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Judging others—it’s something that we all do, all the time. Whether we’re aware of it or entirely subconsciously, we’re constantly evaluating and interpreting the world around us. Making comments about people and situations in our heads. Checking how the world conforms to how we imagine it should be like. And frowning upon anyone who litters!

After being prompted to open up by redditor u/supercoliofy, internet users began sharing the things that make them silently judge people. Taking a deep dive into their comments is enlightening: we’ve judged people for similar things; we’ve done some of the things in this list that deserve judgment.

Read on for some silent judgment-gone-loud, upvote the posts you agree with, and drop on by the comment section to share your opinions, dear Pandas. Do bamboo thieves make you angry? Do you think people give other bears more recognition? We’re very interested to hear what makes you silently judge someone.

Bored Panda reached out to Lee Chambers, a Psychologist and Wellbeing Consultant, to talk about why we judge other people, as well as what role this plays in our lives.

"Judging others is something that we as humans do, both consciously and automatically, and there are a number of reasons why we do it. Comically, we are often told as children not to judge others and have stories shared about how judging others can mean we upset them or lose opportunities to see what really lies behind our perception," he told Bored Panda. Scroll down for our interview with Lee!

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People I immediately judge you if you make fun of someone who's trying. I saw someone make fun of an overweight classmate despite the fact that he was doing diets, running, and exercising. He's putting an effort and you have no right to s**t on him.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I see an overweight person in a gym I always silently say to myself "good for you"

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Psychologist Lee, the founder of Essentialise Workplace Wellbeing and PhenomGames, revealed to Bored Panda some of the reasons why we judge other people.

"Sometimes, we judge others to feel superior ourselves, finding faults in others, highlighting them, and feeling better about ourselves in the process. Sometimes, we use it to work out where we fit in, recognizing how we want to be, where our aspirations lie, and how we don't want to become," he said.

"Sometimes, it's in response to our own flaws, and we attack others for what we don't like or don't see into ourselves. And on other occasions, it's to fit into a wider group who judge something or someone, and we conform and perform with the same judgment."

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People People who have no awareness of their surroundings when they're out in public.

It doesn't cost anything to wait your turn in a queue, hold a door open for someone, turn on your indicators 10 seconds earlier than you just did, or not block off the entire pavement because you want to hold hands with your husband / wife.

It's so selfish. Drives me mad just thinking about it.

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people who don't say please and thank you.

people who act like a d**k to service staff like cashiers and waiters.

people who generally show a lack of consideration to other people.

one thing my dad always told me: manners cost nothing.

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According to Lee, being judgmental can be good and it "does have some benefits when used mindfully," however.

"It can help us to set goals, find alignment with our values, it can help us to build the self-awareness of others and it can boost our self-esteem," he told Bored Panda.

"Add to that it can also help us to make positive social choices, and it's understanding how and why we judge that gives us the ability to use it for our benefits instead of escaping our flaws or pulling others down."

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People Littering. It hurts to watch, I don't see how people can litter.

Edit: Hey Cloin

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Brian Bennett
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it is what you are taught in the home this is something that needs to be learned from birth! If I tried it outside - would you do that at home?

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I judge people for not washing their hands after using the bathroom

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG! YES! My OCD spikes out of control for things like this. End up getting panic attacks if I feel surrounded by too much of it😓

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People Racism. In any form.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't be silent about racism. Judge loud and clear. Make sure people hear your voice.

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Far from everyone makes errors with malicious intent. Quite often, people aren’t even aware that they’re making a mistake. Or they might not think that something that elicits judgment (like parking wrong or being late to meet someone all the friggin’ time) is actually that big of a deal. It’s selfishness and we’ve all got that, just in varying amounts.

We know that being self-aware of our own flaws is difficult. For one, nobody likes thinking that they’re less than perfect. Besides, we don’t have the luxury of seeing our behavior from a different perspective. That’s why it’s important to speak up if you see someone constantly making the same mistakes.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People When they have no knowledge of the topic but is still arguing to the person who actually has the knowledge. I mean seriously if you dont know what you're talking about then stfu

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a big one. I don't know why we started treating all opinions as equal. They are not! Truck driver's opinion on health issues is worthless just like doctor's opinion on double clutching a semi.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People having a ton of kids while poor

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you are poor, you probably don't have access to affordable birth control.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People People who talk really loud on the phone in quiet public places.

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If you don’t hear any criticism about what you do, then it’s only natural to assume you’re ‘perfect’ and ‘flawless.’ If there’s no feedback, how can we expect someone to learn? Overly selfish people don’t change their ways at the drop of a hat. It takes a series of moments of clarity to get them to think that maybe—just maybe—they might need to rethink some things. However, some individuals find it hard to get past the embarrassment that comes from realizing they’ve been making mistakes.

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"We spend a lot of time and effort presenting an ideal version of ourselves to other people. When something happens that contrasts with the image we’ve been projecting—when we say or do something that shows we actually aren’t as graceful or as smart as we’d like people to believe—we feel embarrassed," Vanessa Bohns from Cornell University explained to Bored Panda.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People People walking toward you that don't put equal effort into avoiding collision. I'll move a bit, but you should do the same. You expect me to walk around you?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This! One time, 3 people were walking towards me side by side, taking up the entire pavement. I would have had to walk in the busy road to avoid them. They did not move over one inch. I just stopped in the pavement and looked at them. They also stopped in front of me until it got awkward and they grew enough social awareness to apologise... 😑

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People Parents of unruly children

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't judge silently about this. I give off a very pissed off vibe and looks to the parents. Keep your little buggers away from me and start parenting please.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People I can't stand people who piss on the toilet seat and don't clean it.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How could you just leave your own urine and poop on a public toilet seat with a clear conscience? ಠ▃ಠ

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"Discovering you were wrong about something most everyone else around you has long known to be true is one of those moments. In that moment we learn, 'Wait a minute, maybe I haven’t been presenting the image of being smart or worldly that I thought I was presenting all this time,' which is embarrassing."

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People Not using a turn signal when driving. It's not that hard, and it's pretty arrogant not to use one

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think I've been the only BMW driver that used their turn signals. I’ve heard tales of others doing the same. But they're probably apocryphal and now lost in time.

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I can't stand people who don't pick up their dog's s**t! You're a scumbag!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

or those folks who leave doggy poo bags hanging from trees and bushes like weird Christmas decorations... they just can't be bothered to put it in the doggy bin..

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Being unjustifiably rude to waiters, sales associates, janitors, etc. (basically anyone who is being paid to perform a service for you)

It is extremely telling of a person's character.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Saw a old, spoiled lady getting her bad character out on a approx. 20 y.o. waiter, because he didn't get the 6 wine glasses at the same filling level on first try. From then on, she always watched him and shook her head and said things like "i would be shamed soo much if i were him". Next morning (it was in a hotel) i overheard from her family that she got a stomach bug and diarrhea and can't make it to breakfast. Well deserved

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"The 10 keys to happier living are giving, relating, exercising, awareness, trying out, direction, resilience, emotions, acceptance, and meaning. We are likely to be happier if our lives have direction, meaning, and purpose and if we are part of something bigger than ourselves," Sarah Vero from ‘Action for Happiness’ told Bored Panda.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People People who bring children to situations that are not appropriate for children.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mmm.... define 'appropriate' for children. The picture suggests an office. I don't judge for this. People don't want to bring their kids to offices and the like. If they do it's usually because they don't have any other option and they are doing the best they can with what they have. Bars and genuine inappropriate places and times are a different story.

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Even worse are the people who play their music through their speakers on a trail. You're outside its gorgeous there are birds and s**t. Turn off you god damn music you're ruining it for the rest of us.

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Finally: "I judge people who complain about politics, but choose not to vote

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unless you can't legally vote. In my country, we have lots of people disenfranchised from voting, often for very petty reasons. If you're politically active and engaged in other ways, I figure you've earned your right to complain -- even if you can't vote.

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"Think about how you can reach out and do things for others, help a neighbor or volunteer for a cause, we get happiness high from helping other people. Or start small and simply list three things that you can be grateful for each night before bed. Take it slow and be kind to yourself,” she suggested how people can learn to open up to new experiences and helping others.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People Parking.

If you can't get within the lines the first time, it's ok to adjust.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People Not paying attention to your screaming kid. Like not even trying.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes ignoring my screaming kid is the best discipline available. If s/he is having a stupid tantrum, I'm not going to feed it with attention. Depends on the tantrum and the reason of course, but your judgement does not affect my parenting.

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People who chew with their mouths open

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Throwing others under the bus in the work place for their own personal gain. Especially when they do it in front of a group of people,

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I work at a Starbucks in a grocery store and I have two regulars with scrawny, super scraggly kids and they spend $7-$10 on one or two drinks while they yell at their kid for wanting a 75 cent doughnut.

The kicker is that they're paying with food stamps.

So that. I judge that.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel sorry when mommy and daddy coming in for lots of beer and stronger stuff, but the kids got nothing.

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When you tailgate me when there is a slow car in front of me. What a pointless action and people do it all the time. It accomplishes nothing except making the road even more dangerous than it already is.

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Not spaying/neutering their pets.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Our younger kitty is being snipped and chipped right this minute. Sweet little baby.

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People who don't take care of their dogs.

I'm not talking about people who don't feed some super premium dog food, or get them groomed every 2 weeks, or even those people who opt to euthanize because they can't afford a 12K surgery.

I'm talking about doing the bare f**king minimum. Take a brush and brush your dog. Find a food that doesn't give him explosive diarrhea every time he has to take a s**t. Give that little turd factory some discipline so he stops trying to maul toddlers when he inevitably dashes out your front door and across the street. For f**ks sake, run your labs and goldens until they're too tired to move any more. A tired dog is a happy dog.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People I judge people who shut down those asking questions and trying to learn more

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

so religious zealots, obstinate teachers, totalitarian governments - most of society's figures of authority

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I'm not always silent about it, but people at my local supermarket who refuse to return their shopping carts, but instead leave them to roll into other cars whenever the next wind gust comes along.

The last lady I confronted about this said some bulls**t that was basically blah blah blah my bad back, but she managed to push it all around the store and then fully loaded out to her car, now she suddenly can't push a now-empty cart a few more feet to the return?? Can't stand those people.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In Belgium we have to put a coin in the trolley to be able to use it. Simple solution.

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People who are habitually late to things. It's one of the most inconsiderate things I can thing of and yet it seems so common

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm guilty of always being late. However, I'm just happy if beat my anxiety long enough to get me there at all.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope the people around you realize how hard this is for you, and are proud of you for the steps you take

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is another one of those "give people grace" things. I will agree that past 20 minutes, I have a much harder time extending grace. I know that for folks with ADHD, time is an extremely difficult thing to track. For example, I can't tell you how long something will take, even if I've done it a hundred times. I am very reliant on alarms and calendar notifications as a result. I HATE being late b/c I grew up in a family that was always late, yet it still happens to me no matter how much I try to pre-plan. I guess what I'm saying is that those of us who are habitually late need to find tools to keep us on track. I'm also saying to those of you with the magical gift of time-awareness to please grant the rest of us some grace. Most of us hate it more than you do because the shame is doubled by your disdain.

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Joey Marlin
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find using alarms and notifications useful too. Personally I mind people being early and turning up when I'm not ready far, far worse!!

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People who have ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) are often late despite they try their best to not be late. It's not because they don't care. They feel guilt because of it, but it's still difficult for them to change this. People with other invisible health problems may be late too. You say it's difficult for you because the other person is late, but what if the other person is late because because having difficulties in life? We don't see other people's struggles. Judgmentality is much worse than being often late. However, it also matters how much someone is late, and how much problem does this cause. I was talking about being late for a few minutes, not for a huge amount of time.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The one that gets me is when someone is 20 minutes late but walks in with a Starbucks. You knew you were late but still decided to stop for coffee.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

2 friends of mine are always late. I don't even bother leaving the house until an hour after our meet time because of how late they are.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is how I filter friends mostly. I would never be patient for this habit enough to have healthy relationships

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes!! It is so incredibly rude to be always late! You're telling me I'm not important to you. Be late a few times and I'm done planning things with you. I'm not important to you, you won't be important to me either.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

... And, if you're always late, don't ask me to tell you everything that was said or has taken place, and don't ask me to share my notes and make excuses for you..... Don't be surprised when I don't include you when I am the hostess...

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have ADHD and always lose track of time! Multiple alarms don't help!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My sister is late for everything. I always kid her that when she passes away, we are going to hold the hearse back for an hour because that's what we are used to.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I spoke with a friend who studied psychology, she said being perpetually late is a form of passive aggression. My sister was one of those people when we were young. So we got around it by telling her to be there an hour BEFORE the scheduled time, worked like a charm

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The studies I've read say that most people who are always late (in western culture), genuinely constantly underestimate how long things take. They'll see that google maps says it's a 20 minute drive, and not factor in things like packing the car or finding parking or all the other things that take time, and thus end up late, without ever realizing why.

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Andy Acceber
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This definitely differs culturally. Try to cut people slack where you can, and talk to them honestly if it becomes a recurring issue.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't care about your bad excuses. Be on time or don't come. Don't waste my time. You're an adult, start acting like it.

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Melissa Girvan Grant
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm always late for everything. I'm autistic and just struggle to understand and manage my time.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My bad thing. I don't know why I do this. Sometimes it's a problem of magical thinking - I think I have lots more time than I do or I think it won't take very long to get somewhere and it does. Often it is that I just don't want to go and I am delaying leaving home because I don't want to

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is me, sorry, I try really hard to be on time but I’m almost always either late or WAAAY too early.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a friend who was chronically late. We used to give her a fake start time: If it was to start at 2pm we told her noon. If 8pm we told her 6pm. This all stopped when we finally realized that she didn't give a s**t that she was late. She thought it was funny that we would get upset. So we stopped inviting her.

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Helen Haley
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well you can just get over it. I fight the clock every morning. Sometimes I'm awake a full 20 minutes before reality takes hold and I realize I'm awake and things need to happen. Sometimes I get up to one of the animals destroyed something that if I don't take care of will end in veterinarian bills. Sometimes I'll fall into or out of the bathtub getting ready. Honestly, there is such a multitude of things that can go wrong and no amount of 'just get up 10 minutes earlier' is going to solve it. The constant clock-watching is just about the most annoying habit I can think of. You judge me for running 10 minutes late, I'm judging you for being so leashed to a clock that you feel the need to be pettily annoyed by my problems because it might mildly inconvenience you.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom is always late/making us late to things, and it's really frustrating.

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Mary Rose Kent
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a friend who’s Potawatomi and makes occasional “Indian time” comments, but overall he manages his time fairly well.

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Mark Fuller
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep. My wedding day, a decade ago - arrive after the ceremony. We didn't do evening invitations. So bloody rude!!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those who are late dont values others people time. I dont have time for those pople in my life.

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Jackie Nettleton
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate being late it stresses me out so bad that I have to be at least 10 minutes early for any appointments I have or I think I’m going to be late and Then I’m unsettled until after the appointment. It’s the same even if I know that the other person will probably be late

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Anna Tribe
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm usually 20 minutes early for an appointment and if someone is coming to my home for an appointment then I'm ready 20 minutes before the appointment and if they come more than 20 minutes late they have to reschedule because I just can't wait longer with my anxiety.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Often it’s attention seeking behaviour if it’s consistent. Everyone has to stop what they’re saying or doing to watch the late person arrive.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh! My sister! I tried to have a Sunday family dinner once a month. Her drive time was less than 30 minutes and she was ALWAYS late. We tried telling her 3:30 instead of 4:00, but it didn't work. We just decided that she didn't care enough to be on time & started eating @ 4:00 regardless. My amazingly creamy mashed potatoes & "it's a food group" gravy are all gone now. Tough sh*t, Sis.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not okay with people who are habitually late *despite* knowing fully that it's making everyone wait or miss something because - 1) they're of the "party doesn't start without me" mentality or 2) They simply don't care that other people are getting screwed over and don't bother to make an effort to NOT be late. If someone is habitually late because of a health thing (anxiety, depression, other illness, mobility issues) I'll try to adjust for that on MY end and/or at least let them know "I know you might be late, and if you are, we'll still save you a seat, but we gotta go in or else we lose our spot, is that cool?" and if it's not... then... they can opt out of coming.

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Christoph
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

whatever the challenge - start to leave earlier or dont agree to a time. It is highly self-centered to make a person wait.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am often late and I couldn't figure out why. I read a study that said that optimistic people are often late because they believe they can get one more thing done and still be on time. This describes me exactly.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Inconsiderate. Exactly. You know yourself at some point. You know your habits, your flaws, what takes time and how much. You can’t always plan for unexpected stuff, but after some time even some of these you can partly compensate. If you don’t do this or more precisely don’t want to do this it only means one thing: you put yourself, your time, above others, declining respect.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She yes, someone who has never had prime responsibility for a child, and knows nothing of buckling a damn car seat in winter or summer

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RoseAnne Hutchence
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Acceptance of that tiresome habit seems to equate with permission to continue.

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Michaelann Dahlman
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I used to often be late for appointments because I made the stupid assumption that the bus was always going to be on time & not taking traffic into account. I now judge the time including possible traffic issues & take an earlier bus than I think I will need. Plus I give myself 15 minutes to get to the bus stop, even though it's only a block away. Now I am either on time or early & I am relaxed & not stressed out.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I used to despise being late but I've learned to let it go bc despite all the planning, prepping, and leaving plenty of time kids and life throw curveballs.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry I'm late replying! My wife is always late, except pointing at the obvious!

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Paul Beebe
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I consider it a form of disrespect if you can't be on time...

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or regularly backing out of things. I know someone who says she's it's because she's an introvert. No, you're an a**hole with no time management skills. I'm an introvert too, but I know my social limits.

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Michelle Thiel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or, maybe she knows it's healthy for her to get out among people so she optimistically says yes to invitations. But when it's time to get ready, she realizes that her mental health just can't handle it today, so she backs out.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My ex-sister-in-law was late for everything. Whatever the situation her chronic lateness made her the focus of all family occasions (funeral, weddings, holidays, etc). I finally stopped playing the game and just started the event without her. Needless to say, she was not amused.

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Thorfin Wolfsbane
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We used to tell my sister we're starting 30 min. before we planned to arrive - that way she's on time.

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Vasana Phong
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Again just because you have a 15 minute grace period for your appointment does not mean you come in when there’s only 2 minutes left, your appointment is technically over

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my wife's sister . never been on time or early for anything in the 35 years i've known her

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Yes, not sorry I don't have a lot of tolerance for people who like to waste other's time. Even ten-minutes is very precious to me, I can feed my dog, water the plant and basically do a lot of things.

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People who are habitually late are just secretly telling you that they don't value your time or your friendship.

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Jozsef Szabo
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's just one of the possibilities. Some people are late because this. But some other people are late because they have some problems. Don't jump into conclusions, it can do more harm than being late can do.

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Ppl hu typ lyk dis.

Or people who don't use punctuation or at least a damn full stop to break up their god damned sentences. Drives me insane and although I'm not the greatest at punctuation and grammar, I automatically think you're and idiot.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

While we are at it I judge people who put too much emphasis on completely arbitrary and nonsensical rules of language grammar. Go have a heart attack correcting Shakespeare who even spelled his own name 5 different ways.

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Definitely smoking cigarettes while pregnant. I can't help not judging you for that s**t.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a coworker who "only feeds her children bio foods" but she's smoking while breastfeeding...

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If you don't like animals....I don't know if I like you.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People There's nothing I dislike more than when a husband feels like he has to act like his wife's authority while other people are around. I hate gender roles in relationships

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Gender roles in general arw extremely harmful for us all

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People who don't say "thank you".

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is so rude. It's one word, takes one second and is only needed once. Thank-you.

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cheating on their spouse

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seriously? How hard is it to be honest and say, 'hey. This isn't working for me any longer.' Don't go around behind their backs.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People People who have their phones out in a goddamn movie theater. We all payed the same price. I don't care if you don't want to get your money's worth, I do. I am going to yell and you and if you don't stop, throw popcorn at you till you do.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And those who don't stop talking all the way through the film, it actually puts me off going to the cinema as you just can't enjoy the experience with the distractions 😶

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People Constantly posting condescending political rants on facebook.

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40 People Open Up About What Makes Them Silently Judge People Anyone who adopts a "whatever" policy to being late. I freak out when I'm late for something, and it absolutely blows my mind when people just don't care.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've seen way too many people who think arriving an hour late to an important event makes them cooler

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Being involved in an MLM... Scentsy, Essential Oils, It Works!, etc.

It's not that I don't appreciate the fact that they are trying to better themselves. It's that I assume they are really stupid for getting suckered in the first place.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate when my friends in MLMs start selling to me, and it ruins the friendship when I say no. Don't assume I'm buying anything just because we're friends.

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Crass public behaviour, especially while drunk. If you can't handle your alcohol without being a s**t, don't drink. Hate it.

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