Sadness mixed with humor in a perplexing, chaotic, and confusing way—that’s what the r/FunnyandSad online group over on Reddit is all about. An old-hand on the net, having been founded in November 2013, it has since then grown into a community of nearly 700k members.
The subreddit does exactly what it says on the tin and documents posts from all over the net that are funny and sad at the same time. It’s a melange of laughing through tears (or is that crying while you laugh?) that will show you that life is far more varied and nuanced than the black-and-white we’re used to seeing on the news and on social media.
Sadness is a very natural part of life and we ought to embrace it, instead of running away from it. After all, we can’t be happy-go-lucky all the time (I would know, I tried). And while being sad can even have certain benefits, like improving our memory and judgment, getting stuck in negative thinking patterns and endless loops of sadness isn’t healthy for our mental wellbeing.
I had a quick chat with an expert in the field of psychology about how to identify what these negative thinking patterns look like and how focusing just on our failures, having black or white thinking, and holding ourselves accountable for everything that goes wrong all harm our mental health.
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Emma Morton, a researcher at the University of British Columbia, told Bored Panda that, for example, what we tend to focus on more, our successes or our failures, can influence our long-term mental health. For instance, hyper-concentrating on all the things that go wrong or could potentially go wrong can trap us in a perpetual loop of self-criticism and anxiety.
This, in turn, can lead to feelings of very low self-esteem and even depression which, in turn, can make us unwilling to ask for help and support even though we might desperately need both. However, there are other ways how we can end up trapped in negative thinking patterns, too.
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“Negative thinking patterns can include only paying attention to failures and ignoring successes, black or white thinking (e.g., ‘If I get anything less than an A+ on this test, I’m a failure’), labeling oneself based on mistakes (e.g., ‘I’m a loser, an idiot’), [and] mind-reading (e.g., ‘Everyone will think I’m a loser for not getting this promotion’),” Emma went into detail with Bored Panda how we can end up being overly harsh with ourselves.
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My husband and I were curious a few days ago about how much rent we have paid to our current landlord. It's over 160k. The house we just found and got denied for is only 149k, lol
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She continued, adding that another negative pattern includes “holding yourself personally accountable for things that go wrong and attributing successes to luck or the contributions of others (e.g., ‘I only got that award because nobody else applied’).”
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As such, having unrealistic expectations of what we’re capable of and being unreasonably demanding of ourselves can lead to “feelings of depression and worthlessness” that in turn “make it harder to reach out for help.” So while it’s perfectly fine to feel sadness, we all need to know when to ask for a helping hand if we find ourselves constantly stuck with only negative thoughts.
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Technically he only had eleven true friends. The other one was a toxic backstabber who literally sold him out.
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This is right on the nose. It was incredibly sad to see how many people really don't care about anyone but themselves
If only it was on the nose. Wear your masks PROPERLY people!
Load More Replies...I've said this since the start. If they thought it was to protect themselves then the same people throwing tantrums in stores refusing to wear one would instead be shouting at other people to put one on.
Just tell them that covid causes men to be impotent and women to grow fat and wach the result. Covid was marketed in a completely wrong.
Well that's how conservatives are anyways. Fat and impotent. I've never seen so many people that have to pay to get laid.
Load More Replies...What's really sad is that the American President denied there was a problem and refuted the advice of actual medical EXPERTS. I still think that m**********r should be charged with genocide.
unfortunately, this is true. I really wish I could afford to go to another country where people actually give af about others.
thats why you need to tell them that they need to wear them or else aliens
Being 75 at the time I wore it to protect me then others. When I got the virus with no fever and symptoms but strange tasting coffee I stayed indoors for 2 wks with anything I needed brought by friends.
In Canada, no one had to lie. Almost everyone followed restrictions even though *Cough* SOME people (Aka half of a quarter of the population) Didn't want to protect others. (Yes, I know, this is a stupid comment but meh. I wanted to comment something but didn't know what)
This ain't just an American problem. I had to take the bus home from hospital after an accident at work yesterday and there were so many groups of youths saying to the driver 'haha man, aye we're all exempt so you cannae force us.' This was in Scotland incase you hadn't guessed.
We deserve it. :) Being such a large country, we have all types, good and bad on any category.
Load More Replies...Americans are very individualistic. The person before the community.
This doesn't only apply to America... indifference and selfishness have no nationality
I love how at least one person downvoted this comment. As if she's killing your dream/narrative that indifference and selfishness only happen in America.
Load More Replies...I Bet if you told people that masks kill others then more people will wear them.
I don't want to be stereotyped but I don't wear masks. I get severe anxiety and hyperventilate when i try for more than 5 minutes especially when i suck in the fabric and fog up my glasses. It's a serious health issue with me. But i do recognize it's effectiveness so I will compromise by HOLDING the mask over my nose and mouth just enough to cover but not suffocate myself.
I also said that. The slogan 'Think of the others' is a total miss. They should make people believe they are protecting themselves, then they will do it.
Sad truth.Here's some more irony for you. People want to talk about he rd imm unity, but are afraid they'll catch something when they've already been treated for it.Our country is in a sad state.Stop letting social media rile you up. Be nice to eachother.Think for yourselves and be decent. Create the change you want to see, don't just soap box on social media .
I have some vented N95s we use at work to protect ourselves from smoky and dusty environments. I can wear those to the grocery store.
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they are literally permanently embedded into your head, theres no getting rid of them
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Totally. I am now halfway through my second health degree and my father still tells me what medical advice he got from the TV, and when I say, "No that is not correct info" he gets irritated, "I watched the thing on TV!!" Yes coz 6-8 years education on the subject has taught me absolutely nothing....What can you do...still love him...
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It's also because in the US you have to pay thousands of dollars in medical bills for prenatal care and labour and delivery, even if nothing goes wrong. You also get 2 weeks maternity leave, if you're lucky. A lot of people literally cannot afford to *have* a baby, let alone raise a child.
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So bloody true. The last couple of years has been one hit after the other and we aren't classed as poor. Struggling yes, poor no.
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I am a millennial (vowels are too expensive to rent) ' 'm ' m'll'n''l? (Ma'am you can't afford those apostrophes) mmllnl :(
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Spent $11.75 Growing Tomatoes This Year. Here's My Whole Harvest!
My single beet was a little bigger, but I planted Aton of veggies - got sick and all it takes is one day of neglect for everything to die in AZ summer temps (I’m new at this). I’m surprised your little tomato turned red so soon! Don’t they stay green in early growth? But what do I know - I get oddball things in my “garden” regularly. Going to try a fall planting this year. Your tomato is adorable. Keep trying!
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This is the most diverse post I have ever seen- stupid stuff, dark jokes, sad stuff and everything, very confusing indeed
facts for some ppl, maybe confusing for others, depends on which country u come from
I think they mean it's confusing because you don't know whether to laugh or cry.
Load More Replies...Clearly BP is not for you. Maybe go watch Tucker Carlson rant about "the left", or Ben Shapiro ask why crime hasn't been banned.
Load More Replies...This is the most diverse post I have ever seen- stupid stuff, dark jokes, sad stuff and everything, very confusing indeed
facts for some ppl, maybe confusing for others, depends on which country u come from
I think they mean it's confusing because you don't know whether to laugh or cry.
Load More Replies...Clearly BP is not for you. Maybe go watch Tucker Carlson rant about "the left", or Ben Shapiro ask why crime hasn't been banned.
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