As you go through life—whether walking gently barefoot or dashing through the undergrowth without a care in the world—you naturally pick up some wisdom and experience along the way. And like the pebbles you’ll find on the beach, all of these insights can look very different, ranging from the practical (‘lift with your legs not your back’) all the way to the cliched but deeply true (‘spending time with your loved ones is far more important than your career’). Though some people simply advise you to regularly sharpen your shovel because it makes a world of difference.
Twitter user @Dustmopp31 made a lot of people smile when he asked them to share random but great bits of advice they’d like to give others. The question quickly spread beyond the boundaries of Twitter, however, and drew quite a lot of redditors from the r/MadeMeSmile subreddit into the discussion as well.
We’ve collected the very best, most interesting, and even quirky pieces of advice shared by these internet users. Scroll down, upvote your fave posts, and if you have any advice to share with all the other Pandas reading this, consider dropping by the comment section at the bottom of this article. Got your notepads ready? Let’s go!
I reached out to a couple of experts in their fields to hear what advice they'd give others. I spoke to British comedy writer, author, singer-songwriter, and all-round creative person Ariane Sherine in order to take a peek at the pearls of wisdom she's collected over the years. "What you give is usually what you get back. I’ve given my daughter endless kindness and love and she’s turned into a very kind and loving girl. But there are adults who don’t respond well to kindness and will throw it back in your face, so with adults, the lesson is: only love those who love you," she told Bored Panda how she approaches life. Scroll down for my interviews with Ariane, as well as with fitness expert and entrepreneur Jack Bly.
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Leave the first time he frightens you. Because it won't be the last.
Also "leave the first time she frightens you". It's not always the man.
I asked comedy writer Ariane what advice she'd give anyone who keeps failing at something. Her approach is to be flexible while staying persistent and try something else. "Either another way of doing what you failed at, or something else entirely, but do persist. Not every seed you plant will grow, so you often have to plant many seeds in order that one will sprout."
I was curious if Ariane would do anything differently or give her past self any advice. However, she told me that she doesn't regret anything. "I wouldn’t tell my teenage self anything, as if she’d done anything different then I wouldn’t have my wonderful daughter now! But for other teenagers, I’d say: don’t waste yourselves on people who don’t care about you. Give your love to people who do."
Apologize to your children. Genuinely. If you were wrong, say sorry and mean it.
I'm amazed how many adults can't bring themselves even to admit that they were wrong to a child, much less apologize for what they did.
When you're cooking the recipe is only a reference. When you're baking the recipe is the work of the law.
Meanwhile, fitness expert Jack told Bored Panda that the very best advice that he can give people is to start controlling their inputs in life. You are what you consume, not just what you eat. "Be mindful of what you put into your mind. Music, TV shows, social media, politics, etc. Think about if they are creating negative or positive thoughts and beliefs, he told Bored Panda.
"Inputs lead to beliefs and beliefs lead to your actions."
According to Jack, he's been "hardwired for optimism" since birth, so he has a better time facing challenges. "Whenever I face hardships, I always try to view it as a blessing. It will force me to grow in some capacity and get better."
As for advice that he'd give his younger self, Jack believes that authenticity and being your true self are the most important things. "Stop caring so much what others think. Be 100% authentic to you and chase what you want."
Never take criticism from someone you wouldn't take advice from.
I just posted this on my Facebook 3 days ago, after I saw it on one page.
When a kid shows you a drawing, instead of saying “what is it?” Or guessing, which could upset them, ask them
“Can you tell me about it?”
The kid will be excited to tell you all about it and they don’t get upset that their nonsensical squiggles weren’t immediately recognized.
Check-in on people who always seem strong. Sometimes they’re not doing well but think they can’t say anything because they’re the “strong one.”
Advice comes in all shapes and sizes. And two areas that we definitely need to work on to create a solid foundation for our future include our finances, as well as our relationships.
Some time ago, financial expert Sam Dogen, the founder of the popular Financial Samurai blog, shared how we should approach work when we’re young. “In your 20s and 30s you need to work BOTH smarter AND harder, especially if you are of average intelligence. The world is a brutally competitive place with some of the smartest people also working the hardest. So working long hours while you’re still young and learning is a matter of practicality,” he shared with Bored Panda. However, just hard work by itself isn’t enough.
“You can’t expect to go straight to the corner office without putting in your dues. At the same time, you can’t expect to outperform your peers simply through hard work, You have to be strategic by building a strong network of relationships internally and externally (clients) who will pull to get you promoted and help you get paid at your next job.”
Never lie to your doctor.
This is super important. I understand that people are scared of being judged, but lying could lead to big problems. And chances are, the doctors probably aren’t going to judge you since they see odd things all the time.
TURN ON SUBTITLES FOR YOUR KIDS!!! Studies have shown it’s proven to help with reading.
Never answer a kid's joke. Always let them tell you the punchline even if you already know it.
You wouldn't answer an adult's joke even if you knew the punchline, or at least most people wouldn't. There's a broader issue of paying kids the same respect that we pay adults.
However, we shouldn’t work ourselves to the bone. It’s important to recognize when we’re burning out and take the necessary steps to recharge. “Take sick days and mentally recharge. Don’t just think being ill is just a physical thing. There are plenty of mental illnesses. They are just not as visible. There is no better time than right now to take sick days due to the pandemic and the greater awareness of mental health issues. There is simply no shame in healing the mind!” Sam said.
He added that some people boast about how much they work because they feel like nobody’s noticing their efforts. “The irony is, if you have great results, there’s no need to tell anybody how hard you work,” he noted.
Use turn signals when driving.
Never insult someone who is going to prepare your food or has access to your data.
Meanwhile, relationship expert Dan Bacon, the founder of The Modern Man project, said that honesty is vital to the long-term success of any serious relationship. It’s important to have honest conversations about practical issues like divvying up the housework in order to prevent resentment building up and to avoid unnecessary arguments.
“Housework used to be seen as women’s work only, due to a man traditionally being the breadwinner and the woman staying at home all day. Yet, in today’s society, if both the man and woman are working, it’s more fair, loving, and respectful for both of them to contribute to keeping the house clean. On the other hand, if a man is the sole breadwinner and the woman stays home all day, many people would agree that she should do most or even all of the housework. That said, no one actually ‘has to’ do anything in a relationship,” the expert told Bored Panda.
Get everything in writing, even if you think you don’t need it. An email, a text message, something in case things don’t go as planned. Has saved me countless times and burned me by not having it.
Don't smoke. Don't even start.
I've never even tried a cigarette. My friends in high school offered me one quite a few times, but I always said I don't want to. Because "No, Thank you" is a valid answer. I said, I'm not judging you for smoking, but I don't have to smoke to be friends with you. Good friends understand this.
“A woman shouldn’t ever force a man to do housework and a man shouldn’t force a woman to do it either. Instead, the couple should honestly agree on what they feel is fair and then go with that. If it feels unfair to one of them, resentment will build up, arguments will happen and they will feel less connected and happy as a couple,” Dan said.
According to him, if we feel that we’re left doing all the chores at home, we should ask our partners why they think we should be doing all of the housework by ourselves. “Then, ask if they honestly think that is a fair, loving, and respectful way for them to be approaching the relationship.”
If you see a bathroom in your dream, don’t use it.
Hahaha, I actually used it but I just couldn't go, even in dream, my body knows something is odd.
The best advice I ever got was from a Veterinarian when I brought him a newly adopted old dog with many health issues: "I will help you prolong his life, I will NOT help you prolong his death." Words to live by when you have pets and have to face "the decision".
I wish more people would see it this way. It breaks my heart to see pets suffer because their human can't let them go. It's not fair, they don't even understand. I realised this when my senior dog had cancer and I made the decision to let her go, and my older colleague (who herself had a long and hard battle with cancer) said to me "Thank you for not letting her suffer, this is what she would have wanted."
From domestic abusers to supposed experts to politicians. If someone tells you not to seek out another's opinion, they're lying to you.
Within reason, yes. That being said, people who love you may be trying to pull you out of MLM schemes, cults, or cesspools of fake news. In those situations, they really are trying to help you cut ties, and it's reasonable for them to discourage you from letting MLMers/cultists/fake news weigh in on your leaving. That being said, they should 100% be in favor of you talking with neutral third parties, like other friends, a therapist, librarians, your doctor, even random strangers.
If you love someone, tell them. Friends, family, coworker. It doesn’t matter. This may be the last time you talk to them.
If your friend is starting a new business, don’t expect a discount. Instead, support them with sales as much as possible.
I never expect discount from a friend for something, I only ask them to do it well.
If a kid ever hands you a banana, you answer it like a telephone.
If a kid ever hands you a telephone, you eat it like a banana.
When you are on a job interview, don't forget that you are also evaluating whether that job is a fit for you. Ask about benefits, work culture, what the interviewer personally finds valuable about working there. 1. This makes it appear that you have self-worth and eases your nervousness. 2. The answers they give can tell you a lot about whether you actually want to work there.
It’s okay to like things that are considered “cringey” or unpopular. You decide what you like, not everyone else.
Brush your teeth no matter what just brush em before you lose em
Whenever you’re stuck in a situation where someone starts to cry, offer to get them water. It gives them the space to express their emotions privately for a bit and feel cared for as you are trying to help by getting water. Also helps if people crying makes you uncomfortable.
Forgive your younger self.
Most importantly, start small. Pick one moment of the past - start small- and view it through your current self. Oftentimes, our mistakes make a lot of sense considering our age/situation. View your past self as if it was your friend or child and comfort accordingly.
TLDR It’s forgiving/understanding your past self by understanding WHY you made that mistake.
Just don't dwell on the past, regret nothing, it can't be changed and live for the now.
When in doubt if you get a weird email, text, letter; never click any links in the text or email. Always go to the bank to verify if it is real.
Its been two years and I still wait for the person who sent me an email saying that they will send proof of weird porn I had been watching to everyone I know if I didnt transfer money within the next 48 hours after opening the mail. I dont even watch porn so I was really excited to see what they had found.
Waste is generated at the time of purchase, not disposal. Holding onto junk just because you paid money for it isn’t being thrifty, it’s hoarding. Your mental health and your wallet will both be better off if you get rid of it to make space for the things you actually need.
Make sure you drink enough water. Every cell in your body needs it
Never send an angry email or text immediately. Wait at least an hour and read it out loud or to a friend.
Keep learning new things
And what you learn doesn't necessarily have to be useful. It's okay to learn how a nuclear reactor works just because it's interesting. It's okay to spend close to 2 hours listening to a documentary on bloody queuing if that keeps you entertained. Not everything you learn has to be a skill, just a new fact here or there will keep your brain healthy.
From argumentative a**holes at the grocery store to bullies in public school, this is my best advice:
If someone tries to give you a hard time verbally and wants to start crap with you, insult you, or just get you going in some way, always remember:
You allow conversations to happen. You can control the length by simply not engaging. Remember: anyone who tries harder to get you to respond is losing and getting desperate.
Source: former Correctional Officer. People talking s**t to you from behind bars doesn't matter when you never acknowledge it. Eventually, you stop caring when you hear instigation and you hear it for what it is: a power play. The only winning option is not to play.
I am not sure I like this. First: It places the responsibility on the victim. Never a good idea. Second: I think you totally underestimate the persistence of especially kids. When bullies want to get a reaction out of you, they will. No one has that kind of self control. They just wear you down. You can walk away from a stranger in street most times, but bullies will literally follow you around. Advice like that just makes it seem too easy and as if victims are just not trying hard enough.
Don’t feel upset if you can’t find a nice woman/man to date/spend time with. Rather be the loneliest man alive than being attached to the wrong one. It only takes one wrong one to never make this mistake again. Take your time, you are beautiful and there is no rush.
Isn't there a rush? I am almost 50 now, and I started to collect cats.
Take care of your Mental health. It should be a priority. Once you lose your health, life sucks.
Ditto physical health. You've only got one meat suit to occupy in this life. Do your best to take care of it.
Work will never love you back.
As someone who’s just gone into remission after getting a chronic illness by overworking, I’ve always found this a bit condescending. My employer does things like profit sharing in addition to full overtime pay; the issue is that he works a lot himself and so when I went to unhealthy levels, it flew under the radar. And the reason why I overworked was because I finally had the opportunity to work in a job that didn’t make me feel like s**t all time, plus I have a general background of struggling to say no. Doesn’t mean it was healthy, but I hate it when people forget that people who get into these kinds of situations are human beings.
Learn how to say no, and learn how to have tact and grace towards others.
Remember that "No." is a complete sentence. You do not have to justify that answer. "I have other plans, but thank you for thinking of me" is just as good. The fact that my plans are to stay in my jammies and binge watch Downton Abbey are completely irrelevant.
Always budget for less money than you have, that way if you make mistakes it’ll be ok. Leave room for error
Round up when budgeting how much you owe, round down when looking at what you have. Save ~6 months of expenses in a liquid (readily available) savings account. Invest anything else that's not daily spending money. Invest for retirement first, followed by personal insurance, like personal disability plans. After that look to 5-15 year investments. And start young!
If you're an artist or in a job where you type a lot, take breaks and do wrist stretches! Carpel Tunnel sucks.
also, Google: "Breugger's Postural Break". Upper and Lower Cross Syndromes might be minor but can lead to more serious issues later on.
Teach your children to have situational awareness. They will be less likely to become a victim. They will also learn how to read a room or public space for danger. It will also become useful in other aspects of life such as driving or walking alone. Most adults don't have this. Most people don't pay attention to anything. It's a good life skill.
There's actually a fantastic nonprofit that teaches these skills called Kidpower. It's done courses in quite a few countries now, so I think their materials are available in a few different languages. Kidpower focuses on teaching kids, teens, and adults with developmental disabilities safety skills without scaring them. A lot of their resources are free. I highly encourage people to check them out.
Add your email recipients AFTER you've finished and checked the email. But add attachments first! Too many times I sent out emails without adding the necessary files.
My mail client (Thunderbird) checks for keywords, for example attach/attached/attachment ("find the files attached" or similar). If you write of attaching, but don't attach any files, it will ask you prior to sending. Saved me quite some "whoopsies, I forgot something" mails with the files I announced...
Small tips : if you go somewhere, take with you something that should be there (if you go to the kitchen for a glass or a snack, take with you the old glass or who is already there) it will make the big cleaning faster.
Professionally: Always read the contract. And don’t sign it if it doesn’t work for you. Don’t compromise. Contracts are not about getting together, they’re about what happens when you want to get apart.
Never go grocery shopping while you are hungry. You’ll buy up the entire store.
Clean as you cook. Pick up after yourself!
If you have a friend who is really into a kind of music you want to know more about, ask them to make you a mixtape/playlist.
People love to share what they love and you will learn a lot.
Don’t use dryer sheets or softener when washing towels! It coats laundry in a light layer of oil or wax and ruins the absorbency
Also put them in your empty suitcases before storing them after a trip. Leaving the leftover dried soap from the trip in there does the trick too. Makes it smell fresh not like the attic. :)
This is pretty common, but if you find yourself cringing at something you did, take pride in the fact that you have grown up beyond that mistake
That makes me feel a little better about the embarrassing things I’ve done in the past 😭😊
Going to community college for your first 2 years saves almost half the cost of your bachelor’s degree.
This was the best thing I did, especially because it allowed me to take a semester of exploration classes to really learn what I wanted to do in life. And, the 2 years at the university were super fun.
Make boundaries.
Have compassion: you are not the only one having a bad day or week.
Neither is the other person, so we should both stay out of each other’s way.
A falling knife has no handle.
Plus take a smart step back. You don’t want it landing on your foot.
Life is too damn short. Quit that toxic job. Break off that toxic relationship. Don't let peoples' toxicity lead you on a path you were not meant for. You live for you!
In all relationships, allow room for change & forgiveness. Our views change as we age & we all make mistakes.
Views change because of our life experiences. Sometimes for the better (wiser) and sometimes not so great (bitter, vengeful). You can't always influence life but you can always influence and direct your thoughts. Thoughts are like eggs in a nest - When cared for you get beautiful chooks, if not then you'll end up with a big stink!
If you’re ever in a scenario where you can’t safely test whether something has electricity running, always use the back of your hand. If you use the palm and it’s hot it could cause your hand to close on it and kill you. Again always be safe first, but if you have no other option don’t use your palm
Same advice for checking door handles in case of a fire: use the back of your hand.
Don’t raise great children, raise children who will grow up to be great adults.
Never ask a woman if she’s pregnant.
When checking out a house, either to rent or to buy then make sure to check the number and position of plug sockets in each room.
Too few and at odd locations can be a sign the wiring is old and hasn't been redone for a long time, or in a new building, it can be a sign of a cheap rush job.
Both can take a long time to put right and be very costly (if you are renting this might mean a reluctant landlord keeps putting it off and you live with the fallout)
Ask each of your family members to write/ record their story. Make it a tradition. In a century your family will either know their whole family’s story or you can have your own private museum of history from the eyes of basic people.
A few years before I had kids, I started a "journal for posterity." I only update it 1-2 times/ year, but my kids & grandkids will have a handwritten artifact not just of our personal lives, but how our lives intersect with moments in history. I have filled 3 volumes in about 12 years.
Nobody gives you a medal for drinking booze. You can say "no" or "I'm ok for now" if your peers get offended by this your Friends are toxic.
99% of the time whatever you are worrying about is not as bad as you imagine.
Make calls to your friends and family more often. Especially your mom.
Not, just calls, go visit! My mom called me to visit every weekend and sometimes, I really didn't feel like it but I didn't want to disappoint her so I always went. After she passed this year, I am happy I was there for every weekend last several years.
Always save your work.
Turn on Auto Save. Do regular backups of your data, preferably to a separate hard drive so you have it in two places; if your computer dies or your laptop gets stolen, you'll still have a relatively recent copy.
If you want to be seen: Stand Up
If you want to be heard: Speak Up
If you want to be respected: Shut Up
my Father's wisdom.
Eh, I don't agree. I get where he's coming from, but all I can think of is the townfolk who stayed silent in the 1950s in the face KKK terrorism. Sure, they were respected by other white people for not blowing the whistle, but their silence allowed horrible things to continue. Sometimes you need to make waves. People don't like to be challenged, so you might not be respected at first, but when there's an injustice, it's better to say something than to say nothing.
If you put some baking soda in the water when boiling eggs, the shell peels off easily instead of in little pieces
No need to add anything to the water. The surefire way is to bring the water to a boil first, then gently drop each egg into the boiling water. Doing that quickly cooks the contents close to the shell and prevents the shell from sticking.
Wet your hands before rolling meatballs.
I read it as "wash". Please, WASH your hands before rolling meatballs.
When you get stabbed keep the knife in and don't pull it out of the wound
Be nice to yourself, and the people around you.
Also the a**hole ones, there is literally nothing better than killing with kindness
Start saving for retirement as soon as you get a job. Don't touch it until you retire, unless you absolutely, undoubtedly, life-or-death need to.
Even if you are not big on history, learn some key dates/ years/periods by heart: World wars, Magna Carta, Great London Fire, when agriculture started, Ice Ages. Decide to learn about 10, depending also where you live (your country's independence date for example), then just stick them in your memory in any way you can and is most suitable for your learning style. Don't overdo it, because then you won't do it. This way you can quickly place events in history on your mental map and you have a clearer picture of where we've been and where we are heading.
We are closer in time to Cleopatra than Cleopatra was to the building of the pyramids by almost 500 years. I enjoy this one, and I learned it here. Yay BP🍻
Sharpen your shovel regularly. I know it sounds dumb, but it makes a WORLD of difference. Same for lawnmower blades, but every couple of months or so. Or if you hit something big.
Sharpen lawnmower blades every couple of months? Whar are you mowing? Rocks?
Never let your tank get below a quarter
I wish they gave the reason for this - in most modern automobiles, the fuel is used as the coolant for the fuel pump. If you're constantly driving around with only enough fuel to get to the next place you put a couple dollars worth in the tank, your fuel pump is almost constantly overheating. This can lead to expensive repairs.
Debt is stupid. If you cannot afford it don’t buy it. There are a few exceptions but in that case, make sure to pay it off quickly. The longer you're in dept the more you're technically paying.
If you instead set those payments aside and later use them for outright buying that item it ends up cheaper in the long run.
When mixing eggs and butter together while baking, make sure the butter is in the bowl first.
Update your resume and change it slightly based on what job you're applying for. Don't lie, just change the spotlight to what skills would best appeal to the employer.
Writing things down when studying actually helps, due to muscle memory.
No such thing as "muscle memory". Learning any task is just the nerve path getting fatter.
If your kid puts something up their nose, block their other nostril and put your mouth completely over their open mouth and then blow a little forcefully. It’ll come out. Save yourself an ER copay.
Hmmm. Quite possible to damage eardrums and/or lungs if you do this. So if it doesn't come out easily, don't carry on.
Let it go. Whatever it is. If it doesn’t serve you, let it go.
Never use a wet washcloth on a hot cooking surface.
Oh? Why not? I mean, I definitely understand why you wouldn't want to leave it there, but is a quick once over really bad?
Take photo's. Memories are one thing, but photo's of events, get-togethers, friends and family will be worth a million words after a decade or so.
Don't always be the photographer - get in those pictures.
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Property is not only money and valuables. Be respectful of the things you have. Wash the colors separately, and wash delicate items by hand. If you are doing something dirty, cover the whole area. Remember that you had to buy everything you have.
Learn how to do basic mending and (if you own a home) basic home repair. It'll save you SO much money!
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I find that when I have sudden thought about a task that needs doing, but don’t have the time at that moment to do it and it relates to a specific object, e.g. a house plant that needs repotting, I’ll put the object somewhere in an odd place, e.g., put the house plant on a toilet seat. This simple act will be the reminder.
Have you sorted your lightbulbs / led lamps out yet? ;)
Load More Replies... Take photo's. Memories are one thing, but photo's of events, get-togethers, friends and family will be worth a million words after a decade or so.
Don't always be the photographer - get in those pictures.
Load More Replies... Property is not only money and valuables. Be respectful of the things you have. Wash the colors separately, and wash delicate items by hand. If you are doing something dirty, cover the whole area. Remember that you had to buy everything you have.
Learn how to do basic mending and (if you own a home) basic home repair. It'll save you SO much money!
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Have you sorted your lightbulbs / led lamps out yet? ;)
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