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Woman Called Out For Not Trying SIL’s Famous Casserole: “She Brought Last Year’s Leftovers”
Apart from expressing gratitude, food is a huge part of Thanksgiving celebrations. Potluck dinners are happening everywhere, as people proudly share their recipes for everyone to try.
But as you may expect, this may cause some awkward moments, as this woman experienced. She refused to eat her sister-in-law’s sweet potato casserole after suspecting it was a leftover dish from the previous year.
Her actions caused a little rift within the family. Read the entire story below to find out how they handled it.
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Food is a huge part of Thanksgiving celebrations and, sometimes, a cause for potential drama
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A woman refused to eat her sister-in-law’s sweet potato casserole, causing a bit of drama
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The author also argued with her mother, so she asked the internet if her actions were uncalled for
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Unresolved pains are usually the cause of conflicts during family gatherings
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The sister-in-law’s mother passed away fairly recently, and the sweet potato casserole was a tribute. The author’s comments likely triggered her, compounding her grief.
Family therapist Vienna Pharaon says these “unresolved pains” can easily trigger arguments during a supposedly festive celebration like Thanksgiving dinner.
“All it takes is one look, one complaint, or that one comment to set off a conflict the family knows all too well,” Pharaon told CNBC in an interview.
Thanksgiving gets a bad rap for being a “dramatic” holiday, and for good reason. You’ve likely read our numerous stories on the topic. But why is that?
Licensed psychotherapist Dugyu Balan points to the “pseudo-celebrations” that happen during the latter part of the year. In her article for Psychology Today, she notes how it makes people engage in “forced gratitude” to capture picture-perfect moments for social media.
“The pressure to keep spirits high and smiles camera-ready can be overwhelming, often triggering anxiety and depression,” she wrote.
If tensions rise during dinner, experts like psychiatrist Dr. Nicole Washington say the best move is to keep your cool. If you notice yourself getting heated, lower your voice and speak calmly.
In an article for Newsweek, Dr. Washington points out that the other person may mirror your actions, which ultimately defuses tension. Or, in the story’s case, to nip it before things get heated up.
“It can be helpful to take a couple of steps back or to physically remove yourself from the person and take a few deep breaths,” she wrote.
Fortunately, the author didn’t have to deal with a full-blown family drama. While her actions were hurtful to her sister-in-law, she didn’t cause a scene that could’ve ruined everyone’s night.
The author provided more information in the comments
Some readers sided with her
While others criticized her for making wrongful assumptions
She later provided an update, saying she patched things up with her sister-in-law
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Ace 1 year ago
TBH I don't see a problem here - frozen food may not be at its best after a year but as long as it's been kept frozen for the whole time there should be no food safety issues at all.
Trillian 1 year ago (edited)
I don't see no food safety issue but I also am an adult and will eat what looks tasty to me and not eat what doesn't. I am not obliged to try everything just bc it is there.
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Meagan Glaser 1 year ago
OP was so busy being smug about how reddit was all wrong that she never got around to admitting SHE WAS WRONG. It was not last year's leftovers, it was just frozen leftovers. OP made up an insane scenario in her head and never admitted she was wrong even to herself. She seems to think that "it was frozen" justifies telling other people "omg i think that was leftovers from last year"
notlikeyou1971 1 year ago
Sorry but I thought that people only eat the things that they like at a dinner. They can say " no thank you " usually. You usually aren't obligated to eat something just because it's there from what I always saw at every place I ever went. Maybe the assumption and comment out loud to others wasn't the best idea but being forced to eat things just because they are there is wrong. Glad she worked it out though. All I can say is that I am glad that I don't do anything for Thanksgiving with relatives. I am glad that I don't cook either, Avoids all this drama.
brandyy17 1 year ago
my problem is that everyone is entitled to do wat they want. if someone brings left overs its fine. if someone doesnt want to eat something its fine. everyone makes their own choices. i dont think either the OP or the sister in law were in the wrong. one had concerns and one was upset they both had their own thoughts on the matter and r allowed to feel that way. its not like the OP caused issues by humilating her sister in law to the entire family. she only told her husband then her mother later on. as for the sister in law she has a right to b upset but lets face it every family has someone secretly upset bc someone didnt try their dish. it happens person has the right to b upset and complain about it. perfect example is that i dont like beets and one year mashed carrots and beets were made. it basically looked like baby food. it was my mother in laws first time trying the mix. afterwards she asked y i didnt have any. i told her i dont like beets no matter how they r cooked. i have tried many times to eat them but theres just something about them. she was upset but understood completely. she asked me about other foods i like so i told her a few things one of them being mashed sweet potato with the toasted marshmellow on top. she instantly got excited and told me shes never tried making that before and will make it for next thanksgiving and walked off all smiles and giggles. u dont need to eat everything and if someone wants an explaination u give it to them but b kind and honest about it and dont make it a spectical. make it a nice little private chat.
Sean P 1 year ago
ppl rly be on here without the ability to have reading comprehension: She didn't go around discreetly telling the other guests her thoughts, she told literally one person that she was married to and was also an adult who made his own decisions. If she HAD gone around spreading rumours, this would be justified. I too, would tell my SO my thoughts on something. Also they jumpin on her about the moldy thing when the moldy thing was brought up by the mother as a 'heat of the moment' trick because the OP can't even cook and didn't know better. But she clearly knew enough to identity old food and she didn't want old food. So she told her husband about it, and he didn't want old food either. They didn't stand in front of all the other people all "this food old yall this bich tryna poison us with her year old food" or anything Reddit and this place jump to the same type of conclusions about the OP that they accuse the OP of having about the SIL.
Ace 1 year ago
TBH I don't see a problem here - frozen food may not be at its best after a year but as long as it's been kept frozen for the whole time there should be no food safety issues at all.
Trillian 1 year ago (edited)
I don't see no food safety issue but I also am an adult and will eat what looks tasty to me and not eat what doesn't. I am not obliged to try everything just bc it is there.
Load More Replies... Meagan Glaser 1 year ago
OP was so busy being smug about how reddit was all wrong that she never got around to admitting SHE WAS WRONG. It was not last year's leftovers, it was just frozen leftovers. OP made up an insane scenario in her head and never admitted she was wrong even to herself. She seems to think that "it was frozen" justifies telling other people "omg i think that was leftovers from last year"
notlikeyou1971 1 year ago
Sorry but I thought that people only eat the things that they like at a dinner. They can say " no thank you " usually. You usually aren't obligated to eat something just because it's there from what I always saw at every place I ever went. Maybe the assumption and comment out loud to others wasn't the best idea but being forced to eat things just because they are there is wrong. Glad she worked it out though. All I can say is that I am glad that I don't do anything for Thanksgiving with relatives. I am glad that I don't cook either, Avoids all this drama.
brandyy17 1 year ago
my problem is that everyone is entitled to do wat they want. if someone brings left overs its fine. if someone doesnt want to eat something its fine. everyone makes their own choices. i dont think either the OP or the sister in law were in the wrong. one had concerns and one was upset they both had their own thoughts on the matter and r allowed to feel that way. its not like the OP caused issues by humilating her sister in law to the entire family. she only told her husband then her mother later on. as for the sister in law she has a right to b upset but lets face it every family has someone secretly upset bc someone didnt try their dish. it happens person has the right to b upset and complain about it. perfect example is that i dont like beets and one year mashed carrots and beets were made. it basically looked like baby food. it was my mother in laws first time trying the mix. afterwards she asked y i didnt have any. i told her i dont like beets no matter how they r cooked. i have tried many times to eat them but theres just something about them. she was upset but understood completely. she asked me about other foods i like so i told her a few things one of them being mashed sweet potato with the toasted marshmellow on top. she instantly got excited and told me shes never tried making that before and will make it for next thanksgiving and walked off all smiles and giggles. u dont need to eat everything and if someone wants an explaination u give it to them but b kind and honest about it and dont make it a spectical. make it a nice little private chat.
Sean P 1 year ago
ppl rly be on here without the ability to have reading comprehension: She didn't go around discreetly telling the other guests her thoughts, she told literally one person that she was married to and was also an adult who made his own decisions. If she HAD gone around spreading rumours, this would be justified. I too, would tell my SO my thoughts on something. Also they jumpin on her about the moldy thing when the moldy thing was brought up by the mother as a 'heat of the moment' trick because the OP can't even cook and didn't know better. But she clearly knew enough to identity old food and she didn't want old food. So she told her husband about it, and he didn't want old food either. They didn't stand in front of all the other people all "this food old yall this bich tryna poison us with her year old food" or anything Reddit and this place jump to the same type of conclusions about the OP that they accuse the OP of having about the SIL.
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