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“I Never Talked To Her Again”: 35 Heartbreaking Stories Of How Friendships Ended
Interview With Expert
There are few things in life more beautiful than a strong, platonic relationship. You may never tire of hanging out with your best friend, and you likely feel comfortable sharing absolutely everything with them. They know you better than you know yourself, and you can rely on your bestie to be there on your absolute best and worst days.
But just like in romantic relationships, there might come a day when you have a painful realization that your partner in crime doesn’t value you as much as you value them. Redditors have been sharing stories of why they ended friendships with their former BFFs, so we’ve gathered the most heartbreaking tales below. We hope these stories don’t remind you of any of your own friendships, pandas. But if they do, remember that you deserve better. And keep reading to find a conversation with Olivia Brouillette-Wardhono, Founder, Lead Psychologist and Integrative Somatic Practitioner at Therapy With Olivia.
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#1
He surrendered his dog back to the shelter, after 5 years of owning him.
His name was Dusty. He was a golden retriever, and he was the best boy ever. I would play fetch with him for hours until he would nearly pass out at my feet. Dusty was amazing! I loved him.
One day, I go over to Dale's house, and I say "Where's Dusty?" He answers "Oh, I gave him back to the shelter."
Me ~ "F**k! Why??!?!"
Dale ~ "I only got him so that I could meet girls easier, and now that I'm married I don't need him anymore. Besides, having a dog is a lot of responsibility."
Me ~ "But you knew how I felt about him. WHY didn't you ask me? I would have gladly adopted him!"
Dale ~ "You know, I never even thought of that."
I left immediately and drove to the shelter. Dusty had already found a new home. So, I'm sad and glad in the same moment.
F**k you, Dale. You're a d**k and I'm glad your wife finally divorced your selfish a*s.
ॐBoyGanesh 8 months ago (edited)
I can’t fathom having such a lack of emotional attachment to any pet, especially a dog. My dog was my soulmate for 16 years & his death broke me more than the loss of people in my life. I’ve a new dog now carrying his spirit and he’s quickly becoming my best friend. My my son & husband are my ♡ & soul, but this puppy is a close second. To lack any emotional attachment or empathy is pathological. Dale is a garbage person.
Alexandra 8 months ago
My day just started and I'm angry already! I honestly don't know what I would have done if Dale was standing in front of me.
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Nina 8 months ago
What type of human being do you have to be to get a dog to get girls?? And to ditch the dog since the goal is accomplished? If I were dating the dude, he would be ditched as well.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 8 months ago
I seriously wonder how Dale's wife felt about the whole thing. Even if Dale didn't give a sh!t about Dusty, did *she* love him? My ex ended up loving the cat and dog I had when we met/first started dating almost as much as I loved them.
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Eroe Infinito 8 months ago
My ex best friend sold his GF's cat for d**g money. After 6 months of "them" searching he finally spilled the beans. They had been together for 6 years and finally broke up basically as soon as she found out.
Kristin 7 months ago
I always say we don't deserve the love of animals. My 2 cats Baby and captain (both maine c**n) are my heart. I always think of the day that they will one day not be with me anymore and it legit hurts. I ended a relationship cause he said it's me or your stupid cats. You can guess which I picked and quick too. He didn't like that I had an extra room for them as their space. Its literally a huge cat tree and climbing shelves and the window is their catio haha but he wanted it for his game room (another thing I hated) my fur babies were there before him and I'm not going to give them up for anyone.
Andy Johnson 8 months ago
I had a housemate who brought in 2 cats, one of which immediately attached himself to me. Every time I was home he was next to me, at my feet, or laying on top of me...he even slept in my bed whether or not I was home. She was moving back out of state and couldn't take both cats. So she tells me - while I'm laying on the couch with him monorailed on my hip, purring loud enough to hear across the room - that she thought she had found a nice home for him and was taking him there in the morning.
Andy Johnson 8 months ago
I stared at her in complete shock. She said "well you know I can't take him with me. They'll be a good home for him." I said "And I wouldn't?" she said she never considered leaving him with me. I told her he was more my cat now than hers, just LOOK at him. Apparently she felt it more important to keep her word to this random person than to burn her last bridge with me, so she took him to them while I was at work the next day. For that and several other things I never forgave her and never spoke to her again.
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To find out how this conversation began in the first place, we got in touch with the Reddit user who started this thread, Throwbackblue. They revealed that they were inspired to start this conversation after seeing multiple friendships end over small differences. "But then I would see similar conflicts in other friendships, and they would stay friends," they told Bored Panda.
As for why they believe ending a friendship is so painful, the OP shared, "Because a lot of people rely on their friendships for emotional support. Also, a lot of people feel like they let themselves down because they should have seen it coming."
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#2
Friends for 20 years. She didn't drive so pretty much the entire friendship I would take her grocery shopping every week. I took her cats to the vet. Helped her when she lost her house. For 20 years I asked her for nothing.
My husband ended up suddenly being diagnosed with brain cancer. The day he was released from the hospital after having a tumor the size of a lemon removed, I called in a prescription he needed and our local pharmacy didn't have it so I would have to drive an hour round trip and my husband wasn't able to handle that amount of time in the car so I called to ask if she could stay with him while I got his meds. She told me no because she wanted to go to the store with her boyfriend. I called my neighbor and she watched him.
I never talked to her again. It's been almost 10 years.
patricia patricia 7 months ago
She got a boyfriend, she didn't need her friend anymore.
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Sven Horlemann 8 months ago
Typical, I'd say. This never was a friendship, but one being immensely useful to the other. Been there, done that.
Sapna Sarfare 8 months ago
a*****e.. but i know this behaviour.. was hospitalised myself and a person very close to me (not friend) said not to staying overnight for one day in the hospital with me..
Oops 8 months ago
I had a heart attack, lived alone and called a friend for help (couldnt think clear, or i had called 911), she did very unwillingly, left me at the emergency room , cause she had to go to work. Yelled at me later she will never ever do this again because of the trouble i caused. I was in tears. I didnt this for purpose. This ended a 20 year old "friendship".
Next, we asked Throwbackblue what they thought of the replies to their post. "From what I read, a lot of times people's friendships end because of their perception of their friends," they shared. "They believe their friends are a certain way, and when they finally see another side of them, they feel betrayed."
"I feel like people should always be open to understanding that humans have many layers to them," the author continued. "Just because your perception of your friend changed doesn't mean you can't give them grace and remain friends."
#3
I met some new people and I noticed that I liked hanging out with them more because they didn't make me feel like c**p. I didn't really notice it at the time but looking back on it now, I realize that the guy I considered my best friend was actually my biggest bully. He was constantly insulting me, embarrassing me on front of other people, belittling me... And I just thought that's what friends did. I had to make real friends to learn that's not the case.
Tyke 8 months ago
It is, but it's also lovely that he did find true friendships eventually
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detective miller's hat 8 months ago
I had a "best friend" like this in middle school. Our mothers were friends because they both came from the same county in Ireland, so when I stopped being her friend, they both got mad at me, and made me out to the "bully" who ditched her for new friends.
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 8 months ago
Yeah, my friend group are all pretty rude, we all do it and it’s in a joking way but when you take it too far people can get hurt.
Riley Quinn 8 months ago
As a socially-awkward geek, I bounced from one group to another for many years. Too slow on the uptake, it wasn't easy for me to discern who were actual friends and who kept me around for their entertainment. Thought being an adult would change things, but it didn't. Makes me wonder if I'm neurodivergent minus the diagnosis.
Fester Sixonesixonethree 8 months ago
It took me a long time to learn that lesson. My family treated me pretty much the same way, so I wasn't aware.
Boredest Panda 8 months ago
I know you were downvoted, but to some extent, I agree. Sometimes to a person, it’s important for a friend to feel comfortable in this kind of mutual relationship. It’s also important to know when you’ve crossed the line and be able to apologize.
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"That's something I've found myself asking throughout periods of my life. And, just like with everything, what it means to be a good friend depends on the person, but we can look at the general idea of a good friend, and what makes us feel good within our friendships," Olivia shared.
"A good friend is someone you feel safe with, secure with, someone you can depend on when you need and you would offer the same to them; they're the people in your life where you get just as much as you give, and you will always be there for them like they would be there for you," the therapist explained. "It's great when a friend shares similar interests and values, but even if you don't, there's equal respect for one another."
#4
My dad died. I asked if a few of my friends would hang out and have a low-key night playing video games. I told them I didn't want to have a big party. They said that was cool. I showed up and they'd invited a ton of people for a huge house party. Then they got pissed that I was "just sulking on the couch" and got s****y with me. Our friendship never recovered and now we don't talk at all.
Benz Thomas 8 months ago
My uncle passed away. I told exactly 3 people. Two messaged their condolences. No calls, just so sorry for your loss type generic message. Had been friends with them for more than a decade when this happened. Haven't spoken to them after. My girlfriend was the 3rd person who I messaged. We had been dating for 3 months. She turned up at my door within the hour. We are now married.
#5
We always worked on his car together. I always worked on my car alone.
#6
Didn't end it myself, but accepted it ended when I realized if I stopped talking, I'd never hear from him again.
ॐBoyGanesh 8 months ago
I left Fb & most social media about 5 years ago. I did it to weed out all the noise from people who are now merely acquaintances & who had too much of my attention. This also allowed my truly close friendships to weed their way through a ton of online, barely tertiary friends. Most friendships are fluid. They come & go. Right now I know who means the most to me and who I mean the most to, because we’ve kept in constant contact irl.
Lowrider 56 8 months ago
I kind of stepped back in my social life but not once in the last 11 years nobody reached out to me to see if I was OK.
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Susan 8 months ago
I've done this 3 times with people I thought were "friends" until I realized that I was always the one reaching out and making plans (which they usually cancelled) and each time after I went radio silent it took them each about a year to contact me. Usually the contact was a vague "haven't heard from you in a while, give me a call" which I never followed up on because I don't need that in my life.
Wysteria_Rose 8 months ago
YESSSS. I did this with someone and it only seemed to really hit her when the first interaction she had with me was her trying to invite me to her baby shower. I didn't feel comfortable that the first time in years that she actually invited me somewhere was for a party where she gets stuff. I declined and said the time just didn't work. She used a mutual friend to ask me about it. I told them that I just couldn't do it and would send a card, that I wished her the best, and that was that. Now I'm looking at my own baby shower and just don't feel the need to invite her. The friendship's been gone for years.
Lihi Porat 7 months ago
Exactly what happened to me with my bff, just a year and a half ago. I had enough of her coming up with excuses not to hang out or her not putting the same effort as me in our friendship. So I decided to give her the silent treatment, to see if she would miss me. Apparently she didn't.
So how do we know when a friendship has run its course?
"Each person will have a different idea of when any relationship needs to come to an end, but here are some common things I see in friendships (or any relationship) that ends," Olivia says. "Disrespect; lack of shared interests/things that kept the bond strong, or lack of respect for each other's interests; lying or hiding things from one another; a lack of trust and safety with the person; and, of course, any time there is violence between two people (verbal, emotional, physical, doesn't really matter – once you cross that line, it's incredibly difficult to come back from it)."
#7
We were friends for over 40 years. Friends since childhood.
We entered into a business together and he completely screwed me over, taking most of the money with him, and leaving me in crushing debt.
Years later I asked why he did it. His answer; "Because you're an atheist. You rejected god, so you deserve everything you get."
And that, was that.
Robert Cosgrove 8 months ago
So he believes his God is okay with stealing money and ruining people ?
Scott Riley 8 months ago
People use God to rationalize anything. Including war. In general, I think bad people will use anything to rationalize their behavior. Just because a bad person practices a religion, there is nothing that negates them being a bad person.
Sandra Angulo 8 months ago
The scariest thing is when they ask atheists or agnostics “if there is no god then what’s keeping you from killing or hurting people or lying and stealing?” Uhh, basic human morality?
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Libstak 8 months ago
He actually said love one another as I have loved you....just one little itty bitty thing to master and yet, here we are *Jesus facepalms*.
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Fester Sixonesixonethree 8 months ago
Yeah - a very good example of what currently passes for "christian love." F**k that s**t.
Peppa Pig plus 8 months ago
Moral of the story have a lawyer look over any business agreement.
#8
The second I got brain cancer I stopped being included in their lives.
Billo66 8 months ago
Funny how that works. As soon as I was diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma mine found a new healthy replacement right away. I kept my kids though. so win win except for the cancer but honestlt it's almost worth it to be rid of her. Very toxic.
CSC 8 months ago
Good luck to you with the multiple myeloma. I'll be thinking of you.
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Babs McGurk 8 months ago
I'm sorry that happened to you, but that's not how all of us handle it. My BFF was diagnosed with glioblastoma multiforma in January of 2020, and passed away in June of that year. During that six months, even though she was not communicative, I still visited and talked to her, because - well, she was my best friend. I'm sorry your 'friends' were such d***s.
Oops 8 months ago
As my husband was diagnosed with cancer, his brother and sister played dead, no phone calls or else. My hubby was helping them with everything, procured their flats, cause they were too lazy to do this themselves, furnishing them and so on. Did everything. No asking how i was feeling, how hubby was doing. I hate them.
Little Bit 8 months ago
It is at times when you are most in need of a friend that you find out who your true friends are,
#9
Because I terminated a complicated pregnancy.
She sure wears that p***y hat and feminist sweatshirt proudly. .
Orysha 8 months ago
Feminist until you do something she disagrees with : those fakers are the worst.
Chris the Bobcat 8 months ago
Sadly, women in this position are losing that option in the USA. jesus freak morality for one and all.
nicholas nolan 8 months ago
Stop giving segregationists the out. Some of the furthest right protestant sects had support for abortion for the "physical and mental health of the mother" in their bylaws until segregationists inserted the idea that the fetus is exactly the same as their own born children into church woman's groups in the 70s. If they didn't have churches, they would have done it in their Rotary clubs.
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SkyyCaramba 8 months ago
if my friend had terminated a complicated pregnancy, I woulda made sure that they know I support them
Kristin 7 months ago
This reminded me of a situation with an old friend. It wasn't a terminated pregnancy but she had a cat and that cat was beautiful and such a sweetheart 💕 she got with a guy that has 2 kids and the cat didn't really like kids to begin with but anyways the cat was always hiding cause the kids were aggressive with her and one day I went over for a dinner and asked where the cat was, she said oh I out her down yesterday. I asked wtf why?! She said cause she didn't like having a cat who wasn't social!!!! I couldn't believe she said that and I still question what she told the vet for the vet to agree putting her down. That was the end of our friendship 🤷♀️ I'm a huge animal lover.
We also asked Olivia why ending a friendship is often so painful.
"I think friendship breakups hurt way more than a romantic relationship breakup," she told Bored Panda. "Generally speaking, I think that's because we don't usually think that a friendship will come to an end, as we may with romantic relationships."
"We expect for us to make long lasting friendships, expecting our friends to be with us through thick and thin, in a way we don't expect from anyone else. We share things with friends that we wouldn't share with family or partners; we create bonds that dependent on shared interest and care for each other, with no expectations towards one another," the therapist explained. "So, when a friendship comes to an end, it almost feels like a death. And usually, our brains can't really tell the difference in grief. So in a way, it is like mourning a death."
#10
Every problem she had was an emergency that I needed to drop everything for and give her my undivided immediate attention. But when I was having a rough time, the reply I got from her was 'stop your s**t'.
ॐBoyGanesh 8 months ago (edited)
When you realize they always see themselves as the main character & you as merely an extra.
Strings 8 months ago
I recently dealt with this with a friend. With an extra helping of "but I thought you were just like me!" thrown on top
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I was cooking dinner for my husband and myself and my friend called, screaming hysterically into the phone that her former roommate was at the door and she was sure he came to harm her. I shut off the oven and stove and rushed to her home, only to find her laughing and whooping it up with this "scary" guy who came to end her. That pretty much ended our friendship because it wasn't the first time she had pulled such a stunt.
Eroe Infinito 8 months ago
I'm sorry that happened to you but I'm glad you kicked her to the curve.
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Sven Horlemann 8 months ago
Easy - just treat them how they treat you. They will see themselves out.
Little Bit 8 months ago
When I waxs going through a particularly rough time with many bad things all happening at once (looking after my mum who had cancer, financial problems, a very poorly peg dog, the sudden death of my brother in law and redundancy) I had 'friends' who I'd dropped everything for in the past, who offered to 'help' in any way they could and that was the last I saw or heard from them.
#11
She told my kids they were the reason I tried to self delete. 25 years of friendship, someone I talked to every day no matter what state or country she was stationed in. I don’t even have to words to describe the emotion I feel. Heartbreak, anger, confusion… none of them apply. I’m just numb to her.
Jujumojo 8 months ago (edited)
I have multiple mental health diagnoses and I have children so that means unaliving myself is off the table. In the depths of my despair when all I could literally think about was throwing myself in front of semi truck and wishing i was de*d every waking moment I was still aware of the life changing trauma I would be inflicting on my kids. I just can't understand doing that to someone I love Obviously her friend s*cked and was cruel to the woman's kids but I couldn't be friends with either one of them I'm aware I will probably be down voted into oblivion
GalPalAl 8 months ago
What irks me the most about people who are users is that you can never hurt them emotionally because they are detached from reality. I always hope karma has a way go make them hurt and get the lesson. But you really have to have sympathy at least for another living being to make that work. Empty bag of human wastes
#12
In 2018, I was really sick with kidney failure and was in and out of the ER multiple times before I finally got diagnosed with CKD.
My friend didn't like that I was getting a lot of attention from our other friends and people in our small town. She decides to go around school and lie to people, saying I was lying about being sick and just wanted attention.
When I was finally getting better and was actually home for more then a few days she came over with a few of her friends and was laughing trying to embarrass me infront of them trying to get me to say I was infact lying about being sick.
Wasn't until I pulled out all the meds I was on and proved that I was yellowish in the skin (it was f*****g obvious when you actually looked at my eyes)
I Embarrassed her infront of everyone she cried and played victim. Ran out the house and I haven't talked to her since.
Bit sad bc we wore friends since kindergarten, but I igs that's what jealousy does to people so 🤷♀️🤷♀️.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 8 months ago
Cripes... my old gray cat was diagnosed with CKD at age 14 and I didn't give up on her. I didn't abandon a CAT who was ill, I can't imagine abandoning a friend who was ill.
Brian Droste 8 months ago
I want to know if OP was able to keep all of her other friends and what all the other friends thought of the bad friend after she pulled this stunt.
Amanda Hunter 8 months ago
I had a co-worker like her, she'd call HR saying people were faking sickness.
patricia patricia 7 months ago
You weren't friends since kindergarten. You were her friend, but she wasn't yours.
If you're going through a friendship breakup, Olivia recommends letting your grief out without judgement. "Any time anything comes to an end, including relationships that needed to end, there will be pain. That's just a natural, human experience," she shared.
"But that sadness and grief happens only when we have deep love and care towards someone or something. If you're dealing with a friendship breakup, you're allowed to be hurt and sad, it just shows how much you love and care for that person and that relationship," Olivia continued. "Lean on the people that you do have in your life and try to focus on surrounding yourself with love. Take care of yourself like you would if you were going through a breakup with a partner."
#13
She slept with my husband while I was in the hospital *having his baby*.
Kathaleen Chivers 8 months ago
The exact same thing happened to me. He said “I’ll go and grab you a pack of smokes so you’ll have some in the morning” (yes we could smoke in the hospital, in the paternity ward) the point is he didnt come back for three days and was banging my “best friend”. My marriage was my shortest relationship.
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HangryHangryHippo 8 months ago
The two of them are POS! The betrayal hurts not matter when, but they chose the worst possible time, when OP was most vulnerable and needing them 🤬
The Big Bad 8 months ago
Honestly... Cheating is the worst, but cheating with your friends partner/your partners friend... Just why...
BrownEyedGrrl 8 months ago
My now ex best friend slept with my ex-husband. You just don't DO that!
Riley Quinn 8 months ago
Sentence needs to be changed to, my stinking, low-life husband cheated on me while I was having his baby. Who he slept with is irrelevant because he's the one who strayed.
#14
He robbed me of a pathetically small amount of money that I would have given him if he had just asked.
ChugChug 8 months ago
No, its not about the money. Its about the idea of stealing from someone, especially from someone you call best friend. Especially that in my case he wasnt even in need, he just stole because of greed and he thought I was stupid. Do I need people like that in my life? No thanks.
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I spent years dying of organ failure. My friends began to see me as a burden. A reminder of their own mortality. So they stopped answering when I called and stopped coming by to visit. I spent months in the hospital withering in pain and no one came to see me besides my mom.
I got a transplant and I’m all better now, but I’m quite lonely and sad.
Riley Quinn 8 months ago
It took about 15yrs for my father to die after a construction accident. Oh, everyone gathered around expressing their concern and support initially, but eventually it must have become too boring for them to visit a bedridden man who could no longer be there for them.
ILoveMySon 8 months ago
Same with death. Many are there initially, but support is still needed after the funeral.
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"It's important to remember that, like any relationship, friendships take work to maintain and to feel good for both people involved," Olivia added. "It can take time to build a strong, meaningful connection with others, and just because it may take time with a friend does not mean that friendship isn't 'good' for you. And it's super normal to have disagreements – you don't have to agree with everything a friend says in order to stay friends. But as long as you share similar values, a friendship can withstand a lot."
#16
She texted me she was taking a bottle of pills, a goodbye letter to her mom, and all her passwords and info because she was committing s*****e while I was 2 hours away. She wouldn’t answer the phone for 20 minutes. I called 911.
She blamed me for an ambulance showing up to her apartment for a wellness check and said I overreacted.
meeeeeeeeeeee 8 months ago
This has happened to me twice with two different people...they are stupid c***s and at some point, someone might genuinely do it and I might not take action because of these wankers.
My O My 8 months ago
This happened with a former collegue. She would tell her friends so often that she is about to k**l herself NOW that the friends started a chat group to evaluate if they had to take action this time. Well, one day she indeed tried to o******e on paracetamol (dumb idea all around) and it took about an hour befor an ambulance was called. She ended up fine as she didn't take enough pills
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Crystalwitch60 8 months ago
Attention seeking entitled drama queen ! This is not a funny thing to do at all better off without her totally
#17
Didn’t want to be her friend anymore.. So now we’re engaged!
SheamusFanFrom1987 8 months ago
You do realize your spouse-to-be is also meant to be your friend as well, right...? Either way, congratulations.
#18
We had a dumb teenage falling out and both of us were too stubborn to reach out and apologize. Finally about 4 years later I reach out and we meet in person and reconcile. It was a nice reconciliation but we were never as close after that. I also realized in hindsight through the whole ordeal that I was always the one who had to be the “adult” or bigger person in our friendship. I think that’s why I waited 4 years to reach out, I wanted to see if they cared enough about me or the friendship to do it. And after we reconciled it felt like the responsibility to keep the friendship going was solely on me. As you grow up and make new friends in adulthood, you reach a point where you end friendships that are more work than they should be. In hindsight our friendship would have ended with or without the falling out, the falling out just made it happen sooner.
To this day I consider them my greatest childhood friend. But I don’t think our friendship was made to last into adulthood from the beginning. That’s life tho.
Wysteria_Rose 8 months ago
It's fine to make up and realize that it can't be the same. I have an ex best friend who I was asked if I ever would consider forgiving them for their part in the destruction of our relationship (one I tried to save but to little result). I have always said, "Yes, if he meant it, I would. But I could not trust him again, so a relationship wouldn't be possible. I would still wish him well though."
Wendy Melissa 8 months ago
Friendship can be for a Reason, a Season or a Lifetime. Hurts less when you loose one if you put it into perspective.
#19
I just couldn't get on board with her anymore. Her fake influencer job, genuinely believing she was a psychic. Raising her child on benefits but preaching to her followers that they should all follow their dreams and quit their job like her. Anti vaxxer. Doesn't wear a seatbelt when driving because she thinks it's more likely to k**l her in a crash. The list goes on. I just can't resonate with any of her beliefs anymore.
Robin DJW 8 months ago
Sometimes i wonder if some people just thrive on being put into possible victim conditions. It's something like, "OK world, I deep down know it's stupid but what fun if I get a lot of attention for the bad thing that happens even if I brought on myself." Imagine how much attention she'll get if one of her kids gets un-alived BC her dangerous behavior.
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Charles McChristy 8 months ago
The seatbelt thing could be trauma. I couldn't wear one for years because I was in a wreck where if I had been wearing one I would have been killed. The only thing that saved me was that I wasn't wearing one. This was long before it was the law to wear one. I finally smartened up after 3 tickets.
#20
F****r went and died on me.
ॐBoyGanesh 8 months ago (edited)
Same same. 6 months after her husband was KIA and shortly after giving birth to a beautiful child who is now my & my husband’s 11yo son.
Jesse 8 months ago
You did right by that boy. Hope you're keeping your friend's memory alive for him
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I revived mine with Narcaine. He was so pissed. ONE of the many reasons we're no longer friends.
MalayDragon 8 months ago
A friend I and about 8 other people made online had Chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD), We would all regularly play together racing on tracks created by him, unfortunately 5 years ago he passed due to complications related to his COPD. Every year on the anniversary of his passing the remaining members of the group of players will jump into the game we all shared and load up the play list containing all of his tracks, just to keep his memory alive.
detective miller's hat 8 months ago
Ugh same. It was December 2023 and I'm still not even close to recovered. If I didn't have my cats to take care of, I'd have joined him by now.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 8 months ago
"35 Heartbreaking Stories Of How Friendships Ended" - how is this not heartbreaking? Did the friendship not end?
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Realized he was using me the whole 10 year friendship. Dude also was really controlling and just a massive hypocrite.
It got even worse when dude became more religious. He just became this sanctimonious a*****e.
Looking back I was warned about him by multiple people that this is who he is.
When I blocked him I swear it felt like a weight had been lifted.
Dog Mom to Zoe 8 months ago
It's funny how it really does actually feel like weight being lifted when you end a toxic relationship. I had to let a 20-year relationship go and wow, that weight was gone.
Robin DJW 8 months ago
Oh, yeah. I almost couldn't sleep on the first night spent alone. I was so giddy with happiness.
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They got way to deep into conspiracies.. even going so far as traveling to France to join demonstrations. We're from Germany.
Yeah.. it sucks 😮💨.
Riley Quinn 8 months ago
Exactly. Both prey on the delusional who can't face reality.
Load More Replies... WindySwede 8 months ago
OP "Honestly, at some point it reached EVERYTHING.gif level. Name a random conspiracy theory that's not 100% bonkers (so no flat earth, birds aren't real or the likes) and chances are, he at least partially bought into it."
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I got clean from d***s and he didn’t. Still care about him and hope the best for him, but he just doesn’t want to get clean. I tried to be his support for a while but it was just taking a toll on myself for no forward progress for him.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 8 months ago
An add!ct will not get clean/sober up until they WANT to, until they have a reason to that THEY believe in. Here's a photo of the reason why I've been clean for 4 years :) kohl_kohl_...04ac24.jpg 
Greymom 8 months ago
And a very good reason, too!😻😻😻. Congratulations and keep it up. You should be super proud of yourself!
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Billo66 8 months ago
Same but it was her thats still active. Been 12 years, I have our children safe thank god.
Billo66 8 months ago
I tried to fix her too and I realized it's true. You can't keep someone else warm by setting yourself on fire.
Load More Replies... Riley Quinn 8 months ago
All toll, I spent years in add!ct!on treatment. It was repeated, ad nauseum, not to return to our old friends, even our old neighborhoods, until we had a substantial number of years of sobriety under our belts, and even then to be extremely cautious. So, not returning to friends who are still active is a matter of life and death, not a judgment on the friendship.
Lowrider 56 8 months ago
Glad you realized you had to step back from this person. He'll get you high before you get him clean.
Child of the Stars 8 months ago
I have an acquaintance who firmly believes that my therapist convinced me I was an alcoholic. He refuses to believe that I came to that conclusion before I went into therapy.
Pandemonium 8 months ago
You understand the distinction between "acquaintance" and "friend" quite well
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Best friend threw a party. Another friend sexually harassed me at said party. Tried to tell my best friend what happened and she said in these exact words “You should try seeing it from her side.” A whole lot of drama ensued afterward, which resulted in me losing all of my friends from that friend group. It really f*****g sucked but I’m doing my best to move on from the situation.
Riley Quinn 8 months ago
Same thing could be said about any and all creepy behavior, but maybe we should leave "seeing it from [their] side" to the professionals.
#25
After 15 years of taking my friendship for granted, I finally had enough. Though it was not my intention.
The last thing I told them was, "One day soon, you're gonna look up, and I won't be there." 3 weeks had passed, and I'd been taking the time to type out exactly what I was going to say and how I felt, for the next time I saw them.
Then I got a message asking, "Are you cutting me off?"
At that moment, I decided that the answer was "yes."
I had also decided that they did not deserve an explanation, nor did they deserve a 10th chance.
Riley Quinn 8 months ago
An explanation is only warranted when the person acknowledges the situation and sincerely wants to know why. Otherwise, ghost away.
Lihi Porat 7 months ago
OMG ALMOST THE EXACT SAME HAPPENED TO ME. After 3 months I wrote her a letter telling her the ball is in her court from now, if she still wants to be friends.
#26
He told me he was gonna steal my girlfriend and then proceeded to steal my girlfriend. Man of his word at least.
ॐBoyGanesh 8 months ago
He didn’t steal her. She opted to be with him. Women aren’t mindless, inanimate objects. The friend was a complete POS for making moves on OP’s girlfriend, but let’s at least give her credit for being able to make decisions.
Nina 8 months ago
Not sure if she deserves credit for being a POS as well, but I agree with your point. If she didn't want to be with the other man, she wouldn't have.
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Sergio Bicerra 8 months ago
Can't remember the movie, but a guy told his friend something along the lines 'If you don't treat her well, as she deserves, then I will, cause she's amazing and you take her for granted every time'. So if this is the case, can't blame him.
#27
M**h k**led her. One day I realized I was trying to love a stranger for the sake of a memory.
*raspberry sound 8 months ago
"Trying to love a stranger for the sake of a memory" profoundly beautiful wording
Scott Riley 8 months ago
Why do words get censored like this?! I understand censoring cuss words.
#28
I made a new female friend. Best friend was a female. She saw competition and kept trying to gaslight me about how apparently new friend was just trying to sleep with me and was super fake. I was just like ???
I tried to get them together to play DnD. Old friend couldn't stand to be around new friend cause she hated everything about new friends voice and personality. Old friend started hanging out with a new guy I didn't like. She said either I choose her or she leaves to hang out with new guy.
Bye. Me and new friend have had the best friendship I've experienced so far purely platonic and we make each other laugh so hard. I didn't realise how much old friend manipulated me and gaslit me. I feel free.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 8 months ago
Does it matter at all? The former friend should have mentioned her feelings or asked OP out/etc. if that was the case. And even if it's true, it does NOT excuse her behavior towards OP or OP's new friend.
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#29
She neglects her eldest child, while doting on the new baby/now toddler. The eldest child has some obvious learning/developmental disabilities, but his mother is in extreme denial. She has a weird attitude towards science/medicine/psychology and refuses to get him any help. She says he's 'fine'. He has no friends at school, and cannot stop himself from talking when not appropriate. He is also 11 years old, 200 POUNDS, and lives on an exclusively McDonald's diet. It's very sad to watch this kid try to walk.
Any time we went to spend time together, she'd always bring both the kids and would constantly SCREAM at the eldest child in front of me. It was brutal.
The final straw was when I drove 7 hours to visit them, and the entire visit was her just screaming at this kid to behave. He told me, "I'm sorry I'm so bad and ruined your visit. I'm just a bad kid, I don't know what to do."
It broke my heart, broke my trust in my friend, and ultimately broke our friendship. She ended up constantly messaging me and my family members to no avail, because she REALLY wanted me in her d**n wedding (guess which kid was left out of ALL family photos).
It took me more than 20 years to see this person for who she really is: extremely selfish/self-centered, attention-seeking, and a terrible mother.
Crystalwitch60 8 months ago
And did you even think about calling cps on here cos I’m dam sure I would have !! She’s evil
ILoveMySon 8 months ago
I have my local number as well as sue icide, domestic violence, homeless, animal cruelty and trafficking hotlines. It is better to be prepared.
Load More Replies... detective miller's hat 8 months ago
I do not understand parents like this. A childhood friend of mine (we stopped being friends as young teens, but our mothers are still best friends) treats her oldest kid like this, just constantly yelling and screaming at the poor kid for the same behaviour she encourages in the younger two. I'm not invited to any of the family events anymore because I told her what a sh!t mother she is.
Lisa the 7th 8 months ago
You should have called Child Protective Services. The eldest child might have been put in a better home. She didn't deserve him.
Celtic Pirate Queen 8 months ago
You should have called CPS. That kid was being abused/neglected.
#30
1993 I think -- he failed to pay traffic tickets. I posted bail. He said he would pay me back. I put it on the back burner and said nothing about it to anyone. Less than a week later our mutual friend asked why I was hounding him for the $$. So he borrowed money and then insulted me to our friends. I should have listened to his Dad and let him sit for a few days.
Peppa Pig plus 8 months ago
Lesson..never lend money to a friend or relative, consider it a gift.
Storm Rise 8 months ago
Yup- never lend anything that you want to have back. Circumstances change, people forget- even if they don't intend to and then the damage is done.
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#31
I ended the friendship after lending money. It’s true what they say money ruins relationships.
Cydney Golden 8 months ago
Not lending to friends or families is ever better.
Load More Replies... Stephanie A Mutti 8 months ago
I have a policy to never borrow or lend. It's a gift. I'll give you money [if I can] but I won't lend it.
Michael Largey 8 months ago
Lend money to a friend, and you'll lose both the money and the friend.
Riley Quinn 8 months ago
I lent money to someone to keep a roof over her and her children's heads. I didn't expect the money back figuring she could pay it forward down the road. I can only assume she was overwhelmed with guilt and shame because she refused to return my calls. I have no idea how the family fared after I lost contact.
Nathan Lewis 8 months ago
I don't understand how people can be ok with this. I've never borrowed money from a friend, but did lose a friend to lending them money, and if I did I would feel like the biggest piece of s**t if I didn't pay them back.
VNES101 8 months ago
I loaned a friend $595. She used most of it to move to a new city for a better job opportunity and swore she would pay me back once she got stable. For almost a year after we remained friends and I never mentioned the loan. The moment I asked her when she planned to begin paying me back she did a 180 and started treating me like I was the a-hole. Never received a dime back. She better hope I'm in a good mood if I ever run into her again.
VNES101 8 months ago
Loaned another friend $200 that was supposed to be paid back the following Friday. 5 weeks go by and not a peep. I had to lie to her about a financial emergency to get my money back. These people...
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Condescending jokes were only funny when she made them, and setting boundaries was a personal attack on her.
#33
In middle school I had my first best friend, we'd play videogames together, had sleepovers, etc. When we got older he got into World of Warcraft which my parents understandably didn't want to pay the subscription for. He started hanging out with me less and eventually joined in on being a bit of a bully to me because I was weird and nerdy. Eventually we just stopped hanging out. It sucked at the time but I found new and better friend that I am still friends with now at 30.
But yeah, a friendship ending over World of Warcraft is pretty funny looking back lol.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 8 months ago
"You're weird and nerdy!" yells the person who plays World of Warcraft.... XD
Kristin 7 months ago
I just had a situation with my daughter who's 15. She had been friends with this other girl since 2nd grade. Her parents are a joke. The do d***s, sell them, in and out of jail and a*****e. My doors are always open to any of kids friends. My home is a safe place for anyone. Well she stayed with us alot and me and my husband even got her a phone on our plan, school clothes, supplies, shoes. You name it we did it. Even went on vacations with us. Well I noticed my daughter wasn't talking to her so much anymore and I asked why. Well said friend was very two faced, always belittling my kid, she is the type who hangs out with new kids and tried to fit in so she would bully my kid and even tried getting her jumped. Thankfully my daughter cut all ties and I found out what a bad influence she was. She just got kicked out of school for having d***s on her. She drinks and now pregnant!!! I feel bad for her but not someone I want around my daughter. Her mom HATED me for what I don't know
LakotaWolf (she/her) 8 months ago
That's not a universal truth, no, and definitely not a generalization that you want to make. Tons of people can play games casually and not become "add!cted" to them. But yes, there are some people who play games like WoW or League of Legends for hours and hours every day and sometimes fail college, or neglect their pets or children, or neglect their own health and hygiene, in order to play the game 12+ hours a day.
Load More Replies... Billo66 8 months ago
My petty a*s would have destroyed his camp wiping from Warcraft existence. But that would just kind of prove his point. I don't care, I stand on it.
Billo66 8 months ago
For reference I was like totally immersed in Everquest when it was new. If I logged on one day and someone had de-leveled my character and took my armor, I might not be here today lol. Grinding that s h i t was hard.
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He beat his girlfriend up.
grilled cheese 8 months ago
what the f**k. i hope the girlfriend is okay and got away from that hell-sent sick b*****d.
#35
A couple of months before my wedding, he told me he didn't want to be my best man anymore... via WhatsApp. The conversation that followed revealed that he was extremely jealous of the relationship my now wife and I have. We had been friends for 20 years.
#36
I made out with a guy she had a crush on. She ended the friendship with me and rightfully so. She ended up marrying him and having a family but despises me to this day.
Riley Quinn 8 months ago
Self-awareness is only the first step. Changing the behavior is the next. No mention of that, though.
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JB 8 months ago (edited)
I don’t get and never have understood why someone else having a crush on someone a friend also fancies automatically means they are “off limits”. It’s like saying both parties’ feelings are irrelevant because *you* fancy one of them. Having been in the situation, I lost a sort-of-friend (F) over a guy when he asked me out. Thing is, she had zero chance. He wasn’t just “not interested”, he actively disliked her *because* she kept harassing him to date her despite being told “no” over and over. If another girl (we were ~19) talked to him or he showed interest, guess who started drama about “a bıtch horning in on ‘her’ man”? When he asked me out, she wanted to “take it outside” to fight for the right to date him! I had to say, “Nope, we aren’t doing that. Even if you ‘won’, he’s NEVER going to date you. And I’m 💯 % going to date him because *WE* actually like each other.” Suppose I’m lucky(?) that everyone else was also over her shıt and suggested she leave. If you’re dating, or even just talking, I’m not going to respond positively to an invite to date. But a crush when the object of your affection barely knows you exist or actively dislikes you? No. You do not get to p**s on other people to mark your territory. I’m totally fine losing friends who think this crąp is reasonable. FWIW we were together 5 years; didn’t end well but that’s an entirely different story.
#37
With nearly all friendships and family relationships, if I don't reach out, we don't speak. It's a sad reality that I have come to accept. Particularly, seeing as my father's parents went to great efforts to make sure we all stayed in touch.
The other thing I have found is, this seems to be pretty common during the "busy" phase of people's lives.
#38
My best friend's wife played a head game on him and he believed her.
We had been friends since we were 5 years old, we were in our 50s by now. She convinced him that I broke a towel rack while I was visiting during a Christmas holiday. Over the course of the next year, she gaslit him into thinking that I stole silverware from their kitchen every year when I came back to see my folks. He eventually believed that I was taking forks home for decades. That s**t broke my heart. I haven't talked to him in 15 years. Both of my parents are gone now, I have no reason to ever drive 700 miles to see him again. But d**n, this still pisses me off.
A girl 8 months ago
In my house, I'm convinced they get tossed when people try to "help" with thanksgiving clean up.
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#39
I just got sick of the moody temper tantrums.
Last one was on his 30th bday I bought tickets to a band he liked and he walked out after the 3rd song because "people were getting too close and needed to space out" at a concert. I told him we could move to the back where there's less people but he freaked out that he shouldn't have to give up his view in the front and everyone else should make more room. He stormed out and left and then begged me to come out because his coat was in my car. So I missed the rest of the show because there's no in-out privileges. I said yeah that's enough of that for me. Haven't spoken to him since.
Romy Rösli 8 months ago
At least the guy showed up. My former „best friend“ bailed on me the evening we were supposed to go to a concert. She „forgot“ about the whole thing. Never paid me back for her ticket either. I should have cut her off after that but instead I continued being her doormat for another two or three years.
Riley Quinn 8 months ago
Maybe it's because I was the oldest and learned at a young age not to give into my siblings' temper tantrums, but no way would I have left the concert for this man-baby.
Kristen Johnston 8 months ago
I got an extra ticket for a friend who was having problems with drink. He didn't show up at the meeting spot, when I called he was not in a good place but took an uber to the venue, where he staggered around and pawed at me until I just left. In a stunning burst of luck, the power went out and the concert (STYX!!!) was rescheduled. Went alone, had amazing time. We still talk, but it's not the same.
#40
In 2017 my best friend and I bought a house together. It was my grandmother's house, and she had just gone into a nursing home, so we got it on the cheap. The goal was to rehab it and eventually sell it.
By 2021 it had become clear that it was more work than we were capable of. Plus the house was small, just 920 square feet and a single story, so any buyer was just going to knock it down and build something bigger on the footprint anyway (which is just what happened), so it felt like we were doing a lot of work for nothing. In April of 2021 we sold it and made about $100k profit.
And then my best friend since middle school, who had never given me any reason to doubt or mistrust him, and who had always been there for me through thick and thin (as I had been for him), disappeared with all the money.
At first I wasn't sure what was happening. I thought there must have been some kind of mistake or screw-up. Surely he couldn't have done what I thought. But eventually he responded to a text message with, "F**k you," so I knew it was real. I just didn't know why.
I sued him, but it didn't go well. Did you know that for an amount as small as $100k (really only $50k since I was only entitled to half) no lawyer will take your case on contingency? I sure didn't. It turns out that is much too small an amount for them to bother with. And did you know that banks don't give personal loans for lawsuits? Another "TIL" for me. So I had to pay for the lawsuit out of pocket. Unfortunately, my now ex-friend hired a lawyer who specializes in dragging cases out and running up the bills so that the other side runs out of money and gives up. I burned through all of my savings in a few months and then had to drop the case. That was in Spring of 2022.
Last month, on August 15th, my former friend committed s*****e.
I never ended the friendship at all; that was all on him. And to this day I still don't really know why. I spoke to his ex-girlfriend, who hadn't seen him since December of 2021, and she thought he had a mental break, like a psychotic episode. But psychotic episodes don't usually last three years. And he was sane enough to hire a cutthroat attorney to defend his thievery. So I am left with a lot of questions and d**n few answers.
Goodnight and good luck, old friend. May you find the peace that eluded you in life. Despite everything that happened, I never stopped thinking of you as a brother.
Max Fox 8 months ago
The OP is wrong about psychosis and how long it can last and what a person is capable of. Moreover, if a lawyer won't take a case for $50,000 on contingency, how could the ex-friend afford a cutthroat lawyer for the same amount? My guess is that the lawyer took advantage of the friend having a psychotic break. The lawyer dragged the case out, emptied the friend's account of the $100,000, and left. That would explain the friends ending their life.
ॐBoyGanesh 8 months ago
Seems like OP didn’t think thru the purchase if he or his investment partner was able to freely walk away with the money. Why would only one of them be on all the legal & financial documents?????
Donna Peluda 8 months ago
I nearly invested in a property when I was 18 with a friend at the time. Thank the flying spaghetti monster I didn't.
Chris Merillo 8 months ago
Im guessing the 'friend' had a d**g or gambling problem that he was not aware of. Burned all the money on his a*******n, probably owed more money afterwards.... killed himself when he was at a low. It's a pretty classic case actually.
#41
He didn't show up to my wedding. And I never heard from him again. No apology. No explanation. 2 weeks before he asked if he could bring a last minute date. Told him absolutely. He was my best friend since the 4th grade. 18 year friendship just disappeared.
My other best friend moved to California without telling me, but told my family. Haven't spoken to him since. Relationship had been a bit rocky as I was newly married and he wanted to hang out every single night.
Friends can be so disappointing.
Riley Quinn 8 months ago
You should not have been downvoted for this comment. It's been my experience over the years that too many people don't know the difference until it's too late.
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He disrespected my children on several occasions.
Child of the Stars 8 months ago
This happened with a former good friend of mine. He started spending more and more time with a mutual acquaintance who was a very angry person (I mean that like it was a personality problem, not that he had an explosive temper) and was deep into the conspiracy world. He basically slowly sucked my friend into his anger and conspiracies. Finally my friend made a snotty comment about my nonbinary child--IN FRONT OF MY CHILD--and that was the final straw for me.
#43
We grew apart as friends. Both of us had made other friends and moved on from each other. Neither of us stayed in touch with the other, though it also had more to do with moving to different cities and not knowing how to get in touch with each other. The internet didn't exist back then. My friend died in a car accident when he was 37, and I felt sad for his family for his loss and for everyone who had known him.
#44
Idk tbh we just ran out of the talking juice
i saw him like a few months ago and went "oh hey sup dude" at a shopping mall for like 10 seconds and then we disappeared into our own life again.
#45
I was going to make a throwaway to answer this question out of utter fear and realized that said more than I ever could.
#46
Turns out I considered him my best friend, he considered me a sucker. He was stealing from me for years. And he would make fun of me to his other friends.
#47
My friend got jealous that I started dating a mutual friend and caused a bunch of drama. He was kind of interested in both of us (all gay guys) and I suppose couldn't handle seeing us together. Years down the drain over jealousy. That being said, he was the one who just kinda ghosted us.
#48
She really liked taking d***s. She would always encourage me to take more than i wanted do, and the come downs were awful. I didn’t take them at all on her birthday and she pretty much cut me out after that. I was sad but it was a relief, too.
#49
Moved in with him into a house his parents owned because they were hooking us up on rent and over the next year found out what kind of person he really was.
E: even as I was moving out he tried to scam me out of $200. Our rent was $600/mo split between him, me, and a third friend of ours. He was trying to tell me I still owed for the final month and I even had to bring his parents into it to explain to him that we paid at the beginning of a month for *that* month, not the month previous.
#50
He kept putting down my ex-wife, was telling me the relationship was doomed - and in hindsight, it was, but we were together 22 years. during that time period, he got married 3 times, and has kids with 2 of them.
RedHairedDragon 8 months ago
A relationship that lasts for 22 years are in no way "doomed" from the beginning
LakotaWolf (she/her) 8 months ago
It can be. I recently got out of a 24-year-long relationship that should never have lasted that long, but I stayed with him out of desperation and because I was terrified of his reaction if I left. In hindsight, his behavior and actions towards me even when we first started dating were incredibly indicative of his controlling personality and I should have realized that way, way, way sooner than I did.
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Long story short, I moved, he got jealous of my new relationship. We were friends for over 20 years.
I got a new job last year an hour away from my hometown, which we both moved back to after I got out of college and he got out of the army. I also started dating a girl who just bought a house in the town I moved to. This caused a year long dramafest of epic proportions:
-He started getting upset that I never planned things or invited him anywhere, which was partially true. I was also doing a masters program on top of moving and starting a new full time job with commute.
-I would occasionally head back to my hometown, and invite him to places both over here and over there. He continually blew me off or wasn’t happy with my suggestions for activities.
-I was his best man for his upcoming wedding in three years. A month after I agreed to be so, he called me wondering why I hadn’t planned *anything* yet.
-The new girl I was dating- we had a family emergency over Christmas in which I couldn’t attend an event ex friend invited me to. I called him to apologize and reschedule. Unprompted, he went on a tirade about her finances and new house and how she was lying to me, and how her father “was a bad man who wouldn’t let his daughter shop at Goodwill” where we got most of the furniture. Also accused me of lying to him.
-Invited me golfing one day over this way since a festival we were both going to sold out. Gf and I were going to show up later as she had a horse lesson- she couldn’t drive due to a concussion. He left festival early, right as I dropped her off. Proceeds to tell me “jeez, some girlfriend you have who isn’t trying to get to know your best friend” very condescendingly.
-Texted me two days later “wait, isn’t (gf) not riding due to concussion?” Me: “yes, recall I told you she’s doing groundwork” Him: “either she’s lying to you or you’re lying to me, her doing horse lessons with a concussion on a Sunday doesn’t make sense and you should dump her a*s”. That was strike three for me.
Other than above, he over the preceding three years:
-always played the victim. Got fired from almost twelve jobs in a span of three years and wouldn’t take accountability.
-Called therapy useless, got a medical marijuana card instead and frequently drove high and got into several car accidents. Proceeded to attempt to sue those who he hit.
-Had a major superiority complex, with narcissistic traits.
-wouldn’t go to things we used to do back in highschool such as hiking or shooting which made connecting very difficult
-cornered me in a store bathroom and wouldn’t let me leave while we were on a road trip and proceeded to scream at me “about how I was ruining his vacation” to the point security tried separating us. He got upset I started running to the store because I had to use the bathroom and thought I was avoiding him.
-didn’t pay me other than to buy a bag of chips when I helped him move furniture from two states away.
Honestly, good riddance.
Melissa Harris 8 months ago
Sounds like the OP was in an a*****e relationship with a narcissist.
#52
She was a mean-spirited selfish b***h and i deserved better.
#53
Alcoholism and hard d***s. I have a family and I don't want that s**t around them or me.
Riley Quinn 8 months ago
I don't have family, but that doesn't mean I want to hang out with active alcoholics and drüg add!cts.
#54
Because of a girl, I was dating a girl, and at the time when we were arguing, she cried to him, as a result, they started to develop feelings and as a result, she left me and started dating my friend. My friend betrayed me, for a girl. Never mind, after half a year I laughed when I found out that they broke up. He traded friendship for a six-month relationship. What the f**k?
#55
His mental illness eventually took him away after decades.
Another died. We were best friends for 13 years before he passed at 92.
A childhood friend died in a freak accident on the school football field.
SheamusFanFrom1987 8 months ago
Dang OP, sorry for your loss but seems like your friendships never left the Bad Luck Fale T_T
Dog Mom to Zoe 8 months ago
Not discounting the loses but losing someone at 92 really isn't so bad. That's a long life lived.
#56
He stepped on my blue suede shoes.
Riley Quinn 8 months ago
College buddy and I became housemates in a flat close to school that I adored. Everything was cool until she let an old friend of hers stay with us on what had been agreed a temporary stay. After a couple of weeks, I noticed a couple things missing from my room. The final straw was a brand new outfit I had purchased for a special function. When I went to get it out of the closet, I noticed it was dirty and had a couple of tears. I went ballistic. Told the friend she needed to get out, but they both ganged up on me, so I made plans to move out. They were gone when I returned for the last of my stuff, so I took advantage of this situation. I opened the windows, and began tossing their stuff out knowing people in the neighborhood would grab it for themselves.
grilled cheese 8 months ago
…. i once accidentally sat on my friend’s glasses and we are extremely close to this day
#57
He got into m**h and i wanted no part of any of that.
#58
He lied to me over stupid s**t routinely. I couldn't trust if anything they had told me was ever true.
Riley Quinn 8 months ago
Had someone I'd hoped would eventually become a friend, but something was off. Took me a while to figure out that she was a pathological liar. It was a compulsion that I honestly think on some level she wasn't even aware of, and she certainly didn't have control of it. Little lies, well that's commonplace enough, but as time went on, her stories became more and more elaborate. I had to move on before I got sucked into that sink hole of delusion.
#59
Everything was always about him. After 7 years it finally dawned on me that nothing would ever be about me. It was pretty easy to end it once I realized that.
Riley Quinn 8 months ago
My ex would go into moods, but would never discuss them with me so that I could at least understand and be there as support. But perish the thought that I might have moods because something went wrong in my day or that I might be in pain and not up to my usual routine.
#60
I am asking myself that question all the time. I have no idea what happened.
#61
I cared way too much and they cared not at all, I had feelings that I couldn't control that led to me being exploited and emotionally abused until I finally stood up for myself. Got blocked the moment I showed even the slightest hint of a spine. Years later I got a very hollow and fake apology sent via "vanishing message mode" on Instagram. I hate that it **still** bothers me on a nearly daily basis, but once I find a therapist I can afford I hope to someday maybe get over this.
#62
She was my best friend. I wasn't hers.
#63
I ended my friendship with my best friend because of growing differences in values and priorities. It became clear that we were heading in separate directions, and the relationship was causing more tension than support.
Riley Quinn 8 months ago
My longest friendship was with a person who shared similar values and priorities. Not identical, mind you, because we did differ on certain topics, but we were able to discuss them and respect each other anyway.
#64
I stopped reaching out to them when I realize they are not good for me. What they are doing is not what I want to become. They're my best friends since we were a kid. But thing change when we get older. So took different path that they took.
Riley Quinn 8 months ago
I left home at 17yo on my own. I learned via trial and error how to make my own way. Went back to visit after a few years, and saw the same people sitting on the same stools in the same bar doing the same thing as when I left. Choosing not to stagnate, I left feeling pity for them.
trixiefly11 8 months ago
Most people are not who they were as kids. Everyone changes, which is why most friendships don't survive into adulthood.
#65
2016. I was in love with her, had been since 2nd grade, 16 years. Still am. She got engaged. I decided I had to tell her how I felt. She knew (not surprising) and was really nice about it, and totally willing to be just friends. But my heart and my head couldn't stand that, it was killing me, and it wasn't fair to either of us. So I stopped writing to her.
I specialize in unrequited love.
Edit - for added context, she moved away in 3rd grade and we communicated primarily by e-mail thereafter, with in person visits once or twice a year.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 8 months ago
If you haven't told someone how you feel about them for years, telling them AFTER they get engaged to someone else seems like a massive d!ck move.
Melissa Harris 8 months ago (edited)
Sorry, but the OP was in love with his image of her. Emails and a fews days together once or twice a year doesn't let you really know a person. It's the boring, unfiltered everyday that makes a relationship. It sounds romantic but the guy is better off to stop fixating on a daydream of a relationshi. Hope he found a real one.
Riley Quinn 8 months ago
This is how incels are created. They lack the courage to say what they feel and the maturity to accept the outcome. Specializes in unrequited love, my butt. OP specializes in victimhood, like a good little incel.
What do you think ?
ThisIsMe 8 months ago
Admittedly, I was the door mat for a long time. The final straw was being at a party where I didn't know many people. She had told me to bring my camera and take photos. I wasn't comfortable taking a lot of photos of people I didn't know, so I put it away. After a couple of hours and her getting a little drunk, she asks if I'm taking photos and I say no. Goes on screaming rant, over and over shouting "F*&^ you, <>". I left. She would still call me after that to invite me to things, but I just always had a reason not to go. The last time she called was to invite me to a group lunch she planned with some of our friends - in the middle of a work day (she was a SHM) and easily a 45 minute drive from my office. When I said I couldn't be gone from work that long, she got mad that I valued job over friends and told me to call her when I had time for her. And I never called again.
LMr 8 months ago
She maxed out my credit card for “child’s uniform “ while I was battling postpartum depression and s******l ideations and extreme panic attacks. Never paid me, never paid the bill. Thanks Ericka Avina for letting me know you were a LIAR, THIEF, FAT A*S and piece of acidic diarrhea.
Sapna Sarfare 8 months ago
am so sorry.. That is so pathetic of your friend
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Queenie G 8 months ago
She publicly humiliated another person in an editorial in the paper. Made cutting remarks about the person being an out of stater and to go back to where she belonged. I reminded her she was an out of stater as well. I walked away and never looked back. Mean people suck!
Jcusack 8 months ago
Met my best friend in the 4th grade, so he knew my family since then. My brother met his (now ex) wife when they were 15. Fast forward to when he gets married and his wife has an affair. Console him throughout all this, help repair & remodel his house consistently because him nor his family can do any blue collar type work. My brother now married with 3 kids. My "friend" had an affair for a year all the while I stood up for him saying there's no way he would ever do that to my family after having the same thing happen to him. S****y people are s****y. Matt U. Go f**k yourself for the rest of your life. Had to move to Pennsylvania because every "friend" he had mysteriously didn't take his calls anymore.
Lyoness 8 months ago (edited)
I'm confused, let me see if I have it right. So OP's brother got married. Brother's wife has an affair. OP helps brother recover. Then OP's friend has an affair and OP doesn't know. Yes? But I'm a little lost on how friend's cheating could "do that to my family" (OP's family) unless it was his brother's ex the friend had an affair with. Or was it just that the friend was cheating at all? Would like to know how other people read this because stupid. Edit to clarify I'm the stupid one, not Jcusack.
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96m77mfphq 8 months ago
She wasnt my friend for very long, but I thought we would be friends for the rest of our lives ( we are in our 50's). We had a small "bump" but reconciled. She somehow turned into a man because she kept saying everything was find even as she backed away. 3 weeks after our reconciliation she just ghosted me - and took the friend group with her. Its been a year now and it still hurts.
CG 8 months ago
Not a friend, but my biological "father". Fell too much into right wing politics, anti-vaxx, conspiracy theories, and that whole shebang. Haven't talked to him in about 4 years or so, after he told me "don't get vaccinated if work requires you to, and quit if they forced you to get it."
Carl Roberts 8 months ago
I mentioned this on a similar post a while back. Best friend for 30 years. This was about 5 years ago. We were at a park playing softball with some other friends. I asked to borrow his phone to call my wife (my phone had no signal). He handed me his phone and went to use the bathroom. He forgot to close his browser. He had been looking at child p-o-r-n. One of my other friends smashed the phone with his softball bat and threw it in the garbage, and we quickly left the park. None of us ever spoke to him again. Last we heard, he had cancer. I hope the cancer won.
Moana Manana 8 months ago
I literally changed the state because of her. She's all i despite on people and I hate her for making me feel less worth 27 years long (from 0-27).... When I left the state, I cried the whole trip, and never ever again. I feel free and great 19 years later and I mention her often at home to show my kids what the have to pay attention to and deal with it better then I did. Hopefully it works...
James016 8 months ago
I cut someone off years ago as they would not stop interfering in my personal life. That's despite me telling him many times to back off. Well as someone with an "I know what's best" attitude, he had to try and interfere one more time. I exploded down the phone and have never spoken to him since, that was over 20 years ago.
Ginger ninja 8 months ago
First year of secondary school and she and I got into an argument because she dropped my new mobile phone and the screen c*****d (that was the only damage) that was on a friday during lunch. I didnt speak to her the rest of the day or over the weekend and happened to be ill on monday. Over that period of time she and another mutual friend decided to tell the school and the rest of the kids in our year I had been racist to her and called her a b.r.o.w.n.i.e instead of me actually calling her a b.i.t.c.h. I got a 45 min detention and bullied for the rest of the school year until I transferred to another school.
Ginger ninja 8 months ago
Censored word (that was automatic by bp, not me) is c.r.a.c.k.e.d.
Load More Replies... ThisIsMe 8 months ago
Admittedly, I was the door mat for a long time. The final straw was being at a party where I didn't know many people. She had told me to bring my camera and take photos. I wasn't comfortable taking a lot of photos of people I didn't know, so I put it away. After a couple of hours and her getting a little drunk, she asks if I'm taking photos and I say no. Goes on screaming rant, over and over shouting "F*&^ you, <>". I left. She would still call me after that to invite me to things, but I just always had a reason not to go. The last time she called was to invite me to a group lunch she planned with some of our friends - in the middle of a work day (she was a SHM) and easily a 45 minute drive from my office. When I said I couldn't be gone from work that long, she got mad that I valued job over friends and told me to call her when I had time for her. And I never called again.
LMr 8 months ago
She maxed out my credit card for “child’s uniform “ while I was battling postpartum depression and s******l ideations and extreme panic attacks. Never paid me, never paid the bill. Thanks Ericka Avina for letting me know you were a LIAR, THIEF, FAT A*S and piece of acidic diarrhea.
Sapna Sarfare 8 months ago
am so sorry.. That is so pathetic of your friend
Load More Replies... Queenie G 8 months ago
She publicly humiliated another person in an editorial in the paper. Made cutting remarks about the person being an out of stater and to go back to where she belonged. I reminded her she was an out of stater as well. I walked away and never looked back. Mean people suck!
Jcusack 8 months ago
Met my best friend in the 4th grade, so he knew my family since then. My brother met his (now ex) wife when they were 15. Fast forward to when he gets married and his wife has an affair. Console him throughout all this, help repair & remodel his house consistently because him nor his family can do any blue collar type work. My brother now married with 3 kids. My "friend" had an affair for a year all the while I stood up for him saying there's no way he would ever do that to my family after having the same thing happen to him. S****y people are s****y. Matt U. Go f**k yourself for the rest of your life. Had to move to Pennsylvania because every "friend" he had mysteriously didn't take his calls anymore.
Lyoness 8 months ago (edited)
I'm confused, let me see if I have it right. So OP's brother got married. Brother's wife has an affair. OP helps brother recover. Then OP's friend has an affair and OP doesn't know. Yes? But I'm a little lost on how friend's cheating could "do that to my family" (OP's family) unless it was his brother's ex the friend had an affair with. Or was it just that the friend was cheating at all? Would like to know how other people read this because stupid. Edit to clarify I'm the stupid one, not Jcusack.
Load More Replies... 96m77mfphq 8 months ago
She wasnt my friend for very long, but I thought we would be friends for the rest of our lives ( we are in our 50's). We had a small "bump" but reconciled. She somehow turned into a man because she kept saying everything was find even as she backed away. 3 weeks after our reconciliation she just ghosted me - and took the friend group with her. Its been a year now and it still hurts.
CG 8 months ago
Not a friend, but my biological "father". Fell too much into right wing politics, anti-vaxx, conspiracy theories, and that whole shebang. Haven't talked to him in about 4 years or so, after he told me "don't get vaccinated if work requires you to, and quit if they forced you to get it."
Carl Roberts 8 months ago
I mentioned this on a similar post a while back. Best friend for 30 years. This was about 5 years ago. We were at a park playing softball with some other friends. I asked to borrow his phone to call my wife (my phone had no signal). He handed me his phone and went to use the bathroom. He forgot to close his browser. He had been looking at child p-o-r-n. One of my other friends smashed the phone with his softball bat and threw it in the garbage, and we quickly left the park. None of us ever spoke to him again. Last we heard, he had cancer. I hope the cancer won.
Moana Manana 8 months ago
I literally changed the state because of her. She's all i despite on people and I hate her for making me feel less worth 27 years long (from 0-27).... When I left the state, I cried the whole trip, and never ever again. I feel free and great 19 years later and I mention her often at home to show my kids what the have to pay attention to and deal with it better then I did. Hopefully it works...
James016 8 months ago
I cut someone off years ago as they would not stop interfering in my personal life. That's despite me telling him many times to back off. Well as someone with an "I know what's best" attitude, he had to try and interfere one more time. I exploded down the phone and have never spoken to him since, that was over 20 years ago.
Ginger ninja 8 months ago
First year of secondary school and she and I got into an argument because she dropped my new mobile phone and the screen c*****d (that was the only damage) that was on a friday during lunch. I didnt speak to her the rest of the day or over the weekend and happened to be ill on monday. Over that period of time she and another mutual friend decided to tell the school and the rest of the kids in our year I had been racist to her and called her a b.r.o.w.n.i.e instead of me actually calling her a b.i.t.c.h. I got a 45 min detention and bullied for the rest of the school year until I transferred to another school.
Ginger ninja 8 months ago
Censored word (that was automatic by bp, not me) is c.r.a.c.k.e.d.
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