What is ‘obvious’ to you and me might not be clear to someone else. And vice versa! Common sense isn’t all that common. Not to mention that all of us, no matter our education, have gaps in our knowledge that we’re not aware of. It takes quite a bit of guts and tons of humility to admit that.
Members of the r/AskReddit online community recently opened up about the ‘really obvious’ things they only just realized. Scroll down for a good laugh, as well as a reminder that we’re not so different when it comes to our info blindspots, after all.
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I learned where "Pulling out all the stops" came from a couple of years ago (watching a documentary on Interstellar's music).
It's from playing organs...air is blown thru the organ's pipes to play notes - and you have "stops" in there if you don't want a particular pipe to play. So when you pull out all the stops, you get all the pipes playing...
I was at least 50 when I learned that the little piggy who went to market wasn’t shopping.
My mom was doing her best.
Most of them are. Most of them deserve the Victoria Cross/Medal of Honour/whatever.
Most of us want to be accepted and respected by our family and friends, as well as coworkers and strangers alike. Like it or not, social connections and reputation matter to lots of people. Naturally, this means that some folks want to present themselves in the best possible light. That means showing off their best qualities while subtly hiding the worst ones.
For many people, losing their social standing and being publicly humiliated is one of the most horrible things that can happen to them. That’s why they obsess so much about projecting power and authority and avoid behaviors that can make them look weak… like admitting that they don’t know something about a subject many others do.
My sister learned recently that when you're at the grocery store and opening the egg carton that you're checking for cracked eggs and not just making sure that they are in fact eggs in the carton.
I'm not "quirky", I have ADHD. I'm in my 50s.
I think they mean that after 50 years of being “quirky” they have just discovered they have had ADHD all along.
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I was diagnosed in my 20's, and now in my 40's I find out that I actually don't have it. I have depression, and always have, and I have learned that constant stimulation over rides that natural low serotonin.
Someone is being very mean and downvoting comments in this post. I hope they just go away.
The testing process for ADD/ADHD is based on the adolescent male brain (it's changed recently but not much) so all the women who grew up in the 80s and earlier would likely not have been tested because it shows up differently for boys than it does for girls. Source: I was born in '82 and didn't get my ADD diagnosis until I was 18 and had already struggled a whole lot in elementary and high school and dropped out (and knew by the time I was having the tests that led to the diagnosis that I was never going back to any school) at 15. I had been tested on and off since I was in my early years of elementary school. I fell through the cracks of the mainstream education system and the system failed me. I think it was largely because of the era (1988) I started being tested.
Just found out at age 68 that I'm ADHD. Good to know, but also sad. Felt like a loser for years.
Don't know why some ugly person is downvoting comments like this. Please tell me, how did you get your diagnosis? I need help too.
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I was diagnosed at the age of 50, and just turned 59. I'm still learning how to manage my symptoms. The quirkiness helps.
Autism / ASD / Asberger's / ADHD are generally termed neurological diversity or ND. As opposed to neurological typicality or NT. Genetic variation means that out brains are hard-wired in lots of weird and wonderful ways. The people who fit into today's "cool" or "aspirational" categories are neuro-typical. Those who are somewhat quirky, eccentric, or otherwise not "mainstream" are neuro-diverse. These traits may or may not offer some sort of evolutionary benefit but that's the beauty of variatiom.
ADHD was not diagnosed when we were kids...unfortunately we were just considered bad kids
Okay, ADHD really does exist. However, I question whether EVERYBODY has it or if some are just using it as an excuse.... for something.
This really makes me question myself. My fiancé swears I have ADHD but I really don’t think I do but I can see why he’d come to the conclusion over some of my intricacies… I should probably get checked out.
I'm a psychiatrist and I thought all the tests for ADHD were b******t bc of course everyone would answer yes to most of those questions. I was trying to find the best questionnaire and they all kept saying I had ADHD. So I sent them to all my friends certain we'd all come back with ADHD. Nope. I was the only one. And so that is how I, a trained psychiatrist, finally learned I have ADHD in my late 40's. I'm very sluggish so I thought there was no way I could be part of this "hyper" disorder. On meds now and the improvement is impressive. Go get checked out. Doesn't hurt.
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I think I had ADD or ADHD when I was a kid. It was called "not paying attention" back then and I got in trouble a lot at school. I was lucky that my 7th grade teacher (back in the 1970s) talked to my parents and had me tested. Over time, I learned how to deal with my ADD (However, I'm still easily distracted by shiny things lol).
I'm in my mid 60s and positive I have ADD or ADHD following a very traumatic childhood. My doctors just kind of shrug when I say this. I really want a diagnosis and some help. P.S. I love shiny sparkly things too!
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Diagnosed with ADHD in my 20s and Aspergers in my 40s . Next ? 😄
I do as well, 48. Quirky is an understatement according to my wife and kids.
I suspected since college that I had ADHD, finally got officially diagnosed at 40 y/o. After describing my symptoms to my Dr, she chuckled & said I had "textbook ADHD". Eight years later, yup, still socially awkward at times, but life on the right meds is an incredible new world & I'm so much happier : )
I'm quirky and weird. Wrapped up with dark humor and I'm not AHAD.
SAME! I’m an artist and get easily distracted but I thought that was what happens with artists. I only recently discovered I have ADHD. I asked a friend if she thought I had it and I barely got the sentence out when she said “from the moment I met you!"
My daughter has ADHD and so does her oldest son, she told me I have it, too.
These labels and semantics….Look at some point along this road everyone is neurodivergent and at that point we have to ask “divergent from what?” If there is no normal then you cannot be “divergent” you are just different. And if we are all different then there is no pity party for people that aren’t “normal”. So I guess we need to maintain an ersatz normal to keep the pity part going?
I am quirky have adhd and I am 46. But honestly the struggle is real.
I am 19 and I have had ADHD and a sleeping disorder my whole life. I decided to go to the doctor and figure out wtf was wrong with me after I turned 18. Turned out I wasn’t stupid just undiagnosed going without meds. So now just about every adult looks at me like a lazy bum that fell asleep in every class and couldn’t pay attention or understand assignments. When I got on meds (senior year) I was #16 of my class in the top 20%.
The problem with wanting to be seen as ‘perfect’ at all times is that it’s utterly unsustainable. Nobody’s perfect. We all make mistakes. We all have a lot to learn about the world, even if we have a few fancy degrees under our belts.
However, how we react to our mistakes and ignorance says a lot about who we are, how we approach learning, and whether we have a growth-oriented mindset. Admitting that we’ve been wrong about something and owning up to our knowledge gaps can be embarrassing. If you deny that you’ve been wrong, you’ll only push people away from you. On the other hand, when you embrace your embarrassment and admit to having been wrong, you paradoxically draw people in. Your humility makes you seem more human.
How the American bail system works.
I thought it was a sum of money you paid to avoid jail. I was surprised when I realized you get the money BACK if you show up for your trial.
I was like 25 when I found out the jugs of washer fluid outside the gas station aren’t free. I was walking out of the gas station with a buddy one day, grabbed a jug of washer fluid, and he asked me “did you just steal that?” And I was like “No, dude, it’s free”. It’s not, I stole washer fluid for nearly ten years of driving and no one ever said anything to me about it.
In high school science class we were watching a video and it was then that I realized Reindeer are, in fact, real creatures and not just mythical beings for the purpose of pulling Santa’s sled.
Even though there’s absolutely no way to learn everything there is to know about the world, we can do our best to fill in our knowledge gaps as we become aware of them.
For instance, if you suddenly realize that you thought that reindeer were mythical creatures, you could do some research about the animal. Read up on them online. Go to your local library for some more resources. Visit a wildlife sanctuary and see them with your own two eyes.
When I was a kid I thought it was ultra violent light instead of ultraviolet light. As in, that sun can really f**k up your skin if you don’t wear sunscreen. Bahahaha! So violent.
So, in a sense, it can actually be ultra-violent. Wear sunscreen, people.
That the drummer for Nirvana really was Dave Grohl, and not just a guy that looks really similar.
Water towers are for water pressure, not just a town putting its name on a tank and saying "Hey look how much dang water WE have."
Similarly, if you suddenly realize that you’ve been oblivious about saving and investing, there’s no time like the present to brush up on your knowledge and start your journey toward financial independence. Of course, you’re bound to have some regrets about not knowing something earlier. However, the best time to correct your mistakes is the present. And if you’re cringing about the person you were in the past, it only means that you’ve grown!
For some more ‘obvious’ knowledge gaps that folks only realized they had later in life, take a peek at Bored Panda’s earlier post.
I feel so dumb for this but I just learned that ‘Rainbow Baby’ is a mother’s next baby after having a miscarriage. I just assumed it was a term of endearment for a queer baby. I know. I know. 🤦🏽♀️
Not me, but my 21yo cousin just realized he is mildly allergic to peanut butter, and has been his whole life.
Up until now, he had assumed EVERYONE'S throat closed up a little while eating a pb&j sandwich, but they just fought through it.
Oh my word, that's scary. I have a mild peanut allergy (never had anaphylaxis so I wouldn't call it severe) but just the sensation of itching, closing throat and nausea is enough to put me off even *smelling* them. If someone eats peanuts anywhere near me, I have to leave. Highly inconvenient on planes (!) and really pisses me off in the cinema!
That the best time to start saving for my future really was all those years ago.
Learned I was allergic to latex from talking to my friend. She told me that since I’m allergic to some citrus I may be allergic to latex and asked me if condoms bothered me. I responded and said yes but they bother everyone who uses them.
That’s how I learned that burning and itching and a road rash are not normal after coitus with a condom. 🙃 (I’m 26).
I recently realized that “Howdy” is short for “How do you do?”
I actually just googled it, and it’s technically short for “How do ye?” However, my realization still makes sense.
In the UK we say “alright?” Which is short for “good day to you, upstanding fellow citizen, how do you fare on this fine day?”
I was 39 when I realised the pointy bit on a the lid of a tube of something, for example tomato puree.. Was for braking the foil seal. For years I used a fork to break the seal until I watched someone remove the lid , turn it around and place it over the seal. Mind blown.
I just found out yesterday that I have aphantasia, meaning I can't visualize images in my mind. When I think about an object I just know that I'm thinking about it, but I don't see anything when I close my eyes.
My car key remote isn’t broken, the battery died after nearly 10 years.
This past weekend, that the girl that invited me to an after party at her place and then asked for me to crash in her bed was not simply just being nice, I am f*****g stupid.
(*sigh*) been there, done that, got the regrets to prove it. (And, i wouldn't put it past me to be that dumb again.)
I can't eat any type of nut. It messes with my stomach lining. I genuinely thought nuts just made everyone sick after eating them. Like salsa. Edit: I've discovered something about salsa today.
That sign you see near schools with the two people crossing holding books? I was stuck in traffic a few weeks ago and suddenly realized it wasn't two women with purses.
That cows have to get pregnant before they can make milk.
The fact so many people are so out of touch with nature and food is what makes me think we are all going to hell in a handcart. We are part of the ecosystem. We are mammals. When do we make milk? For feeding our babies! So it's the same with all mammals. If we poison the ecosystem, we poison ourselves.
I'm Norwegian, and was at least thirty before I realized that the tomatoes crossing the road schoolyard joke (two tomatoes cross the road, one gets run over, the other says "Come on, catch up") has, in what I assume is the original English, a punchline. Well, for a schoolyard joke, anyway.
Norwegian kids tell the same joke, but there's no catch up/ketchup pun in Norwegian, so they just tell a joke where the squashed tomato is now ketchup. At some point a kid who knew enough English to have heard the joke but not enough for the pun told it to younger kids, who assumed it was funny because an older kid was telling it, and it has been repeated between children for generations.
A pickle is a cucumber that's been pickled.
The word "bed" actually looks like a bed.
Handy for remembering which way b and d face. Whose idea was it to have two letters that are identical mirror images of each other? And why does small d face the opposite way as capital D?
I grew up in Poland. When a person was arrested on a crime that was publicized, the media will only list their first name and the first initial of last name, to protect their identity before conviction, e.g. Peter G. My friend thought that all criminals had one letter last names and he was surprised the police wouldn’t just go all Minority Report on them and arrest all people with one letter last names.
Heard this on a podcast yesterday, Fes from that 70s show, FES= foreign exchange student.
It’s called a “funny bone” bc it’s a humerus.
Name is related but it's actually a nerve you're hitting, not bone.
That the phrase mint condition means like new because it's the condition coins leave the mint in.
I am not responsible for other people's lives. Feels a little better accepting that I don't have to stress too much over supporting my family. I shouldn't feel too overwhelmed to the point of having suicidal ideations just from the stress alone. Edit : No, I don't have kids. I'm single, been supporting my family (parents, siblings) for 10 years.
I hope I can learn how to not feel responsible for other people's lives, it's cost me so much emotionally and really damaged my mental state. for the past two years I've had so many thoughts of ending things because someone I tried to support all the time (family member) started berating me constantly but out of fear of them doing something I stuck by them. it hurts more than people think
I only realized recently, at 40 years old, that a "fortnight" is called that because it's like "fourteen nights"...
I think because I always remembered it as two weeks, and not 14 days.
Thank you for the explanation… I never knew that until now - age 53
That sometimes things are just the way they are, you can't change the situation you're in, only your actions and your emotions and how you react to them.
I guess I realized that certain situations sometimes feel unfair or are not favourable to your needs and you have to find happiness in the best way you can and live your life. Sometimes you gotta make sacrificies because that's the only option.
I know "felix" is the Latin word for "happy," but only recently did I discover the name Felix is also known to mean "lucky."
Now I'm getting the irony of naming a *black cat* "Felix the Cat."
(For those who don't know, Felix is an old cartoon, and there's a superstition that a black cat crossing your path is very *un*lucky.)
Black cats are actually considered good luck in the UK and many other cultures too.
Colonoscopies aren’t just for looking for cancer and other issues. It’s preventative for cancer because they remove the polyps where it starts. I’m pretty up on medical stuff, didn’t know that.
*might* start. It might not. Anyway, always better to remove those.
I'm 50 ish. For the last couple years I kept feeling that I'm getting close to retirement and I'm only going to have a few years to do what I want... Then I realized I could only be halfway there! What if I live till I'm 90? That's 40 more years! I have time to do absolutely anything I want to! It was just this crazy sort of epiphany that went you're looking at this all wrong! Life isn't over at 60 or 65, you still have a lot of time!
Except I'm not sure I will ever be able to retire, and I think the same will go for many my age. At the same time, AI will take over lots of jobs and, where the industrial revolution replaced hard manual work with machines, this revolution will put people out of work who enjoy using their brains, leaving us all poorer and stupider.
I didn't know there are two little bumps on the F and J keys so your hands know where to center while typing. I only learned this when my kids wanted to try typing and it's the first lesson!
And years of gaming make me ignore proper placement when I'm typing so my left hand can cover WASD.
My wife and I are both in our 50's. She told me recently that she just realized the song Black Velvet, by Allanah Myles, is about Elvis.
I used to think that clapper thing in movies was to get the actors' attention. Not for editing.
They're for sound synchronization. The loud clap with the visual effect makes editing easier back in the day when sound and video were captured through separate machines and had to be recombined later.
The "Mad" in "Mad Men" meant "Madison Avenue."
I think that is explained in the first 5 minutes of the first episode.
Last year I realized that when you sign your "initials" they are called that because they are the first letters, i.e. the initial letters, of your name.
That Loch - as in Loch Ness - is the Gaelic word for lake.
I should have been twisting the bottom of my deodorant to push the plastic cover out instead of using my teeth.
Just so you know, you can also open canned food, not chew through
When I was 15 I realized rice isn’t pasta chopped in small pieces.
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There is a difference between a lack of knowledge and a lack of intelligence, were you born knowing everything?
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I grew up in a city where there were beautiful and obvious mountains to the north, and my parents always taught me that if you want to know where north is, look for the mountains. I was in my 30s when it dawned on me that this wouldn't necessarily work in other places. Derp.
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Here's one not a lot of people know: Goodbye was actually a shortening of "God Be With You". GodB(with)Ye.
Due to the number of people not realizing this: If something is itchy/uncomfortable/spicy/makes your throat or mouth feel weird, and this is unique to you/close relatives, you're probably allergic to it.
I can't fathom the idea of continuing eating something that makes your throat swell up every time. Even if it DID happen to everyone, you'd think it's so uncomfortable that people stopped eating it.
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I have chickens and a turkey. I was talking about how everyone wants chicken eggs from me (they're pets and I don't eat eggs) but people are weirded out by turkey eggs. My sister exlaimed, "Turkeys lay eggs?!" 😆 She was already over 30 when she learned, by way of this conversation, that turkeys lay eggs.
My dad always had us tap snow and dirt off our feet out the car door before getting all the way in. I internalized that as being nice/respectful to the car, and not as a way to avoid having to clean out excess dirt. This very morning as I was swinging my feet into my own car, the dots finally connected. I've been driving/owned a car for nearly 16 years now, and have done lots of spring car cleaning.
When I heard on the news about a crime, and that someone was "helping the police with their enquiries "I thought that person had walked into the station and was now making the tea and doing a bit of filing etc. Must have been in my 40s before I got that.
There is a difference between a lack of knowledge and a lack of intelligence, were you born knowing everything?
Load More Replies... I grew up in a city where there were beautiful and obvious mountains to the north, and my parents always taught me that if you want to know where north is, look for the mountains. I was in my 30s when it dawned on me that this wouldn't necessarily work in other places. Derp.
I grew up on the U.S. west coast, and I felt disoriented when I first moved to the east coast. I kept looking at the ocean and thinking, "there's the ocean -- that's west," and then I'd be all turned around.
Load More Replies... Here's one not a lot of people know: Goodbye was actually a shortening of "God Be With You". GodB(with)Ye.
Due to the number of people not realizing this: If something is itchy/uncomfortable/spicy/makes your throat or mouth feel weird, and this is unique to you/close relatives, you're probably allergic to it.
I can't fathom the idea of continuing eating something that makes your throat swell up every time. Even if it DID happen to everyone, you'd think it's so uncomfortable that people stopped eating it.
Load More Replies... I have chickens and a turkey. I was talking about how everyone wants chicken eggs from me (they're pets and I don't eat eggs) but people are weirded out by turkey eggs. My sister exlaimed, "Turkeys lay eggs?!" 😆 She was already over 30 when she learned, by way of this conversation, that turkeys lay eggs.
My dad always had us tap snow and dirt off our feet out the car door before getting all the way in. I internalized that as being nice/respectful to the car, and not as a way to avoid having to clean out excess dirt. This very morning as I was swinging my feet into my own car, the dots finally connected. I've been driving/owned a car for nearly 16 years now, and have done lots of spring car cleaning.
When I heard on the news about a crime, and that someone was "helping the police with their enquiries "I thought that person had walked into the station and was now making the tea and doing a bit of filing etc. Must have been in my 40s before I got that.
