We all have our secret shames. Guilty little skeletons in the closet that we would never dare to confess to even our closest friends. Well, not when sober, at least.
The great thing about the internet is its anonymity. Behind the protection of a screen, people can feel liberated to say things they never would in face-to-face conversation, and really say what they mean. Of course, it goes both ways and this can also lead to all kinds of bullying and abuse, but that's for another post.
This post is all about getting it off your chest and owning up to past wrongs. While confessing anonymously to randoms on the internet is hardly taking responsibility for one's actions, the very act of confession can alleviate feelings of guilt and help people to get on with their lives. From the hilariously trivial to the actually quite profound, these confessions will take you through a rollercoaster of emotions, and might even make you reflect on your own past transgressions.
So scroll down below to check out the sordid details for yourself, and let the therapy begin!
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i always did it. and turned them away when i thought i'm doing something they wouldn't approve. just in case :D
According to an article in Scientific American, any type of open and truthful disclosure reduces stress and helps individuals come to terms with their behavior. "It is not coincidental that some of the most powerful people or institutions in many cultures encourage people to confess their transgressions," they write. "And there is very strong evidence that writing about upsetting experiences or dark secrets can benefit your mental and physical well-being."
"First, simply putting emotional turmoil into words changes how we think about it. Giving concrete form to secret experiences can help categorize them in new ways. For instance, when we translate emotional experiences into words and stories, we start to think about them in a simpler, less menacing context. There is no solid evidence to explain this phenomenon, but it most likely occurs because talking or writing about a disturbing event helps us understand it better. And things we do not understand cause greater anxiety."
"Dozens of studies have also shown that expressive writing is linked to less stress and improved sleep and cardiovascular function. We know that better sleep is associated with enhanced immune function and better general health—which correlate with better mental health, too."
"Expressive writing and religious confession are not panaceas, but these forms of release can help us get through difficult times. The beauty is that you do not have to be religious to benefit from confession. The underlying mechanisms are available to anyone for the price of a pencil and paper."
Same tbh. I especially hate it when they do this while hiking/camping. People go in the mountains for the quiet, if you want music blasting go to a club.
So there you go. Got any guilty secrets you've been holding on to? Try writing about them, and allow yourself to properly express your emotions. It is clearly a great benefit to both your mental and physical health!
I live in third world country and I still have more love and sympathy for animals lot more than humans.
my brothers gf got pregnant and lost it. I was secretly pleased cause they don't have their s**t together and live in a trashy apt. with no ambition to make their life better. his gf is also not right in the head. I am glad they lost it cause it would have made mess out of their already messy life. however, I'm curious if it would have given him a reason to change.
If you are his best friend I don't want to know who is his worst enemy. But probably his mom.
I tried the vegetarian life...don't have the discipline for it. lasted one week only.
It's sad that this is seen as a shameful thing. It's perfectly normal to feel ánd show emotions, for both men and women!
Not meaning to diminish the real problems re: men not being allowed to cry, but I'm a woman and I cry at movies too and I have a terrible shame around it. Maybe because a lot of people tease me - because they know it bugs me. Also because I will cry at even very badly done scenes. I wish I didn't. Anyway, at least when people tease me they do it lightheartedly, I know it would be way harder if I were male.
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I do that all the time, I love feeling emotions. Im an ex boxer and am a bit of an alpha male. But screw that I cry like a baby at films. Get that heart on your sleeve and be brave.
Hiding the fact you have emotions is the least masculine thing ever. Being afraid of crying is not manly. That said, I try to think of other things to avoid the water works, haha.
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There is an odd cultural dynamic I struggle with. My old-fashioned English family do not think men who cry are sissy or anything. Its just they think they are manipulative, unstable and probably very untrustworthy. And that crying is entirely unhelpful in every situation. But my Iranian family don't trust anyone who cannot cry at the correct social prompts, as if not crying shows you do not care at all. Its a tricky path to tread.
this is quite interesting - never thought of it that way - but you cry or don't cry someone is always doing something wrong - same way with if you smile or don't smile, if you are laughing or not - people are always doing something wrong in the eyes of others - no one seems to adopt the 'live and let live' attitude anymore
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What's wrong about this??? I'm a 38 big bearded men and I cried my eyes out with many movies... including, recently, Avengers Endgame!!! Yes, I'm a big geek... and proud of it!!!
F**k the gender "norms".. I cry watching commercials, wedding proposals, ANYthing dog related, any time any Obama is on TV (gawd I miss them).... etc.
I am the the biggest sook ever, I cry in most movies, my hubby on the other hand doesn’t. I can’t help it, every time I cried in a movie my dad would whinge say in a sad and whiny voice “kangaroo, come back kangaroo”, coz the first movie I cried over was Dot and the kangaroo and that was the scene.
So do i, if i'm on my own i will cry at anything remotely sad on the t.v.
there is absolutely nothing wrong with this - everyone need a good cry every once in a while
I've gotten to where I'm a bit more open about that same thing. My sister commented I was a cryer when I got married so I figured I wasn't great at hiding it anyway.
You are a MAN, not a stereotype. Congratulations! There are a lot of men who won't/can't cry and their emotions explode in ugly ways, but they don't know why.
Me, too. And I don't care because I'm not pretending to be somehing I'm not.
Same, I hate how ever kids movie has to have some tragic beginning now.
I didn’t cry when I watched Titanic in the theater. Everyone called me a soulless monster.
Neither did I. Hated Leo at the time. But shed a tear for the musicians.
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How the hell is this shameful?? Talk about a victim of toxic masculinity. All the guys who tamp down their emotional response to something will end up with a spiritual toxicity that will contribute to their death. Plus crying is a autonomic response and not something that is planned. With the exceptions of actors who are portraying a character who is/does cry.
This is a wonderful thing! A man who is in touch with and can express his emotions is beautiful!
Nothing makes me tear up more than the last episode of the original Yu-Gi-Oh! anime, when Atem's spirit crosses over. Just don't tell them.
Then stop lying!! Tell people you're ready to date. Watch what happens!
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I wish I could get all of these people in a room to talk it out and realize that they aren't that bad, or at least don't have to be. There is a lot to learn here from others' mistakes and it seems like some of these people have already learned from their own.
Well, the two guy who had sex with their best friend's mom are that bad.
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Seeing that same bear 84 times in a row got weird really fast...
Not sure what's more scary. The fact that how many people banged their "best friends'" mom, or how many mother had sex with their son's allegedly best friends.
If you don't hurt any living being in the process, then it's not that bad.
I feel guilty because I couldn't remember most of my childhood memories or college memories..when my friends or family member share the moments I couldn't recollect any of those moments.
Yes, I blocked out a lot of good with the bad. I think it was a totally worthwhile trade-off.
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I really don't care for animals all that much and it makes me feel like I'm a bad person sometimes. I just... really like human people more than animals. Every time I tell someone I don't much care for animals, they act like I'm from Mars.....
People are only human. Shame they don't realize that everything they do isn't as monumental as they have come to view their actions. Most people don't remember, only the people doing it at the time. Still feel guilty? They should do something nice for someone, some animal, do a good deed and balance karma in their life. You can't be responsible for the universe, do what you can in your own life. Cause no harm. Spread some joy. Sometimes it's the best a human can do . . .
Some of these are disappointing that people are embarrassed of these. I relate mostly to the first and second ones
Am I the only one who always thought everyone put their stuffed animal's head above the blanket?
Some of the best confessions I came across. If you want to write your heart out anonymously you can also visit - https://vigyaa.io/
I wish I could get all of these people in a room to talk it out and realize that they aren't that bad, or at least don't have to be. There is a lot to learn here from others' mistakes and it seems like some of these people have already learned from their own.
Well, the two guy who had sex with their best friend's mom are that bad.
Load More Replies... Seeing that same bear 84 times in a row got weird really fast...
Not sure what's more scary. The fact that how many people banged their "best friends'" mom, or how many mother had sex with their son's allegedly best friends.
If you don't hurt any living being in the process, then it's not that bad.
I feel guilty because I couldn't remember most of my childhood memories or college memories..when my friends or family member share the moments I couldn't recollect any of those moments.
Yes, I blocked out a lot of good with the bad. I think it was a totally worthwhile trade-off.
Load More Replies... I really don't care for animals all that much and it makes me feel like I'm a bad person sometimes. I just... really like human people more than animals. Every time I tell someone I don't much care for animals, they act like I'm from Mars.....
People are only human. Shame they don't realize that everything they do isn't as monumental as they have come to view their actions. Most people don't remember, only the people doing it at the time. Still feel guilty? They should do something nice for someone, some animal, do a good deed and balance karma in their life. You can't be responsible for the universe, do what you can in your own life. Cause no harm. Spread some joy. Sometimes it's the best a human can do . . .
Some of these are disappointing that people are embarrassed of these. I relate mostly to the first and second ones
Am I the only one who always thought everyone put their stuffed animal's head above the blanket?
Some of the best confessions I came across. If you want to write your heart out anonymously you can also visit - https://vigyaa.io/
