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37 Women Share What Things Spotted In A Man’s Apartment Were Instant Turn-Offs
Some men have the interior design preferences of a monk living in an isolated cave. This is all well and good if that is truly your goal, but if you are bringing someone home, it’s pretty important to remember that how you live is a pretty direct reflection of you.
Someone asked women “What would you consider a “red flag” when going to a guy’s apartment for the first time?” and people shared their thoughts. So get comfortable, if you are a man, perhaps take some notes, upvote your favorites and add your own ideas and experiences in the comments below.
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#1
A huge red flag is having your fridge full of alcohol with little to no food inside.
Nina 10 months ago
I would be way more okay with that, my fridge is quite bare often as well. If I have too much in it, I'm sure some will go bad before I'm ready to use it.
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SkippityBoppityBoo 10 months ago (edited)
Why only the fridge? Genuine question! It depends on the time of year too, Christmas and New Year are times when you might have unexpected or expected guests who drink even if you don't. I've always got food in, not necessarily in my fridge... Which once only had two lipsticks and a bottle of tomato ketchup in it. I had meals at work so if I'm not using the fridge? I'd turn it off to help save on electricity. (Edit!!! I'm not a man though btw! 😄)
Austen Osborne 10 months ago
I home brew beer, you'd probably stage an intervention if you came to my place
XenoMurph 10 months ago
I guess we could say that about most of these. BP trying to divide people with ragebait yet again, and here we are commenting, reinforcing the algorithm to make more like this
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#2
No toilet skid marks plzzzz... Why is this too common :(
SmooshieFries 10 months ago
And no pee on the seat or floor and def no curly hairs either. Ugh, the bathroom where I work is all gender and gets nasty
BookFanatic 10 months ago
I (F) once shared a bathroom with 30 guys. Talk about nasty. 😆
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Ruth Watry 10 months ago
Idiot BIL claims that his junk is too big so he has to sit further back. I doubt that this is the case, but if it is, he can clean things up when he is done.
#3
Make sure there aren’t condom wrappers or used condoms out. Wish I could say that this was common sense...
Lee Banks 10 months ago
I was a weekly housekeeper for a very attractive bartender that lived above his work. The amount of wrappers I picked up each time was astounding. He was single. (Not a predator, just that darn handsome and smart. Totally respectful when I crashed there evey now and then.)
Kalikima 10 months ago
And he just left the wrappers on the floor all week? Wth? If I walked into some dudes apt and there were 20 condom wrappers on the floor, I'd walk out, no matter how handsome or smart.
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#4
Wash your sheets and towels.
I know a guy who believed (I hope it’s not still true) towels are clean because he uses them after the shower when he is clean. So he didn’t wash them. They smelled.
MushroomHead22 10 months ago
the "i thought towels were clean" joke is so old its f*****g retired by now.
#5
Have food at your house. This is true for entertaining any people at your house in general, but especially on dates, a dude with an empty fridge, no snacks, no tea or coffee or beverages to offer just looks empty handed and unprepared.
leendadll 11 months ago
Nicole Kidman tells a great story about (many years ago) having a crush on Jimmy Fallon, a friend taking her to meet him at Jimmy's place, and Jimmy offered them brie & corn chips with leftover chinese food.
XenoMurph 10 months ago
I find it a pleasure to provide for my guests. That's sort of the point of being a "host"
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Keep a trash can with a lid in the bathroom. In case she’s got her period, she won’t feel self-conscious throwing stuff away. Not really a red flag to not have one, just a nice touch.
Maples Dad 10 months ago
We're a gay male couple and have pads and bags in our bathroom for any guests that need them. Think it should be universal tbh.
Jonathan Setter 10 months ago
this bit is in the click bait. and since the article is supposed to be about RED FLAGS, I came to see how the fk this could be a red flag when i thought it was just normal. Apparently the article is things to do instead of being red flags. who would have thunk it?
Pink kitty 10 months ago
I've noticed lately that BP changes the article titles. I've read an article in the morning and come back in the afternoon and noticed the title has changed
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myopicpossum 9 months ago
omg like I would leave a used rag or tamp in someone's trash can! Not hardly.
#7
Idky but I hate seeing futons, dirty dishes, and the smell of old w**d, a*s, hot d**k and cocoa butter.
I also don’t wanna see Jergins next to any source of tissue.
Stimpy 10 months ago
oh no, now I read the word "weed" uncensored! You have made me addicted!
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Child of the Stars 10 months ago
I'm a 42yo single mom with a futon as our sofa. It was cheaper than a regular sofa, plus (since I have kids) it's easier to clean. I just put a waterproof bed bug cover on it and use a bedsheet over that. All I gotta do is strip the sheet every so often and toss it in the wash 🤷♀️
juni 10 months ago
Nobody would complain about cocoa butter either. But in combination... futon on the floor, dirty dihes and old weed. Yeah. No.
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Nice Beast Ludo 10 months ago
What's wrong with a little Mary-j and cocoa butter? And I reread the title and it doesn't clarify if these are surprise barge in visits or planned dates. That makes a giant difference
Silberwolf 10 months ago
I hate the censorship on BP so much... Old w33d? yeah better fresh w33d...you want to have something to offer to your guest, right? Hot d.i.c.k ? What??
Jozsef Szabo 9 months ago
@ss and hot duck? What? Please don't overuse asterisks to that extent where things become incomprehensible. Thanks.
Just stopping by 10 months ago
The hell is wrong with cocoa butter? That's the only lotion I use typically
#8
Clean your bathroom and don't just have the necessities in there (i.e. toilet paper and soap). Get a trash can and a nice(r) shower curtain. also, for the love of god, don't keep adding water to an empty soap bottle. go buy another one for $0.98.
Doctor Strange 10 months ago
I dunno, it seems weird for me to have a shower curtain when I already have a glass door
AG 10 months ago
What? Do you just shower and let water splash all over the bathroom?
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farbenzirkel 10 months ago
And even as a guy, provide pads and tampons. They don't cost much and don't go bad. Makes an impression, even extends the date if necessary and the woman is much more relaxed.
Arcady Royzen 10 months ago
OK, My comment is way different...any of you who actually use soap bottles know that a lot of it remains in there without any other way of pumping it out without adding a bit of water. If you throw away your bottles not even trying to finish / empty them, it tells me a lot about your wasteful habits. No t a penny pincher here, but waste of any kind drives me crazy
Jonathan Setter 10 months ago
wtf? what county has liquid soap for less than a dollar? just goes to show wealthy people underestimate the cost of everyday necessities and think poor people can just save save save because nothing costs anything
#9
Open the windows! Get some fresh air while you check all of these boxes!
juni 10 months ago
Where you live you can't open the windows for a few minutes from fear of somebody breaking in?!? Even when you're in the room, during daylight hours?
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I have seen The bachelor pad with no furniture too many times and *I hate it*. There is only one chair (So I can't sit down anywhere), there are no blankets, pillows or any other thing that could make the place comfy. The walls are bare and a lone tv/gaming console is all you'll find in the living room. If you're really lucky there's cutlery and plates for 2 people and it probably doesn't match. Kitchen appliances are generally non-existent as well.
It screams immaturity to me and means that I will not be comfortable in that space. It is not being "minimalistic" it's just not giving a f**k about your living space and comfort of guests.
Not sure I'd call it a red flag, but for sure something that wouldn't make me want to come back.
Breadcrumb. 11 months ago
Sorta says "I wanna die alone" when you don't create a inviting space.
Ancient Enemy 10 months ago
Idk, to be in such situation screams financial non-buoyancy to me.
Ruth Meszaros 10 months ago
The guy is expecting to gain a woman and a home with all the amenities, not expecting HE should make the cozy home.
#11
Don’t hang framed pictures of you kissing your mom on the lips. I’m still skeeved about that one.
Original Kinkster 10 months ago
It was a thing when going to bed. Until I turned 9 or 10 or so ..
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Erik Hedenskog 10 months ago
A quick peck on the lips? That's wrong? It's not like there's tounge in there. You people are damaged.
#12
Put your mattress in a proper frame. Nothing screams bachelor hobo like a floor mattress.
justagirl 11 months ago
i actually love sleeping on a sort of thin mattress on the floor, like, japan style.
Barong 10 months ago
Futons on a tatami mat at night and folded away during the day is one thing. Living like a poor kid is another.
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Wendy Melissa 10 months ago
We (couple) have our mattress on the floor so it's not too high for our dogs to climb on. This doesn't give me the ick.
#13
If people cant take 10 minutes to tidy up before they have company over that's a red flag for me. It doesn't have to be spotless but at least be respectful of the fact that other people may not want to hang out in your filth. If they have pets is there hair everywhere and are they being taken care of? Mainly if you're a tidy person it probably isn't a good match with someone that's fairly messy. Think about if that's how you want to live if things work out.
Obviously look for weird things like a sex dungeon (unless you're into that kind of stuff) or like secret rooms where serial killers would store their bodies. If there are any rooms that lock from the outside, get out.
The Doom Song 10 months ago
Yeah I definitely make sure the door is shut when it comes to my Serial killer room
Rafael 10 months ago
You would be amazed. CerealKillerz did a pool and locks came ahead of soundproofing and built in drainage for 78% of serial killer influencers - and you needed a body count over four to qualify, so you know they're serious.
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Sarah Léon 10 months ago
Oups... I happen to have a room that locks from the outside. It's a spare room but I use it as a safe place for new cats and I had to build a door I can only close from the outside. So much for my future love life :/ I still have my cats :p
Bgray450 3 months ago
A guy asked me out, then picked me up in his RV. I climbed into the passenger seat and stepped in his dog's yellow vomit on the floor. I climbed back out and pointed out the mess. He said he couldn't date me if I didn't appreciate his dog. wow. Wasn't climbing back in dude.
Charlie Haase 5 months ago
“ Mainly if you're a tidy person it probably isn't a good match with someone that's fairly messy. Think about if that's how you want to live if things work out.” Been there. (Wasn’t the messy one.) Shockingly, it didn’t work out.
Original Kinkster 10 months ago
There are two types of really weird people: The ones who believe that people with sex dungeons would invite them even when they're clearly not into this kind of kink and the ones who actually do so...
#14
Nothing wrong with having a bed on the floor but make sure ur pillows aren’t f****n yellow. Put some damn sheets and pillow cases on your bed! Get a comforter! Too many beds I’ve seen looking like they will give me an STD.
juni 10 months ago
Nobody said you need to have heavy comforters, where did you even get that from? Just make sure it's clean when you want to have people over.
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#15
Two ply toilet paper and a clean towel to wipe my hands after washing up.
Anne Young 10 months ago
I have 2 bottles one on each side. That way the person can decide. Or if they're left handed or w/e.
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das aprilkind 10 months ago
2-ply? I don’t think we even have that here? 3-ply is the minimum and I couldn’t (and don’t want to imagine) using anything less. 2-ply would be such a turn off (I live in Europe).
weatherwitch 10 months ago
What the hell?? Two ply loo roll is an issue?? I've used it for decades because of the septic tank, pipes block too quickly. Two ply is absolutely Fine for all toilet needs including heavy periods and clotting and that's from personal experience 🤷🏻♀️
#16
Lots of great comments here. I think I would just add proper sheets, pillows and towels. It’s nice to go to a guys house and he has good bedding.
Also - make sure there is extra TP in the bathroom. And I would recommend buying some body wash/soap, shampoo and conditioner. Nothing too feminine (you don’t want her to think you have women over all the time) but it’s the worst when you shower at a guys house and they only have 3 in 1.
Barong 10 months ago (edited)
There’s a theme here. Basically, have our s**t together and live like an adult.
ॐBoyGanesh 10 months ago
It behooves straight guys to make friends with the gay guys they meet at the gym. I can’t tell you how many of my straight male friends have asked my advice in decorating their spaces & how to make it more appealing & comfortable for their girlfriend or dates. I’m not exactly the stereotype and I’ve no inclination toward these things, but apparently we queers have a much better grasp on basic domestic hygiene and how to create inviting spaces.
Load More Replies... Bartlet for world domination 10 months ago
I hope the lady returns the favor and has some 3 in 1 in her bathroom.
SkippityBoppityBoo 10 months ago
My shampoo is medicated shampoo so I'd always bring my own....and Aqueous Cream! But 3 in 1? They can cause skin irritation even if you don't have sensitive skin or anything such as excema. So this one? Just bring your own stuff I guess! That way everyone's happy 👍🙂
Fellfromthemoon 10 months ago (edited)
A bar of soap. Common soapbar. Nothing fancy. If she doesn't like that 3 in 1, she can use the soap bar. (I'm a woman with short hair and I prefer men's toiletries, but often use soap too.) I would rather insist on keeping some minty fresh chewing gum.
ॐBoyGanesh 10 months ago (edited)
Not a thing if you’ve short hair, lack a vulva & don’t wear feminine scents that clash with the often outdoorsy, woodsy, pine scent they so often come in.
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Anne Young 10 months ago
It might not be a scent or w/e the lady likes or wants. So ask first instead of taking over.
Ruth Watry 10 months ago
Expectations need to go both ways. How many women keep razors so a guy can shave in the morning?
Jaeger (Jaeger) 10 months ago
3-1 is cheaper.. and maximizes space, There needs to be a post about red flags for girls. This one is ridiculous
Candy Kayne 10 months ago
When you actually have long hair, the 3-1 doesn’t work. You actually need real conditioner to be able to brush you hair after washing it. Hence why women with long hair don’t use it.
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I'm a man so I will share my point of view when going to a *woman*'s apartment. If there is a mess in the bathroom and generally in the rest of the apartment, it's a turn off. Also the smell of the apartment. Room fragrance is very cheap and can be found everywhere.
I still have PTSDs of my sister's bathroom. Don't ask.
Manic Mama 11 months ago
Room fragrance can also cause asthmatics to have asthma attacks. It's not a solution for everybody.
tori Ohno 10 months ago
I'm allergic. Sneezing, runny nose, burning eyes, etc. Just don't do it
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LukewarmSoymilk 10 months ago
PTSD... You keep usng that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.
Annabel Again 10 months ago
Thank You. Please don’t throw that descriptor around, it’s very different than a casual one off like so many people use it
Load More Replies... Nina 10 months ago
And of course a man had to give his two cents on a question aimed at women.
SkippityBoppityBoo 10 months ago (edited)
I'm glad others have said to not use PTSD as a throwaway term. I was officially diagnosed with it by my specialists and doctors when I was in hospital. If you do actually have PTSD, as in officially diagnosed with it? You'll know exactly why it can be so hurtful for people to use that term and other Mental Health terminology just to be, well... Overly Vocally Dramatic.
Silberwolf 10 months ago
Room fragrance is such an unnecessary product...just clean your apartment and open the window from time to time. Then you won't need artificial chemicals to cover up the stench...
Arcady Royzen 10 months ago
i will add one more... decorations needs to be tasteful not just piles of things that collect dust :)
#18
Buckets full of syringes out in the open are sketchy, nobody likes that.
Nimitz 11 months ago
Assuming this is for guys using needles for medical purposes like diabetes etc.
Zoey Bear 10 months ago
As a wife of someone with type 1 diabetes, this is depending, if they seem to be d**g attacks...then no.
Nadine Debard 10 months ago
There are disposal boxes for syringes that stay closed and limit the risks. They are given for free in French pharmacies and they dispose of them for free when they're full. It's a game changer.
Load More Replies... Roshan Kassan 10 months ago
As a diabetic, my needles are NEVER in view - who would DO that????
weatherwitch 10 months ago
People do that?? My sharps boxes are free on the NHS for my diabetes stabby stuff 😊
#19
I’m not the fanciest, most organized person, so I don’t judge too much based on how a man’s home looks. As long as the normal bases are covered, you pass in my eyes. I’d say just go through and make sure everything looks nice, like you would anytime you’re expecting new company. Clean out the toilet bowl, put away the dishes etc. I wouldn’t worry about changing your decor- your home is an extension of yourself, so you shouldn’t have to change things decoration-wise just because someone else might want you to, unless you’re planning on them moving in. Just be yourself and let your space reflect that :) If she’s really into you for you, she won’t be worried about whether or not your house has a pretty aesthetic.
Arcady Royzen 10 months ago
Thank you! This is the first NORMAL observation i have read so far! You will make some guy a very happy person some day, if not already!
Hodge Elmwood 9 months ago
I don't think most people expect to find a decorator's showhouse, these examples are mostly talking about keeping a clean, uncluttered space, and having normal useful things like clean towels, soap, etc. If you have someone visit you and you like them, you want them to come back, so make it at least marginally comfortable.
Bailee McBride 10 months ago
All of these have been pretty mature, and not asking for much,
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Keep it clean and hide pictures of your wife.
Maples Dad 10 months ago
Also don't knowingly go with a guy that's married. Takes two to tango.
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#21
We live and die by the bathroom.
- Fresh roll of toilet paper
- Empty trash can with a plastic bag liner
- Fresh towels
- Scrub toilet
- Scrub sink
- Do a quick swiffer to pick up dust/pubes
Other notes:
- Have a candle lit in the house at least one hour beforehand
- Fresh bedsheets in case she stays over
- Empty kitchen sink
- Ample snacks
EDIT: Formatting, and to add this: Chances are the girl probably has her mind made up about you before even coming over. Not having a certain drink/snack or the right candle isn't going to make or break your chances of f*****g. But keeping clean and having the fridge stocked are just normal practices of life, not "trying hard". It's an easy way to tell who has guests over and who doesn't.
MushroomHead22 10 months ago
essentially, by doing the above if they've already made up their mind of sleeping with you , this should help seal the deal, but if you don't do the above and they were on the fence about sleeping with you, then this would seal the deal.
Fairybaby 9 months ago
enough snacks, maybe a few pieces of fruit and a bag of chips or something
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Morgan NicGregor 10 months ago
Never leave candles unattuned, and and don't use perfumy c**p around me.
Parmer Engineering 10 months ago
Pubes. Gross. Still amazes me that people still walk around Amazonian style. Man or woman. You'd never find a pube in my house and if I found one at a chicks house, that'd be the end of that.
#23
I literally dated a 34 year old man that didn’t have a couch. He told me he threw it out a month prior because his cat wouldn’t stop peeing on it. Instead of training the cat, he threw out the couch. So, have a fully furnished home and don’t be an idiot I would say (haha). I sat in a lawn chair and counted the minutes until I could GTFO.
Breadcrumb. 11 months ago
I could see myself using lawn chairs temporarily. No point in buying a new couch until your cat gets better. Cat probably was sick..
Wondering Alice 10 months ago (edited)
I agree. I have used lawn chairs as a temporary solution before, it's not a big deal. An elderly pet can make a lot of mess, and many people (guilty myself) are reluctant to have them put down until you are absolutely sure the animal is in distress even though their quality of life is diminished. It's really not the time to be spending money on replacing furniture. My parents house reeked something awful for our dogs last year, but not having a beloved pet put down for any other reason than their wellbeing is normal. This man could also have simply been waiting for his cat to get better or accept training. Many pet owners are the same.
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WindySwede 10 months ago
Or atleast have good new litter box/es, they cat could be unoleased with something?
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Xenia Harley 10 months ago
Um, take the cat to the vet, since it probably has a UTI! It's not normal for a cat to pee on the couch!
SkippityBoppityBoo 10 months ago
I looked after an elderly cat for a while once, she was incontinent occasionally but tried her best to use her litterbox so I always put towels down where she liked to sit. Cat pee can really stink but poop can be cleaned up. Couches are expensive too especially on top of vet bills... Sorry, it's? I'll always defend cats! Although this one? It'd depend upon how old the cat is, is there a clean litterbox available etc?
Magenta Blu 10 months ago
I don't even own a coach. Why would anyone care about useless forniture?
#24
No left over artifacts from past relationships still displayed.
Bartlet for world domination 10 months ago
You wouldn't recognize them, but my house is full of left over artifacts from past relationships. Who cares - when a relationship is over, I'm done.
Hodge Elmwood 9 months ago
I wouldn't mind if a guy was a widower and had a pic of his late wife, as long as it wasn't lifesize and hanging right over the bed!
SkippityBoppityBoo 10 months ago
This depends upon what the artifact is. I've numerous ones dotted around. Not because I want to rub it in their face but because I really love the said item. But things such as photos of you and your ex kissing that's on display on your mantlepiece in pride of place? Yeah, erm... No... Bye!
#25
If he doesn’t have anything. I briefly dated someone who just didn’t have anything. No books, no furniture besides his bed and desk and a chair, no posters, no nothing. Minimalism is great and all, but it’s nice to see a somewhat personalized space. I don’t know if this has any correlation, but he was one of the weirdest dudes I’ve ever met.
Erla Zwingle 10 months ago
I think it has a very tight correlation, since you ask. Sounds like the next step is having some products for wiping fingerprints.
#26
Guys who don’t have enough pillows/have bad pillows. Why is it that F**k boys never have more than one pillow? Or if they do then they are lumpy and hard? And the bedding is invariably some sort of check blue/red pattern.
Also anything, ANYTHING, that is an obvious gift from an ex. Not saying bin it, but maybe wait to introduce it to your place. No woman wants to walk into a room and realise it’s been lovingly accessorised by her predecessor.
During my single days I quickly learned that guys who didn’t have nice bedding, usually weren’t the kind worth hanging around for. I wonder sometimes if it’s a subconscious reflection of their emotional unavailability, kind of a reverse feng shui - they weren’t ready for an intimate connection with a partner so they didn’t make space for one in their private space aka only one pillow.
Arcady Royzen 10 months ago
I call BS on this one. You don't like if its not decorated. If it is decorated you suspect it was his ex who did that. Make up your minds. my god...
Marie Rockets 10 months ago
I agree. I think this is kind of ridiculous. People have exes, assuming they had a life before you, so there is a chance the furniture the guy has was from a previous relationship.
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#27
Honestly really bare rooms, just having like one recliner and an xbox in your living room is meh. general mess, just try to make it clean and comfortable. i’d also like to note that sometimes guys who live in super barren apartments are very hot but also probably have a s**t personality so do with that what you will.
Papa 10 months ago
There is a happy medium between stark bare and cluttered.
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A few people have mentioned photos, general rule is - Art/print on the wall, a couple of family/friend photos in a frame on shelf.
Lots of people have also mentioned smell, you sound very clean but I would warn against too many fake smells, eg too much febreze as it can become over powering. Opening the windows every so often to keep things fresh with the occasional spray in the toilet is all you need!
Wondering Alice 10 months ago
Rules for photos and pictures? No. People can do what they want in their own home. If anything is a turn off, that simply speeds up knowing you are incompatible.
Bartlet for world domination 10 months ago (edited)
My word, are there rules for photos... I only pass because my sister gifted me a framed one of us two Christmas before last. Toulouse-Lautrec on the wall though, that's probably a big No for someone.
Arcady Royzen 10 months ago
There is NO general rule about arts and photos. You just made it up
Hodge Elmwood 9 months ago
And clean out the fridge one in a while! Nothing's more gross than opening the fridge to grab a cold drink and finding sticky stuff, crumbs, and expired food in there (especially if it smells bad!).
#29
Make sure the bathroom is clean. Sink and countertop should be neat and tidy. Toilet should have no remnants of use. Shower should have no pink marks or stains. Make sure you have fresh towels in case she decides to shower. CHANGE YOUR SHEETS. Make sure all your bedding is fresh. Clear off the couch and any chairs so that you don’t have to awkwardly move things around for her to sit down when she’s already there. No dishes in the sink. The place doesn’t have to be perfectly clean, but make it clean enough so that 1. She’s comfortable 2. She doesn’t think you can’t take care of yourself.
#30
A nice blanket would be good. And cleanliness. Also at least for me, smell is a huge thing.
Torben Møller-Nielsen 10 months ago
How can not displaying a "nice" blanket be a red flag? That would actually be a red flag for me, if someone made that a problem.
KazzaHazza 10 months ago
Hah, yea. Imagine being dumped because you don’t have a blanket.
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#31
Its a red flag if there is no person items. No personalized posters/wall hangings, no personal decor touches. It should be cozi and give me a good sense of who you are and what you enjoy. You walk into my bfs place and you see his video games and posters of games he loves. My room you see my books, craft supplies, stacks of notebooks, my instruments. You basically dont want a cold creepy bareny stinson crash pad. Also, dont have boxes of condoms laying out or any sex toys.
#32
I guess organization is always nice. A turn on for me is watching a hobbie displayed nicely, I think it shows passion. For example an area for playing music, or a good and nice place to watch movies with a good organization of movies, even a nice setup for working, or even playing games. Don't know it makes it interesting to me.
ScootyPuffJr 10 months ago
Yes! One of my exes had a bread making station, exercise room, listening room, work shop, etc...it was nice to not only see everything organized, but how much he enjoyed his hobbies.
Morgan NicGregor 10 months ago
Looks just like the living room of the "Friendly ex Muslim" On You tube.
Arcady Royzen 10 months ago
I is not early 2000s with a collection of DVD titles. you want to watch something, you stream it LOL
Niamh_ie 10 months ago
My husband still has plenty of dvds it's a hobby. There are many movies that are not available by streaming, movies can also be removed from streaming service at any time.
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It's really just preference, but here's my list, lots from memory:
- no sheets on the bed
- only one pillow on the bed
- no trash can in the bathroom
- sink hasn't been washed (drain is dirty, line of s**m around the sides, etc.)
- paper dishes, man, don't be wasteful!
- marijuana supplies just out in the open. like just keep your grinder somewhere other than your computer desk, please? and on that note, if your bong looks worse than a sewer, I'm out, and I don't even smoke w**d
- nowhere to put my shoes, or, even worse "just leave them on". please let me take off my shoes by having a shoe rack/boot tray and letting my feet touch a *clean* floor
- no vegetables in the fridge/freezer or the pantry. please eat vegetables.
Bones 10 months ago
1. Men don't really NEED a trashcan in the bathroom. I do, but how is not having one a Red Flag. 2. Only one pillow. I sleep with 4 pillows, if I only needed one to sleep with. That's all I'd have. 3. If you don't like marijuana, don't smoke it, but he can have out anything he wants. (If it smells that a different story. 4. What the hello is a "boot tray?" I don't have a shoe rack for guests, take your shoes off at the door and leave them there. 5. No Veg? Really If women are like OP, I'm happy I'm a gay man.
ॐBoyGanesh 10 months ago
These are specifically red flags for men’s homes that they’re inviting women into.
Load More Replies... Parmer Engineering 10 months ago
Lmao. This chick wants princess treatment. I feel sorry for people that date around. It's not a red flag if you just have a hangup.
Ducking_Mad 10 months ago
This one is kinda weird. I do think that a trashcan in the bathroom is kind of nice to have but I don’t think it’s a dealbreaker in terms of a newer relationship. I also feel like if they only have one pillow on the bed its more of a personal preference thing that a “red flag”. If you only want to sleep with one pillow, then only sleep with one pillow. The shoe rack is just kind of weird. Like leave them by the door it’s not a big deal. I could understand the marijuana one, but if he smokes he smokes. Again another personal prefrence
Jozsef Szabo 9 months ago
One-headed men can sleep on a bed with one pillow. Two-headed men need two pillows.
Hodge Elmwood 9 months ago
The shoe thing is a red flag to me in reverse! I'm not comfortable taking my shoes off in someone else's house. Get over it. Floors are meant to be cleaned. If you want me to take off my shoes in your home, then you better let me know long before I arrive so I have an opportunity to bring slippers with me. If you don't inform me of this until I show up at your place, I'm turning right around and leaving.
Rosecat 10 months ago
No sheets, makes sense. Only one pillow, maybe that's all he needs, tf. No trash can and dirty sink make sense too (but wtf is a s**m?). Paper dishes wouldn't bother me, unless that's all he has. Marijuana supplies, I don't date d**g users in general. Probably a culture thing, but if you don't live here, you're certainly not allowed to take your shoes off in my home. No vegetables, eh, would you go rummaging through the guy's kitchen?
Hodge Elmwood 9 months ago
I think she meant s c u m. Like from soap. Also the veg thing probably just means she thinks it's a sign of good health. I wouldn't be too concerned about not seeing veg in his fridge, maybe he only buys enough for each meal and the day I'm there, he hasn't gone grocery shopping for the week yet.
Load More Replies... Silberwolf 10 months ago
Why would I need a trash can in the bathroom as a man? For used floss or emtpy shower gel/shampoo bottles? I understand why women would need one though. Why would I need a shoe rack if I only own 2 pairs of shoes? The rest I can mostly understand.
Anne Young 10 months ago
If people want to take their shoes off that's fine. However they're comfortable. They're not my shoes.
#34
Your place doesn't have to be perfect. A few decorations, some items that show your interest, a couple throw pillows would be nice. Don't try too hard. Just be yourself.
If your goal is to make someone want to F you, your apartment won't make a lot of a difference. You will. How you talk to her will be the deciding factor.
If you want a girl to start a relationship, then you want her to feel comfortable. A throw blanket on your couch is a nice idea. If your place has bare walls, it is less comfortable than with some pictures up. An easy idea is to frame pictures of things from your life, travel photos, pictures of fun times with friends, your family, and maybe some posters or art. This can help her see who you are.
Any questions?
Rinso The Red 10 months ago
"Your place doesn't have to be perfect. A few decorations, some items that show your interest, a couple throw pillows would be nice. Don't try too hard. Just be yourself." Being myself would involve never associating with "throw pillows".
Claire Wilson 10 months ago
Me too and I'm a girl! I just don't get the fascination with throw pillows especially about a dozen of them on the bed. Where do they put them at night?
Load More Replies... #35
My boyfriends place was so clean when I met him I thought he must have been a serial killer. His clothes was folded perfectly. I think as long as the place is clean you are ok but to perfect and it raises eyebrows.
Barong 10 months ago
Na, it just means we were raised well and taught self discipline and appreciate cleanliness and organization.
Blue Bunny of Happiness 10 months ago
Whereas I was not and so know that person’s lifestyle is unlikely to be compatible with mine.
Load More Replies... Ruth Watry 10 months ago
If a woman thinks that it is OK for her home to be clean with perfectly folded clothing, she should not hold it against a man if he is the same.
Jaeger (Jaeger) 10 months ago
Okay, so this post is s******g on men saying they need to be better. But when we are clean and have hygiene is suspicious? MAKE UP YOUR GODDAMNED MIND!
WindySwede 10 months ago
Dirty, red flag. To clean , red flag 🙃. The Swedish word 'Lagom' then?
Arcady Royzen 10 months ago
It actually means you are a messy person yourself. I suppose because you are talking about his past, once you are there, it is no longer clean LOL
#36
Cleanliness, and tidiness: clean stacks of things are fine, the odd “thing without a home” in the corner is fine. Hide ratty coats and shoes, close doors to rooms you won’t need. The place doesn’t need to be freshly mopped and gleaming, and shouldn’t smell like cleaners, but shouldn’t look dusty and obvious marks on walls/glass/floors wiped.
Bathroom should be spotless though, so shake out your bath mat, rinse your tub & sink, empty your bin, close/open your shower curtain depending on whether your curtain or shower are dirtier. I also appreciate when counters are clear, with nothing out but soap, since I’m not seeing your toiletries (your toothbrush, what meds you use, how old your facial cleanser bottle is, the brand of your cologne, etc).
Depending on the guy, lack of decor isn’t always surprising, and shouldn’t be a deal breaker. The things that you have should look purposeful and reflect you: throwing in some bright cushions when that isn’t your style looks off and inauthentic. Take some time to look at where you have things (furniture, decor) and rearrange them to see what looks better, move trinkets around, stack some favourite books near your sofa, etc. You’re not staging so much as you’re just making this space obviously “yours”.
Depending on what you’re planning to do, you’ll want to do a quick inventory of useful items: if you’re watching movies, do you have a blanket if she finds your place chilly, do you have a nice clean bowl for popcorn, do you have clean glasses for drinks, etc. If you’re eating: do you have enough clean dishes of the right type/size, flatware, ingredients, condiments (& are they in date?!).
Janissary35680 10 months ago
Reads like it was written by a chatbot imitating the style of Martha Stewart.😄
Rinso The Red 10 months ago
"Take some time to look at where you have things (furniture, decor) and rearrange them to see what looks better, move trinkets around, stack some favourite books near your sofa, etc. You’re not staging so much as you’re just making this space obviously “yours”. Your first sentence contradicts your last one. Again, a LOT of assumptions
#37
Take your lotion and Kleenex off of the nightstand you filthy animal.
George Allen 9 months ago
Kleenex is for multiple reasons near the bed, not only jerking...alergies, running noses, rhinitis....dooh!!!
Jaeger (Jaeger) 10 months ago
What the hell is wrong with that? I have my lotion and Kleenex on my nightstand in case I get a runny nose or something.
Tamara Kroonen 3 months ago
And after whiping your nose you rub it in with lotion? Sure.
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cugel. 10 months ago
Having an oversized hammer-and-sickle banner, well that's a huge red flag.
Alex Schneider 10 months ago
The way they appreciate and take care for themselves and their surroundings is the way they care for and appreciate you. Even at a ONS,never let someone get the feeling of you still would need a mommy for common sense ,like a clean bath and bed.
Susie Elle 10 months ago (edited)
Guys: if you plan on having women over, whether they be friends, hookups, or anything else - CLEAN YOUR TOILET and HAVE MORE THAN ONE TOILET ROLL! Women need to sit down, and as much as I wish guys would also wipe after peeing, women really need to. Toilet paper runs out way faster than you might think. I was once at a guy friend's place and he had invited another friend together with his girlfriend, and he asked me if one roll of toilet paper would be enough for the entire evening. Hard no.
weatherwitch 10 months ago
I'm absolutely bewildered by the hard no for one roll of loo roll for Four people in One evening!! Unless you all have upset stomachs there's not a chance in hell you can get through that much bog roll even if the ladies both have heavy periods at the same time. It's the most bonkers thing I've ever read 🤷🏻♀️
Load More Replies... Je souhaite 10 months ago
Now they need to be fair and do a section on the women Red Flags when you go to her place like for example 101 cats and no job LOL
Fellfromthemoon 10 months ago
Too many pets are always a red flag. Too many pets=more than the owner can reasonably take care of.
Load More Replies... Becky Samuel 11 months ago
It sounds like most of these people just want to date women or gay men. No wonder so mny are complaining they can't find a partner. Realistic expectations seem to be in short supply. Just because a man doesn't care for soft furnishings, pictures, and ornaments doesn't make him unworthy of a relationship.
Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 10 months ago
This is a whole lot of steryotyping.
Load More Replies... Jaeger (Jaeger) 10 months ago
Also, for some reason people don’t think men can have a fashionable house if they’re straight, only if there gay or have gay friends! Not to mention with the raising prices they may not be able to afford the luxury lifestyle you expect! That goes for both genders. (I really hope someone reads this, my thumbs hurt)
Jaeger (Jaeger) 10 months ago
This whole post is possibly the most Sexist piece of c**p I’ve ever seen. Realistic expectations people! Neither gender has to adhere perfectly to your expectations or your standards! If I have a 3-1 soap, what’s your issue? If I have MY HOME how I like it, if you constantly critique everything. Get the hell out, this is why it’s so hard for men to find a partner, this is what encourages toxic masculinity! I’m a man and my dad was/is like that, it’s horrible. Every day of my life I try to break free of this horrible stereotype! Trying to prove that not all men are bad, and gross… Not to mention no one gives a s**t if a man gets R*ped they just tell them to grow up! Posts like this is what’s wrong with humanity.
ElfVibratorGlitter 10 months ago
Biggest thing is the actual toilet. Come on, it takes very little effort to get the turd streaks off the bowl. 🤮
Orysha 10 months ago
What's this rubbish poll Justin? Any kind of collection is a concern for women? What I find most concerning in this thread is that these women seem to hate minimalism and think it's a way to spot serial killers. What's all the rage with pillows too?
sofacushionfort 10 months ago
I’d be amazed at some of the judementality these women inflict on men, but that would pale in comparison with how they judge other women’s homes.
Je souhaite 10 months ago
A lot of these are not even red flags just happy guys living their happy SINGLE lives without someone moving in and controlling every aspect of their lives
Load More Replies... cugel. 10 months ago
Having an oversized hammer-and-sickle banner, well that's a huge red flag.
Alex Schneider 10 months ago
The way they appreciate and take care for themselves and their surroundings is the way they care for and appreciate you. Even at a ONS,never let someone get the feeling of you still would need a mommy for common sense ,like a clean bath and bed.
Susie Elle 10 months ago (edited)
Guys: if you plan on having women over, whether they be friends, hookups, or anything else - CLEAN YOUR TOILET and HAVE MORE THAN ONE TOILET ROLL! Women need to sit down, and as much as I wish guys would also wipe after peeing, women really need to. Toilet paper runs out way faster than you might think. I was once at a guy friend's place and he had invited another friend together with his girlfriend, and he asked me if one roll of toilet paper would be enough for the entire evening. Hard no.
weatherwitch 10 months ago
I'm absolutely bewildered by the hard no for one roll of loo roll for Four people in One evening!! Unless you all have upset stomachs there's not a chance in hell you can get through that much bog roll even if the ladies both have heavy periods at the same time. It's the most bonkers thing I've ever read 🤷🏻♀️
Load More Replies... Je souhaite 10 months ago
Now they need to be fair and do a section on the women Red Flags when you go to her place like for example 101 cats and no job LOL
Fellfromthemoon 10 months ago
Too many pets are always a red flag. Too many pets=more than the owner can reasonably take care of.
Load More Replies... Becky Samuel 11 months ago
It sounds like most of these people just want to date women or gay men. No wonder so mny are complaining they can't find a partner. Realistic expectations seem to be in short supply. Just because a man doesn't care for soft furnishings, pictures, and ornaments doesn't make him unworthy of a relationship.
Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 10 months ago
This is a whole lot of steryotyping.
Load More Replies... Jaeger (Jaeger) 10 months ago
Also, for some reason people don’t think men can have a fashionable house if they’re straight, only if there gay or have gay friends! Not to mention with the raising prices they may not be able to afford the luxury lifestyle you expect! That goes for both genders. (I really hope someone reads this, my thumbs hurt)
Jaeger (Jaeger) 10 months ago
This whole post is possibly the most Sexist piece of c**p I’ve ever seen. Realistic expectations people! Neither gender has to adhere perfectly to your expectations or your standards! If I have a 3-1 soap, what’s your issue? If I have MY HOME how I like it, if you constantly critique everything. Get the hell out, this is why it’s so hard for men to find a partner, this is what encourages toxic masculinity! I’m a man and my dad was/is like that, it’s horrible. Every day of my life I try to break free of this horrible stereotype! Trying to prove that not all men are bad, and gross… Not to mention no one gives a s**t if a man gets R*ped they just tell them to grow up! Posts like this is what’s wrong with humanity.
ElfVibratorGlitter 10 months ago
Biggest thing is the actual toilet. Come on, it takes very little effort to get the turd streaks off the bowl. 🤮
Orysha 10 months ago
What's this rubbish poll Justin? Any kind of collection is a concern for women? What I find most concerning in this thread is that these women seem to hate minimalism and think it's a way to spot serial killers. What's all the rage with pillows too?
sofacushionfort 10 months ago
I’d be amazed at some of the judementality these women inflict on men, but that would pale in comparison with how they judge other women’s homes.
Je souhaite 10 months ago
A lot of these are not even red flags just happy guys living their happy SINGLE lives without someone moving in and controlling every aspect of their lives
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