“Wine Mums”: People Online Describe What They Consider To Be A Terrible Parent (30 Examples)

It's kinda weird to me how human bodies are seen as something to be ashamed of. It's simply a vessel for your journey on earth. Everyone has one, come on. Plus, at school the worst that could happen is everyone would go "haha penis"

I personally wouldn’t stop apologizing if I was in those shoes. I’m like that with everybody, really, but you can believe it’d be even more so with my kid especially.

In kindergarten my teacher filmed me having a meltdown because I couldn’t get my ski pants on, you know instead of helping me. Then showed it to me and told me off for having a meltdown. So having both home and school be places I couldn’t cry really helped me stop having meltdowns /s

There's a lot of abuse behind the scenes. Putting your kids lives out for everyone to see, it's disgusting. Looking at you, DaddyOFive

parenting my sibling at home, parenting my friends at school, parenting smaller relatives under the age of 12 at events… can’t people understand that i wanna put my feet up with a drink in one hand and a bag of dry roasted nuts in the other?!

My mother grew up with a friend who had a mother that was like this, he could do no wrong in her eyes, he was her “golden child”. It got to the point it ending up being where it was his friends, and his friends parents, who would scold him whenever he did something wrong because his mom would always just defend him; enable him if you will. I never understood parents like this. These same parents, later on in life, wonder why their kids treat them like s**t -_-

We had a bunch of kids in a part of my city that thought it was funny to stand next to a road at their school and throw rather big rocks at cars passing by. School staff contacted the police (primary school, kids are teenagers), and made a pretty big deal about it - and that made some of the parents upset, like "we know it was wrong of them, but did you have to be so harsh?" not defending, but downplaying it like it was just a prank. They caused damage on cars and it was just pure luck they didnt cause any accidents. Yes I know teenagers sometimes do things not very thought through, but throwing rocks like this... That's in no way "just teens being teens"

My parents were always taking the others' side no matter what. İt was a very lonely childhood without knowing that your parents are going to support you. A very unbalanced relationship :(

You can still be your child's champion without blindly believing they are absolute saints! Having a balanced view of situations and being able to reprimand them safely is a huge skill missing from so many parents...pretty scary on the whole. A child will likely be a better human for having a parent with a decent moral compass and a balanced view of the world and it's problems. Corrective principles don't need to physically/emotionally hurt a child, they need to show them what they did/didn't do, why it was not appropriate and what to do in the future. Also to prove to them you have their back when they are truly not to blame...it's a tough, tough challenge, but so worth putting the effort into

Also, kids lie.

I got into a physical fight with an a*****e in my school bus just cuz he was blocking my way and refused to move when I wanted to get out of the bus to talk to my friend outside . I was in 7th Grade and I'm a girl ,while he was in the 6th grade. He slapped me , which caused my glasses to go flying. I pulled his hair and dug my nails on his arm. Then I bent down to pick up my glasses and he took that opportunity to kick my butt literally. That's when I actually blew up and pulled his hair even harder while he kept slapping me.the bus driver separated us and we got back to our seats. My stop comes after 10 mins of his, so by then his mom obviously found out and called the driver just when i was getting out. She demanded him to make me speak to her and I did. She began admonishing me for beating up her 'precious' son while denying that her son can actually be a bully . I didn't want to get my parents involved but my brother still told them what happened and they were furious as well.

This is especially hard when it happens to only one child, and you're not that child. My mom will go through contortions to defend her son's behavior. But my sister and I don't always make the cut. She's actually improved a little as she's gotten older, but we all know who the family favorite is.

I always went with: "anything is possible, but I need to hear from all parties."

or doing the opposite like my parents and having the blame on me without hearing the other side

God no if my kids f**k up they face the consequences, I loath this my little angel wouldn’t do this or that !! OH YES THEY WOULD , mine have been bought up properly , but everyone’s capable , and as a now 60 yr old mother n kids are 24-21 this yr , if they every messed up so badly it was a police matter , I’m the one taking em there or calling em ! I will always stand by my kids no matter what if they are innocent , but not till I’ve heard ALL sides as it should be , ! so mine have never f****d up cos they know I,ll only stand up for em IF they didn’t do it ! if they did sorry they on their own !! face the consequences simple

I wish these adoring monster-making enablers could see that they're creating someone who will be universally disliked. Wish I could'a been a fly on the wall when a certain squalling brat started school, -or maybe not, I'd probably laugh so hard I'd fall off.

I'm looking at you Karens.

My mother was like this at first and then found my perspective of something that was happening to me as a child differed from what my teacher said, then my mom never trusted me fully and would throw it back in my face until I was a teen. I was 7 when it occurred.

Say whatever you want about me but not to or around our kids.

So sorry you went through this

So common in my household when I was a child,cry for no reason ?easy solution ..a parent would whack you so you had something real to cry about.Hated it so much.

I once got told off by a teacher when I was in the seventh grade for having clothes that smelled like cigarette smoke. Both of my parents smoked, my older brother smoked. It was almost impossible to have anything in that house that didn't smell like cigarette smoke. My mom had to tell my teacher that the reason why I smelled of smoke was because of them.

True, there ist some misogyny in the Term though. You rarely hear complaints about "Whiskey dads" or guys(often with children) flexing their brewery knowledge. But moms cant enjoy a glass of wine in a thursday evening? Sure, some may have a problem, but this label ist too focused in women. Some women usw the term ironically.

Like if your kid has a medical condition that makes it easy to gain weight, or whatever, as long as you try to keep them healthy despite that medical condition, you’re an alright parent! But if it’s the fact that your kid picked up YOUR habits and you don’t care whether they eat healthy, then yikes. Source: got bad eating habits from my parents :/

Not disciplining kids is a form of benign neglect. Sooner or later in life they will face repercussions for bad behavior.

Depending on how old the child is

This is so true,I grew up being abused everyday imaginable,it nearly took my life a couple of times.But I can very proudly say my children had the opposite childhood that I did and they have grown to be loving caring men ,one who is now a fantastic father .I didn't think I would survive to be 16,let alone 53 ,married for 34 years with my soul mate and 2 sons and 2 daughter in laws that I love like my own...you have to brekq the Cycle

Also my mother 🖐️

If it's for cultural name it should be given a pass. Other people can learn the proper pronunciation and learn to just accept that there are other languages out there than English, French, Spanish and Hebrew. I worked at a job where I had to ask for people's names and got a lot of Indian, Sri Lankan, Thai, Mandarin, Cantonese, Russian, names that looked like someone just smashed a keyboard "efiefhuifuireer" and called it a name. Still had to make an attempt with a "I'm apologize if I mispronounce the name..." https://globalnews.ca/news/9587949/indigenous-name-bc-birth-certificate/

I've seen this go way too far the other way though - outright cruelty and coldness because "I'm your parent, not your friend". Horrid mindset to go into raising a person who cannot leave you. There is a balance in being friendly and being a parent.

THIS.

Some parents go to the opposite extreme, with every response to the child being 'no.' For me as a child, it automatically generated a "why?" for which I was lectured for back talking. Please teach children that there are reasons for decisions, and consequences for both cooperation and disobedience. Discipline literally means to teach, not punish. Children deserve to know how and why things work.

This was my mom. My brother and I got yelled at constantly just for giggling and playing and having fun. She treated it as if we were being out of line and needed to be adult-like and quiet at all times. We were kids that weren't allowed to be kids.

who does this??

When I was 10 I got Roblox but only got to play for 2 days before it was banned for being an online game (as a young kid I raged a lot, you know, from anger issues caused by trauma). Anyways I played it in secret and would shut my door to do so everyday. My parents would get annoyed. And unrelated but yesterday I was watching videos on my phone in the dark (was still daytime) my mom comes in to grab something then starts questioning me about it like I was using my damn phone to run a drug dealing ring.

Neglect=abuse

My father did this half the times we were out in public

I used to get in trouble for stuff *other* people did. Example - Mom arranged for me to spend the afternoon at a classmates house. We weren't even friends, but she was nice enough. Her mother told us to go play outside unsupervised. My mom came to pick me up and found out the adult didn't know where we were and hadn't even tried to look. *I* got in trouble. I was maybe 7 or 8 years old?

My mom has ADHD and likely some other mental illness from her terrible childhood. She denies she has it. Would likely deny I have it. I’m pretty sure I have it because my two siblings do. I’ve taken multiple self assessments all suggesting I have ADHD. At some point me and my sister will try to get a doctor’s evaluation. So many hoops to jump through for an official diagnosis all because my mom is ignorant.

He will not give a f**k when I leave and I will want nothing to do with him either. Sometimes cutting out family is best for everyone.

Several years ago was a Disney land in one of the restaurants. Large family group of about 25 sitting nearby. Kids running around bumping into people and never saw any parents trying to control them. Left a huge mess, too

I had brushed my daughter's teeth and flossed morning and night, daily. I couldn't get her in to see any dentist in the city until she was 2. By then I was told she had 6 cavities. Those got fixed. Every other dentist visit we were told she had cavities. I've learned recently tiny cavities don't necessarily need fillings every times. But I think it was necessary because she continues to have tooth problem to this day no matter how diligent she is. As a contrast, I have a fear of dentists and it was quite a few years before I went to a dentist and neglected my own teeth. When I did get up the courage to go to a dentist I was sure much of my teeth were too bad and about to fall out. Turns out all they needed was a good cleaning and no cavities. What??? My daughter's dad has deteriorating teeth and her grandpa has had a history of tooth problems, despite going to the dentist. Genetics are weird and frustrating. I didn't do any bottle propping, nor give her much sweets, either.

I think that it’s parents who encourage their children to act like stereotypical “teens”, as in drinking, vaping, being sexually explicit etc. Almost everyone as a child-teen thinks they are more or less an adult; or have the same responsibility/maturity. It’s just a fact. When I was twelve I sure thought I was mature and that I could handle life. As a young teen I know that in a few years I’ll see myself as a child pretending at maturity. Very good parents are ones who validate their child’s thoughts and experiences- no matter their age.