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    #8

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) Being a bully.

    ChenilleSocks , cottonbro studio Report

    Caro Caro
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not only are they insecure but cowards too. Lots of times a bully is never alone. If you stand up for yourself they need the other nitwits to back them up.

    Niall Allen
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    3 people bullied me in school then one day I thought that’s it, I’ve had enough. Went around school and town and beat the s**t out of all three of them. Just because I acted quiet/timid, it wasn’t through fear, it was because I prefer not to fight. At 49 now, I’ve only ever had 6 fights in my life, and was attacked first on all occasions. Last fight I had, was attacked by someone with an iron bar - they went to hospital I went home and 26 years on no one has bothered me since 👍🏻

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    Seabeast
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not necessarily. Some bullies have excessive self-esteem and just enjoy hurting people.

    Jodie daubenmire
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bullying should be a serious criminal issue. That could possibly shut trumptard up.

    BrownTabby
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don’t want six year olds to be put in jail. I would just like it if today’s bullying victims were actually taken seriously and helped.

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    Shawnna Clement
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband was bullied growing up and learned to respond with, "Do you need a hug?" He never expected the bully to start crying and want the hug.

    Celtic Pirate Queen
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not a small gal, and despite my kind nature, appear to be somewhat intimidating. I also refuse to suffer fools lightly, so it's not me that generally (ok, never) gets bullied, but I gots NO problem stepping into the middle of some bullsh*t. I am all about fighting for the underdog. Bullies are just insecure cowards and I can almost always make one, if not cry, then run the f*ck away. Karens are my new favorites.

    Brian “CRAWDAD” Grim
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am nonconfrontational, but always summon the courage to confront anyone who cuts in line. I take it as a selfish bullying tactic. These cowards have always tucked their tail between their legs.

    Nykky
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is why I'm glad I'm tall and always looked ready to murder someone. I was definitely left alone for that

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    #9

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) Mocking other people’s physical features or personal character traits. We get it, you’re projecting.

    scientologyfan69 , THIS IS ZUN Report

    Hill Branda
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Making fun of someone's physical flaws is just basic cruelty. Full stop.

    Kurichfield
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unless they have small hands, a bad comb over, are fat, and are orange skinned and dangerously narcissistic. In this case...full speed ahead!

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    No Name
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Never mock someone's appearance when there's plenty of targets to be found in their character.

    Nykky
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's uninspiring, lazy, and dumb. I know I'm fat, everyone can see that. I know I'm a b***h, but maybe if you weren't a total dumbass flying down our road, I wouldn't have yelled. Anything else OBVIOUS you'd like to point out? How about that I'm freakishly tall? Or that my hair is long? Like...sheesh dudes, be creative for once in your smooth-brained lives.

    rumple slunkskin
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Making fun of appearance is grabbing low hanging fruit. If you must be cruel make sure it's in reference to their horrible misdeeds or something actually terrible they could change but choose not to. It just don't maybe

    Celtic Pirate Queen
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My son stuttered in grade school and was being bullied by a much bigger kid. I was waiting for my son after school one day and this kid starts in on him, obviously not realizing I was right around the corner. I was instantly like, "Hey FATSO! What's you're problem with my skinny son? Oh, the fact that he stutters? Yeah, he'll outgrow that. I hear you flunked 1st grade. Is that TRUE? WOW, you must be really dumb". Now, this is not my proudest moment & thankfully no other adults heard me speaking to a 5th grader that way, but I was sick of my kid having stomach aches at the idea of going back to school Monday morning. Hey, it worked. They actually ended up being friends by the end of the year.

    Mercedus Long
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If your personal character traits are narcissistic a$$hole feel free

    Tara Tara Tara
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So sad that this even needs to be said. Common sense is not so common I guess

    Brian “CRAWDAD” Grim
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was always the smallest boy in school. The bully's always seemed to prefer exhibiting their machismo in front of many others, and a predilection towards do so with the least assuming of them all [yours truly]. Both were a mistake.

    Darian Starfrog
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh, woman can do it, but men can't.. modern hypocrisy.. ie. dissing on guys cos they aint 6ft, poor, or stupid enough to pay for a dependant woman with nothing to bring to the table..

    Carrie Davis
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Get over yourself. My husband is the same height as myself, and I bring just as much to the table as he does. Oh, and I am actually the breadwinner! No I am not hyping myself up to try to feel superior, so keep that one to yourself also!

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    Marla Singer
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think this post confuses "character traits" (which are mutable and describe a person's moral or ethical beliefs and behaviors, and are therfore worthy of scrutiny) with, perhaps, personality or neurology.

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    #10

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) Taking a situation that was never about you or had you involved in it and somehow making it all about yourself and playing victim(even tho you had meddle in it and make yourself the" victim ")

    Professional-Exit754 , MART PRODUCTION Report

    Kathryn Baylis
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or trying to make some uninvolved person at fault for the situation.

    JustinTime
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s hard to grow up with. I stopped talking to my mom 10 years ago. My kids don’t have anything to do with her either.

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    Sparkle
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know 2 female members of my husband's family whose eyes glitter when there is drama to be had or something to be started between everyone. It's pathetic.

    Ohhhdear
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Harry & Meghan come to mind…..

    Carrie Davis
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ouch! I believe I am guilty of this one just now :/

    Alexis Kristinat
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've done this a decent amount. But I always reflect and apologize afterwards or at least willing to talk 1st to understand why I was in the wrong then apologize

    Darian Starfrog
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Twitter, all day.. I swear it's taught in schools nowadays..

    Hagen Radcliffe
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OMG! Never in the history of the World has anyone EVER been treated so horribly and Terribly as me, even though I am the BEST and nicest person also the smartest and RICHEST. Everybody totally adores me except for the terrible people who are TERRIBLE to me!!!

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    #11

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) 1. Wearing massive designer logos such as Phillip Plein on everything 2. Bragging about money/girls 3. Lying about the smallest and meaningless things 4. Changing their views and principles based on who they speak to in the hope they’ll be liked

    Eyeswift , Pixabay Report

    Alban Bizet
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I just checked it and it's awful, luxury for red necks

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    John G
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Met a guy one time who had recently moved into the building. Within 10m he had told me how much everything he 9wn cost. What a douchebag.

    Cassi Lyris
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ah, the ol' Tommy Tallarico touch. Nothing is insignificant enough to not lie about. No real achievement is good enough to not over embellish.

    Niall Allen
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know a lad that lies about anything and everything, even in front of family members that just roll their eyes. He’s a police officer now and still lies openly. Worrying really.

    Cuppa tea?
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I thought OP used name Phillip Plein as mockery of Kelvin Clien, turned out it's genuine brand. Anyway, my idea is to mismatch logos and names into total kitch.

    Jill Rhodry
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hmm...3 & 4 can be signs of a traumatic childhood.

    Horst
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep, I personally do those due to some stuff I went through as a kid :(

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    Joshuah Johnston
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bragging about money/GIRLS ??? Doesn't it go both ways? If a woman braggs about all the BOYS she has or who wants her, doesn't that also scream "INSECURE"?

    Amanda Christensen
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Uh Philip plein? Are you trying to say Calvin Klein?

    Nykky
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For number 3, I'd list under that too correcting things that aren't important when someone's telling a story. I've done this a few times and am working on it, but with my autism brain wanting everything to be told like how it happened, it presses a small button that makes it difficult. Like a small itch that you need to ignore.

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    #12

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) Insulting your friend in front of others to be cool.

    SuvenPan , Liza Summer Report

    Thegoodboi
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Never got this, just making yourself look stupid

    Cassi Lyris
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In case it has to be said, anyone doing this isn't your friend.

    Apatheist Account2
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had a boss who did this to me, in my first proper job.

    Nykky
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was the one always insulted. Don't talk to that girl much anymore, but it never really bothered me because I figured maybe they'd feel sympathy then instead of just thinking of me as some weirdo (in a bad sense). She's worked on that very well now though, and now we only insult each other in front of people who get the joke

    Sparkle
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That makes you *not* their "friend."

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    #13

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) Posting pictures of yourself with tons of filters on

    SteveStSteve , cottonbro studio Report

    Headless Roach
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, if your brows look like they are ready for take off - you might have overdone the touch up. Edit: brows, not brews 🙃

    N Miller
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depends on the filters. I wouldn't say having a potato filter is a sign of insecurity (it's a sign you can't work filters)

    varwenea
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A friend does this. Her photos have filters. Her husband poses ones without so we know what she really looks like. 😏

    3 Owls In A Coat
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a friend who’s completely unrecognizable on her Instagram because of how many filters she uses, like when she followed me it took days for me to realize it was her. She’s pretty insecure, it makes me sad. Her husband got her a gorgeous blanket with a no-filter photo of the two of them on it and she hates it, she asked him why he couldn’t have used one of her “way nicer” Instagram pics instead :(

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    Sue Knerl
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I truly hate that. It's so phony!

    Darian Starfrog
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes! And advertising yourself as that, same with make up! You see so many pretty girls on the net, maybe 7% are real beauty

    Slap Shot
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just posting pictures of yourself even without filters.

    Cassi Lyris
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unless it's actually posted as a joke.

    W0lfiest W0lfAlive
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You especially look like a moron if you say you're not using any

    Magpie
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I worked with a woman whose Facebook pictures were filtered beyond belief, to the point that she and the background blurred into one another. Her "friends" constantly told her how pretty she was. She never once said she used any filters. C'mon Annie, we know you don't have blue eyes but you do have pores 🙄.

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    #14

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) In terms of leadership, it's when someone can't (or won't) take input from the rest of their team and tries to act like they have all the answers. I was this type of insecure leader once and I thought that if I used the idea of someone with less experience then everyone would think I was a weak leader. But after I was removed from that position I had to work for a lot of managers who did a lot of the same stupid s**t that I was doing but magnified due to years of insecurity/habit/karma. I have since learned that if I hear people out, discuss a course of action, go with other people's ideas, and especially give them credit you gain exponentially more influence and respect. That even people who have little experience should have their input considered. I feel horrible for the people who had to work with me, but now I don't just act like a more capable leader, I am a more capable leader. Shakespearean TL;DR "Take every man's censure, but reserve thy judgement."

    poizunman206 , fauxels Report

    Miss Frankfurter
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Insecure leaders are more commonly known as “bosses”. Leaders don’t boss. They don’t want to. They don’t need to.

    Mary Elliott
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes. This. However, as supervisor, if I listen to your idea, and my way is better, I fully expect you to keep doing it my way. I will gladly explain in detail why. But, since I'm essentially lazy, if your way is better, faster, easier, I will happily go with your way.

    Angersly
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I worked at a place that actually incentivized people sharing ideas so it would actually become a crucial part of the work culture there. If you had an idea, you could submit it, and if it saved, or made the company money you would get bonused that initial savings or initial profit. People regularly made a few hundred bucks, every quarter for offering ideas for departments they weren't regularly in. When I first started working there one of maintenance dudes got a check for almost 10k.

    Rasha K
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is so important! When I was a supervisor of some alcohol and drug counselors, I had one who had been asked to be part of a diversity panel. She was scared to death because she would have been the least educated person on the panel. We had a talk about who we admire and came to the conclusion that no matter a person's education, humility and kindness are more important. I currently work with a psychiatrist who intimidated the heck out me until our first staff meeting. I was worried that my theories about clients would be questioned or ridiculed (totally my own insecurities) and he did the opposite. He praised my insights and backed me up on my ideas. He also gave thoughtful suggestions. What a relief to have a kind and humble professional of that level as part of our team.

    Scott Rackley
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Try to learn at least one thing from everyone

    Stephanie Barr
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We had a leader that took us on a three day retreat where we were to determine the plan for the stage of the project. We were a diverse opinionated lot but we all reached consensus and had a plan by the end of day two. Day three and our leader came out, trashed all we had agreed on and directed us to do a different (stupid) plan no one had heard before. What a waste of time.

    Barbara Kelly
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sadly, this is not uncommon. Some pull this stunt to exert power and domination (" Nice ideas; but we'll do it MY way") . Backfires big time in terms of team morale and respect for the boss.

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    Carol Wilson
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would like to send my last supervisor a book on effective leadership. She had no clue how to do our jobs, but would publicity chastise people. She had favorites and would give awards to them for really stupid things, but would ignore real contributions and achievements.

    Kristi Northcutt
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Kudos. It is a rare person, I've found who can relate other people's behavior back to their own and recognize themselves. It's even more rare for them to learn and grow from this newfound self-awareness. It gives me hope for humanity when this happens.

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    #15

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) Not listening. Preparing the next smart thing to say without listening to what the other one is saying .

    DennisV1993 , Burst Report

    ArodTheHorrible
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just waiting for their turn to talk

    Alexis Kristinat
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm only really guilty of this in an argument and my so usually silently gives me a death glare till I realize what I'm doing then we start over..... 😅 im learning

    Thomas Stevenson
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "The opposite of talking isn't listening. The opposite of talking is waiting to talk." -Fran Drescher

    RickyT
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Too many people confuse "hearing" with "listening". Not the same thing.

    Jon Rindfleisch
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not just about listening, but comprehending what is being said without putting your own spin on it

    Darian Starfrog
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's just being a jerk, a self entitled a*s

    Lori
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've seen some insecure individuals leave a place, if they are no longer the center of attention. Very self centered.

    Celtic Pirate Queen
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That not just insecurity, it's narcissism. When you're speaking with someone and they continually cut you off or interrupt you, that's a clear sign of both, but also disrespect. I haven't talked to my youngest sister for 2 years for that very reason. I'm not sure I was able to finish a complete sentence for years and I finally got a clue. BYE - toxic you.

    Audrey Schuster
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How do you even know what you're going to respond if they haven't spoken yet? Who does this? How would it even fit into the conversation??

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    #16

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) Those handshakes that are firm to the point you wonder if they're actually trying to hurt you

    bawdyloco , fauxels Report

    Aria Whitaker
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, another form of overcompensation.

    Nykky
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They could just be anxious too, depends on the person

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    Hobby Hopper
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ah yes, the toxic masculinity handshake.

    Fabian Bernard
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I also dislike that kinds of pancake handshakes, soft and moist

    shyla Vincent
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Had a male DM do this to me (female) once. I almost asked him what he was trying to do

    Stannous Flouride
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The Biggest Loser was notorious for holding handshakes too long & too firmly.

    Birgit Sommer
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The opposite is true too. If the other hand feels like a dead weight. Same conclusion.

    Celtic Pirate Queen
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's usually from men. They were always surprised when I gave them a really firm handshake. Just one way for a woman in business to let them know you're not a milquetoast.

    Raimei Ai
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or the handshake that turns into a knuckle roll. I nearly K-O'ed someone who was interviewing me for doing that! He said it was a test to see how someone would react in a "surprisingly stressful" situation. Then I told him I have arthritis and degenerative cartilage and he could have done irreversible damage to my hand. He said "You're fine. You'll get over it." I reported him to his boss and told him that that classifies as assault and if something isn't don't I'd file charges. His boss had happen to overhear his comments as he was right outside talking with someone else at the time. Idiot was asked if that's how he always greeted people and he stupidly said "Yes". He was immediately fired. I didn't get the job as I wasn't qualified. Fine with me. Dude had to seek new employment so I'm pleased with that. This was also about 10 years ago.

    IRONHORSE MMA
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes! I wanted to exchange a friendly gesture, not get involved in a hand crushing contest. As a bigger sized guy, it happens a lot!

    R Dennis
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I didn't shake hands before covid, I sure as hell don't now!

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    #17

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) The incessant need to compare.

    Pretty-Benefit-233 , Bich Tran Report

    Hill Branda
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think it's hard not to do when you have low self-esteem--you feel as if you're always less than everyone else. What really boggles my mind is those who have to point out others' failures to make themselves feel bigger somehow.

    Sonja
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And one up in every situation.

    Birgit Sommer
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I disagree. Comparisons are a normal part of human cognition and can be good for the self-improvement process. When we compare ourselves to others, we get information about what we want and where we want to be, and we get valuable feedback on how we measure up. Of course there's a line to cross too.

    Clara
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It depends. You can look at someone's situation and try to imitate in a way to improve your own situation. Because you see them as a positive influence for your own life. But then there are comparisons that lead to jealousy, envy or sabotage. There's no improvement happening. It's "how can I be better than that person" or "try to get what they have so that they don't have it". Almost like a one sided shady competition.There's a healthy version and a horrible version.

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    Nykky
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's fun to compare in the sense of just how different you are. Take art for example. If you're just starting, and try to compare yourself to someone with 30+ years experience, of course you're going to fall way short. But if you can see past that, and see certain qualities in their art that you like that you'd enjoy to implement into your own art, without completely stealing it...that's growth and development.

    Sparkle
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Does it count when others do it to you? Like when *they* are the ones comparing you to others? For instance, "You should be/Why can't you be more like so-and-so?" "I'd like you more if you looked like so-and-so..." I mean, stuff like that sticks with you...

    Niall Allen
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Looking up to someone is fine, but concentrate on what you actually like as it makes self improvement more rewarding. It’s pointless comparing yourself to others as they’re different people with different experiences and reasons for being where they are.

    Mitchell Gilliland
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hill Branda...or you can't shut up? Have to state your opinion no matter what?

    Magpie
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You understand the concept of a forum like this, right?

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    #18

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) Selling NFTs of yourself.

    distractionfactory , pinguino k Report

    Justin Smith
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just selling them in general.

    Tim
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I assume this is pointing at Trump. It's a grift. Every single thing that... person... does is a grift.

    Kurichfield
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    just like someone's BIG announcement a few days ago...'cause it's what we have' lol

    General Anaesthesia
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Today only, I have an NFT of a bridge in Brooklyn to sell you! Guaranteed only 20 signed Tokens to be sold.

    sinking kitchen
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I still don't understand what they are

    Mary Elliott
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And thinking you're hot s**t because you paid a c**p ton for an NFT, which is essentially nothing. It has no physical reality, you don't even really own it, just limited rights to use it. A fool and his money are indeed soon parted.

    Hagen Radcliffe
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And yet another way to suck the last few dollars from sad clueless people. Sometimes I wonder “ Did an older person just spend their med. money on some stupid maga garbage or donate to tRump instead of paying rent/heat/car payment? It just breaks my heart to see how people have been tricked & scammed. I hate him & his crew so much it makes my teeth hurt.

    Wendy Herman
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are not alone in these sentiments. Big Hugs & hopes for a better, smarter society in the coming New Year.💙

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    #19

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) Being loud and domineering in every conversation.

    LucyVialli , Monstera Report

    Kathryn Baylis
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Arguing by shouting the other person down doesn’t mean you won the argument. It just means you’re a loud and obnoxious A*****E.

    Bex
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have done this, but only to stop the incessant monologue of people who cannot accept it when you say you disagree. No, Janet, another hour of preachifying isn't going to get me on your bandwagon. Zip it.

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    Jodie daubenmire
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Again, trump 101 Direct quote: "Even if you don't know what you are saying, talk louder than everyone else, and people will listen.". And people are actually going with that?

    Kristi Northcutt
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know how so many people were defensive of him when he himself made statements like these. You could bring up statements he made publicly and they would argue with you that he wasn't at all like that. One in particular was when he was much younger and being interviewed on a talk show. He stated if he ran for President, ever, he would run as a Republican because they were so much easier to fool. I guess he was right.

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    Cassi Lyris
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Being loud ≠ right, smart, funny, nor interesting.

    FR13K SHOW
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What in the fae came all over her face??

    Kristi Northcutt
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In relationships, sometimes while arguing one person ends up yelling while the other stays perfectly composed, if anything, lowering their volume. When this happens, I am convinced that the person doing the shouting is doing so because they don't feel heard by the other person, not just in argument, but never.

    Darian Starfrog
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Americans.. trust me, you notice when you live in New Zealand, we are mostly so chill, and respectful of each other spaces, when an American comes in.. woah! I gotta leave

    Nykky
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I knew someone like this. It was so goddamn annoying. Never did anything wrong, never apologized, always had to domineer the conversation. ALWAYS. I even told them one of my massive buttons was interrupting because I've gotten that from my mother my entire life, and they didn't even bother to wait. I will give them credit, they did try, but after, like, a month, they quit.

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    #20

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) The three I always look out for are: 1. Overt displays of intelligence/prowess. 2. Belittling others. 3. A need to closely monitor the behaviour of others.

    Conway_Morning , Andrea Piacquadio Report

    Cassi Lyris
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So here's the thing about intelligent people, they don't tend to go around bragging about how smart they are. Beyond maybe the necessary wall diplomas in their office it's just not a thing. The same goes for belittling and trying to control people. These are all overt signs of insecurity and projection.

    Bex
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    Alex D. Y.
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The first one could just be a neurodivergent person being passionate about one of their specific interests, though...

    randall brown
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    #1? Like writing a book or winning a contest? Those darned Pulitzer and gold medal winners are the worst.

    Joshuah Johnston
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Closely monitoring my behavior will quickly get me to unfriend you and I'll do my best to avoid you. Sorry if that's harsh, but I'm a full grown adult, I don't need nor do I want a babysitter.

    Darian Starfrog
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What? The first one sounds insecure (the writer) , the second, yes, the third? As any fellow victimized human knows, we tend to do this in order to be prepared, if anything bad is gunna happen.. I don't even know how one takes that so harshly.. this person has issues

    Clifford Holt
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So if you're smart play dumb? That's your insecurity showing.

    D. Pitbull
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tied into the first one - those who loudly mock/accuse others of being 'know-it-alls'... when the other person wasn't being 'overt'.

    Nykky
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    1) This is generally displayed online by people using synonyms without actually understanding the true meaning for them. 2) If you punch up, it's fine. It can be funny. But that's why comedy is dying now. So many comedians are punching down at the little people and it's just bad. 3) Depends on the situation. If you're watching a newbie and they're working on something very delicate and can be destroyed in a moment, of course you want to closely monitor it. Or a kid near something that can be dangerous but that they need to understand how to use.

    Thegoodboi
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    *mashes eject button repeatedly*

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    #21

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) Being the funny one in a group at other’s (mostly the quiet ones) expense.

    FictionalReality7 , Anna Shvets Report

    Kurichfield
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    the complete opposite of this photo then

    Cassi Lyris
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That person isn't funny, they're an âsshole.

    Thundercuss
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not sure why they used this photo but I really like the bull tattoo.

    Raimei Ai
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah....careful. the quiet one may knock you flat someday...

    Nykky
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love when the quiet ones are super f*****g confident, but just enjoy listening to others, and completely slam that a*****e's comment into the core of earth. It's just so funny to watch the "funny" one's reaction.

    Some rando dude
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is it an insecurity if I'm the quite one that cracks jokes at my own expense? Or is it a lack of self esteem?

    Ru Bee
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tbf that's just a bully... And they are not funny.

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    #22

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) Explaining how smart you are.

    NotReallyChaucer , Leah Kelley Report

    Benita Valdez
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ugh I had a "friend" years ago who just went on and on about how smart they are, how many books they read, how much "knowledge" they can retain, blah blah blah. No Mike, you're not a fůcking genius you just have a good memory. I can appreciate you have a good memory but just because you can retain an encyclopedia worth of info doesn't mean you're smart. If you can't explain the facts you're spewing out then you don't really know and understand them; look it up yourself tells me you dont really know. His nickname was actually neckbeard and this was before the whole neckbeard incel thing; he had a neck beard and really was an incel though.

    Kiwi
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I also passed as smart because of my ability to retain facts, my memory. Difference is, I knew it. Kinda smart, but really just a good memory.

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    Steve Robert
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People know when you're smart. You don't have to tell them. If you need to tell them then you're nothing more than a "stable genius", like tRump, who really should be in a stable.

    Darian Starfrog
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ifya gotta say it, ya ain't it.. goes for everything

    Cara G
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Never go up against a Sicilian when death is on the line!" *drops dead*

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    JesseyM
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wait...does that tattoo say "Don't you smile"?

    JoyfulZebra
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think so? Kinda hard to see with the bracelet.

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    Mike Luetke
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Had a "friend" in HS that always talked c**p to me because he was in Honors and I wasn't. One day he was bragging about he did better than me on some aptitude test... his jaw dropped and he shut up when I pulled out my report and I had scored WELL above him in every category. I then told him I didn't WANT to be in honors, I wanted to actually have fun while I was a kid and enjoy life before the real world came in full force, even though I was working a full time job while his mom and dad supported his arrogant butt. Never heard a peep from him again about being "smarter."

    Nykky
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    True intelligence comes with a good helping of humility. "The more I learn, the more I realize I know nothing." There are so many aspects to intelligence that IQ, book reading, fact spewing, explaining things, exercising, and what have you are not all going to demonstrate just how intelligent (or stupid) you can be. There's just too much to it.

    Elizabeth Krigsvold
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you need to explain intelligence, you need to go back to school

    General Anaesthesia
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Nobody knew healthcare could be so complicated". “No one wants the job who can actually keep Twitter alive. There is no successor..."

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    #23

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) When they can’t make fun of themselves Edit: holy yes the opposite is just as bad I know. I’ve literally gotten that same comment about 100 times 😭 please stop redditors, my notifications can’t handle it

    gulaggremlin , cottonbro studio Report

    Headless Roach
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ... while my Bored Panda eyes can't handle copy from reddit without edits.

    TailsFangirl03
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Almost everything here is a reddit copypaste.

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    DrBronxx
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This seems to be along the lines of the edit, but I'm the opposite. I make fun of myself in the hopes that others won't. I'm overweight, and extremely aware of that. So, I figure if I make jokes about it, then it will seem like I'm confident and don't care. But it stings if other people comment on my weight (such comments are thankfully very few and far between).

    Nykky
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A good balance is the important thing. You can't take any jokes, you become an a*****e. You take way too many, you seem like a doormat. Boundaries is the key here. Know when you can tease yourself, but also know when to put your foot down.

    Brian “CRAWDAD” Grim
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My girlfriend kept teasing me about looking like a flamingo. I had to put my foot down.

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    Katie Lutesinger
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used to be like this. Years of being bullied meant I reacted to the most good-natured and friendly of teasing as if it were more bullying. I got incredibly uptight and angry and huffy and self-important, and it took me years to chill out and realise I could use my own naturally klutzy and goofy nature to make other people laugh *on purpose*. Now I make fun of myself all the time and everyone knows me as the goofball who's always good for a laugh and a joke. Hell, I even draw little comics these days featuring myself as a wide-eyed well-meaning but hopelessly naive bumbling cartoon character.

    Horst
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ugh same. I still gotta chill out. I’ve even caught myself threatening violence against someone who made a joke without thinking :(

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    Some rando dude
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's an art to make fun of yourself. Those of us who make fun of ourselves are very much aware of our own insecurities. So, sometimes, it's used as a tool to ease tension and make the first move, or in my case, a coping mechanism for an unhealthy fear of being hurt by others (due to past experiences I have yet to actually move on from). They can't hurt you if you take away their ammo.

    Lou Lopez
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yoooo! I figured this out years ago, and these days I'm very good at being self-deprecating. Because if you mock yourself first, they can't do it later. It's a survival mechanism and it helps that I can tell all the jokes I want about me and never get offended -it's a really easy talent to foster when you're this disappointing and trying not to get dropped from the will.

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    George Comas
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When they can't make fun of themselves. Upvote. No disclaimer.

    Sparkle
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you can't laugh at yourself....

    Mercedus Long
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't worry someone else will (and yes I'm being facetious)

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    #24

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) People who wear ridiculous clothing on ridiculous prices just to show off they are well off financially. Usually young people.

    CarryTrain , Rob Olivera Report

    TailsFangirl03
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a young person, yes, this is ridiculous. And it's funny that I'm saying this because I'm insecure lol. (But I don't do this)

    Lara Verne
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I only wear ridiculous clothing on reasonable prices.

    Lori
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know, I've seen many older people do this!

    Darian Starfrog
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The 90's had it so much better.. the coolest cats shopped at op shops.. we should all do that, especially now! Stop consuming sweat shop clothing at crazy prices, cos it has a 'trendy' label on it! Jeez!

    Some rando dude
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've never enjoyed shopping for clothes. What I blow my money on is usually for my hobbies. I like video games and Legos, so every once and a while, I'll splurge on a new set or a video game or maybe replace an old console piece. You can tell that I'm broke as hell because I still play Madden 08 on the Wii. Speaking of, I've gotta order a new pair of nunchuks. I haven't been able to play for a week. I know, it's horrible ain't it?

    Hagen Radcliffe
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You sound like fun. Games & fun are much more important then fancy clothes/shoes/bags. 🤗

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    LA Murphy
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I see plenty of older people do this too and they should know better.

    Mercedus Long
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Had someone tell me it was the fashion when I tried to tell them the price tag was hanging out of the neck.

    Nykky
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do like the pattern on the dress on the left though. But yeah, I'm always way more impressed by someone who makes their own stuff rather than someone who has money to go buy s**t. You have money. No one cares. But you have skill? That's amazing!

    C Turtle
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wear $190 Adidas I got from a free pile

    Thatkamloopsguy
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It tells me you are also an idiot with your money.

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    #25

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) Bragging and giving yourself titles

    iam4r33 , Anna Shvets Report

    Szirra
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I, Professor Doctor, the Princess of all pastries, don’t know what’s wrong with that.

    Robert B
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What if you give other people titles?

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    Hill Branda
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unless you're a cat, because then you really ARE awesome.

    Ba-Na-Na
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed, cats deserve all the glory titles in the world!

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    Headless Roach
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Blockchain Enthusiast | Cryptocurrency Evangelist | Influencer | Inspirer | Chief Visionary | Serial Entrepreneur | Founder | Philanthropist | Empowering | Life Coach | Father | Trendsetter | Top 1% of Linkedin Profiles | Speaker | TEDx | ICO Advisor

    K W
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If only our current capitalistic corporate environment in the US didn't reward this. Seriously. It rarely the quiet competent people who get the promotion, attention, or pay rise.

    Kurichfield
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I sees a cat I upvote. Hail, King Cat!

    Kathryn Baylis
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, if it’s a title you deserve and worked hard for, like Dr for instance, then I don’t see a problem—-especially if you’re a BIPOC and/or woman and some a*****e is trying to minimize your achievement. However, all these titles people just make up for themselves are a true sign of both insecurity and likely undeserved self-aggrandizement.

    Janet C
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But... but... what about my official title as a member of Dogbert's New Ruling Class? I am Supreme Goddess of Pun@ctu*at!io}n Er&ro%rs and Mispelllingz

    Chucky Cheezburger
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am Lord Fartlord, the Lord of Farts!

    Scout Finch
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is true. I suspect a crowning ceremony soon.

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    JOHN DOE
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I will refer to myself as King of the Park as a bit to change the conversation.

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    #26

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) Insecurity can manifest in different ways and can be difficult to detect, as people often try to hide or cover up their insecurities. Some common behaviors or actions that may indicate insecurity include: Seeking constant validation or reassurance: If a person constantly seeks validation or reassurance from others, it could be a sign that they are insecure and unsure of themselves. Putting others down: People who are insecure may try to make themselves feel better by belittling or putting others down. Overcompensating: Someone who is insecure may try to overcompensate by boasting or exaggerating their achievements or abilities. Being overly critical of themselves or others: Insecurity can sometimes lead to excessively criticizing oneself or others. Being overly defensive: If a person becomes defensive or reactive when their beliefs or actions are questioned, it could be a sign of insecurity. It is important to remember that everyone experiences insecurity at some point in their lives, and it is a normal part of being human. However, it is important to address and work on insecurities healthily to promote personal growth and well-being. /ai

    breakite , Andres Ayrton Report

    Nykky
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have done all of these except belittle those beneath my situation and luck. Intentionally or not, I have done them. I've been working on it, but it's just...difficult. never getting validation for anything, never being complemented on things you've achieved, acting like what you've done won't matter in a month...it gets to you after 30 years.

    Josh Gilland
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You're not alone. In the same boat. As long as it's steps in the right direction that's what's matter.

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    StarlightPanda!
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If only more people were to be assertive as well as inspiring and bringing others up at the same time..

    Michelle C
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A lot of these can come from childhood trauma. There is a slight distinction, but it’s definitely still there.

    Kurichfield
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    last paragraphh is of paramount importance. No one is perfect. Not even and including God.

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    #27

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) Trying to justify every “mistake”, usually its minimal, but once you notice someone that does it, you just cant stop noticing it when they do it

    benitocamelo11 , Sora Shimazaki Report

    Kurichfield
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Endless defensiveness for no discernable purpose...

    Kathryn Baylis
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, that can also be a sign that they’re being consistently abused at home or work by someone who micromanages, nitpicks every move they make, and ignores what they do right and just zeros in on the negative. Having to endure that kind of treatment for any length of time—-especially when you’re a child and can’t just leave—-leaves invisible bruises that take a long time to heal.

    Seanette Blaylock
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or grew up that way, even if their current situation is healthy.

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    Cassi Lyris
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Acknowledge you made the mistake, own up to it, and fix it. Ask for forgiveness and help. Nothing shows wisdom more than doing this.

    Lori
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes! I've worked with people who always have tons of excuses for every error they make, even the slightest thing.

    Celtic Pirate Queen
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had an employee whose every mistake was always "someone else's fault". I finally got enough complaints that I called him into the office. I offered up the last weeks mistakes and of course he blamed everyone else. I let him ramble for a minute and then shut him down. "First of all, when you claim X did this, he had left early for an appt. YOU were on the line and YOU f*cked up. Second, when you claim X did this, he was having lunch in my office and YOU f*cked up. Shall I go on?" I explained to him that blaming others for his mistakes was only going to get him fired. If you make a mistake, own up to it & ask how to fix it - because that's what ADULTS do. I told him I'd give him a 2 week probationary period, but if I heard it was "someone else's fault" without him trying to fix the problem again, he was gone. Kid got a clue and worked for me for another 6 years.

    fhqwhgus
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I just try to rationalize everything because I need to know why I was wrong and how I can fix things so that I'm not wrong. It's a learning thing, but it's also how my insecurities manifest.

    Amberlie Mikelsen
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It took me over a decade, and I still slip up rather frequently, but I have finally stopped saying either "I'm sorry" or "I didn't do it" over every single little thing that went wrong around me. The primary reason I even got into that habit was because I was constantly blamed for everything, whether I was actually at fault or not.

    Nykky
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just say "oh, okay, I'll try to change," and actually try then. If you don't try, don't be surprised if they just stop wanting to hang out

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    #28

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) Obsessing over hierarchies, or who is 'ahead' and who is 'behind' in life.

    AdultMNTurtle , Ann H Report

    Cassi Lyris
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How utterly pointless...

    Raimei Ai
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    All I know is I am head of my household....a household of one... XD

    Nykky
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We all end at the same finish line, just at different paces. Enjoy your time while you have it.

    Sparkle
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Sometimes, you're ahead. Sometimes you're behind. The race is long, and, in the end, it's only with yourself." ~ Baz Luhrmann

    Steve Robert
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And if you can find Beta, you can open a grocery store

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    #29

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) purposely waiting a long time to text back so you don’t seem “desperate”

    coconutflanflakes , fauxels Report

    Sonja
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Overthinking in general. Instead of just acting or reacting, everything is planned or part of a strategy.

    Kathryn Baylis
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Again, overthinking can also be a sign you were, or are, being consistently abused by someone who never sees what you do well and always focuses on nothing but the negative. Especially if it happened to you as a child.

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    Tim
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Conversely, demanding that texts be replied to immediately.

    Robert B
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m rather glad that some of these technologies we take for granted weren’t available when I was younger. Namely texting and everyone having a camera in their pocket. You kiddos don’t realize the how wonderful it was that there was only circumstantial evidence of one’s dumb a*s antics.

    fhqwhgus
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Please don't hold this against ADHD people. I swear, we thought we texted but then got sidetracked because we suddenly distracted ourselves with a thought that became a hyperfocus, and now it's been three weeks, and we're too embarrassed to send the text that we spent half an hour writing before our attention deviated and we forgot to press "send."

    Milan Chleborád
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You don't seem desperate if you do that, sure. But you also don't seem interested in talking to me, so I'm just not texting back at all if you do this constantly.

    Cassi Lyris
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh god, those stupid dating strategy nonsense tips. Barf. Feel your bloody feelings. They're (usually) ok.

    Joshuah Johnston
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This (sort of) pre dates texting. I'm 100yrs old and I remember when all we had to communicate with others was a landline. It was common practice that if a girl gave a guy her phone number (if you met in a bar or whatever) it was imperative to wait a day or two to call her for fear of seeming desperate. SOME women did the same, however usually a woman was encouraged to call the guy back ASAP for fear he might think you're not interested and you might let "Mr. Right" get away.

    Josh Gilland
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm guilty of this. I've been told by so many people not to respond the moment I see it. I feel like a fraud when I don't because when I like and want to talk to you i want to and i want to let you know. But I also feel like she's judge we as needy. But if she feels that way then I'm not for her.

    Niall Allen
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just reply. It’s rude to keep people waiting. Christ.

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    #30

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) When they found a point that makes them look better than the other person and continue to overstay on that point. Edit: The situation is subjective, and I’m talking about the situation whereby the person punches down on someone to make themselves feel good. I did not mean for a person who requires positive affirmations.

    the_far_yard , RODNAE Productions Report

    Cassi Lyris
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Let's say you have a sister and she has much smaller feet than you. She makes it a point to mention how small her feet are, especially compared to your "man feet" any chance she gets. Pretty sure that's the type of behavior they're talking about.

    Hagen Radcliffe
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your sister sounds like a real pain in the a*s. You have my sincere condolences.

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    #31

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) When they can’t take constructive criticism I dedicate this post to my ex girlfriend! Hope she can take constructive criticism now!

    HiFiiii , Drew Report

    Cassi Lyris
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Taking a pointless swipe at someone who's never going to see it or care ...

    #32

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) Being a workaholic.

    Suphred , cottonbro studio Report

    Headless Roach
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is way more complex than plain insecurity.

    MichelleDonut
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or they see their job as a public service (teacher, social worker, etc) so they put in the extra time to benefit society.

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    Cassi Lyris
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No, but BRAGGING about being a workaholic is.

    #33

    “What Screams Insecurity But Most People Don’t Realize It?” (30 Answers) "oh no Im not jealous like other girls, he can like and talk and watch other girls bodyparts, I'll watch with him, it's fun" girl you're convincing yourself not me

    Vanessa_Aron , Luis Quintero Report

    Daria
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My bf and I often notice pretty people of any gender and admire them together. Why not? I don't think this makes us insecure.

    Niall Allen
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Anyone that says they don’t are lying. It’s a part of nature to see attraction and shouldn’t need explaining why 😝

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    Chucky Cheezburger
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the point if this one can go both ways. Most people will find other people attractive, even while in a relationship. I know my wife thinks other dudes are hot and I'm sure she knows I feel the same way about other chicks. It's human nature. But we chose one another to commit to do it doesn't bother me that (I think) she goes all 🤤 for Yul Brenner. She's with me and I trust her, just like I'm with her and she trusts me and I wouldn't want to be with anyone else.

    Scout Finch
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He's dead and buried in France so I don't think you have anything to worry about.

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    Cassi Lyris
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nope, but you managed to make yourself look super insecure. Some of us literally actually don't care.

    Ann T
    Community Member
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That’s going to be my next hair color.