Some Call It Love, We Call It A Walking Red Flag: 25 Scenarios For You To Judge

I just do the same. Not sorry. He's stingy with compliments as well. So he doesn't get them either. I don't see any benefit in doing things for him that he doesn't do for me. Doesn't appear he notices!!

I don't like it, but I'm used to it, and the benefits outweigh it.

Well they can expect all they like, they won't get.

Voting either way because if health or mental issues are driving the behaviour, I give grace. Mostly because I’m mildly agrophobic, I’ll agree to something, even suggesting it in a moment of “I can do this”, then have a panic attack and chicken out. I’m deeply grateful to the friends who understand and still stand by me. It’s not so much expected as knowing these people always have my back. Sometimes it brings me to tears that someone as flaky and undeserving has such wonderful people in my life.

Why should this be a thing? Your friends are your friends, they're not his. I wouldn't force my SO to become acquainted with my friends if she didn't want to, and I wouldn't expect her to do so, either.

Sometimes it's for the better. None of my friends have met each other.

This wouldn't bother me. I think it's healthy in a relationship to have your own friends and own interests. You don’t need to be with each other 24/7.

I don't want to meet anyone's friends.

Yeah, not cool. Your phone and your computer is yours, and should always remain completely private.

My friends often confide in me through texts. I aren't letting anyone see their secrets.

Your phone is a very private thing. I may let you hold it to show you something, but otherwise it stays locked and with me.

I don't have a problem if my husband or kids go through my phone. But someone else, no.

Check what?

There's a common denominator there

What did they do to make them crazy

If they say all their exes were crazy then they either made them crazy or they're a bad judge of character.

Depends on the situation and the tone of voice

I've found that this happens in the run-up to a breakup. All is fine until they decide you're too clingy, too emotional, too needy when these things were not an issue before...

Huge no no !

So it's a red flag if he's an introvert? Okay.

Not in the least bit worrying , I don’t like people either lol n as for friends , I do not have any by choice !! So if they don’t then meh 🤷‍♀️I don’t blame them

I really don't have any friends, but that should only be a concern for me if I find it concerning.

I think this is more age dependent. Teen, kinda questionable. Young adult little less questionable. Full fledged adult with a home and responsibilities - not a big deal

Depends on their other interactions

Being on the spectrum it's natural to be on the social awkward side, so if you don't hear from me it just means I'm having a hard time being social.

Personally, as a female, I am not a big texter, i want face time or at least phone contact but not constant. Also, if it's new, you don't just turn your life and plans upside down, you fit them in on a let's see if this develops level which means you don't just smother each other with fake love bombing.

One of the reasons I'm with my wife is because she had some Tull in her collection when we met. And then when I played her Zappa, she didn't run screaming.

Why would you want to ridicule and humiliate the person you love? That is just bullying plain and simple.

Low-key High -key making fun of your partner is wrong.

I don't expect people to follow my advice. I expect them not to complain when they do the opposite and backfires spectacularly.

Giving advice doesn't mean the other party has to follow it: it's taken into consideration, that's all.

I don't even follow my advice, and I give great advice.

That's when I get to say I told you so and be smug so can hardly be against it.

Advice is what you ask for when you already know the answer but wish you didn’t.

It's already happening if it's on their mind.

If it's something really small and silly, either of us might threaten to call a solicitor in the morning, or order a headstone. But it's really obvious that it's not serious.

Yeah don’t threaten me just do one already ! I’d not put up with them saying more than once now , I wised up eventually

Gotta start somewhere. Some people need to explore what they want an experience things before they find out who they want to settle with.

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Surely this depends on age. For someone in their twenties this would not be unusual, in their forties, yeah, maybe, but work and lifestyle may still explain it.

depends alot on how old both of you are i feel, but usually a sign of what to expect either way

I did the marriage thing once. I hated it.

I prefer this, playing the field until they find the one OR on my side I'd lower my expectations for any kind of commitment but enjoy them if that's what I want.

I wouldn't explain why unless I'm seriously committed to someone. I don't go around explaining my family history

If someone isn't close to family, it's often due to past trauma, and it's normal for them not to go into the details early in the relationship. Trauma dumping about their tragic family history on the first date is also a red flag.