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As kind and hopeful as the world can be, it also hides a much darker and more sinister side. These Redditors know this all too well, having learned some truly disgusting secrets about the people they once trusted.
If you’re curious to hear the startling truths they’ve uncovered, you’ll find their stories below—but be warned, these shocking revelations may haunt you long after you’ve read them.
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#1
There were rumors when I was a child that a friend of mine was being m****ted by her stepdad. Adults were told but nothing came of it and she went through emancipation as soon as she was old enough. I learned later on that stepdad was having his way with all of the children in the house. Male and female, step and biological. 5 kids.
The thing that disgusts me the most is that for the first time in my life I talked to somebody about it and learned that a lot of people in town knew it was going on. She and I were 11 years old. Not a damn thing either of us could do. But the adults should've f*****g helped those kids. Teachers knew. The principal of our school knew. I don't have all the details as to why they weren't removed from the home but there's no reason or excuse for all of them to stay in that place with that man for years.
Nikki van Reenen 1 year ago
My stepfather m******ted my sister and myself. My mother knew but put the blame on us. A lot of people "don't want to get involved" because it could get awkward for them.
Libstak 1 year ago
How twisted do you have to be to blame your own children for being sexualised in any way? I'm sorry for what happened to you and your sister. I hope your mum and step dad suffer big time for what they did.
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whodunnitfan2013 1 year ago
I was sèxually abúsed by at least two different people when I was not yet 10. Everyone blamed me, including CPS.
Nikki van Reenen 1 year ago
It makes me sick to read this. I'm so sorry you went through that. I don't get how people are able to blame the victim. I guess it's easier than taking responsibility and dealing with the fallout. Cowards.
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Matt Du 1 year ago (edited)
My Mother did Christmas and Birthday presents for him and his family. I wasn't allowed to attend any family gatherings, weddings or funerals for fear that my abuse at her brothers hands would come out. I was the black sheep, shunned by all of them. Ironic that they drop their heads and scurry away if they see me in public. I kept their secrets till she died and she cut me from everything including the thousands that I paid into and was lead to believe was a shared property. It's odd but I hate my mother more than her brother. I spent half a life time paying off the shame I'd brought on her. Stupid, useless and worthless, I never amounted to anything because I never would amount to anything. Even after he admitted everything, she continued making excuses for him, right up to the end. All that's left of me is a bitter and broken old man, that shakes uncontrollably whenever I leave the house, don't end up like me, cut ties walk away and never look back.
ABC no seven FCK CENSORING 1 year ago
For anybody wondering, the redacted word is "molésted". Oh, and the second one is "fúcking". Just trying to help. :)
Intrusive thoughts 1 year ago
THANK YOU. I searched the comments for this
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Rebelliousslug 1 year ago
Every coward that knew and chose not to intervene should be charged.
detective miller's hat 1 year ago
This happened in my mother's family. Everyone knew my uncle was sexually abusing one of his daughters (that same uncle had also tried to räpe all 4 of his sisters when they were all growing up), and no one did a god damn thing.
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#2
This guy in my friend groups older brother was into young girls. Even though he was in his early
20’s he’d routinely go after girls as young as 14. However this one time it ended very badly for him. He brought two 14 year old girls to the sports complex he worked at late at night. They convinced him to let them tie him up on a flagpole sort of thing so they could give him a show and then do him. They tied him up real good, pulled his pants down, took his car keys, and left him there. Well deserved.
Stephanie Did It 1 year ago
If this was made a regular public display of sex offenders, maybe it would deter a few.
WindySwede 1 year ago
They publicly shame humans (mostly men...(😲 /s) on the Web here in Sweden, who seeks out what they think is minors. The organisation set up a date with the pedo, then go there with a camera. Film them, and then dump all the material online of what they have done. As far as I know, they have plenty of humans still doing this 🤢though I hope some don't because of this.
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Skywitness 1 year ago
The owner of a Montessori school hired her son as a teaching aid. He was in his twenties and got illegally, too close with several teenagers. The faculty tried to ignore his behavior towards a particular 14 year old. He "cleverly" documented his activities. The police intervened. He fled the country and returned. He was tried and sent to prison.
#3
Found out my uncle r***d my mom (teens). She kept quiet about it until recently (50s). Turns out he also did it to my aunt (didn't mention it until mom did). Same dude I went to holiday dinners with, hikes, hugged, etc. She acted so normal around him I had no idea.
Edit: It's horrific how many people say this same story or something similar. If this is happening to you, and the secret hasn't come out, please tell people for their safety.
Nikki van Reenen 1 year ago
How do you allow your child to be in the same vicinity as a monster like that?? I understand "keeping quiet" about your own trauma (I don't agree, but I do understand), but to put your child in a situation where it could happen to them is unthinkable.
Okiedokie 1 year ago
Christ. Because VICTIMS develop mentalities that prevent them from seeing the world in ways that are beneficial on multiple fronts. They become terrified to speak out, often have distorted lenses regarding what normalcy is and without therapy cannot extricate themselves or loved ones from abusive situations bc their mental state is in chaos. Seriously. Shaming this poor woman for being mentally pulverized is a low bar. No, she shouldn’t have had her kid around them. Honestly, she was probably not in a right fit state to have kids all things considered. But in a small backwater town where everything is brushed under the rug, in very tightly knit families, shame isn’t the monster under your bed. It’s the entire community.
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Wilma Eykelhof 1 year ago
40 years after my SA did I only remember it again when I smelled a certain aftershave in a supermarket, that smell triggered and opened floods of trauma memories that my mind locked out. 2 years later, still in very active therapy for C-PTSD with new memories coming back at the oddest times. Even if the mind forgets, the body keeps a score
ABC no seven FCK CENSORING 1 year ago
RÀPED, BP. Fúcking RÀPED. Censoring stuff like this, tabooing it, only helps covering it up and ENABLING THE PERPETRATORS.
BookFanatic 1 year ago (edited)
Similar situation with my best friend's family. Her uncle abused his kids every way you can think of. When my bestie's dad found out, he asked both of his daughters, "Did he ever f*****g touch you? Tell me. I have a gun." Both said no.
ConstantlyJon 1 year ago
For those confused by the relations here, that's a brother raping his sisters.
Emily Phillips 1 year ago
Happened in my family. Mom's cousin sa so many females in the family. Nobody told until I was the one who broke the silence. I was 7. Still get mistreated by some "family" members about it. My parents split up the day after I told. Still blame myself for them breaking up
Crouching hippo hidden panda 1 year ago
Omg this is exactly what happened to my mum and her sisters, one of eleven kids, left to themselves in very poor and dirty conditions. Only came out in adult life in an alcohol induced rant at Christmas. Very awkward for everyone involved and it explained so much of her behaviour, but for some reason he was the family she pushed us to have a relationship with out of all other 10 siblings. So messed up
#4
My dirtbag uncle convinced my grandmother to hand over her power of attorney to him and then proceeded to sell her house and put her into a senior living home when she was only in her fifties. He left her there to rot and then threw out most of her belongings and absconded with all of the family heirlooms from my great grandfather who was a famous artisan. In the intervening years he pawned off most of the heirlooms as he continued to scam his way across the country.
Last I heard he had somehow swindled his way into being a judge in Montana. He tried calling my dad a year or so ago and lying about what he had done to my grandmother. My dad called him out on that s**t and the dirtbag hasn’t tried contacting any of us since.
Now that my sister and I are grown living on comfortable wages, we have been slowly buying my great grandfather’s works as we see them appear up for auction or on eBay to bring them back into the family. A couple years ago we found one of my great grandfather’s pieces that my dad had thought to be lost forever and surprised him with it for Christmas. I don’t think I’ve ever seen him more overjoyed than he was that day.
Avoidance_Panda 1 year ago
Shame the OP didn't say who the painter grandfather was.... I'd have definitely kept an eye out
Kira Okah 1 year ago (edited)
From the OP, great grandpa was a silversmith, by the name of Tom Burnside. Navajo, beautiful work.
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Widdershins66 1 year ago
I thought the sisters would go on to rescue their grandmother and live happily ever after...
Rianna Lewis 6 months ago
Wow this is hitting EXTREMELY close to home.. currently in the middle of the same thing by a nasty uncle!!
Jill Rhodry 1 year ago
Seriously? - Qualifications to be a judge in Montana (since 1979) : - No person shall be eligible to the offices of justice of the supreme court or judge of the district court unless he or she shall have been admitted to the practice of law in Montana for at least five years prior to the date of appointment or election, is a citizen of the United States, and has resided in the state of Montana two years immediately before taking office. Qualifications and methods of selection of judges of other courts shall be provided by law.
Huddo's sister 1 year ago
People qualified as lawyers and then judges can be s****y people, and in the US it seems they very often are
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Caught my *very* religiously "devout" Mormon dad snuggled up with a stripper in his lap at the club he didn't know I was cocktail serving at. I blew his s**t wide open to my siblings who told our mom, and in the fallout, it fell out that it wasn't a one-off. Forty years of strip clubs, street corners, and "massage" parlors, and hundreds of thousands of dollars.
Guess Undheit 1 year ago
Well, at least it was sex workers, not children as 90% of them go after.
Isak Nygren 1 year ago
He will propably be kicked out from Church if it hasn't happened already.
Brandi VanSteenwyk 1 year ago
Not at all uncommon here in Utah... Oh, the stories I could tell.
#6
Found out a co-worker was microwaving their underwear at work to 'freshen them up' after lunch breaks. It was… an unpleasant revelation. Made me think twice about using that microwave ever again.
Binky Melnik 1 year ago
What’s your definition of “work”? It will certainly “work” to warm the candida, streptococcus, and all the other bugs down there, and give ‘em a warm, moist place to grow. Does that help? (Sorry for errors; typing while gagging is difficult.)
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WindySwede 1 year ago
They will put up a note "No fish, Durian, nor underwear in micro!"
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Korrie Broos 1 year ago
I had a staff member that would microwave her wig as it straightened the hair and looked like a salon treatment. Staff did not want to use that microwave and ended up buying a new one.
Divado 1 year ago
I was microwaving my Snickers then eating it with a teaspoon. Get your facts straight BP.
Adam Chang 1 year ago (edited)
twice?? You still use it? I would buy my own microwave and put a lock on it.
FloC 1 year ago
And how ? I mean, I understand about the part where the person put the underwear in the microwave, but what was they wearing during that time ?
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#7
Im on disability in my country and a few years ago my old disability case worker popped up on my people you might know on Facebook against my better judgement I looked at her profile
I was all racist stuff and posts about how much she hates disabled people and she wish they would all die and how disabled people should be killed on the spot
Tons of racism towards basically everyone even pictures in black face
I did report her but nothing happened she still works at this disability office as far as I know.
Rayne OfSalt 1 year ago
Given how newspapers are these days, I can see the headline being something like "Entitled wheelchair user attempts to get case worker fired in spectacular display of hatred towards free speech".
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SkippityBoppityBoo 1 year ago
I've come across one nurse like this. She was fired. Report it definitely. "Disabled people should be killed on the spot"?... Darling, come try it with me. Let's see who wins.
ZestyBison 1 year ago
Print screenshots of the computer screen out and politely *demand* to speak to somebody in charge at the office.
#8
When my Grandfather passed away we discovered that he did not exist. His name was not in any government registry. He was a normal citizen, paid taxes, had a license and everything. Lived a long life, married to my grandmother for over 50 years, had multiple children, everything normal.
Still to now, no one knows who he really was and why he had a false name.
B.M. 1 year ago
If initiated by the government, there would have been a (fake) registry.
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BewilderedBanana 1 year ago
First off that's not disgusting. Secondly, there's a bit of a difference between someone not existing and someone having a fake identity :)
Kiss Army 1 year ago
Exactly. My husband just had to go get a copy of our marriage license and while he was there, there was an older man trying to get a copy of his birth certificate and they could not find one. Apparently the best they could figure out was that his mother had a home birth and never registered it and that this occurred with some regularity in rural areas.
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Trillian 1 year ago
How can you get a job and pay taxes and get a marriage license if you are not identifyable?
Kylie 1 year ago
This was in the days before computers and the internet presumably.
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ABC no seven FCK CENSORING 1 year ago
Classic BP, where half the content doesn't fit the list.
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Bewarethere@gmail.com 1 year ago
If he wasn't in the government and taxes then how is that he doesn't exist??!!
#9
A guy had a decently successful restaurant in my town. He was community oriented, donated time and money to the town, just overall nice. There was something I always thought was off or fake about him.
He tried expanding and buying a new restaurant, but needed a financial backer. They had a disagreement over something and she went missing. He took care of her son during her absence.
Turns out, he murdered her and buried her in a shallow grave behind a manufacturing building. Really hit our town hard.
PeepPeep the duck 1 year ago (edited)
We had something similar in Perth, it has varied opinions, but we all know lord Rainey did it. And the weirdest part - I used to serve the whole family when the wife was alive in a restaurant I ran in cottelsoe (pink Zulu 2009 or 10) took me years to realise it was the same family, and then sad cos she was nice which I remember cos the that table was a nightmare to serve, manners and etiquette wise, but she was always nice.
Jessie 1 year ago
Funny how people say they “always knew something was off about (someone)” AFTER something terrible happened, yet they never discussed this with anyone beforehand. If you’re that certain you might as well talk about it with someone, in this case talking to his wife could have saved her life.
#10
My ex accused me of cheating so many times that it finally drove me nuts enough to end it. I ended up finding out that she was cheating on me the entire time with multiple men and one of those times was a threesome with two dudes. She’s blocked on everything and still tries to get in contact with me any way she can.
Ace 1 year ago
It's a double insult - not only does she need to have sex with other men, but her partner is not even good enough to be part of a threesome.
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KillerKiwi 1 year ago
Yeah… hey ex would always accuse me of cheating, and although he never cheated on me, he’s got a girl at our school and a girl at another one now… guess who wouldn’t think twice if they were to come into contact with either girl and tell them what a piece of f*****g garbage he is.
SkippityBoppityBoo 1 year ago
I found out that my ex was cheating on me because he said, "Do you know how hard it is to try and sexually satisfy two women at once?". Nope, and now neither do you! Bye! But yups, it's called 'Deflection'. They're the ones doing it but making out that it's you.
KillerKiwi 1 year ago
Aw, poor baby. You shouldn’t have left him, he was going through a really hard time 😂
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It's always the one acusing the other that does the sheating, always. It's their own conscience projected on others.
#11
My friend confided that her and her brother got drunk and banged recently. I am friends with both of them. It’s the weirdest s**t hanging out and pretending you don’t know.
Kalikima 1 year ago
I don't care how much alcohol I've had, there's no way I'd sleep with my brother! Just the thought is disgusting. How in the world could that happen?
Panda Pandemic 1 year ago
When you're drunk and not thinking straight it is possible.
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Roxy222uk 1 year ago
There's a lot of research that shows that children raised together as siblings simply can't become sexually attracted to each other (evolution), for example children that grew up together on a kibbutz. So when this happens in a family it is an indication of far deeper problems.
Stephanie Did It 1 year ago
My ex's family has rampant incest everywhere. Agree on the awkward moments when we visited their town and basically the whole family gathered to visit.
#12
I grew up in a very religious family (church 3x a week) and went to catholic school. The priest who built our parish was beloved by all, but just gave me ick vibes. In the early 2000’s someone from his previous parish, 30 years before, claimed he was inappropriate with them. Of course no one believed it and assumed she was saying that for money.
A couple of years ago, a friend from school posted on Facebook that she was looking for other girls from school he abused, because she couldn’t believe she was the only one. I was close to her growing up and had no idea. She didn’t ask for a penny from the church, and still is a dedicated member of the church (the priest has since passed). I 100% believe her as her accusation only hurt her within the community (but helped her heal from the trauma).
Brandi VanSteenwyk 1 year ago
Yeah, when my granddaughter spoke up about an ex- step-step grandson assaulting her years before, the only one hurt in the end was HER when my a**hole of an ex and the rest of that side went against her. THAT was the reason she didn't speak up before... She had predicted the fallout.
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Nimitz 1 year ago
It's disgusting that, after decades of predators paying off people and making them sign non-disclosure agreements in order to get away with their crimes, stupid people think that anyone coming forward about such things is looking for a payout. When someone says they were assaulted, don't go looking for ways to invalidate their stories...
#13
My dad used to smoke c***k and then film himself dressing up in women’s clothes and doing his makeup (poorly). That’s not the disgusting part though.
The disgusting/funny in an absurd way part is that when my mom found out about all that and other stuff, she found his hidden stash of dresses and presented them to me (age 12-13) as gifts and told me I should wear them right away and show dad when he gets home. So I was just constantly parading around the house in my dad’s pretty crack dresses, not understanding why he was weirded out lol.
Stephanie Did It 1 year ago
That was sick for the mom to use their daughter for petty revenge.
Say No to Downvoting 1 year ago
This is kind of tragic though - Dad hiding his identity/fetish (I don’t know which one he prefers), mum feeling betrayed her husband has secrets he hasn’t disclosed to her or the kid used as the p**n (though the mood doesn’t sound too worried about it).
Sojourner 1 year ago (edited)
I assume you mean "p a w n". I hope you mean p a w n.
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Fat Harry (Oi / You) 1 year ago
The latter. The dresses for when he was taking cocaine.
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LinkTheHylian 1 year ago
How many years of therapy did OP need before they went onto Reddit and admitted their dad was a cross-dressing crack whore?
#14
My family doctor between the ages of 15-23 was charged by several women for sexually assaulting them. He once did a physical for me and made me remove my entire shirt + bra with no gown. I thought it was normal at the time. He also always touched my tattoos and asked what they meant. Super creepy looking back on it.
Cee Cee 1 year ago
I was around 26 & went to my GP about my painful knee. He examined my chest. Reported him. Never saw him again.
ZestyBison 1 year ago
As tragic as this is, it's still legal in many areas of the US to experience non-consensual pelvic exams. Say you're in for a surgery on your knee, they'll poke around your neither regions as well while you're under anesthesia. Without your knowledge. No paperwork. No signatures. No verbal warning or confirmation.
#15
I worked with a woman for years. Knew her fairly well. Later found out that she and her husband were the ringleaders of the local swingers organization.
My only problem with it was that she never invited me!
WindySwede 1 year ago
Also not a representative image. I mean it could be, but this is for another scene..
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Rachel Pelz 1 year ago
Not disgusting but impolite...no invitation in so many years...
Load More Replies... BookFanatic 1 year ago
I'd ask a lot of genuine (probably way over the line) questions. I have a very vanilla life. I'm curious about logistics.
#16
I work in a small office, just me and two other women. The other day I walked into the restroom as one of the coworkers exited a stall. She turned the faucet on, briefly got her fingers wet (not her actual hands) and walked out. I’ve worked with her for 16 years and just now learned she doesn’t wash her hands after using the restroom. It’s stuff like this that makes me not eat the office potluck. Gross.
Say No to Downvoting 1 year ago
Was in a shopping centre bathroom, the other day, and saw a Subway work come out of a stall, phone in hand, “washed” the hand that wasn’t holding the phone (dangled under the water for a second), then went back to work. I was a bit shocked at the time, and busy with my kids, but should I email the Subway?
François Bouzigues 1 year ago
If you think all the people working in restaurants clean religiously their hands, you are in for a surprise.
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Crouching hippo hidden panda 1 year ago
You’d think after Covid people would have learned. At the time I thought all the instructional signs were nanny state exaggerations, but it looks like they were needed, and apparently ignored
KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
I work in a GP practice and the owner doesn't wash his hands after using the toilet.
Lene 1 year ago
My bf's dad clearly only washes his hands after he's done #2. When he just pees you can hear him flushing the toilet and then immediately opening the door. He doesn't even turn on the faucet to give an impression that he's washing his hands. And I find it so incredibly gross! My bf doesn't seem to care and I have only made little remarks here and there to my bf's mom. She also doesn't seem to care. I will not talk with my bf's dad about it ever because he is the type of "I am right when I scream louder than you" and also I find that he often gets angry when ppl refuse to agree with him. I have issues with loud noises and with anger (long story). So actually confronting him is not an option for me. But I am grossed out when he holds my kids' hands or when he cooks food. I will also not touch his computer or tablet unless it's EXTREMELY important. He is also very against changing his habits. I guess it's because he's in his mid-60s and he's lived his entire life like this?
Mark Howell 1 year ago
I recently read a study done by med students, who went round gyms in the area and took swabs from ther drink containers of people there. After testing the swabs; 35% had fecal bacteria growing in them. What was scary only 1 % of the samples were from men.
Say No to Downvoting 1 year ago
Only 1% of the samples were from men? Or only 1% of the contaminated samples were from men? What % of men carry a water bottle around the gym compared to women? Why are you particular in specifying that that 1% from men was scary?
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Icomefromthelanddownunder 1 year ago (edited)
Still germs on everything she touches, like the door handle
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Found out a friend never washes their gym clothes like ew that’s so gross.
Huddo's sister 1 year ago
My brother never washes the tea towel he uses when camping. It just stays with his camping gear and is so brown and greasy. I made some comments one year (we camp at least once a year) and he said something along the lines of 'Ah...yeah...' I made sure to pack my own tea towel after that. I think his current or previous girlfriend bought him a replacement one a few years ago but it ended up in the same sate because his behaviour didn't change.
#18
My first babysitter (next door neighbor’s kid) attacked her mother with an axe. Her mother survived and shared this in her Christmas letter to friends and family years later.
The Starsong Princess 1 year ago
My Brownie leader was axe murdered by her boyfriend. Horrible.
#19
Not disgusting but scary, my maternal granny's brother was an assassin. He was also assassinated.
Ace 1 year ago
I wonder why they chose to use that particular word? Does it somehow sound more cool than 'hired killer' or 'hitman'?
Fellfromthemoon 1 year ago
Or non-native speaker.In French, "assassin" means murderer.
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Wisteria Bookworm 1 year ago
See hypothetically, for research purposes…where did your granny’s brother work at and how did he get in? Just curious you know
#20
The kid that bullied me in grade 5 & 6... turns out his father was m****ting him and his brother, throughout their childhood.
ABC no seven FCK CENSORING 1 year ago
Oh FOR FÙCK'S SAKE BP, you're RIDICULOUS. You can delete my comments all you want, I'll come back. And so here we go: MOLESTED, BP. Fúcking MOLESTED. Censoring stuff like this, tabooing it, only helps covering it up and ENABLING THE PERPETRATORS.
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Bill 1 year ago
Harassed Assaulted Abused Bothered Violated Mistreated Harmed Accosted Interfered with Victimized
Bill 1 year ago
However you say it, It's still barbaric and so very wrong
Load More Replies... Wisteria Bookworm 1 year ago
Tch. BP stop censoring s**t like this, it’s only hiding it more ITS MOLESTING FOR GODS SAKE!
#21
After my husband died in 2020 I found out he had been having an affair with a 30 year old, (he was 55), she apparently aborted his baby, everything he told me about his prior life was a lie (second marriage for both of us) and he had been having sex with men since he was in his early 20s. To sum it up, I didn't know this man at all. We had been together 10 years and married for 6.
Skogsrået 1 year ago
It's kinda scary how sometimes we really don't know the people closest to us.
ZestyBison 1 year ago
This is why you demand an STD test. I'm all about people f*****g whoever they want, consenting proper adults and all, even if it's too much for me, but you DEMAND that STD test.
#22
A man that used to regularly visit a gallery I worked in killed his wife and boiled her body parts. He’s in prison now. Bleh.
BewilderedBanana 1 year ago
You barbarian. Chianti doesn't pair well with boiled meat :)
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Upstaged75 1 year ago
I used to run a program for a university. One of our students killed his wife, chopped her up, put her body in a suitcase, and threw it in a field. He seemed like a nice, normal guy. Scary.
#23
I saw my grandfather only 2 times once when I was around 4 or 5 and then again when I was about 13 at my uncles funeral. I asked my mom what the deal was and she would just tell me he was not a good person. I just stopped asking until a few years ago and she gave me the whole story. He was a vile, sadistic, evil, person. Abusive to his family in just about every way imaginable.
cerinamroth 1 year ago
It's really hard to know how much to tell your kids about why their grandparents aren't a big presence in their lives.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 year ago
My mother told my sister and I *everything*, in full detail, about her childhood traumas and abuse, starting when my sister and I were very young (I was 5 or so.) My mom would even describe how her uncle sexually abused her. I barely knew what a wiener was at that point, except for the fact that my dad had one and I didn't. My mother was (and still is) incredibly abusive towards me in every possible way and did many of the same things to me that she described happening to her as a child. My sister, her biological child, was not abused at all (I'm adopted.) Now that we are adults, my sister is just like my mother (surprise!) and thinks that all men are disgusting, because that's what my mom said. I'm slightly more functional than my sister is, but still effed up. IMO it's a BAD IDEA to describe one's abusive childhood in detail to one's own children. Best to use concepts a kid can understand, like "Grandpa is a mean person", and save the details for when they're older.
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Guess Undheit 1 year ago
Protected from him. It's better than the alternative, ignorant people swallowing the "family comes first" propaganda.
Robin Childers 1 year ago
My mom kept me away from her father for years. I didn't know he was my grandfather until I was 8. My cousins all get weirded out because I refer to him by his first name.
Kami “Kelodin” 1 year ago
C'est parfois préférable plutôt que de laisser ses proches le côtoyer malgré tout.
#24
They hoard their own feces in their house.
cerinamroth 1 year ago
Hoarding faeces isn't that uncommon. Hoarding is a terrible mental illness for the sufferer and their family.
MaxMi 1 year ago
And to the extent we all saw on tv shows, nothing easier there was basically no usable bathroom in the house, let alone the kitchen sink.
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Captive 1 year ago
As far as I know hoarders keep things they think might be useful later or have some value. Wonder how this applies to feces
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 year ago
Fertilizer? Fuel? I know you can burn dried herbivore poop (e.g., cow patties) for heat and light. I don't know if human poop burns.
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#25
This local kid was kinda slow. My best friend, from 7th grade to adulthood, hung out with him when we were in elementary school. People used to tell him to do wild s**t and he would do it. He and his sister lived in a foster home, and one day, they disappeared around 6th grade.
My best friend later told me his sister wore a diaper until she was 11, and the brother almost died from huffing paint at 10. Some kids even got them to do sexual stuff to each other as a dare. My friend wasn't there, but that's when he stopped hanging around them.
Fast Forward 5-10 years, his sister is on MTV true life about runaway prostitutes. 10 years after that, my best friend runs into him, and he says they were removed from the home for being m***ted by his foster family. His sister has been missing for 7+ years, and he's living with the foster mother who m****ted him. Sad story.
cerinamroth 1 year ago
Just yesterday I had to intervene on the way to primary school because I witnessed bullying. When one boy pointed to his "friend" and said "But he did it, not me!" I said "You've just proven you have a big loud voice. Why didn't you use it to stop him?" before taking care of the wee one. I cannot *stand* bullies.
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#26
GF (now wife) had a roommate in college that was dating an older guy. I went over and saw him, something was off. Did some research: he was her band director when she was in HS, was fired for having relations with a student, and was living just across the county line. Unbelievable ick.
Skywitness 1 year ago
This happened at my daughter's school. The very young looking calculus teacher was in a relationship with an 18 year old student. He was allowed to finish the school year. Oddly, the two of them stayed together but I believe her dad, who lived in my neighborhood, disowned her.
Brandi VanSteenwyk 1 year ago
Nothing like having your intuitions confirmed at the 10 year HS reunion when more than one couple consists of a classmate and one of my teachers.
Cesium 1 year ago
I think it's the fact that the guy is still living super close even after being shunned for his actions
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Bec 1 year ago
I remember some of us overhearing our band director making comments about how good the girl he had made captain was going to look in her uniform directing the band. Gave us all the 'ick', her brother was in band and he was pretty pissed about the whole thing but said his sister wasn't having an affair with him. 3/4 of the band had quit by the next year.
Mark Howell 1 year ago
In my daughters school year one of the fathers (a teacher at the school), was caught under the bed of one of his students. He went down for 15 yrs as she was still a minor at 14. Poor child of the father took it hard and struggled through school after that, for no fault of their own.
Lowrider 56 1 year ago
The principal at my high-school got a senior student pregnant during a school trip. Wound up marrying her.
#27
An odd late 30's, early 40's woman we worked with saved all of her used menstral products in paper bags . Literal years of pads and whatever else stacked to the ceiling in a shower stall in a bathroom in her house.
cerinamroth 1 year ago
Hoarding is a terrible mental illness to live with
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Beak Hookage 1 year ago
Take it from me, that s**t smells SO NASTY when it's left for too long.
#28
That my mom cheated on my dad for 20 years and still hasn’t told him to this day. I’m still trying to figure out what to do and how to go about the situation and exposing the truth about her to my Dad but I’m afraid he would die of a broken heart. Worst thing is, she cheated with my Godfather who used to come to the house and drink coffee with my mom and dad EVERY DAY.
BewilderedBanana 1 year ago
I think this is one of those cases where telling the truth to their dad would make OP feel better, but everyone else feel much worse, including the dad. I'm not saying the dad doesn't deserve or shouldn't know, but it should come from OP's mum and not, in my opinion, from OP
Alexandra 1 year ago
Even if it comes from OP's mum and not OP, it has the potential to kill the father: broken heart syndrome is real.
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Laura Lawson 1 year ago
Oh sweetie, your dad knows. Whether consciously or subconsciously, he knows. I was in a similar situation & although my brain knew something was going on, my heart didn't want to know & thus it continued. Not this long, fortunately, but if his AP's children didn't find out, I'm not sure how long he would have strung it out. But it may also be an 'arrangement' that all 3 of them are comfortable with, who knows?? I wouldn't ask unless it becomes absolutely necessary.
Elizabeth Whitehill 1 year ago
Don't tell him. Ignorance is peace. I would love to go back to February 2nd 2018 and not ask him why he was acting weird. I would love to be that stupid and clueless again. I want my rose colored glasses back
ZestyBison 1 year ago
I would just very plainly over dinner being something up and listen to the knife scratch the plate.
#29
The kid that lived in the house next door to me grew up to be a child m****ter.
He was my age when he lived next door - around 6 or 7 - and used to come over and hang out in my backyard. At some point he became intensely interested in seeing my, um, p****r. He would ask repeatedly what mine looked like and ask to see it. He was all for “you show me yours and I’ll show you mine”. Even at 6, I thought this was weird and refused to compare peckers with him. He and his family moved away a few years later. I never saw him again.
Decades later, out of morbid curiosity, I Googled his name and found his arrest and conviction record in another state. He had been a respected member of his professional community … in a profession involving children. He and a buddy would pay young teenage boys to “perform” with them on video in hotel rooms. They were busted, and my childhood pal spent some time in prison. Yeesh.
Leigh James 1 year ago
A child that young engaging in the aforementioned behavior learned it from someone - the person(s) who was molesting them. The cycle of sexual abuse continued.
KillerKiwi 1 year ago
Yeah. Thankfully OP declines instead of allowing the cycle to continue like what happened to me.
Load More Replies... and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 1 year ago
A kid that lives on our block is a molester. He went after my brother and then later a younger autistic kid who ended up beating him over the head with a baseball bat. I feel a bit bad for him, he was like 8-10 and he must have been a victim too, but also, I don’t think I’ll ever forgive him.
#30
I went to church for a long time and there was this guy who everyone loved. He was a kinda fat guy with silly humour but he seemed a little off because he had autism. One day I was on YouTube and a predator catching video popped up. He was in it and his shirt was about Jesus. I sent it to the pastor and he was removed from the church. Now I want to work in cybercrime to catch these people
Edit: this happened when I was 16 and he was always complementing me. Once asked if I was interested in modelling.
eric p 1 year ago
Mistake # 1: thinking church is a safe place. An overwhelming majority of rapists and murderers consider themselves regular churchgoers (Dahmer, Gacy, Bundy, etc.)
crazydogmama 1 year ago
Bundy hid out with the Mormon church. Helped for a bit.
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My ex told me he hurt and blackmailed a lot of girls after we broke up and that it was my fault he did it. Also he lied about his father dying so he could “relate” to me when I lost my dad at a young age but his dad lived a block over from him.
#32
In high school I was friends with a guy who would talk about his twin sister a lot. One day he “confessed” to me that him and his twin sister lost their virginities with each other and would regularly have sex. I went to my older sister to ask what to do because I was freaked out, she told me to mind my business.
Well, fortunately he had loose lips and someone else did report him. Him and his sister were removed from one another.
I met his dad once when I was the driver for the group of us teens (only one who had a car), I was 17 at that point. His dad kept trying to give me beer and shots while I kept declining. His uncle was kissing a 16 year old girl we had with us, she was drunk. I forced her to leave with me and took her home along with the boys. They were being creeps too, so I put her in the front seat next to me where I could monitor her. I was so uncomfortable man. We both went into the military so we could go to college, different branches, he got kicked out and diagnosed with schizophrenia. His dad died of kidney failure from alcoholism. Yay for being born to low socioeconomic status.
Family's_disappointment 1 year ago
You're a good person. The world needs more people like you.
Stephanie Barr 1 year ago
You can be a decent person and poor. Just like you can be a total sh*t and be rich. There are monsters at every level of the socioeconomic scale.
Huddo's sister 1 year ago
But lower socioeconomic people have less access to education and counselling which makes these problems harder to fight.
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Jeremy Klaxon 1 year ago
"Him and his sister were removed from one another" WTF, seriously? Why can't people mind their own business indeed? They weren't causing any harm and were both consentent, so why remove them from one another? Gosh
#33
Not really a secret, but definitely a shocking discovery. There was a weird kid in my school that got expelled for touching himself in the library. He was always kind of odd, but he lived down the street and was always nice to me. I dated his sister briefly and would always say hi when I saw him because I honestly just kind of felt bad for him. Fast forward like ten years and me and my roommate were looking up people we went to school with on the docket finder as a joke. Remembered the weird kid and wouldn't you know it... Locked up for violently assaulting children. It wasn't funny after that point. Exited out and never spoke of it again.
cerinamroth 1 year ago
There comes a point when you have to take responsibility for your own past and future. Plenty of people who are abused do not become abusers. But having said this, it is a devastatingly sad (yet also all-too-common) story.
Load More Replies... Bill 1 year ago
I worked at a group home taking care of mentally handicapped adults, all high functioning, somehow was able to get a High School Diploma tet couldnt read what it said to me smh. Anyway, because of Hippa I cant really say a lot but the guys were all classified as having "sexually deviant behavioral problems." There case files explained a lot, some had horrifying home lives. But I tell you what, let your imagination run wild, I've seen it at least twice.
#34
One of my cousins said he desired me sexually. He also has grey hair and I'm in my 30s. I was in my early 30s when he confessed it. The worst part is, I found out he did this to one another cousin, but he comes off as "safe" to others. Got scared to visit that side of the family for a while.
Rachel Pelz 1 year ago
Tbf, some people get grey hair in their 30s. But the rest, so much ick.
Pyxelle 1 year ago
I started going grey in my teens,sad to say. But yes, icky ick on the rest.
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Kayci Styles 1 year ago
Why are so many of these comments about the grey hair? I think you miss the headline folks...
Bobby 1 year ago (edited)
Lack of reading comprehension. I see it often in the comments on this site. Perfect example is Rachel's thread right here.
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LadySparre 1 year ago
I had my first greys at 17, my husband was 50% grey at 30, and our daughter has the most amazing salt and pepper hair at 27. The fact that he confessed that he desires someone (OP) sexually is concerning, but desires and actions are still 2 different things. If he when OP rebuffed persists, well then he's definitely a problem. If he does not, OP is also an adult who can use her words.
#35
I (shortly) dated a guy who led a full double life, then a triple.
And I thought you could only see this on tv.
eric p 1 year ago
No he's mostly kept one job throughout the show (Pawtucket Brewery). This is more like Homer J Simpson (you know the one family guy ripped off...)
Load More Replies... nuberiffic 1 year ago
I barely have enough time for my own life. I can't imagine having two of them.
Cindy Brick 1 year ago
Isaac Singer, the sewing machine guy, had more than that! Less than 10, more than 5...
#36
Had a really creepy manager at my first job. He would say the most inappropriate out of pocket sexual things all the time. He always talked about liking Asian girls because they looked young and innocent and even seemed disappointed when I said I wasn't Asian.
I eventually ended up reporting him and he got transferred to a different store.
I moved away for college shortly after and left that job and tried to forget him. One day I got a message from a coworker from that job with a link to s mugshot and arrest info for our old manager. He was locked up for abusing a LITERAL TODDLER. I felt so much guilt for so long thinking if I had pushed it more maybe he would've gotten in trouble sooner.
#37
My former best friend, who I looked up too, and was a big brother figure to me. He is in fed prison for 14 years for coercion and solicitation of a minor, and he wanted to do unspeakable things with babies. I just found this out 3 years ago.
#38
My dad’s dad r***d him when he was like 8 years old. He told my mom about a year before he died. Then she told me. We were both 😳😳. He never gave any indication prior. I knew my grandfather suffered from PTSD from WW2 but wow. He didn’t say if it was once or ongoing. Apparently no one knew but us. I don’t know if his brother knew. They weren’t very close. All these people are dead now so I’ll never know all of the story. My dad died in 1998 at 57 of cirrhosis of the liver. Now that I just turned 56 I realize how young that is.
Mike F 1 year ago
Sadly, until fairly recently it was the primary way to treat mental illnesses that had no accepted diagnosis.
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One of my ex bfs died in Federal jail from covid awaiting trial for 4 charges of crimes against children.
He and his weird little wife had at the time 8 kids and one on the way.
After he died in jail her family tried to get her money to buy a house through go fund me.
What a s**t show. .
#40
Had sexual fantasies about animals, and tried to convince me that it was normal.
Jaaawn 1 year ago
They should still go to a psychiatrist. I don't want people with those kinds of feelings hiding in plain sight and looking at my cat.
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#41
For years, my mother has lied about who my father was. She made up a fake name to throw me off. When I became an adult, I later found out My mother hid who my father was because he was sleeping with men. To add insult to injury, after coming to terms and confirming the actual identity of my father, I’d later find he was dating a male best friend of mine. What a small world we live in. .
Guess Undheit 1 year ago
Bigoted mother, and screwed up society that forces people to stay closeted. If he had been allowed to live openly from his youth, he would never have "cheated".
iseefractals 1 year ago
You're taking a few leaps there. Who says dad was gay OR closeted? Could just have been bi, and screwing around. Even if someone is closeted, it does NOT justify lying and cheating. You don't get to declare some sort of trauma as a means of excusing your $hitty behavior.
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Someone I went on 6 dates with and had incredible chemistry with suddenly said he got an aids diagnosis and couldn’t handle dating - I learned it was because he was dating me only to get information and eventually contact info for my ex who had had a crush on for years. They hooked up on and off for a year before I learned he had gone through my Facebook one night and got all the info and reached out to my ex.
Stephanie Did It 1 year ago
Just one more compelling reason to avoid Facebook like the plague it is.
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Rayne OfSalt 1 year ago
When I was young, there was a family that lived up the street from me (in a very quiet, sleepy suburb) that were a bit "odd". House always closed up, including the blinds, they never said hi to anyone, kids never played outside or with any of the other kids in the street. One day one of their little kids wandered into their neighbour's house, completely naked. So the guy that lived there took the kid back to the kid's house and when they got to the front door the guy saw photos of the kid's parents r****g the kids covering the hallway. Guy saw red, beat the living hell out of the kid's dad while the mother fled in their car. Cops were summoned, father arrested, kids taken away etc etc. Cops were going through that house for days. I heard later that the mother got chased down and arrested a few weeks later. Max became a neighbourhood hero, but sadly what he'd seen was too much for him, and he off'd himself a year later, leaving behind a devastated wife and daughter.
Crouching hippo hidden panda 1 year ago
Jesus someone should have got him into therapy, poor family
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Samsquatch & Monko 1 year ago
I used to have quora but it spammed me with notifications on my gmail every day which were mostly fishy links and horrific graphic stories about child abuse. That was ssssupppperrrr great for my mental health. I needed help from my dad to figure out how to unsubscribe and I had to do it twice
Load More Replies... Mike F 1 year ago
My father bailed on my brother and I shortly after my mother divorced him. To avoid paying child support, he ran off to Florida (of course) and changed his name to his dead brother's name to dodge paying. We later found out from a family tree maker program (of all things). Pretty low, even for him.
Guess Undheit 1 year ago
I was bullied in high school, so I was never part of the "in crowd". The "cool kids" spread rumours that a gym teacher was "R"ing a teen girl student, but that was the extend that I knew, not the teacher, not the student. I didn't hear the full story until 20 years later, when she came forward, prosecuted and named the prick. Grooming, forced abortion, etc. [ ........... ] I didn't know her, but it bothered me that I could nothing about it. I was also (for a second) glad I was a social outcast, not one of those guilty of spreading the rumours.
Justbecause 1 year ago
Some in-laws of my dads are strong on keeping secrets. One secret was that the relative who had lived in outback Australia and had recently moved back had infact done time for raping under aged teen girls. They wanted this kept a secret from us teenagers that were expected to see this person at family events. What can i say my dad is terrible at secrets!
Pandamonium Pandas Pandie 1 year ago
well, read way to much about sex in here...reading the bible tonight thats 4 sure.
Rayne OfSalt 1 year ago
When I was young, there was a family that lived up the street from me (in a very quiet, sleepy suburb) that were a bit "odd". House always closed up, including the blinds, they never said hi to anyone, kids never played outside or with any of the other kids in the street. One day one of their little kids wandered into their neighbour's house, completely naked. So the guy that lived there took the kid back to the kid's house and when they got to the front door the guy saw photos of the kid's parents r****g the kids covering the hallway. Guy saw red, beat the living hell out of the kid's dad while the mother fled in their car. Cops were summoned, father arrested, kids taken away etc etc. Cops were going through that house for days. I heard later that the mother got chased down and arrested a few weeks later. Max became a neighbourhood hero, but sadly what he'd seen was too much for him, and he off'd himself a year later, leaving behind a devastated wife and daughter.
Crouching hippo hidden panda 1 year ago
Jesus someone should have got him into therapy, poor family
Load More Replies... Samsquatch & Monko 1 year ago
I used to have quora but it spammed me with notifications on my gmail every day which were mostly fishy links and horrific graphic stories about child abuse. That was ssssupppperrrr great for my mental health. I needed help from my dad to figure out how to unsubscribe and I had to do it twice
Load More Replies... Mike F 1 year ago
My father bailed on my brother and I shortly after my mother divorced him. To avoid paying child support, he ran off to Florida (of course) and changed his name to his dead brother's name to dodge paying. We later found out from a family tree maker program (of all things). Pretty low, even for him.
Guess Undheit 1 year ago
I was bullied in high school, so I was never part of the "in crowd". The "cool kids" spread rumours that a gym teacher was "R"ing a teen girl student, but that was the extend that I knew, not the teacher, not the student. I didn't hear the full story until 20 years later, when she came forward, prosecuted and named the prick. Grooming, forced abortion, etc. [ ........... ] I didn't know her, but it bothered me that I could nothing about it. I was also (for a second) glad I was a social outcast, not one of those guilty of spreading the rumours.
Justbecause 1 year ago
Some in-laws of my dads are strong on keeping secrets. One secret was that the relative who had lived in outback Australia and had recently moved back had infact done time for raping under aged teen girls. They wanted this kept a secret from us teenagers that were expected to see this person at family events. What can i say my dad is terrible at secrets!
Pandamonium Pandas Pandie 1 year ago
well, read way to much about sex in here...reading the bible tonight thats 4 sure.
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