Whether it’s some rare invention or a thing that happened to you, some things, no matter how real, might appear as if they’re straight out of fiction.
There are times when it can be very exhausting to try to convince someone else to believe in something that you’re sure is true. So, when someone online asked what those things are, people flooded the comment section with the answers, and you can read them all below!
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How depression can make it impossible to do things. I once made a custom knife for a friend, wrapped and boxed it, then let it sit there for well over a month before I was finally able to mail it. Intellectually I know that it’s a very simple task to tape on an address label and drive it five minutes to the post office, but I absolutely COULD NOT DO IT. I would get irrationally mad at myself for being unable to complete such a mundane and simple task, and yet I still couldn’t do it. That kind of mental roadblock was impossible for me to understand myself, let alone anyone who hasn’t experienced it.
How crippling the pain from menstrual cramps can be. I have endometriosis and it's absolute hell. My sister does too. I'm child free but she told me that when she was in labor the first time, she didn't even realize because it wasn't as painful as her period cramps on endo. She asked the nurse when it would start and the nurse looked at her with raised eyebrows and was like "ummm like an hour ago." And yet I've had an actual doctor laugh in my face at the idea of getting medicine to help with the pain for my cramps.
Nobody takes it seriously. It really, really sucks. I f*****g dread my periods bc I can pretty much count on there being one or two days out of every ~29 or 30 when I can barely even stand up. I have to save any sick time or time off for those days if they fall during the work week. But everyone is so dismissive about it.
Edit: wow so many supportive comments and information about treatment strategies! I feel more validated than I ever have for this suffering. Thank you everyone and anyone else reading this who suffers like this, there are so many really helpful and validating comments below.
Turn signals. They work on my car; surely they MUST work on other cars.
Mental health issues. It's amazing to me how many people think the brain, the most complicated structure in the known universe, is the only organ that's *not* capable of malfunctioning.
Incurable diseases. I have multiple sclerosis and I hear a lot of things day to day like "You're just too dedicated to your diagnosis", or "have you tried the Wahls diet" or "have you taken magnesium supplements" or "you need to be more positive" or my favorite "It's OK, god has a plan".
Having experienced the actual thing degrading my brain for eight years, done high dose chemo and a bone marrow transplant, and poisoned my immune system over 200 separate times... I can definitively say that some processes (death, degenerative neurological diseases, autoimmunity, etc) are unavoidable and something people don't always actually have the power to beat regardless of the amount of positive thinking, dieting, or exercise one does.
EDIT: I just want to point out how multiple people have replied back to try to convince me that my condition is curable, or recommending treatments that I have already done and failed. Quite literally proving my point. 😆
EDIT: One person has interpreted my comments in this thread as me saying that any attempt to treat a chronic illness is hopeless or meaningless. This is not what I was intending to say (hopefully that is obvious). I am merely stating that many people have health conditions they can't fix or control despite best efforts, and that this experience is real and they deserve to have that experience respected.
Autoimmune sufferer, I completely feel this. OP is absolutely right - there are days you simply. Can. Not. Function. and "mood" and "attitude" have NOTHING to do with what is physically happening, and yet people... and that's all I'm going to say. People.
People who don't know what they are talking about shouldn't pass judgment on others! I hate the do gooders who just can't deal with the reality that life sucks for alot of people for no good reason.
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People don't want to admit there might not be anything one can do when someone is "sick" because then they have to admit that it could happen to them as well. Makes it too real.
Not entirely fair, there's another explanation. Men in particular are preprogrammed to fix things. When men see a problem they want to get out the toolkit, bish bash bosh and it's fixed and they don't have to worry about any more. But there are things that can't be fixed, which is agonising especially for us buttoned up, tight a*s types who find it so hard to express sympathy when we know we should.
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People who think incurable diseases don't exist are afraid of not having control over everything in their life. If only they knew how little control they really have...
Indeed - sadly, there are no cures for many autoimmune problems.
Also have MS. Have been told its because I dont accept Jesus as my personal savior. (Im Jewish.)
He never calls, he never writes. Impersonal savior. At best.
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Fibromyalgia, arthritis, degenerative disc disease, spinal stenosis, sciatica, diabetes and CIPN (chemotherapy induced peripheral neuropathy), in remission from breast cancer. "You're too young to be that sick ", "you don't look sick ", "the pain can't be that bad " (I'm allowed 6 Norco 10 a day), "just get up move around more " (can't walk or stand more than 10 minutes w/o pain). All of my medical issues are "invisible" and started when I was about 45. I've actually been yelled at in the grocery store for using the scooters. I once lifted my shirt to show my mastectomy to prove I wasn't faking, was still mostly bald from chemo, looked like c**p. First outing after Dr's OK. Nothing will cure my issues, ever. Don't presume to know what I need to do to get better. And don't judge unless you have the same problems. Be glad you don't.
I had a friend who turned paraplegic after an accident and someone asked her what sin she had done to be like that. Yes, well, it must be a great one for sure.
The obvious answer to which is, 'I made judgemental personal comments to someone who was struggling.'
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God does have a plan. He plans for each and every one of us to die. And He's quite serious about it, too.
Oh my god that is so spot on! I have DCM and LBBB (Chronic/Severe) and I have been asked how long it will take for me to 'get better'. Never. I will never get better. In fact I will get worse. I have reached to point in my condition where my joints ache, my memory is starting to fail and I can barely walk more than 15 metres. I had someone ask what would fix my heart and I asked what blood type they were and do they do extreme sports or ride a motorbike
My husband was diagnosed with MS not too long ago and we had a "friend" ask "Are you SURE? It's really rare in men" and then another say "I've known LOTS of people with MS. You can't tell there's anything wrong with them" We mostly stay away from people now. And not ONLY because his dr.s had to kill his immune system
Those people are f*****g gross that responded to you like that. As you are the one with the disease I'm sure you and your doctor have talked about it in length vs what these webmd weekend warriors have to say.
I can fully relate to this with having an autoimmune disease. It's the whole but you don't look sick mentality for me. It's frustrating and isolating.
Some lady at a grocery store told me I could cure my lupus if I restrict my diet to spinach/kale/water smoothies for an entire month 😑
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That "God has a plan" is the worst of them. If that F**kers plan involves thousands of people suffering from uncurable diseases and disabilities, that´s just messed up beyond believe.
Can't people just for once realise that maybe people who have had a disease for their entire life know a bit more about it than others? I am certain that people with diseases already are fully updated on and have tried every remedy imaginable! I know, most people are just sympathetic and want to help, but any sentence starting "Have you tried..." should be a criminal offence. It is already an offence (lol) Ask something else, like "what kind of thing is most helpful for you?" or even "How can I help!"
The "god has a plan" one is ridiculous quite frankly. Trying a different diet won't hurt you though. I can honestly admit though, that after having cancer twice as a kid, that I would never EVER touch chemo again. That s**t is absolutely HORRIBLE, and it wouldn't surprise me if that made the OP worse honestly. Not only does it kill all the bad stuff in your body, it kills all the good stuff too.
I actually DO know someone who helped their MS with diet and came off all the medications for it. Just say you don't even want to try or are too lazy.
Chronic illnesses are exhausting. I have M.S. and Meniere's disease, both mild, but they take so much away from life.
Sadly there are too many people without any intelligence walking around shooting their mouths off, it's a fact of modern life. People who are doing the best they can ought to be respected.
THIS. Often when doctors can't figure out a diagnosis or are unable to "fix" you, people right away start insinuating or outright stating that you're being a hypochondriac or drama queen. Just gaslighting people who are suffering. It's infuriating.
I also have Multiple Sclerosis; I was diagnosed in 2010. There is no cure yet for MS, but taking care of yourself helps. But if your brain shuts a signal down to some part of your body, you can only wait until the flare passes (besides getting a steroid infusion to ease the inflammation until the next time). After that, it rarely goes back to the function that was there before.
Boy, I am really sorry you got pummelled in the replies. The only response to your story should be, I am so sorry, I wish I could help.
This! I hear everything you’re saying OP! My Mom was diagnosed with Lupus in the middle 90’s but I know for sure she suffered from childhood, her periods and migraines were horrendous and everyone asked her why she Never felt good. MULTIPLE doctors told her in was Just In Her Mind despite fibromyalgia, restless legs, raynauds syndrome and rashes and butterflying..once she was diagnosed ( I was 12 her 3rd child sitting there with her) she was told that she never should have had kids especially after her first. Great. My Mom was Beautiful all her life until the end you would have never known she was sick and all of these same people couldn’t believe she was gone and I was like I bet because none of you listened to her except her husband and kids. Doctors would NEVER have been able the “cure” her but they certainly could have made life easier and Most Definitely had more sympathy and understanding.
It's not in big pharma's best interests to cure a lot of these illnesses. It's more profitable to keep you on expensive drugs to help alleviate the condition..........
"Ever tried a dab of peppermint oil on your temples?"
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That people living in the late stages of dementia are still people with valid feelings and deserve to be treated with respect and dignity .
Restless Leg Syndrome.
People think it's just being a little uncomfortable and not finding a good position to sleep in. It's actually an uncontrollable urge to move your legs that feels almost like muscle spasms and it is absolutely maddening.
Weirdly, if my cat is sleeping on my bed, I can pat him and it makes it stop. I have no idea why.
Because cats are magical creatures worthy of worship. But seriously their purr is at s vibration believed to have calming properties, this is why a cat in pain or under stress will sometimes purr.
You can't get autism, it's a neurodevelopment disorder, you are either born with it or you don't have it. Vaccines can't give you autism, medicaments won't give you or your baby autism, however genetics will, bang an autistic person and you will likely have autistic babies. When the baby has it, likely someone else in the family has it as well.
Corporate greed. People saying costs are up because they are forced to pay better than slave wages, but still making record profits
❌ The wages are stagnant even though corporations report record profits. ✅ The wages are stagnant BECAUSE corporations report record profits.
Being unable to force myself to do something with adhd. It is like I'm physically restrained when I try to force myself to do something at times.
Human contribution to climate change. I worked in a lab for a couple years for my undergrad in geophysics. Most of the data was brought back by a team of professors and grad students who took yearly trips to Antarctica. Climate change turning into a political issue is a sin I can never forgive humanity for.
Ignored by successive governments worldwide, actions substituted by lipservice, sorry kids you inherit a burnt out husk
That when you chase the validation of others, the only thing you get is tired.
Facts. Sometimes you don't know what they are, then you do. There are facts you know and others don't. And facts others know and you don't. That's ok. Be willing to learn and teach.
There are facts right now that NO human knows. Someday we'll learn what some of them are.
And even if you don't like them, that doesn't make them not-facts, or opinions.
Reality is what it is, whether or not you're willing to admit it.
I like this :) it’s like - if we wanted to prove the sky was blue, how would we go about doing that? We’d run an experiment (say, a bunch of people looking at the sky and recording what colour they see). Then we’d share the details (guess what, everyone saw blue!) and come to a conclusion (the sky is probably blue). And there would still be people fighting it and saying “why would you blindly trust science like that you idiots” and all sorts of cringy stuff. Maybe someday we’ll find out the sky is actually Blorange and we just don’t have the eye receptors to see Blorange. Stay open-minded and always be willing to learn and change your mind! Blorange is still Blorange whether you believe in it or not.
The utter meaninglessness of humans in the overall fabric of the universe.
Why is it depressing that there's no "meaning" to life? We create our own meaning.
The amount of people that don't know narwhals are actual animals
Increasing taxes on a higher tax bracket doesn’t mean 100% of your income is taxed at that rate the second you enter it.
Yes, one can always tell people who've never been in the higher tax bracket - they worry about being worse off if they get a raise.
The government is not spying on you, but you are giving away way more information than the government cares about to advertisers and loyalty programs so you can save $.50 on Doritos...cool ranch of course
Most of us are don't have an interesting enough life to be spied on all the time. What will they see, honestly?
OCD can be a lot more debilitating than people realize.
And OCD isn't just organizing your room ten times a day. I have frequent problems like when I twitch one foot I must twitch the other, and I also try to avoid certain words like "just". Also I don't ever want to clean my room because I know where everything is, even though it's messy.
Most Americans already pay for other people’s medical care through their health insurance policy, yet a lot seem to think that being taxed is what will cause them to pay for other people.
The sensation of deja vu, whether real or not.
I get these sometimes, particularly from dreams. One I remember was when I was around 10, I had a dream where I walk into my backyard. There was a table full of items. I reach into an open shoebox, and pull out a business card for a shoe store. I remember as a kid I found the dream to be weird, and that dream stuck with me for awhile. I would occasionally remember it. A few years later, there was a major earthquake. There was an inspector going through our house check for damages, so we had to move stuff out of the house. I was bored, so I was walking the house, and I went into the backyard. Déjà vu. Really freaked me out. Apparently that shoebox was originally stored in my dad's closet for years, from his old job he hadn't worked for a decade.
I have celiac disease. This one really gets me because I have every medical test under the sun to prove it. Yet I still deal with constant comments, "Why is everyone allergic to gluten all of a sudden?" "Oh it's so trendy to not eat gluten."
There are always (unnecessary) trends, and not all of them need to keep away from gluten? And when they cheat/change the diet people start to wonder? Or just the ordinary story of haters, "I'm not celiac, so neigher are you!" or "No one was celiac when I was little, so there can't be no advancement in healtcare/understanding of the human body after 1960!", or, "everybode have problem with gluten, man up"... 🤷♂️
That a bird once flew through the open windows of my car, straight through and out the other side, while I was driving at highway speeds. I was alone in the car and I swear it happened.
My reaction, "Did that just happen?"
With a bit of luck, you may be accompanied by ducks and geese on the country roads where I live, taking advantage of the slipstream of the cars...imagine, looking out of your side windows, gently startled by 'em...you don't need to panic because they won't hit your car or something ...👍🏼...it must be like swimming with dolphins, I suppose...
That much of what we “remember” isn’t real. The brain is a sieve, losing memories. It fills in holes of knowledge with assumptions, interpolations, & justifications.
This might off the vein a little but my answer is:
Bad things can happen to your child as a direct result of your negligence. People truly don't believe that their child could be internally decapitated, mangled, or die of internal injuries because you didn't enforce the right kind of car seat or even a seat belt. Children 3-8 are the largest demographic I've seen that are injured in car accidents as a direct result of being improperly restrained. And people don't believe it. They don't believe that not doing any child restraint research, and lacking in their own due diligence can lead to their child's death.
Source: paramedic.
In Canada, the rules are now that no matter what your child's age is they must be in a booster seat if they are min. 4'9" or at least 9 years old. All kids under 6 years old, and under 40lbs have to be in a car seat. The biggest struggle is convincing older family members who refuse to update their knowledge of child safety because "back in the good ol' days we rode in the box of the truck and we survived."
That nuclear energy is actually the cleanest most powerful way to power a community. People hear the word “nuclear” and freak out. They think that somehow they have a bomb sitting in their community. They think Chernobyl is the norm. In reality, there were a lot of things that led up to the Chernobyl disaster that would not happen in any of the modern nuclear reactors that provide power to much of the world. With good regulation, safety, standards and upgrades, nuclear power is clean, plentiful, cheap, and efficient. But people get so freaked out by the word “nuclear” they assume it’s bad and they’ll put oil in the furnace instead😑
Concrete Boats. Rare, but they do exist.
Everyone I tell thinks I'm winding them up
Me when I tell people I have Aphantasia (I cant picture things in my head) and vice versa when people tell me they can picture things in their heads
One of my kids has this. I don't know if there is duch thing as hyperphantasia but if there is I lean that way. I find is so asy to picture things to the smell, taste etc that I feel like I am there or am holding something.
lucid dreams
I finally had one where I became aware I was dreaming. I knew I could wake up easily so I had to be careful to stay in the dream state, Everything around me was psychedelically colorful and I could feel the ground beneath my feet. Then I was like, "I can do anything! What should I do?" So I tried flying because it was the first thing that came to my mind, but struggled with going forward. Then I lost it and I guess went back into normal sleep. I haven't managed to repeat the experience. Wish I had thought of something better than flying
Extraterrestrial Life exists.
We haven’t met them yet, but they are out there.
If you were looking at this planet from a distance, you'd give a big swerve if you were in the neighborhood.
I believe most people aren't actually working in offices and we're all sitting here trying to fake eachother out with the goal of seeming necessary.
The tangible and intangible benefits of exercise.
Why is she doing her yoga on the floor next to the spare yoga mat?
Energy. When someone is looking at you, you somehow sense it and look back no matter how far they are from you.
How absolutely weird this universe is.
Like I'm not religious but the universe actually just doesn't make any sense.
What the hell are quantum physics? Why is there so much mass? What is Dark energy? Why do things just seem to work completely different when you go to atomic levels?
Like every single aspect of physics is a deep rabbit hole of weirdness and contrivances. We have to keep coming up with isoteric rules and equations to come close to describing the weird phenomena we see. Yet... without these weird quantum mechanics interactions, without gravity just oddly being weaker then the other three forces, without all the constants being finely tuned the way they are, without the rules of physics just coming up out of nowhere after the big bang.... there wouldn't be life.
That's before even getting into the really weird s**t like the fact our meat computers are conscious. Like that didn't have to happen. It is reasonable to expect that even if life came about, humans could just be philisophical zombies and nothing would change. But we aren't. And that's before all the other really weird stuff like dreams and near death experiences etc.
And weirdest of all:
Why does it exist at all?
This all leads me to believe that there is something more to all of this. All arguments against this don't hold any water imo. I think the anthropic principle is bogus as well. But nobody seems to care to talk about any of this or just pretend like nothing is weird about existence.
This is why I believe in God. Many of these reasons and many more past these. The science part can be deviated forever ( which I will happily do with anyone for any amount of time because I love talking bout this and all the strange hinge of universe). However, one cannot assume meaning ( individual or collective) without also assuming a God. Just like how money needs precious metal to back it up, meaning needs some authority behind it to be worth something. Otherwise meaning is simply an implied feature that has no effect on anything outside our perceived reality. So if you believe in meaning and purpose then you believe in some type of intelligent design. This doesn’t have to be a certain religion but it does mean you believe in some time of intelligent starts and sentient plan to the universe.
My husband and I saw Richard Clark forcibly kissing a young ingenue on his New Year's Eve show. We both saw it, even though they cut quickly away. Nobody believes us.
Basic Economics.
This should be much higher. I believe they ended compulsory economics studies from public schools in the US so people would no longer be able to understand what those in power are doing...and it's lead to conspiracy theories to fill holes where knowledge should be.
The power of a large amount of people to get together to make a positive change.
Most people think you can’t change things, or even gather people together for one purpose for that matter.
But I think you could, if you **really** wanted to. Only issue is nobody is SOO motivated that they motivate others nowadays.
Even motivational speakers need motivational speakers nowadays. And it shows when we watch them. Nobody can just simply take pride in who or what they are anymore, it has all become a unending competition of “who is best”.
The Conservatives have tried their level best to ban the right of protest in the UK.
A lot of these were either wrong or fallacies, or are a more nuanced situation then just yes or no.
Most of these are spot on correct. In contrast to other similar lists where a 50% correct rate is common.
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A lot of these were either wrong or fallacies, or are a more nuanced situation then just yes or no.
Most of these are spot on correct. In contrast to other similar lists where a 50% correct rate is common.
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