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Even though there have been a few kinds of research stating that opposites do not attract and that people tend to fall for those with whom they share similarities, it's still a question of preferences. Some folks feel more comfortable spending their time with people that have a similar lifestyle or share a mutual interest – others find it exciting when their significant other is a complete contrast to their personality. 

Either way, it's impossible to have a totally identical mindset to your partner, which is why every relationship is prone to surprises. Though, of course, sometimes being different than your lover is way more fun. 

For instance, this Redditor decided to ask fellow online users who came from a more abundant background and are in a relationship with someone whose life was less fortunate to share what surprised them the most about their partner's previous life. The post received over 65K upvotes and nearly 22K worth of comments sharing an array of stories.

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30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life My husband grew up in a family where they were comfortable but on a strict budget. Six kids and mom on disability. My family had no budget. One day we were at the grocery store and he always insists on walking up and down every aisle. I finally lost it because he was taking so long and asked him why he did it. “Growing up we could only spend $100 a week on groceries for all of us. I always had to put what I wanted back because we couldn’t afford it. Now I can afford whatever I want so I like to look at everything I could have.” Took him 10 years to tell me this. I felt like a terrible person.

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Ivana
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I grew up on a strict budget and we never went down the aisles because that is where all the expensive junk food is located. I still don't go down them because I never developed a taste for junk food (on the plus side of things) and I absolutely hate the grocery store and want to get in and out as fast as possible. I would be annoyed too.

Kathryn Baylis
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m not well off, never have been, and I’m the opposite. I use coupons so go down the aisles and comparison shop to find the best deal—-sometimes there’s a generic that’s just as good, but even cheaper than the price minus the coupon of the name brand. I also look at the bottom shelves for the less expensive cereals and stuff. I even fooled my husband with the cereal. He swears his sensitive taste buds can tell brand name Frosted Mini Wheats from the generic. Also, we use plastic cereal containers, so he never sees the box. He doesn’t know I buy the generic and hide the box deep in the garbage can. After the first substitution, I remember him getting a bowl for breakfast, eating it all, and announcing that there’s no replacement for brand name Frosted Flakes. Sensitive taste buds. Right.

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Char Panda
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I told my husband the day we were able to go grocery shopping and not look at prices was the day I felt rich. It's a luxury I will appreciate every day of my life.

GenericPanda09
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Took him 10 years to tell me this. I felt like a terrible person." I think a lot of people coming from poor backgrounds will appreciate that single line..... there's a lot of unnecessary shame associated with not having much money.

Natalia Allen
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember living hand to mouth and wanting so much.... funny thing, by the time I actually had enough money to be able to pretty much have what I want (I'm talking general shops here not yachts) I find I don't really want anything anymore.

Jackie Lulu
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3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"After a time, you may find that ‘having’ is not so pleasing a thing after all as ‘wanting.’ It is not logical, but it is often true.” - Spock, in the original al Star Trek TV series

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Courtney Lunsford
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had to tell my husband they we could in fact afford the "fancy bread" (like 2.99 as opposed to 0.99). But he had to tell me that "We can afford the dollar store, get whatever you like". I spent a few years scraping by before meeting him and was a little in shock when we got together and things were easier.

Zophra
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am conditioned to always buy the generic supermarket brand and not the namebrand. There are some generics I actually prefer.

Thomas Ewing
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A buddy and I went into a grocery store so we could grab a few things and then run over to the bus stop. We were pressed for time. He started leisurely browsing the aisles, every one, while I was approaching the checkout. He acted like he had all the time in the world. Instead of hurrying to the bus, he wanted to check out a new fast-food next door. Missed one bus. We ate and barely caught the next bus. His mindset was: if I can't be rich, I'll lollygag and waste time like I am. What a doofus. I could've been home napping while he's posing. Wealth is a frame of mind, but it doesn't cost anyone else a dime. Shame on him for being selfish and wasteful.

Kika González
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a different kind of mind set. Not grateful or considerate

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Joan Zatorski
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Each of us is a moon with a dark side that we never show anyone". Don't beat yourself up. He told you when he was ready to tell you. You sound like a sensitive and loving partner... enjoy being together; you're so fortunate!!

The End Is Nyreezy
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I totally understand this as I had the same issue growing up. It takes a long time to undo that trauma as well.

Glirpy
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But you don’t have to look at everything you could have EVERY time you go to a store. You can pretty much get an idea for what a store stocks by walking through it twice. Then decide what you need before you go.

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    #2

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life I came from a family worth multi-millions. My wife came from a family who could barely eat and dealt with CPS at times. We fell in love in high school. We've been married for 12 years and love each other more each day. About 5 years into our relationship, I realized how weak I was in comparison to her strength. And realized that much of what I had growing up, while providing a net of safety, produced feelings and issues of anxiety. On the contrary, when we faced adversity in our earlier years, my wife was a solid rock. I don't mean this to sound insensitive but at times, I am envious of what she experienced growing up as because it has made her an amazing human being full of strength and peace. Nothing phases her. I was told by people outside of my immediate family (friends and others) how there would be challenges with our demographics being so vastly different. The only challenge I've found is on her end having to deal with someone who had so much given to them growing up out of good intentions from their parents and her being so gracious and strong in helping me overcome my weaknesses.

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    Jo Choto
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's a really lovely way of looking at your wife and at your differences. I think he's right. I would definitely say that I have way more strength and resilience and ability to cope with adversity than a lot of my friends who have had much less-challenging lives.

    Alma Muminovic
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Challenge and conflict makes you stronger. It’s not good to give your kid everything it makes then entitled useless adults. This guy seems down to earth and self aware despite it which is a gem in itself.

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    Flying Captain
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Although I agree in general on the observation that tough life hardens you, there are some cases in which tough life cannot harden you and makes you mentally ill instead. It's such an romantic idea that people leave out of it stronger. It's a bit similar to when older generations say "back then we had it harder than you young folks!" and we would just go "ah yes grandpa/uncle...but you have a lot of other unresolved issues too..." So anyone who has a tough life and feel like it's a terrible struggle and you don't come out strong: don't worry, it can happen and it's ok. and it doesn't change your value as a person. :)

    Bettie-Jean Neal
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This was exactly like me and my ex-husband. Growing up as a kid, some times he lives in a motel. I have a charmed lift and when we first got married, he was a full time student and I supported us. We had the GI bill, but it only covers so much. I had never lived paycheck to paycheck before and never had to use a calculator when grocery shopping. We lived on ramen and Mac & cheese for years until he finished school. He was my rock during this time.

    PaintHat
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you are lucky, a hard life can strengthen you, but for many it will break you. Stop romanticizing poverty.

    Arlene
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is awesome but coming up with nothing actually made me horribly anxious - I’m worried all the time even as an adult who makes a good living.

    europaleta
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How does a millionaire boy meet a poor girl in *the same* high school? Asking for a friend.

    D K
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The high school I went to was a hybrid of students. Some lived in mansions in the hills, others in tiny apartments off the freeway. It’s possible.

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    Martha Meyer
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This honestly sounds more like he probably had helicopter parents who never let him have his own little successes and challenges growing up. That's not really about money in that case.

    Rens
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Very humble way to look at your marriage x

    Teresa Taylor
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a beautiful tribute to your wife and an honest assessment of the trouble of giving your children everything they want and/or everything you never had. Adversity builds strength and character. We learn the best lessons through our struggles.

    Lovin' Life
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is a beautiful story and it's great that you are learning from your wife.

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    #3

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life My wife grew up poor in Appalachia in a big extended. What surprised me was how freely they share money with each other. They'll just loan each other a few hundred casually, with no real expectation of repayment. Car repair, water heater fails, need a new roof, boom here's some cash. That's unheard of in my wealthy family.

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    Scagsy
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So far in my experience of life, those who have the least, give the most.

    Jessi Austad
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Working in a tipping business, yes the poorer tend to give alot more. I used to have a regular table of millionaires that would only tip about 5% and that was if there were that many $1 bills. But I at one point in my life had an amazing homeless man give me $380 that I was short for my rent so I would not be homeless. I will never forget that.

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    Helen Haley
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When you're all poor, this is a survival technique.

    Kiran
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Among Southeast Asian countries this is common. We help our extebded family to ease the burden of those who have less. However it is both a bane and a blessing. Some use the money and the opportunity extended to them to good use. Others become dependent and they do never learn how to earn and eek a living.

    Flying Captain
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So true! And those who never learn and become dependent sometimes even get protection in form of "oh don't be so hard on him, it's just the way he is...help him..."

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    Anonymous User
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a very very wealthy extended family that is quite close to me and when I recently went through a challenging time, the wealthier family members chose not to help (their choice, I didn't ask) and the ones who made less helped much more!

    Teresa Taylor
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's the truest assessment of wealth I have ever seen. Those who have little are willing to share what they have because they understand the struggle. Those with much, keep the wealth for themselves because of the "it's mine" mentality. If you put a bowl of candy on a table, those with means will take many, while those without, will usually only take a few. It's been played out in different scenarios over and over. There is a feeling of self entitlement that comes with wealth and privilege that poor and low income people don't have.

    Agnes Jekyll
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    my dad grew up very poor. He gives money away--and never asks for it back. He told me, secretly, that he hangs out in Starbucks (pre covid), and the people he sees filling up on sugar and milk and hot water, he slips them money.

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    GirlFriday
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is how it is in my family. We trade money back and forth whether we have it to give or not. He is my family and yeah, I might be a little short this week, but he needs his car fixed and I can make due. We never care about money with each other.

    Ron Weber
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This quote is the truth. If you're in trouble, or hurt or need - go to the poor people. They're the only ones that'll help - the only ones. John Steinbeck

    Alma Muminovic
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They look after each other. Poverty lessens the distance.

    Lovin' Life
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They understand the struggle and don't wish that on other. Most are definitely not greedy.

    Mari
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband grew up in a village like this. People cared for eachother, everyone was poor but did everything they could to help someout out.

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    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life My wife was born and raised in the Soviet Union. She still goes crazy for fresh fruit like its the most extravagant luxury.

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    May
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I visited Ukraine less than a year after the dissolution of the Soviet Union, and the food shops in the cities had almost bare shelves. There were a few chickens and some bread, and almost nothing else. In the countryside they were still using horse and buggies to transport things (in -92)

    RoksieK
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was born in Ukraine in '91. We didnt have a lot of money, so rarely got any exotic fruits (other than what we could grow ourselves - apples, plums, pears); getting A banana (singular) was a HUGE deal. And i loved them. So when I had a chance to move here 11 years ago I went berserk on bananas, I couldn't believe how affordable they were.

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    Samantha Lomb
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is odd. Most people grew fruit themselves on their dachas and it was these allotments that got many families through the collapse of the 1990s. Now something like bananas may have been a treat but fresh apples, pears or berries are normal.

    Random Panda
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I suspect this is about exitic fruit like bananas, tangerines, oranges, etc. My father says they were a treat because they were available only around the winter season. In my family it was a tradition for kids to get tangerines with their Christmas presents, which was so odd to me until my dad explained it. He also told me how odd it was to see a man buy a single orange in some American movie. In Bulgaria that was pretty much impossible, because they were so cheap. You couldn't buy less than a kilo.

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    Who Panda 420
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even in America fresh fruit can be extremely hard to afford even in food banks don't carry it in my area. Every once in a while an apple orchard will donate some and it's like Christmas

    Candia Lee
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Are you rural north central like Wyoming or the Dakotas, far from where most fruit grows? Down south we get lots of produce from Mexico, Chile, and southern states.

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    Daria B
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's the other way around in my case. In Croatia, fresh fruit isn't too expensive, and I remember it being priced by kg (don't know if that changed recently). As far as I remember, we always had apples, lemons, bananas and tangerines (when in season), grapes, oranges and other fruit was no rare occurence either, and watermelons every summer. Now, I didn't really take these things for granted, since we literally lived minus to minus, and I always loved fruit so, regardless of how usual it might have been, it was always a delight for me, and a must-eat. In other words, I couldn't imagine a life without fresh fruit. Then I moved to Korea, where everything is more expensive, but, oh my, fruit is treasure! Okay, I'm exaggerating now, but, when you compare a 10~15 euro watermelon in Korea, for a much heavier and bigger 0.5 euro one in Croatia..... Also, fruit in Korea is priced by 100 g or by piece. It's not unaffordable if you earn money, or if you do your calculations well, though.

    Lola G
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In neighboring Hungary, I frequently saw food and liquids sold by the "dk" or "dl", even nowadays. But then again, Yugoslavia was more independent than other socialist countries, let alone Soviet Republics, so probably you had a less bridled economy and more international trade? Also, I'm guessing that the post refers to imported, exotic fruit.

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    Nimitz
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Grew up super poor in rural Canada. Fruit was apples, oranges, and sometimes grapes, and only when they were on super sale, otherwise no fruit. As an adult one of my favourite indulgences is to make a big fruit salad. I even go all the way with ripe pineapple and freshly shelled pomegranate

    Jo Choto
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I remember when we were allowed to have one piece of fresh fruit a week, due to budget constraints.

    folga
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Meaning fresh exotic fruit. In Ukraine apples, apricots, pears, cherries, grapes, and some other fruit and berries can be found simply on the trees near residence buildings, on the streets. Private houses also have such trees in the yard. Apricots just end up on the ground, and I used to pick them up near my apartment building in my childhood (90-00s)

    Willowbilly
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I grew up in Alaska in the ‘50’s and produce was air freighted up. Expensive! We used to save our allowance and buy grapes.

    Sunshine Sunshine
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was at the fall of the wall in Berlin in 89. Incredible experience. Lived in Germany at the time so when this went down my dad and i to off to Berlin and stayed a while to soak it all in. One of the things that we saw after a few days was a Trabant filled to the brim with bananas and crossing back to the east. So, yep can confirm i guess. Another story was an older lady arguing with a guard to let her through and that she couldn't be stopped anymore. Everybody cheering her in. She and the guard were so symbolic. She took down the entire system..

    ZAPanda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I met someone last year from the UK who had never had a mango or a guava. I was shocked. Fruit is readily available here. E.g. for the millenials, exciting news, avocados are $1-$1.30 here.

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    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life I'm not rich at all but my husband came from a very poor Mexican village. He told me he used to shower outside (because there was no in-house plumbing) and use leaves as toilet paper. I mean, there's poor, and there's my husband's-previous-life poor. He's been living in the US for 12 years now but when we first met it was so interesting seeing life through his child-like eyes. Going to the cinema was a huge event for him. Heating food up in a microwave was a totally foreign concept. And staying at fancy hotels when we went on vacation was like WOAH. I still see him surprised by things now and then and it just reminds me how much I take my middle status class for granted.

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    Troux
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Food for thought, an annual salary of about $35K will put you in the top 1% of the world earners. *Edit*: This seems to be false, see AbiP's rationale below. Original source: https://www.greenbacksmagnet.com/2018/02/25/top-1-percent-income-worldwide/ ...However, a net worth of just $93K is enough for the top 10%. https://financebuzz.com/us-net-worth-statistics

    ZAPanda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep. Here we have the most unequal country on earth. Nothing to be proud of. Someone I know is a programmer and he gets $100k per year. So he's in the top 0.3%. His cleaner gets $3000. Per year. That is, 3% of what he gets. He earns, to put it another way, 33x what she does.

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    Alex the Country Dog
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Once you've lived where there is ABJECT poverty, you never see poverty the same. It's not a competition, of course, and I think anyone who has grown up poor relative to the rest of their own society tends to bring a different mentality to the table than someone who grew up wealthy. That said, as someone who grew up American "Appalachian poor" I learned a lot about my own privilege, and about the relativity of poverty, when living in other countries. We have no idea how lucky we are, until we live among people who literally are at the extreme of what poverty can be, and for whom there will never be an escape, or change of situation without NGO or government intervention.

    I I
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used the free local news papers as loo roll when i was low on cash , so every day of the month except payday and the few after

    Dodo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Have to admit, I wasn't considered poor growing up but cinema was still a huge event. And we never stayed at hotels either. Even as an adult, I feel awkward staying in a hotel. Maybe that's what kept us at lower-middle class though.

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    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life When the family had people over for dinner, if they ended the prayer before the meal with "F. H. B., Amen." it was a signal to let the children know that they don't have enough food for everyone, so take smaller servings and let the guests get a regular serving. FHB = "Family, hold back." They were always generous to their friends and didn't let their lack of funds embarrass themselves when doing so.

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    Jo Choto
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't think I would ever, ever ask my kids to eat less so that I could entertain guests.

    Mari
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We taught guests first, because hospitality is very important in our culture.

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    Troux
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This sounds similar to the post above about the Appalachian family sharing money freely. A loving community can absolutely shine when all of them have it tough.

    snipergun
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's true that poorer people will be more generously sharing with their guests. I'm not sure if it's to not embarrass themselves or just belive that being generous to your guests should bring you happiness...

    John
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I just can't get my head around giving your children's food to your friends are to save embarrassment. Crazy.

    Carlotta Müller
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I would be the guest and did not know and would anytime get to know I would feel sooooo bad. :-( I would hate them for that. I would never ever want to eat a childs food away.

    Two_rolling_black_eyes
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is quite common in poor rural households. You have no money to hire help or support the church so you do it in food or labor. You pay the neighbor's kids who helped you bale hay or detassle corn with a big lunch. The local pastor makes $3000 a year but they get invited to the house for dinner and sent home with a plate for lunch tomorrow. If you invite guests to your house, you feed them because this is part of the social contract showing you appreciate them and want to support them. Neither of us can afford to take our kids to the movies or buy a good steak but I can give you and your spouse the chicken breasts from the roaster we killed just for this meal and all of the early peas from the garden That's the biggest gift I can afford to celebrate your birthday. That means mom and dad each get a thigh, the guest kids get a drumstick each and you get a wing. Its early peas so there isn't enough for everyone so we all (including the guests) take no thank you portions.

    Amy Stone-Chandler
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Kids and I live under poverty level and food is always in our home. Fresh home made, fruits, fresh veggies. I don't care who came for dinner if I didn't have enough food, then they wouldn't be staying for dinner.

    Summer Mason
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Amen. All I was saying is I always put the kiddos 1st. Of course they have to watch what they take cause their eyes are sometimes bigger than their tummy. But if your at my home your gonna eat no matter what I gotta do. Lol.

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    Dat one frog
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is heart warming. I live in a very well payed area in a huge house but i just wanna be here for people that really need it

    Jorocky
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't want to sound heartless but this is not heart warming at all. It's a terrible indictment about the shitty world we live in where people would rather give what little food they have to other people rather than their own children. I'm sure it really heart warming to hear your kids cry themselves to sleep with hunger. You have obviously never experienced real hunger or need so stop embarrassing yourself by saying poverty is in any way heart warming. You crass idiot.

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    EvilK
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Cultures like this usually go way back and come from times when people traveled long distances. Someone you haven't seen for years comes to visit, so you put on a feast because you are happy to see them, and they were most likely very hungry and tired. And that passes on to generations, even if times change. Just... think for a moment before you go all judgy.

    Jo Davies
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is so sad. What some people do to secure anothers brief joy amazes me.

    Summer Mason
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Like i said.... kids 1st. Then everyone else there. Hell I've mistaken my own amounts but the kids didn't go with out. Me and my husband and our friend ate sandwiches happily because we new the kiddos where fed.

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    #7

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life Making financial decisions based around the three paycheck month. If you're paid every two weeks, most months you get two paychecks, and all of your monthly bills and budgeting is based on those two paychecks. But twice a year there are three paydays in a month, and that's when you can actually solve problems. That's when you can get the car registered, or fix the dryer, or get the cat spayed. The other 10 months you're doing maintenance and trying to scrape by. Three paycheck months you can actually try to fix problems.

    appleciders , Adam Report

    LOttawa
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not necessarily. My mortgage, car loan and personal loan payment come out every 2 weeks (scheduled on pay week), which means, during those months, I get to make those payments 3 times instead of twice.

    Miss Cris
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Whaaaat? I didn't know it existed.

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    Flying Captain
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Today I learned there are places in the world where you get paid (bi-)weekly...look at that Germany! Warum ist am Ende des Geldes soviel Monat übrig? -_-''

    Telmo Belo
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In Portugal we get paid ONCE a month. And way below average. But we do get double pay twice a year (vacation and Christmas bonuses). We feel this...

    Rens
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know this one well.

    Iifa A.
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I get paid weekly. Let me tell you five pay days in a month is the best thing ever. I have once got laid once every 28 days so paid on week five. After all bills and rent I was left with less than 200 until next payday. I prefer weekly payments as this way I can put aside every week and not feel like I work to rent

    Oopsydaisy
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In going to assume you got paid every 28,days. I mean, maybe laid as well, but it seems like tmi. 😀

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    Joan Zatorski
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As I child, we always had "breakfast for dinner" on Fridays. I never wondered why. When I became an adult, I realized my Dad probably was paid on Fridays and the check wouldn't have cleared till Monday. So Friday nights, when the pantry was almost empty and there was no money in the bank, we had pancakes or cereal for dinner. But my mom made it a fun, "crazy" event, so we never felt poor. I look back on that memory tenderly now.

    Terry Tobias
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I loved "breakfast for dinner" night! My dad was a shift worker and at least one week a month worked overnight. Those were the nights when mom made eggs, pancakes or waffles. Those nights were especially cozy and comforting in the winter for some reason. To this day I'll occasionally make breakfast for my dinner and I think fondly of those nights when I was a kid!

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    Amber Hartman
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Gods bless those 3 paycheck months

    Sabrina Fisher
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am very aware of those beautiful 3 check months. I am the only one working as my husband is a full time student. With our 4 pets and monthly bills I always look forward to those 2 months. We wouldn't have been able to afford Christmas dinner without that extra last month

    Aisling O'Grady Hills
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do this. In fact...I know that every November or December there will be an extra paycheck and that one is for Christmas.

    J. Normal
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Those were always present money, and save for disaster

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    #8

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life This is super embarrassing and will probably make you all hate me if it even gets any attention but: I come from a family just a bit higher than the top 1%. I was walking out of my ex's garage and I saw a lawn mower. I asked her why they owned their own lawn mower if they weren't in the landscaping business. That was the day I learned most people don't hire other people to mow their lawn. I was 20

    IGotYouThisBox , Daniel Farrell Report

    Aubry
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a kid we used to have a teenage neighbor who offered to mow our lawn for us, our rental house would have provided landscaping but we said yes because they wanted to use the funds to buy a good outfit and rent a nice car for their prom

    J. Normal
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Again the poor putting the needs of other first

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    Polly Pockets
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No reason to hate you for that. I just wish more rich people had experiences like that so maybe they could empathize better.

    RaroaRaroa
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can only assume they never owned a television or had a single neighbour who mowed their own lawn. Seems very odd not to know people mow their own lawns.

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    Jo Choto
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think it's great that you have become aware that your life is different from other people's and that there is a lot you probably have to learn about the average standard of living.

    Black Karen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ummm... OP never saw a Hollywood movie with a middle class man mowing his lawn???

    Alex the Country Dog
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I worked for a number of years in a non-profit, and had a lot of interaction with 1%'ers. The number who watch movies and television on a regular basis is really low. I mean like really, REALLY low. It is fascinating, and explains a lot of how little they seem to understand or recognize about the "average" people moving about the world around them.

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    Naesil
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What would world be if everyone had to live period in other peoples shoes. For example rich folk would need to live 2 weeks how poor people live and vice versa, people who have only lived in city would need to live 2 weeks on farm and vice versa etc. would probably be eye opening thing for lots of people.

    Alex the Country Dog
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would LOVE if most middle-class people who *think* they're poor could live those 2 weeks as an actual poor person. I think it would go far toward the way many think toward the social programs we need in the United States.

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    Ro Bird
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I remember when I was a teenager, my wealthy friend visited my house and just couldn't understand why there were suds and water on the driveway. That's the day she discovered that most of us have to clean our own cars.

    Fat Harry
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why would we hate you for that?

    Troux
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Because there is nothing higher than the top 1% and we are all sticklers for statistics.

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    Nazz HW
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It depends on which part of the world you are from as well. We have gardeners too, and so do our neighbours but it is the norm where we live. We are not in the top 1% of the world or the country but this (having an army of help) wouldn't surprise anyone. I think.

    IlovemydogShilo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You just didn’t know. If you’re brought up in any kind of bubble rich or poor it’s highly unlikely that it won’t be until you’re older that you realise how other people live.

    Judy Macauley
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My sister has lived in Malibu too long. She told me, quite seriously, that every working mother has a housecleaner ("All my friends who work do") and a gardener ("Who else does the yard?"). She and I did not grow up that way!

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    #9

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life I am not rich by any measure. Ex was not really that poor. After we married I found out until she was 23 and married to me she had never bathed in more than 2 inches of water. I filled the tub and bathed her myself. She cried.

    noeljb , Daniel Spils Report

    Jo Choto
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I remember when all of us small cousins had to take a bath in an aluminium tub in front of the fire, because my grandmother's house had no indoor plumbing. It was really horrible if you went last!

    Ron Weber
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I was very young we had a washtub. We had indoor plumbing installed in about '66-'67.

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    Pinkie is
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's so sweet to have bathed her.

    Ace Girl
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What a precious loving act.

    ZAPanda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is heartbreaking to read. Even here we have social support that gives you 50kL of water free each month. You can definitely bath here in africa.

    I I
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    showers only for us , no baths to expensive

    Monica Sargent
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I grew up poor. My Christmas presenyMy son's friend, "Fred' spent the night a lot. Once he spent 3 nights and I told him he was going to need to take a bath. He responded by letting me know that we could save the bathwater and after EVERYONE ELSE had bathed, he would gladly be the last to use the bathwater because that's what he does at home. It took me a few seconds....I nearly threw up in my mouth.

    Sarah Richardson
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I grew up the same, shallow bath shared by three siblings. Even now I can’t bring myself to ‘waste’ water and fill the bathtub right up.

    Joan Zatorski
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think this man must be an incredible husband!!

    Glirpy
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why is there a skunk in the tub?

    Vortex Lazer
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My public housing in Singapore is slightly too small for a bathtub, larger ones could probably install one, so I could only shower using a showerhead. Having to bath in a bathtub is something for a luxury for me unless I stayed in a hotel, in all seriousness, this is extremely sweet!

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    #10

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life Honestly, food insecurity. When we were first married she would get visibly uneasy if the food in the house was running low. She never overate or anything, she was just always concerned about it. A lot of times when she was younger, she went hungry. On the humorous side though, she hates camping. Her answer is always the same: I camped because it was fun, she camped because they couldn't afford hotels.

    r-cubed , Coffee Danube Still Life Photography Report

    Steffen Rehm
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Uh, i get really uneasy when the fridge reaches a specific point. Yes i grow up poor, but never realized the impact to this day. My wife on the other hand could easy life with a empty fridge i guess. Would drive me insane, so i do the most of shopping to prevent that. :D

    Helen Haley
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have like 3 shelves of backup pantry food. You never know when you'll lose a job, or disaster will strike, and you need shelf-stable food.

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    Magoomba
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’ll never forget watching an interview with three students from Morehouse College, a prestigious historically black college. The interviewer, a white woman, asked them what the biggest difference in their lives had been since attending Morehouse. All three replied “getting full every night”. The interviewer looked at them strangely as if she was misunderstanding a new slang term. Seeing her confusion one of the students said “you know. Not going to bed hungry”.

    Caro Caro
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    After WWII my grandmother refused to camp. She said she had camped enough for a lifetime in the concentration camps!

    Sue Bradley
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    From when I earnt my own living, each payday I would buy enough basics to last the month, and always have an emergency supply too. Came in handy during lockdown!!!,

    Amy S
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ah this is why I am a food/supplies horder. If I get down to less than one weeks worth of emergency food (e.g. canned goods) I need to stock up.

    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mum needs a good stock bc she went hungry in the WWII.

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    Jessica Cifelli
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I never understood camping. Why would I want to pretend to be homeless? To me, that is what camping feels like and I definitely did not grow up rich. I grew up going hungry at times and always trying to make ends meet and never quite making them meet.

    Dodo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, even in caravans I don't understand camping. Why would it be fun to live in less luxury than you have at home?

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    Amy Stone-Chandler
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A family member of mine refuses to run out of eggs. If he has 1 or 2 left, he must get more. He had to leave England during the war and he said between poverty and war there were never eggs in the city.

    Larry Knapp
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My wife and her family love to camp. Me have having been homeless for about three years I can't stand camping, but I still do it for her. She also never understands why I always freak out over making sure rent is always the most important thing that gets paid. I also still have certain items of clothing I like the best that ill "save" to wear so not to get it dirty coming from when I didn't have access to washing machines, then I remember I can wash when I want. My wife didn't grow up rich either, but she was never homeless either.

    Janet Sturgess
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was the same way. Going grocery shopping and restocking my shelves was such a high for me.

    Ornamental Lotus
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    With you on this, grocery shopping is still a high for me, had very little food as a kid

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    jon pearson
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We grew up "shopping" at the food bank. it drives my wife nuts now when I always fill the fridge, even if things will go bad, although her definition of "go bad" and mine are vastly different. Expiry date are vague suggestions.

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    #11

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life My SO said "Today I made rent" meaning "today I've earned enough/accumulated enough to pay the rent" and I realized that this is a monthly accomplishment to someone with no fixed income/salary.

    colombodk , Eliazar Parra Cardenas Report

    TKA
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hopefully this account is closed now?

    Amy Stone-Chandler
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People can't take money out. They can put money in with account # though. Maybe good will come of it. Also is was from 2008...although I've held the same account for almost 30 years

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    Zoe's Mom
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I live about 15 minutes from Berkeley, California so I Googled the name; no luck but when I googled the address it comes up as a 2 bedroom, 2 bath home that sold in 1993 so maybe it was a small whistle company that ran from someone's home but not anymore.

    Bob Belcher
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Account could still be active, just renamed. You can have sub accounts under a primary account

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    Robert Jjuuko
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    On your accomplishment yeah that is not good you made rent and you have no had to go and accomplished it God bless you shalom congratulations congratulations I'm just need you motivated momentum have a great day take care

    J Moore
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not to be mean...but you didn't really have to explain what "made rent" means

    Jay Cee
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    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You do to somebody not raised in the US.

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    Candia Lee
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My last (selling handcrafts) it was "I made gas money" enuf to come back tomorrow and try again.

    Bob Belcher
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Take this down!!!!!!! This is a violation of Privacy Act!!!

    CR Harvey
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is so familiar. Buy the cheapest bread, the few cents difference could make the rent.

    MizAdeleM
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not smart showing this check with account numbers, BP!!!!

    Who Panda 420
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Who's rent is $80? Any vacancy?

    Tina B
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's a stock photo. It's not really representing rent.

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    #12

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life My wife genuinely thought, and her family still does, that there is a direct relationship between someone's net worth and the labels they purchase. If someone doesn't have a Gucci bag or a Rolex watch, why, it's because they can't afford it! My wife was astonished when I first told her that people exist that are ultra wealthy and yet drive old cars and wear clothes without labels.

    markjohnjacobsjingle , Peter Petrus Report

    Jo Choto
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's two kinds of rich. The ones that do everything to make sure you know it, and the ones you wouldn't know for a while.

    Kathryn Baylis
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    New money vs old money. Trash vs class. Gaudy vs elegant. Tasteless vs tasteful. Overstated vs understated. Quantity vs quality. Believe me, more isn’t better; simple, genuine, and elegant is much classier than OTT, fake, and flashy.

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    Otter
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I thought most of the ostentations "luxury brand" crap was bought by people who are trying to look rich, not actual rich people.

    Marcellus II
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Obviously. You get a Savile Row tailor to make you a bespoke suit, there's no visible label outside.

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    Monica Rogers
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My dad always said "Say less than you know, have more than you show." I think from Shakespeare. Very good advice.

    DogMom
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And on the flip side there are plenty of people with not a lot of net worth buying luxury items on credit.

    September
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I ever came into an obscene amount of money, none would know it.

    Kiran
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pretending to be rich, Nouveaux rich and Old Money.

    Mewton’s Third Paw
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    3 years ago

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    New rich people aren’t pretending. Poor people can pretend to be rich. They can also do what you’re doing and romanticize old money

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    Dave P
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I knew someone growing up, person was a mult-millionaire (earned about 15 mil a year, owned his own company) lived in a 3 bedroom ranch in a middle class area, dressed pretty plain, etc. Couldnt tell this man was rich.

    Chich
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Was killing time at a resort town and wandered into a a jewlers. Asked a question about an emerald (not that I could afford it). The staff became quite attentive. We got to chatting and I asked them why the attention as I was dressed in jeans and an old plaid shirt. They said it was often people dressed like me that actually had money and many of the flashy types were nothing but show.

    Lilith the Demon Panda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hate brands that put their name or logo on s**t, when I buy shirt or bag I don't want the design to be ruined by some crappy writing on it

    Memere
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm with you, plus I don't want to be a free walking advertisement for those brands!

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    I I
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    comfort over labels every time

    Mary Rose Kent
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For me, it’s always second-hand unless it’s absolutely date-specific and the feeble second-hand store in my small town on the Northern California coast doesn’t have anything I can wear.

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    #13

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life Answering as a poor person whose partner’s family is rich. I about fell outta my chair the first time we went out to eat, and he ordered an appetizer in addition to his entree. That’s when I knew.

    missyelliottontap , Quinn Dombrowski Report

    Katherine Boag
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Still cant believe americans call their main their entree

    RaroaRaroa
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What? They do? That's weird. I was sitting here confused, thinking an apertiser and an entree are the same thing. Something small before the main, which is followed by dessert (if you're having it). How can they use a word that means "Entrance" to be anything other than the first part of the meal?

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    I I
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    or desert , you rich af if you get desert ,. even if its McDs

    J. Normal
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    1st meal appetizer and salad take home main meal for at least 2 other days

    Andrea Josipović
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am still uncomfortable when my bf takes me out for lunch. I always go fot the cheapest meal even though he tells me to get whatever i want.

    Magoomba
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I worked for a small company founded by a guy who was as poor as anyone I have ever known. Through grit and hard work he became a self-made multi millionaire. Whenever we had to make a business trip it was strictly first class-air fare, hotels, restaurants, entertainment, etc. I worked for him for 20 years and as a result I’ve stayed at some of the best hotels & eaten at some of the best restaurants in the US. I’m originally from Chicago & have been to Wrigley Field dozens of times but never sat next to the Cubs dugout until I went to a game with him.

    linlintong
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Eight years in and I’m still shocked at the prices of the restaurants my partner and his family have taken me to. Three hundred dollars for a meal!? A twelve dollar meal is a huge deal to me so I can’t even imagine just dropping cash like that. I’m very blessed and honoured that they invite me knowing I can’t pay my own way to dine with them. (My partner pays my portion, not that I ever ask, and gladly invites me along!)

    ZAPanda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's insane. A decent meal here is ZAR 150 including sides etc. TEN DOLLARS. If you want fillet steak with chips you're looking at $13 all-in.

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    sasha sanders
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Apps, dinner, desert and drinks? You balling 😍😍

    Jace
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    3 years ago

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    Never drink coffee in a pub or on a terrace/tea garden. Because it’s way too expensive, at home there’s coffee too and it’s cheaper.

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    #14

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life I grew up in a rich family and married someone who grew up dirt poor. I guess what really took me a long time to get used to was genuine empathy. Actually empathizing with emotion instead of etiquette, making moral decisions in the moment based on how it might actually make the other person feel. My family is a bunch of stoics. They act based on set rules and think that emotion is stupid and should be ignored entirely.

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    Lady of the Mountains
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i dont think this is based on class difference

    Terese
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It can be based on class differences in one important sense: Being rich allows you to *pretend* that there are set rules and etiquette to be followed instead of considering how your actions might impact others. It is the ability to believe everyone could be rich like you if they just worked hard enough. Therefore, you can ignore their pain and others’ emotions because they deserve whatever they get.

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    Guy MacGregor
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Strange. I grew up pretty poor and we had to take pragmatic decisions and having rules to survive.

    Two_rolling_black_eyes
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Empathy means that you feel what a person is feeling. Sympathy means you can understand what the person is feeling. Compassion is the willingness to relieve the suffering of another.Many people show compassion for others because its required by society but its easier when the reason for compassion has happened to you. When you're poor, a lot more disasters result in empathy. You've felt what its like to lose your job because your car broke down for the third time this month so its an automatic termination for 3 tardies. You know what its like to not eat for 3 days because your paycheck didn't hit on Friday. You volunteer to drive someone to the unemployment office every morning and pick them up after you get off work.

    Janice Parks
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We grew up poor and stoic cool but politeness was cheaper. If you care very much it’s easier for someone to fool you. Being foolish can be expensive.

    Claire Stanfield
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, no. Vulcans don't think emotions are stupid, they think emotions are dangerous if left unchecked. And for the most part, they're right.

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    Persephone
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lack of empathy is a huge cultural issue here (U.S)... it is something that is learned from parents; I've known plenty of "dirt poor", who raised their children to be narcissists as well. It's not completely exclusive to demographic.

    Tina B
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Which is how they ended up rich. Empathy does not create wealth. There's a reason the phrase "robber barron" exists.

    Magoomba
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your family must be Norwegian, like mine.

    Fidgets McGee
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is my situation as a working class Canadian girl whose spouse's parents are upper-middle class German. He thinks showing sympathy is a sign of weakness. His family NEVER talks about feelings and only apologizes in the most serious of situations.

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    Terry Tobias
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I grew up as a middle class American and I always felt our family tended to be kind of "stoic". My parents weren't overly demonstrative and it always bothered me. I knew that they loved me but sometimes I felt like I wasn't part of the family. I was (and still am) highly sensitive and emotional and it was difficult for me to keep those feelings inside. I think my family stoicism is a cultural, Anglo Saxon thing. The town that I grew up in had a population that had a higher percentage of Italian families than any others. They seemed to be louder, more demonstrative and emotional and I envied them sometimes. I'm not saying my parents didn't care for me because I know they did, but I used to wish they could show it more.

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    #15

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life It's a celebration when a hot dog bun is used for your hot dog instead of a slice of bread.

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    Sharon Ingram
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do too. All that extra bread because the roll is so big.

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    Sasy
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In Australia sausage on a slice of fresh bread is a National Treasure. Hot Dog Buns are not fun.

    Laura Jackson
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's a REAL celebration when you have a hot dog on a bun instead of a cold ass weiner only on a slice of bread.

    Speedgoat
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep. They were called tube steak or budget mignon in our house.

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    Glirpy
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hot dog buns typically have too much bread for the amount of hot dog. A slice of bread works better.

    Kona Pake
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What’s wrong with a slice of bread?

    Mark Kelly
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Cute Canada at the dollar shop you can get a pack of hot dog buns and bread for the same price

    mom24boys
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But a loaf of bread has 16-20 slices and a pack of hot dog buns only has 8 (some only 6).

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    Anonymous User
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The guilt I have over throwing away the "extra" buns that sat around and got stale (there's always more buns than you need).

    Fidgets McGee
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Loved toasting them with cheese like a mini sub sandwich after the wieners were done

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    Jim Wamsley
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also, one slice of bread and one slice of bologna for a sandwich. No chees, maybe mayo, ketchup or mustard.

    mom24boys
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mom would get our buns from the bakery thrift when they were having a big sale. Back then, the "past date" bread was 25¢ a loaf but the buns would go on sale for 10¢ a pack. She would stuff our freezer. Those hot dog buns would be French toast, sandwiches, garlic bread, bread pudding (along with all the saved loaf ends), cinnamon toast-- any number of tasty things.

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    #16

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life We live in the southeast, my husband grew up wealthy. He grew up skiing and they always went to Colorado to ski. We go on a big family ski trip with his parents about every other year. He didn’t realize for a while why people thought he grew up rich, one day I asked him “Do you tell them you go skiing?” He knew skiing is expensive, but it never clicked for him that going skiing on a regular basis from a region where you have to fly out is a huge wealth marker.

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    Nikki Sevven
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Up until her mom passed away, my SIL's entire family went to Disney World every single year. Her parents, my SIL and her two siblings, all their spouses and kids. Dad paid for everything. Having this kind of disposable income is totally alien to me (and if I had it, I certainly wouldn't bother with Disney when there are so many other amazing places to go).

    Who Panda 420
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    True. I lived in Florida and it is a ridiculous waste of money. Plus they just suck the money out of you at every opportunity. Be prepared to pay $12 at least for a bottle of water.

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    Lynda Vel
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had a friend group invite to go skiing. I said "no." I feel that they think I am boring. But reality is the cost. I have to buy the clothing. Granted I can find it a thrift store. But then I have to pay for rental, food, gas money, and for the hotel/cabin. I am not boring. I just can't afford to do this...

    John Clark1842
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I went skiing twice. I was able to rent outerwear for very little money.

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    Sarah Schumm
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People at my college on the East Coast thought I grew up rich because I would occasionally mention my cousin’s horse or my friend’s boat. Having a pontoon boat in Michigan where everyone lives on a lake or having a horse and being in 4H when you grew up on a farm is very different from having a horse or a boat because you’re East Coast wealthy.

    ZAPanda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know someone who had horses (plural) on their property (it was big enough). I was like, you're rich, they were like, "nah, lots of people have horses?"

    Leah Dickerson
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've lived in Colorado my entire life and I've never been able to go skiing, I watch thousands of people come up to our county every weekend to do it though.

    oof
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Colorado is the cheapest place in America to ski with actual ski runs

    Seabeast
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even when you live within driving distance of ski hills it's expensive. I never went skiing until I was an adult earning pretty good money.

    Yvette Desmarais
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I still remember how I felt seeing those kids with their tans the next week.

    Virginia Green (she/her)
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    two of my closest friends go to florida and utah and colorado for these fancy winter break trips, one is in colorado right now, whereas I've never been out of the country or been on a plane. This surprised the heck out of them as they've been doing these things since they were little. Theyve been all over and I rarely go on vacation

    RaroaRaroa
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How can someone grow up not knowing they're wealthy? I make sure my kid is well aware that they're growing up with more financial freedom than most. At 14 my kid is aware of things like student loans, people who need foodbanks through no fault of their own, kids who can't afford school uniforms, etc.

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    #17

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life Both came from poor backgrounds. Hubby now earns 6 figures. I still buy my clothes from a charity shop because I cannot ever fathom why you’d spend £400 on shoes and bags “for a season”. You can buy designer clothes in a charity shop if you know what you’re looking for. I think M&S and Waitrose are just overpriced when you can get a trolley FULL of fresh food and eat like kings at Aldi for £100. I don’t do takeaway food. Funny story though, when we first got together I was making a spaghetti dinner and grabbed a bottle of red wine off his shelf to add to the sauce. I didn’t know what £45 bottle of wine was, and still think it tasted pretty ordinary. And I drink a LOT of wine.

    Naughtyspider , allispossible.org.uk Report

    Otter
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used to be poor, now I earn six figures. You bet your ass I shop at thrift stores, and go to the dollar store before I go to Target, just in case I can get something I need for a pittance! The thing about going from poor to prosperous, is that you can never forget how easy it is to become poor again.

    PitbullmomAF
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This. I am always grateful to have a home and food on the table. I know that one mishap in life can change it.

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    Jo Choto
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think people who start rich and people who become rich have very different attitudes about what they do with the money.

    Mewton’s Third Paw
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Many people who were poor have PTSD from the poverty. It sticks with you.

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    Nikki Sevven
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thrift shops are the best! I'd rather save up extra income for something I really need than spend it on cheap clothes produced through child labor. At least if I thrift, I'm reusing something that would otherwise be thrown away.

    Pat Bond
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Aldi is great value indeed, shop there regularly. All the major supermarkets now announce they have Aldi price match in the store. My only observation is not to over buy on fruit & veg as I've seen it turn for the worse in a period of time you would still expect it to be ok. Waitrose essentials are better than some of the other supermarkets finest range and still good value.

    Huddo's sister
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mum checked an ethical shop guide and in Australia Alidi got an A rating and the other main supermarkets got a C-. I have never shopped there, as I don't agree with buying imported foods if there are local ones due to food miles and supporting locals. I might have to change my mind given this rating. I do know they sell exclusively local fruit and veg which is good.

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    Jo Davies
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Where I live we have people who go around on the one day a week garbage is collected, and go through the bags for anything of value or can be recycled for money. I have a special bag where I put clothes, recyclables and anything which they can use or eat so they don't have to do that here. It is in a blue bag, as opposed to the black for the stuff which is rubbish. I went through a period as a child where I went through rubbish and I will not let anyone go through mine.

    John Topper
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have about 200 bottles of wine in my basement and not a single one of them cost more than $20. You can get great wine for 10-12 dollars and the hundred+ bottles don't taste any better. Even wine experts agree on this.

    Earl Grey
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    About 15 years ago I decided to educate myself about fine wines, so I spent several thousand dollars over the course of 2-3 years on many different wines, from around the world, as well as on wine ratings subscriptions and books. What I got for it was 3 or 4 very memorable out-of-this-world tasting experiences and a lot of very expensive disappointments. Wine flavor profiles and descriptions are poetic quackery. I know a few good wineries and buy from those occasionally, but for everyday pop-n-pour the local supermarket provides very decent stuff in that $15-19 price range.

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    Eiram
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dont worry about the wine. It has been practically proven scientifically that the price does NOT indicate improved taste or quality of wine. Aeration does affect flavor, because when wine has a chance to breathe (or put in a blender for a quick minute) it releases fumes that were created as if it was vinegar.

    Earl Grey
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I intend to try Nathan Myhrvold‘s hyperdecanting technique one of these days (when my wife isn’t around).

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    Smilejustbecause
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am a nurse and make decent money and I love thrift stores :) best outfits ever ;)

    Roman Hans
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know exactly what this poster is talking about. My husband was high up in business and got dozens of bottles of wine every year as Christmas or birthday gifts. Needless to say, our kitchen is full of them. And the first time I opened one, hubby said "That one's about fifty euros, I think." I thought, "Can I put the cork back in and get the cash instead?" ;)

    Mark Kelly
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not poor and actually have good investments I still shop at charity shops but I almost feel guilty that I'm buying cheap stuff that a poor person could have needed for cheap.

    Huddo's sister
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There will always be plenty of new stock available for people who need it

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    #18

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life She and her mother lived with her grandfather to not be homeless because her grandfather owned a house. She was putting community college payments on her credit card and building debt with it. I paid off her credit cards when we were dating and she cried from me being so nice (it was only like 1,300 bucks). I bought a condo, then we got married, then we bought a house. I never really considered myself rich until i started dating her and learned that a trip to Wendy's was a treat. I grew up middle class, and we are currently middle class, heh.

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    Ozacoter
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He bought a condo and then a house? Definitely not middle class by any means.

    Pamda Panda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If this is in the US, it depends on when and where. It's only in the last few years that housing prices have become insane. If they purchased the condo a decade ago, it probably doubled in value and they could take that cash equity and put it directly into the house, which would keep the mortgage low.

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    Jessica Cifelli
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    $1300 bucks is like more than a whole months rent for me. That would be rent and utilities

    Courtney Lunsford
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm glad that despite growing up in a Middle class family that I had my years of financial struggle to understand how this feels. The first time I went to the dollar store with my husband back when we were dating I was agonizing over every little thing. "Do I actually need this? How bad do I really want this?" Because for me at the time. I could either by the candy bar or put that extra dollar towards paying my credit card.

    Natalia Allen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I still try to do that - do I really need this etc? Not because I need to anymore but because consumerism has replaced so much of things of real value in the world.

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    Glirpy
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope someone explained student loans to her instead of using her credit card after that? Student loans still suck, but they are lower rates than a cc.

    I I
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Any prepared food was a treat

    Who Panda 420
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wendy's is definitely a treat! Those golden fries..

    jon pearson
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A family trip out to dinner meant McDonalds, and we loved it.

    Evangeline Valhalla
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We went to McDonalds once a year. Not kidding. And no other fast food either.

    DigDinos
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The thing about the US is we don't get told that middle class is above working class, and everyone between the poverty line and a seven figure salary thinks they're middle class.

    AzKhaleesi
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Only 1300 bucks" must be nice.

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    #19

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life Sandwiches. When I made him a sandwich I only put one thin slice of meat in it. He couldn't believe that was how I had sandwiches growing up.

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    May
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I didn't grow up poor, and am not poor now, but that's still how I would make a sandwich. Only in America have I've seen sandwiches where the meat was thicker than the bread. It was a culture shock.

    Robert T
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Likewise. Though if the meat is particularly thin or in a long slice, it might get folded in half to fit in the bread. It's lunch, not a banquette!

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    Nikki Sevven
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My first boyfriend was from a working class family who rented their house, while I grew up in an academic family in a house we owned. Not wealthy by any stretch of the imagination, but solid middle class. I remember being shocked that he was able to make 6 sandwiches from a single 6oz (170g) can of tuna. In our family, one can made 2 sandwiches. It was the first time I realized that not everyone was as privileged as I was, and it's a lesson that stuck with me, especially during the times I was poor. People are struggling; be kind.

    Auntriarch
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would stretch it to 3 sandwiches with one guest, but 4 would need two tins

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    Jo Choto
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I never realized this was a thing until I made a sandwiches for a picnic and my date was horrified by the one slice thing.

    Roman Hans
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I remember unpacking a cooler my (European) husband made for a trip. A dozen sandwiches, each with just one slice of meat. I thought, "Were we out of lettuce, cheese, tomato, pickles and mayo?" I mean, aren't sandwiches actually supposed to be tasty?

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    PandaGoPanda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One thin slice of meat as opposed to what? One thin slice of cheese? It's a sandwich not a food mountain

    Littlebunnyfufu
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And, I will forever call this pre-packaged sandwiches from the deli with gobs of meat, more than half of which I pull off, "food mountains".

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    Carlotta Müller
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is normal. One slice of thin meat or cheese. What the heck would he put on his sandwich? I shortly learned to put on some vegetables too, which I like very much, that is the luxury variant of a sandwich.

    Alex the Country Dog
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bread and mayo sandwiches to take to school growing up. Sometimes if we had eggs it would be a cold fried egg on bread (with mayo.)

    Sasy
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As an Aussie everytime I see those NY sandwiches with a kilo of pastrami etc on them I laugh, because that would be a week of sandwiches and nothing to do with skimping, it would be half a dozen sandwiches in any cafe/take out down here also, no idea how anyone can eat those, they look divine but still so much meat.

    Polly Pockets
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a kid, I was like middle class but there were 5 kids. So when we went on vacation, we rarely stopped at restaurants. My parents would load up on sandwich stuff and chips and we would find a picnic spot along the way. If we did go to a restaurant, we would be required to get the kids meals and water. Fun times.

    Thomas Ewing
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Make a sandwich to satisfy appetite without over or under-doing it.

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    #20

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life She wouldn't waste any food, ever. We went through a few rounds of her getting sick from eating month-old muffins and similar before I convinced her it was OK to toss old food and go shopping.

    scratchnsniffy , U.S. Department of Agriculture Report

    Nikki Sevven
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    While you certainly shouldn't eat food that has gone bad, you should also keep food waste to a minimum. Also, compost if you have the room.

    rumade
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Composting is the way. I hate it when I'm outside of home and have to put food in the regular bin. At home we have chickens too, and they're more than happy to eat leftovers!

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    Jo Choto
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have worked very, very hard to accept that sometimes there is food waste, and it's okay to throw it away.

    KatHat
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Composting or worm farming is very doable in many environments (I know not all) and a great alternative to throwing things actually AWAY (because of course, there is no "away" and those things go to landfill where they are a source of emissions).

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    CatGirl
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Food waste drives me insane. I'm not wealthy - I'm borderline poverty here in Australia - but I don't waste ANYTHING because it's just frickin immoral

    Earl Grey
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly. Eat before you go shopping, then buy just what you *need* for the next 2-3 days. Make frequent small, focused trips, not one weekly shopping cart piled high with impulse buys just because something is on sale.

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    Amy Stone-Chandler
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I freeze or can stuff before it goes bad if not eaten

    Seedy Vine
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Eating spoiled food actually creates more waste when it comes shooting out of both ends! I always put date labels on all my fridge foods so as not to poison myself.

    D K
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I grew up very poor but living comfortably now on my wage as a single mom. To this day I still find ways to use leftovers and 20+ years “learning-as-I-go” culinary skills to make something different yet tasty. I don’t like wasting food.

    Alex the Country Dog
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." This was told to us by a man who refused to let us throw away meat that had gone completely off when our fridge broke while camping in Botswana. He proceeded to soak that RANCID (seriously. not exaggerating. it was rancid.) meat in straight vinegar for 3 days, then cooked and ate it in front of us. He also joked maybe we need diapers since we were such "babies" about eating rotten meat. It definitely changed the way I view how far "off" my food is before I consider throwing it out. (That said I will still not eat rancid meat even if I soak it in vinegar and throw it into a 1000 degree incinerator first.)

    Natalia Allen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There are people that do this deliberately claiming it is good for you. It's called high meat. That's a hard no from me.

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    Mistralok
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My Grandmother lived through the depression and she would never waste food. Even a quarter cup of left over green beans went into the fridge.

    Dodo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes it isn't that easy, especially if you live alone and on a budget.

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    #21

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life The prevailing mindset in his community growing up that insurance was something only rich people had. Not health insurance, mind you (well, not just health insurance). Auto insurance. Going without it was a way of life for most everyone he knew.

    captainslowww , Presidencia de la República Mexicana Report

    Guy MacGregor
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's... illegal not to have insurance. Maybe depend on your country though, but it's a global thing

    Kristin Ingersoll
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes. There are a lot of laws meant to punish the poor and keep them poor. Most repercussions are financial in nature. Can't pay in time? Here's an additional fee. No insurance? Massive penalties if you're the innocent victim in a car wreck. You take the chance because you can't make money just appear. It's apitalism folks. The rich get richer and hope the poor just silently do the work and stay poor.

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    Lauren
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In Georgia (US), liability is the minimum and if your car is financed, you have to have the whole she-bang. I believe rates in Florida are the highest in the US because... it's Florida.

    Earl Grey
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In Florida it is because of extensive fraud mostly. When some people can no longer make payments, they let their car get accidentally stolen. Or if they are short of cash, they will bang a fender, get a settlement for repair and then pocket the cash.

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    jade s
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Insurance became legal because if your injured or your car is destroyed its paid for by the car at fault. People were being injured in car accidents and the other car wasn't insured so they were left suffering and in massive debt over someone else's mistake.

    Shelley DuVal
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In Australia it isn't illegal to not have car insurance, if you hit some ones car and its your fault you pay the costs for repair, same if they are at fault they pay you. However, we have liability insurance we pay with our car registration, you can't have your car on the road without that.

    Abby Harrison
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I just ealk. cant drive anyway. so no need to get insurance

    Memere
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've known people who buy auto liability insurance so they can get their registration renewed, then they cancel it until the next renewal. And there are small insurance companies who sell it to them knowing it will be cancelled in 30 days. But the car has to be paid off - most auto loan places require full coverage if you still owe on the car & if you don't have your own insurance, the loan company will put insurance on the car & add it onto your loan payment.

    Lesley Shore
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Credit union lending background/collection Mgr. 1/3 of autos on the road do not have insurance, not even liability. That was 10 years ago. I'm sure it's much worse now

    H Moore
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't have to in NZ. Why compulsory? If you have it you're covered, if they don't, well they're stuck with the bill.

    Mark Kelly
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Here in Canada rich and poor get can access to the same Healthcare at no direct cost.

    Anonymous User
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have had car insurance regularly with no lapses on payments for 2 years and the assurance I have while driving in bad weather is worth every penny!

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    #22

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life Eating leftovers. Not using A/C. Shopping around an abnormal amount to save a marginal amount of money on something. Coupons. Looking at gas prices. Driving across town to save a buck. Not knowing the value of Time over Money

    appolo11 , Matt McGee Report

    Jane Jane
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Knowing the value of Time over Money is something that only someone who HAS money knows.

    Otter
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Distance is money, too, gas or public transport money. Which it's a bad idea to haul all over town looking to save a few bucks, you'll spend more on gas than you'll save. But that's also one of the reasons it's so insanely expensive to be poor, if you can't afford to get to the big discount stores than you have to buy everything from the local marts with poor selection and jacked-up prices, and you pay more for groceries than someone who can drive to the Costco.

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    T. D. Bostick
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Eating leftovers is just an efficient use of time. My wife cooks once and feeds us twice to reduce her time in the kitchen.

    Seanette Blaylock
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Aside from efficient use of time in cooking and cleanup, not a lot of recipes are really geared to two people. Some things are even better as leftovers, IMO.

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    GirlFriday
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am the youngest of 13 children and every Sunday we got the newspaper out and went through the ads and planned our meals and grocery shopping according to what was on sale and where. We shopped at three or four different stores to get the best prices, we bought in bulk when we could, we purchased a cow and a pig to be butchered and that was our meat for the year (we also bought chickens from the neighbor, but we had to kill those ourselves). We supplemented with a garden and traded vegetables with the neighbors. We canned and we froze meals. Time over Money is only something people with money say.

    Emma Starr
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I will never take AC for granted. Growing up poor in Oklahoma meant a lot of miserably hot days and nights. Sometimes we would take our one fan and set it to blow down the hallway while the kids all slept in a line on the floor, just to get some air movement!

    Dodo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Might be that they eat more than they could, meaning there aren't enough leftovers for a meal.

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    I I
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    my gas/lec went from £93 a month to £206 a month so i wont be using my heating at all this year , blankets and extra clothing it is , not so bad until you leave the house and as you're all ready wrapped up wearing a coat does nothing to stop the cold

    Linda Ellis
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was a divorced mom of six kids and 2 rotten husbands and I know how to squeeze every cent and all the angles to do everything the cheapest way possible.

    Thomas Ewing
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The downtown mini-mart had a limited selection of average goods at high prices, but it was actually saving in time and bus fare compared to riding to the bargain grocery 2 miles away.

    Seedy Vine
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Most people who are not rich can have either time or money, not both. I'm between jobs. I have time, not money!

    Anonymous User
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had a friend who went to all three grocery chains every week to buy the specific items they had on sale

    Huddo's sister
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My parents did that, but I didn't get it as that meant they bought things they may otherwise not have just because they were on special. I on the other hand plan my meals for the week and only buy what is needed. I'm sure it works out cheaper in the end.

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    #23

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life Hamburger Helper. She hates it because it would be her meal 5x a week growing up. I had never even seen HH before I went to college and love that stuff. 10 for $10 deals are awesome.

    throwaway_dkhlgmo , david__jones Report

    Jo Choto
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's two kinds of Hamburger Helper poor. There's when you cook it with the meat, and then when you just cook the box with no meaT!

    Jessica Gunn
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Then you get the Tuna Helper, cuz tuna is pretty cheap

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    Brian Kirk
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That greasy s**t is why I learned to cook. After our parents divorced, mom was working 70+ hours a week to pay the bills. My older brothers did the cooking and I got sick to death of HH. I am now almost 60 and when it comes to HH, the answer is HELL NO.

    Damitria
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can't eat HH to this day, we ate so much of it after my mom passed away from cancer and my dad became a single parent.

    thayer conrad
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I was growing up, even Hamburger Helper didn't stretch the hamburger enough, so we had to buy Hamburger Helper Helper. The folks across the street were poorer than us, though; they had to buy Hamburger Helper Helper Helper!!

    Amy Mo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I absolutely love Hamburger Helper…

    April Lee Smith
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hamburger Helper was too rich for us growing up! My mom made a box of Mac-n-cheese and put in hamburger instead. We would also get a box of food from the government once per month. To this day I’m still scarred by “government cheese.” Lol.

    Mary Rose Kent
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My family was very poor, and I remember a stretch right after my parents bet it all on the “next big thing,” that ended up being only a fading fad, and for several months thereafter we ate only beans on a rotating basis: pinto beans, navy beans, and white beans. Occasionally, my mother would be able to sweet talk the butcher at the supermarket into giving us a ham bone to put in the pot for flavor.

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    Guy MacGregor
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What it "HH"? For me it's the Hammer Head ship on Star Citizen [EDIT: Oh Ok, it's the "Hamburger Helper". Still have to google it cause I've never seen it before]

    Little king trash mouth
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Completely off topic, but how do you edit your comment once it's posted? On the app, I only have the option to report my comment (weird) or reply to it. I see people who edit and delete their comments and I don't see that ability.

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    Rogue Angel
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Cold baked beans and a slice of pink processed pork luncheon meat for dinner. Have not touched either since I left home at 17.

    Carlotta Müller
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ok, I'm sorry. What is Hamburger Helper? Seems from the picture one still needs the meat. So what is it for?

    Huddo's sister
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I googled it too. It looks like a sachet of pasta and powdered sauce like a macaroni and cheese that you add the meat to. I wonder why it is called hamburger helper when it seems like it should be called bolognaise helper? I guess it is cheaper/quicker to buy the sachet and meat than if you bought all the other ingredients separately (though where I live it would be cheaper to do the opposite).

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    mamafrog
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Adding your own seasonings helps a lot with that stuff too. I don't buy it though, easier to just make my own.

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    #24

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life Not rich but with a partner who was raised by a teen mom and grew up poor. Sometimes I just want rice and vegetables for dinner. That's a no from her. She won't go back.

    MighMoS , Alpha Report

    Peri
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I imagine her refusal to have that meal is because she had it a lot growing up poor. Not that there’s anything wrong with the meal, just a strong association with her upbringing.

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    Claire Stanfield
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tbh, plenty of people who grew up during the Great Depression wouldn't eat cream of wheat or grits ever again, because it was all they had at the time. Scent/taste evoke strong memories, and for these people, they're not fond memories.

    Damitria
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Love rice and veggies but if you eat anything for a lo g time with no other choices you end up disliking it.

    ZAPanda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In our country, tinned pilchards (large sardines) in tomato sauce are considered poor people food. We used to use it as cat food. I've seen people who broke the glass ceiling comment on social media that they will never touch pilchards again. I get it. I have the same issue with certain breakfast cereals for the same reason.

    Firefly
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My daughter refuses to eat bologna. Not that we have it very often, but because before we adopted her, that is all she had.

    Bobby
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In our South Asia, Rich people enjoy nice restaurants which poor can't. But interesting thing is that Poor people eat healthy and dense meals. Rich eat simple and light meals.

    Thomas Ewing
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some of the finest food is the humble stuff.

    Rickard Shen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh, that looks delicious. Time for me too cook some for myself!

    Wat Tyler's Revenge
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I get it. At university I ate a lot of Kraft Dinner mac and cheese. I swore once I graduated I would never touch the stuff again. I haven't. I love mac and real cheese, but never the powdered stuff again.

    Abby Harrison
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can kinda relate to this. the last 2 yrs my grandma was alive. all she wanted for dinner was lasagna from the local pizza place. she barley ate. so I gout stuck with the leftovers. its been almost 6 yrs. and I still won't eat lasagna.

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    #25

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life Not married, but dating (I’m in college for reference). I’m the daughter of a multi-millionaire, and I never knew just how many things were easily doable by hand. He did an oil change for me the other day, and I feel kinda cheated that I used to pay so much for it.

    ResurgentRS , Colin Report

    Pat Bond
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's generally a high price because you are really paying for them to dispose of the old oil correctly, at least in my country.

    Nikki Sevven
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In my state, any shop that handles engine oil must, by law, accept your engine oil for disposal if you do your own oil change. This may not be uniform across the US, though. I live in the bluest of blue states.

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    PitbullmomAF
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's also a common service that women get ripped off because garages think that they don't know anything about cars. It's why my dad taught me the basics of taking care of my car myself.

    Jane Jane
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He sounds like a good man. I would hold on to him.

    Mewton’s Third Paw
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The bar is on the floor. An oil change makes him a good man? Lmao

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    J. Normal
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes paying others to do things, when you can afford to, is the best way. The person you pay 50 to do a task, might now be able to feed their family for a couple of days.

    Amy Stone-Chandler
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    An oil change in Ontario Canada is like 40 bucks. Still easy to do yourself though. People shouldn't drive/own a car if they can't do basic things or at least have cash to pay for them to be done.

    Mewton’s Third Paw
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    An oil change isn’t $40, and even if it were, it wouldn’t be on a nice car. An average Mercedes oil change is at least $700 for an older model normal merc.

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    Kim Morrison
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You feel cheated? "YOU" lost money? LMAO Glad you were educated though, good luck with modern cars, locating and easily replacing the filter ;)

    Littlebunnyfufu
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used to do oil changes (had a really old car-70's Malibu Chevelle - gawd I loved that car). Changing the oil was messy and a pain. You were able to go down to an auto shop to dispose of the oil. This was in the 90's - also a very blue state. I think it was free, but that was also a very long time ago. Luckily, I have the money now to pay someone to do it and have found a reasonable repair shop.

    Pungent Sauce
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Still exchanging goods for services….

    Bobby
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some one earn and buy bread that way.

    KT
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    $40 for an oil change is pretty standard and not expensive unless you're driving a bigger vehicle that needs a higher grade of oil but still not expensive

    Mewton’s Third Paw
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lol an oil change is like $1000, not $40. If you have the kind of car the daughter of a multi millionaire would have. Even if you just have a normal Mercedes or something, it’s nowhere near $40. Even on a small car. Forget about it if you have anything Porsche level or higher. Those are even more.

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    #26

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life im not married, but my girlfriend of 4 years doesn't have alot of the childhood experiences and skills I took for granted that most people had. Like never learning how to ride a bike, how to swim, never having gone camping or seen snow (we live only a few hours away from seasonal snow)

    isolatrum , las - initially Report

    HarriMissesScotland
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We had students who had never gone 10 miles out of town. My mom would take them out to lunch in a larger town about 25 miles away. Some cried, some were just in awe. We lived in a small town with just a caution light.

    Stephanie IV
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know children who do not know anything about their hometown apart from their part of it. Nothing.

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    Otter
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A bike costs money. Pools and swimming lessons cost money, even using the public pool costs a few bucks. Camping equipment costs money, travel to snow costs money, decent hiking boots and fishing rods cost money. If you grow up urban poor, you may spend your whole life in cities or towns, never seeing countryside or mountains, because you can't afford to expand your horizons. Same for rural poor never seeing the big city, it costs too damn much.

    Two_rolling_black_eyes
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a kid we often moved and when we moved to the country for the first time, I found out how isolated the rural poor are. So many rednecks are that way because they've never had enough money to leave their own county for an hour and meet someone even remotely different. We lived 31 miles from the state border and when I was 16, we went on a school trip to Mammoth Caves. It was 3 1/2 hours there, saw the caves, came home. On the way back across the bridge over the Ohio river, the guy sitting in bus next to me told me it was the first time he'd ever left the state. Someone else said me too. The only state highway out of our town went to that bridge.

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    Brian Kirk
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even today when you can travel between any two places on the planet in a day or less, most people still die within a short distance from where they were born. With a sad percentage having never travelled outside of that distance.

    mom24boys
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There are people who live in Los Angeles that have never left the city. Never been to the ocean (and you can take a bus there for the same as it costs to go across town). Never been to the LA Zoo. It's criminal.

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    Juli Ane
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    it´s really wonderful how many wealthy good people are out there, loving to help and share. But what strikes me really is that many of them seem to live in a bubble. I mean, even if you lived your whole life in a rich neighbourhood, and even if you hadn´t ever watched a single hour of tv in your live ... how can one not know, how can one not have been noticing ever that there are people out there, that have less to zero money? How is this possible?? There is not a single place in the world where you couldn´t experience wealth and poverty at the same time and place

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    In countries with a lot of water, like the Netherlands, it’s almost obligatory to learn how to swim and sometimes even is a part of the school curriculum. If you can’t swim and accidentally get into the water, you’ll drown. So it’s part of the culture to learn how to swim, at least in the Netherlands.

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    #27

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life He doesn't remember any of his teachers names because he never stayed in one place more than a few months.

    desertstrawberry , Allison Meier Report

    Who Panda 420
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't remember many of my teachers names cause I'm old

    Mary Rose Kent
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also old, but I still remember the names of the teachers I loved and the ones I hated (and why I loved or hated them)!

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    Damitria
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is common for military kids. Air Force brat here. I only remember one teacher's name from elementary and only because she made a huge impact on a young kid who was dealing with her mom's cancer and fear of losing her...me.

    Mewton’s Third Paw
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s so cringy how you all say “brat” like this.

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    Jennifer Germain
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    military family so I can relate however my husband never spent more than a year at any school but never left the city they lived in. They just kept moving from one place to the other, only now being an adult he realizes why

    Charles Cox
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    we were completely Nomadic when I was growing up. I was 35 years old and on my second marriage when my wife explained to me you can renew a lease.

    mom24boys
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My father lived in 37 places and went to 14 different schools before he was 18. Rough childhood with a single mother in the '30s-'40s.

    Martha Higgins
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I remember all of my teachers' names and I am 75: Miss Clara West grades 1-3, Mrs. Arnold Moon grade 4, Mrs. Dottie Cooke grade 5 (and she is now a beloved friend), Mrs. Eloise Mosley grade 6, Mrs. McKay grade 7, Mr. Norwood grade 8, Mrs. Edith Favor grade 9, Mrs. Trask grade 10, Mr. Ed Bonville grade 11, Mr. Clifford Reynolds grade 12. In college: Dr. Randy Boehm, Dr. Eugene Andrews, Dr.Jim Frey, Dr. William Chaney, Mr. Cooper Phillip Speaks, (the best college professor EVER), Dr. Calista Olds, Dr. Milôs Strüpl, Mrs. Ursula Jones, Dr. Bill Curtis, Dr. Dosia Carlson, Mr. Hermann Wiebe. What a wonderful group, so talented and kind.

    Yvonne
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I only remember one teacher’s name from school. I married him 30 years after I left! 2nd marriage for us both.

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    #28

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life When we moved in together, I found out that she was putting her share of the rent on her credit card, with no real plan for how to pay it off.

    Fluxxed0 , 401(K) 2012 Report

    May
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's fiscally irresponsible - not necessarily poor

    Kristin Ingersoll
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Have you ever been in a position of not being able to pay rent? Of putting it on a card or being homeless? IT'S EASY TO BE FISCALLY RESPONSIBLE WHEN YOU HAVE F-ING MONEY.

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    Sasha Grace
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had a part time job (while looking for a full time job) and my ex was working full time; all my pay went to my share of the rent but I did the food shopping (while he was at work) but had to pay using my credit card - which I'd had for years and previously only used in emergencies - I'd have to ask him repeatedly for his half of the grocery bill. After about 6 months I told him I couldn't do the shopping this way anymore as the debt was growing too much and the stress was making me sick. Eventually I also told him he'd have to pay more towards our food bills- after much convincing by my Aunts' and Mum who watched him repeatedly eat 3/4ths to my 1/4th servings.

    James Morgan
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a credit card, I put a few items on it, and make sure I pay it off every month, this keeps your credit rating good. Credit cards are dangerous.

    Candia Lee
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    GF was told "get a credit card and improve your credit rating" but didn't tell her she had to make more than the minimum payment to do so. I hope she fixed things after I told her to pay it off each month. My only credit card gives a discount if paid off in time.

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    Tom Hanlin
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not familiar with places that allow you to pay rent on credit. Landlords usually have unbelievably antiquated systems and want cash or check.

    Magoomba
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No need to worry. The credit card company will take care of it soon enough.

    ZAPanda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Here you won't get a credit card unless you have a full time job and earn over about $800.

    Linziaj
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Usually pass a credit score to get one. Not always a good idea though

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    .V.
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We need more context, how much pressure did you make her feel that she couldn't even be up front and tell you she had to put it on a card. Sounds like financial dominance to me.

    Memere
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hmm, sounds like Daddy's Princess expected Daddy to pay the credit card bill, even after she moved out of the family home.

    Persephone
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can't assume these things... actually your comments are kind of gross and presumptuous. spoiled children are (usually) still bailed out as spoiled adults (take our previous US president for instance)... I worked for a TERRIBLE rich family, whose entitled 30 y.o. daughter constantly overdrafted her account and was bailed out, even tho she had a free job and high pay thru them that she did nothing at. If this person in the post was doing this, she likely came from a worse situation, had no where to turn, and felt ashamed. This is ACTUAL psychology. Someone who is spoiled, would have asked someone else to pay it.

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    #29

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life Long term dating. Pets. I was always surprised by the number of pets she and her family had living in the trailer and how much of a share of their income they spent on them.

    blueeyes_austin , Rocky Mountain Feline Rescue Report

    Who Panda 420
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If they were spending income on them at least that meant they were caring for them

    Kathryn Baylis
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It also means they have hearts that are bigger and richer than those of most wealthy people.

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    Anonymous User
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pets are INVALUABLE and we benefit so much more from having them and spending the money for food, vet etc.

    CR Harvey
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dogs ate burglar alarms and bed warmers. Very necessary in MT winters. Cats keep mice out of the food. Rabbits were food.

    C W
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nothing irresponsible about caring for animals in need

    Magoomba
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Probably because the animals show them a lot more love than their fellow humans do.

    Glynna Bowood
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Caring for others than yourself makes you feel good!

    Marilyn leger
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    and thery keep your lap warm when it's cold

    H.L.Lewis
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They sound kind hearted. Most of them had probably been abandoned.

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    #30

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life Lice -- I had never experienced them (our kids got them from the inlaws) I didn't know about Section 8. I'd never heard of the Earned Income Credit (e.g. you get more back in taxes than you paid). You go to the E.R. because you don't have insurance.

    mattluttrell , Rusty Clark ~ 100K Photos Report

    Amy Stone-Chandler
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've never heard of a school that hasn't had lice. I think money folks just keep it q secret because the stigma with it

    Robert T
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pretty sure that every child will have been to see Nitty Nora the Bug Explorer at some point in their school life.

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    Flying Captain
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Fyi having lice bc of bad hygiene is a common prejudice and adds to the stigma. My sister had lice in Kindergarten and our mom went nuts over it, comparing her to me "the clean older sister" making her feel worse than it already is. I took her side and read aloud to mom from the lice shampoo's user's manual "and don't be too hard on the kid apparently having a bad hygiene. Remember parents: if your kid keeps a good hygiene then the lice just share that hygiene!" (Meaning anyone can get lice no matter the hygiene.)

    High Mamii Melo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lice has zero to do with your financial situation. They are only attracted to clean scalps.

    John
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Quick news flash. Rich people are not immune to lice. Children from affluent homes are equally as likely to get them. You just sound like an ill informed snob.

    Jessica Rabbit
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "You go to the E.R. because you don't have insurance." This is because if you petition for financial assistance, the ER can write off a significant amount of the charges (which are WAY overcharged to being with) and reduce or even eliminate your bill. Physicians and specialists cannot (or will not) do the same, so it ends up costing more to see a physician/family doctor without insurance than the ER...

    BluEyedSeoulite
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Plus, they legally HAVE to see and treat you. Other departments don't have that obligation and can turn you away without insurance

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    Kimi Tomminello
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not poor by any stretch of the imagination and my kids shower daily- they got lice. I was poor as a child and didn't get lice. I didn't even get lice when my kids got it. My mom tried pulling the "your kids got lice because you're filthy" crap with me which made me laugh. No- I didn't get lice because I'm genetically resistant to them, like my mom. All my friends and my kids and ill their friends have had lice, regardless of income bracket/ cleanliness.

    Susan Bosse
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lice has ZERO to do with economic levels. It's attracted to CLEAN hair which, more often than not, are people with better economic standing as they can afford to have clean hair. Saying it's a poor person's disease is I'll informed and assine.

    SuePrew
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lice is not a poor people problem. Anyone can get them.

    Honu
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is a US federal program for rental housing assistance for people with low incomes.

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    CincyReds
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had to go to the ER once because no insurance, I had just lost my job and not found a new one yet, was was working a part time as a server. I just know I had bronchitis and a sinus infection. I couldn't afford a visit to the doctor, or those little clinics, so I just went to the ER because I knew they would bill me. I felt so stupid going to he ER for this, I just said my doctor told me to because they wouldn't be able to see me for a week.

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    #31

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life My wife isn’t even significantly less wealthy than me or my family, but they were less stably middle class. She saves yogurt cups and butter jars etc as Tupperware. It drives me bananas. We make a 6 figure income in a lowish COL area.

    ce5b , Protopian Pickle Jar Report

    Fellowbob
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't see why having money means you have to waste everything, a surprising amount of these are related to that

    Zoe's Mom
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yup, my family saves them as well so that you have food to take home after a family gathering.

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    ZAPanda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    we also do this but we're currently in the top 1% earners here. Tupperware is great but if you have a tub that works just fine, why turn it into landfill or turtlemurder? it's much better to re-use it.

    Niall Mac Iomera
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We reuse takeaway containers because it's good for the environment. Has nothing to do with money

    ZAPanda
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    no idea why you got downvoted on that one.

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    Troux
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Low cost of living, so perhaps a cheap suburb with small townhouses.

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    High Mamii Melo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She's actually doing a good thing by reusing plastics multiple times instead of throwing it out. She's supporting the environment.

    Kiran
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I admire her for this. In fact I admire people who does not let material possessions define them. It is also helpful for the environment.

    Mistralok
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My Grandmother used to do that, and even now I have a cabinet full of them.

    T'Mar of Vulcan
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mother used to do that - save KFC containers "in case we need them". After she died my SIL cleared out the pantry (I was too much of a wreck to do it, bless her) and half the shelves were just KFC containers.

    K Sarfo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dont do this, they often have chemicals it the plastic that seeps out over time or after being heating with washing. New studies also show they can increase your bodys fat cell count

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    #32

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life The stuff he buys, like, don't buy a $1.50 vegetable peeler because it'll break the third time you use it, duh. And if a pair of shoes is $19.99 then its because they're crap! He buys so much stuff because it's cheap, he hasn't yet got the hang of 'quality over quantity'!

    keepthebear , Didriks Report

    Christian Kastö
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This only shows how little you've understood about how really expensive it is to be poor. Because you only have that $20 for shoes you end up buying new shoes every year instead of maybe every five or ten years line you could if you would afford shoes for 50 or maybe 70 dollars. It is not about not knowing about quality, it is about not affording it - and thus ending up paying even more for shoes in the end! And that habit might stay with you even after you get into money. Theoretically you know you should buy quality, but it is deeply rooted to look for cheaper stuff.

    Nikki Sevven
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This person needs to read Sam Vimes' "Boots" Theory of Socioeconomic Unfairness.

    Amy S
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "The reason that the rich were so rich, Vimes reasoned, was because they managed to spend less money. Take boots, for example. He earned thirty-eight dollars a month plus allowances. A really good pair of leather boots cost fifty dollars. But an affordable pair of boots, which were sort of OK for a season or two and then leaked like hell when the cardboard gave out, cost about ten dollars. Those were the kind of boots Vimes always bought, and wore until the soles were so thin that he could tell where he was in Ankh-Morpork on a foggy night by the feel of the cobbles. But the thing was that good boots lasted for years and years. A man who could afford fifty dollars had a pair of boots that'd still be keeping his feet dry in ten years' time, while the poor man who could only afford cheap boots would have spent a hundred dollars on boots in the same time and would still have wet feet."

    Mr Red
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Being poor makes you poorer. That is just because of this. It is not a choice.

    I I
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    some times its not a choice buying cheap , id love to buy shoes over £20 but cant , i know i'll have to re-buy them sooner but if i had more id spend more

    Magoomba
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He bought the $1.50 spud peeler instead of the $5 one because the other $3.50 was gonna buy the potatoes it peeled.

    Shelli Aderman
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When all you have is $20 for a pair of shoes, you do your best not to spend it all.

    Anonymous User
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not everyone HAS the money up front to buy better shoes-smaller amounts more frequently is how a lot of people live.

    Charlene Woelk
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is what I felt like my parents did. Buy stuff because it was cheep and you needed it now not when you had the money to buy a better version of it that would last longer. It took me several years to figure out that if I paid more for something it usually lasted longer. I spent a lot of money at Walmart, Garage, Zellers etc. By the time I was in my mid 20s I was buying under armor, Firefly, North Face. And by my late 20s I realized that even those were 'cheap' brands. I bought a new wardrobe of 5.11, smartwool, and icebreaker 4 years ago and haven't bought or needed to buy new clothes since, with a few exceptions

    SirDigbyChickenCaesar
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I grew up pretty poor, we lived in a garage when I was very young, with no hot running water or indoor bathroom, kerosene heater in the winter which we heated water and sometimes cooked on. It's had the opposite result for me. I am really concerned with quality because I can't easily replace items that I buy.

    Naesil
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah we have a saying that "poor people cant afford to buy cheap". But the sad reality is that its usually not possible to buy the quality stuff and you have to rely on the cheap stuff and end up spending more in the long rung.

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    #33

    30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life I was with a girl for a while who grew up in a pretty broken home. Still surprises me just how bad her spending habits are. She racks up credit card debt like its nothing.

    whosArbeely , Sean MacEntee Report

    Otter
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's not typical of being poor, most poor people know damn well what a bad idea it is to acquire debts you can't pay. Maybe she's just financially short-sighted.

    Zoe's Mom
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also, if one is considered poor, they don't manage money. The money is probably received then spent on bills and necessities so there's nothing left over to budget. Just saying from someone who was raised on Welfare and my mother never taught us about money. I learn the hard way on how to budget the money you make. Turned to Credit Counseling to get my debts paid and never, ever got into credit card debt again.

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    Amy Stone-Chandler
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Millions of people pretend to be rich by owning such stupidly expensive items. They aren't rich. It's the illusion. All credit cards

    Who Panda 420
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Like a $1,000 purse. OMG I could never even if I ever hit it rich

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    ZAPanda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    if you are really poor you would NEVER get approval for a credit card here, so no, she's not poor. Having a bank account in our country means you are middle class. Never mind credit cards.

    Claudiola
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Perhaps shopping is a way to deal with broken upbringing

    Memere
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Absolutely - she's substituting the emotional high of buying something brand new for the lack of love & support in her childhood.

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    Mewton’s Third Paw
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Poor people can’t get credit cards. She’s just an idiot.

    Magoomba
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Cause and effect. She’s poor because she doesn’t know how to manage those credit cards. Vicious cycle.

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