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People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn’t Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial
We all live in a world governed by rules, common sense and socially acceptable norms. The latter ones refer to things that are generally viewed by the members of our society as being appropriate to engage in.
Although societal norms often vary from culture to culture, that doesn’t mean some of the generally accepted things are not to be questioned. With times changing, some of them feel outdated or raise more questions than they have answers.
This illuminating thread asked people to weigh in and list the things that are “socially acceptable but you can’t help but think ‘why?’” Below are some of the most illuminating responses, so scroll down!
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#1
Beauty pageants for children.
Karl Baxter 3 years ago
I doubt that anyone outside of the US thinks this is anything but creepy
Mama Panda 3 years ago
There are many of us in the US who thinks it's creepy!
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Bittersweetie 3 years ago
Not just teaching but rewarding. Not just looks but behaviors. Doubly gross!
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D. Pitbull 3 years ago
So... okay... we tend to agree **generally** (as far as the internet enabled population of the world goes) that sexualizing children and pre-pubescents is wrong/creepy/uncomfortable. Sexualizing young teens (as in 13-15 year olds) is uncomfortable... 18 and up is "okay" but, depending on who is doing to looking - can still be creepy. So America has these creepy-weird child beauty pageants... Asian games/media, it seems to be the NORM to have the 'object of desire main character' *always* be 15 - 18 years old (but claimed to be over 18 when ported to North America because of legalities) no matter how old the possible romantic interest is... and if she's over 22 years old... "OH WOW SHE'S SO OLD". What is WRONG with people?
Sinkvenice 3 years ago
I'm honestly amazed that these pageants are still a thing. Those little girls are being hyper sexualised and it's utterly repugnant. The parents (although it's mostly the mothers forcing their daughters to do this so they can live vicariously through them) should be jailed for child abuse. I'm sure these pageants are a paedophile's dream. It's sickening.
Peej Maybe 3 years ago
Makes my skin crawl, and any parent who puts their kids in for these needs therapy, a lot of therapy
Blazej Kowalczyk 3 years ago
I don't get it - USA seems to be obsessed with paedophilia (Pizzagate anyone?) But see nothing wrong with this creepshow?
KimB 3 years ago
Plenty of us in the US think the same I've been calling them pedo pageants for years. After the death of JonBenet Ramsey they should have been outlawed if you ask me!
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Phyzzi 3 years ago
For the same reason we still have cattle? Subjugation has been sapiens sapiens MO for a long time.
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“Being within a community, we are relatively conformist,” Dr Audrey Tang, a chartered psychologist and author of multiple books, including "Be A Great Manager Now," "The Leader's Guide to Mindfulness," and "The Leader's Guide to Resilience” told Bored Panda in an interview.
According to Dr Tang, this is nothing new and much of this collective approach can be traced back to the dawn of civilization. She calls it “a hangover from our past as a collective.” Dr Tang explained: “It was safer for the community to sleep at the same time because it meant that no one was sneaking into your cave to steal your stuff.”
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#2
Rich megachurch pastors.
Daniel Yamada 3 years ago
“Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and where thieves do not break in or steal; for where your treasure is, there your heart will be also." - Matthew 6:19-21
phil blanque 3 years ago
Perfect...if this was only published where these preachers could read it!
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Tamra 3 years ago
I would extend this idea to say that religion should have absolutely NO influence on, or a place in government.
Denis Folcik 3 years ago
100% agree. Even tho in the US, there is thr concept of "separation of Church and State", it's ignored by religious fanatics who think their "holy book" should dictate laws.
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Miss Frankfurter 3 years ago
This “Christian” nationalist movement in the US scares me. I heard one person in an interview say that those of us who are not “Christians” should be treated as second class citizens. Obviously never read the entire book of Matthew, or if they have, they’ve chosen to ignore that one because it definitely challenges their movement.
JMC5003 3 years ago
I often think none of them have read their bibles, at least not cover-to-cover, as a book is meant to be read. It's like pulling random sentences and paragraphs from any book would be - without reading the entire book, how could you possibly understand the context.
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Kakofonyx 3 years ago
The gullibility of their congregations should concern us all. Mental illness is silent pandemic.
John G 3 years ago
"I need another private jet and two Rolls Royces. Give until it hurts to show the devil."
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Michael Rowe 3 years ago
If you live in a multi-million dollar house, you *might* be unqualified to teach other people how to live like Jesus.
Eric Mac Fadden 3 years ago
In Africa and South America they have a lot of power, mostly in politics... but A LOT
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unknown name 3 years ago
Religions in general, common sense should have cured the cancer long ago.
#3
Abuse towards men, it’s still laughed at when a man says it happened to him.
Emmie Lopez 3 years ago
It isn't okay at all. I had an abusive ex-boyfriend, which left me feeling battered and like I needed to fight. When I finally fell in love with my husband, I would occasionally hit him. I felt awful and didn't understand why, at first. Then I realized that my first major relationship included more physical abuse than I even want to think about. It was bad. But, at some point, we have to realize that we have a choice to make a change, and we have to stop it. We have to set a new precedent. If we don't, the cycle will keep going. I still hate seeing that person's face, but I refuse to let it dictate who I can be now. I never want anyone to look at me how I look at him.
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girlsrock4ever 3 years ago
Abuse DOES happen more to women, but an abused man does NOT deserve to be laughed at because of that. Seriously, WHO THE ***K LAUGHS AT ABUSE?!?!?!
Paul Neff 3 years ago
We may never really know it happens more to women, truthfully, because our culture pushes men to both hide and deny it. Male victims are taught they look weak, and invite ridicule, when they speak of it. There is a disturbingly significant number of abusive females out there, but we are led to believe if this happens it is the man's fault somehow.
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JF 3 years ago
Fella here, took me 10 yrs in an abusive marriage to realise how toxic she was... Held a bayonet twirling it around my belly one night in the dark alone. The thought of my child stayed my hand... Now happily divorced... but the PTSD still wakes me up a few times every night. But i'm good, healing.
KombatBunni 3 years ago
That’s awful! As someone who also has ptsd I can understand how you feel at times, and I hope you’re on your way to healing xx
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Natalie H 3 years ago
Absolutely!! I’m a feminist too, but abuse is abuse, and anyone, regardless of age or gender, can be a victim.
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Unknown 3 years ago
I can tell you for sure, it happens to men. Of all ages. We're also taught we can't fight back if it's a girl, so we have to just allow to go on and on and.......
Tamra 3 years ago
No, you don't have to allow abuse to go on and on. The more that men speak up about it, the less stigmatized it will be. It takes a lot of courage to speak out against an abuser, ask any woman.
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Zena Marsh 3 years ago
I used to work for a charity that supported abused men. Some of the stories were horrendous.
El Dee 3 years ago
We still hear jokes about men being raped in prison. It's such a common theme. I hope the day will come soon when we look back on this with the same disgust that we view 'rape jokes' against women..
Tamra 3 years ago
Agree 100%. I don't even know why or how anyone thought it would be okay to make jokes about that.
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Valden 3 years ago
I think the reason it is still "acceptable" is because men are exceptionally stronger than women. As someone else mentioned, men are, or should be, taught not to hit women due to the difference in strength. Which is OK, but the emotional abuse is the same. Western society still has an issue accepting mental an emotional abuse. People tend to think, no blood no foul. It's the same with children. There are plenty of times when child abuse continues because of the lack of physical trauma.
Pinkpanda 3 years ago (edited)
Even as a woman I can testify that my experience, outside of my family, most mental and emotional abuse has been caused by other women and mostly in the workplace.
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DennyS (denzoren) 3 years ago
I'm in HR and I always have to stress during orientations that things like harassment is a two way street.
#4
Texting while driving doesn’t get enough hate.
Antz Online 3 years ago
they can't walk and text without tripping or hitting a pole, yet think they can drive and text
3 Owls In A Coat 3 years ago
My sister literally walked into a pole and knocked her front tooth out. She actually says “this is why I won’t text and drive” 😂
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MortyMouse 3 years ago
Is texting while driving socially acceptable? In our country it's illegal.
Beeps 3 years ago
It’s illegal here, too (UK) yet I see it happening *all* the time, and those who do it seem particularly unashamed about it.
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InvincibleRodent 3 years ago
Honestly, I'm very concerned by how normalized being on the phone while driving is. I see it so often, and as a pedestrian, it's honestly terrifying. Yes, texting is worse, but being on the phone in any capacity while driving is not dangerous only because your hand/eyes are occupied- it's dangerous because you're DISTRACTED while operating heavy machinery.
Mama Panda 3 years ago
When my son was learning how to drive I showed him videos and pictures of accidents that were caused by texting while driving. It scared the living c**p out of him! Every now and then I will show a refresher video and he is still scared of texting while driving
Honu 3 years ago
Years ago, I saw an interesting news video where they took people who insisted they could totally text and drive safely and put them in a driving simulator. It showed them that they could text and drive without crashing while it was just a matter of keeping the car moving forward, but when something came up that needed their immediate reaction, like a car stopping short in front of them, or pulling in front of them unexpectedly, a surprise bike or pedestrian, they crashed. Our brains don't multitask. They task switch. Their attention was not on the road while texting. Because driving is usually mundane, and other people are paying attention most of the time, we can be lulled into a false sense of security. Most of the time, our attention can lapse and nothing happens, but we've all had those moments where we had to slam on the brakes, or swerve to miss something. They can happen at any time. I wish they'd show that to every driver, especially those just starting out.
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D. Pitbull 3 years ago
Yup... the issue is that... it seems that the only people who get reprimanded or scolded are the 'uncool kids' so to speak... had this person at work who was SUPER BUBBLY... she was part of the cheer team in high school! She's SO CUTE! She's so AWESOME!!! and she'd boast LOUDLY all the time about how... she was basically a nightmare on the road - she'd drive with her KNEE while drinking coffee and texting... and I didn't hear "That's dangerous. What the hell, don't do that"... nooooo... what I hear is "Oh wow. you're so talented!". *facepalm*.
Tams21 3 years ago
Years ago they had huge campaign in the UK to try to make drink driving socially unacceptable and it worked. Maybe texting should be the next thing to get the treatment.
Ronda News Channel 3 years ago
In my country due to the large number of motorcyclists the most annoying thing is when someone is texting while riding. Most of it is done by online motorcycle taxi drivers.
Moreover, we have a fundamental drive to be part of a group. “We have always been safer together, and inclusion – even if you are near the bottom of the pack – still means you are part of something bigger.”
Dr Tang argues that "social norms" are the cultures, behaviors and expectations which make up society. “They can differ from community to community, but in many ways, adherence allows us to know where we fit within our group.”
She continued: “When we live in a society with others (and this is evident in the animal kingdom), we tend to understand our ‘place’ in the pack through acknowledging ourselves in comparison to others – with the goal being access to resources. In humans, we are fighting less over a perceived scarcity of food and water, but (especially in the social media world) a need for acknowledgment and validation.”
#5
Pockets in female clothing… I am a male. My daughters cannot understand why there is fake pockets in all womenswear.
Na Schi 3 years ago (edited)
THIS! This everytime annoyes the fûck out of me! This can literally ruin any shopping experience. So thank god for internet shopping and filter functions. I completely stopped to buy brands/designs that doesn't allow women to have pockets or only provide pixie-pockets that are smaller than the one in a toddler's sweat pants.
Izzy Curer 3 years ago (edited)
It's simple marketing. All we'd have to do to see change is boycott anything with small pockets for a season. Bam, no more tiny pockets. Who's with me?
Tracy Wallick 3 years ago
Whoever invented fake pockets needs to be tried for crimes against humanity.
Ella Carzana 3 years ago
Some of them are actual pockets just sewn shut until they're purchased it's to make them look better on hangers. But we women definitely need more and bigger pockets!!
Nothing_To_See_Here_Folks 3 years ago (edited)
One time i got an old jeans that used to be my brother's, ny phone fitted completely in the pocket and i was shocked
Owen Jarvis 3 years ago
I think everyone should be allowed pockets. Like... I have loads, why can't women? I'd be lost without mine. Although you can always buy men's cargo pants/work pants. But it's not the same.
Demongrrrrl 3 years ago
The only women's garments that have large pockets are blouses, which often have pockets placed directly over the bosoms. Do designers really think we're going to put something in those pockets?
Mario Strada 3 years ago
OK, I have been reading about this for ages now. How is it possible that garment manufacturers haven't got the hint yet? I know little about the business, but if I did, I'd open the "Real pocket Jeans store" on Amazon and probably make a killing.
FrillyDragon 3 years ago
Ugh, this. I'm so happy more places are putting pockets in women's clothing...especially skirts and dresses. One of my favorite things about Torrid here in the states is a lot of their clothes have real pockets and it's glorious. Now just got to get the rest of the industry onboard.
#6
Gender reveals.
Red rockin lobster 3 years ago
Man, this is annoying. It's interesting only for you and eventually the grandparents but the joy would be the same also by telling them over the phone, over dinner etc. Seriously, nobody cares.
VictoriaBee 3 years ago
Totally agreed. Our gender reveal looked like me reading an email off to my husband as we stood around the kitchen counter. Gender was revealed. All was good.
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phil blanque 3 years ago
Yeah, I like the old joke:"I went to a gender reveal party. Nobody told me we were supposed to wear clothes."
Kakofonyx 3 years ago
One of the biggest wildfires in California history was started by a gender reveal. People lost their lives, houses, and prized possessions.
L hill 3 years ago (edited)
Wonder what legal trouble those folks got into for this? Anyone have any updates?
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This should stop. Nobody cares about the sex of your baby. And the sex might be misleading..! Might be transgender.
David Austin 3 years ago
Let's face it, the surprise element is limited: it's gonna be a boy . . . or a girl.
Gin 3 years ago
I know right? It's not like anyone is expecting else! It's always a bit of an anticlimax when it doesn't turn out to be a puppy quite frankly! Most people truly aren't that bothered and if you are bothered, that always seems a little bit sad really. Just be glad it's a healthy baby.
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Monkeyfunkster 3 years ago
I recently had our gender scan. Was asked if we were doing a reveal. All I could think about was the mess and clearing up after that balloon is popped! We got a blue heartbeat bear at the clinic, facetimed family and stuck a photo on fb. No clear up, everyone still excited (bar one grumpy sibling but that's another story), baby gets a cute teddy!
ShellO 3 years ago
I had both my 'gender reveals' when they were born. Much more exciting for us :-) (and everyone else!!)
BadCat 3 years ago
Same. But it was also 20 years ago and gender reveals were becoming more in demand but the technology wasn't there yet to safely have more than one ultrasound, unless the health of the baby was in question. That's how it was explained to me. I was told this info was wrong by others. It could have also been a public health requirement, too. Dk. But it's not like it really affected what we bought beforehand. We just went with neutral themes. Not like the baby will care, either way.
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Louise Davidson 3 years ago
That are soooooo 2020!! And just another symptom of the consumerism sickness.
#7
Posting EVERY minute of your life on social media.
DuchessDegu 3 years ago
Exactly, they're only keep posting bc people are watching it!
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Rodrick Heffley 3 years ago
Look Amanda, we don't care that you went to Walmart for some vegan cheese
phil blanque 3 years ago
Weird, right? And photoshopping pictures to make your appearance fit some strange fad. Ha, ha...I can almost imagine people getting surgery or injecting themselves to do this in actual life!.....Wait.....What?
troufaki13 3 years ago
The only things I post are 1. pictures of food if I make something fancy 2. comments on BP 😅
Subrata Pradhan 3 years ago
People get bored of themselves, how come no one gets bored of this pure deep cringe ?
Mayra 3 years ago
Life tip: never post where you’re at while you’re there, if you have to post about it wait until you get home.
BadCat 3 years ago (edited)
And never reveal where you live, or show the outside of your home. All it takes is for someone to recognize a tree, a park, a street, a house and they can tell everyone where that is. I see youtubers do this then wonder why they have stalkers.
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Scout Finch 3 years ago
What I want to know is what am I doing wrong with my life if thousands of people watch someone do housework?
Dr Tang also claims that building self-esteem has focused on appreciating the self but often in comparison to others “(e.g. I didn’t win… but at least I didn’t come last).” She added that “While in many ways this was more important historically where there was more of a 'fight' for resources, the 'competition' has now moved to social media and 'likes' - and as such this may now also play a huge part in what is acceptable.”
#8
Working while sick.
This expectation needs to stop. Being expected to work while sick doesn't make a good employee, it makes a bad employer. That's saying nothing of how this expectation leads to the rest of the employees getting sick too. There was a reason everyone at my previous job called the place the petri dish, if one person got sick literally everyone else would too because you either worked or went to the unemployment line.
Mayra 3 years ago
I used to work in a casino kitchen, we were never allowed to go home if we were sick … you have no idea what goes on in kitchens until you’ve worked in one
tara 3 years ago
How could a boss let sick people cook food for others? And yet we MUST take the food handlers course when working with food, but the course handbook says "Don't come to work if you are sick."
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Blazej Kowalczyk 3 years ago
In Poland you get payed 80% while being on sick leave. Not great but much better than USA
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ShaZam Beaubien 3 years ago
People work sick because they do not have sick pay. It is now common place for employers to make employees use vacation days instead of allowing employees sick days. Change that, then working while sick will change.
Sue User 3 years ago
Yes used to be 2 weeks sicktime, two weeks vacation. The it was " here is PTO, use it for vacation or sick" but it only 3 weeks. Then 2 weeks. Now I get 40 hours PTO. Was told it carries over if you dont use it, so i went without holiday so i could have longer one next year, only to find you cant use more than 40 hours in given year.
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Working sick is just idiotic. What's even MORE idiotic? When you work for a DISABILITY MANAGEMENT COMPANY (you know... the company that is supposed to *specialize* in ensuring that you do *not* work when you're sick because of the inherent flaw in that whole concept) and they strooongly IMPLY that you are 'subpar' if you don't work while sick. Then when your work has mistakes because you know... you were DELIRIOUS... oh well, then all the more reason to put that on your review! wtf?
Tams21 3 years ago
This gets me too, it's just so counterproductive. Sick employees don't work effectively and then take longer to get better. Then as OP said, others get and the cycle repeats. Feeling pressured to work while sick also impacts morale, also affecting staff efficiency. In the short term you might have an extra pair of hands for a shift but in the long term it's such a terrible way to run a business.
I'm Kid A 3 years ago
This lead to a permanent disability (that, of course, couldn't be "proved" in court for disability compensation) for me. I'm disabled for the REST OF MY LIFE because I worked in some minimum wage job (*cough* Great Wolf Lodge *cough*) where my coworkers were literally throwing up behind the counter, but couldn't go home until they found someone to cover their shift. Disabled for the rest of my life with no compensation whatsoever - I was even written up for not calling in sick "correctly" - because my managers were the worst people I've ever had the... "privilege" of meeting.
Miss Frankfurter 3 years ago
Oddly, hospitals are among the worst culprits for this. I have a severe migraine. I can’t stand the light, I am going through the agony of vomiting and I want to smash my head into the wall, repeatedly. Maybe that will help . No. I can’t just take a couple of Tylenol and come to work. I’m sick, just like all our patients.
#9
People asking couples when are they going to make baby.
Destiney Haddox 3 years ago
I embarrass them by saying something like "oh so you are thinking of us having sex, hu? You weirdo!" Freaks them out enough to stop talking about it. Then if they get persistent I say I hate kids, even though I really don't.
Blazej Kowalczyk 3 years ago
You can also try saying that you are trying but you cannot conceive. Extra points if you can cry on demand.
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Tania Gunn 3 years ago
100% i am now totally upfront and say i would love too but 5 miscarriages and 16 ivf transfers it is not going to happen for us.... that usually shuts them up
Chaya Herrebrugh-Wachtmeester 3 years ago
Same here. Not as many tries as you, but after 9 miscarriages I had a full hysterectomy. It is not possible anymore. I usually say: oh, you are offering yourself as a surrogate to carry our baby for us for free and at your own expense?
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loty moty 3 years ago
There are a lot of potentially awkward personal questions out there. When are you going to get a girlfriend/boyfriend? When are you getting married? Are you thinking about buying a house and settling down? Etc. etc.
Gin 3 years ago
Never stops as well. Now I'm past child bearing age I get asked 'why didn't I have children?'.
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Ducki 3 years ago
In my community this was considered rude, because it's basically like asking them "When are you guys gonna f*ck?"
Randolph Croft 3 years ago
My best friend, while married, survived 6 miscarriages. During that time, they, as a couple were often asked, when older, 'Do you have any children?' and my friend, angered by this time, replied 'None that lived.' That shut up the room, usually.
ScarletRos 3 years ago
I would add asking when someone is going to have another child after having one. I have one child, that’s enough for me! In his first few years of life everyone would ask “when are you having another one? He needs a brother or sister!” I was like no, never, get lost.
Premislaus de Colo 3 years ago
I remember when my already ex FIL asked at a family dinner why me and my ex-wife still don't have any children (after 4 years of marriage). I replied: "I have no idea, I f*ck your daughter regularly..."
#10
People listening to loud music on their phone in public transports without headphone.
Do-nut touch da donut 3 years ago
I understand wht u mean but i am fine with peeps playing music as long as they arent 1, playing songs with explicits and 2, blasting it to the moon
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Megan O'Neill 3 years ago
or anywhere...gas stations, stop lights. I also can't understand why people have super loud mufflers(?) on their cars that are so unbelievably loud!! It's deafening.
Charley128 3 years ago
I must live in Wazoo central where so many do this. There are laws, but the police watch them drive by, and do zero. The town could make a good income from ticketing these fools, and maybe they might think about toning it down.
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Lorrie Rothstein 3 years ago
This happens every time I get on the bus.headphones don't cost much.
Misty Moon 3 years ago
Cringe! It annoyed me so much while taking public transit that I bought my own earbuds just to drown out other people. I still have nightmares about taking the bus! 😵
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Gah! WHY do people do this? I don't want to have to listen to your conversation. Plus, most of the time, by putting it on speaker, it makes it harder for both sides to hear. So now you're both yelling into the phone and everyone around you hates you. I really feel like devices are destroying civilization.
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DC 3 years ago
When mobile phones started being capable of that, pre smartphone, a kiddogangster on the train did this. A mid-aged guy asked him to turn it down, he did, then turned up. Middle-ager u-turned immediately, grabbed the phone, opened the window and threw it out, 2 to 3 km pre station, in the snow. This was when smoking was still allowed on the train, like 2005, 2006 or so... Laughed the entire remaining part of the ride!
Dr Tang argues that we often feel fear of judgment because of a tendency to live our life according to a series of ‘shoulds.’Although if you ask anyone, they are likely not to be able to tell you where their rules came from.
“For example, who said that ‘women should be caring and nurturing?’; who said that ‘men shouldn’t cry?’ Who said that we should/shouldn’t be a certain weight/size/shape, etc.” Dr Tang added: “and more importantly, is anyone still saying it?!”
#11
Bullying people for not drinking alcohol in social situations
James016 3 years ago
I had some snide comments when I first stopped drinking alcohol. Its very easy to shut it down.
3 Owls In A Coat 3 years ago (edited)
Same! I actually made 3 sort-of-friends-that-I-don’t-know-well who invited me to lunch very uncomfortable the other day - they seriously wouldn’t stop insisting on me drinking even though I politely declined at least 6 times and even told them I’m on opioids and can’t mix those with alcohol or I MIGHT DIE. Eventually one snuck away to the bar and brought back a shot for all of us. I had a moment of exasperation and looked them all dead in the eyes and said “Okay, fine, I’m a recovering alcoholic, that’s why I’ve been saying no. Please don’t force alcohol on me.” It was pretty quiet afterwards. 🙄 if you’re gonna make it awkward, I’ll make it awkward too. If someone says no to alcohol, just drop it. I’m still newly sober and almost said yes and ruined my sober streak :( sorry for the super long comment!
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Izzy Curer 3 years ago (edited)
I started telling people I only drink when I'm alone, in the dark, while listening to sad music. If you say it creepy enough, they stop bothering you.
Elliot Fowler 3 years ago (edited)
Just lie and tell them you were an alcoholic a couple years back and that you are now 2 years sober. Their judgment will turn to cheers. If someone still tries to push you to drink, others will label them as assholes since they are trying to temp you back to drinking.
D. Pitbull 3 years ago
Ah yeah... happened/happens to me all the time. Even when I tell them (truthfully) that I get very sick, and my GI tract doesn't recover for at least 24 hours... oh HAHAHA... it's SOO FUNNY to push me to drink anyhow... to "prove it!" - and well, it's my sibling... so I'm SUCH a bad family member for being such a downer. And... when I DO get really sick... like.. vomiting, bloating, purging sick? No one's sorry, they just shrug awkwardly like "Oh, well, bye then"... like they had NOTHING to do with it.
ejfs 3 years ago
I knew someone who had the same reactions to alcohol. Turns out she was actually intolerant/borderline allergic to it. Maybe you could get checked for that?
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Paul Brown 3 years ago
I get a lot comments when I tell people I don't drink. I just tell them I'm allergic to alcohol. Every time I drink I break out in handcuffs.
Orbitale 3 years ago
I'm driving after, that's why I don't drink... it's what I answer every time
Vix Spiderthrust 3 years ago
People get that these days in a way they wouldn't have twenty years ago.
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Jen Farren 3 years ago
When I am bugged I just say no is a complete sentence. The worst experience was with family, I was at my aunts house for new years and my cousin handed me a glass of champagne 5 min to midnight. I was like you know I don't drink and haven't for over 10 years. His response was yeah but it is champagne on new years that doesn't count. When I said it very much does and put my glass in the kitchen he got mad that I was ruining new years by *preaching* aka just saying none for me thanks. The thing that made me really pissed is I asked him if he would have given my partner a glass if they had stayed up and he said of course. I'm sober cause my partner is a recovering alcoholic which my cousin knows and he still was gonna push alcohol. I don't go over there anymore
#12
Assuming a childfree woman in the family will babysit your kid whenever you want to go out.
Caro Caro 3 years ago
I've had this. Dumping kids at Aunty Caro's house and Byeeeeee. Happened one time too many and I made it clear that I too (gasp) have a life and want to do things outside my work. I loved babysitting my nieces and nephews but the parents had to book in advance.
freefall 3 years ago
Should you ever aspire to start a daycare, may I suggest "Dumping kids at Aunty Caro's" as the name of the business? :)
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Maisy 3 years ago
Can I add that assuming because your a single parent who doesn't have the luxury of going out often that they will be free and able to watch your kids.
phil blanque 3 years ago
Right...and acting like they are doing you a favor because you get to spend time with their kid.
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Enuya 3 years ago (edited)
And assuming that a childfree woman will babysit the children during family meetings so "their parents could rest". Sorry, not my children not my problem - there's a reason why I don't have my own.
Monday 3 years ago
Exactly! If I don't have any kids of my own what makes them think I'm in any way qualified to watch their kids anyway?
Load More Replies... Premislaus de Colo 3 years ago
Or your co-workers assuming that you'll take all the holiday shifts, because "you don't have kids"
Lace Neil 3 years ago
I hate that cuz I didn't appear from nowhere. I have a family and want to spend holidays with them, especially my chronically ill father and my niblings.
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IamMe 3 years ago
My family used to do this to me, not because I'm child free, but because I'm the only single parent. They'd get together and plan couples dates, so they could have a break from their kids. But, they wouldn't ask or even warn me, before dropping all their kids, en masse, at my house. Not one of them ever babysat when I asked, or thought I might need a break, too. So, as soon as my kids were old enough to stay home alone for a few hours I switched my job hours to nights and weekends. Prime date time. Haha.
DuchessDegu 3 years ago
The very few times that happened I spoiled the kids with lots of treats and unlimited game/screen time so they'd be a pest when returned to parents! It worked!
Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis 3 years ago
Yes, I don't have kids because I don't like being around any, not for free and not for money either
Alexandria Tyme 3 years ago
Yup had this for years, I was even expected to look after two under 2 yo while their mother went on holiday with her new boyfriend. When I pointed out I would have to take an unpaid week off work, the reply as 'and?'. I didn't get to say no until I was 25 yo and I lived the other side of the country.
#13
Unpaid internship for students.
A poor student can't afford the costs that go along with the internship.
Destiney Haddox 3 years ago
Unpaid internships are meant to teach the student but many companies take advantage and make them do work for free. It's actually illegal to have your intern do any work that contributes to the income or business services, that's why they get coffee in many movies and pop culture. People need to know their rights as an intern and report companies that take advantage and have their intern making the company money.
Something 3 years ago
It's actually illegal to have the intern get coffee. If the intern does tasks that do not contribute to their training, that makes the employee the primary beneficiary.
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loty moty 3 years ago
I think it differs by industries. In finance and computer engineering internships are usually paid and paid well. Other industries like design are notorious for exploiting workers.
CP 3 years ago
Yes engineering internships are paid pretty well. I made 20 bucks an hour at my internship.
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Daman dan 3 years ago (edited)
When I was a student, I was working 8 hour days in a refinery. Heavy manual labour, for free! I remember talking to another guy about being a little tight on cash and he said why don't you get a job? Like i was just lazy and didnt feel like putting in another 6-8 hours work after the 8 hours i just did. People think dealing with boomers is difficult now, you should have tried working with them in the 90's!
Two_rolling_black_eyes 3 years ago
Unpaid internships are de facto discrimination. Its a way for financially comfortable people to ensure the company only hires and meets people who are already in their socioeconomic circle You can only afford to take an unpaid internship if there is someone in your life paying your bills. Little Johnny needs to be paid for that work he's doing for free at the engineering firm because mom and dad don't have $300 to spare for the suit he's required to wear. Even if Johnny is just getting donuts, that's a paid job if he isn't there and its allowing someone else to help meet the company's bottom line instead of standing in line for donuts. Most of the time, Johnny is doing $30/hr drafting work for free as "part of the price you pay to learn".
Max 3 years ago
It's also why news media is sh*t now. To get into journalism, you need an unpaid internship. To afford an unpaid internship, you need generational wealth. So now nearly everyone in journalism comes from a wealthy background and doesn't 'get' things like being poor and marginalised.
Idolf Hatler 3 years ago
Put a little effort in it - Monica Lewinsky's Net Worth is $41 Million USD.
Jods 3 years ago
Used to have similar in the UK and it was called work experience. This was done for a week while still at high school and basically meant standing around watching staff trying to avoid you. After mine I said I’d do anything but work in an office. Pity I didn’t stick to my own advice.
René Kok 3 years ago
We have a media company. The wierd thing is a student has to pay school for the duration of the internship. But they learn more in 6 months with us than 3 years of school. We invest a lot of time and resources in these students. Had have even hired 2 after their graduation.
Denny Dunn 3 years ago
I trained for BMW for a year with no pay and then they charged me 10k when I quit my job after only working there a year.
Nonetheless, it is often easier to simply conform. “And there results an unconscious lesson – shout long enough and loud enough and people may go along with you to shut you up.”Moreover, a lot of our beliefs are imposed unconsciously through the stories we watch in the media, in our culture, in our families and in our overall experience, Dr Tang argues.
#14
Those baby/children’s clothes with sayings like “future heartbreaker” or “does this shirt make me look fat?” Why?
Biliegh Berrie 3 years ago
I never allowed my kids to dress beyond their years or my daughter in inappropriate clothing. I never understood parents who put their 5 year old daughters in daisy dukes and half shirts. Or any kind of clothing like it.
girlsrock4ever 3 years ago
This post was about inappropriate logos on kid's shirts. If your daughter wants to wear a crop top at 10, let her. Her body, her choice. This applies extra if you live in a hot area. Not letting your daughter wear a tank top while letting your son run around shirtless is sexist, and teaches your daughter that their bodies are bad and need to be hidden, instead of promoting self-love. You should just let your kids wear what THEY want to wear. If you ban these clothes, they'll still wear them behind your back, anyway. Or they'll go crazy when they become adults and buy REALLLY small clothes. Banning those clothes simply doesn't work.
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Rosy Maple Moth 3 years ago
I once saw a baby wearing a shirt that read: “All daddy wanted was a blow job.” Parents who make their babies wear such c**p have lost all control.
phil blanque 3 years ago
For too many people parenting is about their ego, and they use their children to achieve things they feel they have lacked...or at leasr have their children APPEAR to achieve these things. It is both sad and cruel..
De Nilla 3 years ago
Oh yeah, advertising idolatry on your kids is ok though 🤦
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Sandrapocalypse 3 years ago
Future trophy wife. I saw this one on teens tanktops. I thought it was disgusting but apparently the tropy wives around me thought it was "adorbs!" 🤮
HTFenthusiast 3 years ago (edited)
If you look these things up, they get super sexual! Like wtf! This is an infant, not a prostitute!
#15
Not using your turn signal while driving.
Na Schi 3 years ago
I get the feeling that this is on the rise in my country. And additionally to this also a lot of people seem to have forgotten even the basic traffic rules after two years of a pandemic.
Celeste 3 years ago
Not just your country, hun. The whole world became less conscientious.
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3 Owls In A Coat 3 years ago
I JUST got back (like 5 mins ago) from driving my friend’s vintage Bronco II through the city - I went to signal and somehow just snapped the signal handle off the stalk 😅😅 then I remembered how cyclists signal with their arms and rolled down the window and did that. Looked like a total dork but at least I was technically signalling! 💪
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Paul Vasquez 3 years ago
Drivers need to stop speeding up so I can't change lanes in front of them when I use my turn signal.
Victor Anastasia 3 years ago
I learned in Los Angeles that you must NEVER let anyone know what your intentions are or they will cut you off and make you miss your turn off. No CAP.
Load More Replies... Kakofonyx 3 years ago
My biggest pet peeve. You think we should be able to read your mind or predict your sudden lane changes???
De Nilla 3 years ago
Mine actually is and apparently I'm a liberal because of it?
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TheLessTalentedWrightBrothers 3 years ago
Yeah, I walk to school everyday, and I get a little nervous everything I cross the street to get to my school because I can't tell if they are going to turn into the school or drive forward when they don't use turn signals
Load More Replies... Owen Jarvis 3 years ago
I've nearly been run over three times in my life. All times the car in question was going too fast and not indicating as they squeeled round a corner.
Jay Son 3 years ago
This. And don't skip lanes when you turn! It's like almost everyone jumps into the left lane just after a right turn, or right lane after a left turn. It's unbelievable how many accidents this behavior causes.
#16
Asking a women when she is going to marry and why doesn't she have a boyfriend. Asking a couple when they are going to have kids. There are a lot of couples that can't get pregnant and asking that is like rubbing the wound with salt
Mama Panda 3 years ago
When I was single and was asked why I didn't have a boyfriend I told them I had a shower head I didn't need one
Monkeyfunkster 3 years ago
We were asked when we were having kids a few times at father in law's funeral by distant in laws. Us knowing at that point it was impossible without ivf. Just kept answering "oh, one day". Funnily enough, now we actually are expecting, 5 years later, we've not heard a peep from those that asked us! So it was clearly a conversation piece and not a genuine question. Even worse!
Elizabeth Rose 3 years ago
Congratulations and I hope everyone is happy & healthy! Although parenting is a very hard job and you're never really off the clock so to speak, the love that you'll feel towards your baby is... There's just no words for it. It's like you never knew love before that moment. It doesn't mean you're going to have this super blessed existence or that you won't feel things like anxiety or post partum issues (hopefully not) and it is different for everyone. But, there are these moments of absolute clarity where it all makes sense. It's one of the most beautiful and powerful things a person could ever experience. Enjoy. It goes by so fast.
Load More Replies... FrillyDragon 3 years ago
Can I add in bullying people who aren't having sex/want to wait for marriage or the right person/just don't care about sex? Like our culture is SO obsessed with who wants to bonk who/bonking in general. It's a big step to be vulnerable like that, yo. Don't rush it.
Elizabeth Rose 3 years ago
It is for you & only you to decide when, how, where, and everything else.I was active when I was younger and I think I just wanted to fit in and to have physical affection and I did that bc in my young brain that's how you got it. Now, I really hate it I don't like the sensations, it really really bothers me. I do it bc I care about my partner's needs, & I want to make him happy but I don't like it. I felt guilty about it for a long time but I can't change who I am. It's okay to have your boundaries and limits firm, that's really healthy. As long as you're communicating that to a potential partner, you're good. Honesty is a building block. Red flag? Don't put it aside, listen to your intuition, it's there for a reason. I don't know, just the rantings of a middle aged, mostly asexual woman. I wish I'd known these things so I say them now instead. You're the most important person in your life. The lead role of your own beautiful movie.
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Adam Leviness 3 years ago
There's a lot of couples that just don't want to bring a kid into this world too there doesn't have to be some sad back story the world is just f$#ked
Michael Largey 3 years ago
I know a woman who had to have a radical hysterectomy six months after her wedding. The "When are you going to have a baby?" questions were emotionally devasting for her.
Kandrea's World 3 years ago
Also, a lot of people don't WANT kids. Simple as that. I have no desire to become a human pez dispenser. I also have no desire to marry. I don't feel the need to be someone's property.
Elizabeth Rose 3 years ago
This is why I don't usually ask bc I think about how I'd respond now that my kids are all grown, hell no. No. Absolutely not. Great if that's you but, no! If it did come up which is rare I think I'd kinda want to say something like "hey were you guys wanting kids?" Like the whole "when are you going to have kids?" Is super invasive, not my business and it's just really kinda presumptuous. Maybe that couple has different dreams, you know? I'm not sure there's a way to ask that question without it being awkward AF. Not sure. If it happens, I'll report back. 🤣
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#17
Using speakerphone in public places.
Or having loud (should be private) conversations in public like everyone wants to hear.
I was just waiting at the social security office and EVERYONE in there overheard this woman helping this man, I’m assuming her man?, fill out his paperwork. She was shouting questions like “do you have any mental disabilities?” “Do you take medication?” Lady, no one thinks that’s cool.
Daniel Yamada 3 years ago
Don't assume people are just rude. If I get a call, I have to put it on speaker because I am hard of hearing.
Ricky Namara 3 years ago
Isn't it a lot harder to listen to speaker phone than ear buds in a public space?
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Peej Maybe 3 years ago
Add to this anyone, literally anyone who takes a bluetooth speaker out in public and blares their music out of it. Not socially acceptable so much, particularly when they're out in a nice countryside setting and you can't hear the tranquility over their shitty mixlist
Marlowe Fitzpatrik 3 years ago
Okay- THIS is truly rude. I have less problems with speakers on a phone - usually not that loud and sometimes interesting, even. But blasting loud music that is usually absolutely not my taste - so rude.
Load More Replies... D. Pitbull 3 years ago
And thus why texting is a godsend... people complain 'Just PICK UP THE PHONE' and I'm like 'You can never hear what I'm saying and I can't hear what you're saying... but your SIGHT is fine... why can you not just text? You needed to tell me exactly one sentence of information!"
Izzy Curer 3 years ago
I may be the only person who isn't annoyed by this. I like listening in on other people's conersations. Mind you, the only time I ever encounter it is in stores, and it usually seems to be one person shopping for elderly relatives via video, so that the person at home can see what's available. I think it's sweet.
jessica smith 3 years ago
I love this! I used to video shop for my Yia Yia and she wou ld she would try and talk to people she could see in my background!"that looks like a nice single guy" ...." Let's go bump into him"!
Load More Replies... troufaki13 3 years ago
I have a naturally loud voice. I have to keep reminding myself to lower my voice :(
De Nilla 3 years ago
God forbid people hear someone that isn't talking directly to them. So sad people are ashamed of how they're born. Eff them, you could rock Broadway
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Arwen 3 years ago
I don’t really have an issue with speakerphone, unless people are being really loud - after all, it’s just two people having a conversation in public, which is completely normal. Loud voices can be annoying but a lot of people are hard of hearing or struggle with background noise, so sometimes it’s necessary to raise your voice.
Enuya 3 years ago
I talk with my grandma when I go for walk because only then I've enough time for a longer talk. I don't put her on speak and almlst always wear headphones but often I need to talk louder for her to be able to hear me. I don't do it in public transport, only on the street. Yet once in a while someone's rude only because I talk to my phone instead of a live person by my side - I don't make more noise than two people, let alone group, walking and talking. The only difference is that I'm on the phone.
JealousGull 3 years ago
Context matters with this because of the location. This happened at the SS building, not a movie theatre or a restaurant. The SS Office in general can be an extremely loud place at times. Not just the people who are going there, but, also the people working at the office have to be loud when speaking. Those who are at the local SS Office are either retired (which is elderly people who more than likely have hearing loss due to natural causes) or it is children/adults with either physical & mental disabilities or both such as Down Syndrome, ASD, Intellectual Disorder, Blind, Cerebral Palsy, Deaf, etc. This is one location that I would hope people would be understanding of someone that may be using their phone on speaker and talking loudly. This woman could’ve been the elderly wife to a man that is in such poor health he was not able to go to his local SS Office to apply for SS or SSDI so his wife who also has hearing problems is the one trying to get him the assistance that he needs.
Kiki Mitchell 3 years ago
A LOT of y'all need to remember that respecting your elders gives you a longer life. While I understand that it is Excessively annoying having to be privy to a private conversation. In some cases (for our ELDERS), we could grant them the patience and understanding that as you age, sometimes your hearing Isn't good, But your ears Are Sensitive, so sometimes headphones Aren't an option.... Or, you could consider how Karma and the Universe will look poorly upon your choice to treat people who deserve such a Small consideration poorly....
#18
Driving after drinking at all. You are operating a 2-ton murder mobile. Please give the road your full attention.
L hill 3 years ago (edited)
Like me. Im a terrible driver no matter what. So i sit on a train and listen to music.
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Arwen 3 years ago
Here, the drink driving limit is so low you basically can’t have any alcohol and legally drive and it really has made a difference. People used to tell themselves they were probably ok after a couple of drinks - now they know they can’t drink at all and it has made a difference.
Na Schi 3 years ago (edited)
At least in my country this is not socially acceptable anymore - which I think is a very good thing. Although that doesn't mean that there aren't still idiots out there who do this, but it's now far away from a social thing that everyone was doing and no one batted an eye on.
Ronda News Channel 3 years ago
In my country the sale of alcoholic beverages is also strictly regulated. Only in certain places alcoholic beverages are available. There are also car accidents due to drunken drivers, but they are very rare.
Load More Replies... El Dee 3 years ago
Not here, not now. It's been socially unacceptable to be 'drunk driving' for decades, then it was 'drink driving' and now the limit has been lowered SO much that there is no measure of alcohol available that won't put you over it. Even the smallest measure of wine, spirits or beer means you're breaking the law..
D. Pitbull 3 years ago
Yeah I remember getting outright LAUGHED at when I asked someone "You.. just drank quite a bit... is it still actually okay for you to drive?" yeah... laughed in my face... every time.
Sinkvenice 3 years ago
Where is the OP from I wonder. Drunk driving obviously happens and I have no sympathy for people who do it but it's certainly not socially acceptable.
Pizzagirl 91 3 years ago
I think, the way they phrased it, they are talking about having ANY amount of alcohol before driving. I concur, I'd never drink anything before getting in the driver's seat, because it's not necessary to have fun anyway, but also because even a little bit might make the difference between killing someone and not killing someone...
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Mama Panda 3 years ago
These are the other videos that I could also show my son when he was learning how to drive. The gorier the better! He needed to see exactly what would happen. I also told him about the person I know who was drunk driving and totaled their car and themself, fortunately no one else was injured. That person was me and it was a tough thing to tell him but he needs to know make it happen to anyone who isn't acting responsibly.
Devon Archer 3 years ago
Also, there should be regular driving tests for the elderly. I have nothing against them, it’s just I have had so many close calls with them because of reasons related to aging. It takes focus and awareness to drive safely.
#19
How we have become so okay with so much consumption just for the sake of it.
Black Friday deals, "sales", new phone upgrades every year. It's all so weird.
Also working for 80000hrs of our lives is pretty weird too.
Sinkvenice 3 years ago
In 2008, there was an enormous queue of people outside a branch of Walmart for Black Friday. When the security guard unlocked the door to let everyone in, they barged through the doors and he died due to the stampede. People were literally running and stomping on his dead body. That's utter insanity. Such an extreme and scary case of "pack" behaviour.
Monday 3 years ago
Yeah...if you don't replace your phone every couple of years it's essentially useless to you unless you get lucky.
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Firstname Lastname 3 years ago
Holidays used to be for celebrating and have become all excuses to have a sale. How about being affordable all the time instead?
Biliegh Berrie 3 years ago
You have to make the choice. Once everyone sees it, they will dial it back. I stopped eating out and I shop mostly at the thrift store and places like the dollar general. And only when I 'need ' something
Monday 3 years ago
For some of it sure, but not for all. We can easily scale down on things like eating out but it's tough to not replace your phone/computer every few years with the newer model because the apps you need for work aren't supported on the old models anymore.
Load More Replies... FrillyDragon 3 years ago (edited)
At least we're not working as much as our ancestors had to. The stories of people working like 80+ hours a week to barely make ends meet in the 1800s/1900s is sad. Obviously not easy now but at least it's not as bad as that for the general public (at least here in most states). But yeah it shouldn't be normalized.
Colin Timp 3 years ago (edited)
Many would be glad to only have to do 80,000. That's 40 years of work, equal to working from 22 to 62. Add another 20,000 to 40,000 hours to that for low-paid workers; and still they have nothing.
Sterrinatu 3 years ago
I work in Real estate. It's amazing how many people think they need a 2,000+ sqft home for 2 people just because they have so much stuff. Why in the heck do you need all that c**p?
When we are at odds with others, it is common to feel guilt. “Related to this is our self-esteem – which (unlike self compassion) is developed in comparison to others – if we see we are doing better, we feel better about ourselves.”
Dr Tang explained that “when we hear differing opinions, yes, the opinion itself may make us angry, but it causes us to question our own foundations, and unconsciously, our position in our own world… if someone else is different… could they end up being more 'powerful' (or at least get more access to the resources I want)?”
#20
Saying that your child is going to break so many hearts when they are older or saying to the mother to "save him for me" as a joke.
Just sexualising children in anyway especially when they are far too young to understand and begin to learn that its ok to grab a womans tits because when you did it your parents laughed and encouraged you when you were younger.
Its gross.
Daniel Yamada 3 years ago
Also, a woman can do this and get away with it. If a man does it, he could end up in the back seat of a police car or get beat up by whoever happens to hear him.
Monday 3 years ago
Absolutely. When women say it it's "just a joke, lighten up", when men say it it's "disgusting sexual harassment". Bloody double standards.
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Mama Panda 3 years ago
I don't think the comment of your child is going to break hearts when they get older is being sexualized. I think the biggest problem is that adults sexualize everything that children do and that's where the problems arise. We all need to stop looking through the sex glasses and just learn that whatever is said it's probably just innocence
Laura Kay 3 years ago
As someone who grew up being told that I would become a heartbreaker ever since I was in kindergarten, I resent this kind of thinking. Children are not dumb, and they aren't immune to being sexualized. When they keep being told things like this,
Load More Replies... Michael Largey 3 years ago
No one, at any age, should be encouraged to think of breaking hearts as a positive thing.
Sinkvenice 3 years ago
1/2 I don't think saying a kid will be a heartbreaker when they're older is sexualising them; I think the following is much worse. I saw a clip from an American television show that had LGBT characters in it, I can’t remember the name of the show. Anyway, there were two lesbians sitting and having a chat about whatever at a friend’s house. A child appeared in the scene who was around 10 years old and had a brief chat before he walked off. As he walked away, one of the adults said to the other adult “He’s going to be *such* a bottom.” How on earth is that acceptable??
FlyingGhee74 3 years ago
"My son is gonna have so many girlfreinds lololol"=ok but "oh Sam has 2 dads" = dirty
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gie 3 years ago
Up there should be sharing nude pictures of your kids who are way past the newborn stage to all friends and family bc, "It's soooo cute!". Kids deserve privacy, and some parents need to learn that. YOU think it's cute, I think it's criminal and I'm not going to go to jail for your stupidity either. I understand Grandma and Grandpa, perhaps siblings of parents who have kids, but with the knowledge we now possess regarding child abuse and child pornography, hard no to nudes of your kids, idgaf NO means NO. An ex-friend of mine did this to me and my partner despite our firm and clear message we didn't want to see any of her elementary school age kids bathing. We no longer talk to her.
Lene 3 years ago
I'm fat and I have a big butt. There's a boy in my oldest kid's kindergarten who, on several occasions, have slapped my butt. When I have giving him the "stop that now!"-look or have told him to never do that again he'll just put on this huge grin and act all innocent. The boy is 4-5 years old! Who in the world taught him to slap butts and act innocent about it afterwards? It's just so wrong!
Angi Hillin 3 years ago
No one. He realized it got a reaction and kept doing it. One of my brothers would run up and bite people's butts. He finally bit the wrong one and learned that lesson.
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Dean Turner 3 years ago
Breaking hearts isn't sexual. That's also not the intent of the saying. Stop being so sensitive.
#21
Off leash badly trained dogs in public parks where others are trying to enjoy a picnic.
Zenozenobee 3 years ago
For the guy who walk is malinois shepherd off leash on one of my neighborhood's playground, it is. A work dog, untrained in the middle of children running wild and he dared to answer the concerned parents that they should prevent their kids from running (yep in the playground) when he walks his poor dog. Because the dog needs to run after spending all day locked in the appartement when his human works.... Maybe chose a pet that goes with your lifestyle? Or a stuffed pet?
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Snack Attact 3 years ago
I have big pitbulls. Well trained but the amount of smaller off leash dogs that have run up and started aggressive behavior is ridiculous. The owner is most of the time oblivious, "they get along with big dogs hee hee." Well if something happened guess who's dog is going to have to go in hiding. Your not getting my babies. Nope.
Fluffy mommy panda 3 years ago
Yeah little dogs seem to sometimes start most of the bad behavior. And the people with the small dog should keep there dog on a leash if they care about them. And it really rude if know your dog don't act well around other dogs or people. Like your asking for trouble. Even a small dog can bite someone.
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Celia T 3 years ago
I live in town. There a lot of “feral” cats or outside cats. The people that feed them take zero responsibility (no vaccinations or spay/neuter). I pick up my dog poo. Why is it ok for these cats to c**p in my yard and garden?
Load More Replies... Mama Panda 3 years ago
I just got a 3-month-old Chihuahua puppy. I was at the park the other day and there were two large dogs off their leashes. The owners were oblivious to where these dogs were going. I left because I was afraid that these dogs would attack my puppy and myself. It pissed me off to no end that we could enjoy the park and he was on a leash too
LuckyL 3 years ago
It's not only about attacking. We were sitting down at a lake and a huge dog came rushing towards us - clearly just wanting to play. But rushed onto the picknick blanket (no food, just chilling) and suddenly you're eye to eye with a dog that's just pure energy. I froze and I'm really glad, that the friend I was with just got the collar, pulled the dog down and then told it to get off of us. - and that it worked.
Load More Replies... Just Jeff 3 years ago
Off leash ANY kind of dog. Trained or not. Keep them on the leash. Other people around don't know how well trained your dog is or is not.
Marlowe Fitzpatrik 3 years ago
Depends on the place. We have several places where dogs are perfectly allowed to be off-leash (obviously they need to be well-behaved). If people want them to be on a leash (because of your mentioned reasons), they need to speak up. And yes, it works fine. VERY rarely does anything happen or any dog get too close to people who don't want them to and those with unfriendly dogs avoid going there anyway.
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Limey 3 years ago
This is a very American thing. I am from the uk and it is common practice for dogs to be off leash AND well behaved. I have 2 big dogs here in the US and feel sorry for American dogs who almost never get to be off leash and enjoy a little freedom.
Lousha 3 years ago
Let me put this into another perspective. I lived in the UK for 8 years, and it had such beautiful parks! Yet not once did I manage to enjoy one, because they were all treated like dog heavens. BTW I love dogs. But I also realise that they can be dangerous. Every park was chock full of off the leash dogs with owners chatting somewhere around. Dogs running up to me all the time. When I froze, the reaction was always "oh, they're very friendly, don't worry!" . Except I cannot know that. Even if YOU fully belive that you might be wrong. Or your idea of friendly can be very different from mine. I used to take two toddlers with me (nanny for a while) and it was my responsibility to take them home with their face still where it was before. When a staffie shoved their face into the stroller to sniff the 3 year old, I was terrified. I know how lovely they can be. Also how their jaw can snap an adult's thigh bone in half without effort.
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I'm going to say that we thought we were adequate distance from the picnic when we unleashed the beast. Turns out we were not. We have learned from this incident.
Marlowe Fitzpatrik 3 years ago
Haha - that reminds me of a story. A friend of mine has four very well-trained labradors. She was walking with them on the beach, no person around at all, leashes were off (allowed to!) and then there was the backpack that someone must have placed there for later and LEFT THE BREAKFAST on the top of the backpack. That was of course the day the whistle didn't work and the dogs had quickly swallowed the sandwich and probably something else. Since there was nobody around, and apart from the eaten food nothing was damaged, she collected the dogs and quickly walked off. Who the hell leaves their food out in the open on a backpack? If not dogs, there's also seagulls who might gobble it up!
Load More Replies... Seedy Vine 3 years ago
I once saw two out-of-control pitt bulls try killing a golden retriever in a park. A homeless man pulled them apart and saved the dog.
2picklesinabun 3 years ago
I don't care if they aren't "badly trained." If it says to leash up, leash up.
#22
Honking your horn while in traffic. What do you want me to do, drive through the cars blocking the road? These people are morons.
troufaki13 3 years ago
Maybe they think they have a magic horn that when you honk it, it will make the obstacle ahead disappear!
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago (edited)
At a stoplight, if it turns green and your head is down looking at your phone or something, so you haven’t noticed the light has changed—-especially if it’s a notoriously long red and short green light—-you bet your sweet bippy I am going to honk my horn to wake your a*s up!
Miss Frankfurter 3 years ago
In Ontario, if they miss the light because they’re on their phone, they better hope the police aren’t around. Hefty fine. Check the email later! It will be there.
Load More Replies... Mistiekim 3 years ago
Tailgating also drives me nuts. Especially when there is a car ahead of you. Why do you think the threat of your car in my backseat will make me go faster? Road bullies.
Seedy Vine 3 years ago
Or when people honk at cars who are waiting for us pedestrians to cross. Please don't urge cars into our bodies, thank you very much!
Ela 3 years ago (edited)
Yes. My dad was once stopped at a red light with an elderly man with a walker crossing in front of him. It was a multi-lane road and dad was in an inner lane. The light changed while the gentleman was still in front of dad's truck and everybody on both sides starts moving, so this poor man is stuck in the middle of the road! Dad just shifted into park and stayed where he was, of course, but the guy behind us leaned on his horn like he expected us to run over the fellow!
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I have been in traffic and watch somebody fall asleep at the wheel so I honked my horn and it woke him right up
Ricky Namara 3 years ago
I learned that the less I honk my horn the less road rage I felt. Something for everybody to try, maybe.
loty moty 3 years ago
Yes, that's a funny one becuase every single car driver in traffic thinks that their business is the most pressing one.
Christoffer Vogel 3 years ago
My friend and I have a song we sing to ourselves about how "You're the only one in the world....no one matters but you...."
Load More Replies... Fluffy mommy panda 3 years ago
I know right. P**s me off I'll honk back and flip you off assholes.
DippityDooDerp 3 years ago
I give a 15 second wait when the light goes red to green before I honk. And that's the only time I'll honk. Usually just a quick tap
Christoffer Vogel 3 years ago
Yes! Give people a chance to respond. We can have a little patience.
Load More Replies...What’s unfortunate, according to Dr Tang, is the common behavior, rather than to show acceptance of difference, to try to negate that of the other. “It is the act of ‘normative idealization’ – what I do is normal, what you do is odd (it makes our own ego feel better); or we might alternatively just be picking on others to avoid thinking about our own problems – and something which makes them 'different' is an easy target.”
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#23
Telling a young person that they’ll change their mind eventually when they say they have no interest in ever getting married. Also telling someone they’ll want kids eventually even if they’re adamant about never having kids. Case in point, I would very much prefer to have two cats that I can love and pamper and cuddle with than a husband or wife. I refuse to give birth, I refuse to be pregnant, if it ever happens, I am getting an abortion. If I ever have kids, it’ll be through foster or adoption and it’ll only happen if I become moderately wealthy and can give those kids a good life, if not? My cats will be close enough to kids anyway.
Ducki 3 years ago
Everyone in my family asks me this! "WHEN ARE YOU GONNA GIVE US OUR GRANDBABY" I'm only 17 bro I'm not ready or planning for that yet 😭
Jul Chv 3 years ago
Yeah and 'our grandbabies'. That's cringy as hell. Like you owe them to bear children? Why? How can people be like that?
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Sinkvenice 3 years ago
I've never wanted children and I have no idea why people struggle to comprehend that. For my whole adult life people have said I'll want them once my biological clock starts ticking, or it's different when it's yours, or you'll change your mind eventually. Really? Because I'm 40 and I still don't want them. I can't have them anyway, I went through early menopause in my late 20s. Being infertile feels like all my birthdays and Christmases at once.
Jan Bowyer 3 years ago
Perhaps your chosen lifestyle threatens anyone who lives the status quo. It can be hard, but you do you!
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In this 'time' when apparently all the uber-wise non-boomers (in which I am included in that exceptionally large group) are eagerly sharing that no one gets to tell you how you "should" feel or do things (which is true)... they STILL think it's okay to blatantly flat out tell you "you're wrong. You will change your mind in a few years". And they were telling me this waaaay after puberty was done. Like... noo... I'm not 12 years old and saying things I REALLY don't know about... I'm (at the time) in my mid-twenties... late twenties... early thirties... "Nope. You don't know that. You are going to change your mind" - Oh AM I now? REALLY? (no... no I haven't... because my reasons still stand, even if they don't want to hear it)
Rissy cake 3 years ago
I refuse to have children , I have tokophobia 😭 . I am happy with my cat and my free time to sew
Pizzagirl 91 3 years ago
This is especially true for medical situations. I shared a hospital room once with a 35-year-old woman who, after 10 years with 2 stillbirths and several underlying issues, finally had had a doctor "allow" her to get a hysterectomy. She had fought for it for years, and had heard that "you might change your mind" bs hundreds of times from different doctors. She would probably have died if she had gotten pregnant, anyway, and her husband (who, for some reason, still had to sign off on her decision) was all for the procedure, but still, she was made to wait... And that's in Germany, I don't even want to imagine what it's like in the US right now...
Max 3 years ago
I'm autistic and one of my special interests is goats. "Do you want kids" is met with a long, excited discussion about the various charms of baby goats, the pros and cons of different goat breeds, and fun facts about goat folklore.
Eris Kallisti 3 years ago
I would love to see the look on their faces when they realize you want baby goat kids not human kids. This is so great
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Firstname Lastname 3 years ago
I unupvoted this, just so I could have the satisfaction of upvoting it again.
XenoMurph 3 years ago
True, but.... My Sister in law was.... feisty. She made her whole persona "I don't want kids and I'm never going to have kids!" Fine, great. Until she hit 35 and REALLY wanted them but couldn't admit it to herself because she'd made such a big deal about it. Huge depression followed, and now has serious regrets. My ex-wife started the same thing. And maybe things would have been similar if I hadn't advised her to tone down her opinions. She burst into tears the day she realised she wanted kids. I was so glad she hadn't entrenched that early attitude into something she felt she couldn't walk back when things changed. And our daughter is quite pleased about it too. All you can truly say is: "I dont want kids right now" and that's fine, and you don't need to explain that to anyone.
Ren Karlej 3 years ago
I think there is a lot of truth here. People can and do change their minds. Nothing wrong with that. The problem is people feel they have the right to say 'you'll change your mind' to those who are saying 'no thanks to children'. No-one should make that assumption, especially as it is likely (as you say) to entrench their view on the subject. Leave people alone and let them make up their own mind in time. A lot of people do stick to their childfree decision after all. I went 'the other way' - always wanted children when young and then the desire just trickled away. Didn't want them from late 20s onwards. Then found out I couldn't have them anyway so that turned out for the best. Yet I am STILL asked a) do you have children and b) why not.
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Full grown adults dating barely "legal" teens.
D. Pitbull 3 years ago
Eh.... It depends on the situation... 48 year old person who has been "waiting" for the teen's 18th birthday, starts RIGHT in on them on that day - because hey, now it's legal! ... still gives me pause. 23 year old dating a 19 year old? Meh. Normal.
Yubo 3 years ago
Just think, Leonardo De Caprio dates women who were still being carried by their mothers when he was in his 20"s. Ewwwww!
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Daniel Yamada 3 years ago (edited)
If they are of legal age, then why are you concerned about it? You do realize that a person who is of legal age is an adult, right?
InvincibleRodent 3 years ago
Legality doesn't equal morality. Plenty of things that are morally wrong are technically legal.
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Biliegh Berrie 3 years ago
I have always dated men 10-11 years older than me and that started at 17. I made that choice myself. I wouldn't change that. Even if I could go back.
Enuya 3 years ago
This. I find the men in their 40s or late 30s the most attractive. I was thinking so when I was 16 (I wasn't dating them on that age), I still think so being almost 30 and probably won't change my mind anytime soon. I've no "daddy issues", I like company of men my age, it's just a matter of preferences that I find men older than me more appealing.
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Sean Sean 3 years ago
Who cares? What goes on between two consenting adults is none of our business.
Jods 3 years ago
Scenario - bloke 24 meets young girl. Never met before, doesn’t know anything about her. They hit it off and he asks her age as he’d really like to see her again. Young girl lies about her age, tells him she’s 18 but in reality she’s only 15. Relationship evolves way beyond platonic and she comes clean to parents. Suddenly bloke is facing prosecution and a lifetime of being on a sex offenders register. Fair?
LandAhoy 3 years ago
Of course it's not fair. This is where society has gone wrong recently. That didn't happen in the 80s.
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Kathy LaPan-Miller 3 years ago
My husband is 30 years older than me. We met when I was 38 and he was 68. You would not believe how many times I've been called a "victim" because of the age gap. Under 30, age gap is weird. If one partner's age starts with a 1, too young.
Jay Son 3 years ago (edited)
It depends. My parents were 30 years apart as well. My mother was 26 when she met him, 27 when's she got me. Never felt weird to me. They were married until my father passed away in his 80s. Some of the comments i received (your father is your grandpa's kind of stuff) were disposable but never really bothered me. I always felt age is nothing but a number. In the end, they're (and you as well with your husband) both consenting adults. It's not up to society to judge on it. People need to get off their high horses and let other people live their lives. Nothing illegal is going on.
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Manel Ibáñez 3 years ago
That's just discrimination enforcing. whatever 2 consenting free adults decide to do with their relationship should not be anyone else business. Some people find some relations disgusting, we all know that. that happened with mixed race relationships, with same gender relationships, with relations that involve transgender people and, of course, the age gap is again a form of discrimination towards people that prefer older or yonger people. Again, 2 consenting adults that love each other? good for them! I would advise, whenever you find yourself judging anyone else free consenting adult reltionships, take a loot at yourself, there may be some things to work on your side in order to accept that are all kinds of perfectly valid love that may not fit the norm.
Julia McElroy 3 years ago
In my 20's I went on a date with a guy in his 30s who, quite seriously, bragged about usually dating girls under 17. The date ended quite abruptly. So, so, so gross. And not really sure how this was supposed to impress me.
#25
Kids having social media accounts
Greg Williams 3 years ago
Depends on the social media, are you letting them watch some fun YouTube videos, talk to their friends on discord, or is it Snapchat and Instagram. Not all are blanketly bad, bur most of the image sharing ones are
onivdsrapowijap 3 years ago
I agree. People nowadays seem to have forgotten what "social media" actually means and immediately assume any social media is bad. Google defines it as "websites and applications that enable users to create and share content or to participate in social networking." This means Youtube, BoredPanda, and pretty much ANYTHING you use to chat with others is social media. Not all of it is bad.
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Markus It/He 3 years ago
The more kids are stopped from having social media, the more they get it. I know someone who lives in terror of her parents checking her phone and realising she has online friends because she's not allowed. Promoting online safety and realistic beauty standards is a much better way of addressing the problem of kids on social media imo
Brooklynn Jackson 3 years ago
I kinda disagree with you in this one—kids should be allowed to have social media accounts, unless: - They hamper their studies - Affect their mental wellbeing - They use it for the wrong reasons (cyberbullying) - Excessive use which leads to health problems And of course, their usage should be monitored, but they should be allowed to have one. It's fun!
Rachel w 3 years ago
LITERALLY every single study done on this provoes you absolutely incorrect... Basically every single study done has shown that having social media accounts will have a detrimental effect. By the time YOU feel they are being influenced detrimentally , it's too late. It's NOT necessary. And it's horrible for their mental health. Period
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ljbeanfield 3 years ago
Esh. Posting every second of a kids life? Yuck. Some 13 year old posting little dance videos? She's having fun. Let her.
Colin Timp 3 years ago
Especially when it's not the kid, but the parent trying to make money off the child.
Deiya Doyle-Mujakperuo 3 years ago
Personally, I enjoyed it. I knew to protect myself and I kinda didn't anyway. I really can't say anything because people still call me a "child". Just don't give them the option so they don't feel like they're missing out.
Biliegh Berrie 3 years ago
I did not allow my kids to have social media until they were close to high school and they had to give me and their dad the passwords.
Enuya 3 years ago (edited)
I agree with "using social media only when you're close to high school" but requiring their passwords is a serious breach of trust. They're not small children. At this age they've every right to have their secrets and not to share everything with their parents. There are SOME exceptions, maybe if you suspect that they may be in real dangers, but requiring your childrens passwords is abusive and uncalled for. Good way to teach them how to lie and hide things.
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Roxas 3 years ago
My little cousin has a Facebook account but he not allowed on it till he's 20 and his parents would post everything and pictures of him and he would look so miserable in the pictures and when one of our grandma or grandpa wanna talk to him they literally set him down in the chair and tell him how to spell the word out as his parents want him to be able to send messages to his family and he also tried sending a swear word to grandpa right in front of his parents too.
#26
People smashing other people's face into cake when it's their birthday, or when newly weds are sharing a cake and they smear the cake onto their SO's face in the ceremony. Just, why? Not everyone thinks it's a fun, quirky thing to do, it ruins whatever makeup they're using, and most of the time I see it, the people with cake on their face gets pretty mad over it, and I think they're justified
Mayra 3 years ago
Professional frostitute here 🙋♀️ I have to tell my customers not to do this with my cakes as I dowel my cakes so they stay in place…you don’t want your loved one with a stick shoved into their eye
Javier loh 3 years ago
It's just a waste of a cake. Why would anyone want to eat smashed cake?
InvincibleRodent 3 years ago
Unless you would also willingly lick that person's face, you probably wouldn't want to eat something that face has been in either...
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Sebby's Mama 3 years ago
As expensive as specialized cakes are, this is also a horrible waste of money
I'm Kid A 3 years ago
My father smudged a little bit of frosting on my mom's nose at some point during their wedding. She was not amused. Had it been a full face of cake... I wouldn't be here today.
srcuomo 3 years ago
This is what my husband did at our wedding. People actually jeered because he didn’t go full face smoosh. (We had an agreement ahead of time that he was NOT to do that.)
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DS Mom 3 years ago
I was a maid-of-honor at my then best friend's wedding, instead of smashing the cake into eachothers face, the groom and bride smashed the cake into mine and the best man's face. I was soooo pissed 🤬
I'm Kid A 3 years ago
This is, admittedly, a rather hilarious twist on the entire concept...
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Ervin Conn 3 years ago
We just fed each other a piece of cake. Is that not done anymore? That was 45 years ago but I say we bring that back.
Gina Mercer 3 years ago
Sign of a bad marriage if either smashes the cake. Respect your spouse, give them your best, not your worst.
Anony 3 years ago
I love this. "Give them your best, not your worst" that's beautiful
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#27
Untrained 'emotional support' animals. I’m all for service animals, but some people abuse the concept and just make sh*t up.
James016 3 years ago
I'll have you know my emotional support gibbon has got me through some hard times
foofoofloofy 3 years ago
Same with my 32 emotional support Boa Constrictors. They strangle annoying people for me and it really helps my mental health :)
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Rachel w 3 years ago
MOST people take full advantage of the fact that they know people are scared to enforce the ACTUAL laws surrounding this issue. And it completely screws over people with ACTUAL TRAINED service animals. I HATE every single person that pulls this b******t.
Markus It/He 3 years ago
ESAs are not legally classified as service animals and don't have the same rights of access as say a medical alert animal or a guide dog. People abusing the places allowing ESAs to let their poorly trained pet come with them is just going to make those with genuine ESAs struggle to find places to go with them even harder
Mario Strada 3 years ago
I couldn't go through life without my emotional support saltwater crocodile.
Pieter LeGrande 3 years ago
I am my dog's emotional support and I'm untrained. Should the dog feel guilty? I'm pretty sure she's abusing the concept.
InvincibleRodent 3 years ago
If the dog uses it as emotional blackmail to get you into places you shouldn't be able to get into for reasons of safety? Yeah, it should.
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El Dee 3 years ago
This has to be a US thing. I've only ever seen people with genuine service animals here..
Ohio Turkey 3 years ago
My louse of a niece made up a diagnosis for herself, then started a GoFundMe to get the vet (not the therapist, mind you) to certify her cat as an emotional support animal. She then took the poor creature, very sedated at the time, on her move from Hawaii to Ohio. (This was also covered by GoFundMe, naturally.) After returning to Ohio, she resumed locking herself in her room, leaving herself with no access to the "service“ cat. The cat seems unperturbed by this state of affairs.
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#28
Touching pregnant people's stomachs.
If I ever become pregnant and some rando decides that they can just start rubbing my stomach without asking then you bet I'm gonna be rubbing their stomach back
Judit Turi 3 years ago
Aaaand also... nobody dare to rub your SO's crotch, like "Good job,mate !"
Wysteria_Rose 3 years ago
I will say that one woman did try to pat my husband on the crotch when she was saying "you guys don't have kids? You better get to work." To whatever credit I can give her, she was drunk and on god knows what drugs but it was shocking...
Load More Replies... Mama Panda 3 years ago
I am overweight and a woman came up to me the other day and rubbed my tummy and asked me when I was due. I told her my 3:00 bowel movement was coming up so 3:00 LOL
Zenozenobee 3 years ago
And once you gave birth, you think " I'm now free from strangers rubbing my belly !!!" ( Frozen style) and then... You discover the same strangers will touch your newborn, their hands, their cheeks, even try to kiss them. (Big up to the old people doing that in the middle of Covid and being offended when you call them out 🙄)
cadena kuhn 3 years ago
There was a maternity top I wanted that said if u didn't put it there don't touch it
loyalhufflepuff07 3 years ago
I laughed aloud at this I will most certainly look for that shirt when I have kids 🤣🤣🤣
Load More Replies... Trond Øien 3 years ago
Adults ruffling the hair of kids as a greeting falls into this category as well. I used to really hate that when I was a kid. It's just disrespectful imo.
BadCat 3 years ago
Some old man patted my head and my mom slapped his hand shouting "DON'T TOUCH HER!" Her reaction made me more upset and embarrassed than the old man and my mom asked if I was upset at her reaction or if it was the old man. I told her both because it was super awkward and I didn't know what to think. I just thought the man was doing what he probably did to all his grandkids. But his "that's a good girl" remark was pretty cringe the more I think about it now.
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deanna woods 3 years ago
My mom said she didn't like people touching her pregnant belly and that was over thirty five years ago.
Nathan Wolfe 3 years ago
Exactly. My wife shares her stomach with 1 additional human being, that doesn't suddenly make it public property.
FrillyDragon 3 years ago
I was working in retail several years ago, and one of my coworkers did this and asked when I was having the baby. I was so embarrassed to tell her that I'm wasn't pregnant, I was just fat. She apologized at least. But just because someone is/might be pregnant doesn't mean they lose their personal space bubble! If anything, it gets bigger! On the plus side (I almost typed 'size' there by accident...), that was one of the things that made me start working to lose weight. But yeah, when I get pregnant, I swear I want a maternity shirt that says "No touchy my tummy! >:("
#29
Being on your phone when having a conversation.
Firstname Lastname 3 years ago
I have pulled mine out midconversation if we want to look something up that we were talking about, but otherwise my phone usually gets set down and forgotten when I have company.
N Gregory 3 years ago
Took me a second to realise you mean an "in person" conversation. I'm old enough to still use a phone to *have* a conversation and was very confused! (I'm also precoffee, so...)
Micah<3 3 years ago
For me I'll do it in a conversation because I get extremely anxious, I'll just mess around with games on my phone so I can focus on what the person I'm talking to is saying without stressing out. (I have autism and severe general and social anxiety)
Markus It/He 3 years ago
Hey I'm kinda similar to that. When I'm anxious (worst in 1 on 1 conversations with people who aren't comfort people), I tend to dissociate and to me that's worse than seeming rude by doing stuff with my phone, because at least then I can absorb at least some of it. I've recently made a move into using stim toys which are useful but not distracting enough a lot of the time to stop the disassociating. If that makes sense
Load More Replies... Stormy 3 years ago (edited)
FAR too many people do this! Even my own mother, who begs me to travel far at least twice a year to see her, will NOT get off her phone even at a nice dinner out that SHE planned. I swear, sometimes I wish smartphones didn’t exist. (I’m on my laptop now, and that’s practically as bad since I’m visiting mom.) I just want quality time with her! She’s 71 and not in good health. I already lose her to her phone, and it won’t be that long until I lose her for good.
Michael Largey 3 years ago
I was at a doctor's appointment, and the doctor kept taking non-emergency calls during the appointment. I was treated like my health was of little importance. And what was his specialty? Cancer!!! First and last appointment.
Rosy Maple Moth 3 years ago
If you cannot put your phone down while talking to someone in person you’re clearly addicted and need help to break that addiction.
Honu 3 years ago
I think a lot of people do it without even thinking about it. It's almost compulsive. My husband complains about other people doing it, and then he'll do it without even noticing.
Load More Replies... onivdsrapowijap 3 years ago
I understand having a problem with people using phones at the grocery store, but what's wrong with using them while the cashier is scanning items at the store? Some people are really busy and have something urgent to do on their phones. They also might just be texting their family, "I finished buying the ____, coming home now"
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#30
Working 40+ hours a week for someone else for most of your adult life only to maybe get 10 years to enjoy life when you may be too old to enjoy it anymore
phil blanque 3 years ago
Whatever "dream" job we might imagine, it will never be wonderful all of the time. Clearly there are many people in the world without the means or options to choose their work, but there are many who can choose. By making the best choice and making the best of that choice, it is then a matter of attitude and perspective to enjoy the best parts and make it through the worst.
BadCat 3 years ago
Exactly. Attitude and perspective can either make the job more bearable or make you sludge through it.
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Nizumi 3 years ago
Working for yourself isn't all that either, Had a friend quit their office job and become a tattooer - eventually opening their own shop. It is 24/7 stress and worry. After almost 15 years they're actually starting to think it would have been better to stick with the office job, because at least there was vacation and weekends.
Mika N 3 years ago
I second this. My husband has had a small business for a few years and it's had its fun moments, but we're planning to sell/close at the end of the year. He works loooong hours and we can't even pay him minimum wage (our employees get $16-20/hr. We're glad to pay them something decent for our area! But labor is just expensive, that's how it is). Rising material and energy costs, managing schedules, replacing employees who move on to other things, just so much stress. He's ready to move on and work "normal" hours making more (since even at min wage he'll be making more, which is a little over $13/hr here).
Load More Replies... ormondotvos 3 years ago
Lived amongst retirees while young..Best advice I got was travel when young. Now 82, traveled Europe, Mexico, Canada. Wouldn't enjoy it. now. Got a fast computer and big 4k monitor. Go to Paris a lot that way...
Honu 3 years ago
With modern technology, workers have been increasingly productive, yet for the last 5 decades, our wages have stagnated while we've worked more and more hours while achieving less financial stability. All the gain has gone to the oligarchs. There is no good reason why the rest of us are still working 40+ hours per week, with most people struggling to pay the bills while we have billionaires' staring their own space programs because they got bored with their mega yachts. We should get to enjoy our lives, not work ourselves into an early grave.
BadCat 3 years ago
Technology has been more productive but that means more workers getting a job done faster and then standing around yakking until more work is ready. But work at a job with low technology, understaffed and high volume of products and you can find the most hardworking, productive employees.
Load More Replies... Connie Brown 3 years ago
My husband's job required that he travel 2-3 weeks a month, and we were so looking forward to our time together after he retired. He was diagnosed with Parkinson's 3 days before his 66th birthday. Our retirement plans? Let's just say that they are quite different than we had planned. Don't spend all of your time working. You never know what the future holds.
Sue User 3 years ago
My stepfather got one social security check before he died of lung cancer. And all those " wait to collect and youll get more money" are a bet. In US, if you start collecting at 62 you get x dollars a mobth, then at 65 you get 1.3 x a month. Yes, you get more per month if you wait, but get paid fewer months. If I wait until 72, I would have to live to 89 to get the same amount as if i started at 62. And the odds of making it to 89 arent good.
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PeggyWestmoreland 3 years ago
Retirement should begin at 55. That would free up so many jobs for current graduates.
christian finsand 3 years ago
There are many who would like to do that,.but for most that simply isn't possible.
Load More Replies... BadCat 3 years ago
To each their own. Like, if you really, really can't stand working for someone else's business then that should be motivation for you to figure out how to work for yourself. Some people would rather just go to a job, do their job and go home and enjoy the rest of their day and work the amount of hours they need to live a comfortable life. If it's the job you hate, for pete's sake leave. You're not a slave. You have freedom to work anywhere you want. The challenge is figuring out how to get the job you want, and knowing what you want. That may take time and experience. I thought I was good with a desk job, looking pretty everyday. Nope. I've found I'm happiest with a back production retail job, with many tasks to do and physical labour. Sounds terrible when described but actually doing the work is fun for me, and I'm getting exercise and losing weight. I get more breaks than at my old desk job and the people I work with are supportive. Headaches, floaters, gut problems are fading.
#31
Not wearing a seatbelt. BACKSEAT TOO.
Let me tell you a story.
We had a girl in our house, basically a medical foster placement. Your typical 4-5 yo before her ‘incident’.
Her family was going somewhere together, mom and grandma (I think) and they strapped her into the kid seat. But didn’t strap the kid seat into the seat of the car. Head on collision, and this little girl (+kid seat)is sent *through* the dash board. Can’t walk, talk, feed herself, be a 5 yo. Had a chunk of her skull smashed to bits, repaired, removed again because of an infection, and a plate added.
Ffs people. Wear your damn seatbelts. You become a potential projectile for the other people in the car too. No one is safe.
Mario Strada 3 years ago
BUT FREEDUMB! I used to be a member of the AMA (American Motorcycle Association) because I have been riding motorcycles all my life. Some years ago they staged anti-helmet rallies and bombarded me with these stupid talking points all the time until I renounced my membership (after over 25 years). There is freedom and there is freedom. Theirs was made to appeal to imbeciles.
Fluffy mommy panda 3 years ago
There was a young man or boy on my road just last week that lost his face on the road. Neighbours said you couldn't even tell who he was. He wasn't wearing a helmet. It was sad. And when I got burnt and was in the ICU. They told me three times if you ever ride anything like a motorcycle or four-wheeler anything like that wear a helmet. They told me most of the people in ICU up there on life support still alive but healing in medical a comma or worse. ....was all these types of accidents. It was very sad. Very.
Load More Replies... Colin Timp 3 years ago
People think it's ok because it's 'their' life; but it's not just about you. It's also about the trauma the emergency workers suffer when scraping your mangled body from an accident scene. It's also of the money all of us get charged to pay for your unpaid medical bills. If you suffer a traumatic brain injury, you can easily run up $5,000,000 in medical bills that you'll never be able to pay.
removebeforeflight 3 years ago
Wear your seatbelt on board the aircraft too. Even if you're already on ground. Do NOT get up immediately after landing! Anything can happen every second. You are endangering yourself and other people. DO NOT OPEN THE OVERHEAD COMPARTMENTS until the seatbelt sign is switched off! Sorry, this was a scream full of pain 😅
Magpie 3 years ago
And so they should be. Even in "just" sudden braking a dog ( or cat or anything) can become a loose missile. They can be severely injured/ killed. And they can also severely injure a human in the car. *severely injured: think permanent brain damage / paralysis etc.
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Effseven Six 3 years ago
Almost killed myself in an accident. Was wearing my seat belt. I always wore one before but now I won't even put it in drive without it on. Not even to move my car from the street to the driveway. Passengers too. Don't want to put it on immediately when in my car? Get out.
Zoe MacLaren 3 years ago
My niece keeps on reminding her dad to wear his seatbelt, but he tells her it's not necessary. Setting up a horrible example for her. Sometimes I feel like she's smarter than him.
Megan O'Neill 3 years ago
During a collision, people that aren't strapped in become (essentially) projectiles, flying around the car and causing damage to others and themselves. So sad for that poor baby.
De Nilla 3 years ago
This could be accidental. We've had 4 kids and sometimes trade out the seats between vehicles. At least once I remember the seat forgetting to be strapped in, before we drove luckily. But also there's been at least 1 occasion that each of us has forgotten to harness a toddler into the seat before we got on the road and had to stop to secure them. Accidents happen
#32
Going to get crucified for this but getting drunk. I don't have a problem with drinking alcohol but the way people talk about how drunk they got with immense pride always baffled me. Also the fact that it's completely legal along with cigarettes when other things aren't is moronic.
Peej Maybe 3 years ago
This is a culture where I live. If you don't go out every weekend and get drunk, you're seen as socially inept by your colleagues. Personally I'd rather spend a whole bunch of money on something that gives me pleasure and is tangible, rather than something I'm going to pee out or throw up copiously while feeling like death warmed up
Niall Mac Iomera 3 years ago
Who are you to say it doesn't give them pleasure, and makes them feel good?
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InfectedVoiceBox 3 years ago
I'm English this is just part of our culture, we're a drinking nation, but the bragging generally stops when you stop being a teenager.
D. Pitbull 3 years ago
This one also confuses me.. so... I mean - maybe I'm wrong but... here's what is generally expected of us (and I can understand why): Show up for work (whether it's for your own self or someone else, doesn't matter) clear headed, ready to go, get things done and do it smartly (or as smart as possible. We all have dumb days). This person usually gets complimented on their professionalism, efficiency, etc. This person has been me (that I've read through reviews, comments, reports, etc. ). However... the 'cool dude' (guy or gal, btw) wanders in... starts boasting LOUDLY about how WAAAAASTED they got on the weekend, how they might STILL be sooooo hungover.... and... two weeks later, the manager/boss/hiring person/whatever decides you, the one they were saying was 'such a good worker', is no fun, and thus not a 'right fit' - but drunky mcdrunkerson who screwed up all their work repeatedly and boasted about being wasted? Awww... they're a BUDDY... YEAH they're gonna get that promotion!
DC 3 years ago
... maybe the boss and he went to the brothel together as well ... seen that happen ... got out of there, no regrettability.
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Lady Snowfall 3 years ago
This reminds me, I had a high school classmate that came back from spring break, bragging how she got so wasted and vomited all over the beach. It was weird that she would brag about underage drinking and vomiting. I mean, do you know anyone who gets the flu then laughs and brags about how they projectile vomited?
Markus It/He 3 years ago
Drinking is for fun, like any recreational drug. It's not to look cool or show off ("look how much I can drink without passing out!"). It's for fun, and should be done in moderation, like with any other drug
Inge van Echelpoel 3 years ago
I just don't get what's so fun about not knowing what the f*** your doing
Breezy 3 years ago
Seriously, I have a friend who is Very proud of the fact that if he drinks or does drugs he's going to get as f'd up as possible...like okay, enjoy your alcohol poisoning and od sir... also thanks for forcing everyone around you to be your babysitter. Stupid & inconsiderate!
Colin Timp 3 years ago (edited)
It's really quite simple. It's about money. Marajuana was made illegal because the best stuff didn't come from the U.S. Now that we're seeing the best stuff being grown in labs and such here in the US, that's changing. Heroin would probably be legal if poppies were native to the US. Always follow the money. Alcohol and tobacco are big business. Same exists with online gambling. The reason they don't want it is because so much revenue was leaving the country. So they shut it down. Now they're slowly bringing it back run by US companies.
Charley128 3 years ago
I believe they legalized marijuana because living in the US has been getting more miserable as the years have passed. The people in power needed a way to pacify as much of the population as possible. This way the leaders don't have to do things that would actually help the the rest of us. They can continue with policies that benefit themselves and the wealthy. .
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RandomFrog(He/They️️) 3 years ago
I think getting a little tipsy is fine, if you know how to handle it (when my father got like this he always did funny accents and told stories and made the night a lot more fun. He didint get crazy and he knew his drink limit ) but you shouldn’t be getting blackout drunk for the fun of it, or if you know you get crazy and will embarrass yourself when you drink I think you should do it in private or not drink more than one or two drinks.
#33
Customer entitlement in retail. Returns culture. Posting bad reviews before trying to understand what actually went wrong when it comes to meeting their expectations.
Rachel w 3 years ago
This is mostly, and sadly, an American thing. It's because, for some dumb reason we have encouraged the phrase"the customer is always right". Which has led to entitled a*s customers who can never, ever, be wrong no matter how horrible or wrong they are. It's honestly our own fault.
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago (edited)
Cherry-picking half the quote “The customer is always right—-in matters of taste”. For instance, even if the customer picks out an item of clothing that looks like total s**t on them, you just let them buy it without questioning their taste. That’s what the ENTIRE quote means. Absolutely NOTHING about them always being right in everything, and most definitely NOT when they try to go against a business’ return/refund policy..
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FabulousMari 3 years ago (edited)
I HATE reviewers who post 1 star only to say "I ordered the wrong size and it doesn't fit" LIKE no kidding! That's not the items problem you big bozo!
Celia T 3 years ago
If they fill out a survey and complain about things that a totally beyond our control at store level.
Load More Replies... James016 3 years ago
I used to work for a tour operator and sat near the customer service manager. So many people would ring up wanting refunds for this or that. Mainly 2-3 months after their holiday had finished. His first question was always "Did you bring this issue up with the hotel customer service team or the manager during your stay?" 99% of the time the answer was no. "Sorry there is nothing I can do" bring the reply to that.
Kelli Pike 3 years ago
People have become convinced that, if they make a big enough fuss, they get whatever they want. It's terrible.
Colin Timp 3 years ago
Businesses were the ones that started this. Many years ago, a certain department store went so far as to employ "fired men." Basically someone was paid to be there just to be "fired" any time a customer complained.
Little_redheaded_girl 3 years ago
Within reason, correct. However we have ppl who buy a pair of glasses and then expect to be able to exchange them multiple times (including years later) with no cost to them.... EVERYTHING costs money- the employees, lab techs, materials, etc. At some point the store is basically paying the person to take the glasses. Absolutely ridiculous
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Katie Howerton 3 years ago
I work at Walmart as a cashier and my bosses for the most part are good at saying NO to these people.
Jewelly A. Shetka 3 years ago
I always understood that the customer is always right...IN MATTERS OF FASHION. If somebody wants to wear long handles under their shorts, that’s their business. That did not mean they were right in ALL MATERS, come what may.
#34
Being viewed as a failure if you don’t enter into a relationship, get married and/or have kids.
Ducki 3 years ago
I feel this. Every year of my life, I got straight A's and A+'s with almost no fail, am working on computer programming, never got glued to devices, won a lot of school awards...yet my parents still sorta hate me and threaten to disown me cause I'm NB and never want kids. Did I do that for nothing bruh 😭
Mama Panda 3 years ago
If your parents are threatening to disown you then my advice is to kick them to the curb and go no contact with them! You are worth more than their threats and you don't need to have toxic parents invade your life.
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Mrs Irish Mom 3 years ago
Girl in my village went to best school and became a Doctor/surgeon, chatting to the aul folk and they said, sure what does that matter if shes a doctor she still dosnt have a husband or kids 🤯🤦♀️
Ricky Namara 3 years ago
Yep. I don't do drugs, I don't smoke, I don't drink, I'm not heavily in debt and I don't have a gambling problem. Yet my parents see me like an abject failure because I don't want to be married to a woman. My dad is the worst: she kept pushing me to get married because "It's his dream to have a daughter-in-law." Oh. Okay dad. So it's not your dream to have a son? WTF?
Alessa Gillespie 3 years ago
Same for graduating college... What I do for a living should not define me
Minerva McGonagall 3 years ago
Turn the tables on them by bragging about sleeping in on weekends, going on vacation, going to concerts, no time tables, enjoying a shower or having a pee with no bothering you. Let the jealousy begin
Michael Largey 3 years ago
"Am I not a man? And is a man not stupid? I'm a man, so I married. Wife, children, house, everything. The full catastrophe." - Zorba the Greek
D. Pitbull 3 years ago
There are some people who will just "FIND" a reason to call you a failure - it's recognizing who these people are... they're the ones who... no matter how much you DO succeed... all they can EVER focus on is "You didn't succeed by MY standards". Likelihood is that they are so UNself-aware that they don't realize that they'll always find some way for you to not meet their standards. Oh... you won a nobel prize? But you don't have KIDS... you FAIL! You make 7 figures a year and have children? BUT... your spouse doesn't earn as much as you! YOU FAIL! It's like... okay, I've had enough. My success will be by my own measure, thank you.
#35
Giving up so much private data to companies without the option not to.
Elliot Fowler 3 years ago
I understand how shitty that is but it really is the main reason most of the internet is free. Imagine if you had to pay for every website you visit
General Anaesthesia 3 years ago
Commercial radio and television did well enough in the olden days without having to know what time we pooped. It's the tracking and targeting, not necessarily the ads.
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Seedy Vine 3 years ago
We should have the option of selling our own data and profiting from it. I mean it's ours.
Nikki Sevven 3 years ago (edited)
I would go further. My data is MINE. If there are profits to be made on MY data, those profits belong to ME.
NoSoupForYou 3 years ago
You always have the option not to. You just don't use the services from that company. What was that? You can't go without these services?? Then you are making a choice to give away your data.
Kady LaHaie 3 years ago
I don't see why people resent this. Especially people who knowingly BOUGHT an Alexa and nine laptops and seven phones with GPS.
steven trippier 3 years ago
Tbh you usually have the option, you just don't know how to use the settings. The social media accounts are free to use and they need to make money some how. I avoid them as much as possible now but I don't condemn them for making money off data.
Jul Chv 3 years ago
In UE it's now more regulated and you have sort of a choice. Some site are beginning to leave you the choice of accepting trackers or paying 1€. I think, it makes you think twice and sometime you just walk away from the clickbait. Puts some kind of wall between your impulse and what you really want.
N Gregory 3 years ago
So show me a 30 second ad for dog food, one for a travel destination highlighting the awesome night life, a mobile RP game and some new cereal. One of these is of interest to me, personally. But all of them have paid for the website without me needing to say if I have a pet, want to visit Tel Aviv, play League of Legends or have run out of Corn Pops
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Oversharing everything and everywhere your kids or babies are. Like putting full names, tagging their school/frequented play areas, interests, etc. Friends and family ain’t the only people looking at this stuff.
Mama Panda 3 years ago
The good way for predators and pedophiles to find out more about your children and possibly abduct them.
Elizabeth Calvert 3 years ago
This is why I refer to my son as my tiny human online
Load More Replies... Rosy Maple Moth 3 years ago (edited)
We had neighbors do this. They shared their own address, their kids’ names, their kids’ daycare, pics of their living room and garden, just everything on Facebook for everyone to see (not only friends). They ended up having someone break into their home to steal their car and garage keys while their little girls were sleeping downstairs. This scared the hell out of them!
Michał Głazik 3 years ago
Just world should be safer... We shouldn't life with afraid of everything. We should life with power to change everything better.
Pizzagirl 91 3 years ago
Yes, we should not have to be afraid, BUT in the world as it is, it's only safe to be careful. You wouldn't carry a raw steak through a pride of hyenas, you shouldn't make it easy for predators to hurt children.
Load More Replies... Marla Singer 3 years ago
It's also going to be on the internet forever, and the kid will eventually be an adult who wants their privacy.
meepmeep 3 years ago
My sis and I went to a silly restaurant where they put hats with inappropriate statements on everyone. They were pretty bad - fun then and there if you have the sense of humor for it, but not generally appropriate. So of course she put a photo up on facebook of us without my permission. If she wanted to for just herself, that's her perogative, but I did not want friends or strangers to see it. Don't post anything about anyone else without their permission
Namesareforlosers 3 years ago
Have literally cut family members off because they insisted it was "their right" to post pics of kids to their social media.
El Dee 3 years ago
It's so sad. We are so much more aware of this than any previous generation and the young children of my grandchildren's era have so little freedom now in order to keep them safe. Luckily they have much online and good games to keep them busy inside and they seem to be the most decent generation yet..
Becky Samuel 3 years ago
40% of teenage girls self harm. Anxiety disorders among young people are at an all time high. Obesity and lack of fitness are going to take years off the lives of the younger generations. The obsession with "keeping them safe" is causing untold damage.
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MJ 3 years ago (edited)
My SIL would post pictures of my daughter at SIL’s house - which is fine - but my 4 yr old occasionally protests clothing, and sharing pictures on FB of her and her 4 yr old cousin in nothing but their underwear is totally not ok. I asked her to take them down, and she did without protest (at least not to my face 😅). I dont want some pedophile sicko to come across pics like that.
Lene 3 years ago
Me and my bf agreed from before our kids were born that we should not post pics of them online. Including via private messages on messenger/facebook. We don't want to do it because a) pedophiles and other predators that go for children and b) if any of our kids should end up being famous or a politician or something we'd hate for them to have pics online of them as babies or in embarrassing situations as preteens etc for haters and opponents to find and exploit. Oh and c) we hate being spammed with other people's kids on SoMe and believe that the trend must end somewhere.... we are willing to start NOT spamming ppl with our kids' photos. Lol. So in this household there won't be pics of our kids online until they are old enough to have their own accounts and access to posting stuff themselves. Our friends and family knows and respect this as well.
#37
Taking pictures of strangers without permission when the context isn’t justified, especially covertly (bonus points if the person does it for the purposes of sharing/posting it). Am I the only one that thinks it is weird and creepy?
Beeps 3 years ago (edited)
It’s even worse when people mention that this is a problem and others then start justifying it. I’ve seen so many comments where people start preaching about “if you’re in a public space you’ll have to accept blah, blah, blah, if you don’t like it stay at home, blah, blah…” Why on earth would you defend something like this?
loty moty 3 years ago
As an amateur photographer I get a lot of flac from people assuming I'm taking pictures of them. I'm usually not. I'm taking a picture of an interesting shadow play in a public square and you just happen to be here. Also it's 100% legal at least in US to take pictures of anybody in public places. If this ever becomes illegal we'll lose entire wonderful genre of street photography that brought us masterpieces from people like Cartier-Bresson, Vivian Maier, Garry Winogrand and others.
General Anaesthesia 3 years ago (edited)
It's legal in many countries to take the pictures but illegal to publish them where the public can access them, or to sell them (stock photos etc) without permission: you have the copyright, the person has reproduction/portrait rights. It can get more complicated (news photo etc), I tried to keep it simple here.
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Rosy Maple Moth 3 years ago (edited)
EU law forbids people from posting anyone's pictures online without their permission, including tourist photos. You’re still allowed to take pictures for your private collection.
Deb M.F. 3 years ago
not to be rude but there is no right to privacy in a public place and anyone can take pictures without consent. It's the law. I'm a photographer and have been confronted about this. (Im in the states not sure about other countries) I carry a copy of the law if I am shooting in any public place to prove it
Katie Howerton 3 years ago
Also photo bombing like dude I don't want some random person in my pictures
#38
grabbing people’s wheelchairs and pushing them without being asked or asking consent. pushing people around is rude as f**k and bullying behaviour, but if someone is on wheels suddenly it’s fine? no. don’t touch the chair
tara 3 years ago
oh my lord, who would EVER think that is okay? Someones toes need run over..........
Bla Blubb 3 years ago
Would be the same if someone just grabbed my hand and pulled me along. I would be so pissed! Why would anyone assume such behavior woulf be appropriate when someone is in a wheelie?
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JB 3 years ago
The chair is an extension of the person. If you wouldn't start fiddling with a stranger's pants, don't mess with a stranger's wheelchair, walker, cane or other assistive device.
ohjojo (you/your's) 3 years ago
Explaining someone else's disability. I travel with an actual service dog. My cousin, friend, date doesn't have to explain anything to the maitre de, hotel workers or their friends.
Ren Karlej 3 years ago
Travelling with a blind person and staff in hotels tell ME how the shower etc in their room works. Or people grabbing a blind person and guiding them somewhere (eg through the ticket barrier on London Underground) that's another favourite. I was just getting my pass out my bag and they'd gone! ASK if people need assistance. Don't grab people.
Load More Replies... FrillyDragon 3 years ago
Ah, ableism. Ew. Protip: treat people how you would want to be treated...and put yourself in their shoes. Would YOU want someone to push you around without permission if that's how you need to get around?? Why can't we just treat each other like fellow humans with wants, needs, and dignity???
Barbara Kayton 3 years ago (edited)
This needs to be WAY higher. Happens far, far too much. The abuse, creepy disrespect, and violent discourtesy disabled men and women get is unbelievable. Climbing over, kids and adults squeezing around (and landing on top of the person, kneeing them in their injured back in an effort to push them — I could go on and on. Even punching them, or smacking the in the face with their bag or kicking their cane out from under them because the able bodied person was in a hurry- then keeping going or claiming the person tried to rob them. Too many shocking things to list. Even for someone simply struggling with a door - don’t assume you are helping by pulling it open. Get the person’s attention and ASK if they need help. One elderly woman nearly face-planted on a marble floor because the person on the inside thought it would be helpful to pull it open while she was holding the door handle and pushing. Because she was looking at her walker’s position at the time, she didn’t see him do it. ALWAYS ASK.
Daycare Attendant Sun 3 years ago
Anyone play Stardew Valley, and Penny "helped" Old Man George with his mailbox and pushed him out the way because he was in a wheelchair? And you can side with George that what Penny did was rude, and she should have asked if he needed or wanted help. That.
Brechje Geutjes 3 years ago
I'm a wheelchair user and this happens a lot. It's also f*cking annoying when people keep asking if you need help. I move myself with hands. So when I want t check my phone, open or close my jacket, or something else that I need my hands for I'm standing still. And when I'm standing still I doesn't need help. If I need help, trust me, I will ask for it.
#39
Strangers touching all over babies. Pinching cheeks, picking them up and kissing them. I’ve had people come up to me at a store and open up her car seat cover to see her. And I’ve had people that know my mom (strangers to me) come up and kiss her and pinch her cheeks and pass her around when she was just a little infant. None of them cleaning their hands either. I enjoy seeing people that I know holding and loving on my child but at least ask especially if you are a stranger.
Beeps 3 years ago (edited)
Plus the constant need to overstimulate them. Had this at work, colleague brings in her new baby who is lying in its pram, totally calm and just peacefully looking around, enjoying being chill, when another colleague comes along and has to start tickling and groping the baby, making loads of silly noises and daft exaggerated faces. Why??? The poor mite was just totally happy and chill and now they’re all wound up and have been needlessly disturbed from their rest.
tHeBoRdEsTpAnDa 3 years ago
I feel like groping maybe wasn't the best choice of words here
Load More Replies... Rosy Maple Moth 3 years ago
My partner once pinched an old lady’s cheeks back after she had touched our baby without asking. You should have seen her face!
Charlotte Grace 3 years ago
P***k! This! I put the plastic rain cover over the twins buggy whenever we went out for the first few months. People have no boundaries and are a health risk to premmies. Yes, I know you love babies and are fascinated with the fact they're twins, but DO NOT INVITE YOURSELF TO TOUCH MY KIDS
Mama Panda 3 years ago
My son was born with red hair. I had people coming up to me saying things like they would kill to have a child with red hair or they're going to steal my child away and then say they were joking. Pissed me off to no end to the point that I almost got violent with a couple of people who would approach my child and me with their arms reached out like they were going to grab him.
Kady LaHaie 3 years ago
My son had to wear a hip dysplasia harness from birth to 2 months. I kept him wrapped up from the waist down whenever we went out, to avoid this exact type of woman. One had the nerve to pull his blanket off and demand, what's wrong with your baby? I told her to go f**k herself.
Pizzagirl 91 3 years ago
Plus, the whole kissing on the mouth thing. My stepdaughter (6) somewhere picked up smooching people right on the lips, and it's absolutely a health risk for children! (Plus my husband and I find it very weird and unnecessary) She tried to do it to my twins when they were newborn, but fortunately desisted quickly when we asked her to please only kiss them on the cheek or the head. Even I myself would never kiss my children on the mouth, and I've chewed up food for them when they were starting solids.
charli 3 years ago
i'm so disgusted by people who do this and i'm only a teenager. i've seen stories of babies who get so sick, and have to deal with something for the rest of their lives because some stranger (or even family member!!) comes up and starts touching the baby with their grimy hands or kissing them. the poor children
Dean Turner 3 years ago
Wish people would stop doing this with other people's dogs, too. Why TF are you kissing my puppy?
#40
Family YouTube channels, honestly they start really sweet and all but it progressively gets worse when money gets involved.
Mohsie Supposie 3 years ago
You can make them do pretty much what you want if you post enough comments!
Amber Laplante 3 years ago
That is so funny and probably 100% true! LMFAO 🤣
Load More Replies... Mario Strada 3 years ago
It's the same reason why Dr. Phil and the other TV shysters eventually devolve into a shitshow (besides that they are terrible people to begin with). There is no way you can come up with relevant and interesting topics 5 days a week.
tHeBoRdEsTpAnDa 3 years ago
*cough cough* forgot her name but that one woman who used her dog dying as an excuse to get views and f*cking told her child how to cry *cough cough*
Rosy Maple Moth 3 years ago
I would like for noone to show their underaged kids on social media, not only YouTube. Kids are too young to understand what it means to have their faces shown online and often they don’t even get asked. We need to protect our children better! Parents who humiliate their children and share videos and pictures of said humiliation are the worst.
Anonymous 3 years ago (edited)
I've got two channels and neither of them will EVER be monetized.
onivdsrapowijap 3 years ago
What's wrong with monetizing Youtube channels, though? If people couldn't monetize their channels, no one would ever upload on Youtube because there would be no point. Of course, some would still upload just to provide entertainment for people, but big creators like MrBeast wouldn't create their amazing videos because they can't make money off of them, and would have to work other jobs to make a living
Load More Replies... Wysteria_Rose 3 years ago
I used to watch this comedian until more and more of her videos were less about funny skits and more about her toddler's medical issues and life development. It felt like this poor kid had lost so much privacy to his own life. I think she believes she's just spreading an advocacy for parents with kids on the spectrum/autism but it felt really weird getting these constant updates about what his doctors were saying about him.
BadCat 3 years ago
Even if it's sweet, the initial intention is to force the kids to be in the public eye whether they want to or not. Kids will just go along with parents so they either don't get in trouble for giving "attitude" or because they feel like it could be a fun experience not knowing the ramifications.
#41
People casually talking negatively about an unattractive/ugly person in their vicinity and the people they are with never call them out on it and will go along with them. As an ugly woman this constantly happens to me.
Brooklynn Jackson 3 years ago
You may consider yourself ugly, but to some, you are pretty af. Besides, do looks really matter ? I know it is cliché but it is the truth! If people can't see that, they're hopeless. Love you!
Rachel w 3 years ago
Yes. Looks matter. Let's get real here. Yes, someone out there will find you attractive. In a world with 7 billion people, it's going to happen. But please don't b******t and act like like being ugly, overweight, or having mental or physical disabilities doesn't make you FAR less attractive to most people, jobs, or otherwise. It's a lie . ( I'm fat btw) also! Just because you are any of these things does not make you any less WORTHY of love. But it does make it MUCH harder to find it. And there is NOTHING wrong with anyone who doesn't find you attractive. Attraction is very important in relationships. It doesn't make anyone shallow. You are allowed to like what you like. It IS however a huge problem when it comes to job and living opportunities. But it's a real and undeniable thing that is DEEPLY rooted in our biology going back to the caveman days .
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Josh Dorsett 3 years ago
As an Ugly male teen with a bit of extra air in my spare tire here I deal with it constantly too
D. Pitbull 3 years ago
Ah .. yeah.. I have experienced this. It's like all common sense leaves the entire group. They'll make comments that essentially flat out called me "undate-able" or... "last person on the planet viability only"... then got angry at ME for being offended. Or even more subtle... they'll outright MIStreat me in relative to someone else. Example - I ask "So the plan is to watch the movie then have dinner?" the group will just POUNCE like 'What, you're making our schedule now? Maybe I'm hungry now, why do you keep assuming things?" - not 2 minutes later... the last person joins our group asks the SAME question... but the response is: "Oh yeah, we're totally going to go to [restaurant] after the movie... but if you're hungry now we can switch that, what works for you?"
Nothing_To_See_Here_Folks 3 years ago (edited)
Also talking sht about people to their FRIENDS. A few people tried talking sht about my BEST FRIEND with me and i always get hella pissed off at that
BadCat 3 years ago
I'm considered ugly by a lot of people in my city, and by all the kids in the schools I went to. But other places I've been told I'm pretty. Beauty is suggestive and in the eye of the beholder, and some people can't see past the end of their nose and appreciate things for what they are.
HTFenthusiast 3 years ago
I know this is still wrong, but I talk about my bully to my friends a lot. I don't say she's ugly and whatnot I just tell them that she's the worst and that I hate her
#42
Stomping cigarette butts out on the ground.
Steal 3 years ago
I'm a former smoker of many many years. I would ALWAYS roll out the rest of the tobacco from the butt when I was done smoking and put the extinguished butt in the trash so as not to litter or cause a fire. I liked to call it "responsible smoking".
I'm Kid A 3 years ago
This is especially relevant in the... "dry states", I guess you could say? One smoldering ember will burn down the entire effing neighborhood. You have the right to screw up your lungs if you want, but don't make the rest of us suffer...
Load More Replies... InvincibleRodent 3 years ago
The only thing worse is if they just throw a lit cigarette butt on the ground, and leave it there.
BadCat 3 years ago
Some guy in a business suite threw a still lit cigarette butt in my direction and it hit my pants. I freaked out thinking it could light my clothes on fire. I saw his head turned towards me when he threw it, but he just turned back towards the door and walked back in the mall like it was nothing. I was only a teenager.
Load More Replies... ohjojo (you/your's) 3 years ago
Spitting your gum out on the sidewalk. Or just spitting on the sidewalk. Then there are the lovely fellows who blow their nose out on the sidewalk. Actually expelling snot onto the sidewalk on purpose. Who raised these kids?
Missy Missy 3 years ago
I'm a smoker and couldn't agree more. I hate seeing butts everywhere. It's bad for the environment and animals. It's not hard to put your smoke out and put the butt in a damn bin. Stop being lazy.
Carol Emory 3 years ago
How about throwing them out the window still lit. My sister and I saw a guy do this once at a stop light. She ran and grabbed it, met up with him at the next stoplight and pushed the lit cigarette trough his open window into his lap saying "You dropped this" then ran back to the car and locked all the doors. Then the light turned green and we waved to him as he rushed our car cussing and screaming as he brushed the burning embers from his crotch.
DC 3 years ago
I NEVER do this. I, every now and then, try to throw it into those little inserting holes from a distance that I likely rely on luck alone, and when I did that the first time, I hit from like 2 meters into a 2 cm hole ... and thought, cool, my aiming is supreme ... and ever since, it got worse. But, after failing, what's the matter to pick them up and dispose of properly? Don't get how one could not do that at least ... the world is not an ashtray, at least it's not my ashtray. It's kinda shiddy, a giant toilet of unique shape (for toilets ... planets all look so), but at least, may it be clean here and there...?
Rosy Maple Moth 3 years ago
That’s a $ 600 fine per cigarette in Singapore. All countries should handle it like that!
#43
Companies calling your phone without your consent. We're just lucky thet there isn't a market big enough that you'd have to check who's calling every 5 minutes.
HTFenthusiast 3 years ago
That one time when I was twelve and I got a scam call saying my son just got injured in a car accident. Like do I have a son I don't know about and who's the father, I was twelve😶🌫️
Show thyself 3 years ago (edited)
I have got into the habit of never answering the phone with "yes" or my name. Sometimes people say they are from authority xyz - in that case I always ask them to take the legally correct route by sending all the documents by post. As an authority, all the necessary data should be available. --- edit: typo
#44
Going "above and beyond" with no return in terms of work ethic.
tara 3 years ago
The 'reward' is being expecting to do extra the next time.
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Bringing a baby to an R-RATED MOVIE. Why?
#46
Needing to be in contact 24/7 in order to show interest in someone you’re dating
D. Pitbull 3 years ago
Broke up with a guy once who whined about this... I was like "I ... do NOT have time to text you 20 times a day (as in 20 separate conversations... not 20 individual messages). There are projects due, I have finals around the corner... NOTHING new has happened... what the hell do you want??" He had no reason.. just said he "expected it because that's how it's supposed to be"... really? To who? To YOU? Not to me?!
Pizzagirl 91 3 years ago
A guy I dated once broke up with me because I said I enjoyed spending Christmas all alone in London. Like, I legit did my own thing for once while abroad, and he was mad I didn't pine over him not being there. Good riddance...
#47
Not knowing how to cook, prepare or pack food for yourself.
Na Schi 3 years ago (edited)
Have the feeling that this gets a little bit better, especially regarding the male part of society. I remember that my father never evolved further than making sandwiches, scrambled eggs or spaghetti (with ketchup), like a lot of my friends fathers. (Okay putting meat on a grill/bbq is a different topic). However my male friends almost all c**k with passion.
Kise Miarse 3 years ago
Did . . . did BP censor "cook," or did you accidentally type a different word there? 😂
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El Dee 3 years ago
My grandmother, born early 20th century, raised her sons to be able to cook, clean, sew, wash and iron - basically anything to run a house. She believed a man should be able to do anything that women were doing. Of course the nonsense that women her age didn't work or were always in the home should be dispelled too. Perhaps that was true in the middle/upper classes but not for her or even her mother and grandmother..
Pieter LeGrande 3 years ago
I know how to cook, prepare and pack meals - I just don't like my own cooking.
tara 3 years ago (edited)
Hello, my name is tara, and I have a problem with cooking for myself.
Monday 3 years ago
Hello, my name is Monday, and I have a problem with cooking in general!
Load More Replies... ohjojo (you/your's) 3 years ago
A million years ago on my first day at college I was checking out the dorms and I was in the laundry room. I just caught the end of a conversation of a mom with her also 18-year-old son. It finished with"like this young girl right here, she'd love to do your laundry if you're just nice to her." Knowing how to take care of yourself is a life skill. Maybe we should stop learning about 18th century poets in school and start learning about how to manage a home. Or how to save money so someday you can have a home
#48
Lawns. They're unnatural, useless and need too much water.
Psycho Cat 3 years ago
Unnatural? I don't get this one. I have a lawn in front of my house, with some flowers and small trees, never water it.
Owen Jarvis 3 years ago
I think they mean large, featureless, prefectly manicured lawns.
Load More Replies... Stacey Rae 3 years ago
We need more gardens!!! Especially as food prices are going crazy! Grass just wastes water
XenoMurph 3 years ago
They are where we sit and socialise in the summer, not useless at all. I live in an area of plenty of rain, so no water needed.
Becky Samuel 3 years ago
I would just like to be able to sit and socialise without the sound of 3 competing lawnmowers buzzing away. It's like smoking in public places - you don't realise how much it annoys you when it's everywhere, but take it away and you notice the huge difference.
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Lama 3 years ago
Lawns are a weird outdated symbol of wealth, literally invented to show others you can afford to waste land. Guess what: we can't afford to waste land! Please use it to grow food and/or promote biodiversity.
InvincibleRodent 3 years ago
I fully agree with you. Planting and promoting native flora instead of plain grass is always preferable!
Load More Replies... homicidal parrot 3 years ago
Where I live, we gotta have short grass and neat lawns or else it’ll be a snake paradise 😭
E Henry Todd 3 years ago
During lockdown, my lawn and garden helped my mental health as it gave me somewhere to spend time in the fresh air and away from the house. It also gave me something to do (gardening) when options were limited. I have friends without a garden who really struggled.
Becky Samuel 3 years ago
Nobody's trying to take your garden away. The specific issue is lawns, especially in drought prone areas. I personally would love to sit outside at the weekend without hearing the constant buzzing of lawnmowers - we wouldn't tolerate that level of noise from our neighbors for any other reason, but for some reason we have to "put up and shut up" when it comes to lawnmower noise.
Load More Replies... Mama Panda 3 years ago
This one doesn't make any sense! They are very natural. And they're very useful as they contain ecosystems within themselves. There are a lot of insects that rely on grass and flowers and whatnot. Except spiders they can go straight to hell.
Becky Samuel 3 years ago
There's nothing natural about a monoculture grass lawn. They were invented by ultra-rich English aristocracy as a way of flexing their money.
Load More Replies... David Andrews 3 years ago
Very much location dependent. If you live somewhere hot and dry where grass needs to be brought in and watered regularly to prevent it dying, it's a fair enough point to say it's an unnecessary waste. Live in a colder, wetter country grass grows naturally without the need to water, and if you stopped cutting it you will very quickly end up with a mass of bushes and tree seedlings taking hold
Nikki Sevven 3 years ago
After this summer's drought. All the actual grass in my yard is dead. My "lawn" is still green, though, thanks to most of it being clover, wildflowers, and moss.
FrillyDragon 3 years ago (edited)
No thanks, I want some nature around my home. I hate concrete jungles and too little space around homes. :/ Plant some flowers or let a few weeds grow. No need for perfectly manicured ones. Just have it not overgrown, ya know?
What do you think ?
Gary 3 years ago
Can I ask, just how many more variants of this question and similar question does Board Panda intend to host, why not get out there and discover interesting new things for us, or wonderful art?
Carol Emory 3 years ago
This is for Americans...having to drain your bank account to pay for medications so you can stay alive. Insulin costing $600 a month...Chemo treatments that can have you owing half a million or more before you're done. All because pharma companies know people are willing to pay anything to stay alive. It's wrong and immoral.
Laura 3 years ago
YESS! I'm only 18 and take several medications, all of which adds up to BIG- and SUPPOSEDLY i have the BEST insurance in America!! 😭
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SewingStaffy 3 years ago
I don't think the question was fully understood by many of the responders. More than half of these are not socially accepted. Bored Panda is getting quite boring
Seedy Vine 3 years ago
I've got one: Street preachers who holler through bullhorns at the general public about how they're going to Hell while ignoring the needy all around them. Judge not lest ye be judged.
gie 3 years ago
Shaming parents and guardians, especially moms, telling strangers, "No, don't touch my child", or, "Get away from us." I know society is getting better, but stop judging, looking down, or commenting how a parent is over reacting over nothing. It's not nothing, it's called a boundary.
Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
"Socially acceptable" varies widely within a single culture, let alone across them, so let's just stop with the idea that there's any One Right Way beyond "do unto others as you'd be done unto".
tuzdayschild 3 years ago (edited)
Believing your opinion is worth so much more than someone else's. P.S. Not knowing the difference between opinion and fact.
Monday 3 years ago
Absolutely! If you like the look of fur then go for synthetic!
Load More Replies... Rob Eman 3 years ago
Car alarms should not be legal. They are nuisance and don't deter as intended. Not to mention provably bad for everyone's mental health.
Vix Spiderthrust 3 years ago
Everyone's so used to them crying wolf every time the wind blows the wrong way that we don't react to them at all, except maybe by rolling our eyes.
Load More Replies... Gary 3 years ago
Can I ask, just how many more variants of this question and similar question does Board Panda intend to host, why not get out there and discover interesting new things for us, or wonderful art?
Carol Emory 3 years ago
This is for Americans...having to drain your bank account to pay for medications so you can stay alive. Insulin costing $600 a month...Chemo treatments that can have you owing half a million or more before you're done. All because pharma companies know people are willing to pay anything to stay alive. It's wrong and immoral.
Laura 3 years ago
YESS! I'm only 18 and take several medications, all of which adds up to BIG- and SUPPOSEDLY i have the BEST insurance in America!! 😭
Load More Replies... SewingStaffy 3 years ago
I don't think the question was fully understood by many of the responders. More than half of these are not socially accepted. Bored Panda is getting quite boring
Seedy Vine 3 years ago
I've got one: Street preachers who holler through bullhorns at the general public about how they're going to Hell while ignoring the needy all around them. Judge not lest ye be judged.
gie 3 years ago
Shaming parents and guardians, especially moms, telling strangers, "No, don't touch my child", or, "Get away from us." I know society is getting better, but stop judging, looking down, or commenting how a parent is over reacting over nothing. It's not nothing, it's called a boundary.
Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
"Socially acceptable" varies widely within a single culture, let alone across them, so let's just stop with the idea that there's any One Right Way beyond "do unto others as you'd be done unto".
tuzdayschild 3 years ago (edited)
Believing your opinion is worth so much more than someone else's. P.S. Not knowing the difference between opinion and fact.
Monday 3 years ago
Absolutely! If you like the look of fur then go for synthetic!
Load More Replies... Rob Eman 3 years ago
Car alarms should not be legal. They are nuisance and don't deter as intended. Not to mention provably bad for everyone's mental health.
Vix Spiderthrust 3 years ago
Everyone's so used to them crying wolf every time the wind blows the wrong way that we don't react to them at all, except maybe by rolling our eyes.
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