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35 People Share What They Thought Was A Useless Piece Of Advice, But Changed Their Minds After Trying It
Who doesn’t hate a piece of random advice coming straight at you with full force of unneeded impact? If there's anything the world would be better off without, it would be unsolicited advice.
But in reality, these wisdom bites from colleagues, friends, and whoever feels confident enough to throw one out are so common, you wonder how come they’re still legal. And one Reddit user u/5000Castillo decided to find out whether some of the advice is actually useful.
The question “What felt like a useless piece of advice until you actually tried it?” which, at first, seemed to be crossing the line, got almost 60K upvotes and a whopping 20.2K comments. The answers are in, and you will be surprised to hear the results.
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#1
My dad always told me ‘Ask anyway, the worst they can say is no’ when buying something or when I needed something from another person. Seemed stupid to ask if I was sure they would say no but I was also a socially anxious kid. Turns out that advice has helped me with school, with raises, with people in general, with plans with new friends...
Bama Belle 5 years ago
Being nice works wonders sometimes, too. I dropped my phone (on carpet), and it unbelievably stopped working. I took it to my cell provider & explained what happened. The lady told me repairs wouldn't be covered under my warranty since I dropped it. I jokingly (but sweetly) said, "Did I say I DROPPED it? I meant, it just quit working.". She smiled & said, "Well, in that case, we'll take care of it.". And she did, at no charge! I didn't have a hissy fit, I didn't bore her w/ some sob story, I was nice (and made a little joke). It won't always work, but often times does.
Jason Doakes 5 years ago
This is good advice for anxious or shy people, but unfortunately, most people practicing this are the pushy extroverts who exploit the people who can't say "no". I am sure you all have that special friend who often calls you at 2am to pick him up somewhere, or to help him move for the third time in a year, who asks you to lend him your brand new car, who wants you to babysit his dog, even though you live in a tiny apartment and work 14 hours a day. And if you say no only once, you're the "bad friend" who didn't help out. Good friends do not put friends in situations like this. SORRY FOR PUTTING A NEGATIVE SPIN ON THIS....
Remi Flynne 5 years ago
That's my sister. She stopped being friendly with me when I couldn't help her move once. Wasn't something I could do at the time and yet she has been unpleasant to me at every, single family get together since. I realised she is toxic and have as little to do with her as possible now. Thank you, your saying this has made me feel better as sometimes I felt I must have done something wrong. No, she is just a selfish and unpleasant person.
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Angell Harding 5 years ago
I have social anxiety and depression, and this "advice" is about as helpful as telling me to try not being sad.
Renate Stargardt 5 years ago
By following this "life wisdom", my mother got a 25% discount on a new couch.
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#2
Instead of saying, "I'm sorry for being late," or something, say, "thank you for being patient" Didn't realize the effect that could have on people, and instead of putting yourself down, you bring another up.
Andrew Gibb 5 years ago
Thank you for your patience as a sign off when I am late submitting a task works wonders
Lauren Caswell 5 years ago
It makes you feel like 'Ok they know it/they are late but they also care about the fact I had to wait'. It can feel validating (provided it's not just an automated response system, that's irritating lol)
Load More Replies... Pseudo Puppy 5 years ago
Personally, I hate the "thanks for being patient".... because it's assuming that I've been patient while having my time wasted. Thanking me for waiting (because I was waiting), is a different matter. (I think I've worked in customer service for too long, that I know the majority of these 'catchphrases', and therefore find them totally insincere. Yes, I'm becoming sceptical...)
What's In Your Head? 5 years ago
That doesn't work for me, sorry. If you're late (which I absolutely cannot stand), I appreciate an actual apology. "Thank you for your patience" somehow sounds like you think you are better than me. Please just stick with apologies.
Foxxy (The Original) 5 years ago
What about saying them together. I am sorry for being late but thank you for your patience.
Mike Rodrick 5 years ago
I have an attitude about people being late. Better be a good reason for it.
Paul Jordan 5 years ago
Sometimes s**t happens. Best intentions get blown out of the water. Really, just don't be negative. Works wonders on BOTH sides...
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Its better to lose a second of your life than to lose your life in a second. People on the road need to just slow down a little. It’ll save your life
Scagsy 5 years ago
Good one. Also, you are not as safe as you think you are in your easily crushable sheet metal and plastic box
Oathbraker 5 years ago
I've always wondered what goes through biker's heads. I feel relatively safe in my car knowing there are seat belts and airbags between me and death. (I know I can still die, but there is some safety.) But bikes? You just put on a leather jacket and a helmet and go at 200 km/h? That's just suicide.One small bump or mistake or another car doing something stupid and you're dead.
Load More Replies... WilvanderHeijden 5 years ago
Advice from my ex-army driving instructor. "Drive like you're surrounded by suicidal maniacs who haven't got a clue what they are doing, where they've come from and where they are going to."
OCDRobot 5 years ago
So damn true. My husband is always safe behind the wheel and many of his friends have made fun of him for being "slow" while driving when in reality he's going at the speed limit and following the rules of the road. The same people that make fun of him have been in hospital from car accidents where they were speeding on a dangerous road, but still think he's the loser for being safe.
Brant Johns 5 years ago (edited)
In addition to less risk of crashing, it's completely rational to drive smoothly and patiently considering you will be using less gas, the various parts of your vehicle will last longer, and there's less risk of being pulled over. If you get pulled over your insurance cost increases. So it makes sense from a financial view for multiple key reasons. But people, especially my fellow americans, are very stupid.
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Roadkill The Brave 5 years ago
Another one people forget I maintaining distance between the car in front of you, you can't always control the car behind you but most times you can get them to back off you too. I also increase the distance between me and the car in front of me when slowed down or almost stopping for an accident. I know some people aren't paying attention, can't see the merge, or are being d***s, when the inevitable merge happens that large open space in front of me that can let in 2 semis will get traffic merged faster. It also keeps me almost constantly rolling forward instead of having to fully stop like a lot of people bumper riding. I'm not always moving I've been trapped by a few bad accidents but I've found it generally makes things go faster.
Oathbraker 5 years ago
Also use your freaking indicators. It's easy, doesn't consume fuel and makes you look cool.
Mary Haynes 5 years ago
I always say---of course to myself---you could have waited 2 more seconds instead of pulling right out in front of me
Jon Varley 4 years ago
Often though, it's the slow drivers who cause problems... A big conversation of it's own, too much for here, but it's not as simple as 'everyone slow down'.
CharliAnn Olney 5 years ago
I always say a little prayer when I see people on the road that are taking chances and roaring around going too fast. Especially for conditions. (This from a former Paramedic)
Bored Panda reached out to Dr. Audrey Tang, a chartered psychologist and the author of "Be A Great Manager Now" and "The Leader's Guide to Mindfulness," to find out more about unsolicited advice and what to do when you get a piece of it.
Audrey suggests viewing such advice as if it were a physical gift: “just because it’s offered, it doesn’t mean we have to accept it.” For this reason, the psychologist urges us to “never upset yourself over the opinion of someone from whom you have not asked advice.”
Moreover, Audrey believes that not all unsolicited advice is useless, especially “if it has come from someone who has experience within the subject matter.”
She said that if advice comes with examples, or evidence, or ways in which you can further research the area in question, it can indeed be very helpful. “This is true of forums too,” she added.
#4
Clean as you cook, dishes right away, and 10 minutes every day walking through the house picking things up/organizing. So much better than hours of cleaning on one day
Sethurama Iyer 5 years ago
My mom does this. It's much more productive and you have a cleaner work space
Foxxy (The Original) 5 years ago
I am so disorganised when I am cooking and run around like a chook with it’s head chopped off. Whilst yes it is easier in the long run to do the dishes as you go, I just can’t seem to find the time during cooking.
Carrie Laughs 5 years ago
I have found, for me, if I have a sink of hot soapy water ready I can just put things in there as I use them. It doesn't require extra time while cooking and then they won't dry with food stuck on them. Easier if you wash by hand or by dishwasher. Also, I agree with danielw - my husband laughs at me and thinks I'm acting like I'm on a cookery programme but do all the prep first. Chop up and measure out ingredients into bowls and jugs. More organisation even if it's a bit more washing up. Does make the cooking process less chaotic. Though easy for me to say - I have a dishwasher so creating a bit of extra washing up doesn't matter to me. Give it a go maybe? Though we are who we are, disorganised mess or not!
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Mama Panda 5 years ago
In our house, we divide the dinner chores. There are 3 of us so one cooks, one serves and one cleans. I am teaching my son to clean as you cook. He was amazed at how little is required after dinner. My hubby makes a huge mess when he cooks so it sucks when one of us has to clean up after him. So now my son and I take turns on cooking so my hubby has to clean all the time.
Thalia Lovering 5 years ago
I clean as I cook, if what I cook allows it, but I never wash the dishes right away. As soon as I finish cooking, I want to start eating, and then I want to let the food "sink in".
Anne Mitchell 4 years ago
I was a full time, permanent night shift RN, had a(useless) hubby and two kids. I used to thoroughly clean 1 room/day, so that by the end of the week the entire house had been cleaned at least once . Kitchen of course, was cleaned every night after dinner.
Shirley Antle-Kelly 4 years ago
Absolutely! It's not as likely to get done at all if you put it off.
Mike Mayer 4 years ago
Also avoids food from becoming terribly stuck to the pots/pans/plates/etc. Much easier to clean when it's fresh.
#5
Compliment people behind their backs. Sounds stupid but works wonders.
Elsker 5 years ago
maybe it's more about sending positive energy instead of gossiping or worse?
Mahesh Chandra Achuthanna 4 years ago
No, more like if you're a woman, try saying "I love how she braids her hair" or if you're a guy, "I like how natural he is at humour". Reason behind it is that these people will either tell others what you told, or tell the person who you complimented. It's a big plus.
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crazy_cat_notAlady 5 years ago
try it the other way. the results will amaze you. i always compliment people behind their backs. it stops all nonsense talk like magic!
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Pat Macneall Fuller 5 years ago
I think compliments mean more sometimes when someone repeats something nice someone said about you then when someone is saying it to your face .Sometimes people just say things to be pleasant , which is nice too but when they say it to someone else you know they really mean it.
Paul Jordan 5 years ago
...then again, could be cunning reverse psychology. Nah, just kidding...
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Barbara Baldwin 5 years ago
If I see a stranger with a pretty coat, or hair, or shoes, or anything, I tell them. Just thinking it is worthless
Stan Chung 5 years ago
i like this. i like doing this. because I hate people who talk s**t behind other people's backs, you know they say the same about you.
#6
Just don't drink today. Surely you can do that. Then just repeat. It's been 19+ years.
Valerie G. 5 years ago (edited)
44 years here, keep going, you can do it. My twin is a drinker and a smoker and has had four heart attacks so far and four stents, so far so good with me.
Ila in Maine 5 years ago
Congratulations. I have a family member who is trying so hard not to drink. I hope he makes it. What you have done is fantastic.
Sarah Nunns 5 years ago
Yes I agree, I did this and you literally get out of the habit of drinking.
However, as a psychologist, Audrey doesn't give advice unless it is sought (and paid for), “mainly because in most unsolicited contexts, there is no time to get into depth with any issue and I wouldn't want any form of misunderstanding on either part.”
The psychologist explains that unsolicited advice may have come because “someone thought it was solicited.” Other times, it comes from people “who are bored, or who want a distraction from dealing with things going on in their own lives.”
Audrey gave an example: “Rather than working on my own marriage, I might focus on giving relationship advice to others,” some think.
#7
Directly expressing my needs instead of hinting.
Steve Barnett 5 years ago
Being Aspergic I totally get this. Do not hint to me, I. WILL. JUST. NOT. GET. IT. EVER. You have to tell me directly what you want/need etc.
Al Christensen 5 years ago
Classic example of this: My now former wife and I were driving on a long trip. She asked, "Are you thirsty?" I replied, "No, I'm fine," and kept driving. I learned later she was rather upset because SHE was thirsty. "Why didn't you just say so?" She didn't really know. We discussed it more and it came down to her not wanting to seem demanding or needy or that I was there just to fulfill her wishes.
Iapetos 5 years ago
People like this need to learn that it is ok to have needs.
Load More Replies... Jamie S. Martindale 5 years ago
Yass... along with the myth of the ideal partner being selectively psychic. "If you love me, you'll just know what I want" - NO. Romanticize the notion of feeling safe enough with each other & trusting enough that you become comfortable expressing needs openly & without judgment (very much true in bed as well!).
Sterrinatu 5 years ago
You will be perpetually disappointed if you can't directly express your needs.
Petra Schaap 5 years ago
Dutch person living in Belgium here. PLEASE JUST SAY WHAT YOU WANT OR MEAN!!!! Belgians "ofcourse!" yeah, no. Help.
WilvanderHeijden 5 years ago
Best marriage advice that anyone can get. It saves you a lot of awkward moments and a lot of unnecessary drama.
CharliAnn Olney 5 years ago
A lot of men have said "don't hint around, don't pussyfoot around. TELL ME what you want!"
Rodey Hamza Hamzah 5 years ago
Yup MEN like me will never understand most hints given by women, just simple say/express what you want form us MEN...as simple as that...
#8
On my wedding day my Grandmother said to me "Never do anything around the house that you don't plan on doing for life". At the time I thought it was a terrible advice. When I was mowing the lawn at 7 1/2 months pregnant I got what she meant.
danielw 5 years ago
I kinda sorta want to be like, 'the husband's a bit of an a*s'. making his wife mow the law while pregnant.
Lauren Caswell 5 years ago
Yep if it's down to expectations that she was doing it: take that from someone who still did vacuuming cooking laundry etc at 8.5 months even with a spinal disorder
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LittleMissLotus 5 years ago
Good advice, but who makes a heavily pregnant woman do that kind of physical labor...?
Something 5 years ago
Yes, but also no. You should be assertive enough at any point to say that you need to change responsibilities.
Lindsey Judd-Bruder 4 years ago
I totally agree. But we should also remember that doing that is, unfortunately, very difficult, if not impossible, in certain situations, i.e. abusive relationships.
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MellonCollie 5 years ago
This is such solid advice! It takes so much effort to change those habits :-/
Stille20 5 years ago
I get it, but that is a little upsetting that you can't tell your husband at 7 months pregnant he needs to mow.
MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. 5 years ago
Can this advice be used in every scenario in life? I find it a little conflicting considering we can never know what a situation demands.
#9
Cleanining your house before leaving for more than 5 days. Nothing is better than coming to a clean house.
zims 5 years ago
At the very least take out the trash, do your dishes/laundry and make your bed. Remove anything that could stink up the place or prevent you from coming home and flopping down for a nap.
Lindsey Judd-Bruder 4 years ago (edited)
We do all of that, except make our bed. But cleaning the house before we leave? With searching for stuff and last minute packing (because there is ALWAYS last minute packing lol) and rushing out the door, yeah, cleaning the whole house just ain't gonna happen. PS-if you're going to suggest I pack sooner, or leave earlier, so that I *can* clean my whole house... Please don't. There may be others who can do that. And to them, I sincerely say, "Good for you". I wish I was that way. But I'm not. And it's never gonna happen. So safe your breath. Or...your fingers? Lol!
Load More Replies... Lousha 5 years ago
I was late one time when I had to leave for about 5 days, had to run to catch the bus. The cat's food was left in her bowl. (Before you ask, the cat did come with, I'm not a barbarian to leave her alone for days.) It was summer. When I got back the food was gone and instead I had an entire bowl FULL of incredibly disgusting maggots. It took all my strength to not turn around and light the whole flat on fire :) So yeah, good advice, if not spring clean but at the very least get rid of everything that will rot.
Carrie Laughs 5 years ago
Ugh, that's awful. You'd be saddened by how many fools think animals can be left with 5 bowls of food for 5 days and think they will know to ration themselves. Dogs are definitely not going to cope with that concept - mine would try and stuff himself with 5 bowls of food in one sitting. He's a rescue who still acts like he might not get fed ever again despite 5 years now of regular meals.
Load More Replies... Scagsy 5 years ago
It's been a family ritual in my house before hols; clean the house, turn the lights off EXCEPT the hall light (that will fool those burglars) and leave all the curtains HALF open (again, you're one step ahead of them, they'll be SO confused)
danielw 5 years ago
they check to see if you collect your mail, too, so if your in the US (and I imagine anywhere else that has a mail service, really) you can put a hold on your mail. They'll deliver it when you get back. yeah... the USPS is pretty much the only government agency in the US that still just does its job without politics.
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MrTree1779 5 years ago
Clean the house/apartment top to bottom, take out the trash, unplug everything but the large appliances (saves electricity) and...change the bed sheets. The best thing once I take a shower after coming home from a long plane ride, is going to sleep (or taking a long nap) under "new" clean sheets in bed.
Tina Harbour 5 years ago
I do this every time I travel...coming home to a clean house makes unpacking immediately that much easier🙂
Stan Chung 5 years ago
I do this to my workstation every friday. nothing worse than coming in on monday to face the mess.
Ruth Beaty 5 years ago
This is seriously good advice. If I'm going to be gone for a day or more, beds are made, dishes are done, laundry is done, and I have a calm house to come back to!
Mama Panda 5 years ago
Even if I am going to be gone for 2 days, I always leave the house clean.
cookcooks 5 years ago
This is a dream come true if you can pull it off. I find it harder to do now that I am older but we still try. At the very least, laundry is 100% done and the sheets are changed the morning we leave......it only takes five minutes....and when you come home exhausted at 2AM after driving for 16 hours you can crawl into cool, crisp, clean, sheets.
Another theory on why some of us are so drawn to throwing out advice here and there comes down to the evolutionary aspect of humans living in communities.
Audrey explained: “We are fundamentally social creatures—in the past, we would have had to rely on our society to keep us safe—so we are likely to have an awareness of how to 'fit in' and a sense of unpleasantness when we do not.”
If we’re at odds with others, we may feel guilt. The psychologist summed up that “this can drive us to 'make comments' if it looks like someone is not fitting in.”
#10
My grandfather told me this and I never understood it until I had my own place. Always buy the cheap tools at first and if you wear it out/break it then you use it enough to justify getting a nicer more expensive one.
Johnny 5 years ago
I always buy the midrange tools, and never buy the cheap tools -- they don't work as well (cheap wrenches have looser tolerances and don't fit bolts well, screwdrivers slip out of screw heads, etc). It's not that much more money and well worth it in better usability. My brother broke a finger once with a cheap wrench, he was trying to get a stubborn bolt off his lawnmower, the wrench broke and his hand slammed into the side of the lawnmower.
Parmeisan 5 years ago
I think the idea is a lot of people don't use tools much at all. If you're a handyman, definitely go for the midrange. Otherwise, maybe it depends on the tool. :)
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Oathbraker 5 years ago
Cheap always ends up costing more. I'd rather get a decent set that will last 10 years than buy new ones every year.
Gaurav Beck 5 years ago
In grandfathers time the quality of cheap tools were equivalent of today's expensive ones
Up All Night 5 years ago
Yep, this advice is from the time when the cheap ones didn't break after one use.
Load More Replies... slackjack 5 years ago
I always buy the most expensive. They last forever and never give up in the middle of a job.
Podunkus 5 years ago
And because they last a lifetime, they end up costing the least in the long run. So in that sense the most expensive tools really are the cheapest option.
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Joe Palffy 5 years ago
this is advice for a complete novice i think, buying cheap s**t that barely gets the job done if at all and then buying the expensive one sounds like a very stupid thing to do. Here's some advice from me, Never buy the cheapest of anything if you can avoid it, they are the cheapest for a reason.
Jessica 5 years ago
The same thing applies for couches and cars if you have children lol they will not survive children no matter how hard you try.
Rosemary 5 years ago
You can add puppies to that, as my couch can vouch for!
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Randy Klefbeck 5 years ago
if you are a casual mechanic this might work. Otherwise buy the right tool for the right job (on sale if you can) with a lifetime guarantee if possible. If you know you will use it four times you've made absolutely the right choice. Nothing is worse than being stuck in a critical job with a broken tool that you have to creatively come up with way to remove stuck or broken tools without buying a bunch of other tools to experiment with trying to fix that problem. Tools are for solving problems, not creating more if they don't work. Not to mention being stranded or spending 18 times the amount of effort and time to fix a whole new problem.
Randy Klefbeck 5 years ago
If nothing else you can sell the high quality tool for nearly the same amount as you purchased it for. Cheap tools aren't worth anything in that respect.
Load More Replies... CharliAnn Olney 5 years ago
Grandfather (an accomplished carpenter) Buy the best you can afford, then buy better. Done and Done GrandDad! Pretty good carpenter myself now!
#11
Pay bills, SAVE, then spend.
Laura Jones 5 years ago
people dont seem to do this anymore but they should to be financially sound
Monday 5 years ago
A problem we have to acknowledge is for a lot of people "pay bills" is all they ever get to do since that takes all the money they have.
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Zoe's Mom 5 years ago
I was told in reverse; pay YOURSELF first as in savings, bills, then spend but have a BUDGET. Know what you are bringing in and know what your are spending. Put it on paper. When you actually see how you spend your money, you are wiser to how you spend it.
Podunkus 5 years ago
Yes, that is the correct technique if you want real results and not just a feel-good exercise. You have to set the amount, then treat it as your highest priority invoice to pay. You will not accumulate any significant savings if you are content with whatever scraps are left over at the end of the month. Paying yourself has to be a budget item.
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MrTree1779 5 years ago
In this order: Pay your bills, pay for groceries, PAY DEBT DOWN, then SAVE....then maybe spend. It's how I knocked out $80,000 in 8 years, and now have a year of income saved up, working on my second year.
Parmeisan 5 years ago
That's an excellent rule of thumb, but it does have limits. We paid into our mortgage for years instead of putting the money into a savings account, and we have no regrets there -- but after a while an accountant friend of mine said we should be putting into RRSPs and/or tax-free savings accounts. Mostly, you need to look at the interest rates. We were paying 3-4% every month in interest, so any investment like a savings account that makes 1-2% was bad, but if we could make 5+% interest somewhere, we should have been doing it. I think mostly because we'd locked in our interest rate, when we got it almost paid up and the market changed, it was better to put it into investments first. I think. I'm not great at this stuff. Anyway - it IS an excellent rule of thumb.
Load More Replies... WilvanderHeijden 5 years ago
"I have to live now and I will pay later" seems to be the new adage.
Giles McArdell 5 years ago
Of course, having to save up for 20 years so you can afford a flat and get out of your parents house might be an exception.
Tardis42 5 years ago
I know people say they don't have any money, they're scraping by, etc., but when I look around, I see tons of people, everyday people, with iPhones and Apple watches, multiple streaming service subscriptions, $100 hair color, cocktails at restaurants, gym memberships, $7 cups of coffee. These things are all choices and they all add up.
Paul Jordan 5 years ago
You are so right. When I was a kid I was taught an apple a day keeps the doctor away. Nowadays its an Apple a year makes your money disappear. To those people all I can say is FFS!
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somnomania 5 years ago
what if there's never anything left after the bills and the essential spending
#12
When you’re stressed, make a to do list. I was always like, I KNOW WHAT NEEDS TO GET DONE I JUST CANT DO IT ALL. But if you write it down it doesn’t have to all live in your brain and you can focus.
Christophe Beunens 5 years ago
you also get some happy-hormones when you scratch a thing of your list. Gives you energy for the next tasks
Lauren Caswell 5 years ago
Even if you can't do anything about the top few stressors on your list right now, taking the littler ones away leaves a shorter list. I find my list has a 5-7 item capacity lol
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Shinobi Shabby 5 years ago
THIS! I keep telling ppl to write stuff down and they look at me like I'm an inflexible robot structured person instead... The thing is.. IT HELPS!!
Bob Belcher 5 years ago
Make sure to even put the small stuff on you list "take out trash, check mail, feed dog...etc." Crossing items off gives Confidance and seeing more than half your list done even if you didn't finish it all feels good.
Kelsey Montgomery 5 years ago
Tell me why I get anxiety and stressed just going to start writing my list :(
Up All Night 5 years ago
#1 Write the list, #2 Look at that six foot long list, #3 Let the anxiety push you into paralysis so you can't even start to do things. ---> But for real, start with the easy/quick things.
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Sabienn 5 years ago
And preventing postponing. Maybe not completely (at least for me), but it does help a lot.
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#13
Leftie loosie, rightie tightie
Mica Fiverline 5 years ago
Since I learned this, I constantly use it^^ Used to be a clutz who forgets which direction unscrews stuff^^
Mike Rodrick 5 years ago
This doesn't always work if you're dealing with plumbing.
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XianJaguar 5 years ago
I am almost 50, and I STILL have to repeat this rhyme to myself when I'm trying to open something or screw/unscrew hardware in.
The only Plueschopossum 5 years ago
Learned this last year at the age of 31. Better late than never. It got stuck in my mind and helped me a LOT since then :D
Robert Thompson 5 years ago
At least once a week. Usually on a moving part, like a blade or a wheel.
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Oathbraker 5 years ago
When tightening/ loosening bolts, screws, etc. clockwise tightens, anti- clockwise loosens. I'm really not sure how this is an advice since anyone who has ever had to use bolts and screws learns this in the first five seconds.
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Mama Panda 5 years ago
And if you have a brain fart and can't remember which is left and which is right, hold your hands up with only the pointer finger and your thumb extended. Which ever one forms an L is the Left.
#14
Just shut up and listen. Actually listen. Too many people don't know how to just listen without thinking that they have to add to the conversation. No just stop. You don't have to add anything. You are not helping. You aren't even paying attention to wait is being said because you are thinking of what you can say.
WilvanderHeijden 5 years ago
And a lot of people are talking without thinking. Just count their "Ehh"s "Hmm"s" and "Ahum"s
Kathryn Baylis 5 years ago
Now that depends. It could also be a part of what’s known as active listening. Now, if they aren’t looking at you and don’t ask clarifying questions about anything they don’t quite understand, then they’re not listening.
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Bama Belle 5 years ago
I'll admit I do this. It's almost like a brain blip. I'll think someone has stopped talking, and I end up interrupting. I don't mean to be rude. I used to know a man that I nicknamed 'Via Satellite'. He too had a weird brain blip like mine, but in the reverse. You could ask him a question, and he'd look at you for a full 3 to 5 seconds before responding. I need to be a little more like Via Satellite.
ArhomR 5 years ago (edited)
Some people need more time to process information and respond.
Load More Replies... Shinobi Shabby 5 years ago
Because people think they have to know everything and constantly SOUND intelligent. But there's nothing wrong in just taking in the information, absorbing it, analyzing it... and then respond in an open-minded "I'm here to always learn from life" manner.
cookcooks 5 years ago
I have a very hard time with this as I was not raised in a normal household. Is there a book that would help? Honestly I need help. My father was married 6 times, we moved all of the time, and the last wife he had while I lived at home they had no friend and we were never spoken o unless it was an order.
Mama Panda 5 years ago
I have taught my son to do this and he is much happier knowing that he doesn't always have to have something to say.
Lindsey Judd-Bruder 4 years ago
I just want to state that for people with ADHD, and also possibly ASD, this works a little counterintuitively. You see, for us, interrupting IS how we pay attention to a conversation. Our brains work very differently than typical. And we have to sometimes think very hard, and very carefully, about what we want to say. And then, if we don't say it, we forget what we want to say. Or we're trying so hard to remember what we want to say, that we can't focus on the rest of the conversation. So we have to blurt it out. And then, once we have, we can focus on what you're saying. I'm just asking that if you speak to someone like this, someone who seems to interrupt, and blurt things out, that you just be patient. I promise it's not meant to be rude. On the contrary. Believe it or not, it's actually a sign that we are very engaged with you, and the conversation. Just...please keep that in mind...
JayWantsACat 5 years ago
Someone may have posted this but a conversation isn't waiting for your turn to talk nor talking at someone. Listening is just as important, if not more, than speaking.
#15
If it takes less than 5 minutes, do it immediately I do so much less housework on weekends because of this
Sethurama Iyer 5 years ago
Yes, as my pilates instructor famously says, "it's only five minutes of your life!"
Mike Rodrick 5 years ago
Depending on what I'm doing, 5 minutes is way too long.
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François Carré 5 years ago
I'm often confused about how I seem to prefer the annoyance of delaying a boring task for hours or days, whereas just doing it right now would only take five minutes.
Mary Haynes 5 years ago
do stuff when your microwave is going, amazing what you can get done in 1, 2 or 3 min!
Justapottaflash 5 years ago
And if it takes longer, sit down and do the task for just 5 minutes. Chances are that you'll end up doing more than 5 minutes, or feel good about starting.
Tammy Ralph 4 years ago
I find this can have the opposite effect though, I'm constantly doing something so I don't have to do tomorrow or later, but tomorrow or later I'm yet again doing things so I don't have to do them tomorrow or later, it's a never ending cycle.
*˚tacocat˚* 5 years ago
My dad always says this, and it is really motivational. I have an inspirational thing myself, which is ‘if you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together’ Also, someone who listens is sometimes better than someone who talks! Hope this helps 👍❤️
Barbara Vandewalle 5 years ago
How much can you do during commercials, instead of sitting there bored
#16
Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want.
Up All Night 5 years ago
True experience is when you get what you don't want. Doesn't even matter if it's good or bad for you.
Porto DaMartinica 5 years ago (edited)
'Good judgment comes from experience. Experience comes from bad judgement' [Dr. Kerr L White]
#17
Practice gratitude. Grateful people are happy people.
Grumble O'Pug 5 years ago
The Youtube channel Kurzgesagt (In a Nutshell has done a video on loneliness and gratitude. They also have brought out a gratitude journal. Worth watching their amazing channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsXVk37bltHxD1rDPwtNM8Q
Jane Petersen 5 years ago
I raised my kids to do this instead of praying. Three things we were grateful for before we ate dinner. We had to reach sometimes during lean years but it helped.
⚞ Katniss Everdeen ⚟ 5 years ago
Nice tip, but for people like me with actual depression, it's pretty much impossible.
ArhomR 5 years ago (edited)
Even if you can be grateful for a sunny day, birds singing, etc. it helps. Write it down in a notebook, or in your calendar and before long the more you look for things to be grateful for the more things you will find. Proven to work even through depression. Good luck! You deserve to be happy.
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#18
My mom told me to spend good money on the things that separate you from the ground: tires, shoes, mattress. I finally bought good not cheap shoes and life was SIGNIFICANTLY better. They last so much longer and my back and posture improved too. She’s not wrong about tires and a mattress either
Malakai 5 years ago
I'm overweight and I have problems in one of my feet from wearing cheap shoes to work all the time. I finally shelled out about $80 for a good pair of work shoes and, good gods, the difference it made. My hips, my knees, my ankles, my back, and my heel all felt SO much better. I used to blame it all on my weight, and while it still gives me problems, having proper support really makes all the difference
Stille20 5 years ago
Yea, it also mean you will probably move more if your back, feet, legs, etc don't hurt. I didn't use to buy nice gym clothes, but then I realized if I felt good in my work out wear, maybe I would work out like i should
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Steve Barnett 5 years ago
Reminds me of another quote. "Get a good pair of shoes and a good bed. Because if you're not in one, you're in the other".
Cuddles 5 years ago
I was buying like...$20 shoes for work and they would last about a week before I had to buy new insoles, then the insoles would fail after about a month. I ended up spending $200 on work boots and they have lasted me for over two years now and are still going strong and comfy. I haven't had to change out the insoles or anything. --Also on tires: Cheaper = less tread depth = less useful lifespan = buy more tires. It's crazy because you'd think "a tire is a tire" but they are all completely different. Make sure you get the correct ones for your vehicle, too. Not just in diameter but also the speed rating and load rating. It'll make your vehicle have better performance because they're the kind it was designed to work with.
Andrew Weeks 5 years ago
I always heard it as "spare no expense when it comes to your hands and feet"
I'm A Lazy Panda 5 years ago
I'm about to buy my first new desk chair in 20 years, and I've been debating between a comfortable $100 model and an "OMFG my spine has never been so aligned" $220 model. You may have just helped me make this decision!
Bob Belcher 5 years ago
I'm going to disagree about the tires. For years I've bought cheaper tires that have a rating of 40 - 50k miles. Two years ago I bought EXPENSIVE tires Goodyear Pro Tour blah blah blah. Cost nearly $800 installed and warranty from Discount Tires. They're rated for 70k miles. Got my vehicle inspected back in March and it failed inspection because two of the tires are below legal tread already. Only drivin 30k miles on them. I'm still mad about that.
Nicola Roberts 5 years ago
Or - Buy the most expense shoes and mattress you can afford. When you're not using one you're using the other.
Neb 4 years ago
Comment from me: get GOOD shoes, not only expensive ones. 300$ shoes that has their price so high because they are of famous brand or designed might not be better than 150$ less known brand, but specifically intended for support and comfort. Same with mattress and tires. And probably most of the stuff.
#19
Unclench your jaw, open your hands, drop your shoulders, and breathe in.
Lauren Caswell 5 years ago
There's some link between physical tension and mental tension, in that it's a two way street. Yes, mental stress causes a physical tension response: if you can physically relax your muscles (not always easy!) you almost push the mind into a relaxed state too.
Giles McArdell 5 years ago
Take your shoes and socks off and scrunch your toes in the carpet (thanks Argyle).
GoddessOdd 4 years ago
And along the same line; pull your shoulders down from your ears, rotate them back and take a deep long breath. You'll calm and center yourself if you're nervous.
meester sernnon 4 years ago
Sadly I can't drop my shoulders, I have a really bad back and need to hold my shoulders back to keep my back in place.
#20
If you dont have anything nice to say, dont say nothing at all. People dont wanna hear "Eww, yuck, you like that?" When referring to someone's food for example.
Anam 5 years ago
This I live by too. And believe, silence is way better than just muttering about.
Podunkus 5 years ago
It is better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to open one’s mouth and erase all doubt.
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Lucas 5 years ago
My sister thinks people need to hear her nasty opinions. Some people are unpleasant and full of themselves and think they are doing others a favour by being 'honest'. Aka rude.
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 5 years ago
This goes for venting at work. Some things are best kept to yourself. You can’t really trust that your “friends” at work are true friends who won’t stab you in the back to further their own careers.
Pamela24 5 years ago
I've been saying it for years - honesty is overrated. Many people would consider this "I'm just being honest!" when saying stuff like "Why are you wearing that?" or "Doesn't it bother you that your relative/partner/child does x/y/z?" or "You know, I liked the previous hairstyle better." Nobody asked you. Just because you're being honest doesn't make it right to be said. (And yes, of course, I understand that honesty is not all bad, just saying it's overrated and often used as an excuse to be rude.)
Martha Meyer 5 years ago
Agreed, some people just claim "honesty" as an excuse to be rude.
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Valerie G. 5 years ago
My mom used to say "if you don't have anything nice to say, come on inside, I'll put the kettle on".
Shadow 5 years ago
Thank you for this! I usually say something like "What was Thumper say?" and people look at me like I'm crazy until I explain...
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This too shall pass. On those days when I just feel like I can't take it I think of that, and I know tomorrow will be different. Someone once told me, "tomorrow may not be better, but at least it'll be different." In a strange way that too is comforting.
Sethurama Iyer 5 years ago
There was a story where a king (Akbar) asked his advisor (Birbal) what slogan he should write in the entrance of the palace that makes people happy and sad at the same time. He chose "This too shall pass," because it reminds a sad person that better things are on their way, yet prevents a person from being too indulgent in their happiness.
SoozeeQ 5 years ago
2020 shall pass. It may pass like a kidney stone, but it shall pass!
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Kimberly Jordan 5 years ago
This is how I did my Chemo (22 years ago, Amen) 1 treatment at a time. Sometimes 1 hour at a time. Sometimes one minute at a time. I could make it through a minute. Then I could make it through another. Sometimes and some things, Look at what you can do in short periods of time and don't worry about any farther than that. Then you find yourself beyond the difficulties without so much stress about What's next.
Madzdad the bard 5 years ago
Looking back at my divorce, this is absolutely true. There were days that the end of the tunnel seemed so far away, but persistence and a sense of humor got me through and life is wonderful today.
Jan Prescott 5 years ago
At my baby shower, one of my cousins wrote "this too shall pass" on the advice book. The bad times will pass, so hang in there, but so will the good times, so enjoy them.
#22
My therapist told me the next time I'm going to have a panic attack to just give in and tell myself it was ok to have one . I told him he was crazy. After a couple tries it started working to my amazement. I haven't had a panic attack in 3 years
ChimeraBubbles 5 years ago
Yeah, if more people had been given permission to feel okay to panic or be scared there would be less anxiety and fewer panic attacks all round.
Mike Rodrick 5 years ago
If politicians would represent constitutients, rather than themselves, the world would be less stressful.
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Miss Cris 5 years ago
When I began having them, I thought I was diing or that I could easyly die. In fact, I went first to the heart doctor... Then I was asked to visit the correct doctor, and both explained me that it's impossible to die in a panic attack. Mines got worse as I was thinking I couldn't breath, and my heart and senses weren't ok, etc. They gave me a pill to eat when having one, but it didn't do anything. What really helped me was to notice that it was true that I wasn't go to die, that it was a (not nice!) physical thing that would pass. It's not fast to enter this aknolegement into the body but it was very usefull to me. I have only few panic attacks since then and I live them very different. My quality life is improved.
nettie netwitch 5 years ago
The confidence in the sentence "nobody ever died from a panic attack" helped me through a lot of them and finally healed me from them.
Load More Replies... Malakai 5 years ago
This is good. I don't have panic attacks often, but part of what feeds into it for me and for a lot of people is the vulnerability, and trying to resist it. I get frustrated with myself for having it and want it to stop so bad, and this mental fighting just compounds the problem. Telling yourself it's okay to have it can help combat this cycle before it starts and can reduce the emotional overwhelm at least a little
Bama Belle 5 years ago
Exactly! A panic attack is nothing but a faulty 'fight or flight' response. The more you fear your attack, the more convinced your amygdala is that you are in danger. It then floods you with cortisol and adrenaline to SAVE you, but since you aren't in danger it only serves to torment you. Retrain the amygdala. Show it you are fine by not resisting. Accept the awful symptoms as temporary and harmless. They will eventually stop.
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Marcia Ferris 5 years ago
I like this because the fear of having a panic attack increases the anxiety for me. Give myself permission and I decrease my anxiety.
Bob Belcher 5 years ago
There was an article on BP several months back about different things to do during a panic attack. One of them was to chew ice so your brain focuses on the cold. My wife suffers from panic attacks. Two weeks ago she had one and I got her ice right away. It worked, took less than 15 seconds for it to work. Thank you for that.
Bama Belle 5 years ago
Wow, this is the 3rd time I've had the opportunity to bring up Dr. Claire Weekes! She taught the same thing, and it does work. It takes practice. You'll have frustrating setbacks, but it will work. It takes the bite out of you panic. The more you practice, the less frequent your attacks, the less intense, until they are gone for good. Even if you do have another one out of the blue, you know how to handle it. Not adding "second fear" to the initial "first fear" is key.
Sarah Laurent 5 years ago
I hope I translate it correctly, but, in French, we say : "there's nothing more fearful than the fear of the fear itself"
#23
If you have body image issues, find one even very small thing you like about yourself. My starting point was a freckle in the middle of my left hand. Whenever you’re feeling bad about yourself, remember you like that ONE thing. Find a new small thing to like about once a month if you can. It becomes easier to find things, and eventually easier to like yourself, in my experience. Thanks for that advice, Mom.
Daria B 5 years ago
This was kind of how I figured I like my husband before we got together. He was nice to talk to, but it wasn't love at first sight. But when I got to know him, I noticed detail after detail, until I finally came to the realisation (didn't take me long, though, to be honest). And now it's been 2+10 years, and counting, that we're together. Glad it didn't take me too long to find out how I feel. ♡
Stannous Flouride 5 years ago
I recall reading once that if you choose a partner for their 'perfect' looks that over time you will notice more and more flaws. But if you choose one for their other qualities (sense of humor, brains, etc) you will begin to find physical qualities that you find attractive. That has been my experience more than once.
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Violet Radar 5 years ago
Along the same lines - talk to yourself like you would talk to your best friend or your child. We all are harder on ourselves and expect more of ourselves than we would ever expect of someone else.
ArhomR 5 years ago
I have always said to treat yourself like your best friend and watch your life change.
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TheBoredPanda 4 years ago
But what if you've been beaten down for so long that you don't have anything you like about yourself? Asking for a friend.
Denise Morley 4 years ago
Cultivate curiosity, kindness and gratitude. EVERYONE has a range of qualities including good ones. Finding our beautiful parts can be a very vulnerable process when trauma has those parts buried in shame but I promise you those parts exist. Seek out support. Something that helped me was mediation, especially the ones from TreeSisters where I learned about feeling the support of Mama Earth’s gravitational hug and breathing in reciprocity with the trees. May you and your friend be well and find peace.
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Freya Fluharty 4 years ago
Bob the Drag Queen said this in Drag Race. My daughter's tried it with me. Unfortunately (sorry, Bob) I don't even like one tooth!
deanna woods 5 years ago
This is a good piece of advice to live. People would stop comparing themselves to others if they had something unique to like about themselves.
#24
Be yourself. The less you care what people think and the more real you are, the more people start to like you.
Miss Cris 5 years ago
This isn't true. Some people will be atracted to you and others will leave you. But you'll stay with the good ones.
J Sizz 5 years ago
If people leave cuz they don't like the real you, they don't deserve to around you anyway. You don't need that negativity in your life.
Load More Replies... Scagsy 5 years ago
It's hard to be yourself when you always have to put a 'happy face' on just to go out of the house.
Carrie Laughs 5 years ago
Yep. Though I have found pretending to be happy when I'm out has helped to cheer me up as people smile back at me... or perhaps they think I'm care in the community and are worried about upsetting the nutter. Meh...🤷♀️
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Mama Panda 5 years ago
I grew up with a mother who cared more about what others would think. Since I have finally cut ties with her, I am now finding who I really am.
Roadkill The Brave 5 years ago
Being yourself doesn't mean that you as a person aren't going to change or grow. This means more along the lines of stop pretending to be someone you're not. I don't fully agree with the last part but when you stop putting a show on for the world by being something that you're not is a huge relief.
Carrie Laughs 5 years ago
I agree - they might not like the real you but then if you don't have anything in common why does that matter? You'll hopefully find other people that you do have more in common with.
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Baali Venomax 5 years ago
Actually its "the less you care about what others think and the more sincere you are, the less fake people will be part of your life*
meester sernnon 4 years ago
Until you start to deny that you have negative traits, and you start refusing to change the bad things about yourself like stubborness.
#25
"Your gums bleed when you floss because you don't floss enough" Turns out if you floss enough, your gums won't be inflamed so they don't bleed when you floss
GenXandEarnedItAll 5 years ago
I keep those little flossers (I call them "gum lickers") in my car and floss when stopped at lights, in traffic, etc. Makes a huge difference.
Load More Replies... Andrew Gibb 5 years ago
There is a school of thought that flossing isn't needed- just google it!
Pamela24 5 years ago
I've read that too that the floss doesn't make much of a difference but an interdental brush does. I'm not a native; maybe that falls under the term "flossing"?
Load More Replies... Melina Pothier 5 years ago
I haven’t found this to be true. My gums would bleed so for 3 months straight I flossed, used a waterpik, irrigator and toothpaste and I still bleed. Some people just have very sensitive teeth
GoddessOdd 4 years ago
I tell my self something similar to this when working out... the ones that are uncomfortable are the exercises you need to practice most.
April Caron 4 years ago
Geeze. I floss regularly and have great gums. When I have a spot that bleeds… that’s when I know there’s an issue. It rarely happens.
Suzanne Haigh 4 years ago
One time when i flossed I pulled too hard, sliced my gum between 2 teeth and ended up with an abscess under the tooth, bye, bye tooth.
#26
Smiling at people. You can get a lot just from a simple smile.
Kesam 5 years ago
I generally agree but this depends on the culture. Smiling and other such signals can mean completely different things in other cultures.
Stannous Flouride 5 years ago
Russians don't trust people who smile too easily, especially strangers. The fact that Americans do this so readily confuses a lot of visitors and immigrants but they seem to learn to like it pretty quickly. I live in a city with a large Russian immigrant community and it was explained to me by a Russian friend that they adapt but when they're in groups of their own they quickly revert to the custom they grew up with.
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Scagsy 5 years ago
I think the key here is to make it a GENUINE smile. A fake smile can look quite sinister
François Carré 5 years ago
Just ask Arthur Fleck. Or don't, if you prefer to live.
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Elizabeth Gatti 5 years ago
I smile at people all the time, but wearing masks makes it more difficult. I hope people can see my smile in my eyes.
Lousha 5 years ago
Smiling/being nice is so often misunderstood it's safer to just not do it... Same sex people think you want to be BFF with them, opposite sex people think you're very interested. Never been some great beauty but I got into so many awkward situations like this that I had to learn to NOT smile, not be open and friendly or I'll be constantly backing away from people who can't tell the difference between an "I'm not your adversary" smile and flirting.
kate h 5 years ago
As a woman "a simple smile" often brings unwanted attention - a lot of men think you are interested in them. Then there are the men who think it's their place to TELL you to smile. I have literally been sitting there minding my own business and some dude will come up to me and say SMILE!! I am attractive so I guess they think it's OK??? I've never seen them do this to an unattractive woman.
Carrie Laughs 5 years ago
I have seen men do it with 'unattractive women'. Might be because beauty is subjective - or they might think they are being nice. It's not but that's another issue.
Load More Replies... GenXandEarnedItAll 5 years ago
Now that we all HAVE TO (and SHOULD) wear masks, its so cool seeing people "smile" with their eyes.
Caroline 5 years ago
I love meeting retail workers, servers, professionals, new people...well, anyone who smiles. They're actually rare! But they make me at ease and want to smile too. I'm a simple gal: I instantly like them!
Lousha 5 years ago
Your retail workers and servers are in that role 8-12 hours a day, 5-7 days a week. Nobody is happy all the time. Indeed appreciate if they smile but don't expect it. If you wan't to see them smile more often make sure you make THEM feel at ease, be polite, don't be overly familiar, and if you ask something actually listen to their answer. You'll be surprised how quickly they will show you a genuine smile.
Load More Replies... Baali Venomax 5 years ago
As long as you actually WANTED to smile, rather than forced one out because it was expected of you.
#27
Keeping my shoulders back. It was a suggestion I saw for preventing panic/anxiety. Idk what it is, but when your shoulders are in that position it gives some strange feeling of control. I also read somewhere that during panic attacks the body basically wants to curl into fetal position for protection, so I feel like focusing on keeping your arms down and shoulders back is a conscious way to go against that and stay grounded in reality. Works for me, could work for you too.
François Carré 5 years ago
I realized that after a whole summer hiking in the mountains. I had naturally started to keep my shoulders back while I was walking because it helped me to breathe in the effort ; the side effects were to make me feel relaxed and a bit stronger physically. I even think if you do that you will feel - and look to others - much more self-confident in general.
MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. 5 years ago
Aaaah, I miss hiking. I wish I could go camping. 😣
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Harjiv Singh 4 years ago
Well defintely there is a scientific reasoning. When shoulders are back, chest opens up. You tend to take in more oxygen and start deep breathing. Deep breathing is associated with calming nerves.
Remus-Alexandru Simion 4 years ago
shoulders back is a sign of relaxation. You're basically fooling you body into relaxing. It's just like deep breathing. Next time you feel utterly relaxed, just scan your posture, your breath, etc. Repeat the posture/breath whenever you need to calm yourself or relax. It will help. A lot.
Celtic Pirate Queen 5 years ago
Mine was simply a matter of posture. I was fairly busty by 6th grade, so I tended to not put my shoulders back as I didn't want that kind of attention. My grandmother was a stickler for "stand up straight!" (She'd actually thwack me between the should blades if she caught me slouching). Learning to be conscious of my posture actually gave me more confidence.
#28
Go to the bathroom first thing after having sex.
Foxxy (The Original) 5 years ago
This is especially important for females as not cleaning after intercourse can cause UTI’s.
Foxxy (The Original) 5 years ago
Martha Meyer does it really matter? The point remains the same.
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Mahesh Chandra Achuthanna 4 years ago
Never known any persons who haven't used the bathroom after sex.
Bama Belle 5 years ago
My gyno once told me she had a very religious patient, a virgin on her wedding night. Within months of marriage, the new bride started developing precancerous cells in her cervix. The patient asked, "What do I do?!". My doc said, "I don't know. You married him.".
Jana Novotná 4 years ago
Bacteria causing the UTI is in colon. If you ad that part in sexual practices it's the matter of time you get UTI. Peeing doesn't do much. ALSO "dont touch urethra( or any other hole for that matter) with finger you touched an asshole" is wisdom that should be in this list.
Loraine D.G. MacGinness 5 years ago
No, no not straight away surely ?? Relax, enjoy the moment - where is your romance ?
#29
Fill your tank all the way up instead of a little at a time.
Johnny 5 years ago
I thought the reason people did this was because they didn't have enough money to fill the tank, so this one could be written as "Have more money"
Mark Johanen 5 years ago
"Have more money" -- that's excellent advice. I'll try to follow that.
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More! 5 years ago
This doesn’t explain why but I think it’s because when your tank runs close to empty a lot, your fuel lines pick up silt and gunk and they can become blocked. But some folk just can’t afford to fill right up so they top up before they run out, of and when they have the money.
Steve Barnett 5 years ago
It's actually more economical to have a half empty tank than a full one; it's all to do with the extra weight of the fuel. Sorry, I'm not a physicist, google this for a better explanation.
Orillion 5 years ago
Unless your car has a 10.000 litre tank, the difference in weight between a full and half emty tank won't noticably affect fuel efficiency.
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Chaya Herrebrugh-Wachtmeester 5 years ago
Too early in the morning and I was thinking: yes I should fill my spiritual / emotional tank more often to the brim instead of here a little, there a little taking time to properly fill up my brain tank. As for my gas tank in the car: small car, visiting my family at the other side of the country usually I need 1 full tank per round trip and I hate searching for gas stations in places I do not know, I always make sure my tank is full before I leave, or drive by the nearest station close to home to fill up before continuing the trip.
Shinobi Shabby 5 years ago
I thought it actually costs less filling like 1/4 or 1/2 at a time coz over time the difference in weight makes the fuel go just a Lil longer... no?
abby smink 5 years ago
In theory I agree, but if all you have is 5 bucks and you're on E, what else ya gonna do.
Jason Stokes 5 years ago
To add to this, I have a full tank and top it up every payday no matter how much I use. Sometimes I only put 5 litres in, but I always have a full tank for emergencies.
Evripidou Maria 5 years ago
ive been doing this from the start, That way you only need to spend money on gas once every one or one/half month
#30
Life is really much easier if you clean your workplace/room. I clean my room often and it makes me feel calm and clears my head.
Kaspar Kristiansen 5 years ago
Subjective advice, no doubt. For some it might work, for others not so much.
Danger Noodle 5 years ago
That doesn't work for me. I have to have my room in an organised mess. Otherwise I don't know where to find things.
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Private Custard 5 years ago
This I can relate to. I have suffered with depression for years. My bedroom often manages to get to, not dirty, but really disorganised states. Every so often, I pick up everything and put it on my bed, then clean and hoover, before putting everything back where it should be, and then put on clean bedding and do the laundry. It's amazing what it does for your headspace too. You may still end up unhappy, but at least you can relax.
Andrea Purzycki 5 years ago
I make healthier choices if I have a clean kitchen and counterspace. If my kitchen is clean I'm more likely to make a home cooked meal. If my kitchen is a mess I'm more likely to get take out or fast food.
El Dee 5 years ago
In my old job I had files to be worked, files worked and ready for filing and one in front of me. Simple. Also bin things when you're finished with them. I saw others who couldn't seem to manage this 'system' and their desks were like a bomb site. Their excuse was that they were so busy they didn't have time to always be tidying their desks. Of course what kept them busy was searching out the stuff on their desk that they couldn't find!!
Eagle Girl 5 years ago
True. Works in reverse too. If your home/workspace is a mess, take time to figure out what in your life is manifesting the mess.
Caroline 5 years ago
And then 1 of your kids comes into your clean room and in a nanosecond, ruins everything like a monster tornado.
Carrie Laughs 5 years ago
So you make them clear it back up again. If you make that expectation the norm then they might grumble but they usually do it.
Load More Replies... #31
I'm not great at this one, but "don't look for a happy life, look for happy moments".
Tiny Dynamine 5 years ago
Ooh, no, not really. Happy moments can be good, but ones like buying new clothes for the excitement will fade away quickly and leave you needing another fix. Wave goodbye to your money and you might become less financially secure. You need to look for profound happiness, so that you will feel good about your life in general. For this, do hobbies, be creative, help people, exercise. This is when you will notice the change within yourself.
MrTree1779 5 years ago
Happy moments are not "purchasing events". They are when you stop and appreciate the little good things "at that moment". Money and things do not bring peace and joy. Appreciating the moments when things are "good", can bring lasting peace and joy.
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Ralph Burton 5 years ago
Never go to bed on an argument, we never have, next anniversary will be 54th
Lily Luna Potter 5 years ago
I like saying "nothing last forever so that the chance" and its helped me do what I want to do and what makes me happy
April Caron 4 years ago
The small moments add up. When you realize their sum, you realize the happy life has been there the whole time.
meester sernnon 4 years ago
Sadly, I used to live by that principle. may work for some, but I just lost enjoyment from most things and now I feel constantly numb.
Sandra Llewelyn 5 years ago
Absolutely agree with this one - I don't believe anyone can experience and therefore BE happy without having experienced, sadness, loss, grief and so on. I make the most of my happy times because I know there are always bad times to come - life is a balancing act.
#32
Using a stool to lift my feet into a squatting position to poo. What a difference!
#33
Unpack your suitcase the second you get home.
Foxxy (The Original) 5 years ago
Nope, don’t think I will ever do this lol. When I get home that is one of the last things I want to do.
Johnny 5 years ago
Try it, you might like it. I used to be like you, dropped the suitcase on the livingroom floor then finally unpacked it days or even weeks later (important tip: don't leave a fresh seashell in a suitcase pocket for weeks!). My wife started me on the 'unpack immediately' method and it's great. Doesn't take long to unpack and throw the dirty closed in the laundry, and then put the suitcase up on the closet shelf, and then you're done. You're not stepping over it every day in the livingroom.
Load More Replies... Oathbraker 5 years ago
lol Nice try. Bathroom break, a quick hands and face wash and then do whatever. I'm not unpacking anything while holding in pee and having sweaty/ dirty hands and face.
Jennifer Bailey 5 years ago
I do this. 20 minutes after getting in from a 9 hour flight and an a hour drive back from the airport everything is unpacked and where it should be.
Lynda Momalo 5 years ago
I suppose it depends on how long the trip was -- a weekend away, maybe. A major cross-country or overseas flight (which can involve hours of additional travel/layover/waiting time), nah, not going to happen.
Cherylann Koop 5 years ago
Nope, it stays in the garage for a day (or 2) so I can shower and nap before doing all the wash.
#34
Not taking your cellphone into bed with you. After awhile you will sleep much easier without the distraction and blue light shining straight into your eyes before bed.
danielw 5 years ago
at work. when you really should be rushing to meet that deadline,
Load More Replies... Andrew Gibb 5 years ago
I keep all electronic devices out of the bedroom. I sleep better this way
MrTree1779 5 years ago
I plug my phone into the USB charging cord on my night-stand, turn off notifications (except the phone), and flip it screen-side down. It's there if I get an emergency call from family at 3am, but it's not distracting me with midnight texting from friends.
Oathbraker 5 years ago
Why would you need your phone in bed in the first place? To make a sudden phone call at 3 in the morning?
Carrie Laughs 5 years ago
We have service contracts for emergency fire alarms and lighting - some people need to be on call.
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Hellysal 4 years ago
I literally take out my phone and open facebook when I can't fall asleep to read those kinds of Knowledge-I'll-Never-Use or meme posts to fall asleep. Honestly I don't think the blue light from the phone does much. It's far better if my mind is rushing to just enjoy a brainless activity, away from your daily life, to calm it down.
Adrian Brend 4 years ago
Remove the clock from your bedroom, or at least turn it away so you can't see it. If you wake up in the night you won't be staring at the time counting down the minutes of the non sleep your getting. After a while you will notice that your not waking up during the night as much checking how much time you have left to sleep.
meester sernnon 4 years ago (edited)
I never do this, I just flop in bed and stare at the roof
Steve Haigh 4 years ago
Don't all mobile phones have a night mode that removes the blue light these days?
#35
If you have nausea, suck on an ice cube. The nausea will go down.
kate h 5 years ago
If you're starting to get the pre-puke mouthful of saliva, stand over the sink and spit it out. Keep spitting if it keeps accumulating. This prevents me from puking 99% of the time. The sink is better than spitting in the toilet, as the mere proximity and close up view makes my stomach think it's ok to let loose. The bathroom sink is far enough away yet close enough to the toilet for the rare time spitting doesn't work.
Sage 5 years ago
If I go stand over the toilet, I will absolutely throw up. I have the worst gag reflex and toilets are gross and make me gag and then, well, you know what happens next.
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Lousha 5 years ago
To me a thick slice of fresh bread with tons of mustard on it does the trick. That was the only thing my mom could eat when she was pregnant and I guess somehow it "got into my system" :) Doesn't matter if I'm feeling sick because I'm actually ill, or just hungover, disgusted with something etc., bread and mustard works.
Casey Brinklow 4 years ago
Here's mine: remind yourself noone is looking at you, they are too wrapped up in their own lives, problems and insecurities to even notice you. And if anyone laughs at you or give you a look 😒 remember that once your out of sight you will be forgotten in 30seconds. do what you want cause one day youll be dead and soon everyone you know will be too, you'll be forgotten like you never existed on the planet at all. So what you do with your life literally doesn't matter (unless your a murderer or rapist, you'll waste most of your life in jail or death Row)
Janice H 5 years ago
It's about focus, you focus on the ice cube, candy, popsicle, whatever, to help your focus change. The same thing happens if you get car sick- if I know I'm going over hilly roads, my husband and I will switch and I drive, that way I don't get sick because I'm focused on the road.
#36
Befriend those little people, the janitor, the delivery guy, the server, and the dishwasher. You never know when they might pull your ass out of the fire.
Aahzmandus Pervect 5 years ago
Be good to everyone, you never know when you'll might need them? That is such a selfish and arrogant advice.
Kathryn Baylis 5 years ago
A better way to put it is to just be nice to everyone, regardless of position. One day you might need them, or they might be your boss. Kind of a variation on the Wilson Mizner quote “ Be nice to people on your way up because you'll meet them on your way down.”
François Carré 5 years ago
This is not about "little people". Be kind and polite to anyone. You have no reason to think you know better than someone who works in service, nor than a random stranger you cross in the street. Be the first to respect people if you want them to respect you. Never be the first to start a fight anyway. Even if your neighbour is clearly an a*****e, stay neutral with them at least, so you don't have to feel embarrassed whenever you need their help. There are situations in life when everyone is needed and welcome - I have personnaly experienced this. The room of our house had been damaged by a storm and before we even asked, in less than 10 minutes, all of the neighbours rushed in to help us. Even the most unpleasant ones.
Neb 4 years ago
Not sure about "befriend", but at least be polite, nice and don't look down to them. Maybe a few words. Issue is that not everyone can befriend someone else fast. However, being polite does not cost anything, and shouting on server to bring another soda to you because they forgot to remove ice definitely won't endear them to you.
Isabel Care 5 years ago
Be pleasant to those in service positions, makes you feels good and lessens the horrors of their jobs
#37
Don't half ass two things. Whole ass one thing.
Tiny Dynamine 5 years ago
True. I like the sentiment but bloody awful wording!
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Tiny Dynamine 5 years ago
Remember that unfounded myth of women being able to multi-task better than men? I had someone trying make that point against me and I replied "I'd rather give all my attention to one thing and do it well." She had no answer to that.
MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. 5 years ago
It's not an argument but a choice. Thank you.
Load More Replies... #38
Don't suffer future pain. In other words, worrying about all the stuff that could happen stops you from doing things and worse, turns potential pain into actual worry and mental pain.
WilvanderHeijden 5 years ago (edited)
There's a Dutch saying "People suffer most from the suffering they fear. " ( De mens lijdt het meest van het lijden dat hij vreest.)
Santhe van der Meulen 5 years ago
My father alwats says that if I worry about things. I wish I had an on/off button to stop worrying!
Load More Replies... Lauren Caswell 5 years ago (edited)
If life were a grassy field covered in leaves, and you spend all ur time crawling along turning every leaf over to make sure theres no hole or dog turd, then youll never run/frolick/have fun, you'll be making it miserable. Run and skip anyway: if you slip on a poo you can clean urself up. If you break a leg stepping in a hole, your leg will heal. But nothing is more important than how you traverse through life. I was told that and it helped me immensely to let go of my need to be sure of everything and accept that it's unhealthy to try to plan for/control everything
Isabel Care 5 years ago
Unless you have a chronic illness, then taking future pain (caused by whatever you are about to do) into consideration is a must. Don't worry about it, just add it into the calculations for recovery and rest. Plus that wonderful "use it or lose it" phrase for mobility. It already hurts, will hurt more when you move....but will also hurt a lot more in the future if you don't move and then can't move. Chose which pain to face
#39
In regards to dating: "You'll find someone when you're not looking". Sounds like total bs, but it's proven true for me a few times.
no_name 5 years ago
I kinda have the same problem. Maybe I'm not not-looking enough :D
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Anna McHugh 5 years ago
Not true - I got sick of waiting so I went online and 'found' my boyfriend. We've been together 9 years and are happy, because we both just accepted that neither of us was perfect. Online dating tends to fail when people meet a) out and out creeps and b) have unrealistic expectations.
Daria B 5 years ago
Not only dating. Sometimes I feel like dreams come true when you don't care anymore. It was also said in the film Wristcutters: A Love Story (and I felt deeply with it)
Kathryn Baylis 5 years ago
However, even though you’re not actively looking, still be open to getting to know someone, even if you keep them at arm’s length until you know them better—-in other words, don’t totally slam the door shut and lock it.
Malakai 5 years ago
Yep. I'm never actively looking for romance because I'm just not interested in it--it comes to me anyway sometimes and I've never had a bad relationship this way. It's not a matter of fate or anything so much as by not worrying about "needing" to find someone, I don't latch on to someone who seems compatible at the soonest opportunity; I feel freer to take my time getting to know them as friends, first.
no_name 5 years ago
Interesting. I'm not looking either yet it still doesn't come to me on its own volition.
Load More Replies... Eagle Girl 5 years ago
Am I the only one who found humor in the post's "it's proven true a couple of times"
François Carré 5 years ago
Well, that means someone might find you while you are looking for someone else. It can be a good surprise, but don't feel obliged to engage yourself with that person. Be true to them and to your own feelings.
#40
Teacher here. When you're texting/emailing between colleagues, friends, etc. don't put anything you wouldn't say to their face in writing. If you have it in writing they've got something physical they can hold against you or gossip about. Even if the door is closed, speak quietly if you're going to vent. Your coworkers can probably hear you clear down the hallway if you're bitching after-hours. Take it down to a whisper. CC your admin on every email asking a professional question to anybody else or in any conversation in which the slightest bit of conflict could arise. If you don't trust one of your coworkers, don't say a word to them beyond basic greetings. Trust your gut. Sit quietly in the lounge at lunch. If you think something is wrong, speak up. You probably aren't the only one to notice and your voice does make a difference.
Anna McHugh 5 years ago
And as another teacher - if you're going through all of that at work, you should probably look for another job. I sure did.
Martha Meyer 5 years ago
I think the only thing I would channge is the CC your admin part. That can make you the "enemy" in the eyes of people who see you are ssing someone else when mailing them. If you must better use bcc, so they can't see.
Kathryn Baylis 5 years ago (edited)
My mother told me, back in the pre-cellphone/pre-internet days, not to put anything in writing or on film that you wouldn’t want the entire neighborhood to read or see. Believe me, following that advice has saved me a load of embarrassment and difficult situations.
danielw 5 years ago
Yes. and I would submit that if a witness is necessary, it shouldn't be the admin seeing it. It should be HR, a mutual boss/supervisor or something to that effect. CC'ing admins/underlings in a hissing fit is just uping their stress. Also... B/CC- it's there for a reason. (B/CC won't show that the person was copied into something.)
Load More Replies... WilvanderHeijden 5 years ago
And also sarcastic remarks and jokes do not come over well in writing/ text /mail and are easily misunderstood. Keep your writing clean, to the point and keep your sentences short.
#41
Faking confidence to become more confident.
ThreeOfAKind 5 years ago
But don’t try and look too confident or you might come off as arrogant
Eirik Johnsbråten 5 years ago
Doesn't work for me. I just get better at faking it, and my confidence drops because I'm not practicing exposing my true self to the world.
Kathryn Baylis 5 years ago
Just be sure you have at least a little something to back it up. If you’re totally faking it you’ll be found out, and that could be really humiliating—-not a real confidence booster.
Tiny Dynamine 5 years ago
No, don't ever lie to yourself. You will lose sense of who you are and start faking more things that other people will notice and not like.
Isabel Care 5 years ago
I have negotiated lots of money off the price of a car plus extras then gone home and hidden under the covers til I stopped shaking. Take a deep breath, fake it until the necessary task is done, go home and puke. Then celebrate being an adult.
#42
Before I do anything I ask myself, “Would an idiot do that?” And if the answer is yes, I do not do that thing.
SoozeeQ 5 years ago
Never mind the personal adviser - please apply for the presidency.
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 5 years ago (edited)
Must be a fan of The Office. Advice given to Dwight Schrute by Michael Scott. Practically word for word.
#43
Exercising helping with depression and anxiety. It's not a cure all and I needed to be on meds to get to the point where I could do it, but it really does help me. I've been off my meds now for over a year (under doctors supervision don't stop taking your meds unless you run it by your doctor) and when I can't exercise for a few days, I can feel the depression and anxiety coming back. Now instead of going through a million things I did wrong in my head, I run for 3 miles or lift some heavy stuff.
Sander 5 years ago
Just find something to do. Exercising is effective, because it actually makes you feel good. But, taking on a good hobby is just as effective, especially for creative people. When I feel down, I almost always don't have a project that I'm working on. As soon as I start working on something, I feel a whole lot better. Now, watching Netflix or buying stuff on Amazon is NOT a hobby.
Lynda Momalo 5 years ago
I guess I'm one of those people missing the exercise/running high gene.
Neb 4 years ago
Definitely not for everyone. The ones saying that you have to do it for 21 days to get a habit - haven't met me yet. Several months and it is still not a habit, and does absolutely 0 for my moods. Maybe even negative, because it super annoys me to go out when I would like to rest.
#44
When you're trying to fall asleep and your mind is racing thinking about a million things at once, making it impossible to fall asleep, do this: 1.Pick a letter of the alphabet 2.Count to 8 3.When you get to 8, think of a word that starts with your letter 4.Count to 8 again 5.Think of a different word that starts with that letter 6.Repeat ad nauseum You'll distract your brain and bore it to sleep.
Sabienn 5 years ago
Have you tried making up stories inside your head, as if you where already dreaming? I do this almost every night, and often I can't fall asleep without it. It doesn't always help, but usually it does work for me. But ignore this if you have already tried this. Not being able to fall asleep easily sucks... I hope you'll find a method that works for you!
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Dilly Millandry 5 years ago
I read a boring book - works all the time. There is also plenty of them. If by chance I come across an amazing page-turner that I can't put down I'll live with the lack of sleep.
Dynein 5 years ago
I'm a "heady" person and recently found out that one way to tone down my thoughts is to focus on my BODY. Except not the usual breathing exercise which stays at the chest. I systematically concentrate on every sensation I can feel on my skin, starting from the top of my head right down to my toes. Every limb and every finger is individually analyzed. I find it much more relaxing because it kinda pulls my mind out of my head, so to say. My thoughts tend to be lot less intense afterwards.
Dynein 5 years ago
Addendum: This is more a general "tone down racing thoughts" exercise which isn't really intended for falling asleep as such. For that, I have two methods: Imagining a random scenery, then letting my mind wander (though I focus on visualizing SOMETHING, however weird and random), or trying to imagine a kind of acceleration sensation. Like sliding down a ramp, or being pulled. Both require some kind of focus while NOT engaging abstract thinking, which is much better for actually slipping into sleep.
Load More Replies... #45
I had a problem looking at people’s shoulders while they were speaking instead of their face. I told a coworker my problem who said “well just look at their ears, nobody can tell the difference”. Life changing, seriously, no one can tell the difference.
Lousha 5 years ago
This advice totally works. However I'm always annoyed by the fact that we cling so much to generalised ideas like "those who don't maintain eye contact are dishonest/untrustworthy". I'm sure that's true to some. But for example more introverted people can listen/pay attention a lot better if they are not forced to stare at the one speaking. Others are simply shy and are more comfortable looking away. There are also overactive people who feel "trapped" if they just have to stare and not do anything, they can have a better conversation while fumbling/fidgeting with something. We're not all the same.
Roadkill The Brave 5 years ago
Everyone listens different and I'm with you on that I wish more people understood that. It's also a culture thing, eye contact is rude in other places around the world. I've found the reverse is true about people lying. Liars have a tendency to stare you down to see if you're accepting their lie as truth, though looking away can be people lying as well I've found more people stare straight at me when they're doing it, it really depends on different factors and severity of the lie.
Load More Replies... Malakai 5 years ago
Or the bridge of their nose or their mouth, depending on the person. People say they can tell the difference all the time, but really...most people don't notice as much as they think they do. Which is great because I have so much trouble making eye contact.
Dilly Millandry 5 years ago
I also like to use a bit of lip reading to supplement any hearing loss I have. So I'm not going to be looking people in the eye.
Load More Replies... François Carré 5 years ago
Careful though : if you really look at people's ears you'll start thinking they actually are strange things, like rat's ears or stuff, and you'll end up completely distracted, not having listened to a single word they said to you.
What's In Your Head? 5 years ago
I'm a little weird with this; I am extremely socially awkward and talking to people makes me nervous, and yet I have no problem whatsoever with making eye contact. I always thought that was strange. :-)
#46
Giving small compliments to people right when you think it makes both them and you happy. Think that girls skirt is cute? Tell her!
Laugh or not 5 years ago
But be careful you don't come out as a creep. Our society is not wired for gratuitous kindness, unfortunately.
Tiny Dynamine 5 years ago
Yeah, the trick is to make it sound like it's a innocent compliment. Say something and then walk on. Don't linger and stare at her with saliva dripping out your mouth!
Load More Replies... Mama Panda 5 years ago
Whenever I see someone who looks like they are in a bad/sad mood, I will compliment them on something they are wearing. It is so neat to watch their faces light up. Everyone loves compliments.
WilvanderHeijden 5 years ago
And get a free ride in a nice black and white car, a charge for sexual harassment , a registration as sex offender and the knowledge that you can't take your own children to a playground anymore for the rest of your life.
#47
That Forest app. It grows a tree for up to 2 hours and during that time, you can't access any apps you think will distract you. If you wanna open a distracting app, you'd have to kill your tree. All your trees, dead or alive, appear in a little forest. I have always had trouble motivating myself to focus on homework and not look at Reddit/YouTube, but this app is just enough guilt to not open them. I haven't killed anything yet and I'm surprised at how much I can care about a small virtual tree. People told me about it and I just completely assumed that I'd never use it or it wouldn't work for me considering how distractible I am, but it works wonders
Beeps 5 years ago
Read this and thought “meh”; looked it up in the App Store and saw that you can grow cat shaped trees: SHUT UP AND TAKE MY MONEY!!!
danielw 5 years ago
as somebody who doesn't really care about pixels on a screen.... I would totally do this to just see how many dead trees will fit on the screen.
Mama Panda 5 years ago
Hmm I will have to mention this to my son as he is always distracted when doing things like chores or homework.
#48
As someone with a phobia of needles my entire life, I finally (30 years in) had a nurse tell me to ask for a spare alcohol pad and sniff it right as I’m about to get jabbed. She said the harsh smell is enough of a distraction to keep your mind off the needle. I was there for a flu shot, so I got to try it out right away; I wasn’t expecting much, but it worked! Ive been doing it ever since, and have no trouble with shots or blood draws now, which is huge for someone they’ve triggered panic attacks and near fainting in, before.
Lousha 5 years ago
To me it's enough to not look. I don't really care about the "pain" as it's more of an inconvenience. But I'm really disgusted with the sight of the needle, and especially the sight of it going under the skin. If I don't look I'm all good. But I always have to explain to the nurses that I'm not afraid, just trying not to barf; they don't have to make a fuss, don't have to comfort me, don't have to worry about me fainting...
Jessica Nametz 5 years ago
Same here! and if I see blood coming out, I will pass out... So I just don't look...
Load More Replies... Caroline 5 years ago
I learnt of another trick recently. Dig your nail into one of your fingertips as hard as you can when you get a jab. The pain you inflict yourself will cancel out the one from the needle. It works!
Cat Nip Gal 5 years ago
I'm getting my 7th grade shot today, gonna try this!
Load More Replies... Pretty Pangolin 5 years ago
That's great that that works! I always look away and ask them to give me a 3-2-1 countdown.
Sethurama Iyer 5 years ago
I could use this. I got my ears pierced 11 years ago and I still have needle trauma from it
#49
Celebrate the small things in life because if you wait for the big things, you might be waiting for a long time.
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Eagle Girl 5 years ago
One of my mom's fave authors Erma Bombeck said when she had a serious illness, She wondered why she was saving that candle or bottle of wine for a special occasion, When she could have made any day special by sharing the thing she was saving.
Isabel Care 5 years ago
All my "fancy clothes" are everyday clothes. I just never have any "dry clean only" stuff. Now with staying home most of the time, I enjoy wearing comfortable weird stuff out (including witchy style hats).
#50
You're not hungry you're thirsty! I would eat a big meal and wonder why I still felt hungry.. It is because I wasn't drinking a glass of water with my meal. Now if I notice I am hungry after eating normal portions I have a glass of water and wait 5 minutes before I continue eating.
Sander 5 years ago
You probably are just eating too fast. Generally, it takes about 20 minutes for your digestive system to 'notice' you have eaten. It doesn't really matter how much you eat, it just takes a while. Drinking might slow your pace down.
Bama Belle 5 years ago
I agree. I went on a cruise once. The 'fancy' dining rooms served courses with plenty of time in between. The servings were very small (by anyone's standards) but you could order as many servings as you wanted, at no extra cost. I found myself very satisfied with much less food, thanks to the courses being spread so far out.
Load More Replies... MellonCollie 5 years ago
This works wonders with kids too! Mine seem to drink too little (even when they were very young, it was a bit of a struggle to make them drink enough water) but when they start being moody and 'hangry' for no reason, it's usually because they haven't been drinking enough and they're thirst without realising it! It works miracles with them, so maybe with other kids too.
Astrid Nineor 5 years ago
How can anyone eat a full meal without water (or juice or whatever)???
Foxxy (The Original) 5 years ago
Or kill hungrythirsty dead with an Oak. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=1rSFdvI-0T8
SoozeeQ 5 years ago
Ha ha. Thanks Foxxy. I hadn't seen that one. I prefer the original. https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=1&v=IVoXmtQbs64&feature=emb_title Whenever I see him in other shows, like a cop show or something, I think, "Hey, that's the Oak guy!"
Load More Replies... Oathbraker 5 years ago
I've lived with myself my whole life. I think I know when I'm thirsty. Besides you have to drink after eating- not before or during.
Foxxy (The Original) 5 years ago (edited)
It is actually advised to drink a glass of water before or during meals as quite often people confuse the feeling of thirst with the feeling of hunger so having a glass of water before a meal often reduces your food intake meaning you eat less and are less likely to over indulge. Especially since your stomach takes about 30mins to send the full signal to your brain.
Load More Replies... #51
Put on your own oxygen mask first. You can’t help anyone effectively if you’re not OK yourself. I was always self sacrificing - to the point of being hospitalized for exhaustion. I’d always been told to give till it hurts and then push through the pain to give more, and so that’s what feels natural, and anything else is pure selfishness. A great therapist told me that I’m good at helping but I have to be at least at a baseline before I’m effective, and, oh, it makes everything so much better.
Johnny 5 years ago
While that's true, you don't need to put an oxygen mask on your car. At least not on this planet. I think you commented on the wrong post.
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#52
If you want to write a novel, just start writing. Don’t plan, just get words on paper.
Tiny Dynamine 5 years ago
I'm a writer and can confirm this is the best way. Just get that first sentence down and soon, you'll be sucked into the page. :)
François Carré 5 years ago
I'm not sure it works for everyone. Building a solid plan before writing can be an exciting way to start, and lead to a better story ; sometimes you write and write until you get stuck with something in your story that just doesn't work... and you have to rewrite it all. But I agree that when you know where you're going and once you are in the process of writing, you shouldn't stop and look back. Do not re-read until you're finished or you'll end up reworking the same paragraph again and again, and lose your motivation to go on.
Roadkill The Brave 5 years ago
Don't get rid of anything you write in frustration. Save it in a 'c**p' folder. I can't tell you how much I've pulled out of my 'c**p' folder and put it where it worked better. That's the advice I give everyone. Editing and frustration deleting are two entirely different things.
Pretty Pangolin 5 years ago
Yes! And you don't have to follow the literary injunction to "kill your darlings" (e.g. characters or scenes that you love but that may not fit in the story) - you can just move your "darlings" to a different folder. Makes it so much easier!
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#53
Flip a coin and choose the one you're hoping for. I don't even have to flip a coin now and I'm way more decisive!
#54
If you feel like quitting then just tell yourself that the story doesn't end this way. Sounds cliche, but you decide when your story ends when you stop trying. You may fail, but you will not fail today. Don't let the story end this way.
Eagle Girl 5 years ago
Love this! I'm the worst procrastinator. The more important it is, the more I fear not getting it right.
#55
Spend a lot of money on a mattress, they said It'll be great, they said. Couldn't afford it until I bought the house, but damn if they weren't all absolutely right. 10/10 would splurge again, and will in a few years.
Lynda Momalo 5 years ago
IDK -- I bought one of those relatively cheap "mattresses in a box" memory foam things and I've never been happier.
Eagle Girl 5 years ago
Cheap mattress is like cheap shoes, you never feel it until your older
Load More Replies... zims 5 years ago
I normally get my mattresses from the free section on craigslist. I think the most I've paid for one is $100. Getting a sculpted pillow was actually the game-changer for me, having solid neck support cleared up like half my headaches. Cost like fifteen bucks at Target.
Lauren Caswell 5 years ago
Imagine that support, but bodywide :) no more body aches! Glad you found a way to ease up ur headaches ^-^
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Ben Steinberg 5 years ago
You gotta be careful with this one. We spent "a lot of money" on a mattress/box set and it was total garbage. 8 years later we finally bought a different bed from a different company, at the half the price of the first one and we've never looked back...
#56
Going to therapy. I'm a guy. I'm emotionally stable, so I thought it was a pointless idea. Went with my ex-gf, in order to work out problems in our relationship (mostly on her end). I learned so much about myself and got some amazing life advice. 10/10
Christine Holl 5 years ago
I agree that therapy is great, but adding "mostly on her end" makes it sound like the therapy didn't fully hit home...
#57
Turn it off and turn it back on
Nagawa (Cofa) Kishiki 5 years ago
Don't ever try that if you are doing data recovery or anything of that sort. Cause it will never come back "on".
Pretty Pangolin 5 years ago
This worked for me just the other day - on my desktop, whenever I watched a Youtube video, the volume slider wasn't there any more - just "on" or "mute." I thought it might be a bid by Youtube to keep people from silencing ads. Then the power went out due to that tropical storm, and when it came back, the volume slider was there.
Johnny 5 years ago
My wife is still trying to figure out how to turn me off, all she knows how to do is turn me on.
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#58
Putting cold water on freshly shaved skin will make it so you don't get ingrown hairs. Some of the best advice I've ever received.
Wubbleyew 5 years ago
This sure doesn't work for me. So I'll just rock the perpetual 5 o'clock shadow
Tiny Dynamine 5 years ago
It's also better and cheaper than buying after-shave lotion. We didn't evolve to depend on formulated products, whose toxins our skin absorbs. It just need re-hydrating.
#59
Leave your shoes by the door. Sounds obvious to people from certain cultures or climates but it was never part of my routine growing up. I had some asian room mates and was astonished at the knock on effects this little habit has for cleanliness and comfort.
Malakai 5 years ago
Or get a pair of shoes that are JUST for walking around the house, and never step foot outside in them if you can help it. If you have pets you will thank yourself at 3am in the dark for this
Octavia Hansen 5 years ago
This also means you don't have to run to a room to find shoes if you have to run outside in a hurry or emergency. Be prepared!
A Jones 5 years ago
It is great advice. Growing up my family never really worn shoes in the house and kept them by the door. Now as an adult I also don't wear shoes indoors either. It does a good job to help prevent tracking in dirt. Also it should be no problem going barefoot if the floor is clean. Slippers or thick wool socks are great for when things get chilly.
#60
Once begun is half done. I am a terrible procrastinator by nature. I have totally done the "well now it 5:02 so I have to wait until 6:00 to start cleaning" and I like making things seem like Soo much work that I can't possibly do them unless I take time off of work. In reality if you just start a project without thinking about it you can get everything done in like fifteen minutes a day and it's never really that bad.
Eagle Girl 5 years ago
So True! Best thing for me to come from quarantine was that wake up call, that I didn't need more time, I needed to make a list on my dry erase board, even little things to keep focus. Although sometimes Netflix & Bored Panda make it a challenge ;)
#61
Give up caffeine to help with anxiety. I gave it up to help with my vertigo years after this was first suggested to me, but it did help. I'm still anxious but I'm not reacting to it like a hummingbird on cocaine anymore.
Mama Panda 5 years ago
I switched from drinking coffee to drinking hot tea. Best choice I made. Tea is much more healthier and I don't seem to need more than one cup a day as I did with coffee.
Eagle Girl 5 years ago
I've started drinking mushroom coffee. No it doesn't taste like mushrooms. Gives coffee boost without jitters. Changed my life.
MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. 5 years ago
Oh, this truly works. My hands twitch a lot and they've reduced ever since I gave up coffee but my anxiety is still there.
#62
Do the practice problems in the textbook. You think it's a total waste until you actually try it.
#63
Changing something about your appearance to gain confidence/self-esteem (getting a haircut, going to the gym). I thought it was a cop out piece of advice and then I got a haircut and I felt so comfortable in my skin and at peace that I remember the exact moment it happened.
Malakai 5 years ago
I'll never forget the day I finally decided to get my hair cut in a pixie cut. For YEARS, my mom had drilled it into me that my hair HAD to be at least chin length, but I'd always wanted it shorter and had been too scared to try it. One day when my dad and I had to run for groceries, I ran into the salon across the street because I needed a trim and I told the lady to cut it all off. I dyed it later that day and I got SO many compliments for it, but more importantly I was SO HAPPY with it. Do the look that's right for you and that YOU want to do.
Miss Cris 5 years ago
It's also that you decided and acted as you wanted to be, not your mother or another person. It seems more easy than it ussually is. Congratulations!
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Choose your reaction. It’s a thing from “7 Habits of a Highly Effective People”. What it boils down to is, nobody can actually “piss you off”. You have to react in a pissed off manner to the situation. It doesn’t always work because things like a death in the family are going to make you sad or whatever. It has helped me at work though to realize that no matter how stupid the person I am dealing with is, or how nasty they are being, I can choose to not go to that level. I can choose to stay factual and deal in logic. What do I know though?
Kathryn Baylis 5 years ago
Psychologically, we all do this, though we’re not necessarily aware of it. So basically, learning to take a moment first can help you stop emotional, violent, paranoid, or other negative outbursts, and allow you to use your critical thinking skills to decide if the situation is really worth a strong reaction (most of the time it isn’t, btw).
GenXandEarnedItAll 5 years ago
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt.
Deidre Snee 5 years ago
You know more than you think. When you do this, you are in control - control of yourself & the situation. No one or your emotions are controlling you.
Isabel Care 5 years ago
My reaction to really bad driving was, after giving them more space, was "Interesting maneuver". If I felt really peeved I would blow a raspberry too. Delivery driver and occasional motorbike courier for years
Oathbraker 5 years ago
Oh, I don't know. My family is pretty good at pissing me off quickly. Maybe because I care about them. It's almost impossible for a colleague or stranger to p**s me off.
#65
Whenever meeting a new person always assume that they know something you don’t
WilvanderHeijden 5 years ago
Unless you want to embarrass yourself by telling an expert how she should handle the problem.
What's In Your Head? 5 years ago
For me this works better the other way around. Whenever I meet a new person, I automatically feel like a stupid nobody, and assume they have a monopoly on wisdom, lol. I have to remind myself every time that I am a worthy adult too.
#66
Fans on my old MacBook died. Saw a YouTube video that said to simply take your fist and bang on the part of the computer that housed the fans. Thinking it was a troll, I gave it a shot out of pure frustration, and lo and behold, they purred back to life and I never had another issue with them for the rest of the time that I owned that computer.
Orillion 5 years ago
That is NOT what you should be taking away from this :p
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probably the fan just caught on something or wasn't sitting correctly
Borgia 137 5 years ago
Russian parts, american parts! They are all made in Taiwan anyway! *astronaut Lev smacks something in a spaceship*(not accurate quote from Armageddon)
#67
"There's what you need, there's what you want, and there's what you can't afford." My Dad says this all the time, and I never though of it as useless--I just never used it. Now I have, and my money is far easier to manage.
Octavia Hansen 5 years ago
I always think of the future: how often will I use something, how will it be in a year, 5 years. If something (clothing/shoes) is only good for one time buy cheap or borrow.
#68
Pull up your socks. Literally. When you’re feeling flagged and weary and still have two hours left before you can go home, sit down, take off your shoes, and literally pull your socks up. I belittled this forever until I tried it. It’s actually a nice little pick-me-up
#69
When I was complaining about my wife for the 700th time my friend said "if she's so awful why not just divorce her." It was good advice.
Foxxy (The Original) 5 years ago (edited)
It is normal to complain about your partner to friends on occasions but if you say more bad things about your partner than good then I think it’s time to re-evaluate your relationship and either go to couples therapy or seperate. I know that my hubby probably complains about me but I also know for a fact that he says great things about me to his mates.
#70
I suffered severe insomnia for years. Someone told me I should get up an hour earlier, go for a 30 minute run in the morning, then do yoga for 15 minutes before showering and getting ready for work. Seemed ridiculous, but I decided to try it for a month. Haven't suffered insomnia since. Have way more energy, sleep better, feel better. It's amazing.
Lousha 5 years ago
When you're a child your parents would read you a story to help you sleep and it works. So I do that to myself. I tell myself a story. Doesn't matter what, I'm on a cruise and the captain asks me to help finding out who stole lady Whatever's diamond. I'm hiking with friends and we happen upon a little hunting cabin on a mountain. I discover that there's a squirrel family in the back garden that can speak. Just a random story, doesn't even have to think much on how it will end because I usually wouldn't get there anyway.
Wizardbg 5 years ago
This is the only thing that ever helps me when I can't sleep! :)
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Laugh or not 5 years ago
I have started goind to the swimming pool before work (not every day, I al not that sporty) and it has done wonders for my sleep patterns and quality of sleep.
#71
If you have those annoying, tiny grey balls that get stuck to clothing, use a dry razor to shave it off. Saved so many items of clothing!
Ben Steinberg 5 years ago
"If you have those annoying, tiny grey balls"...hey now, there's no reason to get personal! /s
Mary Hiers 5 years ago
A small, fine-toothed comb is also good for this, and you're less likely to damage expensive clothing (like cashmere).
#72
Smiling at a bully in grade school, and make it as genuinely kind as you can muster. I had serious doubt until I did it, and watching her face become confused and horrified at the same time was priceless. She never bothered me again.
danielw 5 years ago
yeah... the bullies thought I was just a wise a*s. to be fair. I was. Stuffing the bully into a locker though... that really did the trick... and the irony was delicious. (for the record, he was trying to stuff my friend into a locker... and the teacher wasn't doing jack s**t because he was the star of the freshmen team. teacher was also the coach.)
#73
Bribe yourself with fun things to do the not so fun things. Today I was tired after work but got a little care package in the mail, so I made myself go on the 2.5 mile run I didn't want to do before I could open the package. Now I'm refreshed and happy that I did the thing I was pseudo dreading, and I have a fun care package to open.
WilvanderHeijden 5 years ago (edited)
My wife didn't think that a new car was acceptable as a bribe for mowing the lawn.
Remi Flynne 5 years ago
Bloody hell I would. I'll mow your lawn for the next year if you like.
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Victoria Pitt 5 years ago
yes I do this all the time. I make myself do the dishes and complete a workout before I can play in my art studio or go shopping.
#74
Shop at Aldi's. My mother-in-law has been all over me for years about this. I finally buckled tonight -- and spend about half as much as I usually do on groceries. Damn it. I'm not telling her. Ever.
Barbara Kayton 5 years ago
Laughing so hard at your last sentence. I wish Aldi delivered. Having mobility issues in the house, shopping in-store is not an option a lot of times. I realize their limited range, lack of extras, etc is part of their "model" but it also makes it very hard for us to use them.
Mila 5 years ago
Don't know where you are but I know LIdl launched delivery when the pandemic started, also the app Glovo offers delivery from the cheaper supermarkets. There's also apps specific to supermarket shopping, like Buymie in Ireland (I think it's in the UK also).
Load More Replies... Skye Ramadge 5 years ago
I get my favourite food- creamed rice from Aldi. One dollar for a HUGE tin!!!!
Isabel Care 5 years ago
For similar prices, just buy most supermarkets' own brand products in UK
Victoria Pitt 5 years ago
Ha ha ha my mom tells me to go there all the time! Too funny. Some stuff is pretty decent, but you have to be ok with only have one brand option on many items.
#75
When you are sad eat healthy, do a lot of sport and try to take fresh air under the sun. It sounds like the typical piece of crap, but it works incredibly well. It probably is something purely chemical, so it is definetly worth a try.
Scagsy 5 years ago
Unfortunately, I have had the opposite experience. I was a professional athlete so I ate healthily, did sport (for a job) and breathed/panted/sweated all day under the sun/rain/wind/snow. I was diagnosed with depression by the Club doctor. Still have it twenty years later
Malakai 5 years ago
Unfortunately, sometimes you can do everything right and eat right, exercise, and all of that good stuff, but mental illness can still take root. Traumatic experiences, genetics, etc... I'm sorry this happened to you. :(
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Julie C Rose 5 years ago
My country’s lockdown happened to coincide with the month when I’d been planning to do more exercise (for the few months before that, I was going through a crazy busy period at work that ended up making my job more secure now that all this is happening). I ended up still doing the exercise I’d planned on and it did help.
#76
When it comes to smoking cigarettes or weed it's easy to do it all the time, easy to never do it, damn hard to only do it once in a while.
Lynda Momalo 5 years ago
I suppose it depends on how obsessive the person is. Some people are more prone to addiction than others.
XianJaguar 5 years ago
Lynda: Exactly. Some people really can just have one or two joints on the weekends and never become addicted or have it affect them negatively.
Load More Replies... WilvanderHeijden 5 years ago
Nope, I quit smoking but I still can enjoy the occasional joint without craving for a cigarette or more joints the next day.
Foxxy (The Original) 5 years ago (edited)
I can never be a social smoker coz I have an addictive personality. Smoking was an extremely hard habit to give up, tried many times and failed. Thankfully I have now been smoke free for 3 years and never want to have a puff of one again coz I know I will start back up again.
Gwinevere von Ludwig 5 years ago
Um it's really easy to just smoke weed occasionally. I'd venture that this is what most people do anyway.
#77
Dress for success. Started wearing a suit at work and got treated with more respect as well as promotions.
Deidre Snee 5 years ago
At business school, we were taught: Dress for the job you want to be promoted to. It conveys that you have more potential than the job you are currently in.
WilvanderHeijden 5 years ago
I doubt if the IT guy in a 3 piece Armani suit who is crawling over the floor to replace a broken LAN-cable gets treated with more respect.
Tiny Dynamine 5 years ago
This is just faking it. I don't like business mentality but if you know what you're doing, make that clear. Stand up strong and that's when people will respect you.
Foxxy (The Original) 5 years ago
I can just picture seeing my husband going to work wearing a suit to his job as a concretor, all his work mates would take the p**s out of him and never let him live it down. Mind you my hubby doesn’t even own a suit.
Octavia Hansen 5 years ago
This works on dates, too, MEN! ZZ TOP had it right that women go crazy for a sharp dressed man!
Victoria Pitt 5 years ago
Dress for the job you want, not the one you have. It doesn't have to be literal. There isn't actually a position within my current company I could be promoted to, but I believe by dressing a little nicer I get more respect, more opportunities, bonuses etc... It gives the impression that you take your job seriously. Again, within reason. Don't be the self absorbed fashionista either. But also don't wear you tie dye festival shirt... lol
#78
Pretend to be sleeping untill you eventually do.
#79
Drink Water. Drink more water. Never stop drinking water
Enuya 5 years ago
Partially right, but... you know you can poison yourself with water? Up to the point where your brain cells swell and you may even die? So yes, drink a lot but not too much too.
danielw 5 years ago
so... in a normal person.... that's somewhere around the same volume of water that fills a hot tub. in the course of a day. athletes who've just finished a marathon and similar, that one bottle of water might kill them. It has to do with sodium, potasium, and a few other odds and ends being in too-low a concentration.
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Scagsy 5 years ago
A girl died UK not long ago because the Ecstasy pill she had taken made her continually thirsty. She kept on drinking water and eventually drowned. Unbelievable but that was the actual cause of death.
#80
If you have a clogged nose, doing 8-10 pushups will temporarily clear it up.
Johnny 5 years ago
If I had the fitness level to do 10 pushups, maybe I wouldn't have gotten sick in the first place.
Foxxy (The Original) 5 years ago (edited)
Well I will be stuffed (pun intended) coz I can barely do 1 push up.
Laugh or not 5 years ago
Given how often I have a stuffy nose, I should learn to do push ups and get buff.
Load More Replies... Astrid Nineor 5 years ago
I see I am in good company here.... I managed 11 once, back in my teens. Now? Pfffff
#81
Try killing roaches with soapy water in a spray bottle. It sounds useless, but it works better than any insecticide I’ve ever tried, and it’s non-toxic and really easy to clean up.
François Carré 5 years ago
You shouldn't have to kill them actually. Clean your place, sort your trash and lift it to the appropriate place : you don't need to feed the roaches. And if you just find a random bug in your house, quit that awful reflex of killing first. Catch it and gently put it outside. Who do you think you are to believe you have the right of life and death over other beings ?
Sori 5 years ago
Sometimes they are part of the area... Roaches in Hawai'i are just part of wildlife. They also jump and fly. Cleaning does help, but if they are part of the local ecosystem than tips like this can be helpful
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Stick to the same sleep schedule on your days off that you follow on days when you have to be somewhere at a specific time (like school or work days). I spent my whole life sleeping until noon on weekends, thinking I was storing sleep in some imaginary sleep bank. I recently started waking up early on weekends, and now I don't have trouble waking up when my alarm goes off during the week. Plus I have all this extra time to do stuff because I'm not sleeping all day.
Remi Flynne 5 years ago
You haven't met my dog. She wakes us up at random times and often for no obvious reason. Sometimes because we aren't on the bed in a way convenient to her... little madam. Then sometimes she likes a lie-in.
Load More Replies... WilvanderHeijden 5 years ago
Except when you're working a 70 hour per week job. That's when you're quite happy to be sleeping till noon on Sunday.
Remi Flynne 5 years ago
70 hour weeks aren't really reasonable long term though.
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Kegles. After having a baby, I stopped laughing at that advice.
#85
Wash your dishes immediately after using them. It really helps avoid unnecessary clutter.
WilvanderHeijden 5 years ago
The dishwasher is our clutter closet till it's loaded enough to switch it on.
#86
Stop chasing girls. Most times now they notice me as an individual, not as someone begging for a girlfriend.
#87
Spend an extra $5-$10 on wiper blades
WilvanderHeijden 5 years ago
And don't use them to clean your windows from the Sahara sandstorm that hit your city last night.....
#88
For gamers, play games that have a beneficial afk element (in-game), then whenever you need to do some afk stuff spend the time it takes cleaning your house. Started playing Black Desert Online on xbox, my house has never been cleaner and I'm doing it so regularly that It's becoming a habit and when I'm all caught up I nap. It's like a tricked myself into taking care of me and my place with games. Easily the best life change I've made this year. I'm productive in-game, at home, and I'm well rested. 10/10 highly recommend.
WilvanderHeijden 5 years ago
For those who don't get it , here's an explanation of AFK : https://www.lifewire.com/what-is-afk-2483097. I had to look it up.
#89
In regards to saving I was always told “Pay your bills, Pay yourself, then spend”
Joanne Hudson 5 years ago
Pay yourself first. Then there is less money to accumulate bills. Put it in an inconvenient place so you can't take it out, even $5 a check grows. I also have 10
Joanne Hudson 5 years ago
% extra tax taken out each pay so I get money back when I file taxes, or there is extra to PAY if I need to.
Load More Replies... Isabel Care 5 years ago
Be fortunate enough to have a job that does more than just about pay the bills. Never had one myself.
#90
From a youtube video dictated by a heavily accented doctor: Unclog your nose by sitting up straight, holding your breath and tapping your nose, untapping and breathing in to about 80% of what you'd normally breathe in, exhale, and repeat for a period of about 40 seconds to a minute. The point is to get a response to where your body almost feels like it's drowning. It's tough but it clears your sniffles right up for a long while and works 90% of the time. Then I went on to suggest it to so many people but they won't believe me or try it even if they're desperate.
#91
My doctor told me when I feel anxious or something like that to wiggle my toes and count them for every wiggle. It is something that distracts your mind and you can do it anywhere cause it just means moving your toes.
#92
To meditate more often and visualize my dream life.
WilvanderHeijden 5 years ago
In stead of dreaming about your dream life, you' should invest that time on actually doing things to achieve that dream life. Or did you think that Slash got his dream life by just holding a guitar and visualizing how he would be one of the greatest guitar players of the world?
#93
Finish nice hot shower with 30 seconds in cold. It closes up your pores and reduces acne build up. 14 year old me really should have listened.
#94
My dad, " dont marry that women because she has mental issues". i listened. About 3 years later i found out she was on trial for murdering her husband.
Foxxy (The Original) 5 years ago
That was lucky. Although you can’t go judging all people who have mental issues. I have mental health issues and I can tell you that there is no way I would ever murder anyone.
Remi Flynne 5 years ago
The wording has a different meaning. Mental health refers to our emotional and psychological state, our social well–being and how we feel about ourselves and interact with others. Mental health is not the same as mental illness, although poor mental health can lead to mental and physical illnesses.
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WilvanderHeijden 5 years ago
Other people see things in your partner that you can't see because you're infatuated or in love with that person. The father isn't the first person in history to notice that his child is dating a psychopath.
Load More Replies... Octavia Hansen 5 years ago
Someone who is not directly involved in a relationship will have an incredible view of your relationship. Get opinions from guy and gal friends . . .
#95
If you make your bed in the morning, it will help you to get started on your day and make you feel better when you get ready to go to bed at night.
Isabel Care 5 years ago
Getting into a cold damp bed (because you didn't let it air) is ghastly
What do you think ?
Kesam 5 years ago
Here's mine: if unsure, always assume the best about people's intentions. If you are unsure if something someone said or did to you was meant to hurt or annoy you, assume it wasn't. This will make your life a lot easier and open your eyes to the crazy amount of smoldering conflicts that are caused by nothing but misunderstandings.
Lauren Caswell 5 years ago
I like this. I often asuume oh no what did i do to annoy so and so, when it has nothing to do with anything i did. It kinda works for that too ^-^
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WilvanderHeijden 5 years ago
The best thing I ever read was " For everything in life there's one rule: The long way is the short way." And when you really think about it it's so true. Whenever you try to rush things the result is a mess and you often have to start from scratch to get a good result. Fun fact: "The short way is the long way" is also true.
troufaki13 5 years ago
One piece of advice I would give to my younger self would be "Wear sunscreen. Always."
Sterrinatu 5 years ago
I don't know why you got the down votes. It's a pretty important lesson. One I should live by but don't.
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Bunny Wood 5 years ago
Mine : Never speak when you are angry, you will give the best speech you ever regretted...
Bob Belcher 5 years ago
Here's the two I've learned. Before marrying someone make sure they at least share half the interest you have. If you get upset, think; will this matter next week? I've been with my wife for almost 20 years and we rarely fight and when we do, it's not us fighting each other; it's us mad at ones family member or the others lol.
Sterrinatu 5 years ago
Seek to understand! you would be amazed at how this mind set changes your interactions with people.
Jessica Nametz 5 years ago
Another one and this is the Golden Rule in life: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Basically, treat how people you wish to be treated. If you want people to treat you like an a*****e, be an a*****e. If you want people to be kind, be kind to others.
Amie Redman 4 years ago
My husbands advice: don’t stress over things you can’t change, or don’t have control over. Best advice ever.
Kesam 5 years ago
Here's mine: if unsure, always assume the best about people's intentions. If you are unsure if something someone said or did to you was meant to hurt or annoy you, assume it wasn't. This will make your life a lot easier and open your eyes to the crazy amount of smoldering conflicts that are caused by nothing but misunderstandings.
Lauren Caswell 5 years ago
I like this. I often asuume oh no what did i do to annoy so and so, when it has nothing to do with anything i did. It kinda works for that too ^-^
Load More Replies... WilvanderHeijden 5 years ago
The best thing I ever read was " For everything in life there's one rule: The long way is the short way." And when you really think about it it's so true. Whenever you try to rush things the result is a mess and you often have to start from scratch to get a good result. Fun fact: "The short way is the long way" is also true.
troufaki13 5 years ago
One piece of advice I would give to my younger self would be "Wear sunscreen. Always."
Sterrinatu 5 years ago
I don't know why you got the down votes. It's a pretty important lesson. One I should live by but don't.
Load More Replies... Bunny Wood 5 years ago
Mine : Never speak when you are angry, you will give the best speech you ever regretted...
Bob Belcher 5 years ago
Here's the two I've learned. Before marrying someone make sure they at least share half the interest you have. If you get upset, think; will this matter next week? I've been with my wife for almost 20 years and we rarely fight and when we do, it's not us fighting each other; it's us mad at ones family member or the others lol.
Sterrinatu 5 years ago
Seek to understand! you would be amazed at how this mind set changes your interactions with people.
Jessica Nametz 5 years ago
Another one and this is the Golden Rule in life: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Basically, treat how people you wish to be treated. If you want people to treat you like an a*****e, be an a*****e. If you want people to be kind, be kind to others.
Amie Redman 4 years ago
My husbands advice: don’t stress over things you can’t change, or don’t have control over. Best advice ever.
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