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Life is too complex for smooth sailing. We all struggle with something. But turning a blind eye to our problems won't solve them.
Of course, that's easier said than done. So in an attempt to find out what issues people are running away from the most, Redditor u/Letmediebro made a post on the platform, asking other users: "What is a hard pill to swallow for most people?" And many replied!
From romantic relationships and parenting to mental health and self-image, the answers touched upon plenty of different topics. Here are the ones that got the most upvotes.
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Something Different 3 years ago
LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK! (probably dealing with a bratty kid)
Clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst Mary Lamia, Ph.D., thinks that the notion that one is “in denial” seems to have taken on a life of its own as an agent of many ills and as a catchphrase for people who dismiss the implications of their behavior.
"Although denial is considered to be a defense often used by people with addictive tendencies, its attributions reach beyond those struggling with substances," Lamia pointed out. "Denial is also attributed to people who do not want to acknowledge that bad stuff is occurring in their lives, such as those who are attempting to cope with a tumultuous relationship, a life-threatening illness, obesity, a loss, or anything else that one may attempt to disavow."
Sure, we can deny a fact, deny responsibility, deny the impact of our actions, or even deny what is really going on by hiding from our feelings. But according to Lamia, when we use denial to defend ourselves or cope with what we feel, we contradict the reality of a situation or attempt to adjust to a circumstance by neglecting its impact. However, the extent of someone’s denial may not really be the issue at hand.
"What’s important is not that people recognize their denial, but that they are able to accept what they are feeling that leads to the denial in the first place," Lamia explained. "If someone excessively and habitually uses alcohol to medicate their anxiety, for example, we might emphasize their attempts to dismiss the harm that their use of alcohol will cause, rather than focus on the emotions they feel that motivate their denial. If that person stops drinking, one would hope the emotions that were formerly hidden by denial, which often have to do with shame, would be exposed and accepted by the individual."
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ThatOneWriter 3 years ago
Please read this then read it again and then read it AGAIN if it still doesn't sink in.
We not only use denial to hide from any negative emotion, including shame, fear, guilt, or distress but to mute positive emotions as well. "Sometimes feeling positively may be just as threatening as negative feelings. We may want to deny the reality of our emotions, because accepting a reality that is uncomfortable, painful, or incongruous to what we expect means we must also alter our perception of ourselves. Thus, if you are in denial, perhaps you are simply trying to ignore the truth about what you actually feel, rather than about what you are doing or thinking."
But if you want to move forward, you have to swallow the truth.
#9
ThatOneWriter 3 years ago
Say it louder! And bisexual women do NOT want to have a threesome with their girlfriend and you!!! 🤬🤬🤬
#10
Red 3 years ago (edited)
Yes! This should be higher. Religions are an organized set of rules supposedly written by a otherworldly, incorporeal divinity. Stop and think about that for a second. Completely bonkers. It's a club, you go, you follow the rules, you pay the monthly fee, you mingle. If you break the rules you're either shunned away or you can pay an extra and all your sins are forgiven. Really. Bonkers.
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
There is a difference between religion and a Church though. It is usually the church (ie the particular people in the congregation/community) that sets the 'rules'. Religion is about belief and thought. And one person's religion should not impact on another's (or their non-belief).
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Tove Hansen 3 years ago
And being a christian, or any kind of religious, doesn't automatically make you a good person
MimSorensson 2 years ago
History actually kind of indicates the opposite, really.
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Olga Dremina 3 years ago
This! Also, all religions seems to be cute from a distance. When in power, they always oppress people. Always.
The Veil of Fire 2 years ago
To believe in religion (especially Christianity) one has to also have to believe in magics, psychics, ghosts, aliens, etc.
Surfing Panda 2 years ago
Religious people: We are special because God made us in his image. There is no other life out there. We are unique, besides you have no tangible proof of extra terrestrial life.... Non religious people: Do you have tangible proof of God?
Charlie Taube 3 years ago
communism and fascism could be considered religions (Hitler and Stalin acted oddly similar to evangelists), so could the social justice movement, It is not that religion itself is bad it’s religious extremism that is bad.
bob bruce 3 years ago
There's also a possibility that I could win Powerball 5 times in a row even if I don't buy a single ticket. The difference is that my chances are better.
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Tamara Arden 3 years ago
Literally manmade because most religions are about men having power over women and preventing women from having any power. The only religion with a female as its' head is the Church of England and that's only because she inherited the throne.
MimSorensson 2 years ago
Since you used the words “shoved down everybody’s throat”, I sure hope you’re not religious. That would make what you just said not only one hundred percent incorrect on every conceivable level, but also so massively, impossibly ironic that it’ll smash through all physical reality and start to gather actual mass.
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Frankenfrog 3 years ago
No, it's a state of mind that's seeped into reality to opress weakminded people, hell, people in general
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AshaTheCatLady26 3 years ago
It's not about what religion you ascribe to, it's about the ignorance toward others who are not the same religion or have no religion at all. For example: certain sects of Christianity telling people that, unless they are baptized and believe Jesus is the Saviour, they are automatically going to hell. Those people are not only judging (1 of the 10 commandments, I believe, states clearly that there is no other judge but God), but they are essentially stating that everyone who didn't believe the same thing will end up in hell, regardless of what kind of person they were in life... That's A LOT of people to damn. The are so many religions in the world, yet people are taught to believe theirs is the one different only true religion? How can 1 possibly know what happens after death? Religion was created to explain things people didn't understand (ie natural events/disasters) & as a means of social control. Why else would Christianity have used pagan holidays & co-opt them as their own?
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Sky Render 3 years ago
You are free to believe as you wish. That doesn't mean you're right, nor does it mean you're wrong. It simply means you believe. Often belief is less about the content of that belief and more about what believing it does for you in return. To that end, it doesn't really matter if any belief is "right" or "wrong", just that it serves a purpose (and hopefully does no harm in the process).
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Olga Dremina 3 years ago
Karma is a sh!tty concept. It leads to thinking if something bad happens to person, they somehow deserved it.
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Red 3 years ago
This is so important. Family members are often bullies you're conditioned to love and respect. If someone makes you feel bad they aren't doing so out of love, so why keep them around? Blood may be thicker than water and so much harder to clean up, but it isn't impossible and, I say it from experience, once you get some distance, they'll go on full surprised Pikachu mode and be twice as vicious about you. Maybe just my relatives.
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Terry Tobias 3 years ago
This needs to be higher! So many people think that they can control others or that others can control them. How many times have we said things like "that person made me feel..."? No one can make someone else feel or think anything. We need to learn to take responsibility for our own reactions and responses to others, and to realize that although we may influence others, we can't control them either.
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Erica Mazurek-Bowshier 3 years ago
Sadly. Since my fiance of 14 years died in November 18, I feel like I'm standing still and the world is spinning too fast. Only our close friends and family cares, but it seems to you like the world should stand still for your immense, unbearable pain. And it is unbearable
#33
Gerard Neaux 3 years ago
Unless the situation just maimed you, in which case you working harder won't fix it.
#35
ThatOneWriter 3 years ago
And moving on doesn't always mean "forgetting about". Sometimes it just means accepting that it happened and refusing to let it guide your choices.
#36
Firstname Lastname 3 years ago
Wearing a mask *correctly* is. It amazes me, the amount of people who think they wear them just to keep their chin warm. Not like germs could maybe possibly get through those holes in your face you call your mouth and nostrils.
#39
Lucifer 3 years ago (edited)
That "karma" has to deal instant result is a western attitude. If you actually read through what Hinduism (where the word originates) suggests, karma always catches up. Be it this life, next life or 10 lifes after that you will always get what you sowed. Every thought+action (karma) eventually has consequences. Doesn't necessarily have to be on our perceived schedule.
#40
Erica Mazurek-Bowshier 3 years ago
Yes. I've left many. I'm not anyone's personal barbie doll. Leaving can be VERY freeing
#41
Josy Bannon 3 years ago (edited)
I agree!! A good advice from a friend, in order to build this, if your are unsure of yourself, just act the way you want it to be between the two of you. Like practice instead of thinking and planning and wondering and waiting.
#42
AshaTheCatLady26 3 years ago
And as you grow older, the list becomes smaller and smaller and smaller...
#45
Thorfin Wolfsbane 3 years ago
Really!? I’ve NEVER seen that before…someone. wrong. On internet. I don’t believe it.
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XSpooky_Mint 3 years ago
The only difference between a cult and a religion is time, why else do you think it takes so long for them to be considered a religion?
#52
Olga Dremina 3 years ago
We all have. Men suppress "weak" emotions like sadness, and woman suppress "loud" emotions like anger. Both is wrong and unhealthy.
#56
Šimon Špaček 3 years ago
I know, for some reason I'm not the firefighting rockstar I wanted to be...
#57
Candy corn 3 years ago
Society is a cage that the world willingly puts itself in in order to have some structure
#60
Gerard Neaux 3 years ago
Soul mates don't exist but there is compatibility, and you're not always compatible with people you're attracted to. Think carefully if the work needed to make it work is actually worth it.
#61
just another drone 3 years ago
But you should read to them from birth every single day and they will turn out ahead of the pack if you instill curiosity and a love for knowledge. And that's the job of YOU, the parent, not the teachers.
#65
Two thousand seven 3 years ago
Sadly if you're realistic this is true. But some people would rather be happy than be just rich. Because, sometimes doing what you've always wanted to do with your life will mean more than millions of bucks ever could.
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Трыш Кэлли 3 years ago
That the universe is indifferent and that any individual deserves better than what's happened to them are not mutually exclusive. Horrible atrocities occur every day; the people suffering them absolutely deserve better. Unfortunately 'deserve' has nothing to do with it.
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Olga Dremina 3 years ago
That's what i always think about. Write an answer. Edit. Edit. Edit. Delete, start from the beginning. Edit. Send. Realise, it's worse than it was in the beginning.
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Damon 3 years ago
Just to clarify what’s happening here. We are all taking the obvious platitudes made into memes by a reddit user called “Let Me Die Bro” and freebooted by BP here as genuine insight into the human condition and profound universal truths? I personally believe that is just gross.
Pittsburgh rare 3 years ago
Thanks. I was getting irritated as l scrolled down the list.
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J.A. Rogers 3 years ago
Dear Editors: I couldn't force myself past #3 because of the repetitive graphic. On. Every. Single. Entry. If you need eye-catching infographics, call me. Seriously: You could have done this entire piece without graphics -- and without the accompanying bandwidth suckage for your users.
J.A. Rogers 3 years ago
Update: I did scroll up through the last three to see if perhaps I'd been a bit harsh in my judgment. No... It actually gets worse. Whoever made these graphics can't spell or punctuate, either. Add to that the boring, obvious observations, and this is probably the worst BP piece I've ever seen.
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William Teach 3 years ago
When men are asked "what are you doing/thinking" and the answer is "nothing", we really are doing/thinking nothing. It's part and parcel of men's brains. We can do just nothing. Thinking nothing. Watch fishing.
Kimi Tomminello 3 years ago
It's not just a "man" thing. Women have the same feelings/ doings of "nothing" and that's fine too
Load More Replies... Olga Dremina 3 years ago
Xenophobia is still xenophobia, even if nation is "fancy to hate". Jokes about "drunk Russians" and KGB are no better then about "cunning Jews". Also, episode about Roma people with their tradition of killing parents to steal their daughter as a fiancee for their son was disgusting and racist, Criminal Minds!
Damon 3 years ago
Just to clarify what’s happening here. We are all taking the obvious platitudes made into memes by a reddit user called “Let Me Die Bro” and freebooted by BP here as genuine insight into the human condition and profound universal truths? I personally believe that is just gross.
Pittsburgh rare 3 years ago
Thanks. I was getting irritated as l scrolled down the list.
Load More Replies... J.A. Rogers 3 years ago
Dear Editors: I couldn't force myself past #3 because of the repetitive graphic. On. Every. Single. Entry. If you need eye-catching infographics, call me. Seriously: You could have done this entire piece without graphics -- and without the accompanying bandwidth suckage for your users.
J.A. Rogers 3 years ago
Update: I did scroll up through the last three to see if perhaps I'd been a bit harsh in my judgment. No... It actually gets worse. Whoever made these graphics can't spell or punctuate, either. Add to that the boring, obvious observations, and this is probably the worst BP piece I've ever seen.
Load More Replies... William Teach 3 years ago
When men are asked "what are you doing/thinking" and the answer is "nothing", we really are doing/thinking nothing. It's part and parcel of men's brains. We can do just nothing. Thinking nothing. Watch fishing.
Kimi Tomminello 3 years ago
It's not just a "man" thing. Women have the same feelings/ doings of "nothing" and that's fine too
Load More Replies... Olga Dremina 3 years ago
Xenophobia is still xenophobia, even if nation is "fancy to hate". Jokes about "drunk Russians" and KGB are no better then about "cunning Jews". Also, episode about Roma people with their tradition of killing parents to steal their daughter as a fiancee for their son was disgusting and racist, Criminal Minds!
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