“Some Bells Can’t Be Unrung”: People Share 40 Hard Truths That May Be Hard To Swallow

My Jerry will be 17 this June, I worry lots, but keep my head up my spending more time with him

Be happy together. Share love. This is the real life elixir.

Hang in there, Nat. My border collie lab mix lived to be 14, and my German shepherd beagle mix , 17. Make every day count. You can love your pet friend/child *forever*. Give them the best life you can.

Treasure every day and don't put yourself through grief ahead of time. If you begin to dwell on future loss, just open your eyes. Your best friend is still here! Yay!

Bobi, a dog in Portugal, has made it to 30!

My baby boy will be 13 in June. I tell him every day when I go to work to be a good boy and always remember Mommy loves him very much. Literally EVERY. DAY.

Man what a tough workout. My eyes are damn near sweating

My baby is 11 this year and she looks it. No matter how much I prepare myself, I know I will never be ready 😢

My last three dogs didn't make it past 10. My current doghters are 12 and going on 8. Neither seems to be slowing down much. I hope this bodes well.

Mine is 11 and I feel you :-(

I miss everyone that have passed but I have found a new friend ev

It's hard, yes, but I look at it like this: you have them a great life, and comfort in their last moments. Once they pass on, you can do the same for another. And another after. I get sad, yeah, but then that absence lets another walk into my life and it makes me glad that I can have a similar, but totally different experience with another pet

This is the true balance of nature. Such pure souls can offer us their joy for only so long. Then we heal and get a puppy!

Know that you have given him or her a wonderful life. When a dog passes, it’s gutting, but their love remains.

I have buried so many cats.

I'm sorry this is happening to your family, try to make every day the best day for your dog, whatever they want.

The flaw here is that you are the only one who gets to see the full picture. You are the only one who gets to see everything you've gone through, and how much you've grown. Close friends and family may see snap shots, but they don't always know or see what happens behind close doors. I think to truly understand something or someone you have to look at the whole picture and an outsider can't always do that.

My hubs enjoyed his work, too, thought that he owed the company his best. He came up with 2 ideas, one of which saved the company over a million bucks! Any bonuses, any rewards, NOPE, barely even a thanks, Randall!!

That summarizes my attitude exactly. I loved my job, was very good at it, and got a lot of satisfaction out of it and out of helping people. I retired a few months ago. I was touched and honored by the attention and thanks (and surpringly, gifts!) I got when I left, but they're doing fine without me! I was a little worried I'd lose my sense of worth and competence without a job. But it's been great so far! No getting up early in the morning, no worries about corporate layoffs... And I'll be starting volunteer work at my local library soon.

A few of the things I built were to make my life easier when things need to get done now. If it happens to help some coworkers, all the better

Agreed, after 8 years of college the wrecking ball came thru and I started cleaning houses for $10 an hour in 2008, I'm still working this business and good will, honesty and trust was the true reward even if I still live on the street.

Gosh you must be so proud of yourself. Please tell us some more about yourself. And then just a little bit more about yourself.

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Well. Consider yourself blessed. There are simply way more (paid) square-peg type jobs than there are jobs for more "rounded"people...so I simply decide what gives me joy? And concentrate on that whenever I am able.

I keep telling her too.

Tell her that people come into our lives for a reason, a season or sometimes a lifetime. A former co-worker told me that and it took me a while to understand and accept. It makes sense, but it is hard when long term relationships you think are meaningful (at least to you) break down and they disappear from your life, sometimes inexplicably. We must move on and open our hearts to new friends.

Well, are you saying it about your relationship with her? I could see why she wouldn't want to hear it.

And I understand that. It's sad sometimes how things are going. Or one lets go of the other, without you understanding why.

This one is hard for a lot of people I think.

Hopefully you all work it out

Wow, how funny to mock wives and the meaning of marriage that you willingly signed up for to last a lifetime...

That's because she needs to be over it, not you. You just need to continue to be there for her until she gives up on it.

Same exact thing here no matter how many times her "friends" burn her. If you can get it through to your wife let me know how you did it.

Awesome comment! You made me laugh!

Maybe she doesn't feel lis like that in her life

Lol

The common mistake a lot of people make, is expecting something back when they did someone a favor. That is, however painfull to realize, not how it works. You do something for someone because you want to out of your free will, expecting something, anything in return, can lead to disappointment. For those that have the "disease to please", here's a trick that might come in handy and will cut back on your disappontments: When asked for help and you have even a sliver of doubt you really want to or if you'd say yes out of obligation, but you aren't really strong enough to say no directly(not an emergency of course), say "I'll get back to you on this, I'll think about it." Than, really think about how you feel about the request and if you want to do it or feel obligated... in the last case, get back to them and tell them "I have thought about (insert what they asked) and the answer is no. If they insist on an explanation, you tell them that NO is a complete sentence.

Hi there, Know the feeling. I, too, live alone. I had surgery recently to repair a hernia. She made her one call, and that's it. Empty offer to help me.