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“Haven’t Talked For 3 Years”: 30 Times People Went From Best Friends To Strangers
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You’ve got a friend in me, you’ve got a friend in me! There are few things in life stronger than the bond of two best friends. Knowing that someone has your back no matter what and will always be there to make you smile, even on your very worst days, is a wonderful feeling.
But unfortunately, when one of your friendships is put to the test, you might be faced with the harsh realization that your BFF doesn't value your relationship as much as you do. Reddit users have recently been opening up about how their former best friends turned into strangers, so we’ve gathered some of their most painful stories below. If you can relate to these tales, know that you’re not alone, pandas. And remember that you deserve to have companions who will stick with you until the end!
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#1
He cheated on his fiancé. I told her what was going on. He never figured out how she found out. I cut him off. I figured if he can f**k over his fiancé, someone he’s supposed to love, what is keeping him from doing the same to me.
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#2
He committed a crime, pinned it on me, and I went to prison for it. It took some time to prove it was him, and I was immediately released and he is in prison now.
We were best friends for 13 years, so huge trust issues followed.
#3
I found out that not only did she know about my (ex) fiance cheating on me but was helping him hide it. Backstabbing c**t.
To find out how this conversation started in the first place, we reached out to Reddit user Salamander-One, who posed the question: "Why did you and your best friend stop talking?" She was kind enough to have a chat with Bored Panda and open up about some of her own friendships.
"I wasn't speaking with my best friend for weeks, which never happens. I was feeling very sad and lonely that day and was looking for people to relate to," the author shared. "I felt like I had no friends at all and was curious to hear stories that have made others feel the way I felt. Reading those responses made me feel so seen and so grateful for humanity. I began to realize that humans experience life the same way through different experiences. Unfortunately, loss is part of the human experience."
#4
Her dad SA’ed me one night when we were drinking (we were 16, he bought the alcohol for us) and she and her cousin saw it happen.
I didn’t speak about it until a school counselor called me into the office to discuss a sudden drop in my grades. I explained that this had happened and it’s really hard for me at school right now.
The counselor called police and made a report. Police came to my school the next day and pulled me out class, “interrogated” me for a few hours, and then brought in my friend. She denied knowing anything about it. I got a restraining order and never spoke to her again.
Until 3 years ago, at 29 we happened to be at the same house party. She asked to speak to me in the garage, and told me “I should have believed what I saw. He’s in jail for raping another girl”. I cried and was happy to hear her finally say those words (that she should have believed what she saw) but I still will never, ever have contact with her again.
#5
I’m a pediatrician and she’s an antivaxxer.
07000 11 months ago
Something similar. I am a Clinical Microbiologist and she is an antivaxxer
Dre Mosley 11 months ago (edited)
The Covid era allowed me to find out that several people I had known for years were paranoid, antivax, anti-science conspiracy nuts.
Auntriarch 11 months ago
One of my closest friends is very gullible, prone to conspiracy theories. But she has a good heart and doesn't take against me when I disagree with her (very harshly sometimes). I can live with that.
David Fox 11 months ago
Doesn't anyone actually talk and find out things about each other when dating anymore?
Weasel Wise 11 months ago
Yes. You're supposed to talk to someone you are dating and find out every little last detail about them before making a decision about if you want to actually be with them long term. That's basic common sense and how everyone find a significant other. 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ /s
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Elizabeth Lawlis 4 weeks ago
Not an anti-vaxxer but a lot of people think I am because I'm allergic to ingredients in a select few vaccines, including the Covid and Flu and they don't believe it. I was turned down for dates (before I met my fiance) because I couldn't get either jab.
Janet Graham 11 months ago
Civilized people can have opposing thoughts and still be friends. If you can't agree to disagree, then you were never friends. You were clones.
whiterabbit 11 months ago
Is she an antivaxxer or did she choose not to get a covid shot? They are two very different things.
Tom 11 months ago
I would say an anti vaxxer is also a science denier, and probably pro death by preventable diseases - and claiming being autistic is worse than being dead.. May also subscribe to extreme right wing views on minorities and anyone not being straights as well. As to covid - I get there are questions - but lets be real - would they really release something that could have such negative impacts in todays "sue happy" society ?
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Sofia Carlson 11 months ago
How do you feel now that you know the vaxes did more harm than good?
Bill 11 months ago
As bad as Covid got me I was ready to drink the bleach waiting for a vaccine. Sometimes your body needs help for Gods sake. He may be perfect and made us in his own image but he left out the invincible part.
nm (he/him) 11 months ago
I got successfully treated from lung cancer, but my health was still fragile. My 50 years friend was a religious fanatic, anti-5G, anti-mask and anti-vax. Obviously I could not take the risk and banned him out of my house.
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She stole over 10k of things from me over the years and used me for my situation at the time. I saw them all one day in her closet years years later. She never let me in her room btw. Now I know. Ended the friendship the next day.
Unfortunately, the OP knows all too well how it feels to lose a close friend. "My best friend and I just finished high school last month. To celebrate the last day of school, we were planning on watching the new movie Wicked in cinemas together for weeks," she shared. "We were both very excited about it, and we had everything planned out."
"As it got closer to the day we were supposed to watch the movie (about 2/3 days prior), she randomly bailed on me. I was confused because she did say that she had her money and transport ready, and she built hype around hanging out with me on the day (what would've been our first private hangout)," the author explained. "When I asked her why she bailed, she told me she'd rather join 6 of our other friends at the beach. Students from different schools were throwing a beach party to celebrate the last day of school, so it was going to be packed."
#7
I grew up.
He didn't.
He's a flat earther, born again, and fixated on people and memories from high school when we graduated like 20 years ago. "Hey remember when Mikey from 3rd period dropped his pencil and he farted when he grabbed it?" "Hey remember when that one hot girl from geology whose name i cant remember asked me for a listerine strip? Yea she was into me."
Just slowly became a bummer to hang out with and had to cut ties.
#8
I realized she only included me when she needed something. I finally got up the courage to tell them "no" when they wanted me to cook for their dinner party. She wanted me to buy all the food, prep, cook, and clean after. I haven't heard from her since.
SnackbarKaat 11 months ago
Had a 'friend' who only contacted me when she f****d up and needed someone to talk with. Made Fun of me behind my back too.
#9
She ditched me in a foreign country to go hang out with people she'd just met.
Yup.
"I'd been waiting impatiently for the movie to release for over 2 years, and she knew this. I was upset that she couldn't compromise for me and that I was going to have to watch the movie alone after all the plans we had for a day that was probably our last day together," Salamander-One continued. "After all, we might go our separate ways in university."
"I respected her decision to go to the beach party, but I was obviously hurt, so I stopped texting her for a few days. We ended up in this awkward position where we don't know how to go back to normal, and to this day, we don't talk," the author says. "Even on the last day at school, we were very avoidant of each other. She used to hug me everyday when she went home, and for the first time that day, on our last day together, she didn't. I wouldn't say I ended the friendship, but this definitely made it fall apart. This was what inspired me to [start this thread]."
#10
I started dating someone and she texted me that she wanted to focus only on “friendships with single women who aren’t involved with boys and are also working towards their career goals and financial independence.” I also wasn’t the first friend she had dropped for having a boyfriend. I didn’t respond until she texted months later apologizing. I brushed it off and said I was respecting her boundaries and never spoke to her again. It’s been 5 years since.
#11
He's just angry all the time.
Everyone else is at fault, and it's never his fault.
He's stupidly deep into the Trump/MAGA movement.
I just can't with him anymore.
#12
He stopped responding, which he does every once in a while, just won’t respond. Instead of reaching out after a few months in which we would be best friends again and text and game when we could, I just let it slip. He reached out like after 6 months and apologized, I forgave immediately and then went back to ignoring. If sucks but I've stopped investing into people who won’t invest into me.
As far as why it's so painful to lose a close friend, the author says, "Losing a best friend is like losing a core part of your life, especially since you've shared so many special moments with them. You get so used to being around each other that you become more alike than you realize. Your best friend is the person you turn to to laugh, to cry, and to find support. They become family, and you have the comfort to be yourself around them without the fear of judgement."
"Finding friends where you give 100% of yourselves to each other nowadays is rare, and those are the friendships I treasure the most. Losing that love and acceptance is devastating. Losing a person you love in any way is a heart-wrenching feeling, and it is very difficult to move on from what was once a big part of your life," she added.
#13
She started posting extremely antisemitic things on her social media when the Israel-Palestine war began. She was sharing posts calling for retaliation against all Jewish people.
I'm Jewish. She knew that. When I asked her why she was sharing that kind of stuff, she doubled down.
Clown fish 11 months ago (edited)
I stopped talking to a friend when they came out with I quote "all these f#cking gypsies turning up they will be nicking stuff" I'm from a gypsy family and when I pointed that out she shrugged and said yeah but you're different!
#14
We were both born as Jehovahs Witnesses. He’s still in, I’m not. He’s not allowed to talk to me.
#15
She asked me to help her fake a vaccine card to keep her job (at a nail salon) because she didn’t wanna take it. I said no. She stopped texting.
Glen Ellyn 11 months ago
I wouldn't have faked a card either. There are just too many people who will lie and cheat to get what they want. Whatever happened to honestly and integrity?
We also asked the author what she thought of the replies to her post. "I felt a heartwarming gratitude seeing so many people reply and share their stories. I started feeling emotional because I realized that I wasn't as alone as I thought I was," she shared.
"There were so many people who felt like me, still processing losing a best friend, and I connected to those stories the most. Feeling that connection with people's life experiences pulled me out of my sadness because connection was what I needed most in that moment," the OP continued. "Kind strangers reached out to me to share words of advice and encouragement. I tried reading all of the stories and replied to as many as I possibly could. I was honored to be briefly let in on so many people's experiences with friendship."
#16
Well, I’m glad you asked….
She didn’t ask me to be a bridesmaid at her wedding, I had known her for 25 years and she asked girls she had known for only a few months.
Accordingly, I didn’t ask her to be involved in my wedding. I had my two sisters, whom I had actually known for longer than her. Didn’t stop her from making a spectacle at the wedding, which was on a very hot day. She pulled out the front of my dress and dumped an entire box of confetti down there. I was a bit sweaty, my dress got stained in red, pink, blue and green spots for the photos. Thanks friend.
She didn’t acknowledge the birth of my first child. To be fair, I did learn later that she had suffered a number of miscarriages that year but still…
We would invite her and her husband over for cosy little dinner parties and put a lot of effort into them. Candles and fancy food and nice wines. When she reciprocated the invitation, we would always arrive to find she had also asked three or four other couples and would not bother cooking, we’d get pizza.
She never got in contact with me, it was always me calling her.
She didn’t call me to tell me that she was finally pregnant, didn’t tell me when she’d had the baby. I always found out through other people.
None of these things seemed like big deals at the time but added up, it caused a lot of pain and tears from my end. Why didn’t she like me?
I got the hint. She didn’t want to be friends anymore. Okay.
I removed her from all my socials and accepted that she had moved on, so although I didn’t understand why, I shrugged and moved on too.
Now years later, she goes around telling everyone she doesn’t understand what she did so wrong as to cause me to give her the cold shoulder and block her. I haven’t blocked her, she simply has not re-requested to follow me. That doesn’t suit her “poor me” narrative though, does it?
She’s a drama queen, always wants to be the centre of attention and needs to be bolstered up by a crowd of adoring people all around her. I’m simply not interested in being a shoulder for her to step on as she climbs her way to the top. She’s got plenty of those already.
Sorry, that was long. It’s obviously a touchy subject.
Dusty's mom 11 months ago
They'll all come to the point where they understand your stance on the situation. They just haven't been used enough yet. Count it a win and move in a new circle.
#17
She invited a friend I had introduced her to to her wedding but didn’t invite me. That hurt.
Glen Ellyn 11 months ago
It's extremely painful when you find out your friends is not who you think they are. So sorry this happened to you.
#18
He got a job making 6 figures and became materialistic while ridiculing Union workers (like me) and he phased me out of his social life now that he’s got rich friends.
"There were some emotional stories, such as the best friend passing away and not having the chance to say goodbye. There were some extreme stories, such as the best friend committing serious crimes or going down a dark path of drug addiction," the author continued. "There were somber moments as well, where the friendship just naturally faded, where the two friends have different directions in life. Each story stood out to me as I read through them because they touched on different key aspects of friendship that people tend to neglect, such as empathy, support, and a listening ear."
#19
His dumb, married a*s tried to sleep with my ex less than 48 hours after we’d broken up… And now, two years later, he’s sitting in prison for 20-ish years after sending an undercover FBI agent some sick pics/vids.
Serves the f****r right.
#20
Posted my pregnancy announcement before my family and friends were aware. We hadn’t even gotten our NIPT results back (I was high risk). When confronted she informed me it wasn’t a big deal and it’s not like anyone on her friends list knew me. You could hear us saying in the video to not post anything online yet since we wanted to surprise family. Multiple times. Lies about deleting it as well. My husband confronted her and she shrugged and again refused to accept responsibility/accountability. I knew then I couldn’t trust her around my kid.
#21
She started dating a guy (43) who was non-monogamous on his end (but monogamous on her end - she reassured me it worked). Turns out he had been messaging a 16 year old girl for the last year and intended to have her move in with him the day she turned 18. She found nothing wrong with it, also stating that when she “gets her bearings” with the new move, she also intends to make her move on her (sexually) with him. When she told me about it the girl was just two weeks shy of 18 and “what is the difference between her body two weeks away from 18 and after 18” um…. The law? That’s the last time I spoke to her.
You never really know who people are.
Finally, Salamander-One shared some kind words for anyone who has experienced loss or isolation: "You are not alone in that. It is difficult to navigate through that feeling, and healing through it takes time. Do not let past experiences prevent you from creating special ones with new people. Open your heart to learning and loving through experience. You have people who love and care for you, and you will find more people in life who will reciprocate the love you give to them. This is just a small chapter of the life experience, and there are so many chapters ahead. It takes a little bit of time."
#22
He went down the MAGA rabbit hole. I don't need that BS in my life. Maybe someday he'll come around.
#23
I grew tired of being taken advantage of and taken for granted. Without ever getting a "thank you" for everything I did for them. We were best friends for 17 years. I ended that friendship, I deleted their number, deleted them off my social media accounts. A weight was lifted off my shoulders when I ended that friendship. We haven't talked for 3 years, and will continue to do so. What they do, is none of my concern anymore, nor has it been.
The Doom Song 11 months ago
I had a "friend" like this. Whenever they needed help, I was always there but when I needed help they wouldn't be there. Sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is to move on
#24
1. Because I paid her husband's auto shop to replace my radiator, and the techs failed to put fluids back in my car. New radiator exploded, far from home and even further from the auto shop. They refused to fix the problems, so I complained to the corporate office and husband got in trouble and lost bonuses. So bestie was not allowed to speak to me anymore.
2. Other bestie's boyfriend wanted to advertise his tree services in my yard. I was ok with it, but the landscaping company my landlord paid was not, and they removed the sign without telling me. I was accused of sabotaging the boyfriend's business.
Glad to be free of the drama.
Janet Graham 11 months ago
If they didn't care for the trees, they shouldn't be posting ads around those trees. It sounds like poaching on their part and a giant overstep on yours. As far as the mechanic, you did what you needed to do. If he had been all he was cracked up to be, it would not have happened.
#25
She told her son (he and my daughter are the same age) that my daughter looked like a wh*re in her homecoming dress. He told my daughter she said that. I asked her through text if it was true and she left me on read. I never talked to her again. Several years later she started working where i was already working and tried to buddy up to me in her new hire training and I completely ignored her.
Kit Black 11 months ago
Had a similar situation - daughter's best friend was always the type to want to act older than her age and was allowed to do things that my daughter wasn't allowed to do - but we got along ok. The other kiddo was on b.c. for really bad acne, and my friend told me that she was having it stopped shortly after the little girl turned 12 ~ because she might think it meant it was ok to be sexually active~. I pointed out that if she genuinely thought her child was going to try to be sexually active that young, she should talk to her about it more and leave her on the b.c. Guess who the kid told first when she got pregnant at 14... I had to convince her to tell her mother - mom forced an abortion the kid resented for *years*. She later started telling people *my daughter* was a bad influence - behind my back - then acted shocked as hell when I cut off all contact with her.
#26
I noticed that, especially when we're around other people, she undermines my intelligence at every opportunity. I realized after 4 years of what seemed like a close, wholesome friendship that she was using me as an accessory to make herself look and feel smarter. I would've taken the pain of a truck running me over than having experienced that epiphany.
I still haven't really let go of the person I thought she was and I miss it so, so much. But over the course of those 4 years I had come to fully accept that I was a bumbling idiot, and somehow it took me this long to realize she was the cause.
Dusty's mom 11 months ago
You're still internalizing her gaslighting, No, you're not a "bumbling idiot". She still has her claws in your psyche.
#27
As far as I know, he wasn't allowed to talk to me for being atheist. He's from a very religious family, but that was never a problem, I lived in the same neighborhood and spent a lot of time at his place, and was fairly close with his religious parents, they were wonderful people. We naturally grew apart during/after college, but would catch up whenever I was in town. He married a born-again (next level religion obsessed), and I even attended their wedding. I saw him a couple times after, but eventually there was no contact at all, and I was also dropped on Facebook. Rumor is she didn't want him around me because I'm not a believer, which makes me a bad influence. I guess being the voice of reason when he tried to start drunken bar fights was problematic.
#28
She couldn’t support me when my ma passed.
#29
I gotta be honest, I don’t know the answer and it’s been haunting me for years. She cut off contact with me back in 2022 and suddenly disappeared off the face of the earth—not just me, literally everyone who knew her in our friend group and even her acquaintances in the city, it’s something we talk about about time to time.
The only reason I’m assured she’s alive and well is because our families still talk, her mom has given a few updates but largely keeps it hush hush too. She’s active on social media and kept all the picture of us tgt, plus her profile picture is still one I took of her many years ago. I don’t understand what happened and it’s messed me up pretty bad, this girl was my whole world and losing her was really hard. I tried getting back in touch but she won’t respond, since I’m extremely non-confrontational I’ve given up. Probably the biggest mystery of my life and I’d do anything to know why.
#30
We used to be inseparable and losing that connection to her is the one thing I've regretted in my life.
We came from very different backgrounds and were in very different situations so I just didn't think she would understand what I was going through. I was dealing with really bad depression that led me to isolate myself from my friendships more and more every time, so I slowly stopped reaching out to her, and the more time passed without talking the harder it was for me to reach out to her again for fear of her being mad at me.
At this point I haven't talked to her in about 5 years, but I heard from an old mutual friend that she had gotten engaged and seemed to be thriving, so I'm really glad for her, I wish her nothing but the best in life even if I can't tell her directly.
#31
We went to different colleges and created new friend groups.
Nothing traumatic, just life.
Ozymandias 11 months ago
My worst nightmare is that all my friends that I have made that are a couple years older than me or so are going to drop me once they go to college. Some of them I'm fine (or even better) letting go, but a couple of them I hold dear to my heart. I have some trauma related to being ignored or left behind and for them just leaving would be catastrophic, but it's a part of life, I guess.
#32
She is still friends with my ab*sive ex.
Tempest 11 months ago
One of my closest friends from uni, who I confided in about my struggles and abuse from my now ex boyfriend and who herself was in an almost identical relationship (which I helped her through), not only remained friends with my ex but even partied with him and went to the extent of telling him, in front of his friends, to stay away from me because I’m not good for him. I heard this from two of his friends who were there when she said that. She and I have had a falling out at that time but we were still civil and I was planning to apologize to everything (ignoring her faults up to then) and patch things up. When I heard this I knew that I never want her back in my life. As far as I know she and my ex are still friends but I’ve gone no contact with both of them.
#33
She openly didn't like my girlfriend (who was nothing but incredibly nice to her) and wasn't nice to her at all. Right after my grandma passed away (within a week), I was supposed to go pick her up from the airport and I told her WE were coming to pick her up and she went off the rails and went off on me. All I needed was my friend and she was pissed off that my girlfriend was going to tag along.
This isn't the first girlfriend that she wasn't nice to, but it was the first one I realized it with.
We're in our 30s now and knew each other since 5th grade. It really is a shame. I do still miss her, but she showed she wasn't a true friend.
#34
She was mad that I had s*x before marriage and guilt-tripped me for it. No, I never told her I adhered to that.
Fast forward to today and she's living in sin with her boyfriend. Hypocrite.
#35
I honestly don't really know. I was supposed to stay at his house and watch his cat while he was away for a week. A couple days before that, I had an epileptic seizure, no big deal to me, they happen, I deal with them. He knew about them, he had even seen a couple happen, so he wasn't at all ignorant about them.
I mentioned in casual conversation that I'd had a seizure, and his response was that I might have another one and somehow burn his house down in the process, and basically blamed me for having epilepsy. That pissed me off, so I told him how he made me feel, and I remained civil about it, but he decided that was the end of our friendship that had been going for more than 20 years. He blocked me, gave no real explanation, and I haven't heard from him since. It was totally an over the top reaction to a simple "dude... that wasn't cool", and also very out of character for him.
#37
Because I get tired sitting on the phone for 2 hours listening to the same exact s**t every single time! Husband did this husband did that. I tired to tell her to move on. They’ve been divorced 3 years and still live together because they can’t sale their house. Bought it 5 years ago for $250k painted the inside and now want $1.5m for it. They’ve had 1 showing in 3 years!! Shut up already!
#38
She announced the death of my other friend (s*icide) on Instagram before his parents had an opportunity to tell anyone.
#39
After I left home, it took me many years to realize that one, we'd grown apart no matter how much we spoke on the phone, and two, it was a one-way relationship where I was doing all the work to keep in contact. All the calling, all the traveling back to my hometown to visit...just everything. I finally decided that if she truly cared, she would've reached out. It hurt to come to that realization, but when it happened, I decided I was finished, and really haven't looked back.
#40
I wish I had such short answers as some people have.
Mine was a slow descend. I was always expected to talk her off the ledge, but I never got any support back. She has substance abuse issues, but always put herself in situations in which she’d be faced with said substances. Then I’d have to talk her down for a week afterward due to her anxiety.
The last straw was a friend camp out. She got hammered, as per usual. She did c*ke and went off the rails. She hyper focused on me, and brought up issues we had in our friendship from 3 years ago, that we had talked extensively about. It turned into her literally yelling at me and not allowing me to talk. I simply looked at her and said im not going to stand here and take this, and walked away.
She followed me around, trying to talk/yell. She accuses me of being “the bad guy.” No clue what she was even saying. I gave her one last warning. I said you don’t want to do this. She told me she was done with me, she’d never talk to me again, and to *go f**k myself*. I walked away. This was around 8pm ish. For the rest of the evening she tried hugging me, she tried holding my hand, she tried putting her head on my shoulder.
I just ignored her, walked away and continued to enjoy my night.
She was so messed up she couldn’t stand straight. Mutual friends put her to bed 4 times. Each time she came back out. I blocked her on all platforms the next morning.
I heard from friends later that she “doesn’t remember what happened.” That she doesn’t know why I’m upset with her.
She even ran into my mom at the store and started to cry, saying she misses me and she regrets going camping?? It’s been a year and a half. I can say my life has been substantially more calm, and I don’t deal with high school theatrics anymore. Oh we’re in our mid 30s.
#41
Despite my best efforts, his life was heading in a direction I wasn’t willing to follow, nor could I prevent the decline. Chose to save myself and get out of the d**g scene which eventually killed him.
Shark Lady 11 months ago
You'll never escape the cycle of getting clean, followed by relapse, if you continue to be in contact with fellow addicts. You have to get out when you hit your rock-bottom because that is when you have the best chance of getting clean.
#42
He just brings politics in every single discussion. At one point it gets so tiring and irritating.
For example last time I asked do you like to go for cycling in the Sunday morning. He was like, the govt is so bad that everything is expensive blah blah. So I stopped contacting him and now we barely meets.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
Yep, I regularly see Joe Biden in my grocery store, putting price stickers on the butter and eggs.
#43
I saved money for years to go on a trip of a lifetime. He couldn’t save anything. I still went. He is still pissed about it 20 years later.
#44
He went full bible thumper and maga cultist.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
One right answer doesn't always lead to another. But a wrong one usually does.
#45
He decided I was a "commie", and my daughter was an abomination that didn't deserve to live.
#46
She got into a poly relationship with a guy and his wife. He was uncomfortable with how much her and I messaged each other so she sent me this long message telling me she was cutting me out of her life completely because, “He would do the same if I asked him to.”.
#47
I got a graduate degree and a new job. She told me I thought I was better than her despite never saying, thinking, or feeling that.
SnackbarKaat 11 months ago
Happened to me too. Also, my SIL laughs with everything about university, saying we feel better or we are arrogant or the uniforms we graduated in are monkey suits...
#49
He's a d**g dealer, and I used to be addicted to d***s.
Sounds like a horrible idea really.
#50
Mike and I used to love debating political s**t, but as I got older, I stopped wanting to do it for a lot of reasons. He discovered that he could win by not being honest. I started by changing the subject, or saying that I don't feel like getting into it tonight, or that we can talk about it later.
He never got the hint, and started calling me drunk late at night hollering about people taking over the country, and the downfall of America, and that I need to agree with him, and it went from putting it off, to just not answering the phone, to asking him to stop calling me.
Sad. I knew the dude for 20 years, I just couldn't keep up the energy he had, I had way bigger fish to fry.
#51
Because she got married and moved and we both changed. No bad blood at all. Just growth in different directions. Took me a few years to get over it.
#52
The pandemic. We would visit our home town at the same time and go out for drinks whenever we could, normally two or three times a year. We'd known each other since the year 2000, and we always picked up where we left off with no issues.
Then I go myself in a s****y pandemic-related situation with someone who used up all my mental energy and kind of consumed my life.
Two years later, while reminiscing, I got drunk enough to text her "is this still ABC's number?".
In the middle of the night, I got a long, gushing, enthusiastic reply, complete with email address because nobody likes giving life updates via text.
I fell asleep that night excited to get up and tell her everything that'd happened in the intervening years. I did. She replied with "proper response coming soon, here's a photo of us when we were like 20!".
That was two years ago. Not a word since. I have no idea what happened.
#53
Had kids still made an effort for her. Didn’t have a car still got my mom to watch the kids here and there so I could take the bus go see her. I couldn’t always go out clubbing like she wanted because I had a family but was open to always being there having her back and making time. We took pics and she never put them up but had pictures of her other friends everywhere.
She said I was too boring for her. So I just ghosted her when weeks later she wanted comfort cause her bf broke up with her. Stopped caring cause it was one sided and I was clearly being used as the emotional support therapist friend and nothing more.
I was sad years ago but now I’m so glad I let go of that friendship.
#54
Let them move into my apartment, didn't pay rent and was an animal ab*ser. Called SPCA and had over 50+ animals removed. They operated a "reptile rescue".
#55
BFF for 30 years now. About the 20 year mark she drafted up an email meant for her sister, about me. ALL bad stuff. She accidentally sent it to me. She was beyond embarrassed and she asked that I delete the email, which i didn't. I personally think she was jealous of me. I was married, with children and she didn't have any of it, which she wanted. we really never talked about it again and we are ok now.
#57
She has an anxious attachment style and I am totally avoidant as much as I loved her it was horrible for both of us.
#58
He stopped being good about hanging out on mutual terms. I always had to come to him. He never even wanted to meet halfway when it worked with his schedule. So we had no face to face tine
Then, he got weird on facebook. Everything was deranged rants about conspiracies and hating Trump. Not run of the mill stuff where somebody is blowing off steam where I could just agree or ignore it like a typical political post, true conspiracy stuff.
So, we had no personal interaction and no online interaction. There wasn't anything to maintain even if I continued to try.
#59
I stopped texting first.
Kkg 11 months ago
It's happening to me right now. I had a friend, she was my maid of honor, we live far from each other, but used to text, visit when I came back home. At some point I realized, I'm the only one texting, calling, visiting. It's been 2 years and she hasn't reached out. Up till recently I still had hope that she will make the effort. Now I gave up.
#60
Stopped reading/answering my messages for MONTHS, more than once, for years.
I don't require constant communication and I've had a lot of patience over this as I know she's going through some s**t but I feel like I can't trust her anymore, what friendship it is if you can't even hold a conversation?
#61
We were friends
We decided we wanted more.
He decided out of the blue after we just started to fall in love he just wanted to be friends.
He was my Best friend. I was devastated
I needed sometime to process that.
He said let’s take a few days.
We went no contact. I thought it would be like 2/3 days he ghosted me for half a year. Then popped up in my life and our friends lives like nothing had happened.
We made plans to have a chat on a Friday.
I never heard from him again.
I don’t ever think I’ll ever find a friend like that who made me feel so comfortable in my own skin ever again.
I still am in disbelief that I lost my love and my bff in one breath.
#62
I texted asking him to not tell me my deceased mom can hear me sing, she's watching me, etc anymore cause I'm not religious and when his family was doing it in person I didn't like it. He texts me sure but the next time we hangout he gets crazy drunk like always and starts screaming that he'll say whatever he wants cause that's what he believes.
Ozymandias 11 months ago
Yeah, if he doesn't respect your personal beliefs, even if they're with good intentions, that's a pretty big red flag
#63
Because we had a more-than-friends relationship but when she entered an actual relationship, she didn't want her feelings for me to seep and ruin her relationship with her actual partner. I don't know if that's a normal thing. All I know is that it was the most emotionally devastating pain I've ever felt and I honestly don't know if I will ever fully get over it.
#64
She moved to another city and had a new life. New friends, new boyfriend. I noticed she stopped messaging me or taking a long long time to reply to my messages. I tried to reach out but received this kind of cold detachment every single time. It broke my heart. So I also stopped reaching out.
#65
She did something illegal so I ended the friendship, because I couldn’t deal with it emotionally.
What do you think ?
Diolla 11 months ago
When I was a student me and my BFF did almost everything together. Study, eat, go out, etc.. Then she got into an abusive relationship. BOTH sides, they fought a lot (physically as well), would break up, reconcile, etc.. Lots of drama, I even hid her from him sometimes. I am very level headed and hate violence, did not like her BF AT ALL and she knew it. But hey, her choice, if this is her choice, so be it. Eventually they broke up and she kept harassing and teasing him. One night she went too far. I kept telling her to stop it but no. He attacked her and started beating her up. I intervened, he was about 50 cm taller than she was, so not a fair fight. Then he turned on me and started beating ME up. She did not get hurt, I did. She just stood there. OK, maybe shock. In the next few days I did not hear from her. Eventually went to see her. And she said: 'why did he beat YOU up, are you together behind my back?' Ended our friendship right then and there.
V 11 months ago
I got sick of the pain Olympics. Both our kids were going through health issues, admittedly her kids problems were more severe than our kids, but after being a shoulder to cry on for her for months while her kid was getting all the diagnoses and treatment plans sorted just a little bit of solidarity would have been nice. But everytime I mentioned our kids health problems I just got met with something like "they'll be fine" or "there's nothing wrong with your kid" or "but my kid has that but worse".
Gina Price 11 months ago
Nothing wrong with needing some support in return. It should be a two way street, but seldom seems to be that way.
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Beak Hookage 11 months ago
I don't know if we were "best" friends but I cut him off because he kept trying to get into my pants despite being repeatedly told no.
Susical 11 months ago
Omg, I know right! As a straight/cis woman, I've almost given up on friendships with straight men because of this. It's flattering to be asked once. ONCE. Then dude, respect boundaries.
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Clare Moore 11 months ago
Kinda similar for me but in reverse. My bestie split with her abusive ex, I helped her escape, stuck with her through it all. Stopped her committing suicide. Did everything but wipe her a**e for her and her son who was 15 at the time. Got her back out and living her life again. Fast forward a few years and it's my 50th birthday party. She wouldn't come because she had a coil fitted 3 days prior, and it would take her 8 weeks to recover. I was sick of her bull poop excuses. For the entirety of 2024 she had said no whenever I tried to arrange stuff. I work, she does not. We both have a chronic pain condition. She barely gets out of bed each day, takes codeine from her mum, and just wallows in self pity telling the world how hard it is for her. I called her out. She blocked me. Lost my dad last week. She knew him. Saw my daughters post on FB and then blocked her too. 20 years of friendship. I'm done lol. There's more incidents that are much worse and sinister. Maybe I'll post one day.
Susical 11 months ago
Clare, I'm sorry about your friend. And I'm really sorry about your dad. Take care of yourself.
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Leah Woodard 11 months ago (edited)
He messaged me, saying he had a gun and was going to kill himself. I spent hours talking to him and trying to find his wife/kids and calling the cops for a wellness check, when he stopped responding (they weren't there). 14 hours later, he contacted me. They were on vacation, he was drunk and had a fight with his wife. He said he contacted me because he knew my husband had committed suicide and thought I'd understand. He insisted it wasn't real and refused to talk about it, at all. His wife told me he used the threat against her EVERY TIME THEY FOUGHT. I could never decide if it was abuse or sincere, but it was too much to ask.
Ozymandias 11 months ago
My "friend" punched me in the nose when I told her she couldn't copy my homework anymore (this was in the 3rd grade, but we were friends since preschool)
Michael Largey 11 months ago
As actor David Niven said of his pal Errol Flynn, "As a friend, Errol was absolutely reliable. He would always let you down."
GalPalAl 11 months ago
Learned the hard way many times over that people don't think of friendship the way I do. Hard to find true friends. Have let go of many dysfunctional people after realizing I was being used, abused and lied to. Don't look back and don't keep s****y friends around even for payback.
Carl Roberts 11 months ago (edited)
Best friend of 30 years. A few years ago, I asked to use his phone (needed to call my wife, and I had no signal). He forgot to clear his screen before handing me his phone. He was looking at explicit nude pictures of children . I tossed his phone in a port-a potty (we were at a park) and never spoke to him again. I found out he recently got diagnosed with cancer. Good, f*** him.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
Might have been better to take that phone to the cops, but I think we all understand your immediate reaction.
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Littlemiss 11 months ago
Had a person who I thought was a friend. She fell on hard times, turned out it was all a lie and she was actually just scamming people for money. She asked for loans, we said we'd help her because we're we able to at that time. $3,500 later it was never enough. Discovered was making up huge lies to get more money from anyone she could scam. We were on the bones of butt struggling by then, she destroyed her own life and has moved onto new targets.
Guess Undheit 11 months ago
I kicked someone to the curb for being a performative feminist. She spewed maxims like "believe women" and "hold your friends accountable". Then I see multiple pictures of her standing next to known sexual predators and rapists, playing besties with them. She prioritized her social life over opposing sexual assault. She's allegedly a woman, I'm a man, and she had lower standards than I do.
CBolt 11 months ago
Gender has nothing to do with standards - you're just a better person than she is.
Load More Replies... Gina Price 11 months ago
A lot of red flags over the 10+ years that we were very good friends, the last straw was when I told her that my son was trans and about to get a double mastectomy. She called me stupid. She said it was idiotic. My son has never been more confident in his whole life once he had the surgery to remove the boulders he inherited from our family and my own anxiety melted away with his as did the one sided friendship with her. Sorry for the run-on. I'm still hurt and angry about it.
Gina Price 11 months ago
She lives across the street, but it's been two years since we've spoken. Just cannot anymore.
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Lyoness 11 months ago
BFF of 15 years whom I supported through everything from marriage problems to severe illness to issues with her kids said I was "too negative" when I talked about struggling at home and asked for her help after emergency surgery. She said she "didn't have the luxury of giving in" to her (never diagnosed or treated) depression like I did and said that if I wasn't going to take her advice there was no point in her listening to all my "problems". I just couldn't take it any more.
CBolt 11 months ago
Huh, you weren't all jolly & cheerful after having emergency surgery? Good for you for letting go of such a negative, uncaring person.
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JennaOrtegaObsession 11 months ago
Some of these are almost worse than my best friend or twelve years trying to stab me after I came out as ace. Turns out she wanted to f**k me. Figures.
JB 11 months ago (edited)
17-yr friendship, I even lived with her for 1 1/2 years after both our relationships broke. I was treated like one of the family by the whole family, went to all the family gatherings. About 2-3 years ago, she joined a “create personal wealth” organization; several months later, talked me into going to the introductory session. 3 days, 7am - 9pm, for the ‘cheap’ cost of $500; it was exactly what I expected it to be. After, I pointed out all the similarities between their techniques and known brainwashing methods used by cults. She wasn’t happy but didn’t cut me off immediately. That took months of her new found best friends saying “JB is wonderful! It’s just a shame she doesn’t support you on your path to success.” Calls tapered off, I stopped being invited to the parties. I tried to keep communication going but by the end of ‘22, every time I called she was “delighted to hear from [me] but really busy right now” she’d say she’ll call me back but never did. Last time I called was Jan ‘24, same response. I know exactly how that “wealth organization” is generating wealth. It’s from vulnerable people like her, desperate to stop living paycheck to paycheck. They borrow $1,000s to attend “training sessions”; but, hey, this time next year, the mortgage will be paid off!
Dre Mosley 11 months ago (edited)
Nothing dramatic, our lives just went in totally different directions and we grew apart, that's about it. I don't even know where they are now or what they're doing. I don't even think we live in the same state anymore.
Dog Mom to Zoe 11 months ago
1). She said I was going to hell for not asking for forgiveness. 2). When I bought my home, I reevaluated my relationships to see who I would send change of address to. I sent him a letter letting him know that the relationship was one sided and it was time to move on. Never heard from him again.
Jackie Walters 11 months ago
A 30 year friendship was ended because I interrupted her. But she waited four months to tell me on my birthday.
John Hamilton 4 weeks ago
Best Friend in High School. I joined the military and would still come home on leave to hang out with him. My mom was being weird about me leaving my truck at her house while I went on a six month deployment. Friend said he would keep it at his parents house (he lived with them at the time). Told him not to drive it because I was letting the insurance run out, no sense paying for insurance if it's being stored. 2 months into my deployment find out he drove my truck, got pulled over and since it wasn't insured and wasn't registered in his name, police were going to impound it. Luckily my mom came to her senses talk to the police and prevented my truck from being impounded. Oh and on top of that while on the same deployment knew my girlfriend was cheating on me and didn't tell me. When I asked why his response was "well I was dealing with losing my girlfriend" mind you said girlfriend broke up with him before I left months ago and he was still whining over it. done after that
Dana Lovstrom 10 months ago
During the pandemic, I made some friends online that I used to play Dungeons and Dragons with. We got close super fast and one of them even invited us all to their wedding. We met up a few times, and even went on vacation together, as we all lived within 5 hours of someone. Fast forward to a few months before the wedding. I have, at this point, been kicked out of the game. I understood the reason, but no one ever tried to talk to me after I left the table. I found out they had been on several trips together that no one had even invited me to, and that I was the only person in our group that was not in the bridal party of the wedding. I only went to the wedding because my hotel room was non-refundable. Afterwards, I unfriended them everywhere. I found out later that they didn't understand why I had unfriended them like that. Hearing that told me I made the right call.
Malamutes 10 months ago
Dumb s**t tried to kill me. "Steve" and I had been friends for years. Shared many of the same interests. One thing we didn't share was his love of guns. I HATE guns. But thats cool, we don't have to agree on everything. Steve lived in a converted room in his grandparents garage, and slept with a Glock 9 (extended clip, hollow points) hanging off a nail in the wall by his bed. So, I swing by one night to see if he wants to go shoot some pool or grab a cup of coffee. Knock. No answer. Knock again, and call out his name. Still nothing. So I do WHAT HE HAS ALWAYS TOLD ME TO DO, and open the door to go in and wake him. And opening the door was apparently what it took to wake him. Because he grabbed his gun off the nail, and fired off 3 quick rounds in my direction. And how he missed, I'll never know. Anyway, I ate the floor so fast there's probably still a hole in the concrete. Once Rambo settled down, I stood up, said "we're done", and walked out. Been over thirty years,
Gracie Mae 11 months ago
found out how really racist they were when i married someone of a different ethnicity--but they'd never even met him, only 'heard' what he looked like...15 yrs later & we kind of mended our relationship. They apologized after seeing a pic of him & admitting that they could see he was latin, not African American... it's not the same, and i still feel like there's a bit of them still thinking we're not in the same class; I'm not good enough, or rich enough. c'est la vie
Ruth Watry 11 months ago
I had one friend who was always complaining about her husband. Basically all of the issues that she had was due to his inability to read her mind. When I said that she needs to actually tell him what was going on she got pissed at me. I could not handle all of her negativity and chose to stop contacting her. Turned out that I had been the only one reaching out. Also, had another friend full of negativity (we were also different sides of the political spectrum - this is in the late 90s). All that she would talk about was how everybody had it in for her. She was a teacher and had problems with the principal and fellow teachers - they moved her to a new school - same thing happened - the same with move #3. Similar issues with family and neighbors. Her negativity, and her blaming everybody else became too much and I ghosted her (could not face the ugly confrontation of letting her know that we were no longer friends - I was a people pleaser at the time).
Lene 11 months ago
In 2024 I gave up on a friend I've had for 25 years. I realised that she did not (and had not for over a decade) seen me as an equal adult. She's told me I am lazy, that I sould just get a job, that my house is always a mess etc. But when I told her I had been tested for giftedness and autism and is currently on a waiting list to be tested for adhd she told me "you're weird but not THAT weird" and "it's hard for all mothers to thrive" and "it's just pop-diagnosises". Even after ignoring her for a year, when I got in contact with her again she was more interested in what new diagnosis I was into or if I had found a job than to hear if I was happy and my kids were doing fine. So yeah, she's not for me so I will not be in touch with her anymore.
zerofoxgiven 11 months ago (edited)
Cut off contact with my best friend of 15 years last year. We were best friends since he was 13 and I was 14. He basically lived with my family after his grandparents threw him out for coming out (mother lives in Germany). He never had any money, so we financially helped him survive until he could work. As an adult, he still spent most of his time at our place, since his roommate was an idiot and his work was like 10 minutes from our place. When he came out as trans (age 23) I supported him without any judgement, emotionally, and even financially. He let me chose his name, that's how much he trusted me. Then he had to move to Germany due to a new Hungarian law that made being transgender basically impossible. I still supported him and a few times a year I traveled 7+ hours by train just to see him. He slowly exchanged me to new friends, who he didn't know anything about, but they were cooler and more queer than me.
zerofoxgiven 11 months ago (edited)
I'm cis and asexual but I guess that's not flashy enough for him, that's what he said during one of our fights, since I'm not the kind of queer who will march around the city waving a rainbow flag. Even after all the support and unconditional love I gave him, he told me I was transphobic. I don't even know where that came from. Never said or did anything offensive, and I have other trans and queer friends who don't understand his point either. So after having fights basically every week for a year, I cut him off, not returning his messages. Even our shared friends did the same to him. I'm still close to his mother and step dad and his sister, but we just don't talk about him when we meet. It took me over a year to not have crippling anxiety and imagine my other friends turning against me like that. Still in the healing phase 1,5 years later.
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Papa 11 months ago
B******t. I have been friends with four people, each for 40 years or longer.
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Diolla 11 months ago
When I was a student me and my BFF did almost everything together. Study, eat, go out, etc.. Then she got into an abusive relationship. BOTH sides, they fought a lot (physically as well), would break up, reconcile, etc.. Lots of drama, I even hid her from him sometimes. I am very level headed and hate violence, did not like her BF AT ALL and she knew it. But hey, her choice, if this is her choice, so be it. Eventually they broke up and she kept harassing and teasing him. One night she went too far. I kept telling her to stop it but no. He attacked her and started beating her up. I intervened, he was about 50 cm taller than she was, so not a fair fight. Then he turned on me and started beating ME up. She did not get hurt, I did. She just stood there. OK, maybe shock. In the next few days I did not hear from her. Eventually went to see her. And she said: 'why did he beat YOU up, are you together behind my back?' Ended our friendship right then and there.
V 11 months ago
I got sick of the pain Olympics. Both our kids were going through health issues, admittedly her kids problems were more severe than our kids, but after being a shoulder to cry on for her for months while her kid was getting all the diagnoses and treatment plans sorted just a little bit of solidarity would have been nice. But everytime I mentioned our kids health problems I just got met with something like "they'll be fine" or "there's nothing wrong with your kid" or "but my kid has that but worse".
Gina Price 11 months ago
Nothing wrong with needing some support in return. It should be a two way street, but seldom seems to be that way.
Load More Replies... Beak Hookage 11 months ago
I don't know if we were "best" friends but I cut him off because he kept trying to get into my pants despite being repeatedly told no.
Susical 11 months ago
Omg, I know right! As a straight/cis woman, I've almost given up on friendships with straight men because of this. It's flattering to be asked once. ONCE. Then dude, respect boundaries.
Load More Replies... Clare Moore 11 months ago
Kinda similar for me but in reverse. My bestie split with her abusive ex, I helped her escape, stuck with her through it all. Stopped her committing suicide. Did everything but wipe her a**e for her and her son who was 15 at the time. Got her back out and living her life again. Fast forward a few years and it's my 50th birthday party. She wouldn't come because she had a coil fitted 3 days prior, and it would take her 8 weeks to recover. I was sick of her bull poop excuses. For the entirety of 2024 she had said no whenever I tried to arrange stuff. I work, she does not. We both have a chronic pain condition. She barely gets out of bed each day, takes codeine from her mum, and just wallows in self pity telling the world how hard it is for her. I called her out. She blocked me. Lost my dad last week. She knew him. Saw my daughters post on FB and then blocked her too. 20 years of friendship. I'm done lol. There's more incidents that are much worse and sinister. Maybe I'll post one day.
Susical 11 months ago
Clare, I'm sorry about your friend. And I'm really sorry about your dad. Take care of yourself.
Load More Replies... Leah Woodard 11 months ago (edited)
He messaged me, saying he had a gun and was going to kill himself. I spent hours talking to him and trying to find his wife/kids and calling the cops for a wellness check, when he stopped responding (they weren't there). 14 hours later, he contacted me. They were on vacation, he was drunk and had a fight with his wife. He said he contacted me because he knew my husband had committed suicide and thought I'd understand. He insisted it wasn't real and refused to talk about it, at all. His wife told me he used the threat against her EVERY TIME THEY FOUGHT. I could never decide if it was abuse or sincere, but it was too much to ask.
Ozymandias 11 months ago
My "friend" punched me in the nose when I told her she couldn't copy my homework anymore (this was in the 3rd grade, but we were friends since preschool)
Michael Largey 11 months ago
As actor David Niven said of his pal Errol Flynn, "As a friend, Errol was absolutely reliable. He would always let you down."
GalPalAl 11 months ago
Learned the hard way many times over that people don't think of friendship the way I do. Hard to find true friends. Have let go of many dysfunctional people after realizing I was being used, abused and lied to. Don't look back and don't keep s****y friends around even for payback.
Carl Roberts 11 months ago (edited)
Best friend of 30 years. A few years ago, I asked to use his phone (needed to call my wife, and I had no signal). He forgot to clear his screen before handing me his phone. He was looking at explicit nude pictures of children . I tossed his phone in a port-a potty (we were at a park) and never spoke to him again. I found out he recently got diagnosed with cancer. Good, f*** him.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
Might have been better to take that phone to the cops, but I think we all understand your immediate reaction.
Load More Replies... Littlemiss 11 months ago
Had a person who I thought was a friend. She fell on hard times, turned out it was all a lie and she was actually just scamming people for money. She asked for loans, we said we'd help her because we're we able to at that time. $3,500 later it was never enough. Discovered was making up huge lies to get more money from anyone she could scam. We were on the bones of butt struggling by then, she destroyed her own life and has moved onto new targets.
Guess Undheit 11 months ago
I kicked someone to the curb for being a performative feminist. She spewed maxims like "believe women" and "hold your friends accountable". Then I see multiple pictures of her standing next to known sexual predators and rapists, playing besties with them. She prioritized her social life over opposing sexual assault. She's allegedly a woman, I'm a man, and she had lower standards than I do.
CBolt 11 months ago
Gender has nothing to do with standards - you're just a better person than she is.
Load More Replies... Gina Price 11 months ago
A lot of red flags over the 10+ years that we were very good friends, the last straw was when I told her that my son was trans and about to get a double mastectomy. She called me stupid. She said it was idiotic. My son has never been more confident in his whole life once he had the surgery to remove the boulders he inherited from our family and my own anxiety melted away with his as did the one sided friendship with her. Sorry for the run-on. I'm still hurt and angry about it.
Gina Price 11 months ago
She lives across the street, but it's been two years since we've spoken. Just cannot anymore.
Load More Replies... Lyoness 11 months ago
BFF of 15 years whom I supported through everything from marriage problems to severe illness to issues with her kids said I was "too negative" when I talked about struggling at home and asked for her help after emergency surgery. She said she "didn't have the luxury of giving in" to her (never diagnosed or treated) depression like I did and said that if I wasn't going to take her advice there was no point in her listening to all my "problems". I just couldn't take it any more.
CBolt 11 months ago
Huh, you weren't all jolly & cheerful after having emergency surgery? Good for you for letting go of such a negative, uncaring person.
Load More Replies... JennaOrtegaObsession 11 months ago
Some of these are almost worse than my best friend or twelve years trying to stab me after I came out as ace. Turns out she wanted to f**k me. Figures.
JB 11 months ago (edited)
17-yr friendship, I even lived with her for 1 1/2 years after both our relationships broke. I was treated like one of the family by the whole family, went to all the family gatherings. About 2-3 years ago, she joined a “create personal wealth” organization; several months later, talked me into going to the introductory session. 3 days, 7am - 9pm, for the ‘cheap’ cost of $500; it was exactly what I expected it to be. After, I pointed out all the similarities between their techniques and known brainwashing methods used by cults. She wasn’t happy but didn’t cut me off immediately. That took months of her new found best friends saying “JB is wonderful! It’s just a shame she doesn’t support you on your path to success.” Calls tapered off, I stopped being invited to the parties. I tried to keep communication going but by the end of ‘22, every time I called she was “delighted to hear from [me] but really busy right now” she’d say she’ll call me back but never did. Last time I called was Jan ‘24, same response. I know exactly how that “wealth organization” is generating wealth. It’s from vulnerable people like her, desperate to stop living paycheck to paycheck. They borrow $1,000s to attend “training sessions”; but, hey, this time next year, the mortgage will be paid off!
Dre Mosley 11 months ago (edited)
Nothing dramatic, our lives just went in totally different directions and we grew apart, that's about it. I don't even know where they are now or what they're doing. I don't even think we live in the same state anymore.
Dog Mom to Zoe 11 months ago
1). She said I was going to hell for not asking for forgiveness. 2). When I bought my home, I reevaluated my relationships to see who I would send change of address to. I sent him a letter letting him know that the relationship was one sided and it was time to move on. Never heard from him again.
Jackie Walters 11 months ago
A 30 year friendship was ended because I interrupted her. But she waited four months to tell me on my birthday.
John Hamilton 4 weeks ago
Best Friend in High School. I joined the military and would still come home on leave to hang out with him. My mom was being weird about me leaving my truck at her house while I went on a six month deployment. Friend said he would keep it at his parents house (he lived with them at the time). Told him not to drive it because I was letting the insurance run out, no sense paying for insurance if it's being stored. 2 months into my deployment find out he drove my truck, got pulled over and since it wasn't insured and wasn't registered in his name, police were going to impound it. Luckily my mom came to her senses talk to the police and prevented my truck from being impounded. Oh and on top of that while on the same deployment knew my girlfriend was cheating on me and didn't tell me. When I asked why his response was "well I was dealing with losing my girlfriend" mind you said girlfriend broke up with him before I left months ago and he was still whining over it. done after that
Dana Lovstrom 10 months ago
During the pandemic, I made some friends online that I used to play Dungeons and Dragons with. We got close super fast and one of them even invited us all to their wedding. We met up a few times, and even went on vacation together, as we all lived within 5 hours of someone. Fast forward to a few months before the wedding. I have, at this point, been kicked out of the game. I understood the reason, but no one ever tried to talk to me after I left the table. I found out they had been on several trips together that no one had even invited me to, and that I was the only person in our group that was not in the bridal party of the wedding. I only went to the wedding because my hotel room was non-refundable. Afterwards, I unfriended them everywhere. I found out later that they didn't understand why I had unfriended them like that. Hearing that told me I made the right call.
Malamutes 10 months ago
Dumb s**t tried to kill me. "Steve" and I had been friends for years. Shared many of the same interests. One thing we didn't share was his love of guns. I HATE guns. But thats cool, we don't have to agree on everything. Steve lived in a converted room in his grandparents garage, and slept with a Glock 9 (extended clip, hollow points) hanging off a nail in the wall by his bed. So, I swing by one night to see if he wants to go shoot some pool or grab a cup of coffee. Knock. No answer. Knock again, and call out his name. Still nothing. So I do WHAT HE HAS ALWAYS TOLD ME TO DO, and open the door to go in and wake him. And opening the door was apparently what it took to wake him. Because he grabbed his gun off the nail, and fired off 3 quick rounds in my direction. And how he missed, I'll never know. Anyway, I ate the floor so fast there's probably still a hole in the concrete. Once Rambo settled down, I stood up, said "we're done", and walked out. Been over thirty years,
Gracie Mae 11 months ago
found out how really racist they were when i married someone of a different ethnicity--but they'd never even met him, only 'heard' what he looked like...15 yrs later & we kind of mended our relationship. They apologized after seeing a pic of him & admitting that they could see he was latin, not African American... it's not the same, and i still feel like there's a bit of them still thinking we're not in the same class; I'm not good enough, or rich enough. c'est la vie
Ruth Watry 11 months ago
I had one friend who was always complaining about her husband. Basically all of the issues that she had was due to his inability to read her mind. When I said that she needs to actually tell him what was going on she got pissed at me. I could not handle all of her negativity and chose to stop contacting her. Turned out that I had been the only one reaching out. Also, had another friend full of negativity (we were also different sides of the political spectrum - this is in the late 90s). All that she would talk about was how everybody had it in for her. She was a teacher and had problems with the principal and fellow teachers - they moved her to a new school - same thing happened - the same with move #3. Similar issues with family and neighbors. Her negativity, and her blaming everybody else became too much and I ghosted her (could not face the ugly confrontation of letting her know that we were no longer friends - I was a people pleaser at the time).
Lene 11 months ago
In 2024 I gave up on a friend I've had for 25 years. I realised that she did not (and had not for over a decade) seen me as an equal adult. She's told me I am lazy, that I sould just get a job, that my house is always a mess etc. But when I told her I had been tested for giftedness and autism and is currently on a waiting list to be tested for adhd she told me "you're weird but not THAT weird" and "it's hard for all mothers to thrive" and "it's just pop-diagnosises". Even after ignoring her for a year, when I got in contact with her again she was more interested in what new diagnosis I was into or if I had found a job than to hear if I was happy and my kids were doing fine. So yeah, she's not for me so I will not be in touch with her anymore.
zerofoxgiven 11 months ago (edited)
Cut off contact with my best friend of 15 years last year. We were best friends since he was 13 and I was 14. He basically lived with my family after his grandparents threw him out for coming out (mother lives in Germany). He never had any money, so we financially helped him survive until he could work. As an adult, he still spent most of his time at our place, since his roommate was an idiot and his work was like 10 minutes from our place. When he came out as trans (age 23) I supported him without any judgement, emotionally, and even financially. He let me chose his name, that's how much he trusted me. Then he had to move to Germany due to a new Hungarian law that made being transgender basically impossible. I still supported him and a few times a year I traveled 7+ hours by train just to see him. He slowly exchanged me to new friends, who he didn't know anything about, but they were cooler and more queer than me.
zerofoxgiven 11 months ago (edited)
I'm cis and asexual but I guess that's not flashy enough for him, that's what he said during one of our fights, since I'm not the kind of queer who will march around the city waving a rainbow flag. Even after all the support and unconditional love I gave him, he told me I was transphobic. I don't even know where that came from. Never said or did anything offensive, and I have other trans and queer friends who don't understand his point either. So after having fights basically every week for a year, I cut him off, not returning his messages. Even our shared friends did the same to him. I'm still close to his mother and step dad and his sister, but we just don't talk about him when we meet. It took me over a year to not have crippling anxiety and imagine my other friends turning against me like that. Still in the healing phase 1,5 years later.
Load More Replies... Papa 11 months ago
B******t. I have been friends with four people, each for 40 years or longer.
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