People Are Telling Their Darkest Secrets To This Twitter Account, And Here Are 50 Of Their Juiciest Confessions (New Answers)
There's a Twitter account (that can now also be found on Facebook) which offers people the chance to anonymously reveal their secrets, and with 535K followers, it has become a viral online sensation.
Titled Fesshole, the account is the brainchild of Rob Manuel. Those of you that are well-versed in internet culture might know him from creating 'B3ta', a meme design website that famously sued Coca-Cola after they ripped off one of its viral animations for a TV ad.
Anyway, the "sins" on Fesshole range from the clumsily awkward (messing up a handshake) to the hilariously outrageous (hiring someone because they share your love for pro-wrestling), and, I guess, their popularity shows that in the age of social detachment, a little gossip can go a long way.
Continue scrolling to check out Fesshole's latest content, and don't miss out on the chat we had about secrets with Dr. Michael Slepian, the Sanford C. Bernstein & Co. Associate Professor of Leadership and Ethics at Columbia Business School, spread out in between the pictures.
However, if you go through the entire thing and your curiosity wants more, fire up our earlier publication on Fesshole.
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I see nothing wrong with this at all. They wouldn't take care of her give her to someone that can and will
To begin with, Dr. Slepian said when we keep a secret, we often mean to protect something. "Perhaps we believe that it protects our reputation, or our relationship with someone. And yet, our secrets tend to harm our well-being, and can harm our relationships too," the author of The Secret Life of Secrets: How Our Inner Worlds Shape Well-Being, Relationships, and Who We Are told Bored Panda.
"When we choose to be alone with something, especially something important, we tend not to develop the healthiest way of thinking about it. It often takes another person to get the help that we need. Even a short conversation with a trusted person can offer so much. Emotional support and fresh perspectives can easily be offered by your confidant, but are hard to find on your own. This is why we often want to bring others in. We know that another person can prove helpful, and that having a conversation about the secret would be a healthy thing to do. To have a secret from everyone is to be alone with that thing, and we don't like to be alone. Your desire for help and social connection is in battle with your fear of how others will respond. When we let fear win, we hold the secret tight."
I had a 6 year old foster kid who was obsessed with wanting glasses like her older sister. Alas, she didn’t need them. :/ While her older sister walked around trying on various frames for her new glasses, she was trying to be supportive. I couldn’t bare to see her disappointed, so I told her to pick out whatever frames she also wanted. She was over-the-moon elated! We bought her “glasses” as-is without a prescription… just a clear lens. They were a hideous pink cat eye style. She wore them EVERYWHERE! And anytime she would get complimented on them, she’d tally up those compliments, “See? Another compliment!” It was ridiculously cute! :)
I always want to ask Alexa to end the simulation {like the Matrix} but don't. I'm afraid if it does life might be worst then it is.
With Edy Moulton-Tetlock, a doctoral student in management studying organizational behavior, Dr. Slepian asked more than 800 online participants to describe their personal secrets, using his list of 38 common categories of secrets as their guide.
The participants described more than 10,000 secrets, including both those they had shared with someone ("confided secrets") and the ones they had kept all to themselves ("total secrets").
The data revealed that confiding a secret predicted improved well-being. That's because the participant received social support and because the act of revealing the secret seemed to minimize the amount of time the person spent thinking about it.
Dr. Slepian's research suggests that someone who is more secretive tends to be less extraverted and less emotionally stable, but more conscientious.
However, we also need to be aware of what it means to be "unloaded" on.
"When another person confides in us, this can be a boon but also a burden. When someone trusts us to the point of revealing a secret, we understand this is an act of intimacy, and often feel closer to the person as a result."
And yet, Dr. Slepian explained that if the secret is something we find troubling or surprising, we might find our thoughts returning to it again and again.
"The secret can weigh on our mind. And if the secret implicates someone you know, then you'll have to keep the secret from them, which will bring its own burden," he added.
While Dr. Slepian thinks it's possible for people to live like an open book, sharing everything with the world, he wouldn't advise it.
"There is a class of secrets that most everyone agrees is okay to keep. People often call these 'white lies,'" he clarified. "If you are just arriving at the party, and your friend asks you how their outfit looks, but it is too late to change, then most people agree that saying something positive is the kinder response ('You look great!'). If the truth needlessly hurts someone's feelings, holding back is often the more compassionate choice."
I don't like the taste of beer, wine or spirits, I'm more than happy with a soft drink or juice. I've done it to stop people asking "but whyyyyyyy?" I don't drink and "just try this one".
There's no exact formula that tells Rob Manuel which submissions he needs to feature on Fesshole. His choices are based on simply going through the list and reading them. Everything depends on his judgment of what he thinks is funny or interesting. So if you send Rob something and it doesn't appear on the account, don't sweat it. There are other online "priests" you can share your secrets with. Like the subreddit r/confessions.
This is why I have a Furbo camera… so I can talk to my animals. My cat is too smart! When he wants my attention… he triggers the camera, so I’ll check on him and have a little chat with him. :)
My brother-in-law, who is a right know it all, fitted his fridge freezer into his kitchen work tops. For years my sister-in-law complained nothing was ever cold and the freezer took an eternity to do basic freezing......he'd left the Styrofoam encasing the whole of the back.
Well you told him. It on him should of listened sometimes that is what it takes and you can have a laugh about it
Shame on you! Think of all the jobs you're stealing from people with REAL interpretive dance degrees! :)
Good thinking, can't have somebody with a different opinion than yourself can you? Sarcasm alert.
She appears to be a nasty piece of work though, advocating to reduce women's right, and claiming she is an MP because "God wants her to be one".
Load More Replies...It doesn’t matter what your views are, destroying books is wrong. People can read Mein Kampf but it doesn’t mean they agree with it.
No different than book burning. If her views are that abhorrent, it will be plain to see for most. Sunlight is the best disinfectant, rather than creating a festering underground following.
I disagree with you there. The world is being ran unchecked by people who know how to say the right words to the right people and then force their unwanted values on the populous just because of money and connections. Going outside is not going to help that.
Load More Replies...That's cool. But it's not how libraries work. Your job is not to chose what the public wants to read. Your job is to supply the books and let the public make up its own mind. If I had my way, every single book either by or about Trump would be burned in a giant bonfire. I would feast on the toasted marshmallows and s'mores all night! And expect to be fired from my librarian job the next day.
I have mixed feelings about that. While I get that there are some people who are as toxic as they're already well-promoted, so that you feel you really don't need to propose their books in a library, getting rid of said books this way is quite unprofessional. Besides, censorship is always counterproductive - they'd be too happy to whine about the absence of their book in the library. Better keep the book for a while, see how many people actually want to read it, and patiently wait for a true and legit reason to throw it away ("damaged", "never borrowed", etc.). There still are good chances that in a library not so many people want to read a book by some politician who, say, proposes among other things to shut public libraries down.
A difference of opinion is, “I think we should fund public health in this way instead of your way.” Denying people their basic human rights is not a difference of opinions - it’s a crime if implemented.
This is the equivalent of a Biden supporter throwing anything Republican in the bin. Even being a liberal Democrat, I can say that everyone is entitled to their opinion and views. Even though I hate Donny, I wouldn't chuck his books out because, to do so, it sends us down the path of Ray Bradbury's "Fahrenheit 451."
Oh it is. She currently is a mouthpiece for the complete Cockwomble that is Boris Johnson. Who promoted a MP knowing he was a sexual predator, he did it again, and had to sack him. And she constantly supports him. She’s also the Equalities Minister, yet voted against every motion to increase Gay Rights in the UK.
Load More Replies...Speaking as a librarian, I get it, I do. There are SO many books that I absolutely disagree with. But one of the cornerstones of librarianship is to honor Intellectual Freedom and free thinking. The easiest solution, add it to circulation, put it on the shelf... just not the correct shelf.
I do remember a certain branch of Waterstones (UK bookshop chain) kept putting Tony Blair’s autobiography into the Fiction section.
Why would you throw damaged books in the bin? Where I live damaged library books are put on a sales table for a couple of dollars.
This is awful! As a librarian you should know the value of reading, even if it's books you don't personally approve!
Censorship is alive and well in the United States. Objectionable titles/authors at our library disappear every other year or so.
I don't care about political sides, However Personal Censorship is Hugely Wrong as far as l'm concerned. No one has the right to make decisions about your life except you!!! When these NIMRODS start paying my rent, bills and everything else in my life then Maybe, and l say only maybe do they get an occasional voice of what happens in my life, Maybe...
That is basically censorship and goes against the whole purpose of libraries.
thats no more simple violations, thats just a crime. you just destroy new Books and are practically stealing them from your Company. thats not cool. i hope your Company found that out and fired you and you got never ever a Job anywhere because youre clearly not trustworthy for any kind of Job.
I'd love it if she read this. Given the way her day's going it might be just enough to send her over the edge!
Nadine Dorries... The United Kingdom of Great Britain's version of the United States of America's Marjorie Taylor Greene.
I happen to like some of Nadine Dorries work. The four streets series for example
Not at all cool. Who gives you the right to censor books, you arrogant little pr!ck? That's what authoritarians do! Down vote.
Typical lefty behaviour..."I don't like it so you shouldn't be able to have it". Arrogant and despicable.
Love it. What are you going to do about Boris Johnson's c**p? He's utterly damaged but they can't chuck him out.
Better role models than deviants like you oh-so tolerant and oh-so compassionate Leftists who think men can have periods and get pregnant, and you dont know which bathroom to use. Projection and gaslighting are your go-to tactics. Bets are you're accusing right wingers of doing something YOU'VE done. You clearly have experience in that area.. But go ahead and lie; people are starting to see just what you represent and they ain't buying.
Load More Replies...So much for "tolerance" and "freedom", right? Only your dogmas are permitted, all else is crimethink.
Load More Replies...That is really sweet and you'll treasure your time together. I know a family whose son's forced their father out of the business when he got older because he did make mistakes and they were frustrated, then when the older brother got older, the younger forced the older brother out too... karma
Well, you have to vent somewhere, and doing it in private, with others in the same shitty boat, is the best and most supportive place.
If I've said it once, I've said it a thousand times... Humans should have hooves!
I'm torn on this one. One one hand, it feels wrong to go that long without telling him you've cheated on him, but on the other hand, telling him could cause a permanent rift in your relationship, so keeping it secret is best
Gross misconduct is gross misconduct. It doesn't matter if it was her birthday or not.
What I got from this story is more in the line "B.S jobs" than working "smarter"...
Have to be honest. Real D**k Move, whoever the f**k you are.
That was not OK. Every minute the bowel is left exposed increases the risk of infections and complications. Your embarrasment is rather unimportant compared to your parients health.
Some of these were sweet, but most are either sad or horrible (or both): Stealing! Yaaaaaaay!!!
While I understand the urge, I just can’t get behind the theft and destruction of personal property some of these blithely retell.
My SO accidentally tripped me when I was 7 months pregnant. It was totally an accident and I said I was fine. My water broke and the baby died. They think these two events were unrelated. I understand there were a series of events that caused her death and not just this, but they would most certainly blame themselves. I never even told our doctor that I know why my water broke.
I have a confession. When I was 22 I got my first full time design job with a marketing company. Shortly after I was hired, I discovered that the guy who sat at my computer before me (and no longer worked there) had left himself signed in to his ebay account. Because I was a very dumb young adult, I thought it would be funny to order something ridiculous and have it sent to his house. I ordered a blow up doll. Ha ha now at 39 it makes me chuckle but I do feel a little bad.
Most of the stories are by one guy, so I guess, his life is so boring he fantasies about the life of 100 others summed up in his imaginary life.
Sorry the guy is not one person, my fingers was faster than my head.
Load More Replies...I talk to my grandmother sometimes. I tell her about work and life. She died in 2003. I also still sleep with a stuffed animal. I am thirty six years old.
None of these are juicy. “My biggest secret is I love my dog” ….great.
Some of these were sweet, but most are either sad or horrible (or both): Stealing! Yaaaaaaay!!!
While I understand the urge, I just can’t get behind the theft and destruction of personal property some of these blithely retell.
My SO accidentally tripped me when I was 7 months pregnant. It was totally an accident and I said I was fine. My water broke and the baby died. They think these two events were unrelated. I understand there were a series of events that caused her death and not just this, but they would most certainly blame themselves. I never even told our doctor that I know why my water broke.
I have a confession. When I was 22 I got my first full time design job with a marketing company. Shortly after I was hired, I discovered that the guy who sat at my computer before me (and no longer worked there) had left himself signed in to his ebay account. Because I was a very dumb young adult, I thought it would be funny to order something ridiculous and have it sent to his house. I ordered a blow up doll. Ha ha now at 39 it makes me chuckle but I do feel a little bad.
Most of the stories are by one guy, so I guess, his life is so boring he fantasies about the life of 100 others summed up in his imaginary life.
Sorry the guy is not one person, my fingers was faster than my head.
Load More Replies...I talk to my grandmother sometimes. I tell her about work and life. She died in 2003. I also still sleep with a stuffed animal. I am thirty six years old.
None of these are juicy. “My biggest secret is I love my dog” ….great.