Life is too complex for smooth sailing. We all struggle with something. But turning a blind eye to our problems won't solve them.

Of course, that's easier said than done. So in an attempt to find out what issues people are running away from the most, Redditor u/Letmediebro made a post on the platform, asking other users: "What is a hard pill to swallow for most people?" And many replied!

From romantic relationships and parenting to mental health and self-image, the answers touched upon plenty of different topics. Here are the ones that got the most upvotes.

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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

say it louder for the anti vaxxers, trumpers and the others!

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Something Different
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK! (probably dealing with a bratty kid)

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Clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst Mary Lamia, Ph.D., thinks that the notion that one is “in denial” seems to have taken on a life of its own as an agent of many ills and as a catchphrase for people who dismiss the implications of their behavior.

"Although denial is considered to be a defense often used by people with addictive tendencies, its attributions reach beyond those struggling with substances," Lamia pointed out. "Denial is also attributed to people who do not want to acknowledge that bad stuff is occurring in their lives, such as those who are attempting to cope with a tumultuous relationship, a life-threatening illness, obesity, a loss, or anything else that one may attempt to disavow."

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Caro Caro
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And gives you NO right to jump the queue, receive extra attention or whatever.

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OCD Mom
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And very much real that cannot just magically be cured by being "strong" or a placebo.

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El muerto
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11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

as a person with heavy mental health problems I agree. but like to add, saying you are sorry is often not enough, and people doesn't have to forgive you...sometimes you have to live with the consequences all the same

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Sure, we can deny a fact, deny responsibility, deny the impact of our actions, or even deny what is really going on by hiding from our feelings. But according to Lamia, when we use denial to defend ourselves or cope with what we feel, we contradict the reality of a situation or attempt to adjust to a circumstance by neglecting its impact. However, the extent of someone’s denial may not really be the issue at hand.

"What’s important is not that people recognize their denial, but that they are able to accept what they are feeling that leads to the denial in the first place," Lamia explained. "If someone excessively and habitually uses alcohol to medicate their anxiety, for example, we might emphasize their attempts to dismiss the harm that their use of alcohol will cause, rather than focus on the emotions they feel that motivate their denial. If that person stops drinking, one would hope the emotions that were formerly hidden by denial, which often have to do with shame, would be exposed and accepted by the individual."

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Caro Caro
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Respect should be earned. Treat people kindly and with dignity.

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ThatOneWriter
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please read this then read it again and then read it AGAIN if it still doesn't sink in.

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We not only use denial to hide from any negative emotion, including shame, fear, guilt, or distress but to mute positive emotions as well. "Sometimes feeling positively may be just as threatening as negative feelings. We may want to deny the reality of our emotions, because accepting a reality that is uncomfortable, painful, or incongruous to what we expect means we must also alter our perception of ourselves. Thus, if you are in denial, perhaps you are simply trying to ignore the truth about what you actually feel, rather than about what you are doing or thinking."

But if you want to move forward, you have to swallow the truth.

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ThatOneWriter
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Say it louder! And bisexual women do NOT want to have a threesome with their girlfriend and you!!! 🤬🤬🤬

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#10

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Red
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11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes! This should be higher. Religions are an organized set of rules supposedly written by a otherworldly, incorporeal divinity. Stop and think about that for a second. Completely bonkers. It's a club, you go, you follow the rules, you pay the monthly fee, you mingle. If you break the rules you're either shunned away or you can pay an extra and all your sins are forgiven. Really. Bonkers.

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Buren
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yah I want to be Superman but it doesn't happen

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Olga Dremina
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Karma is a sh!tty concept. It leads to thinking if something bad happens to person, they somehow deserved it.

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ElenaK
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's no cute either! People need to b careful of their pets nutrition and excersice.

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OCD Mom
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep. And it takes a long while to understand that.

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OCD Mom
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah! But doing your best and not succeeding is a lot better than not trying your best and regretting later on.

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Red
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so important. Family members are often bullies you're conditioned to love and respect. If someone makes you feel bad they aren't doing so out of love, so why keep them around? Blood may be thicker than water and so much harder to clean up, but it isn't impossible and, I say it from experience, once you get some distance, they'll go on full surprised Pikachu mode and be twice as vicious about you. Maybe just my relatives.

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OCD Mom
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If someone is not into you as much as yourself, it is okay. Just learn to let go for the sake of your own happiness.

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May
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't have kids, but it seems to me that a lot of parents act the same as a teenager in love - finding every flaw endearing and thinking that their kid is the most amazing person in the world. I blame hormones.

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Caro Caro
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm wrong so often that I've learned to embrace it :D

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Caro Caro
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's our insecurity that makes us do that.

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Terry Tobias
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This needs to be higher! So many people think that they can control others or that others can control them. How many times have we said things like "that person made me feel..."? No one can make someone else feel or think anything. We need to learn to take responsibility for our own reactions and responses to others, and to realize that although we may influence others, we can't control them either.

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Caro Caro
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whoever says that "things happen for a reason" hasn't a clue about life or doesn't want to know about life. Saying this to a grieving person is pure evil.

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Damon
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m afraid this is the Wrong website for that particular hard pill

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Erica Mazurek-Bowshier
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sadly. Since my fiance of 14 years died in November 18, I feel like I'm standing still and the world is spinning too fast. Only our close friends and family cares, but it seems to you like the world should stand still for your immense, unbearable pain. And it is unbearable

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Gerard Neaux
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unless the situation just maimed you, in which case you working harder won't fix it.

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K R
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Reminded me of a saying..."if nothing works, do nothing."

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ThatOneWriter
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And moving on doesn't always mean "forgetting about". Sometimes it just means accepting that it happened and refusing to let it guide your choices.

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